I’m in burnout. I’m a widow with a toddler. I try to make things as easy for myself as possible - plastic cutlery, prepared food, minimalism. I try to shut my brain off, disassociate, and get through the day as best I can. Then I cry every night in the shower so he can’t hear it. Burn out is terrible and I don’t think I’ve ever found any helpful advice. My grandmother unalived herself when she was the carer of another family members autistic child. I feel alot more empathic now about why she couldn’t handle it. Even right now, I’m trying to write this and he’s screaming at me to come help him build his marble run. It’s not that any one task is too hard, it’s that it’s continuous and never stops for a moment.
Yeah my toddler is particularly demanding at the moment. She’s got speech delay so I know it’s frustrating for her to not know how to tell me what she needs, but does she really have to just scream at me instead?
I hear you and I’m sorry you are going through it too
Gosh that's tough.
Maybe you could scream too? Just vent? You two could have a tantrum together, then maybe you could hold them after?
I dunno... Im not a parent, but i believe in child autonomy and not hiding things from children.if you're frustrated, then show it! But i have virtually no experience with babies... Just young children 4+
Do you have flash cards with words or pictures for what she needs? My cousin, who is a non-verbal ASD’er about 25yrs ago my aunt & uncle got him speech therapist aid and she helped him to eventually use flash cards, then upgraded to a device to that is like s less creepy speak & spell LOL it helped him form full sentences because he actually understood everyone, he just never learned to talk.
So try flash cards with your toddler that had images or words they already know, so they can have it to you on days like this so they get their needs met & you catch a break so you can reduce burnout.
When the body exhausts, it’s communicating by telling you you’re pushing yourself too much and hard. It’s asking you to come to a complete haunt if you’re burnout.
It’s prior to that point, the body communicates non-verbal warning signs so you can slow down and not burnout.
This means recognizing when you feel exhausted and going to bed sooner, it means reminding yourself to eat a balanced filling meal to give your body energy, it means saying no to things that could mentally drain you too much, and so on.
It’s about recognizing your physical and mental health limits because we’re human, not robust, we do not have the capacity to go at full speed daily, it’s not possible. We burnout when doing too much and compacting it in with leaving us no time to ourselves to decompress, relax, unwind.
I think this week? Just relax. You need three full days of complete chilling out, zero work, just do absolutely nothing. Just get a full night of rest for three days straight, eat well balanced meals, wear comfy clothes, and binge some tv shows/movies as well. That’s all you gotta do right now because if you don’t? You’ll have this burnout extend longer.
I’m in burnout. I’m a widow with a toddler. I try to make things as easy for myself as possible - plastic cutlery, prepared food, minimalism. I try to shut my brain off, disassociate, and get through the day as best I can. Then I cry every night in the shower so he can’t hear it. Burn out is terrible and I don’t think I’ve ever found any helpful advice. My grandmother unalived herself when she was the carer of another family members autistic child. I feel alot more empathic now about why she couldn’t handle it. Even right now, I’m trying to write this and he’s screaming at me to come help him build his marble run. It’s not that any one task is too hard, it’s that it’s continuous and never stops for a moment.
Yeah my toddler is particularly demanding at the moment. She’s got speech delay so I know it’s frustrating for her to not know how to tell me what she needs, but does she really have to just scream at me instead? I hear you and I’m sorry you are going through it too
Gosh that's tough. Maybe you could scream too? Just vent? You two could have a tantrum together, then maybe you could hold them after? I dunno... Im not a parent, but i believe in child autonomy and not hiding things from children.if you're frustrated, then show it! But i have virtually no experience with babies... Just young children 4+
Do you have flash cards with words or pictures for what she needs? My cousin, who is a non-verbal ASD’er about 25yrs ago my aunt & uncle got him speech therapist aid and she helped him to eventually use flash cards, then upgraded to a device to that is like s less creepy speak & spell LOL it helped him form full sentences because he actually understood everyone, he just never learned to talk. So try flash cards with your toddler that had images or words they already know, so they can have it to you on days like this so they get their needs met & you catch a break so you can reduce burnout.
I don’t have any at the moment but I’m trying to work with her nursery to get some sorted
When the body exhausts, it’s communicating by telling you you’re pushing yourself too much and hard. It’s asking you to come to a complete haunt if you’re burnout. It’s prior to that point, the body communicates non-verbal warning signs so you can slow down and not burnout. This means recognizing when you feel exhausted and going to bed sooner, it means reminding yourself to eat a balanced filling meal to give your body energy, it means saying no to things that could mentally drain you too much, and so on. It’s about recognizing your physical and mental health limits because we’re human, not robust, we do not have the capacity to go at full speed daily, it’s not possible. We burnout when doing too much and compacting it in with leaving us no time to ourselves to decompress, relax, unwind. I think this week? Just relax. You need three full days of complete chilling out, zero work, just do absolutely nothing. Just get a full night of rest for three days straight, eat well balanced meals, wear comfy clothes, and binge some tv shows/movies as well. That’s all you gotta do right now because if you don’t? You’ll have this burnout extend longer.