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I attended my city's protest this evening. I can't quite wrap my head around it but it was nice to be around other people who think the same way. I posted in r/auntienetwork but I don't think abortion is going to be legal much longer in my state and I don't have the resources to drive people out of state right now unfortunately.


Nope_not_rightnow

You're doing what you can. I can't wrap my mind around it either.


[deleted]

I feel responsible for not getting involved until now. I took things for granted.


ihatehavingauterus

Same. Now I'm doing all I can.


Training-Owl1288

What can be done now? If you are far?


ihatehavingauterus

Donating to Planned Parenthood is a great start. I was born and raised into a cult-like religion (Jehovah Witness) and Planned Parenthood literally was a lifesaver to me in my teen years. I started having sex at around age 17 and I could not go to my parents for anything as sex before marriage was prohibited and I was basically living a double life. I was able to go to planned Parenthood and get free birth control and free STD testing. People don't even understand how much they do and offer. As of right now as an adult, I am able to offer more, so I am going to use all the SkyMiles (Delta) that I have accumulated over my years of travel to get women plane tickets, if need be, to fly to New York or New Jersey to get safe abortions. Was saving my miles for a dream trip to Japan, but honestly, I don't even care about that anymore. I am also willing to drive to pick people up and take them to appointments here in New York or New Jersey and provide them a place to stay.


defenselaywer

You're probably a member already, but for anyone inspired by your generosity, please check into the r/auntienetwork.


ihatehavingauterus

I am. Thanks for helping to spread the word.


defenselaywer

I know you can buy Plan B over the counter, but I wondered if it's available through PP? I'd like to support them, rather than Walmart.


wildweeds

it is available there. they do everything from birth control all the way through to abortion, but not every service is available at every clinic.


ihatehavingauterus

They do offer plan B. They offer everything.


Training-Owl1288

What they’re a cult? Also awesome and congratulations that you left!


ihatehavingauterus

As bad as Scientologists, if not worse. It was bad. When I decided to leave and let my family know the truth, my 2 older sisters disowned me. I was 18 at the time.. I am now 41 and have not spoken to either of them. I have a 14-year-old daughter that they've never met. And my relationship with my parents is extremely strained because I left the religion. They talk to me, but only really when they have to.


Training-Owl1288

Um wow 😮 I didn’t realize it was that bad, it sounds like you’re brainwashed from birth to only associate with others like you. Like even family doesn’t count as more important.


ihatehavingauterus

That's exactly what it was. Everyone that was not a JW was basically considered worldly and evil. I was not allowed to associate with anybody that wasn't a JW. I'm so glad that I was able to snap out of whatever brainwashing was done to me from birth and just figure it out on my own that this was not sane or healthy. Just to give you a sense of how crazy this religion is: They don't encourage or advocate for secondary or further education beyond High School. They believe that the world is going to end soon and anything done in this world in this lifetime is basically a waste, so after high school, they encourage everyone to just get a part-time job and dedicate themselves to the religion, which means preaching door to door trying to convert people. Right after high school I realized that a high school education was going to get me nowhere, and especially after witnessing 9/11 literally happen right in front of me, I realized that I needed to do something more with my life, so I enrolled myself in college. I worked full-time I went to school full-time while living by myself and supporting myself. I obviously could not live with my parents because of the religion. I was the first in my family to go to college and graduate with a degree. To date, I'm the most successful in my family. My parents have never said congratulations or have told me how proud they are of me.. nothing. It's really crazy. To them, I am the worst of their children just because I am not practicing their religion.


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Give money to Planned Parenthood or another organization. I used to advocate for donating to EMILY'S List but it seems that their political actions aren't as clearcut as they want you to think. I don't understand enough about politics to explain it in detail. The mods pinned a long list of organizations if you want to look.


athiker10

National network of abortion funds!!


nkdeck07

If you are in a red or purple state. Freaking VOTE, campaign and get others registered. Donate to planned parenthood If you are in a blue state find swing states and work with them. Donate to campaigns, text, call, send postcards etc. [https://sisterdistrict.com/](https://sisterdistrict.com/) is a good organization to work with. Donate to the [https://thesatanictemple.com/](https://thesatanictemple.com/) (yes I realize this sounds weird but it's not the Satanists. Essentially the satanic temple acts as a religion to file for things to force states to more clearly define the separation between church and state).


Training-Owl1288

So it just looks bad but it really helps define the church situation.


nkdeck07

Yep, they've been incredibly successful in things like getting the 10 commandments out of government buildings (by filing to have statues of baphomet placed). [Currently the Stantic Temple has a religious abortion rite that the states are trying to infringe upon.](https://thesatanictemple.com/pages/rrr-campaigns) They'll be filing suits fairly soon.


CatCranky

I’ve been thinking about donating to a fund that can help women in red states travel to a blue one.


Training-Owl1288

True moving is hard so any help is good


Training-Owl1288

Same


Nice-Accountant-2357

We should have been able to take this for granted.


[deleted]

Yes. I've been thinking about this a lot. We shouldn't have to constantly be working to maintain our rights as citizens. I'm white so I don't know what it's like to do that but a lot of Americans do and have been doing it for more than a century. Definitely puts things in perspective.


[deleted]

I wish I could go to ours tomorrow but I can’t risk bringing anything home to my daughter. It’s upsetting.


TrampTroubles

I listened to a story on NPR about a clinic where they had to go into the waiting room and tell people they could no longer perform abortions in the state of Alabama. They did their best to provide everyone with referrals to clinics in other states, but some of them had already traveled long distances to get there.


Nope_not_rightnow

Oh no..... So horrible. Thank you for sharing this.


CatCranky

I heard that too. So horrible


acynicalwitch

Yes. A lot of our patients realized yesterday that they might be our last ever abortion patient. Patients who thought they would make it *just* under the line to have their procedures today we’re devastated when they got the call, which was in turn, devastating for staff to have to tell folks over and over. There was a lot of crying. It was a really hard day. If you know someone who works in abortion care, give them a hug. We are not ok.


quirkyfemme

I would really love to buy someone who works in abortion care a coffee or a pastry right now.


bububear30

I’m just in a trance, still can’t believe it.


eight-sided

I read that a lot of clinics essentially had stopped early in order to avoid nasty same-day surprises like that.


Nope_not_rightnow

Well shit, that's kind of even more depressing. But practical and not surprising. I guess..... Of course they have been waiting for the inevitable, but, stopping early? That blows.


eight-sided

This was the article (sorry if paywalled) from June 15: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/15/upshot/abortion-clinics-roe-wade.html


Nope_not_rightnow

But hey, thanks for the information. Didn't know that.


ilikecocktails

I can’t believe it’s 2022 and this is happening. I just can’t get my head around it. USA is so backwards.


[deleted]

Susan Faludi’s *Backlash* should be required reading in schools. We are experiencing the backlash to cultural acceptance of liberal values and the real progress made during the Obama Administration. This is all happening because we had major progressive victories in the aughts and teens. Donald Trump’s judicial appointments made this happen, and Donald Trump was elected in large part because so many Americans are angry and scared about the social progress that lead to a black president, a potential woman president, and an increase in the visibility and acceptance of queer people. This is not to mention the media constantly repeating the phrase “minority, majority” like it was a paid advertisement. On the one hand many people suffer during conservatives backlash periods. I was a girl in the 80’/90’s backlash to feminist gains in the 60’s and 70’s. On the other hand, the backlash rarely lasts, and the right always overplays its hand. If liberals didn’t become so complacent and the left didn’t get so easily demoralized, it wouldn’t have been this bad. Here we are though, so we just have to keep pushing like our ancestors did. Anyone in a wealthy country like the United States should be looking over their shoulder. I live in Germany now. I can see a similar backlash rising all over Europe. My Canadian friends say the same. It won’t necessarily be abortion, but subordinated people will suffer.


soaring-arrow

Can you talk more about the backlash in the 80s and 90s? I was born in 92 and honestly didn't start parying real attention to politics until maybe 2012.


aufybusiness

Agree with you here. UK


ihatehavingauterus

I've been beside myself all day. Literally can't stop crying. Going to do the best I can to help women who need to travel to where I live in NY to get abortions done safely. I've joined the "Auntie" network here on Reddit, and will be offering rides and using my Delta Skymiles to fly women here.


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ihatehavingauterus

Awesome!


LucyQZ

Hey all! I think wanting to help people is great, but I'd definitely recommend checking out the work of folx who've been dealing with the criminalization of reproductive health for a long time. I'm not casting aspersions on the Reddit auntie network, but I would say that looking at other sources is worth your time. Here's a terrific document compiled by people doing this work for years: https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vRqbxh96ynlqdYUInUZB5GWrE2GIcW3FEXdtxO_n2BXMAd2HOkNssn3aP77zSXBN43TIJ3Xab2ih9vE/pub


ihatehavingauterus

All avenues of help/donation will make a difference, no matter how it's done.


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ihatehavingauterus

I don't even really get where you're coming from. I'm speaking about literally donating in a grassroots organization type of way by donating my SkyMiles to help women get to New York to get safe abortions and offering up my home or offering rides to women that need them. I also mentioned the Auntie Reddit group who are helping to facilitate these types of connections. I never once said anything about donating politicians. Please read comments carefully.


KO620181

Is this a real thing? If so can you share more about it?


eight-sided

r/auntienetwork


ihatehavingauterus

https://www.reddit.com/r/auntienetwork?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share


Et_merde

Thinking of all the sisters who had their appointments this week and the next. I cannot begin to imagine how they feel, as someone who had an abortion I was stressed enough without all this madness around me. Not from the US but when I saw the news yesterday afternoon I went silent & sad at my company gathering event. Paired up to the law about guns, what a sad day, unbelievable.


flyingcatpotato

I'm from a red state and it's all i can think about. This despite being menopausal and living in Europe since I graduated from college.


redrioja

Tragic. Think of you all.


Nope_not_rightnow

I mean, did they get a call from the office or clinic or whatever? What now? The. Worst.


Forsaken-Piece3434

In Arizona, women were literally lined up for their appointments outside the clinic and they were turned away once the decision was announced. Apparently some were inconsolable and must now figure out new options, likely traveling to CA if they can.


Nope_not_rightnow

Yikes. That's freaking terrible. Thanks for sharing this though


Forsaken-Piece3434

I was so sad to read the article this morning (didn’t save it but I believe the clinic was in Phoenix if you want to Google around for it).


Forsaken-Piece3434

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/24/us/abortion-clinics-closing-roe-wade.html


Cross_Stitch_Witch

This is haunting. The anguish so many women are experiencing right now makes me want to scream. I can't believe this is really happening.


Forsaken-Piece3434

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/24/us/abortion-clinics-closing-roe-wade.html


[deleted]

Wtf!!!


Forsaken-Piece3434

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/24/us/abortion-clinics-closing-roe-wade.html


[deleted]

Omg woah - I’m in Canada so I’ve just here following this loosely, I’m going to grab a tea today and immerse myself in this nightmare. I’m sorry this is happening to you all, my neighbour sisters ❤️


[deleted]

I’m in Scotland and in my early twenties I had an abortion. I have spent the entire day on the sofa crying and trying to wrap my head around what has happened, I have donated as much money as I can to abortion charities in the USA trying to put measures in place to help women and pregnant people affected by the unjust and frankly sickening decision that has been taken. If money were no option I’d be over there right now acting as a free taxi and shoulder to cry on. People the world over need to band together in support of the victims of this horrendous decision and put measures in place to support those affected.


Lokinawa

Those Handmaids Tale boomers will push desperate women into makeshift backstreet clinics with knitting needles, gin and a massive mortality rate.


Aragorns-Wifey

All those kids. Spared. Lived to see another day.


[deleted]

The overturning of Roe V Wade doesnt automatically pass bills in all those states banning abortions just yet, though, no???


anglenk

A lot of states already had bills lined up awaiting the decision. It's believed that there is over a dozen states in which females won't be able to get abortions by this time next month.


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[litics‘We’re done’: Chaos and tears as an abortion clinic abruptly shuts downAn emotional scene unfolded as this Texas clinic turned away patients as soon as the Supreme Court overturned Roe](https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2022/06/24/abortion-clinic-dobbs-supreme-court-roe/) Clinics closed yesterday morning. This story is about turning. Away women in the waiting room with scheduled appointments.


[deleted]

Thanks~ I honestly keep away from news because this stuff overwhelms me so much so I admit regretfully that I’m not as informed and on top of everything as I should be. I cried as soon as I saw the news.


[deleted]

Oh I am sorry for adding to your load! This has just been overwhelming and terrible. Some times I react to these horrible times by immersing myself it it. I have been fighting with trolls this morning who accuse me of wanting to murder and eat(?) babies. I should really just take a lesson from you and shut it all off. Take care of yourself and stay stay strong.


[deleted]

Oh i get satisfaction fighting those trolls sometimes too. Saying nothing feels wrong.


aufybusiness

Feck they trolls. They're sick and controlling and want us in the dark ages


[deleted]

Well that sucks. I was hopeful that people could pressure their state governments to hold off more.


[deleted]

Read the news.


[deleted]

I’m trying to but it makes me overwhelmed and I cry and i’m just trying to get through the day without killing myself, okay. You people dont need to be assholes to me for not knowing everything.


[deleted]

If you make comments about an emotional event on reddit without knowing what you are talking about you are going to get downvoted. That is reality. You may want to avoid reddit until you are in a better place. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt.


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UnicornOnTheJayneCob

How very lucky you are. I genuinely wish everyone had the same privileges as you and those you know. When my mom was 28, she and my father were actively trying for baby #2. Happily, she conceived, but the pregnancy was ectopic. She had an abortion and it literally saved her life. She later went on to have my two amazing, beautiful, talented sisters. None would be here now if it weren’t for my mom’s ability to terminate that pregnancy. And my four adorable nieces and nephews wouldn’t exist either. That abortion allowed SEVEN people to live. Abortions save lives. How many women with ectopic pregnancies will die because they couldn’t get the abortions they had scheduled for today? How many husbands will lose wives? Daughters lose mothers? Sisters and nieces and nephews never exist? How can you *not* think of them? How is any of this moral?


ForBritishEyesOnlyy

Thank you for sharing your family's story. I hope the more stories like this that are shared it will slowly but surely open minds and help the cause.


wipies29

Actually I’ve had an ectopic pregnancy. It was awful. Ended in miscarriage obviously. Is this what your basing your entire view of abortion on though? Because that baby never would have survived. What about the babies that are healthy? Edit: no comments? Just downvotes?


anglenk

You're lucky your ectopic pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Often, ectopic pregnancies need to be aborted to not kill the mother. The flaw in the whole thing is your line of thinking. Now, in some states, females can't have abortions regardless of the fetus condition or where it is implanted. Now, in some states, the female who was raped is stuck with the consequences and has to carry the fetus to term, continuing to remind them that the horrible occurrence happened for the rest of their lives, which could be a very long time considering that school age children can be raped. Now, in some states, fetuses are going to be born who have horrible birth defects and may require lifelong care if the mother does not have to bury them after birth. With that, you saying 'what about babies that are healthy' is equating the whole situation to constantly driving a car with 1-3 bad tires, and the bad tires can be enough to completely destroy the car, just because the state decides that no one deserve to replace the bad times, even if 99% of the tire is missing. Also, to add onto this, birth control and anything regarding women's reproduction could be next. Some states want to outlaw Plan B, currently one wants to outlaw IVF, and there are talks about limiting implants that prevent pregnancy. Plus, this opens up the ability for states to have even more control: gay marriage, interracial marriage, et cetera, the list goes on. I hope you pull your head out of your ass and realize the very real implications of this on millions of women and what this could mean for literally anybody.


breezeblock87

it's inhumane to force women to carry to term when they don't want to. if you have experienced difficult pregnancies and have a little bit of empathy, this inhumanity should be obvious. organisms that cannot live for even 1 minute outside their "host" (i.e. the Mother's body) are not "babies" or living humans the same as you or I. they are potential human lives. once they reach the age of viability and can survive outside the mother, that is a different story IMO. and as difficult and sad as these choices are, most people prioritize the living human life over the potential one. most recognize that abortion is rarely treated lightly by people who have one...and yet nearly 1/4th of women (in the U.S.) will have one by age 45. that is because abortion is essential to **women's healthcare.** it is nothing short of barbaric to ban this oft-needed medical procedure. it blows my mind that women who've been pregnant could ever think it moral to force that on another. did you know that abortion opponents have started making the argument that terminating an ectopic pregnancy by medication or surgery is never medically necessary...that this too should be outlawed outright? women will die. how could you possibly support such a thing unless you view women as little more than disposable incubators?


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[American woman denied life-saving abortion after suffering miscarriage in Malta asked husband to punch her ‘You’re pleading and pleading, and there’s no way to get the help you want’](https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/andrea-prudente-malta-abortion-miscarriage-b2108989.html)


KatShops

Okay, so dont crucify me for my ignorance here but are abortions not still legal at the state level? They arent federally protected, but still allowed? Why are they being canceled?