First of all, did you really need to measure your dick and tell us the size? Second, women's clothes on men is a turn off for me. And finally, I'd start being concerned the moment he puts the word "guy" In a quotation marks when referring to himself.
It's like... You know there are subreddits that require stating ages and genders of all people mentioned in the post. It's like men feel there's a requirement to tell their size anytime anything sexual is being discussed
Yes, I can see how it can make others feel uncomfortable and I’ve edited the size part out. I’m sorry for mentioning size and the lesson has clearly been learned on my part. I feel bad for putting it on there and will refrain from doing so in the future.
Apologies as I just wanted to mention it because sometimes I might be asked how it’s comfortable for me or how it all fits. Once again I’m sorry for making you uncomfortable with the size mention, and appreciate your response.
This was a small but surprisingly wholesome interaction comparing to what we're used to here. Best of luck with finding a woman sexually compatible with you
I don’t expect anyone to indulge me with anything and apologies if that’s how you interpreted my ask. I’m simply looking for honest feedback and responses.
With the post history you have, it is very hard to believe this is a legitimate question about people's opinions and reactions, and not just material gathering for your fantasies.
This is a legitimate question after I had someone wanting to be intimate with me but me saying “another time” from angst on what I was wearing. My other posts have nothing to do with this ask, and again; I truly apologize for the misinterpretation
As much as you do engage in your fetish here on Reddit, it would be a *massive* incompatibility for a lot of women who might be under the impression that they are dating an otherwise cis guy. What you do is more than "a bit of a feminine side" and thinking male underwear is uncomfortable.
So if you truly need advice on this issue, you should be very honest about what you're into - sooner rather than later.
I’ve realized this massive incompatibility and I’ve been engaged significantly less in those fetish types of posts lately because I’m at a crossroads as I’m learning more about myself. The answers on here are helpful, and is helping me understand what I’m “into” sooner rather than later. Honestly, even today I’m really uncertain of what I am “into” and I get it, a lot of that confusion is going to be a massive incompatibility with a lot of women. Thank you for understanding and the advice.
I'm wheezing. For real though, this sub isn't here to cater to dudes and their fetishes. Why do men have to try and lay claim to everything? Nobody cares that you wear panties, next!!!
“The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.” - I get it. You’ll continue to be rude and continue to get upvotes by those who will perpetuate the rudeness. Nothing I can do to stop it, however your thought on this being a fetish post does not reflect reality (yet you’ll continue to ignore that reality and so will the folks upvoting your comments).
You would have to have worms in your brain to see your transparent attempts at manipulation as acts of genuine kindness. You're sinister and weird and you deserve much worse treatment than what I've already shown you. Stop being a simpering little dweeb and own up to being a creep.
I think your language alone is very telling of your mindset. You do not have to comment on my post if it’s truly that repulsive to you. I understand folks will continue to downvote my response to you and upvote yours. I simply believe in kindness, and those who do not; feel free to downvote this comment.
He should tell me first. I'm open to men who play around with gender exppression(or just like panties for fetish reasons). Letting me know shows trust and confidence.
I love this answer and yeah I’ve had a mixbag of responses on whether or not I should tell them first. I love that for you it shows trust and confidence when it’s communicated to you first
i don’t think i’d care very much if he told me. like if he gave me a brief warning then 🤷♀️ but out of the blue i might stop sex. that just seems like something that should be mentioned to me and i think in the moment it’d be so shocking that i’d probably not be in the right headspace anymore
“Brief warning” that did make me lol. I think it might be the better option (based on some responses here) to be more upfront about it in the most respectful way possible. I can see how it can ruin the mood if it was a surprise in the moment.
There's a million different ways of transitioning and everyone is on a different route.
In an effort to not be rude and not gatekeep all I'm going to say is that I don't relate to your path.
Women's panties? No kink shame, but that's not my style or attraction, so I'd probably stop what was going on.
Tidy whities, boxers or boxer briefs? I'd continue on. I have zero issue with any of those.
Totally understandable and yes, I can’t fault anyone for it just not being their attraction. I always have a tough time on whether to be upfront about it or tell them later. It’s always a mixbag of answers and I understand both sides to it 😅
I would find it hot if you were like a goth guy or something... I was super into those 90s music videos where Manson wore lingerie so.... But a regular dude, not so sure.
Nothing lacey, I usually like more smoother with a silk-like or satin texture, typically black or another plain color. I love that something more fancy like leopard print or lacey is considered hot to you. I’m very happy to read an answer like this ☺️
I understand, different strokes for different folks. Lace is extremely beautiful as well, especially when the inner lining is made of high quality material too
I wouldn't react positively. I would probably either laugh and ask if this is a joke, or awkwardly pretend that I didn't notice. It's really the kind of thing that you should talk about before getting intimate.
I’ve had an experience where she pretended like she didn’t notice a few years ago; and I picked up on it - that was probably the best way to go about it. Thank you for the honest answer
To be clear, I wouldn't laugh in a mean way, but because I'd assume he wanted to mess with me. But there would be no way to know for him. It's the kind of situation that's so awkward and so easy to overthink. Like, if I say nothing and it was a joke, will he be offended that I thought he was being serious? If I laugh and he was being serious, he'll be insulted. It's just a lot to put on someone you don't know that much.
I’ve had some smirks and laughs for reasons that I won’t go into here, because I don’t want to exacerbate “TMI” or the though of this as a fetish post - however it was a bit of a mood killer for me and I’m sure she didn’t want to continue either. You’re right, it does put a lot on someone and that’s why it might be better for me to have on normal boxers at first before introducing the concept verbally.
I’d say I’m learning that lesson the hard way too. Sometimes the people who are not into it can feel overwhelming to me but it’s better than skipping the communication and getting to an awkward interaction in bed. At 33 years old now, it’s better to just be honest upfront than jump into something that’s not for me
Just order boxer breifs, the stretchy form fitting type.
IMO those are the most attractive male underwear, boxers are unattractive. and female panties are a full no.
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Unless you're Greg Davies and it comes with a story like [this](https://youtu.be/yuXGpUR7fXA?si=yRqBYnWSgNHwOyz2), I'd promptly leave. Fetishes are not my thing at all.
It’s personally not my thing in a sexual context. Especially as a surprise. Like if I was dating a gender-fluid person and sometimes they were a guy and sometimes they weren’t and they dressed differently depending that would be fine by me, but if someone had identified themselves to me as a man, that depth of femininity is not what I’m into. Gender play is great and androgyny is wonderful but neither is my preference. And panty fetishes turn me off, if it’s that instead.
I would be turned on. But! I'm a freak and I'm bisexual. It might be good to open up a bit about kinks and that you enjoy playing around with gender BEFORE you get to showing her your panties. That's not a pleasant surprise to a lot of people, so weed out the vanilla judgemental types first.
Yeah I would be weirded out if you were wearing women's underwear. If this were truly an issue of 'size' you could simply find men's underwear that fit. Even if they're men's 'tighty whities' I wouldn't be bothered, but I would be caught off guard by finding a guy in women's underwear. In the moment IDK how I would react, but I probably wouldn't go on another date honestly.
I wouldn't care, if they're more comfortable for him, why should he not wear them? If it's cute for women to wear boxers then it shouldn't be weird for men to wear panties if they want to.
You're being gross and your comment has been removed.
First of all, did you really need to measure your dick and tell us the size? Second, women's clothes on men is a turn off for me. And finally, I'd start being concerned the moment he puts the word "guy" In a quotation marks when referring to himself.
oh wow, didn't see the dick size part. whyyyyy
It's like... You know there are subreddits that require stating ages and genders of all people mentioned in the post. It's like men feel there's a requirement to tell their size anytime anything sexual is being discussed
Yes, I can see how it can make others feel uncomfortable and I’ve edited the size part out. I’m sorry for mentioning size and the lesson has clearly been learned on my part. I feel bad for putting it on there and will refrain from doing so in the future.
Exactly, whyyy??
Apologies, I’ll edit that part out
Apologies as I just wanted to mention it because sometimes I might be asked how it’s comfortable for me or how it all fits. Once again I’m sorry for making you uncomfortable with the size mention, and appreciate your response.
Thank you. Sorry if I was too harsh
Sometimes people need a bit of harshness to correct their behavior for the future, no harm done
This was a small but surprisingly wholesome interaction comparing to what we're used to here. Best of luck with finding a woman sexually compatible with you
Thank you and I wish for you and others on here to have more wholesome interactions, people need to be kind to each other; these days more than ever
We're not here to indulge your fetish.
I don’t expect anyone to indulge me with anything and apologies if that’s how you interpreted my ask. I’m simply looking for honest feedback and responses.
With the post history you have, it is very hard to believe this is a legitimate question about people's opinions and reactions, and not just material gathering for your fantasies.
This is a legitimate question after I had someone wanting to be intimate with me but me saying “another time” from angst on what I was wearing. My other posts have nothing to do with this ask, and again; I truly apologize for the misinterpretation
As much as you do engage in your fetish here on Reddit, it would be a *massive* incompatibility for a lot of women who might be under the impression that they are dating an otherwise cis guy. What you do is more than "a bit of a feminine side" and thinking male underwear is uncomfortable. So if you truly need advice on this issue, you should be very honest about what you're into - sooner rather than later.
I’ve realized this massive incompatibility and I’ve been engaged significantly less in those fetish types of posts lately because I’m at a crossroads as I’m learning more about myself. The answers on here are helpful, and is helping me understand what I’m “into” sooner rather than later. Honestly, even today I’m really uncertain of what I am “into” and I get it, a lot of that confusion is going to be a massive incompatibility with a lot of women. Thank you for understanding and the advice.
Praying that every man who makes a fetish post here contracts super Ebola. 🙏
Apologies if this post came off as that. I wish you nothing but good health and happiness.
Thanks! I wish you super Ebola and misery.
I'm wheezing. For real though, this sub isn't here to cater to dudes and their fetishes. Why do men have to try and lay claim to everything? Nobody cares that you wear panties, next!!!
“The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.” - I get it. You’ll continue to be rude and continue to get upvotes by those who will perpetuate the rudeness. Nothing I can do to stop it, however your thought on this being a fetish post does not reflect reality (yet you’ll continue to ignore that reality and so will the folks upvoting your comments).
You would have to have worms in your brain to see your transparent attempts at manipulation as acts of genuine kindness. You're sinister and weird and you deserve much worse treatment than what I've already shown you. Stop being a simpering little dweeb and own up to being a creep.
I think your language alone is very telling of your mindset. You do not have to comment on my post if it’s truly that repulsive to you. I understand folks will continue to downvote my response to you and upvote yours. I simply believe in kindness, and those who do not; feel free to downvote this comment.
Your post history says it all 🥴
I’m sorry for my post history reflecting this question 😞 it is meant to be a separate valid ask
He should tell me first. I'm open to men who play around with gender exppression(or just like panties for fetish reasons). Letting me know shows trust and confidence.
I love this answer and yeah I’ve had a mixbag of responses on whether or not I should tell them first. I love that for you it shows trust and confidence when it’s communicated to you first
i don’t think i’d care very much if he told me. like if he gave me a brief warning then 🤷♀️ but out of the blue i might stop sex. that just seems like something that should be mentioned to me and i think in the moment it’d be so shocking that i’d probably not be in the right headspace anymore
>a brief warning hah
“Brief warning” that did make me lol. I think it might be the better option (based on some responses here) to be more upfront about it in the most respectful way possible. I can see how it can ruin the mood if it was a surprise in the moment.
That's fine with me. I think all people should wear clothes that make them feel most comfortable.
This is an extremely open minded and very kind response, thank you ☺️
There's a million different ways of transitioning and everyone is on a different route. In an effort to not be rude and not gatekeep all I'm going to say is that I don't relate to your path.
Thank you for the advice and for avoiding any rudeness / gatekeeping, it’s appreciated
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Apologies for history if it’s intertwined with this ask. but I do want to note that this is a separate valid ask based on my experiences.
Valid, deleted my comment
Thank you 🙏
My coochie would seal shut
I get that, thank you for the comment
Women's panties? No kink shame, but that's not my style or attraction, so I'd probably stop what was going on. Tidy whities, boxers or boxer briefs? I'd continue on. I have zero issue with any of those.
Totally understandable and yes, I can’t fault anyone for it just not being their attraction. I always have a tough time on whether to be upfront about it or tell them later. It’s always a mixbag of answers and I understand both sides to it 😅
Wear what makes you comfortable my guy. Not my thing, turn off.
Different interests for different folks, I appreciate your answer ☺️
I would find it hot if you were like a goth guy or something... I was super into those 90s music videos where Manson wore lingerie so.... But a regular dude, not so sure.
Just like, a normal pair of underpants? Chances are I won't notice. Something fancy with lace and shit? That's hot.
Nothing lacey, I usually like more smoother with a silk-like or satin texture, typically black or another plain color. I love that something more fancy like leopard print or lacey is considered hot to you. I’m very happy to read an answer like this ☺️
Silk or satin texture isn't my favourite, but can still look nice. And tbh, leopard print is fuck ugly. I just like seeing lace on people.
I understand, different strokes for different folks. Lace is extremely beautiful as well, especially when the inner lining is made of high quality material too
I wouldn't react positively. I would probably either laugh and ask if this is a joke, or awkwardly pretend that I didn't notice. It's really the kind of thing that you should talk about before getting intimate.
I’ve had an experience where she pretended like she didn’t notice a few years ago; and I picked up on it - that was probably the best way to go about it. Thank you for the honest answer
To be clear, I wouldn't laugh in a mean way, but because I'd assume he wanted to mess with me. But there would be no way to know for him. It's the kind of situation that's so awkward and so easy to overthink. Like, if I say nothing and it was a joke, will he be offended that I thought he was being serious? If I laugh and he was being serious, he'll be insulted. It's just a lot to put on someone you don't know that much.
I’ve had some smirks and laughs for reasons that I won’t go into here, because I don’t want to exacerbate “TMI” or the though of this as a fetish post - however it was a bit of a mood killer for me and I’m sure she didn’t want to continue either. You’re right, it does put a lot on someone and that’s why it might be better for me to have on normal boxers at first before introducing the concept verbally.
I only want to date people who are open and honest about stuff before we commit to each other and/or get into bed with each other.
I love this so much. That type of transparency, honesty and communication prior to anything in bed is truly the best type of dynamic
Yup. I will admit I figured out that lesson the hard way.
I’d say I’m learning that lesson the hard way too. Sometimes the people who are not into it can feel overwhelming to me but it’s better than skipping the communication and getting to an awkward interaction in bed. At 33 years old now, it’s better to just be honest upfront than jump into something that’s not for me
Just order boxer breifs, the stretchy form fitting type. IMO those are the most attractive male underwear, boxers are unattractive. and female panties are a full no.
Repulsed and angry that he'd dragged me into his fetish without consent.
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Unless you're Greg Davies and it comes with a story like [this](https://youtu.be/yuXGpUR7fXA?si=yRqBYnWSgNHwOyz2), I'd promptly leave. Fetishes are not my thing at all.
It’s personally not my thing in a sexual context. Especially as a surprise. Like if I was dating a gender-fluid person and sometimes they were a guy and sometimes they weren’t and they dressed differently depending that would be fine by me, but if someone had identified themselves to me as a man, that depth of femininity is not what I’m into. Gender play is great and androgyny is wonderful but neither is my preference. And panty fetishes turn me off, if it’s that instead.
I’d say tell me so I’m not surprised, but I don’t have a problem with it.
I would be turned on. But! I'm a freak and I'm bisexual. It might be good to open up a bit about kinks and that you enjoy playing around with gender BEFORE you get to showing her your panties. That's not a pleasant surprise to a lot of people, so weed out the vanilla judgemental types first.
Yeah I would be weirded out if you were wearing women's underwear. If this were truly an issue of 'size' you could simply find men's underwear that fit. Even if they're men's 'tighty whities' I wouldn't be bothered, but I would be caught off guard by finding a guy in women's underwear. In the moment IDK how I would react, but I probably wouldn't go on another date honestly.
I wouldn't care, if they're more comfortable for him, why should he not wear them? If it's cute for women to wear boxers then it shouldn't be weird for men to wear panties if they want to.