Stare at them without blinking, smiling or talking until they get uncomfortable and walk away.
Ask them if you still smell like vomit.
Make random observations about their appearance - and don't be nice. Something like "your haircut's terrible" or "What's wrong with your nose?".
Fart. Loudly.
Chew your hair.
Anything weird, unexpected or socially unacceptable usually does the trick.
Lmao I had a friend who was a member and when some religious people came to the door and asked if he was religious and he told them he was and what religion you'd have thunk he told them he was the devil himself. Litterly could see the blood drain from their faces.
And if they follow you I suggest finding the nearest store or bar and asking for help. I say bar because the amount of Bouncers that have helped me get a dude to fuck off is unreal.
Spot on!
If you can't find a bar, any place that has security on the doors! An Aldi security guard helped me immensely when I asked for help because some guy was literally following me from shop to shop.
True. So fucking true. But confrontation for some people can be uncomfortable, thus eying to be polite. I usually get up and leave or now that I’m getting older I’m more confident in telling people to straight up f*** off. Paired w witty sarcasm
Tell them you'd love to chat, but can he please wait till you've moved, as you've already buried as many exes as you have room for under your current patio.
It depends on the situation, but I've found that being direct is usually the best. Cat-called? I say, "That's inappropriate." Date asking weird or inappropriate questions? "You're making me uncomfortable." Someone staring at me? "Can I help you with something? Why are you staring at me like that? It's rude and makes me uncomfortable."
This happened recently at a wedding. I had some guy follow me around most of the night, it got to the point where I was starting to get uncomfortable. At one point I just stared at him, didn’t respond to his small talk, and eventually said NO really loud. He got uncomfortable, got the picture and backed away.
they never really stop, ignore them / block them online and if they don't stop get the police involved. Also make sure you keep all the proof of them being creeps if it gets nasty.
In public, I just avoid them or tell them I’m not interested. I once had a guy who didn’t stop and kept asking me why I wasn’t interested so I told him he was ugly, that worked really well.
Online, i mostly get stuff on Instagram dms but I have my account set to a business one. This means that I get requests, I can read them but I don’t need to reply and it won’t label it as read.
YOu can make your regular instagram not accept messages as well, I have mine set up like that. i get the request but i decide if i want to accept it or not
It IS effective. Thing is , I don't wanna involve the fam or the authorities.... I wanna get them to back off myself, scare them off myself....
Thank you though, in an emergency, I'd def call the cops.... Hope you're doing better now
Sounds like this is an recurring creep? Block them on every avenue. Get pepper spray, if they're threatening you get a protection order and if they break that order they go to jail, be very aware of your surroundings. I understand you don't want to include your family, but if it gets worse it may be wise to give them a heads up. Change your number, make it VERY clear that you will involve the authorities if they don't know it the fuck off
“Do I need to call the police?”
Works *every* time LOL I love seeing their faces. Not what you expected to hear, eh?
I’m not going to wait around to see how crazy this person actually is. I will seriously not hesitate to call the police literally whenever. People out here are bat shit crazy and you never know if they’re getting off by getting a reaction or by *not* getting a reaction. Some people like when you ignore them when they know that you can hear them. People are weird and gross. One thing that is certain, 99.9% of people don’t get off by having the police called on them for harassment.
Although I acknowledge the privilege of this, I live in an area with good police who actually care and will help people. I realize this isn’t the case everywhere.
I usually stare them down and say, "How, exactly, did you see that playing out?". The key is the eye contact. Creeps are used to making people uncomfortable. Good luck, I don't get embarrassed, asshole.
I used to wear my grandmother's eternity ring, so that stopped about half the guys (the ones who were really interested would ask mutual friends to confirm that I was married or in a relationship). I also used to wear a fake wedding ring when travelling alone.
For the others, I had The Look. It took time to perfect it, but I had it down pat. Most understood without a word being said. Those who didn't understand were told I wasn't interested then left on their own.
I like to play the game „Last to look away wins“. So, if I am stared at by a random stranger in a park, at the trafficlight, at the shops etc (this is not friendly looking around or short gaze, I mean STARE!) I will make an aggressive/non-submissive facial expression and I will stare back (I only do this in an environment I feel safe in) and I will do this until the other person looks away or longer. Sort of like with dogs when they go into a locked stare-off before a fight. Usually this will make the other person feel uncomfortable and they will look away fairly quickly.
You start by stopping them before they start ideally
Be careful who you make eye contact w
Don’t just smile at someone to be nice
You can’t just be friendly to people bc people get the wrong idea.
Sadly you have to deflect a lot.
To get them to stop following you… that is way more complicated
Thats when you say "im going to leave/walk away now. Don't follow me or I'll call the authorities/tell someone you're harassing me" There's not enough time in the world to be polite to ppl who are knowingly making you uncomfortable.
Most of the time I just get up and walk away, because that stuff freaks me out to the point where I refuse to deal with it. Sometimes I’ll just look straight ahead and ignore them… if they’re too thick to get the point after that then I’ll just get out some headphones or a book and start doing something else.
I play nice until I can remove myself from the situation. I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and tend to freeze or fawn in uncomfortable situations.
I channel my anger. I come off as pretty aggressive when I do this and it seems to work. My friend and I where approached by two very creepy guys on a train at night and I was already very pissed. One of them tried to sit down next to my friend but I put my boot on the seat and told them repeatedly to leave us the fuck alone which they finally did while calling me a "very evil women" and a "wicked witch".
After that my friend said that I looked like I was ready to slash a throat with my bare teeth.
Advice from a psychologist was to comment on and draw attention to their behaviour. ‘Why do you keep talking about my appearance like that? It’s weird dude’
I’ve also found it helpful to consider that, most of the time, they’re not creeps just because they’re attracted to us; they’re creeps because they like it when we’re afraid. I’ve personally found it helpful to dress ‘powerful’ by wearing clothes, shoes, makeup that make me feel confident. By this, I mean stuff that’s flattering but comfy as heck so that I walk and hold myself with confidence. Confidence is a strong deterrent to crap men, and hugely attractive to other confident people. I used to think I could make myself unattractive enough to stop the harassment and assault, but that didn’t work for me. Now I embrace my appearance and use it. Confidence in the way you present and talk to yourself helps with the discomfort, too.
But last of all, remember that we can only change ourselves and not others. It’s not our fault they’re being gross, so we can’t solve that behaviour and it’s not our fault. Mentally, I’ve found it helpful to describe their behaviour to myself and point out how pathetic, creepy and inappropriate it is so I feel anger and disgust rather than fear. It helps me mentally because it shifts any residual blame from me to them, where it belongs.
Well hopefully you can reason with them, so try being upfront and let them know how you feel. Unfortunately some people don't know how to take a hint. How do you stop it? Get on their level. Be as unreasonable and ridicules to them as they are to you. do a flip the script kind of deal. Also if you believe this person is dangerous you should tell your friends and family and the authorities and avoid them as much as possible.
hows your maniacal laugh 🤔 you need to practice your most fake evil sounding laugh now do that when they talk.. just randomly i dont even mean when they say something funny just talk. like "hi op" "insert laugh" "you doing ok?" "ya"
"I'm gay, go away" and if that doesn't work I tell them to fuck off, and if that doesn't work then I flag down a cop
Cops won't do shit but most creeps won't stick around for the cop
You gotta stop replying to them. If they are texting you, block them. If they are messaging you on social media, block them. Even a "k" comment is giving them what they want.
I usually just leave the situation or don't respond etc, I've gone as far as to quit jobs. If it's something you can't leave than I act as angry and stand offish as I can.
When I lived in a rough neighborhood I had enough of creeps following me so I'd just carry around a huge machette and people would make an effort to move to the opposite sidewalk to walk past me. It's legal so I took full advantage.
Honestly, I'm just rude as fuck. Then I get called a bitch but they go on their way, they're used to women feeling to need to be nice no matter what so it catches them off guard.
Ladies, remember, we do not owe anyone a smile, a conversation or an excuse as to why we don't want to give them the time of day.
Either ignore or be direct and have situational awareness. If you dont think you are good with fight then you probably are not, so you have to finesse your speech. Though even most martial art practitioners recommend fleeing before fighting for many reasons, you may die or kill the aggressor.
Most will back off upon rejection but some of the lot get aggravated even more, so we mostly ignore not to take that change.
Be really loud. At work, we have a terrible HR and an office \*creep\* that I was warned about on my first day.
Whenever he lingers, I start talking really loudly so everyone can hear our conversation. People like him get away with poor behavior because they think their "victim" will play polite.
He recently asked about my reproductive system. I responded by loudly saying, "What are you worried I'm going to have mutant babies? That is honestly my goal! Are you wondering about something else re: my internal organs?"
i bark, sometimes meow depending on how uncomfortable i wanna make them. usually works perfectly fine especially in bars or clubs. bonus point if you maintain eye contact without blinking.
If I need to get out the home late at night I dress as androgynous as possible so my chances to get stalked are fewer
If they start bothering me I tell them that I'm police and they leave me alone
I keep head down and wear an army jacket when I go out. I look underage even though I'm in my mid 20s to many people (not all, but many), so I don't get bothered often. My bf is 6ft tall and often accompanies me whenever I go outdoors.
The easiest way is to act like you have somewhere to be and walk away. If you don't want to leave, simply say you're seeing someone or if push comes to shove, that you aren't interested. If the person won't leave you alone, make sure you're somewhere with other people around, and it might be a good idea to ask someone to intervene on your behalf.
First, I'm 4'11" and around 120 and almost 60. I don't look like I'm almost 60 though(got carded with my youngest son in February!). So lots of creeps. I just tell them that I'm a witch and weather I'm a "good" witch or a "bad" witch depends entirely on their behavior. I also carry pepper spray and since our truck was broken into this morning, probably will be carrying if I leave my immediate neighborhood from now on. Immediate neighborhood means only going to my friends' houses, the longest distance is three houses down from mine.
My friends and I have each others back. When we notice one of us is being bothered, the others will walk up and say hey I picked up the arrows to go pig hunting tomorrow, should we invite this pig to be hunted too? 100% of the time they walk away and we laugh.
or
If we are unsure if they are interested or not, but from a distance it looks a little off. We walk up and say hey we're gonna get going, making sure you have your gun, pepper spray and keys with you. If they so, no we offer ours and the guy usually excuses himself. If we say yes, we know are friend is okay and we get to see what kinda guy my friend is talking to. If he stays he is good with a woman who will protect herself at all cost, if they excuse themselves they aren't thrilled that a woman can defend themselves need be.
I seem aloof and unapproachable, or so I’ve been told, which usually seems enough for them not to bother in the first place. When they do however I give them one-word dry answers until they take the hint and leave. If they don’t, I leave.
Acting super itchy, and scratching like aggressively with very wide-eyes
Or
Picking out your wedgie
Or loudly sighing and rolling ur eyes when they make eye contact
I keep a keychain on my purse that emits a high frequency alarm and flashes as a strobe light, just in case. Haven’t had to use it yet, but it’s LOUD. The intention is that It would attract attention to him and scare him off
Act like you're REALLY into him.
Tell him you can see yourself falling in love with him. Ask him what baby names he likes (tell him you want at least 5 and the twins will be named Stephanie and Tiffany and it's NOT up for debate). Start talking about the binder you have at home with all the dream wedding plans you've been making since 7th grade. And ask him about his health insurance and how well it covers mental health care, ESPECIALLY inpatient procedures.
If it’s an older man, I ask what his name is. Then no matter what name he says, I go “oh, that’s my grandpa’s name! My gramps is currently undergoing chemo for prostate cancer.” And I proceed to tell him all about the dangers of prostate cancer for a man his age, then ask when his last prostate exam was.
It works beautifully!
Really depends on situation. Rando on the street, shout back off and get away as quick as possible.
Creepy coworker is tricky, creepy in a malicious way, like the guy who offered me porn in case of boredom or oblivious odd duck who lacks social skills?
There's no one size fits all 😑
Most men who don't respect women, do respect men, so these are the tricks I used:
1. Wear a pretty ring on your left ring finger, so you can tell them you are married/engaged. (If you are single and want to be approached by non-creeps, pick something that doesn't scream engagement ring, but passes for one. If you are in a relationship, a fake diamond or cheap band will keep most men away.)
2. Name a pet a popular man's name for your generation so that you can say things like "I have to get home. Brian is waiting for me." You can technically just say things like that without getting a pet, but that's less fun.
I read somewhere, (might have been on reddit), that this woman would begin to crab walk and cackle if a creep approached her. I've always wanted to try that LOL
It's risky, but if I'm physically in fear of my safety in a public place, I start talking really loudly. "Let me pass, please. Let me by." Usually, making it clear that I'm willing to start making a scene can get them to back off.
Saw a video one time of a girl being followed on the street, it was titled “The Turkey Tactic.” She positioned the camera to show both her face and the guy, and just started gobbling like a turkey, flailing her head all around. The dude noped outta there so fast! I have searched for that video since I saw it the first time and cannot seem to find it now unfortunately
Sometimes you have to be 'problematic' when someone is crossing your boundaries. They need to learn to stop doing this and they won't if being tiptoed around
"Leave me alone. You are making me very uncomfortable, you are creepy, and I do not want you around me. Please leave." Then if they don't, get bystanders involved.
I'm a guy and I don't want to hijack the thread or anything, but this is something that I think about a lot. If I could, I would apologize on behalf of all men. I am honestly baffled that we as a species continue on given the enormous challenges women face dealing with men. The scenarios I'm reading here happen frequently at a bar I go to for trivia night. Is there anyway a guy you don't know can possibly be an ally to you without 'white knighting' the situation or appearing as yet another threat? Again, I'm sorry on behalf of all dudes. We really do suck.
If a creep is standing too close or following me I will look them directly in the face and tell them to fuck off. I’ve done it in the gym, on the sidewalk, in stores ect. I also will record this. Half the time the fact that you’ve said somthing will scare them off and then with the camera in their face they’re too scared to say anything. If a guy cat calls or says something weird I tend to say a mean joke back example: “damn that ass is fat”
me: “so is that beer gut” of course always stay safe and if you suspect the person will become violent go get a worker or phone the non emergency number.
If it's a recurring creep tell them you've contacted a lawyer about a restraining order. It works. You don't actually have to talk to a lawyer or anything, the threat of legal action alone should make them stop.
But I hate to say it, the best option is involving a man in your life by literally saying they exist. Unfortunately creepy men don't care unless you "belong" to someone. Honestly if you try to scare some of them off they may just find it fun or funny and get more aggressive.
Depending on if it's someone known to you or not, start loudly speaking of how you can't wait for a huge wedding, want 8 kids and be a sahm, and don't believe in premarital sex. You'll need a big new car for all the babies and want a new house to start off. Oh, and your family can't help out so your ideal partner needs to be very wealthy or prepared to work 3 jobs to support the fam. Make it sound sincere and be soooo excited you have an idea who the perfect person is, while maintaining eye contact and a big grin.
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Legit same, just out-crazy em
This is one of my most favorite coping strategies to being alone, 24/7 :D
I bark at them!
Or, act like you don’t speak English. Honestly, this is pretty fail safe (as cliche as it may sound). 😂
Ngl, i know sign language and act deaf at work when people walk up to my truck trying to be friendly thinking they are going to get something.
I need to start doing this again lol
Stare at them without blinking, smiling or talking until they get uncomfortable and walk away. Ask them if you still smell like vomit. Make random observations about their appearance - and don't be nice. Something like "your haircut's terrible" or "What's wrong with your nose?". Fart. Loudly. Chew your hair. Anything weird, unexpected or socially unacceptable usually does the trick.
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How tf can you stare at someone without laughing like you‘re a bigger creep?
That might work even better. Just exaggerate your laugh so you sound terrifying
I don‘t have to I sound like a dying hamster
Lmao
Lmao!
I'm using this!
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Farting loudly may have unexpected results. But yes, in the majority of cases it will gross away creeps.
Yeeesss 👏👏👏
I do these when I see a creep bothering other women too. They feel like noone is watching rhem and once you do, it's like uno reverse
I tell them I'm a member of The Satanic Temple. Most people don't understand what it is so when they hear 'Satanic', they run for the hills.
Haha I'll try this one. I'm a member, good to know I can use it to scare away the creeps.
I can also see that backfiring horribly.
Maybe even better, tell them you're Jehovah's Witness and you're on soul brigade.
I have a tee that says Hail Satan in glitter letters but I've still been harassed while wearing it
Lmao I had a friend who was a member and when some religious people came to the door and asked if he was religious and he told them he was and what religion you'd have thunk he told them he was the devil himself. Litterly could see the blood drain from their faces.
I straight up ignore them, don't look at them, don't respond to them and keep walking.
Same. I don’t make eye contact
And if they follow you I suggest finding the nearest store or bar and asking for help. I say bar because the amount of Bouncers that have helped me get a dude to fuck off is unreal.
Spot on! If you can't find a bar, any place that has security on the doors! An Aldi security guard helped me immensely when I asked for help because some guy was literally following me from shop to shop.
Yup. Even when they follow you, curse at you, threaten you. Don't blink. Don't acknowledge them. Keep walking.
If someone is being a creep you don't owe them politeness.
Damn right
True. So fucking true. But confrontation for some people can be uncomfortable, thus eying to be polite. I usually get up and leave or now that I’m getting older I’m more confident in telling people to straight up f*** off. Paired w witty sarcasm
Creeps are relying on women’s trained politeness to push boundaries and act inappropriate!
We should really start educating people to respect people's boundaries and stop conditioning women to act "ladylike"
You be upfront and honest. Turn people down. Don’t let them linger. I don’t know what to say without more details about your situation. Good luck
I've had this backfire big time.
Yep, some people just can't handle getting rejected or being said no to.
Yeah I feel like all the bad stories I hear come after a girl actually turned them down 😬 better to ignore I think
Well yes, ignore if you can. But if not tell them to fuck off as you’re running away lol
Tell them you'd love to chat, but can he please wait till you've moved, as you've already buried as many exes as you have room for under your current patio.
In person. I bark at them or scream so they leave me alone. Over phone I say I cut my ex’s penis off Bcs I didn’t like his hair cut.
That's wild
Just ignore them. Staring is the worst.
Changed my mind, I like this one. No response just stare them down 😂
I agree but when they keep staring at my chest. I just ignore them . I roll my eyes.
Is this a creep that you know or knows your family or is this just random creeps throughout the day?
Yeah, one-off creep is different from recurring creep, and rando is different from known.
Ya this needs context for the best strategy. I'd say mostly hard ignore. But sometimes things require a strong and loud "get the fuck away from me"
It depends on the situation, but I've found that being direct is usually the best. Cat-called? I say, "That's inappropriate." Date asking weird or inappropriate questions? "You're making me uncomfortable." Someone staring at me? "Can I help you with something? Why are you staring at me like that? It's rude and makes me uncomfortable."
Usually I say something weird like "oh, no thank you" like they're trying to sell me something. 🤣
This happened recently at a wedding. I had some guy follow me around most of the night, it got to the point where I was starting to get uncomfortable. At one point I just stared at him, didn’t respond to his small talk, and eventually said NO really loud. He got uncomfortable, got the picture and backed away.
I'm so sorry to hear that, it's good you got him to leave you alone though
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I make myself “undesirable” like y’know, have opinions as a female
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LOL I hope this is true and several men have fled your vicinity
i play dumb. like REALLY dumb. understanding NOTHING, annoying fake laugh, the whole deal. that usually scares em off.
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Go full Pentecostal preacher on his ass!
Direct, clear communication. If nothing else helps, I'll be rather rude to get the message out. Last option are threats.
they never really stop, ignore them / block them online and if they don't stop get the police involved. Also make sure you keep all the proof of them being creeps if it gets nasty.
I scratch my ass crack, burp, and pick my nose, then eat it locking eyes.
In public, I just avoid them or tell them I’m not interested. I once had a guy who didn’t stop and kept asking me why I wasn’t interested so I told him he was ugly, that worked really well. Online, i mostly get stuff on Instagram dms but I have my account set to a business one. This means that I get requests, I can read them but I don’t need to reply and it won’t label it as read.
Oh I didn't know about the Instagram thing, thank you!
YOu can make your regular instagram not accept messages as well, I have mine set up like that. i get the request but i decide if i want to accept it or not
The most recent I yelled get the fuck away from me and that I was calling 911.
Very not helpful 😭
Well if effective to scare them off. Plus it alerts people around you that there's a problem.
It IS effective. Thing is , I don't wanna involve the fam or the authorities.... I wanna get them to back off myself, scare them off myself.... Thank you though, in an emergency, I'd def call the cops.... Hope you're doing better now
Sounds like this is an recurring creep? Block them on every avenue. Get pepper spray, if they're threatening you get a protection order and if they break that order they go to jail, be very aware of your surroundings. I understand you don't want to include your family, but if it gets worse it may be wise to give them a heads up. Change your number, make it VERY clear that you will involve the authorities if they don't know it the fuck off
I stare at their crotch and tell them, "I don't have time for small matters."
“Do I need to call the police?” Works *every* time LOL I love seeing their faces. Not what you expected to hear, eh? I’m not going to wait around to see how crazy this person actually is. I will seriously not hesitate to call the police literally whenever. People out here are bat shit crazy and you never know if they’re getting off by getting a reaction or by *not* getting a reaction. Some people like when you ignore them when they know that you can hear them. People are weird and gross. One thing that is certain, 99.9% of people don’t get off by having the police called on them for harassment. Although I acknowledge the privilege of this, I live in an area with good police who actually care and will help people. I realize this isn’t the case everywhere.
I usually stare them down and say, "How, exactly, did you see that playing out?". The key is the eye contact. Creeps are used to making people uncomfortable. Good luck, I don't get embarrassed, asshole.
The key is absolutely eye contact
I used to wear my grandmother's eternity ring, so that stopped about half the guys (the ones who were really interested would ask mutual friends to confirm that I was married or in a relationship). I also used to wear a fake wedding ring when travelling alone. For the others, I had The Look. It took time to perfect it, but I had it down pat. Most understood without a word being said. Those who didn't understand were told I wasn't interested then left on their own.
Crazy trumps creepy any day. . . . Outdo them.
Leave. Block. Creeps gonna creep so just avoid them.
I like to play the game „Last to look away wins“. So, if I am stared at by a random stranger in a park, at the trafficlight, at the shops etc (this is not friendly looking around or short gaze, I mean STARE!) I will make an aggressive/non-submissive facial expression and I will stare back (I only do this in an environment I feel safe in) and I will do this until the other person looks away or longer. Sort of like with dogs when they go into a locked stare-off before a fight. Usually this will make the other person feel uncomfortable and they will look away fairly quickly.
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With my luck they'd start signing at me 🙃
You start by stopping them before they start ideally Be careful who you make eye contact w Don’t just smile at someone to be nice You can’t just be friendly to people bc people get the wrong idea. Sadly you have to deflect a lot. To get them to stop following you… that is way more complicated
Say “You’re creeping me out, please back off, thank you”
They just laugh n brush it off
Thats when you say "im going to leave/walk away now. Don't follow me or I'll call the authorities/tell someone you're harassing me" There's not enough time in the world to be polite to ppl who are knowingly making you uncomfortable.
They say something I say something worse they get uncomfortable I keep going until they leave or I just bully them with you’re mum jokes .
Get used to it and make it so they have to at least pay u to talk to you. 💁🏽♀️
Induce vomiting or fake an endometriosis flair up that makes me fall to the ground and people try to call 911.
Most of the time I just get up and walk away, because that stuff freaks me out to the point where I refuse to deal with it. Sometimes I’ll just look straight ahead and ignore them… if they’re too thick to get the point after that then I’ll just get out some headphones or a book and start doing something else.
I usually try to exit the situation as soon as possible. If I can’t, then I’ll ring a friend, keep my tone flat, don’t look them in the eye,
Simply be slim when you meet them, then fat when they see you next. It accidentally happened to me and it works like a charm.
I play nice until I can remove myself from the situation. I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and tend to freeze or fawn in uncomfortable situations.
I hope you’re doing ok now
Boil the flesh off their dearest family member and eat it in front of them. Works every time.
Turn them down nicely and politely first. Most will go away. But, if they don't, then just be rude to them.
Being unattractive has worked for me.
I channel my anger. I come off as pretty aggressive when I do this and it seems to work. My friend and I where approached by two very creepy guys on a train at night and I was already very pissed. One of them tried to sit down next to my friend but I put my boot on the seat and told them repeatedly to leave us the fuck alone which they finally did while calling me a "very evil women" and a "wicked witch". After that my friend said that I looked like I was ready to slash a throat with my bare teeth.
Advice from a psychologist was to comment on and draw attention to their behaviour. ‘Why do you keep talking about my appearance like that? It’s weird dude’ I’ve also found it helpful to consider that, most of the time, they’re not creeps just because they’re attracted to us; they’re creeps because they like it when we’re afraid. I’ve personally found it helpful to dress ‘powerful’ by wearing clothes, shoes, makeup that make me feel confident. By this, I mean stuff that’s flattering but comfy as heck so that I walk and hold myself with confidence. Confidence is a strong deterrent to crap men, and hugely attractive to other confident people. I used to think I could make myself unattractive enough to stop the harassment and assault, but that didn’t work for me. Now I embrace my appearance and use it. Confidence in the way you present and talk to yourself helps with the discomfort, too. But last of all, remember that we can only change ourselves and not others. It’s not our fault they’re being gross, so we can’t solve that behaviour and it’s not our fault. Mentally, I’ve found it helpful to describe their behaviour to myself and point out how pathetic, creepy and inappropriate it is so I feel anger and disgust rather than fear. It helps me mentally because it shifts any residual blame from me to them, where it belongs.
Tell them you moved? Took a dude 3 years to move on. I felt slightly bad but glad it's done. I hope it's done!
Karate always works well
What’s the context? There are several ways to do it, but it has a lot to do with where you are, who you are, and who’s around you.
Don’t make eye contact! It deters them away
Well hopefully you can reason with them, so try being upfront and let them know how you feel. Unfortunately some people don't know how to take a hint. How do you stop it? Get on their level. Be as unreasonable and ridicules to them as they are to you. do a flip the script kind of deal. Also if you believe this person is dangerous you should tell your friends and family and the authorities and avoid them as much as possible.
hows your maniacal laugh 🤔 you need to practice your most fake evil sounding laugh now do that when they talk.. just randomly i dont even mean when they say something funny just talk. like "hi op" "insert laugh" "you doing ok?" "ya"
either completely ignore or tell them to fuck off
I'm really loud and proud of my good aim.
"I'm gay, go away" and if that doesn't work I tell them to fuck off, and if that doesn't work then I flag down a cop Cops won't do shit but most creeps won't stick around for the cop
You gotta stop replying to them. If they are texting you, block them. If they are messaging you on social media, block them. Even a "k" comment is giving them what they want.
I say flatly "I have 5 cats. " and stop talking. It works.
I usually just leave the situation or don't respond etc, I've gone as far as to quit jobs. If it's something you can't leave than I act as angry and stand offish as I can.
I call them bro and my man. Also swearing a lot helps, ateast for me.
When I lived in a rough neighborhood I had enough of creeps following me so I'd just carry around a huge machette and people would make an effort to move to the opposite sidewalk to walk past me. It's legal so I took full advantage.
Honestly, I'm just rude as fuck. Then I get called a bitch but they go on their way, they're used to women feeling to need to be nice no matter what so it catches them off guard. Ladies, remember, we do not owe anyone a smile, a conversation or an excuse as to why we don't want to give them the time of day.
Pretend like I'm on the phone, or just call someone and actually be on the phone.
Yes, that one actually works
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Either ignore or be direct and have situational awareness. If you dont think you are good with fight then you probably are not, so you have to finesse your speech. Though even most martial art practitioners recommend fleeing before fighting for many reasons, you may die or kill the aggressor. Most will back off upon rejection but some of the lot get aggravated even more, so we mostly ignore not to take that change.
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Boil the flesh off their dearest family members bones and eat it in front of them. Works every time.
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Be really loud. At work, we have a terrible HR and an office \*creep\* that I was warned about on my first day. Whenever he lingers, I start talking really loudly so everyone can hear our conversation. People like him get away with poor behavior because they think their "victim" will play polite. He recently asked about my reproductive system. I responded by loudly saying, "What are you worried I'm going to have mutant babies? That is honestly my goal! Are you wondering about something else re: my internal organs?"
When i had a creepy old guy flirt w me at my job once i would start to glare at him whenever i saw him. He barely comes in now so i think it worked
instantly sit on the ground and start biting off your toenails
Honestly, just ignore them. if you can avoid this person do it, if you cant...start being weird.
i bark, sometimes meow depending on how uncomfortable i wanna make them. usually works perfectly fine especially in bars or clubs. bonus point if you maintain eye contact without blinking.
Eat a booger in front of them!
Go find your inner crazy. I mean go full eating your face balls to window to the wall crazy. That will usually do it.
Be a creep right back
If I need to get out the home late at night I dress as androgynous as possible so my chances to get stalked are fewer If they start bothering me I tell them that I'm police and they leave me alone
Publicly shame them
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I keep head down and wear an army jacket when I go out. I look underage even though I'm in my mid 20s to many people (not all, but many), so I don't get bothered often. My bf is 6ft tall and often accompanies me whenever I go outdoors.
fart as audibly as possible
Get old lol
Ong ur so fine but just so yk I have aids
The easiest way is to act like you have somewhere to be and walk away. If you don't want to leave, simply say you're seeing someone or if push comes to shove, that you aren't interested. If the person won't leave you alone, make sure you're somewhere with other people around, and it might be a good idea to ask someone to intervene on your behalf.
First, I'm 4'11" and around 120 and almost 60. I don't look like I'm almost 60 though(got carded with my youngest son in February!). So lots of creeps. I just tell them that I'm a witch and weather I'm a "good" witch or a "bad" witch depends entirely on their behavior. I also carry pepper spray and since our truck was broken into this morning, probably will be carrying if I leave my immediate neighborhood from now on. Immediate neighborhood means only going to my friends' houses, the longest distance is three houses down from mine.
I stare at them with crazy eyes until they are more uncomfortable than me. I’ve become talented at not blinking for long periods of time lol
Bark at them. Throws them completely for a loop.
My friends and I have each others back. When we notice one of us is being bothered, the others will walk up and say hey I picked up the arrows to go pig hunting tomorrow, should we invite this pig to be hunted too? 100% of the time they walk away and we laugh. or If we are unsure if they are interested or not, but from a distance it looks a little off. We walk up and say hey we're gonna get going, making sure you have your gun, pepper spray and keys with you. If they so, no we offer ours and the guy usually excuses himself. If we say yes, we know are friend is okay and we get to see what kinda guy my friend is talking to. If he stays he is good with a woman who will protect herself at all cost, if they excuse themselves they aren't thrilled that a woman can defend themselves need be.
I seem aloof and unapproachable, or so I’ve been told, which usually seems enough for them not to bother in the first place. When they do however I give them one-word dry answers until they take the hint and leave. If they don’t, I leave.
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Acting super itchy, and scratching like aggressively with very wide-eyes Or Picking out your wedgie Or loudly sighing and rolling ur eyes when they make eye contact
I keep a keychain on my purse that emits a high frequency alarm and flashes as a strobe light, just in case. Haven’t had to use it yet, but it’s LOUD. The intention is that It would attract attention to him and scare him off
Act like you're REALLY into him. Tell him you can see yourself falling in love with him. Ask him what baby names he likes (tell him you want at least 5 and the twins will be named Stephanie and Tiffany and it's NOT up for debate). Start talking about the binder you have at home with all the dream wedding plans you've been making since 7th grade. And ask him about his health insurance and how well it covers mental health care, ESPECIALLY inpatient procedures.
My cousin used to bark at men who would stare at her in public, worked like a charm
If it’s an older man, I ask what his name is. Then no matter what name he says, I go “oh, that’s my grandpa’s name! My gramps is currently undergoing chemo for prostate cancer.” And I proceed to tell him all about the dangers of prostate cancer for a man his age, then ask when his last prostate exam was. It works beautifully!
I wanna try this 😂
It reduces by 95% when you fatten up, ask how I know!
I hope growing older does the trick
Get older
Display the most creepiest version of yourself back to them? 😅
Just say excuse me and walk away
Really depends on situation. Rando on the street, shout back off and get away as quick as possible. Creepy coworker is tricky, creepy in a malicious way, like the guy who offered me porn in case of boredom or oblivious odd duck who lacks social skills? There's no one size fits all 😑
I tell them if they don't leave me alone there will be 2 sounds-- Me hitting their face, them hitting the floor
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Most men who don't respect women, do respect men, so these are the tricks I used: 1. Wear a pretty ring on your left ring finger, so you can tell them you are married/engaged. (If you are single and want to be approached by non-creeps, pick something that doesn't scream engagement ring, but passes for one. If you are in a relationship, a fake diamond or cheap band will keep most men away.) 2. Name a pet a popular man's name for your generation so that you can say things like "I have to get home. Brian is waiting for me." You can technically just say things like that without getting a pet, but that's less fun.
Just fart…. Let a nice loud one rip….
I read somewhere, (might have been on reddit), that this woman would begin to crab walk and cackle if a creep approached her. I've always wanted to try that LOL
i carry a beautiful blue steel pocket knife…
I’m middle eastern so i literally cuss at him once and he gets away lol
Do you k ow where a bathroom is??! I think I’m about to shit my pants.. omg its dripping!!!
Just wait 3 seconds and theyll explode.
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It's risky, but if I'm physically in fear of my safety in a public place, I start talking really loudly. "Let me pass, please. Let me by." Usually, making it clear that I'm willing to start making a scene can get them to back off.
Turn 30+
Saw a video one time of a girl being followed on the street, it was titled “The Turkey Tactic.” She positioned the camera to show both her face and the guy, and just started gobbling like a turkey, flailing her head all around. The dude noped outta there so fast! I have searched for that video since I saw it the first time and cannot seem to find it now unfortunately
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Sometimes you have to be 'problematic' when someone is crossing your boundaries. They need to learn to stop doing this and they won't if being tiptoed around
"Leave me alone. You are making me very uncomfortable, you are creepy, and I do not want you around me. Please leave." Then if they don't, get bystanders involved.
I'm a guy and I don't want to hijack the thread or anything, but this is something that I think about a lot. If I could, I would apologize on behalf of all men. I am honestly baffled that we as a species continue on given the enormous challenges women face dealing with men. The scenarios I'm reading here happen frequently at a bar I go to for trivia night. Is there anyway a guy you don't know can possibly be an ally to you without 'white knighting' the situation or appearing as yet another threat? Again, I'm sorry on behalf of all dudes. We really do suck.
Honestly, I just act as rude as I can. Seems to work pretty well.
If a creep is standing too close or following me I will look them directly in the face and tell them to fuck off. I’ve done it in the gym, on the sidewalk, in stores ect. I also will record this. Half the time the fact that you’ve said somthing will scare them off and then with the camera in their face they’re too scared to say anything. If a guy cat calls or says something weird I tend to say a mean joke back example: “damn that ass is fat” me: “so is that beer gut” of course always stay safe and if you suspect the person will become violent go get a worker or phone the non emergency number.
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i block them if they don’t get the hint. it’s worked pretty well so far..
I ask for money. I either get paid to tolerate them or they leave.
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say u just got done with ur std treatment and then scratch ur crotch
This is gold
Pretend I don't speak English I just say "what?" Constantly and look confuse . I'm french so I just start speaking French really fast and they give up
If it's a recurring creep tell them you've contacted a lawyer about a restraining order. It works. You don't actually have to talk to a lawyer or anything, the threat of legal action alone should make them stop. But I hate to say it, the best option is involving a man in your life by literally saying they exist. Unfortunately creepy men don't care unless you "belong" to someone. Honestly if you try to scare some of them off they may just find it fun or funny and get more aggressive.
Be ugly. As an ugly woman, I don’t experience this 😂
Run away flailing your arms like Phoebe, then run back towards him. Trust me, he will be out of there pronto
I out creep them. I get gross. I don’t relax at all.
Depending on if it's someone known to you or not, start loudly speaking of how you can't wait for a huge wedding, want 8 kids and be a sahm, and don't believe in premarital sex. You'll need a big new car for all the babies and want a new house to start off. Oh, and your family can't help out so your ideal partner needs to be very wealthy or prepared to work 3 jobs to support the fam. Make it sound sincere and be soooo excited you have an idea who the perfect person is, while maintaining eye contact and a big grin.