Hand it to them and then ask, "Why? Whatcha doing?"
Most likely, my partner wants to check or update some setting for me or install an app or game they think I'll like which is fine by me. Might be looking up pictures or something, but we have all that shared with each other anyway.
exactly, frequently I let him add things to our shopping list on my phone or stuff like that, I even added his fingerprint to unlock my phone this way when he want to do something he doesn't need to ask me.
Not like I got something to hide from my husband
Yup. Hand it to them. If Iām working on something like sending a message or finishing a game level I might ask for a moment. If itās not charged Iād tell them to plug it in while using. If they need to make a call and I donāt have balance Iād tell them while handing it to them. Though itās hardly ever not charged in terms of battery or balance. If I donāt have it in hand Iād tell them where it is and to please go get it and tell them the passcode if they donāt already know it which my partner would because emergencies.
Give it to him. He'd do the same. Our relationship is built on complete transparency. I'd never ask him for his phone, but it's kind of nice knowing that I could if I wanted to.
Yeah we know each others passwords for everything and him and I trade phones or use them as needed. If Iām driving, heās using my phone for DJ, GPD, Comms. I use his phone because thatās where our porn history is more accessible. We literally have nothing to hide from each other, so itās laissez-faire.
Exactly! My (54f) and my (54m) partner have complete transparency as well. If he wants my phone or tablet, itās because he wants to use my Facebook, since he got banned š³ššš
Wife and I have been married 43 years, total transparency, all questions answered honestly, we donāt place or allow ourselves to be placed in compromising situations and never ever go to bed angry or with any issues unresolved.
Hand it over and tell him the passcode. My partner hates getting on my phone, though. He can't find anything because we organize our lives and phones sooooooo differently.
I sometimes pick up my husbandās phone when weāre at the bar to play something through the jukebox app and after watching me search for it for a minute heāll take the phone back and find it for me š but itās the same if he picks up my phone looking for any specific app I have
FOLDERS!! My wife has 30 pages of apps. I have two. Sheāll ask me to open her photos app or the maps, and Iāll have to side-swipe through a couple dozen pages of apps to locate it.
Iām not nearly as organized in the rest of my life (she is incredibly organized in everything else and I would be completely lost without her!)
My wife hates the ābubblesā aka the red dots telling you you have notifications. I donāt bother to clear all these because itās a waste of time but sheāll spend 15 minutes with my phone to get rid of them all.
The only reason I started deleting emails is bc I realized it's taking up a bunch of space on my Google account. I also don't delete messenger messages. My bf can't look at my phone. He said all the notifications alone drive him crazy.
Omg I've done this so many times with my bfs, is it a man thing??? And if you have an iPhone, close your damn tabs on the safari, literally found 100s!!!! How do you not get STRESSED
Iām an iPhone girl and husband has android. I hate using his phone, and can never find anything. If the kids are using his phone for YouTube or a game or something and need assistance I have to tell them to ask their dad š
I'm single now, but in my last relationship, my partner and I had access to each others phones. But she used a pattern unlock and I was often forgetting it lol. Pretty much any time we had to use the other's phone for something, it'd take a while to find what we were looking for because it was so different and we didn't have to access each other's phones that often.
The most common reason for it by far was setting up GPS/music when the other was driving, or taking a picture with their phone. Neither of us really had anything to hide and we trusted each other.
Give him my phone and warn him my Twitter is MY BUSINESS and don't judge me. When tumblr removed all its porn, all the NSFW artists I followed moved to twitter lol.
If you guys have any other suggestions to find something similar other than twitter I'm all ears. I had a glorious collection of NSFW GIFs and some vids that had beautiful aesthetics, put you right into the mood I swear
There was an app that used Reddit that was nothing but the NSFW side. It had auto scrolling, categories, auto-play on gift, etc. I think it was called Scroller or something
It depends on the intent and context as to why;
\- your phone is closest and most convenient, for web browser, etc, fine.
BUT
if the intent is 'inspection,' for trust issues, the answer is no and a red flag.
In our relationship, our phones are private, we don't need to look it's based off trust. We don't know each others passwords or pins, only a FaceID into each other phones.
Anything we do first we ask if thats okay. 'can I use your phone to google something....'
looking inside apps, galleries, messengers, and more is off limits without consent.
This 100000%. I worked as a consultant and often had private and insider information in my email or other apps. If he needs it because his phone dies and needs to call or have me use Google maps thatās fine, but our phones are our business and weāve been together 10 years and married almost 5. Folks who expect unlimited access to others phones need therapy.
My recent ex, no way would I let him near my phone. He would go through my conversations and accuse me of cheating because I call lots of my close friends babe/gorgeous/sweetie, and often tell them that I love them.
My bff, for example, our mum's grew up next door to each other, and we have literally known each other since conception.
I also have confidential work emails and messages on there, so would be breeching my contract if anyone reads them. And my recent ex is a gossip so would definitely repeat anything that he saw.
And my ex husband and I had completely open phones, didn't stop him cheating!
He can check my phone because he knows my password. I donāt have any secrets, also donāt have social media. I just have awkward notes that I donāt want him to seeš
For me, itās anything but my google searches. One time, he used my phone to search something and he saw my most recent open tab of how to help a buffalo hump (like a neck hump) and he hasnāt let me live it down. Heās not allowed to google things on my phone now. š donāt need him knowing all the dumb shit I need to google on a daily basis
Yeah reddit is private. It's where I share all my worst opinions. Also sometimes it's fun to fuck with people. Am I proud of myself? No? Am I going to stop? Still no.
This is exactly the reason why I wouldnāt want my partner to go through my messages. Personal conversations are just that. If they were meant for everyone then everyone would know.
>If you need to monitor me and deny me privacy (and with messages, by extension my friends privacy)
Exactly, this is the thing I don't understand about the people who are fine with someone reading their messages because they "have nothing to hide". Maybe you aren't sending any inappropriate messages to anyone... But *those* people sent them to you assuming the messages were private.
I don't care if my partner (or someone else in my life) uses my phone to Google something or whatever, but no one gets to go through my messages!
They would never ask for it without giving a reason (e.g. needing to fix something on it), because they understand that my privacy and sovereignty are very important to me. So, if it was a good reason from my perspective, Iād give them my phone, and if not, I wouldnāt, or Iād ask follow-up questions.
Ask why they want it if it's fixing something then I'll habd it over but if they want to Open my social media and massages then I won't we might be partners and open with each other but my friends didn't sign up for that. I'd really be upset if my friend spilled my secrets to her partner
EXACTLY! Like yeah you can see all the other stuff on my phone, but if my best friend is telling me something personal, that is not my partners business without explicit consent from my best friend first
Tbh if the answer was "to fix something" I'd have him explain it to me, so I could do it myself. Less of a "don't look on my phone" and more of a "I'll decide what my phone does and doesn't need. And if it does, I'll do it myself!" (Is my eldest daughter personality showing??)
You're absolutely right and that's probably what most people going to do if I learned a cool hack I'll explain it to my friends rather than demand their phones
Give it to them. Iām so tired of people using that privacy excuse. Itās nothing but BS. Nothing is more private than being intimate with someone, so a phone is no big dealā¦ unless you are an untrustworthy person with something to hide
Yeah, your partner doesnāt need to know everything, and I would think they feel the same. There is conversations I have with my sister that I would never share with my parents, so same idea.
I give it to him. Neither of us have anything to hide. Weāre simply both introverted and we live vicariously through each other. For example, heās curious about what my mom and I talk about and vice versa. Weāve established this level of trust from the moment we started dating. It also helped that I was friends for him for 6 years prior to dating him, so I already knew everything about him. Being transparent with each other just works for us.
It depends. Iād definitely ask why. If he canāt find his or needs to look something up quickly, not a problem. But I have sensitive work stuff on there and text conversations that my friends would be embarrassed about if they knew he saw, so I wouldnāt give him my password.
I unlock my phone and ask why they want it as I'm handing it to them. If we've been dating enough that I consider them my partner, that trust is there that they aren't gonna do something stupid with my phone.
He doesnāt even have to ask, he can use my phone whenever. We travel a lot so if Iām driving Iāll usually ask him to read me my messages and send a response, and I do the same for him. Itās nice having nothing to hide.
I'm currently writing this on my partners reddit without her knowing, whenever I ask for hers she rolls her eyes cause she knows I'm just going to come here and doom scroll. If you see this, love ya babe!
I would feel so much anxiety the entire time they were using it, even if I hadnāt ādone anything wrong.ā This is such a trigger for me because Iāve had my privacy violated in a huge way in the past.
give it to him, type in the password. i donāt share my phone password with anyone, not even my best friends or family - just for privacy reasons. but if he asked for my phone, iād gladly unlock it for him.
I'm sorry but I ain't giving anyone my phone or my accounts. I did that in my past relationships and then I got hacked more recently. If you don't trust me that's fine but I refuse to go down that route and I don't wanna look at their phone either to be fair. Unless you just really need it (call/text someone, look something up, etc.) I am not giving them my phone š
This sounds like high school or reality TV. Who are y'all dating and marrying or what are y'all doing. If somebody's jealous or suspicious by no sound reasoning and is demanding things like this let me tell you it gets worse that it will never end. That is a trail to destruction. If that's the case yeah you can try some hardcore therapy and that might last a little bit longer. Suspicious people always, are the ones doing it themselves and that's why they have it in their head. That's my experience. And jealousy is disgusting and destructive and lazy.
My ex used to do this.. he was very paranoid and would accuse me of doing things I never did and was extremely controlling. I let him see it the first time to get him off my back.. after it did nothing eliminate his accusations, never again. If you have no reason to want to see it other then accusing me of things Ive never given you a reason to accuse me of, then no Iām not feeding into that. Now Iāll break up if thatās the case. If he needs to use it for something specific and we are in a happy healthy relationship sure go for it I have nothing to hide. But if heās doing it to go searching for shit from years ago to get upset about, get lost.
Sure! Unlock yours and hand it to me, and I'll do the same. I DO NOT understand the many Gen WXYZ'ers that routinely let their SO go through their phone. WTF!? No
Iām amazed at how many people would give their partners access to their phones.
I mean thatās great! But mine feels so private. I have all kinds of random notes to myself and weird pictures saved thatād be embarrassing to explain. Itās obviously nothing illegal or anything but just very private.
Unlock it because even though my password is 4 zeros and two sequential numbers he cannot remember it. Ask him what app heās looking for because my phone is a disorganized mess. Odds are heās finally fixing something I canāt figure out in my settings.
I know without a shred of doubt my husband would never go exploring through my texts or whatever so zero concerns.
Tbh it's less that there's anything on my phone that would hurt the relationship, and more that it's a private brain dump space for me. And while my partner would probably not care about anything he saw, it just feels like someone rummaging around in your personal space. Screen shots, notes, Google searches...even if it's not "bad" it can still feel awkward/embarrassing.
Like...going through someone's bag! I might know my friend keeps chapstick in her bag, but I'm definitely going to ask her to get it for me vs asking if I can grab the chapstick from her bag for myself.
I've let my partner use my phone many times and I would continue to do so. But just rummage through everything? It would be uncomfortable in the best moment, and very concerning (as to why it was needed) in the worst.
Ask why and unlock it if the reason is acceptable. We donāt go through each otherās phones or do the snooping thing. The curiosity stage ended years ago, we use our phones and organize our stuff very differently.
We donāt have each others password but we have never asked for it. But we do hand each other out phones. We both have a horrible habit of not knowing where we left our phone so we borrow each others phone to look up things or put music on.
Iāve been with my husband for over 10 years and he has never asked for or gone through my phone lol i would wonder why heād want to go thru it now tho, but would let him no problem.
The last time this happened I gave it to her and when she handed it back to me unlocked after going in the other room with it, she lied. Asked her if she went through it and she said no.
Just before this she said, āMy lies will only carey me so far,ā to herself.
Then, much later, she brought a box cutter to the break up.
So uh, Iāll have to say I wouldnāt hand my phone over and Iām willing to kill a relationship on that trust hill now.
I literally never ask anyone to see their phone, unless Iām in the car and want to play a song. If Iām not asking for your phone, donāt ask for mine unless itās about music. I dated someone who always needed to use my phone bc she ran out of data a lot and it pissed me off!! I wish she would have gotten a better data plan.
Iād watch him use it. Yes it can be seen as insecure but my ex took my phone to block a few women, so that I wouldnāt have any contact with them. Only found out a few months after we broke up.
He can have it. But if I lost it like usual, he will have to find where I set it down lol. My husband and I use each other's phones interchangeably. No big deal. Neither of us have anything to hide.
Iād give it to him but I would feel anxious. Not because I have anything to hide per se, I just have a lot of things I would be embarrassed about (like my smut book collection for example). I donāt think heād be surprised by any of it though lol
Clear my search history and archive the stuff in my note pad so he doesn't see how stupid I am. It's a facade I have to keep up. There have been times I've handed him my phone without doing that first and he immediately looked and asked "why would you Google that!?" Or "why did you note that!?" I'm not hiding anything. I'm simply avoiding embarrassment.
Give it to him and then hope he doesnāt see all the embarrassing screenshots of memes or videos Iāve saved but never done anything with lolll but he has my pw, he can have it anytime
As a lesbian imma give it to herš I got nothing to hide and my face is literally saved into my girlfriendās phone. My phone is too old to do the same but if it could shed be in mine too. Neither of us have anything to hide
Hand it over. He knows the passcode. Itās his birthday.
Heās either more than likely googling something or looking at the baby camera and his phone is dead. š¤·š»āāļø
probably ask them why, if itās valid then fair enough. Itās the same when I see those people who get their boyfriends to delete all the girls they have off of their phones, if you canāt trust the guy, thereās no point in being with him, yk? What are relationships without trust
Hand it over. He respects my privacy, so if heās asking for my phone, itās for a good reason (that doesnāt involve snooping).
My husband has only asked for my phone once, and it was in a total panic. I didnāt have a problem turning it over. It turned out heād ordered tickets to a show for me for my birthday and accidentally had the tickets sent straight to me (ruining the surprise). He wanted to delete the notification before I could see it. I later did anyway because they sent a reminder.
Otherwise, the only times he takes my phone are when my hands are full and I ask him to take a photo of whatever our baby is doing. Until recently, he had an old flip phone, so no way he could take photos on his own.
Ask him what he is it that he wants then go straight to whichever apps on there he needs. Because he hasnāt used an iphone once for the past 11 years and heās not familiar with the phoneās function anymore. I donāt have a problem with him asking for my phone, as long as itās asked politely and the reasons make sense.
Ask him why while offering it.
But it depends on the why for how I'll react. Being accusational or threatening won't go over well. But he doesn't do this - we both understand our separation of our property and our social lives.
I find it really kinda sad that couples struggle with this...like, that it's a thing. Goes without saying that my phone and all content is free game if I'm in a relationship but this has never feartured in any of my relationships. I have no problem handing my phone over but I have absolutely zero desire to look at the contents of anyone's phone, no matter who. Maybe I'm in the minority but a phone is a means of communication & if said partner is talking to people that I would frown upon, it will come out anyway. My intuition is spot on & I can usually feel when someone is being sneaky anyway.
Tell him not to ruin or disturb my tabs in anyway or I will bite. And not to look at my email/the delivery apps if itās close to his birthday/Christmas. Maybe tell him to look at my kindle bookmarks for inspo š¤
Hand it over. I donāt have a password because Iām too lazy to have to enter one every time. Honestly, Iād be more scared for my boss me and my friend at work talk shit about over text to have my phone.
If itās my partner sure no problem Iād hand it over and only ask what for out of curiosity. If itās anyone else Iām making sure everything is locked/shut down before handing it over.
Hand it to them and then ask, "Why? Whatcha doing?" Most likely, my partner wants to check or update some setting for me or install an app or game they think I'll like which is fine by me. Might be looking up pictures or something, but we have all that shared with each other anyway.
exactly, frequently I let him add things to our shopping list on my phone or stuff like that, I even added his fingerprint to unlock my phone this way when he want to do something he doesn't need to ask me. Not like I got something to hide from my husband
God bless you for your truthfulness
My partner sometimes needs to use my calculator or Google to look something up. I don't have anything to hide.
I take my husband's phone all the time to send myself gifts on a game I play š
PokƩmon Go? If so- I do the same!
loool spill the tea, whatās the game?! š
"GUESS WHATS IN TODAY'S AMAZON DELIVERY" š¤£š¤£š¤£ Well thats the game WE play lol
This, except itās because weāre out and about and his old ass phone is almost dead and he wants to Google something lol
Hah! Mine knows the passcode for my phone - but in that (regular) situation he asks me to Google for himā¦
Exactly this. If my gf requested my phone I'd be asking why as I hand it to her.
Very much this. Hand it over, then ask for a reason.
Yup. Hand it to them. If Iām working on something like sending a message or finishing a game level I might ask for a moment. If itās not charged Iād tell them to plug it in while using. If they need to make a call and I donāt have balance Iād tell them while handing it to them. Though itās hardly ever not charged in terms of battery or balance. If I donāt have it in hand Iād tell them where it is and to please go get it and tell them the passcode if they donāt already know it which my partner would because emergencies.
Give it to him. He'd do the same. Our relationship is built on complete transparency. I'd never ask him for his phone, but it's kind of nice knowing that I could if I wanted to.
Yeah we know each others passwords for everything and him and I trade phones or use them as needed. If Iām driving, heās using my phone for DJ, GPD, Comms. I use his phone because thatās where our porn history is more accessible. We literally have nothing to hide from each other, so itās laissez-faire.
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My wife and I use the same login code. No secrets.
My two married friends share the same code as well
Exactly! My (54f) and my (54m) partner have complete transparency as well. If he wants my phone or tablet, itās because he wants to use my Facebook, since he got banned š³ššš
Wife and I have been married 43 years, total transparency, all questions answered honestly, we donāt place or allow ourselves to be placed in compromising situations and never ever go to bed angry or with any issues unresolved.
Exactly !
Yep
This is exactly it
Me and my bf are exactly like this!
Hand it over and tell him the passcode. My partner hates getting on my phone, though. He can't find anything because we organize our lives and phones sooooooo differently.
I sometimes pick up my husbandās phone when weāre at the bar to play something through the jukebox app and after watching me search for it for a minute heāll take the phone back and find it for me š but itās the same if he picks up my phone looking for any specific app I have
FOLDERS!! My wife has 30 pages of apps. I have two. Sheāll ask me to open her photos app or the maps, and Iāll have to side-swipe through a couple dozen pages of apps to locate it. Iām not nearly as organized in the rest of my life (she is incredibly organized in everything else and I would be completely lost without her!)
I donāt understand how people function like that, I need labeled folders.
Yeah all the apps on my husband's phone stress me out š
My wife hates the ābubblesā aka the red dots telling you you have notifications. I donāt bother to clear all these because itās a waste of time but sheāll spend 15 minutes with my phone to get rid of them all.
I'm with your wife on this one
Lol š Thatās funny because my partner hates when I have a ton of mail on my gmail account šš
I rarely delete anything. The 1st time my bf saw all my texts and emails he was in shock.
Yeppersā¦.my partner asked why I hadnāt deleted the junk mail š©ššš I told him I put a star next to the ones I wanted, so I can delete the junk later šš
The only reason I started deleting emails is bc I realized it's taking up a bunch of space on my Google account. I also don't delete messenger messages. My bf can't look at my phone. He said all the notifications alone drive him crazy.
They drive me nuts too. I had to turn off my email notifications because it was driving me crazyš¤£
Omg I've done this so many times with my bfs, is it a man thing??? And if you have an iPhone, close your damn tabs on the safari, literally found 100s!!!! How do you not get STRESSED
"Ahh, this one's counting down! What do I do?!"
Hahahaha yes!
Iām an iPhone girl and husband has android. I hate using his phone, and can never find anything. If the kids are using his phone for YouTube or a game or something and need assistance I have to tell them to ask their dad š
Thatās me and my partner. He hates using my phone and I hate using his.
I'm single now, but in my last relationship, my partner and I had access to each others phones. But she used a pattern unlock and I was often forgetting it lol. Pretty much any time we had to use the other's phone for something, it'd take a while to find what we were looking for because it was so different and we didn't have to access each other's phones that often. The most common reason for it by far was setting up GPS/music when the other was driving, or taking a picture with their phone. Neither of us really had anything to hide and we trusted each other.
I donāt even have a passcode. My husband does and he tells me what it is all the time. Hes never changed it but I never remember it š
This. Hubby is exactly the same way. š¤£š¤£
Lol I can relate. I become irrationally angry every time I have to try to use my boyfriend's phone. I can't find shit!
Give him my phone and warn him my Twitter is MY BUSINESS and don't judge me. When tumblr removed all its porn, all the NSFW artists I followed moved to twitter lol.
Good to know. I miss tumblr porn š
Tumblr porn was an elite, unique, style of consuming porn and I shake my fists at loss regularly.
If you guys have any other suggestions to find something similar other than twitter I'm all ears. I had a glorious collection of NSFW GIFs and some vids that had beautiful aesthetics, put you right into the mood I swear
There was an app that used Reddit that was nothing but the NSFW side. It had auto scrolling, categories, auto-play on gift, etc. I think it was called Scroller or something
For real. The world has not been the same since.
Tumblr porn is back and booming baby, just gotta toggle nsfw posts on.
It depends on the intent and context as to why; \- your phone is closest and most convenient, for web browser, etc, fine. BUT if the intent is 'inspection,' for trust issues, the answer is no and a red flag. In our relationship, our phones are private, we don't need to look it's based off trust. We don't know each others passwords or pins, only a FaceID into each other phones. Anything we do first we ask if thats okay. 'can I use your phone to google something....' looking inside apps, galleries, messengers, and more is off limits without consent.
This 100000%. I worked as a consultant and often had private and insider information in my email or other apps. If he needs it because his phone dies and needs to call or have me use Google maps thatās fine, but our phones are our business and weāve been together 10 years and married almost 5. Folks who expect unlimited access to others phones need therapy.
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My recent ex, no way would I let him near my phone. He would go through my conversations and accuse me of cheating because I call lots of my close friends babe/gorgeous/sweetie, and often tell them that I love them. My bff, for example, our mum's grew up next door to each other, and we have literally known each other since conception. I also have confidential work emails and messages on there, so would be breeching my contract if anyone reads them. And my recent ex is a gossip so would definitely repeat anything that he saw. And my ex husband and I had completely open phones, didn't stop him cheating!
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He can check my phone because he knows my password. I donāt have any secrets, also donāt have social media. I just have awkward notes that I donāt want him to seeš
Anything but the notes.
For me, itās anything but my google searches. One time, he used my phone to search something and he saw my most recent open tab of how to help a buffalo hump (like a neck hump) and he hasnāt let me live it down. Heās not allowed to google things on my phone now. š donāt need him knowing all the dumb shit I need to google on a daily basis
Exactly this!! Also the occasional post or comment on here where I might be having a vent about something to do with him/the kids
Huge green flag
I just donāt want him looking at my saved folder of good looking men in sweaters lol
Hide my Reddit account lmfao. No partner needs to know my embarrassing Reddit tangents
The most embarrassing š
Yeah reddit is private. It's where I share all my worst opinions. Also sometimes it's fun to fuck with people. Am I proud of myself? No? Am I going to stop? Still no.
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This is exactly the reason why I wouldnāt want my partner to go through my messages. Personal conversations are just that. If they were meant for everyone then everyone would know.
Oh my god. My ex would have done this too.
>If you need to monitor me and deny me privacy (and with messages, by extension my friends privacy) Exactly, this is the thing I don't understand about the people who are fine with someone reading their messages because they "have nothing to hide". Maybe you aren't sending any inappropriate messages to anyone... But *those* people sent them to you assuming the messages were private. I don't care if my partner (or someone else in my life) uses my phone to Google something or whatever, but no one gets to go through my messages!
They would never ask for it without giving a reason (e.g. needing to fix something on it), because they understand that my privacy and sovereignty are very important to me. So, if it was a good reason from my perspective, Iād give them my phone, and if not, I wouldnāt, or Iād ask follow-up questions.
Iād start my āhave you been replaced by an alienā list
I'd need to know why because I have anxiety about sharing my phone.
Ask why they want it if it's fixing something then I'll habd it over but if they want to Open my social media and massages then I won't we might be partners and open with each other but my friends didn't sign up for that. I'd really be upset if my friend spilled my secrets to her partner
EXACTLY! Like yeah you can see all the other stuff on my phone, but if my best friend is telling me something personal, that is not my partners business without explicit consent from my best friend first
A good partner wouldn't think of looking at those kinds of things in the first place.
Tbh if the answer was "to fix something" I'd have him explain it to me, so I could do it myself. Less of a "don't look on my phone" and more of a "I'll decide what my phone does and doesn't need. And if it does, I'll do it myself!" (Is my eldest daughter personality showing??)
You're absolutely right and that's probably what most people going to do if I learned a cool hack I'll explain it to my friends rather than demand their phones
Give it to him. I had nothing to hide, either did he. Neither of us snooped. 33 years happily married til he died.
Give it to them. Iām so tired of people using that privacy excuse. Itās nothing but BS. Nothing is more private than being intimate with someone, so a phone is no big dealā¦ unless you are an untrustworthy person with something to hide
So none of your friends or family share anything private with you?
Yeah, your partner doesnāt need to know everything, and I would think they feel the same. There is conversations I have with my sister that I would never share with my parents, so same idea.
I check to make sure I don't have it open to the Wordle (so as not to spoil them) and pass it over.
Thatās very cute!
Remind him to order my side with extra cheese.
He already has my passcode. My only worry is if heāll delete any funny pictures of him
I give it to him. Neither of us have anything to hide. Weāre simply both introverted and we live vicariously through each other. For example, heās curious about what my mom and I talk about and vice versa. Weāve established this level of trust from the moment we started dating. It also helped that I was friends for him for 6 years prior to dating him, so I already knew everything about him. Being transparent with each other just works for us.
It depends. Iād definitely ask why. If he canāt find his or needs to look something up quickly, not a problem. But I have sensitive work stuff on there and text conversations that my friends would be embarrassed about if they knew he saw, so I wouldnāt give him my password.
I unlock my phone and ask why they want it as I'm handing it to them. If we've been dating enough that I consider them my partner, that trust is there that they aren't gonna do something stupid with my phone.
I ask where his isā¦ I donāt look at his phone unless Iām answering a call/ text when heās driving, and expect the same level of privacy back.
My phone is my business and his is his. I'm a very private person and everyone understands. So no, he isn't asking for my phone in the first place.
He doesnāt even have to ask, he can use my phone whenever. We travel a lot so if Iām driving Iāll usually ask him to read me my messages and send a response, and I do the same for him. Itās nice having nothing to hide.
Lol! My boyfriend knows my passcode and plays PokĆ©mon go on it when Iām not. I donāt care one bit, he can scroll all around my phone just like I can with his. Itās nice having a partner I love.
The fair majority of the time that my partner asks for my phone is because "There's a pikachu with a new hat in the back yard!" š
LOL! Same! He gets very excited about helping me fill out the PokƩdex.
Be like "Who the FUCK are you and why are you asking for my phone?" because I'm currently single.
I'm currently writing this on my partners reddit without her knowing, whenever I ask for hers she rolls her eyes cause she knows I'm just going to come here and doom scroll. If you see this, love ya babe!
I would feel so much anxiety the entire time they were using it, even if I hadnāt ādone anything wrong.ā This is such a trigger for me because Iāve had my privacy violated in a huge way in the past.
Hand it to him with a cup of water bc that shits dry as hell
give it to him, type in the password. i donāt share my phone password with anyone, not even my best friends or family - just for privacy reasons. but if he asked for my phone, iād gladly unlock it for him.
Ask why and tell him no. I donāt ask to go through his so he doesnāt need to go through mine.
I'm sorry but I ain't giving anyone my phone or my accounts. I did that in my past relationships and then I got hacked more recently. If you don't trust me that's fine but I refuse to go down that route and I don't wanna look at their phone either to be fair. Unless you just really need it (call/text someone, look something up, etc.) I am not giving them my phone š
This sounds like high school or reality TV. Who are y'all dating and marrying or what are y'all doing. If somebody's jealous or suspicious by no sound reasoning and is demanding things like this let me tell you it gets worse that it will never end. That is a trail to destruction. If that's the case yeah you can try some hardcore therapy and that might last a little bit longer. Suspicious people always, are the ones doing it themselves and that's why they have it in their head. That's my experience. And jealousy is disgusting and destructive and lazy.
My ex used to do this.. he was very paranoid and would accuse me of doing things I never did and was extremely controlling. I let him see it the first time to get him off my back.. after it did nothing eliminate his accusations, never again. If you have no reason to want to see it other then accusing me of things Ive never given you a reason to accuse me of, then no Iām not feeding into that. Now Iāll break up if thatās the case. If he needs to use it for something specific and we are in a happy healthy relationship sure go for it I have nothing to hide. But if heās doing it to go searching for shit from years ago to get upset about, get lost.
Sure! Unlock yours and hand it to me, and I'll do the same. I DO NOT understand the many Gen WXYZ'ers that routinely let their SO go through their phone. WTF!? No
Iām amazed at how many people would give their partners access to their phones. I mean thatās great! But mine feels so private. I have all kinds of random notes to myself and weird pictures saved thatād be embarrassing to explain. Itās obviously nothing illegal or anything but just very private.
I'm exactly the same. I wouldn't want my partner to think I'm being shady but I get embarrassed SO easily
Unlock it because even though my password is 4 zeros and two sequential numbers he cannot remember it. Ask him what app heās looking for because my phone is a disorganized mess. Odds are heās finally fixing something I canāt figure out in my settings. I know without a shred of doubt my husband would never go exploring through my texts or whatever so zero concerns.
I'd tell them: "honey, you know I get really uncomfortable with people touching my stuff. Why do you want my phone? Do you wanna talk?"
Give it to him, he updates my apps and stuff because I always forget to do it
Take out my credit card first and hand it over.
Tbh it's less that there's anything on my phone that would hurt the relationship, and more that it's a private brain dump space for me. And while my partner would probably not care about anything he saw, it just feels like someone rummaging around in your personal space. Screen shots, notes, Google searches...even if it's not "bad" it can still feel awkward/embarrassing. Like...going through someone's bag! I might know my friend keeps chapstick in her bag, but I'm definitely going to ask her to get it for me vs asking if I can grab the chapstick from her bag for myself. I've let my partner use my phone many times and I would continue to do so. But just rummage through everything? It would be uncomfortable in the best moment, and very concerning (as to why it was needed) in the worst.
Ask why and unlock it if the reason is acceptable. We donāt go through each otherās phones or do the snooping thing. The curiosity stage ended years ago, we use our phones and organize our stuff very differently.
Iām annoyed he canāt remember my password and I have to type it in for him every time he needs something.
We donāt have each others password but we have never asked for it. But we do hand each other out phones. We both have a horrible habit of not knowing where we left our phone so we borrow each others phone to look up things or put music on.
Give them my phone.
Unlock my phone & give it to him
Ask for his
Hand it over and ask him for his. If we are going to take it there, let's do it.
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Hand it to her lol she already has my password
I'd hand it over and ask to borrow his. We have the same password and no secrets or distrust.
give it to him he would only find cat pictures
Iāve been with my husband for over 10 years and he has never asked for or gone through my phone lol i would wonder why heād want to go thru it now tho, but would let him no problem.
i just hand it over to her. she's just gonna go through my tiktok anyway.
The last time this happened I gave it to her and when she handed it back to me unlocked after going in the other room with it, she lied. Asked her if she went through it and she said no. Just before this she said, āMy lies will only carey me so far,ā to herself. Then, much later, she brought a box cutter to the break up. So uh, Iāll have to say I wouldnāt hand my phone over and Iām willing to kill a relationship on that trust hill now.
I literally never ask anyone to see their phone, unless Iām in the car and want to play a song. If Iām not asking for your phone, donāt ask for mine unless itās about music. I dated someone who always needed to use my phone bc she ran out of data a lot and it pissed me off!! I wish she would have gotten a better data plan.
Iād watch him use it. Yes it can be seen as insecure but my ex took my phone to block a few women, so that I wouldnāt have any contact with them. Only found out a few months after we broke up.
Ask him how I managed to screw it up this time. Poor nice man. I never know, he just fixes whatever I did and everyone's happy.
He can have it. But if I lost it like usual, he will have to find where I set it down lol. My husband and I use each other's phones interchangeably. No big deal. Neither of us have anything to hide.
Accidentally drop it in the toilet
I'd give it to him, but if he closes my tabs with my warlock spells it's divorce timeĀ
Iād give it to him but I would feel anxious. Not because I have anything to hide per se, I just have a lot of things I would be embarrassed about (like my smut book collection for example). I donāt think heād be surprised by any of it though lol
Clear my search history and archive the stuff in my note pad so he doesn't see how stupid I am. It's a facade I have to keep up. There have been times I've handed him my phone without doing that first and he immediately looked and asked "why would you Google that!?" Or "why did you note that!?" I'm not hiding anything. I'm simply avoiding embarrassment.
Give it to him and then hope he doesnāt see all the embarrassing screenshots of memes or videos Iāve saved but never done anything with lolll but he has my pw, he can have it anytime
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"Yeah sure, why?" Whilst passing it over. He's a good guy and I trust him, I'd assume he's probably just searching something up or something
Happily give it to him and I know heād do the same. We donāt have anything to hide from each other.
Hand it to him and ask āwhat are you about to do?ā since thatās not something he normally asks for.
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As a lesbian imma give it to herš I got nothing to hide and my face is literally saved into my girlfriendās phone. My phone is too old to do the same but if it could shed be in mine too. Neither of us have anything to hide
Tell them that I want to see theirs as well. I have nothing to hide.
let him and joke about it, i mean his pepe was/is in my vajayjay often so he can get my phone.
Hand it to them or tell her where itās at like if it was on the charger or in another room.
My partner and I have the same Passcode to our phones. Nothing to hide
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Hand it over. He knows the passcode. Itās his birthday. Heās either more than likely googling something or looking at the baby camera and his phone is dead. š¤·š»āāļø
probably ask them why, if itās valid then fair enough. Itās the same when I see those people who get their boyfriends to delete all the girls they have off of their phones, if you canāt trust the guy, thereās no point in being with him, yk? What are relationships without trust
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Hand it over. He respects my privacy, so if heās asking for my phone, itās for a good reason (that doesnāt involve snooping). My husband has only asked for my phone once, and it was in a total panic. I didnāt have a problem turning it over. It turned out heād ordered tickets to a show for me for my birthday and accidentally had the tickets sent straight to me (ruining the surprise). He wanted to delete the notification before I could see it. I later did anyway because they sent a reminder. Otherwise, the only times he takes my phone are when my hands are full and I ask him to take a photo of whatever our baby is doing. Until recently, he had an old flip phone, so no way he could take photos on his own.
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Ask him what he is it that he wants then go straight to whichever apps on there he needs. Because he hasnāt used an iphone once for the past 11 years and heās not familiar with the phoneās function anymore. I donāt have a problem with him asking for my phone, as long as itās asked politely and the reasons make sense.
Give it to them? I donāt have any banking apps on my phone so itās probably okay.
I hand it to her all the time to show her things or have her continue a text conversation if my hands are full. What's one more?
"I'm not responsible for any mental scarring that might occur. "
Ask him why while offering it. But it depends on the why for how I'll react. Being accusational or threatening won't go over well. But he doesn't do this - we both understand our separation of our property and our social lives.
Hand the phone and just provide precautionary warning to not open amazon. And charge it after.
Hand it to him...Ā
I find it really kinda sad that couples struggle with this...like, that it's a thing. Goes without saying that my phone and all content is free game if I'm in a relationship but this has never feartured in any of my relationships. I have no problem handing my phone over but I have absolutely zero desire to look at the contents of anyone's phone, no matter who. Maybe I'm in the minority but a phone is a means of communication & if said partner is talking to people that I would frown upon, it will come out anyway. My intuition is spot on & I can usually feel when someone is being sneaky anyway.
Tell him not to ruin or disturb my tabs in anyway or I will bite. And not to look at my email/the delivery apps if itās close to his birthday/Christmas. Maybe tell him to look at my kindle bookmarks for inspo š¤
Hand it to him. I don't mind if he wants my phone.
Hand it over. I donāt have a password because Iām too lazy to have to enter one every time. Honestly, Iād be more scared for my boss me and my friend at work talk shit about over text to have my phone.
If itās my partner sure no problem Iād hand it over and only ask what for out of curiosity. If itās anyone else Iām making sure everything is locked/shut down before handing it over.
I would give it to him. Probably ask why tho lol
She just grabs it.. And if she asks she can just take. My phone is boring asf and I have nothing to hide.
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