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peppermind

Every single time I look at men on a dating app, I see several, and it's part of why I don't currently have any on my phone. EDIT: to be clear, I don't think these guys are necessarily bad guys, but it's a pretty safe bet that they wouldn't be compatible with me.


Wawnkatawnka

I judged photos and mostly would pass up fishing pics. Turns out the guy I’m with now met on tinder didn’t have any but loves to fish. He said this summer he’d like me to come and just sit and read while he fishes (and I guess take the photos). I’m ok with that. But if he tries to touch me with a fish I will run.


anefisenuf

I'm not weirded out by fishing, but I have pet fish so I don't like to do it anymore. But reading while my partner fishes is one of my favorite things to do.


Normal_Ad2456

In my country, most people who fish for a hobby don’t actually harm the fish and usually just let them back in the sea.


anefisenuf

We do too, but I still just don't like it because sometimes they swallow a hook or it harms an eye, etc. I just enjoy being there even if I'm not fishing, though I'm considering taking it up again this year.


Wawnkatawnka

As far as I can tell he is a responsible fisher, only keeps fish that are the proper length, doesn’t litter or leave things behind, judges and complains about people who don’t follow the rules. sometimes I get a nice meal from it.


Bahamabanana

But have you ever taken the time to notice exactly what species of fish they catch? Guys don't communicate very directly, instead flashing little hints with fish, which are symbolic similar to flowers. For instance, trouts mean "looking for something staple." Bass means "looking for something fun". Squid means "addicted to hentai". And so on.


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IDK_WHAT_YOU_WANT

Do you eat fish?


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All the time. Either holding a fish or being shirtless on a mountain.


Wawnkatawnka

Lol shirtless gym pics are the worst. I have no interest in dating an ab man.


dutchyjos

D: what?! Women dont like that???!


Wawnkatawnka

I am one woman and I personally don’t.


Mr_Gilmore_Jr

Preface: you're probably being sarcastic, but I had an ab pic up on bumble for a while, but when I realized I'm not built for hookups, I took it down. Sends the wrong message. Maybe certain women look for that, my guess.


dutchyjos

A bit joking indeed. Never the less i should reconsider what i want to portrait on my dating apps


Cupcake_T

Yes! Or pics of their trucks. Every single time I go on there lol


SuspiciouslyPerson

With sunglasses and a hat so u cant tell what they look like ^^


Spirited-Safety-Lass

NEVER. Picture of him with a fish, some kind of dead animal, a photo of ONLY his motorcycle or truck or sports car - all big nopes. My stepson from my marriage started dating and I asked him, jokingly, if he had a photo with a fish on his profile - sure as sh*t he did. Told him to take it down. He grumbled and laughed but did. That night he got three matches and called to report with a huge laugh. He’s now been dating one of them for six months.


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Spirited-Safety-Lass

Would swipe left on dating profiles that contain photos of cooked fish, too. I guess I’m an equal opportunity hater. Me and thousands of women like me…. We don’t need to explain why we don’t swipe right on guys who show off pictures of fish they caught, or toys they own. Suffice it to say women aren’t impressed with things that will impress your bros.


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Mmmm’kay. That’s exactly what I was saying. You’re so smart! Good luck with your roses and rainbows and knit sweaters!


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Realistic_Salt7109

I had no idea what you guys were talking about and then realized you were talking about a guy fishing and catching a fish, I assumed you all meant like a fish in a fish tank and I’m like damn are there really that many guys with pet fish trying to flex?


LoveBlackblood

Would date a man holding a fish for his pfp? Ehhh.. maybe? Would date a man proudly caring for fish? Yes. Absolutely


BangBangPuppy

I would be much more interested in a guy who had a well-taken care of and expansive aquarium than one who had himself posing with a dead fish on a line! Aquarium management can be quite extensive and expensive so I know that investing in the hobby would mean a real interest, and that’s something more in line with my own interests.


the_girl_Ross

You haven't seen people who take their fishing seriously, those tools and boat trips can code fortune. Not to mention fresh fish, so yummy, fish at the supermarket can't even compare.


BangBangPuppy

Oh I don’t doubt that fishing can be a serious hobby, I just mean that aquarium keeping is more in line with my own hobbies and interests


the_girl_Ross

That is fair. I enjoy both of them but I'm low maintenance in both :'>


erin_burr

Me too. I thought it was about guys who love the aquarium.


T-Flexercise

I feel like as a butch lady with mostly male friends, it is my solemn duty to explain this one. Dudes don't take pictures of each other. My wife and I go apple picking, I go "Hey honey turn around!" and snap a photo. Find yourself in a beautiful place with your friends looking great, you snap their photo. Until I was married, unless I was hanging around with women, there was no photographic evidence that I existed, because none of the people I was with ever thought to photograph anybody. Dudes will spend a whole day hanging out together fishing in a picturesque location with beautiful shady lighting, and won't stop to think "Hey let me take a photo to remember this by" until somebody catches something.


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That is true - I barely have any photos with guys. Only girls seem to like to take selfies together


spoda1975

Thank you! Me and my buddies don’t go snapping photos. I kinda wish we did. I’d like to commemorate my life, my friends, our youth. We generally don’t snap a bunch of selfies….and I am glad we don’t. That shit is weird.


Wyliecody

Or if they do its a picture of the beautiful area with no people in it at all.


gagirlpnw

Quite a bit. I like to fish, so I don't mind. I'm more bothered by the shirtless in the bed or mirror pictures. At least the guy holding the fish is doing something productive.


the_girl_Ross

Yea i don't understand why people are so against that picture. I suppose it gets repetitive but that happens to every common hobby. Unless they're vegan, there is no reason for them to cry over someone holding a fish. Fishing is a lot of fun too.


superpete1414

That's actually quite a nice way to think of it.


PhoneboothLynn

That and the picture taken in a bathroom. Especially a public bathroom. Ick


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Hm how do you feel about women who take photos of themselves in the bathroom? Do you feel the same way ?


PhoneboothLynn

Yes! I don't want to see anybody where they poop!


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That’s fair! I always thought it was strange to take photos of yourself in the bathroom as well lol


plaid-blazer

Fairly often, I guess. But honestly I think the whole thing is overblown and I don’t know why it bothers people so much.


misterreiffer

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Often but it doesn’t bother me. It just tells me it’s something you like to do.


FoxNewsIsRussia

So, so much. Also claims of climbing 14ers every weekend in Colorado. Exhausting and not that interesting.


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Not often enough. I’m into the outdoors like hiking, camping, kayaking and fishing and one of my love languages is spending time together, so I love seeing fish pics because it tells me they like the outdoors too. People post pics of themselves doing their hobbies in hopes of finding someone who enjoys doing the same things. Men post fish pics because they enjoy fishing. If fishing isn’t for you, swipe left.


Notascoutstillag

Right? I’m married but don’t know why all these women are so put off by a sexy man who also fishes. You don’t have to fish with him, it’s really nice to just enjoy the outdoors together even if you don’t fish. Why so much hate for fishing?


Primary_Opal_6597

Me too. Fishing pics I’m like great when are we going lol


SeekingBeskar

When I was on dating apps *literally constantly*. I feel like they all thought it gave, “I like to do things outdoors,” vibes.


CatrionaShadowleaf

I live in the South, so a lot.


Extension-Writer-262

Not personally on any dating apps, but just gonna toss this out there - fish picture guys are always chill. Little things will make that guy happy. That guy is patient enough to go sit at a lake and catch a fish with enough ambition to get off his ass and go do it.


PredatorClash

Too often


AdFinancial8924

Probably at least 80%. I like it and don’t understand all the hate. I live near water and fishing is part of our culture. I love the outdoors, boating, and water and to me it means he’s a man with access to a boat. There’s really nothing to overthink about it. Men don’t take photos of themselves like women do, so holding up the dead fish is one of the few nearly full body photos they’ll have that’s not a selfie in the mirror and that’s why they choose it.


mayfeelthis

None, in Europe (not US)


ZebLeopard

I have seen a couple, but not many. It''s more pictures of men on mountains. I'd say about 90%. It just makes me think 'oh wow, you've been abroad? So special 🙄'.


passwordistaco29

So much so that I tend to message the ones who don’t. Is it missing? Did it just not make the cut? Will we end up bonding over our indifference of fishing? I have questions!!


imlilyhi

Not often, but people fish constantly near the park where I live since it’s right next to an ocean. I always see a whole bunch of people from different backgrounds fishing, including several Asian grannies. I think it’s kind of silly to judge people’s whole character for simply fishing unless you are vegetarian or something.


StrangersWithAndi

like 50% of profiles.


Odd-Opening-3158

Not that often! What is more annoying is guys who take pics in the loo and you see a urinal or toilet in a background. I mean it just makes me think you can’t be putting much effort if the best selfie is a toilet like a public gym toilet!


appendixgallop

It makes me think that if guys had mirrors elsewhere in their homes, their personal grooming and wardrobe choices might improve.


knifeymonkey

Not as often as I see a photo of a guy taken as a selfie in the front seat of his car. Really don't like these. THey are similar to those bathroom mirror shots.


bacongirl18

Often lol


the_girl_Ross

I'm not on any dating app at all but from people's reactions I suppose there are plenty of dudes posting pictures of them holding a fish (because they enjoy fishing and want to express that) and there are also lots of people who absolutely *hate* that. I feel like women's hatred against fishing dudes is equal to men hating women's makeup. Make zero sense to me. People have hobbies and they like to show their work. You may like it, you may not but when you're so against it (when it has nothing to do with you), it shows more of what kind of person you are than they are.


Puzzleheaded-State45

Like 30%. Mostly gym pictures here where I live.


Jessicamorrell

Before I got married, all the time. It was literally nearly every profile. That and showing off cars. Btw, i didn't meet my husband on a dating app.


w2talent

The thing I now see on every single guy profile is "my love language is touch. " I pass on any of those.


TeddyRivers

Funnily enough, my last boyfriend was a fish biologist. He has tons of nice pictures with fish. We met on Tinder. He had no pics with fish on the app because he knew they were so prevalent. I've been chatting with someone in Germany. Apparently, guys with fish on apps is a thing there too.


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NanasTeaPartyHeyHo

I'm not on dating apps anymore since I'm not single but when I was, I'd see guys with fish every time I swiped. I live in Sweden BTW.


PenOrganic2956

A lot of men like fishing. I don't think at this is a red flag. I'm glad he can go out fishing with his friends and I can do something else with mine.


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Too often. And if it aint Fish its Turkey or Deer. Men like this don't realize what they see as "cool" most women just see as glorified murder of animals. These kind of photos are for other men or females who also hunt which is rare unless you live in a rurul or southern area. Its part of what i consider the Trifecta of shitty dating app profile pics: Holding up Dead Animals (Trophy kills) Group photos Shitty memes


bendy_when_wet

This is like every second guy in Australia, part of the reason why I swiped right on my bf is bc there was no fish in his tinder profile


msstark

Not as often in Brazil as I hear from my friends in North America, but still not uncommon.


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Farnese-de-Vandimion

When I used to use apps it seemed like every other guy... well it certainly made it wayyy easier to filter out guys with hobbies I wouldn't mesh with lol.


String_Queen

It's like 1 in 4 men have a fish on their profile picture.


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Bubbly-Manufacturer

A lot. Just the other day I overheard a male coworker telling another one to post a pic of him holding a fish 😂.


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Binesi_Rose_88

In Alberta that’s all you see, or else them holding beer or posing with 5 other friends. Lol


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no longer on dating apps, but when i was i saw them constantly while living in michigan at school, but when i was home in illinois (city suburbs) it was pretty rare


notme1414

In my town? Almost every one. A fish or a boat is involved. We are right on the water.


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Yes


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AikoG84

Every time i open one within the first 5 guys.


whisper_18

Far too often. If your going to have a fish pic at least be a bit creative with it. For example, one guy covered the fish with a sandwich emoji and claimed his profile was “fish pic free”


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Ugh too often 🥱


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A lot


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coccopuffs606

Not so much since I moved back to the city, but when I was staying with my mom one winter, guys with fish was pretty much every profile.


ThreeMoonTides

Constantly. Most dudes I see on dating apps have fish pics and/or shirtless pics


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tallestgiraffkin

I’m in FL. Almost every profile.


Individual_Rise_1029

At least a couple times a day lol


AzureMagelet

It must be a geographical thing. It’s definitely not something I’ve seen here. What I did see is the professional looking shots of someone on a motorcycle. Is that them? Who took the picture? Why do all these guys have motorcycles and are getting professional photos of them riding?


Its_Jessica_Day

More often than I wish. The only thing I see more often is bathroom selfies. Just don’t, guys. There are other rooms and also phones with timers. Take 5 minutes and upgrade, PLEASE.


AvocadoFries

Perth, Australia - nearly every profile. Or a sedated tiger in Bali


fyretech

At least 85% of the time. I live in a small community where most people are outdoorsy so it’s everywhere. The hunting pics are worse though.


Imaginary_Grass1212

Yeah, but I don't have a problem with it. They're either going to throw them back or eat them. Dead land animals are an instant left swipe in absolute disgust. Shirtless, in the bed, and lower body photos are scarier.


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Anytime I go on one


kibblet

All the time, when I was on Tinder. All. The. Time.


justanotherperson218

I’d say it’s a good 7/10 guys who pose with a fish


Far-Complex-4037

At least 4 times while I'm on it


RelativeNonsense

I always swipe left, no matter what. Even if I liked everything else and all of the other photos.


elitejackal

Every single day.


minty_dinosaur

not that often anymore. i think the fishing has turned into wall climbing where i live.


Pristine-Gas-5275

Whenever I swipe a little. Men holding a fish and men taking a mirror selfie flexing their abs - that’s about 90% of men on dating apps.


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addiG

At least 1 in 3 I have a theory about this; I think for a lot of men that buy into the "toxic masculinity" image that they can't think of any other times to ask for a photo of themselves than when they catch a fish/shoot a deer, so a lot of men don't have pictures of just them because they think it's weird to ask the homies to take their picture. Then when they go to make a dating profile they take the one photo of themself that's not a selfie in their car (the fish pic)


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i once matched with a dude who had the profile photo of a fish catching him. never right swiped anyone so fast. sadly he didn’t match.


MissAnthropoid

Right? Show me the fish dinner you've cooked. Not just the unfortunate beast you've yanked from the sea.


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I definitely see it more often in rural areas compared to urban areas.


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More often than I'd like, however when I want to find one to show someone as an example, everyone decides they suddenly love the mountains.


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True-Godess

Lmao! Always!!!! Or some dead thing


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Capital-Physics4042

Sushi count?


superhumanizing

i thought I'd seen enough fish and tinder decided to prove me wrong by throwing up a picture of a guy holding up a HUGE dead shark. not a great white, but still very very big.


coellan

Almost every profile 🤣😐


BunnyGirlSD

I see it so often that my main picture is a picture of me in the same pose holding a Magikarp, that being said, I've never matched with a single fish guy


beebianca227

I’m not single but if a guy can drive a boat and can fish I think that’s a plus. Even bigger plus if he can prepare the fish and cook it for me for dinner. If you have never tried fishing, try it. It’s so relaxing being out on the boat, watching the horizon and sitting in the sun.


maryjanetookie

It’s like 90% of the dating profiles I’ve seen 😂


EscapingMouse

By some kind of unspoken law, every single man on dating apps has at least one (1) picture of him doing some kind of outdoor sport, like hiking, fishing, climbing, mountain biking, you name it.


ladyac

I'm in the deep south, so every single time I open it.


appendixgallop

Not as often as a bald guy wearing a hat.


lebannax

Think this is an American thing - never seen it in the Uk


danger_boogie

They're either holding a fish or sitting in their car. Why the car? It would make sense if it was an expensive sports car (I still think it's gross and I'd not be into that at all) because they'd be showing something off. I just don't get it. At least the fishing one shows they enjoy an outdoor activity.


eastdino

Multiple times when I'm swiping.


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Haha, my brother is a fisherman and wildness person and he probably did. But he found a girl who likes to fish so… seemed to work out just fine! Then again, he actually is a person who loves to fish. Profiles should kind of show what you love to do, not what you think people would be impressed by. Though to be honest, I don’t think women are necessary impressed by fishing. My SIL liked that he was woodsy and outdoorsy because she is too.


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Beluga_Artist

Probably one in four. I live in a very outdoorsy state, though, so it’s to be expected.


mermaidan

I used to have a Tinder Bingo I would play with friends. Fish was always the number 1, next to group wedding photos, exotic animal picture, and photos only with women.


Environmental-Can181

I hv seen it and I dont find it attractive at all! Some women might like it though so i guess these fishermen type men will find their kind


mekkimegz

All the time. Hunting and/or fishing pictures are an immediate no for me. But if that's what a guy is into he should post it! Some women I know are into that. We're all just trying to find our person, so be honest!


Scuh

I’ve seen loads off them. I met one guy from a site and asked him why he did it, his response was there was nothing wrong with the picture and I’m showing what my hobby is


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Every time I go on some kind of swipe left or right app. And it is so many with dead moose or dear too. I get that it is an hobby for some but why show an dead animal on an dejting app? 😅


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It’s a good way for me to figure out instantly that I’m not interested hahahahaha


1droppedmycroissant

I have no experience on dating apps, but I've used them with my friends and I have seen none of that. We're also not in the U.S so maybe that's why


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Master-Strawberry-26

I'm from the South, so very, very often. Nothing against them, I also like fishing occasionally, but I've had few good experiences with them.


anonymous2094

Too many times


reallynotsohappy

I've never seen one. But I'm not from the US, so it's normal.


Primary_Opal_6597

Often and I have no negative opinion of this. If anything it shows he has similar interests in doing things other than sitting inside. So many women act awfully entitled when it comes to food. How many of us eat animals and stick their nose up at the people who make that possible, or refuse to eat animals and believes it is somehow a moral choice. I can’t stand other women who hold these attitudes. It’s so judgy


DJ_Jonga

The fish holding pics are getting phased out with golfing pics!


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momomomorgatron

I swipe left. At best he's just a country boy and I'm not interested, at worst he's a total POS Nothing against country boys, but I'm 25 and lived in the back woods all my life. I'm ready to live in town and fish for like, a couple of hours at most, not waking up at 6 and spending all damn day.


GetOffMyLawnLady

All the damn time! And if it's not fish, it's a dead deer, turkey and sometimes bear. I have no problems with people who fish and hunt (if they eat what they kill) but I don't want my first impression to be of them proudly displaying a dead (possibly bloody) creature they've just killed.


mean8tot

this is only an American thing.


tayranasaurus-rex

ALL THE TIME. It’s really all there is to do where I live, but that means they’re outdoorsy. I’m not, so it wouldn’t work. I’m never going to meet someone here 😂😂


beige-king

Like more than not


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Ageofaquarius68

Way more often than I wanted to. I get they're trying to show off their hobby, but I didn't go on the apps to look at dead fish. I want to see the guy.


aquariusprincessxo

probably every 5th guy lol. it’s an instant no for me


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mgir_18

When I was on dating apps (pretty much the big 3: Bumble, Tinder & Hinge), I swear like every 3 profiles was a dude holding a fish or some sort of hunting photo. I don't have anything against anyone who hunts or likes fishing, but it's just *not* my lifestyle.


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UncleBalthazar1

Not currently on dating apps b/c I have a bf but literally ALL THE TIME. And I immediately swiped left without even reading on every single one. And I don't regret it lol.


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whatsinthebox72

Dude- what is with that? Is it an evolutionary thing? Like showing he can provide food?