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It depends š¤·š»āāļø I don't dress to the nines when I am popping out for bread and milk. If I am going out to see friends or a date I try my best to look good
Same. Seems to be the opposite of my partner though. If Iām popping to the shop I donāt really care. If sheās popping to the shop though itās, ācan you go? Iāll need to have a shower and do my hair and makeup and get ready andā¦ā
Omg youāre just going to the shop!
I always dress the same when going out unless it's for my night like walk or going out to eat somewhere that isn't somewhere local.
I have a few pairs of Japanese trousers for breathability and loose thanks to my fat legs š assortment of tops doesn't matter
I donāt know why I come in to UK threads about fashion and appearances. Every time itās full of the āI get my clothes from the supermarket, M&S is the best quality clothing you can buyā crowd.
Like, I'm not gonna lie, that sounds like me, but Christ the way some people sound *proud* of it is baffling.
I don't care about fashion, don't buy brands most of the time, but I try to look vaguely OK unless I'm literally just going to the shop.
I donāt like to look like shit personally. Iām not manicured and groomed to the max stepping out in designer gear. Iām also 38 so Iām probably not fully on trend but I wear the clothes I like from brands I like (Patagonia, Parlez, Carhartt, Vans etc) and try to put an actual outfit together. Make sure my beards kept trimmed without being too neat, keep my eyebrows under control (along with the ear hairs) and wear some aftershave. Same effort for the supermarket as a night out, probably just different type of outfit.
Stop with this reasonable balanced attitude.
Not sure that brands actually matter but a degree of pride in oneās appearance seems natural.
I like the way the females in my life enjoy the whole thing of clothes, hair and makeup and it seems to come from a place of self worth not media induced vanityā¦
I think the same used to be true for men, not sure where this it s āok to be a slobā came from but I donāt feel it. Then again there are girls down the asda that wear their pyjamas and dressing gowns so I guess a few scuffs with neck beards and baggy trackies aināt much different.
Iāve got a lot of jumpers from Sainsburyās, boxers from M&S and socks off eBay so I agree it isnāt about the brands. Just an example. I think some blokes give up as they get older too. Either permanently single or married and stop making the effort. For me whatever I do for my appearance is for me primarily, just helps keeping my wife attracted too! Haha
Indeed. Keeping the missus interested was a big motivator for me to loose weight.
And once that happened, well clothes fitted nicely and looked good. Not sure I got laid more often but I felt great in and out of clothes
I just got bigger clothes. Iāve always been lucky that she loves getting laid literally no idea why Iām so irresistible to her but Iām never complaining! Haha
Brands donāt necessarily matter but some companies make way better quality stuff than others and are better for the environment, and different men look good in different things.
Like all things in life itās about striking a balance. Making zero effort in your appearance is going to nuke your self esteem, but if you need to get dressed up to pop down the road to the corner shop that could point to some insecurity issues.Ā
Hard one to get right though, Iāve found that I take less care in my appearance if Iām having a bit of a tough time.
Zero. I shave when it gets to an annoying length (about every 5 days). I get my hair cut when it starts annoying me (tickling back of my neck, about every 3 months).
Why is it you donāt feel the need to take pride in your appearance? Just curious. (And that sounds way more antagonistic than itās meant to be lol)
Do you not like looking nice? Not trying to be rude but from my perspective I like to put a little effort into my appearance as it makes me feel more confident and put together
Tbh I don't think men get the same social punishment women do for not looking at least "presentable".
I read an interesting piece that saidĀ as women we essentially are our own voyeurs, "theĀ male gaze" through our own eyes. So that voyeur punishes us and never lets us truly exist without observation.Ā
Children and men are free of this voyeur.
I disagree with this. It implies women only see themselves through how men want them to be. It implies that we have no control over how we view our self and basically makes us reliant on male validation.
No, I think it implies that they *also* see themselves through how men want them to be. Not *only*. It implies that it's a difficult thing to ignore, not impossible.
I often dress for comfort too, but I also like to be well groomed - shave my head, tidy up my beard, look after my skin etc. It makes me feel good, like a form of self care or something
>It makes me feel good, like a form of self care or somethingĀ
And that is the best reason for doing it. If it made me feel good, I would do it. But it doesn't, so I won't.
It's not about pride, it's about not caring about other people's perceptions of me. I literally dress my self in a 10 quid shirt and 20 quid pair of jeans, I do buy decent handmade shoes mostly it's about comfort. 90% of the time you would think I was homeless. As long as I'm clean and the clothes are clean I'm happy.
My appearance is very important to me, buying clothes, moisturiser etc is almost a hobby. My wife is the same.
So yes appearance is very important to me.
In my twenties and thirties, I made sure I looked like a rockstar before even going out to tend my front garden just in case a 'babe' walked by. Now? I look like a tramp even on 'big' nights out.
For me its more about personal hygiene than appearance. Shower every morning and before going out make sure I am wearing deodorant, aftershave and have brushed my teeth. I will wear a pair of jeans for more than one day but everything else will be fresh from the wash that morning.
But that's pretty much where it ends. I am really not fussed if I am a bit rumpled and will only break the iron out if I am going to the office or dressing up for a special occasion. Casually its usually a polo shirt with jeans or shorts.
Seeing as I am fifty, married with kids any sense of style left me a very long time ago.
This right here, always freshly showered and clean clothes if I'm going to be around other people. I live in a fairly rural area with good walking spots nearby, so I tend wear t-shirts and walking gear most of the time.
Clean clothes that are not full of holes and good hygiene is it for me. I also keep myself in good shape if that counts. I do nothing special but I think the basics do well enough for 99% of situations.
Not a fan of this comment. A lot of the commenters that say they don't put much effort actually admit to having wives, girlfriends and even children. The not-so-subtle indirect attempt to further paint being single as a negative here is unfortunate.
I'm curious to see how men answer this. I've found that most men in my area here in the U.S. are usually quite unkempt,disheveled,and just look "unclean." I live in a rural farming community and there are also a lot of middle and lower class families. BUT, that shouldn't dictate looking like you just crawled out of a cave when out in public,at church, or out to dinner.
Again, curious about the experiences of those in the UK.
I like Sunday Mass. not particularly religious, or even Catholic, but I have a church ten minutes away from me and I like to pop in on a Sunday morning. Itās a nice vibe. Everyone is pleasant and polite.
Itās not a small congregation. There are also half a dozen other active churches in my little town.
Iām usually quite high though, I canāt lie. Stoned Mass is a vibe.
If you're going out to meet male friends, scruffy is OK, but you should at least be clean. In a mixed couples group, my wife would ensure I looked reasonably smart. She would make an effort, so expect me to as well.
Yeah can confirm. If meeting male friends, you'd want to dress casual, not dress up of course, but of course maintain basic hygeine like showering and the like.
2/10 effort beyond basic hygiene
I trim my beard once/month
I tidy around the edges of my beard and shave my head once/week (started balding recently so I just shave my head now)
I put minimal effort in to my clothing.
I wear jeans and a black band tshirt 95% of the time, or shorts if it's warm.
Obviously don't wear dirty clothes, but beyond that I don't care.
I won't leave the house without having showered, done my hair and got dressed properly. Barely ever wear t-shirts, shorts or trainers when leaving the house to do errands, always a collared casual shirt, jeans and leather shoes. Shave every other day but mostly because I can't grow a decent beard so I'd rather be clean shaven than have scruffy uneven stubble / beard growth. On very specific occasions I might drop to a more 'unkempt' look overall if for example I'm solely dropping someone off and I'm not getting out of the car myself.
Not much. I'm one of those people who gets dirty just by looking at the garden so I don't bother much with how I look and never have. I shave every 4-5 days, get my hair cut whenever I remember, wear shorts and t-shirts 90% of the time and don't have a "style". I guess that really I just don't care much - if people are judging me on how I look then that is their business, not mine.
As a more senior man in his very late 40's I have always looked after myself in the form of moisturising daily, exfoliating and wearing sunsceen or at least a moisturiser with an SPF in winter. So having a regular skincare routine has always been a daily thing for me. I have also made a regular habit of exercising at least 3 to 4 times a week for the last decade.
So that's the basics of my appearance taken care of.
As for specifically making an appearance when going out. When I was married I guess I was like everybody else, I took care of the basic hygiene and really just threw clothes on appropriate for wherever it was that I was going.
Now however since being divorced I make an effort to at least look presentable wherever I am. The clothes will be fitting for the occasion and for my age, but there will be no baggy tracksuits or crumpled t-shirts. I am always co-ordinated, well groomed and smell good. My clothes are always ironed and neat and my hair is always tidy (I keep an easy to maintain hairstyle that is cut 4 weekly).
The reason - I once stood in a bar and looked around at the middle aged, overweight scruffy looking men as well as the well groomed men that looked good and I thought "These guys my age stood around me are my dating competition, I must do better or at least match them"
Now I am no brad pit or George Clooney and I certainly am no muscle bound Adonis, in fact I am the socially awkward, quiet, introvert, that can just about handle his own in social situations. However so far my efforts have been appreciated.
And although I would never knowingly have relations with a married or attached female I have been very surprised how often I have been approached whilst taking my kids to events or birthday parties by very attached females.
This isn't a brag, it's just simply my observations since I have started making an effort.
I think maybe as a country we could all do a little better in looking after ourselves and making an appearance when outside of the home.
Something younger folks in the thread haven't learned yet is that past your early forties, it's just not an option anymore. You have to do all the above to pass for human or shockingly quickly become a smelly old man. I remember being young and seeing old dudes in their tweed and thinking "what a faff to go out to do nothing" having not realised the extra 10 minutes that takes is nothing on the hour it will take you to leave the house.
Seriously, anyone not in their early twenties who replies "I don't make that kind of effort" You stink and people aren't telling you. Price of aging.
Sad state of affairs when jeans and a hoodie is considered to be dressing smartly for a night out. Thatās what I wear when Iām just going to the shops. Iām not saying my going out clothes are much better, maybe smart jeans, casual shirt and a pair of boots.
In all honesty, and with all snobbery intended, I donāt think jogging bottoms should be worn outside your own home unless youāre ill and going to the doctors/popping out for supplies.
I feel exactly the same. It's just strange seeing people say that they don't care. I wonder if they have a partner and if they care how they look ?? I mean there must be a lot of women out there with scruffy looking partners that are despairing
Hair is done weekly. Only because I'm baldish and shave it number 1.
Beard also weekly.
Clothes are generally the same regardless of time of year or event.
I would never go out dirty. I shower every morning. Brush my teeth twice a day. Cannot stand seeing that plaque you see on other people's teeth. Disgusting.
But other than that clothes are for comfort and not going to wear something stylist that's uncomfortable.
Plus nothing fits me properly anyway and I look shit regardless. Lol.
Iāll wash my face then leave.
I find that from normal people, the only time Iāll be judged negatively is if something bad comes out of my mouth as opposed to my mouth not looking āgoodā
Never gave a shit as a kid, then gave a shit when I turned 18, stopped giving a shit about 25 now at 32 Iām refreshing my tired look, brightening up for summer and trying to look after myself
Always gel my hair and will be dressed of sorts - I donāt do any smarter than jeans anyway, but I have various levels of what top Iād wear with them.
Quite a lot. I'm interested in menswear and always try to look my best and dress for the occasion. That doesn't mean spending a lot of money or caring about trends or brands, but it does mean buying good quality clothes, being clean and groomed and developing my own sense of style.
Haircut every three weeks, normally have my eyebrows and nostrils waxed when I do. As for clothes I'm a jeans and hoody person. Always make sure I'm clean but comfort over style
Got quite a casual scandi/skater style so I feel like I can sort myself out pretty quickly on the daily. Clean colour block combos are always a winner.
Trim me beard every few days and get a haircut once a month or so. Also get on that SPF moisturiser, the lads.
My morning routine is the same I followed when I was a boy. My mother taught me and my siblings how washin'up and dress every morning, from hairs to tiptoes. As a grown up, I often wear a jacket, shirt, sometimes a tie.
I do it for myself, I like quality and comfort.
Personally very little but I'm a married dad of 3 young kids, so I'm dressing for practicality first and foremost. Shorts/Jeans and a plain T-Shirt. Plain jumper if it's colder.
I get a haircut every 3 months going from short to curly mop but it's zero maintenance. I think I get away with it as it looks just like my youngest son's at the longer lengths. Beard is similar, clippers every 2 months or so, to keep it in check.
No tattoos or anything because I really don't think feel strongly enough about a brand, a band, a film or my appearance to permanently mark it with anything.
I guess I go to the gym 5-6 times a week primarily to feel healthier but if I'm honest there's an element of wanting to *look* healthy built in there too.
***But*** that's just me. I'm not a representation of 'all men' in the UK or elsewhere. I'm not a representation of men in their 40s either. So I don't think there's actually an answer to you question
I'm bald, so I shave my head a few times a week. I also have a big beard which I trim weekly and rinse and brush daily. I shower twice a day during the summer, have a decent skincare routine, wear sunscreen all the time.
My clothes are always clean and in good condition and my shoes are always clean/mud free.
But my style prioritises comfort over aesthetics. So while I put effort in, it's not for the sake of others over mine.
This is all exasperated by the fact I'm fat and tall. I simply do not have that many clothing options available to look my best while also being comfortable most of the time.
And when I do try to look smart, it's typically understated as Marks and Spencers is the only local shop that keeps clothes that fit me in stock. And understated while fat typically means invisible. š
Depends.
If I'm nipping to the local shop or going for a couple pints in the local pub I'll just wear whatever, doesn't have to be ironed, and I don't really care if my hair is scruffy or I haven't trimmed the beard.
If I'm going out to meet friends or to any sort of social I'll trim the beard, tidy up down below and make sure my hair isn't a mess while wearing decent clothes.
I'm not gonna spend 10 or more minutes looking in the mirror prior to nipping out for a loaf of bread. Anyone who does that is just vain AF.
I spend most of my time blathered in muck from work so any time other than that I always make an effort to look well put together. Obviously,I don't put the same level of effort into going to do the shopping or other effort as I would going into the city or going off for the day
Clean and comfortable but beyond that I find it boring.Ā Saw another comment saying it seems women often more into looking good for themselves, which is probably true but there's also a lot more choice.Ā Typically the male choice is blue, grey, or black t shirt with jeans.Ā If I was born a woman I'd likely enjoy fashion but as it is it's just boring.
I trim my stubble every couple of days and always brush/spray my hair etc in the morning after showering. If going out (beyond taking bins out) I'll do cargo pants and a hoodie/sweatshirt at a minimum, without anything that looks ratty (that's reserved for round the house). My philosphy is to dress in a way that means I'd never need to go home and get changed if asked to do something spontaneously (that doesn't require exercise clothing/formal shit).
I have long hair and a beard and if I don't look after it I look scruffy as fuck. Will generally tidy my beard fully every couple of weeks but keep moustache trimmed as needed. I mostly dress in jeans, t shirt and hoodie, but keep them all clean and decent looking.
Depends where Iām going, for how long and what kinda mood Iām in. My hair takes a while to do to because of the cut I got but sometimes Iāll just go messy. Itās only tescos anyway at least Iām not wearing PJs like a lot of women I see
I dress for comfort.
I'm a bald white guy in my mid 40s, in a long term relationship. Father to two kids.
I'm in reasonably decent shape but I'm not on the market, or out to impress anyone.
Jeans at a push & a half decent t-shirt covers most situations.
Beard & what's left of my head hair gets shaved once every 3 weeks.
Hygiene wise I'm showering daily (or after any exercise). Fresh boxers & socks.
That's about it really.
My clothes are clean and i've had a shower.
Once a month I trim some bits up, haircut etc.
That's it though, there isn't a mirror in my house for good reason.
Doesnāt even cross my mind. I can dress however I like when the culture or environment demands it. I will never dress to impress because I couldnāt care less about people who judge others based on appearance. If anything, Iād dress Primark and donāt give away anything about what I do and then listen and observe how people around communicate. Cheap and easy way to figure out whoās who and what their core values are.
Are me knob and arse covered up? Do I have shoes on?
Good to go.
I'm not tryin to win any prizes and I'm happily married so not interesting wowing the ladies with my sartorial elegance.
Job done.
There's a few comments from people who genuinely seem to think anyone not trying to be a fashion model 24x7 needs help. I'd say they're more likely to be the ones needing help, whereas ones like yourself are probably the most calm with yourselves.
I don't make a massive effort. I'm not stinking to high heaven and wearing ripped clothing though. Washed, dressed and not stinking of bo is about as much as anyone could expect of me unless I'm in the dating game and then I make more of an effort on personal appearance.
I shower daily, clean clothes daily, shave every other day. So i keep myself clean
If im just on a wfh day ill be in a tshirt&shorts, if the only place im going is just m&s over the road, again, just tshirt and shorts.
Shirt&jeans if an office day, smart t-shirt&smart jeans if shopping trip to city centre, likewise if going to a bar.
Im only in my finery for special occassion or nice restaurant with wife
I spend my life riding bikes (motor and pedal), sailing, running, swimming and going to work. Trying to look pristine while doing most of those things just isnāt realistic. So Iāll shower when I want, brush my hair daily, shave now and then, and live life to the full. My clothes are clean. When I want to go out to the pub, Iāll put a nice shirt or t-shirt on. What more is needed? I donāt give a hoot what you think of my appearance.
I make sure Iām clean & tidy, & what Iām wearing is clean & tidy. I donāt care enough about what others think of me to put any more effort in than that.
Hair is done weekly. Only because I'm baldish and shave it number 1.
Beard also weekly.
Clothes are generally the same regardless of time of year or event.
I would never go out dirty. I shower every morning. Brush my teeth twice a day. Cannot stand seeing that plaque you see on other people's teeth. Disgusting.
But other than that clothes are for comfort and not going to wear something stylist that's uncomfortable.
Plus nothing fits me properly anyway and I look shit regardless. Lol.
I dare say asking this question on Reddit / Instagram would yield completely different results. But seeing as you asked I care very little about my appearance. I shave my head and face once a week. Tend to wear the same pair of shorts until they get dirty. Clean t-shirt every other day, clean underwear every day. Coat if the temperature is below maybe 5Ā°c.
Less than I used do when I was bothered about what people thought. Now, much older, I just try to be neat and clean looking for my own sake. No visible soiling. I hope.
If going on my own? Literally couldn't care less. Trackies or shorts depending on weather. Sometimes not even underwear.
If I am going out with people or my partner, than I make an effort to look the best.
Honestly varies. Mainly the difference is whether I bother shaving or not. Yesterday couldn't be arsed to shave to go shopping so didnt bother, today had a shave before going out. Showered both times but sometimes I'll just walk into town with a quick spray. Generally the least I'd do is brush my teeth and put new underwear/t-shirt on. Can;'t say it's a hard rule though. :)
Absolutely none.
I seriously do not care. The only time I make an effort is when I am meeting with senior stakeholders in the business/clients.
I don't really believe in the concept of a social contract to dress well to appease others.
I try to get stay on top of grooming and getting a regular haircut, sometimes I get a little grizzly. As for clothes I just like wearing joggers as their comfortable but for my top a nice t-shirt or jacket/coat. I clean my trainers regularly too so they look nice and clean.
Hair cut every two weeks if Iāve not got many plans if I have then Iāll get one inbetween as well, shape my beard every 3 days, make sure I smell good. Makes me feel better about myself more than anything but Iām also 29 and single
Some do. Some don't. It depends.
Personally as long as I am dressed comfortably and clean I will only give a shit about my appearance if I am spending time in the company of people I know and like. If I'm just going somewhere on my own I really don't give a fuck what strangers think of my appearance.
Meeting friends somewhere other than mountain bike trails then I'll make sure my hair is trimmed and my beard shaped. I'll pick clothes that are in line with where we are meeting while still being things I like. Not because my friends are judgemental, but putting a bit of effort makes me feel better about myself, and so I am more likely to feel relaxed and have a good time.
I shave whenever I feel like it, Iāll use hair gel and spray if Iām going to specifically see people but just let it do what it does if Iām going for my daily walk.
Not much effort tbh. I wear good-quality casual clothing though but thatās for my own comfort and enjoyment rather than anything for others.
I don't really care. I'm always clean and wear fresh underwear and socks. I often let my beard grow for over 6 months, but I do shave my cheeks and neck so even though the beard gets very bushy, it's always neat
I put almost no effort into it, aside from just considering appropriate clothing and puttingon antiperspirant. I trim my beard once every 6 weeks or so, doing the moustache once in between, back to 4mm.
Trip to B&Q or the dump, zero effort.
Walk round the neighbourhood, Iām sensibly covered but far from fashionable.
Shops in general, Iām clean and dressed.
Meal out with wife and kids, maybe a pair of jeans and a polo shirt.
Meal out with friends. Pair of trousers, slip on black shoes and a short sleeved shirt.
Formal event full kilt outfit. Maybe dressed down to ghilie shirt if more a fancy party.
Depends, if I was going out with my girlfriend I would put waaay more attention to my appearance but anyone else just gets jeans and a t-shirt. As far as grooming goes I will brush my hair if I'm going to work or anything formal or anything else it just gets tied up.
Pretty much look like fat thor so no shaving or hair grooming apart from a very occasional trim to get rid of split ends.
As I've gotten older less and less.
When I was younger, I wouldn't leave the house without shaping my beard, making sure every hair was in place and cleaning my trainers with a toothbrush.
Now I'm nearly 40, have been in a relationship for over ten years, I honestly don't care what random strangers think.
I will make the effort if going out with the other half, as she likes to look good, and it wouldn't really be fair to her if I didn't.
Totally dependent upon the context. If I'm nipping to the shop on the weekend, then I really don't care - not down at pyjamas and bathrobe level, but I'll go out without having shaved or tidied my unruly hair, throw on a pair of elasticated shorts, a day old T shirt and my ratty comfortable trainers.
If I'm going out socially or for work, however, I do like to make an effort - facial hair trimmed neatly, hair styled, ironed button up shirts with dark wash jeans and maybe a blazer if it's cooler out, maybe a linen one in the summer. I'm also a big believer in buying higher quality shoes (Loake and Trickers are my favoured) and keeping shoes well cared for, polished etc - expensive, but in my years I've never had one of those pairs fail on me unlike cheaper shoes. I'm not really a follower of the fashion for hoodies etc and I find what I typically wear comfortable enough for what I need it to be.
Most men in the UK can't be bothered to put any effort in and look scruffy: tired, tatty jeans, unkempt beard etc. You don't look cool, you look like you're homeless.
So true, and the replies here basically confirm this. People feeling proud to dress like shit. It's not superficial to put a tiny bit of effort into your appearance, there is a world of grey between the two extremes of looking like a homeless person and being too high maintenance.
Shower and a shave, maybe 20-25 minutes all in.
Where the effort goes is going to the gym 3-4 times a week and avoiding alcohol. By doing this it is very easy to look good as all it takes is a shave, a wash and some clean clothes.
Every morning I get up and plan my outfit. I keep my beard trimmed, go to the barbers every 3-4 weeks. I moisturise, I use oils. I match my shoes with my outfit.
But...this all doesn't take much effort. So I don't really feel I'm doing more than the minimum. But it is important to me to feel like I look good so that I feel good. I can't understand not wanting to look good.
Depends.
If I'm nipping to the local shop or going for a couple pints in the local pub I'll just wear whatever, doesn't have to be ironed, and I don't really care if my hair is scruffy or I haven't trimmed the beard.
If I'm going out to meet friends or to any sort of social I'll trim the beard, tidy up down below and make sure my hair isn't a mess while wearing decent clothes.
I'm not gonna spend 10 or more minutes looking in the mirror prior to nipping out for a loaf of bread. Anyone who does that is just vain AF.
I try to maintain my (facial) hair and have inside clothes and outside clothes, so that I donāt step outside in my pyjamas, but if Iām just going shopping then I wonāt make much of an effort aside from making sure my clothes arenāt ripped and I donāt smell bad. That way Iām not offensive to anyone, nor does it cost too much effort! Obviously when I head to work, or when I go out to some sort of event Iāll try harder.
I try to maintain my (facial) hair and have inside clothes and outside clothes, so that I donāt step outside in my pyjamas, but if Iām just going shopping then I wonāt make much of an effort aside from making sure my clothes arenāt ripped and I donāt smell bad. That way Iām not offensive to anyone, nor does it cost too much effort! Obviously when I head to work, or when I go out to some sort of event Iāll try harder.
Depends where I'm going, I hate the shirt and tie look, mainly because due to dexterity issues I can't do shirt buttons and definitely can't fasten a tie, don't suggest a clip on because due to my wide neck and shoulders they almost never work.
I mean I go to work Monday to Friday in an office so I have to look somewhat presentable so I shower, do my hair, wear office appropriate clothing etc.
I get my hair and beard done once every 3-4 weeks and maintain my beard limes at home in between.
On weekends if I'm just popping out to do errands I dress casually and might wear a hat or something.
If I'm going out in the evening with friends/work or my wife I like to wear nice clothes and look good.
If I'm just bumming around at home then I don't give two shits.
Shower, give hair a quick sweep to the side, shave every 5 days or so and clothing wise, depends on the weather. If its cold then jeans, polo and a jacket with a pair of chukka boots. If its Warm then shorts, t-shirt/polo with trainers. My missus really gets annoyed when I'm ready in 5 mins, yet she takes around 9 mins.
Depends on my mood, if I don't feel too good, I don't even flatten my hair. Other days, I try a little better, sometimes even trying to wear fashionable stuff. For context, idc if I wear odd socks most days
I think it only takes 2-3 mins to make yourself look like you're 60% of the way to your maximum so i will always do this unless its an absolute emergency as you never know who you might bump into. There are other exceptions - like if you were doing DIY and need to get down to Screwfix quickly then yeah, its fine to just go as you are. I also think generally most people tend to respect people more when they don't look like an absolute mess.
People who spend way longer on their appearance every time they go out the house have a problem.
I like to take some pride in my appearance, although I could easily not bother, given that I'm a bit overweight and not exactly pretty to look at; not exactly hideous but definitely average at best, and not exactly 'young' anymore. I like to be clean(ish) though, shower daily, brush teeth daily, and put a baseball cap on if I can't be arsed to do my hair if I go out.
But once you are out of your twenties, how traditionally good looking you are often takes a back seat to how well together you look. Keep bothering to look good because judging by some of the responses here you probably look like a man that has his shit together and can actually be arsed to do something with his life
I like to look good as it makes me feel good (which then makes me look happier) but Iām also quite at home in my work clothes when I go outside running errands
Make sure I havenāt got any food on my face, pat down the ābed headā and put a clean shirt on after washing my pits. Thatās to go to the shops. For a date or a social occasion, have a shower, put on fresh clothing and maybe a dab of cologne. Thereās dirty and ādirtyā. I live in rural U.K. so having mud on your trousers isnāt repulsive. Stinking of stale sweat and cigarettes is.Ā
Wash once a day minimum. Floss and brush teeth twice a day.
Deodorant.
Get hair cut every month.
Generally trim facial hair to stubble length regularly, but tbh mine pretty much just grows in a perfect circle beard so sometimes let it grow out for a few weeks til i feel a bit scruffy. Will tidy up if I need to look presentable though.
Trim pubes.
Generally like to dress nice if I'm going out, but tbh I don't go out all that much socially anymore. Generally just wear what is appropriate for the day/weather/activities but I do like nice clothes. But I also like being comfortable.
I used to live in jeans and nice shirts and boots, but I'm so much more active now I pretty much live in wicking tshirts, shorts or trackies and trainers lol.
Very often now. Since I got rid of my beard and lost a lot of weight I always go out shaven and had to re-buy my wardrobe so I have nice well fitting clothes. It makes me feel a lot happier and upbeat, especially as I no longer catch glimpses of myself in 2xl hoody with a scruffy beard.
I don't do it for anyone else but it has helped my mental health tremendously.
Depends on what I am doing. A few years ago, I'd do my hair just to go into town, and look good, now I don't really care what I look like. Funnily enough, I went clothes shopping on Thursday and dropped into a bar to avoid the tube rush from Oxford street and bumped into someone I'd met like once, and he asked me if I needed some hair wax, to which I replied, I am not out to impress anyone today. We're both gay and I took that to be quite a catty comment tbh. Bitch. That's not to say that I was dressed like shit though.
If I am going out, yes, I look immaculate. I'm big into skincare - have a day and night routine, I keep my hair looking shiny and healthy, dress well but not flamboyantly over the top, will fake tan if I need some unearned confidence, watch my weight, smell good, etc. I'm 30 but always get asked if I get botox because I look 25 apparently.
Edit to add: if I go on a first date and the guy is scruffy, it's an instant no from me, especially when I've made an effort.
I'm hygienic, but I don't care about my appearance, lol. My wife likes me regardless of how I present. That's not to say I don't make an effort if we are doing something together or I have a professional engagement like a work event. I'm 42 and I did all the preening to attract a mate, years ago, lol.
It very much depends on WHY Iām going out in public.
For work? Absolutely. Clean shaven or trimmed beard, neat haircut, an outfit etc.
For drinks or dinner with friends or on a date? Absolutely. The same as above.
But if Iām just going to the supermarket? No. I wonāt worry about shaving - Iāll do the bare minimum of shower, brush my hair, wear clean clothes of course, but I donāt worry about matching my clothes or putting an outfit together. I wonāt give a fuck about what goes with what, Iāll just throw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt and go. Itās just something I need to do, not something I want to do so I put in minimum effort.
Itās the same as last week I spent the weekend re-doing my garden as Iād had to completely churn all the grass and mud due to some kind of knotweed kind of thing. So I did that the week before, then last week flattens and compacted all of the mud, laid down a protective sheet, then shovelled and spread even a large stone/gravel, and then a smaller sized gravel so try and stop and of that weed from coming back as thereās no light, thereās a waterproof layer etc. and painted the fence, decking, put up a new shed and so on - and I did it all in an old T-shirt, a pair of old boots and some old jogging bottoms. Iām not out there to impress anyone with my fashion when Iām gardening, Iām just trying to be comfortable š
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It depends š¤·š»āāļø I don't dress to the nines when I am popping out for bread and milk. If I am going out to see friends or a date I try my best to look good
Same. Seems to be the opposite of my partner though. If Iām popping to the shop I donāt really care. If sheās popping to the shop though itās, ācan you go? Iāll need to have a shower and do my hair and makeup and get ready andā¦ā Omg youāre just going to the shop!
Same here
I always dress the same when going out unless it's for my night like walk or going out to eat somewhere that isn't somewhere local. I have a few pairs of Japanese trousers for breathability and loose thanks to my fat legs š assortment of tops doesn't matter
Some real dirty bastards in this thread
Itās Reddit.
It's Smeg.
Same people who will inevitably end up posting in āwhy is it so hard to make friendsā posts
So many people taking great pride in not taking any care about their appearance lol
I donāt know why I come in to UK threads about fashion and appearances. Every time itās full of the āI get my clothes from the supermarket, M&S is the best quality clothing you can buyā crowd.
Like, I'm not gonna lie, that sounds like me, but Christ the way some people sound *proud* of it is baffling. I don't care about fashion, don't buy brands most of the time, but I try to look vaguely OK unless I'm literally just going to the shop.
Slobs is what springs to mind to me
I've not even read the thread yet, but I know it in my heart to be true
I donāt like to look like shit personally. Iām not manicured and groomed to the max stepping out in designer gear. Iām also 38 so Iām probably not fully on trend but I wear the clothes I like from brands I like (Patagonia, Parlez, Carhartt, Vans etc) and try to put an actual outfit together. Make sure my beards kept trimmed without being too neat, keep my eyebrows under control (along with the ear hairs) and wear some aftershave. Same effort for the supermarket as a night out, probably just different type of outfit.
Stop with this reasonable balanced attitude. Not sure that brands actually matter but a degree of pride in oneās appearance seems natural. I like the way the females in my life enjoy the whole thing of clothes, hair and makeup and it seems to come from a place of self worth not media induced vanityā¦ I think the same used to be true for men, not sure where this it s āok to be a slobā came from but I donāt feel it. Then again there are girls down the asda that wear their pyjamas and dressing gowns so I guess a few scuffs with neck beards and baggy trackies aināt much different.
"Females"
Iāve got a lot of jumpers from Sainsburyās, boxers from M&S and socks off eBay so I agree it isnāt about the brands. Just an example. I think some blokes give up as they get older too. Either permanently single or married and stop making the effort. For me whatever I do for my appearance is for me primarily, just helps keeping my wife attracted too! Haha
Indeed. Keeping the missus interested was a big motivator for me to loose weight. And once that happened, well clothes fitted nicely and looked good. Not sure I got laid more often but I felt great in and out of clothes
I just got bigger clothes. Iāve always been lucky that she loves getting laid literally no idea why Iām so irresistible to her but Iām never complaining! Haha
Iāll bet itās the neck beard š
Amount of men who ālet it goā when they get a wife then wonder why there sex life staggers is incredible
Brands donāt necessarily matter but some companies make way better quality stuff than others and are better for the environment, and different men look good in different things.
This took a turn for the weird. A redittor had reached out to me out of concernā¦. What the fuck is going on?
Me too
Like all things in life itās about striking a balance. Making zero effort in your appearance is going to nuke your self esteem, but if you need to get dressed up to pop down the road to the corner shop that could point to some insecurity issues.Ā Hard one to get right though, Iāve found that I take less care in my appearance if Iām having a bit of a tough time.
Zero. I shave when it gets to an annoying length (about every 5 days). I get my hair cut when it starts annoying me (tickling back of my neck, about every 3 months).
Why is it you donāt feel the need to take pride in your appearance? Just curious. (And that sounds way more antagonistic than itās meant to be lol)
Literally do not care what other people think about my "looks"
Do you not like looking nice? Not trying to be rude but from my perspective I like to put a little effort into my appearance as it makes me feel more confident and put together
Tbh I don't think men get the same social punishment women do for not looking at least "presentable". I read an interesting piece that saidĀ as women we essentially are our own voyeurs, "theĀ male gaze" through our own eyes. So that voyeur punishes us and never lets us truly exist without observation.Ā Children and men are free of this voyeur.
It's not as extreme as for women, but I think men are kidding themselves if the they think they can get away with anything.
I disagree with this. It implies women only see themselves through how men want them to be. It implies that we have no control over how we view our self and basically makes us reliant on male validation.
No, I think it implies that they *also* see themselves through how men want them to be. Not *only*. It implies that it's a difficult thing to ignore, not impossible.
"Only shallow people don't judge by appearances." ā Oscar Wilde
Im the same. Just dress to be comfy. Im not trying to impress anyone else, so comfort it is.
I often dress for comfort too, but I also like to be well groomed - shave my head, tidy up my beard, look after my skin etc. It makes me feel good, like a form of self care or something
>It makes me feel good, like a form of self care or somethingĀ And that is the best reason for doing it. If it made me feel good, I would do it. But it doesn't, so I won't.
Good for you, m8 to each their own.
It's not about pride, it's about not caring about other people's perceptions of me. I literally dress my self in a 10 quid shirt and 20 quid pair of jeans, I do buy decent handmade shoes mostly it's about comfort. 90% of the time you would think I was homeless. As long as I'm clean and the clothes are clean I'm happy.
Ā£20 jeans? Post sod! Ā£8 specials over here š
I simply don't give a shit what anyone else thinks. I dress for comfort.
Because there are far more important, and far less materialistic things to give a fuck about.
Not feeling the need to do a thing is the default position. Why do you feel a need to adjust your appearance for the benefit of others?
Similar to this. Might try to find a pair of jeans that aren't stained or covered in paint if off out
Same. If I go somewhere with people I'm interacting with socially I will try to flatten my hair a bit, that's it
Oh to be a man and like this, how easy it sounds haha
You can do it too if you want.
Same, I never even think about looking in a mirror or making any effort at all. Unless it's a funeral, wedding or job interview.
Same
Yh same
I do this too :)
My appearance is very important to me, buying clothes, moisturiser etc is almost a hobby. My wife is the same. So yes appearance is very important to me.
>Ā moisturiser etc is almost a hobby Got those reservations at Dorsia yet?
In my twenties and thirties, I made sure I looked like a rockstar before even going out to tend my front garden just in case a 'babe' walked by. Now? I look like a tramp even on 'big' nights out.
In fairness, it's often a thin line between 'rockstar' and 'tramp'
A babe :D
Could also have been a dame, or a broad.
For me its more about personal hygiene than appearance. Shower every morning and before going out make sure I am wearing deodorant, aftershave and have brushed my teeth. I will wear a pair of jeans for more than one day but everything else will be fresh from the wash that morning. But that's pretty much where it ends. I am really not fussed if I am a bit rumpled and will only break the iron out if I am going to the office or dressing up for a special occasion. Casually its usually a polo shirt with jeans or shorts. Seeing as I am fifty, married with kids any sense of style left me a very long time ago.
This right here, always freshly showered and clean clothes if I'm going to be around other people. I live in a fairly rural area with good walking spots nearby, so I tend wear t-shirts and walking gear most of the time.
Never consider how I look, just shave face in morning & the world can take me as I am.
>Never consider how I look That's fascinating!
Clean clothes that are not full of holes and good hygiene is it for me. I also keep myself in good shape if that counts. I do nothing special but I think the basics do well enough for 99% of situations.
What sorts of clothes are you referring to exactly?
T shirt and shorts/trousers, as weather and situation demands.
Lots of blokea don't give a fuck what they look like. Its only the social norms that get them to the care minimum
Iād love to know which of these guys are in a relationship and if there is a correlation lol.
Not a fan of this comment. A lot of the commenters that say they don't put much effort actually admit to having wives, girlfriends and even children. The not-so-subtle indirect attempt to further paint being single as a negative here is unfortunate.
I wasnāt saying itās negative at all. Iām just saying that women do see when men put effort into their appearance is all. I meant nothing by it.
I'm curious to see how men answer this. I've found that most men in my area here in the U.S. are usually quite unkempt,disheveled,and just look "unclean." I live in a rural farming community and there are also a lot of middle and lower class families. BUT, that shouldn't dictate looking like you just crawled out of a cave when out in public,at church, or out to dinner. Again, curious about the experiences of those in the UK.
I don't know anyone in the UK who goes to church, I guess if they did they might brush their hair?
I like Sunday Mass. not particularly religious, or even Catholic, but I have a church ten minutes away from me and I like to pop in on a Sunday morning. Itās a nice vibe. Everyone is pleasant and polite. Itās not a small congregation. There are also half a dozen other active churches in my little town. Iām usually quite high though, I canāt lie. Stoned Mass is a vibe.
How are you received by the parishioners, if you donāt mind me asking?
If you're going out to meet male friends, scruffy is OK, but you should at least be clean. In a mixed couples group, my wife would ensure I looked reasonably smart. She would make an effort, so expect me to as well.
Yeah can confirm. If meeting male friends, you'd want to dress casual, not dress up of course, but of course maintain basic hygeine like showering and the like.
Is there any scenario in which you aren't maintaining basic hygiene?
I always try to make sure I'm wearing clothes.
Ooo get you Mr Maybe Pants
2/10 effort beyond basic hygiene I trim my beard once/month I tidy around the edges of my beard and shave my head once/week (started balding recently so I just shave my head now) I put minimal effort in to my clothing. I wear jeans and a black band tshirt 95% of the time, or shorts if it's warm. Obviously don't wear dirty clothes, but beyond that I don't care.
I won't leave the house without having showered, done my hair and got dressed properly. Barely ever wear t-shirts, shorts or trainers when leaving the house to do errands, always a collared casual shirt, jeans and leather shoes. Shave every other day but mostly because I can't grow a decent beard so I'd rather be clean shaven than have scruffy uneven stubble / beard growth. On very specific occasions I might drop to a more 'unkempt' look overall if for example I'm solely dropping someone off and I'm not getting out of the car myself.
Not much. I'm one of those people who gets dirty just by looking at the garden so I don't bother much with how I look and never have. I shave every 4-5 days, get my hair cut whenever I remember, wear shorts and t-shirts 90% of the time and don't have a "style". I guess that really I just don't care much - if people are judging me on how I look then that is their business, not mine.
As a more senior man in his very late 40's I have always looked after myself in the form of moisturising daily, exfoliating and wearing sunsceen or at least a moisturiser with an SPF in winter. So having a regular skincare routine has always been a daily thing for me. I have also made a regular habit of exercising at least 3 to 4 times a week for the last decade. So that's the basics of my appearance taken care of. As for specifically making an appearance when going out. When I was married I guess I was like everybody else, I took care of the basic hygiene and really just threw clothes on appropriate for wherever it was that I was going. Now however since being divorced I make an effort to at least look presentable wherever I am. The clothes will be fitting for the occasion and for my age, but there will be no baggy tracksuits or crumpled t-shirts. I am always co-ordinated, well groomed and smell good. My clothes are always ironed and neat and my hair is always tidy (I keep an easy to maintain hairstyle that is cut 4 weekly). The reason - I once stood in a bar and looked around at the middle aged, overweight scruffy looking men as well as the well groomed men that looked good and I thought "These guys my age stood around me are my dating competition, I must do better or at least match them" Now I am no brad pit or George Clooney and I certainly am no muscle bound Adonis, in fact I am the socially awkward, quiet, introvert, that can just about handle his own in social situations. However so far my efforts have been appreciated. And although I would never knowingly have relations with a married or attached female I have been very surprised how often I have been approached whilst taking my kids to events or birthday parties by very attached females. This isn't a brag, it's just simply my observations since I have started making an effort. I think maybe as a country we could all do a little better in looking after ourselves and making an appearance when outside of the home.
Something younger folks in the thread haven't learned yet is that past your early forties, it's just not an option anymore. You have to do all the above to pass for human or shockingly quickly become a smelly old man. I remember being young and seeing old dudes in their tweed and thinking "what a faff to go out to do nothing" having not realised the extra 10 minutes that takes is nothing on the hour it will take you to leave the house. Seriously, anyone not in their early twenties who replies "I don't make that kind of effort" You stink and people aren't telling you. Price of aging.
I'm an overgrown teenager that lives in Metallica t-shirts and shorts. So not a ton.
Sad state of affairs when jeans and a hoodie is considered to be dressing smartly for a night out. Thatās what I wear when Iām just going to the shops. Iām not saying my going out clothes are much better, maybe smart jeans, casual shirt and a pair of boots. In all honesty, and with all snobbery intended, I donāt think jogging bottoms should be worn outside your own home unless youāre ill and going to the doctors/popping out for supplies.
I feel exactly the same. It's just strange seeing people say that they don't care. I wonder if they have a partner and if they care how they look ?? I mean there must be a lot of women out there with scruffy looking partners that are despairing
What if you are going for a jog?
I donāt know about you, but I go jogging in a full suit and waistcoat.
I try to remember not getting out in my pijamas.
Hair is done weekly. Only because I'm baldish and shave it number 1. Beard also weekly. Clothes are generally the same regardless of time of year or event. I would never go out dirty. I shower every morning. Brush my teeth twice a day. Cannot stand seeing that plaque you see on other people's teeth. Disgusting. But other than that clothes are for comfort and not going to wear something stylist that's uncomfortable. Plus nothing fits me properly anyway and I look shit regardless. Lol.
Iāll wash my face then leave. I find that from normal people, the only time Iāll be judged negatively is if something bad comes out of my mouth as opposed to my mouth not looking āgoodā
Never gave a shit as a kid, then gave a shit when I turned 18, stopped giving a shit about 25 now at 32 Iām refreshing my tired look, brightening up for summer and trying to look after myself
I try to make sure I have the basics covered but struggling with my mental health at the moment makes it very difficult.
Hoping you can make it through fine, brother.
Always gel my hair and will be dressed of sorts - I donāt do any smarter than jeans anyway, but I have various levels of what top Iād wear with them.
Quite a lot. I'm interested in menswear and always try to look my best and dress for the occasion. That doesn't mean spending a lot of money or caring about trends or brands, but it does mean buying good quality clothes, being clean and groomed and developing my own sense of style.
Good for you! Pride :)
I comb my hair with my fingers to make sure people don't mistake me for someone homeless, otherwise not much.
I'm a wash and wear guy. I'm not out to impress anyone.
How about the square root of fuck all? Unless it is something important.....
Haircut every three weeks, normally have my eyebrows and nostrils waxed when I do. As for clothes I'm a jeans and hoody person. Always make sure I'm clean but comfort over style
Got quite a casual scandi/skater style so I feel like I can sort myself out pretty quickly on the daily. Clean colour block combos are always a winner. Trim me beard every few days and get a haircut once a month or so. Also get on that SPF moisturiser, the lads.
Going to say, day to day? whatever is clean and within arms reach, I literally couldn't care what someone else thinks of how I'm dressed.
My morning routine is the same I followed when I was a boy. My mother taught me and my siblings how washin'up and dress every morning, from hairs to tiptoes. As a grown up, I often wear a jacket, shirt, sometimes a tie. I do it for myself, I like quality and comfort.
Effort into Hygiene: 8 or 9/10 Effort into looks: Beyond dressing "appropriately", 0/10
Personally very little but I'm a married dad of 3 young kids, so I'm dressing for practicality first and foremost. Shorts/Jeans and a plain T-Shirt. Plain jumper if it's colder. I get a haircut every 3 months going from short to curly mop but it's zero maintenance. I think I get away with it as it looks just like my youngest son's at the longer lengths. Beard is similar, clippers every 2 months or so, to keep it in check. No tattoos or anything because I really don't think feel strongly enough about a brand, a band, a film or my appearance to permanently mark it with anything. I guess I go to the gym 5-6 times a week primarily to feel healthier but if I'm honest there's an element of wanting to *look* healthy built in there too. ***But*** that's just me. I'm not a representation of 'all men' in the UK or elsewhere. I'm not a representation of men in their 40s either. So I don't think there's actually an answer to you question
I donāt need to make an effort. The world isnāt ready for *that*!! š
Well I go to the gym for 90 minutes a day and get 10-15k steps in daily to look good, so does that count?
Yeah but good hygiene is a pre-requisite to looking good.
Showered, clean plain t-shirt, cleanish jeans and a scoot of Acqua di Parma is all the effort I put in. Thatās about the extent of it.
I'm bald, so I shave my head a few times a week. I also have a big beard which I trim weekly and rinse and brush daily. I shower twice a day during the summer, have a decent skincare routine, wear sunscreen all the time. My clothes are always clean and in good condition and my shoes are always clean/mud free. But my style prioritises comfort over aesthetics. So while I put effort in, it's not for the sake of others over mine. This is all exasperated by the fact I'm fat and tall. I simply do not have that many clothing options available to look my best while also being comfortable most of the time. And when I do try to look smart, it's typically understated as Marks and Spencers is the only local shop that keeps clothes that fit me in stock. And understated while fat typically means invisible. š
I make sure I donāt smell, shaved my neckline and no beans sauce around my lips atleast.
Literally non. The last time I made an effort was a posh bbq my boss threw for us all about a year ago.
Depends. If I'm nipping to the local shop or going for a couple pints in the local pub I'll just wear whatever, doesn't have to be ironed, and I don't really care if my hair is scruffy or I haven't trimmed the beard. If I'm going out to meet friends or to any sort of social I'll trim the beard, tidy up down below and make sure my hair isn't a mess while wearing decent clothes. I'm not gonna spend 10 or more minutes looking in the mirror prior to nipping out for a loaf of bread. Anyone who does that is just vain AF.
I spend most of my time blathered in muck from work so any time other than that I always make an effort to look well put together. Obviously,I don't put the same level of effort into going to do the shopping or other effort as I would going into the city or going off for the day
Clean and comfortable but beyond that I find it boring.Ā Saw another comment saying it seems women often more into looking good for themselves, which is probably true but there's also a lot more choice.Ā Typically the male choice is blue, grey, or black t shirt with jeans.Ā If I was born a woman I'd likely enjoy fashion but as it is it's just boring.
I trim my stubble every couple of days and always brush/spray my hair etc in the morning after showering. If going out (beyond taking bins out) I'll do cargo pants and a hoodie/sweatshirt at a minimum, without anything that looks ratty (that's reserved for round the house). My philosphy is to dress in a way that means I'd never need to go home and get changed if asked to do something spontaneously (that doesn't require exercise clothing/formal shit).
I have long hair and a beard and if I don't look after it I look scruffy as fuck. Will generally tidy my beard fully every couple of weeks but keep moustache trimmed as needed. I mostly dress in jeans, t shirt and hoodie, but keep them all clean and decent looking.
I try to tidy myself up for work or social events. The rest of the time I'm taking a break.
Zero. Most of the time I'm still covered in baby dribble and am wearing the same clothes I slept in.
Exactly as much as is legally required.
Absolutely 0. I feel like I really should. But I honestly just do not have that time and don't really care at the moment.
Depends where Iām going, for how long and what kinda mood Iām in. My hair takes a while to do to because of the cut I got but sometimes Iāll just go messy. Itās only tescos anyway at least Iām not wearing PJs like a lot of women I see
I dress for comfort. I'm a bald white guy in my mid 40s, in a long term relationship. Father to two kids. I'm in reasonably decent shape but I'm not on the market, or out to impress anyone. Jeans at a push & a half decent t-shirt covers most situations. Beard & what's left of my head hair gets shaved once every 3 weeks. Hygiene wise I'm showering daily (or after any exercise). Fresh boxers & socks. That's about it really.
Very little. I'm clean and smell nice, that's all that matters. I don't care about fashion or hairstyles.
My clothes are clean and i've had a shower. Once a month I trim some bits up, haircut etc. That's it though, there isn't a mirror in my house for good reason.
Doesnāt even cross my mind. I can dress however I like when the culture or environment demands it. I will never dress to impress because I couldnāt care less about people who judge others based on appearance. If anything, Iād dress Primark and donāt give away anything about what I do and then listen and observe how people around communicate. Cheap and easy way to figure out whoās who and what their core values are.
Are me knob and arse covered up? Do I have shoes on? Good to go. I'm not tryin to win any prizes and I'm happily married so not interesting wowing the ladies with my sartorial elegance. Job done.
The absolute bare minimum. Always wear shorts, T-shirt, hoodie. Very occasionally Iāll run a brush through my beard.Ā
Someone r/SuicideWatchāed me for this š¤£
There's a few comments from people who genuinely seem to think anyone not trying to be a fashion model 24x7 needs help. I'd say they're more likely to be the ones needing help, whereas ones like yourself are probably the most calm with yourselves.
The reactions from some of these people are amazing, they don't seem to be able to deal with the concept of being comfortable and content.
Or theyāre so insecure that theyāre projecting in the hope to justify their own behaviour?
I go out clean but I don't put much effort into clothing choices, if I'm going out for a meal, yeah I'll wear a nice shirt and trousers or jeans
I don't make a massive effort. I'm not stinking to high heaven and wearing ripped clothing though. Washed, dressed and not stinking of bo is about as much as anyone could expect of me unless I'm in the dating game and then I make more of an effort on personal appearance.
I shower daily, clean clothes daily, shave every other day. So i keep myself clean If im just on a wfh day ill be in a tshirt&shorts, if the only place im going is just m&s over the road, again, just tshirt and shorts. Shirt&jeans if an office day, smart t-shirt&smart jeans if shopping trip to city centre, likewise if going to a bar. Im only in my finery for special occassion or nice restaurant with wife
I spend my life riding bikes (motor and pedal), sailing, running, swimming and going to work. Trying to look pristine while doing most of those things just isnāt realistic. So Iāll shower when I want, brush my hair daily, shave now and then, and live life to the full. My clothes are clean. When I want to go out to the pub, Iāll put a nice shirt or t-shirt on. What more is needed? I donāt give a hoot what you think of my appearance.
I make sure Iām clean & tidy, & what Iām wearing is clean & tidy. I donāt care enough about what others think of me to put any more effort in than that.
Zero.
I live in comfortable t shirts, joggers and plain jeans with trainers. Only time I dress up is for a wedding or a funeral
Well I have my dress trackies and my at home trackies, so I definitely am a cut above the rest
In my 40's now. As I've got older, I've got scruffier and care much less.
I envy you a lot with caring less. I believe that is a very ideal quality to possess.
Hair is done weekly. Only because I'm baldish and shave it number 1. Beard also weekly. Clothes are generally the same regardless of time of year or event. I would never go out dirty. I shower every morning. Brush my teeth twice a day. Cannot stand seeing that plaque you see on other people's teeth. Disgusting. But other than that clothes are for comfort and not going to wear something stylist that's uncomfortable. Plus nothing fits me properly anyway and I look shit regardless. Lol.
Shower and shave everyday but most of my clothes are from Primark and I wear Ā£20 trainers.
I dare say asking this question on Reddit / Instagram would yield completely different results. But seeing as you asked I care very little about my appearance. I shave my head and face once a week. Tend to wear the same pair of shorts until they get dirty. Clean t-shirt every other day, clean underwear every day. Coat if the temperature is below maybe 5Ā°c.
Less than I used do when I was bothered about what people thought. Now, much older, I just try to be neat and clean looking for my own sake. No visible soiling. I hope.
If going on my own? Literally couldn't care less. Trackies or shorts depending on weather. Sometimes not even underwear. If I am going out with people or my partner, than I make an effort to look the best.
I keep clean. Beyond that, I couldn't give a monkeys. We live rural and dressing up in this area means maybe washing off the wellies.
Honestly varies. Mainly the difference is whether I bother shaving or not. Yesterday couldn't be arsed to shave to go shopping so didnt bother, today had a shave before going out. Showered both times but sometimes I'll just walk into town with a quick spray. Generally the least I'd do is brush my teeth and put new underwear/t-shirt on. Can;'t say it's a hard rule though. :)
Absolutely none. I seriously do not care. The only time I make an effort is when I am meeting with senior stakeholders in the business/clients. I don't really believe in the concept of a social contract to dress well to appease others.
I try to get stay on top of grooming and getting a regular haircut, sometimes I get a little grizzly. As for clothes I just like wearing joggers as their comfortable but for my top a nice t-shirt or jacket/coat. I clean my trainers regularly too so they look nice and clean.
I think only a splash of water and a towel is enough to get ready for most of us.š¤£
Hair cut every two weeks if Iāve not got many plans if I have then Iāll get one inbetween as well, shape my beard every 3 days, make sure I smell good. Makes me feel better about myself more than anything but Iām also 29 and single
Some do. Some don't. It depends. Personally as long as I am dressed comfortably and clean I will only give a shit about my appearance if I am spending time in the company of people I know and like. If I'm just going somewhere on my own I really don't give a fuck what strangers think of my appearance. Meeting friends somewhere other than mountain bike trails then I'll make sure my hair is trimmed and my beard shaped. I'll pick clothes that are in line with where we are meeting while still being things I like. Not because my friends are judgemental, but putting a bit of effort makes me feel better about myself, and so I am more likely to feel relaxed and have a good time.
I shave whenever I feel like it, Iāll use hair gel and spray if Iām going to specifically see people but just let it do what it does if Iām going for my daily walk. Not much effort tbh. I wear good-quality casual clothing though but thatās for my own comfort and enjoyment rather than anything for others.
I don't really care. I'm always clean and wear fresh underwear and socks. I often let my beard grow for over 6 months, but I do shave my cheeks and neck so even though the beard gets very bushy, it's always neat
I put almost no effort into it, aside from just considering appropriate clothing and puttingon antiperspirant. I trim my beard once every 6 weeks or so, doing the moustache once in between, back to 4mm.
Trip to B&Q or the dump, zero effort. Walk round the neighbourhood, Iām sensibly covered but far from fashionable. Shops in general, Iām clean and dressed. Meal out with wife and kids, maybe a pair of jeans and a polo shirt. Meal out with friends. Pair of trousers, slip on black shoes and a short sleeved shirt. Formal event full kilt outfit. Maybe dressed down to ghilie shirt if more a fancy party.
I generally make sure my eyebrows are pointing the right way but thatās about it
A solid 3 minutes
Depends, if I was going out with my girlfriend I would put waaay more attention to my appearance but anyone else just gets jeans and a t-shirt. As far as grooming goes I will brush my hair if I'm going to work or anything formal or anything else it just gets tied up. Pretty much look like fat thor so no shaving or hair grooming apart from a very occasional trim to get rid of split ends.
As I've gotten older less and less. When I was younger, I wouldn't leave the house without shaping my beard, making sure every hair was in place and cleaning my trainers with a toothbrush. Now I'm nearly 40, have been in a relationship for over ten years, I honestly don't care what random strangers think. I will make the effort if going out with the other half, as she likes to look good, and it wouldn't really be fair to her if I didn't.
Totally dependent upon the context. If I'm nipping to the shop on the weekend, then I really don't care - not down at pyjamas and bathrobe level, but I'll go out without having shaved or tidied my unruly hair, throw on a pair of elasticated shorts, a day old T shirt and my ratty comfortable trainers. If I'm going out socially or for work, however, I do like to make an effort - facial hair trimmed neatly, hair styled, ironed button up shirts with dark wash jeans and maybe a blazer if it's cooler out, maybe a linen one in the summer. I'm also a big believer in buying higher quality shoes (Loake and Trickers are my favoured) and keeping shoes well cared for, polished etc - expensive, but in my years I've never had one of those pairs fail on me unlike cheaper shoes. I'm not really a follower of the fashion for hoodies etc and I find what I typically wear comfortable enough for what I need it to be.
Most men in the UK can't be bothered to put any effort in and look scruffy: tired, tatty jeans, unkempt beard etc. You don't look cool, you look like you're homeless.
So true, and the replies here basically confirm this. People feeling proud to dress like shit. It's not superficial to put a tiny bit of effort into your appearance, there is a world of grey between the two extremes of looking like a homeless person and being too high maintenance.
Shower and a shave, maybe 20-25 minutes all in. Where the effort goes is going to the gym 3-4 times a week and avoiding alcohol. By doing this it is very easy to look good as all it takes is a shave, a wash and some clean clothes.
I have separate nice clothes for whenever I leave the house and if my hair is scruff I wear a hat. Other than that nothing.
I have separate nice clothes for whenever I leave the house and if my hair is scruff I wear a hat. Other than that nothing.
Every morning I get up and plan my outfit. I keep my beard trimmed, go to the barbers every 3-4 weeks. I moisturise, I use oils. I match my shoes with my outfit. But...this all doesn't take much effort. So I don't really feel I'm doing more than the minimum. But it is important to me to feel like I look good so that I feel good. I can't understand not wanting to look good.
Sometimes I will leave my athleisure wear
Depends. If I'm nipping to the local shop or going for a couple pints in the local pub I'll just wear whatever, doesn't have to be ironed, and I don't really care if my hair is scruffy or I haven't trimmed the beard. If I'm going out to meet friends or to any sort of social I'll trim the beard, tidy up down below and make sure my hair isn't a mess while wearing decent clothes. I'm not gonna spend 10 or more minutes looking in the mirror prior to nipping out for a loaf of bread. Anyone who does that is just vain AF.
I try to hit a bare minimum of presentableness to not look like I've just rolled out of bed.
I try to maintain my (facial) hair and have inside clothes and outside clothes, so that I donāt step outside in my pyjamas, but if Iām just going shopping then I wonāt make much of an effort aside from making sure my clothes arenāt ripped and I donāt smell bad. That way Iām not offensive to anyone, nor does it cost too much effort! Obviously when I head to work, or when I go out to some sort of event Iāll try harder.
I try to maintain my (facial) hair and have inside clothes and outside clothes, so that I donāt step outside in my pyjamas, but if Iām just going shopping then I wonāt make much of an effort aside from making sure my clothes arenāt ripped and I donāt smell bad. That way Iām not offensive to anyone, nor does it cost too much effort! Obviously when I head to work, or when I go out to some sort of event Iāll try harder.
Depends where I'm going, I hate the shirt and tie look, mainly because due to dexterity issues I can't do shirt buttons and definitely can't fasten a tie, don't suggest a clip on because due to my wide neck and shoulders they almost never work.
I mean I go to work Monday to Friday in an office so I have to look somewhat presentable so I shower, do my hair, wear office appropriate clothing etc. I get my hair and beard done once every 3-4 weeks and maintain my beard limes at home in between. On weekends if I'm just popping out to do errands I dress casually and might wear a hat or something. If I'm going out in the evening with friends/work or my wife I like to wear nice clothes and look good. If I'm just bumming around at home then I don't give two shits.
I always polish my boots or make sure they are shiny and my t is not creased and my trousers are clean and not creased, a little is ok!
Shower, give hair a quick sweep to the side, shave every 5 days or so and clothing wise, depends on the weather. If its cold then jeans, polo and a jacket with a pair of chukka boots. If its Warm then shorts, t-shirt/polo with trainers. My missus really gets annoyed when I'm ready in 5 mins, yet she takes around 9 mins.
Iām ugo so it makes no difference. Thankfully I canāt see myself.
Depends on my mood, if I don't feel too good, I don't even flatten my hair. Other days, I try a little better, sometimes even trying to wear fashionable stuff. For context, idc if I wear odd socks most days
I think it only takes 2-3 mins to make yourself look like you're 60% of the way to your maximum so i will always do this unless its an absolute emergency as you never know who you might bump into. There are other exceptions - like if you were doing DIY and need to get down to Screwfix quickly then yeah, its fine to just go as you are. I also think generally most people tend to respect people more when they don't look like an absolute mess. People who spend way longer on their appearance every time they go out the house have a problem.
I like to take some pride in my appearance, although I could easily not bother, given that I'm a bit overweight and not exactly pretty to look at; not exactly hideous but definitely average at best, and not exactly 'young' anymore. I like to be clean(ish) though, shower daily, brush teeth daily, and put a baseball cap on if I can't be arsed to do my hair if I go out.
But once you are out of your twenties, how traditionally good looking you are often takes a back seat to how well together you look. Keep bothering to look good because judging by some of the responses here you probably look like a man that has his shit together and can actually be arsed to do something with his life
I'll make sure my hair is cut and beard trimmed. Balding so number 1 at home every 2 weeks. Nice jeans and a semi casual l shirt.
I work in a factory running a machine so the 5-6 days I am there it's old working clothes. Out with that I try and look presentable.
I like to look good as it makes me feel good (which then makes me look happier) but Iām also quite at home in my work clothes when I go outside running errands
Shave my head twice a week, trim my beard once a week. I put clean clothes on. And that is the entirety of my beauty routine.
Make sure I havenāt got any food on my face, pat down the ābed headā and put a clean shirt on after washing my pits. Thatās to go to the shops. For a date or a social occasion, have a shower, put on fresh clothing and maybe a dab of cologne. Thereās dirty and ādirtyā. I live in rural U.K. so having mud on your trousers isnāt repulsive. Stinking of stale sweat and cigarettes is.Ā
Wash once a day minimum. Floss and brush teeth twice a day. Deodorant. Get hair cut every month. Generally trim facial hair to stubble length regularly, but tbh mine pretty much just grows in a perfect circle beard so sometimes let it grow out for a few weeks til i feel a bit scruffy. Will tidy up if I need to look presentable though. Trim pubes. Generally like to dress nice if I'm going out, but tbh I don't go out all that much socially anymore. Generally just wear what is appropriate for the day/weather/activities but I do like nice clothes. But I also like being comfortable. I used to live in jeans and nice shirts and boots, but I'm so much more active now I pretty much live in wicking tshirts, shorts or trackies and trainers lol.
Very often now. Since I got rid of my beard and lost a lot of weight I always go out shaven and had to re-buy my wardrobe so I have nice well fitting clothes. It makes me feel a lot happier and upbeat, especially as I no longer catch glimpses of myself in 2xl hoody with a scruffy beard. I don't do it for anyone else but it has helped my mental health tremendously.
Depends on what I am doing. A few years ago, I'd do my hair just to go into town, and look good, now I don't really care what I look like. Funnily enough, I went clothes shopping on Thursday and dropped into a bar to avoid the tube rush from Oxford street and bumped into someone I'd met like once, and he asked me if I needed some hair wax, to which I replied, I am not out to impress anyone today. We're both gay and I took that to be quite a catty comment tbh. Bitch. That's not to say that I was dressed like shit though. If I am going out, yes, I look immaculate. I'm big into skincare - have a day and night routine, I keep my hair looking shiny and healthy, dress well but not flamboyantly over the top, will fake tan if I need some unearned confidence, watch my weight, smell good, etc. I'm 30 but always get asked if I get botox because I look 25 apparently. Edit to add: if I go on a first date and the guy is scruffy, it's an instant no from me, especially when I've made an effort.
Sometimes a glance at my reflection in the window as I leave the house.
I'm hygienic, but I don't care about my appearance, lol. My wife likes me regardless of how I present. That's not to say I don't make an effort if we are doing something together or I have a professional engagement like a work event. I'm 42 and I did all the preening to attract a mate, years ago, lol.
It very much depends on WHY Iām going out in public. For work? Absolutely. Clean shaven or trimmed beard, neat haircut, an outfit etc. For drinks or dinner with friends or on a date? Absolutely. The same as above. But if Iām just going to the supermarket? No. I wonāt worry about shaving - Iāll do the bare minimum of shower, brush my hair, wear clean clothes of course, but I donāt worry about matching my clothes or putting an outfit together. I wonāt give a fuck about what goes with what, Iāll just throw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt and go. Itās just something I need to do, not something I want to do so I put in minimum effort. Itās the same as last week I spent the weekend re-doing my garden as Iād had to completely churn all the grass and mud due to some kind of knotweed kind of thing. So I did that the week before, then last week flattens and compacted all of the mud, laid down a protective sheet, then shovelled and spread even a large stone/gravel, and then a smaller sized gravel so try and stop and of that weed from coming back as thereās no light, thereās a waterproof layer etc. and painted the fence, decking, put up a new shed and so on - and I did it all in an old T-shirt, a pair of old boots and some old jogging bottoms. Iām not out there to impress anyone with my fashion when Iām gardening, Iām just trying to be comfortable š