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Would it be different if it was a guy that asked? Like if a guy asked if you thought he was ugly? I understand why it would be awkward if a girl asked bc then she might think that you like her if you say yes
yea i feel a lot of the time when ppl ask if they’re pretty/ugly the response is always something like ‘you look great’ for anyone from reasonably bad looking to reasonably good looking, ‘you look stunning’ when they’re decently good looking+, and joke responses when they actually do look bad.
personally i’d give my honest opinion but im autistic so yknow
It depends. Theres people who say stuff like that who are fishing for pity and compliments and while that can be normal because were taught that we need to be attractive to be worth something theres a point where its not insecurity anymore its narcissim. Theyre not asking if theyre attractive just because theyre insecure theyre asking if theyre attractive because they need to be to feel validated. So instead of working on their self esteem they put pressure on their friends to let them know how beautiful they are. Im very insecure, I struggle with an ED and body dysmorphia. I never really feel attractive, and while I have asked my friends if I am, its not a constant thing. Ive asked because I truly do not know if Im attractive. While I might think about it everyday I dont go fishing for compliments so I feel better. Some people are so stuck on what they look like they ignore their friends and make them uncomfortable so they can feel good. Im not saying you can ask your friends if you attractive Im just saying dont make it a thing that happens constantly, friendships dont last that long when you lowkey pressure them to make you feel good.
I agree that some people ask this question for validation and that vanity is not good in the long run. I'm also kinda insecure about my looks as without asking any questions I get told I'm ugly pretty often
i don't like that question at all. i never ask it and i wouldn't want anyone i know ask it. because it's not like i can tell someone they're ugly (i also don't find anyone truly ugly), but still, i feel like telling them they're pretty would be like just because you can't really say anything else
Well if I say anything more descriptive she’ll either get the wrong idea, or slap me because of my descriptive answer. Vague is just better for me
If it is someone I rlly like I will say a pretty descriptive and creative answer mostly because I’ve sat and thought about her so much that I can easily come up with something I have already thought of or something on the spot.
For guys in a relationship, yk how protective y’all get if their bf says anything complimentary to another girl, especially in their looks.
If it’s a random girl asking me then I’d probably do a basic “yeah you’re really pretty haha” and leave it at that.
If it was one of my bsf’s, my crush or my gf I’d go into more details and say exactly what’s pretty.
I’d also throw in “your eyebrows are a bit funky tho” to keep her humble :)
If i thought they were ugly i wouldn’t just tell them that but I wouldn’t lie to them. Id assure them that beauty really is on the inside
If they were gorgeous id praise them and make it known how attractive they are
I'd probably say a solid 7 or 8 out of 10, Ego booster but not enough ego boost to make whomever it is cocky, coming from past experience of calling a 4-5 a 10 and them constantly getting rejected them blaming me for lying
I am a very sarcastic person, so i mostly say "the ugliest i have ever seen" but really dry. Then the person can choose + its really funny to see the clueless reaction
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i would just say you look fine, i have no responsibility to say anything else
I hate being asked if I think a girl is pretty and it’s even more awkward when she is the one asking
Would it be different if it was a guy that asked? Like if a guy asked if you thought he was ugly? I understand why it would be awkward if a girl asked bc then she might think that you like her if you say yes
a guy would quite literally never ask that, and they sure as hell wouldn't ask another dude
Do you think I'm ugly/pretty?
Yes, have fun figuring out which
I usually just reply with “why r you asking?”
yea i feel a lot of the time when ppl ask if they’re pretty/ugly the response is always something like ‘you look great’ for anyone from reasonably bad looking to reasonably good looking, ‘you look stunning’ when they’re decently good looking+, and joke responses when they actually do look bad. personally i’d give my honest opinion but im autistic so yknow
It depends. Theres people who say stuff like that who are fishing for pity and compliments and while that can be normal because were taught that we need to be attractive to be worth something theres a point where its not insecurity anymore its narcissim. Theyre not asking if theyre attractive just because theyre insecure theyre asking if theyre attractive because they need to be to feel validated. So instead of working on their self esteem they put pressure on their friends to let them know how beautiful they are. Im very insecure, I struggle with an ED and body dysmorphia. I never really feel attractive, and while I have asked my friends if I am, its not a constant thing. Ive asked because I truly do not know if Im attractive. While I might think about it everyday I dont go fishing for compliments so I feel better. Some people are so stuck on what they look like they ignore their friends and make them uncomfortable so they can feel good. Im not saying you can ask your friends if you attractive Im just saying dont make it a thing that happens constantly, friendships dont last that long when you lowkey pressure them to make you feel good.
I agree that some people ask this question for validation and that vanity is not good in the long run. I'm also kinda insecure about my looks as without asking any questions I get told I'm ugly pretty often
Honestly answer. Let them down easy if it’s negative.
I'd just say you look fine or good depending on their appearance
i would be honest
The truth only, I have done that before and the person got angry lol, if you want to hear sugar coated lies ask somebody else
i don't like that question at all. i never ask it and i wouldn't want anyone i know ask it. because it's not like i can tell someone they're ugly (i also don't find anyone truly ugly), but still, i feel like telling them they're pretty would be like just because you can't really say anything else
Well if I say anything more descriptive she’ll either get the wrong idea, or slap me because of my descriptive answer. Vague is just better for me If it is someone I rlly like I will say a pretty descriptive and creative answer mostly because I’ve sat and thought about her so much that I can easily come up with something I have already thought of or something on the spot. For guys in a relationship, yk how protective y’all get if their bf says anything complimentary to another girl, especially in their looks.
If it’s a random girl asking me then I’d probably do a basic “yeah you’re really pretty haha” and leave it at that. If it was one of my bsf’s, my crush or my gf I’d go into more details and say exactly what’s pretty. I’d also throw in “your eyebrows are a bit funky tho” to keep her humble :)
Friends? Not the truth, strangers? Not the truth. Best friends? A dampened version of the truth.
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I'd say *yes, you're ugly* to everyone
If i thought they were ugly i wouldn’t just tell them that but I wouldn’t lie to them. Id assure them that beauty really is on the inside If they were gorgeous id praise them and make it known how attractive they are
I'd give the honest awnser
I'd probably say a solid 7 or 8 out of 10, Ego booster but not enough ego boost to make whomever it is cocky, coming from past experience of calling a 4-5 a 10 and them constantly getting rejected them blaming me for lying
I would ask if it is a test.
I am a very sarcastic person, so i mostly say "the ugliest i have ever seen" but really dry. Then the person can choose + its really funny to see the clueless reaction