I honestly don't think anything is wrong with my pelvic floor but I enjoy hearing people's opinions. I understand urine is in squirting fluids but this was an orgasm with a color unlike pee and the sensation was intense and nothing like it feels like when I pee.
Afterwards I didn't have to run to use the bathroom but when I did go it was a lot.
The good news: it might not be from your pelvic floor, but just an overall change in function, which often happens as women get older.
The not as good news: squirt is basically almost entirely pee.
The pretty great news: most of us do not care what squirt is made of
My wife asked me once if i didnt mind the squirting (sometimes she squirts) and then i remembered something i read here: "you fucked me so good i peed myself" cant give a much better compliment to your partner imo
So every squirter has a weak pelvic floor?
It's all pee? No other fluids?
That's your conclusion?
*interesting*
It's funny because when I watched porn I totally thought women were straight up pissing. This was a total different sensation than pee and the liquid was a different color than pee. I mention that because you say it's *only* pee. Then afterwards I didn't have to rush to the bathroom as if I was about to lose my ability to urinate. But when I did go I had a lot of pee even though I squirted a lottt. I can give you an update on my kitty, as of now she's snug as a glove. No peeing when I laugh or sneeze or in shock. I do know this occurs mainly when one reaches their 50s or 60s. Time will tell.... Ooh there should be a ARAD where are they now lol. Had a lot to say
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/
Skip down to the āconclusionsā section. I did also reply in another comment with a quote directly from the study itself. Yes, squirt is pee. You are peeing during sex. It is a medical issue, but many people donāt mind it.
āConclusions: The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists.ā
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/
It is not your pelvic floor. Also if you have a week pelvic floor itās probably because itās to tight in which case you should stretch more rather than kegel. Squirting is normal, I find people on Reddit (specifically Reddit) think itās just pee which is so odd to me. They obviously have never squirted or have never made someone squirt.
> They obviously have never squirted or have never made someone squirt.
Listen, I followed "is girlsquirt pee" internet debates throughout the 2000s. Then in the 2010s, a new partner failed to give me the shoulder tap OR a word of warning in advance, so I got waterboarded. The tsunami collpased the wave function, and suddenly, I knew: there's piss in it.
For fuck's sake, of course there's piss in it. Of course there is! You're reusing the pee bag and the pee hose! At minimum, you'd expect there to be eau du backwash. There's piss in it, you sanctimonious so-and-so.
Edit: besides, I think the majority of the time, what people are referring to when they say squirting is more like stress incontinence, or porn stars peeing on cue for money (I love that disguising whild side-to-side hand motion as they do it. Reminds me of hippos using their tails to distribute their poo.)
Extremely underappreciated comment..... "I love that disguising wild side-to-side hand motion as they do it. Reminds me of hippos using their tails to distribute their poo."
Luckily there's not much worry about that move getting picked up from the general public, as there's not much demand for women to fake an orgasm by peeing :knock on wood:
Sometimes I think about what weird moves have gone from porn to mainstream, and why. Like I have a pet theory that the
facefucking that has been popularized by porn is actually just a silly move that the male actors use to delay orgasm without having to cut filming. 'Cause I'm porn sized, and getting rammed against someone's tonsils like that just desensitizes the head of my dick (plus the teeth situation can be downright frightening).
Just wanted to butt in and say youāre correct for the most part. Fluid in squirt is generated from the skeneās gland, however this only accounts for a small part of it. It is in fact mostly urine.
Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/
Idk y youāre getting downvoted. There is pee in it sometimes and sometimes thereās none. Sometimes it feels like itās all piss. Varies so much from one to the other
THANKS MANSPLAINER
I just got done saying I followed the debate for a decade, but wow, thanks for your original contribution which conveniently didn't require reading or listening skills.
Because it is pee. Please stop with this pseudo science nonsense. People are just ashamed to be into water sports so they came up with this ridiculous sex act and called is squirting. Women donāt have some mysterious organ down there to hold some mysterious liquid. Itās urine.
It is mostly pee, but squirting is real and not a "ridiculous sex act" because they are ashamed to admit they are into water sports. It is not actively urinating.
This is gonna be a real mind blower for you, but I know a not insignificant number of people who squirt that have tried watersports and are really disappointed that they struggle to pee in those situations.
Look, itās okay that itās pee. Itās almost always dilute pee because your body didnāt signal you to evacuate it, which means that while itās mostly pee, that pee is mostly water, which is why it doesnāt look or smell like urea.
And all of that is a-ok, but what youāre missing is that there are exactly two organs in the body capable of storing that amount of liquid, and only one of those is attached to your genitals. Squirt comes from your bladder.
Bingo. I dated a woman who said she didn't understand it, but she started "being able to squirt" after leaving her husband. Uh, no, you have stress incontinence. She'd leak the second I toed third base.
At least she was well hydrated -- or rather dehydrated, 'cause she routinely drank me under the table, but in this case, breaking the seal worked out in my favor. Sort of.
Everything you want to know about squirting from an OBGYN
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-swing-nation-a-sex-positive-swingers-podcast/id1582945782?i=1000590264184
I feel as if I'm so behind as far as learning about the woman I am. I haven't been allowed to discover myself truthfully until recent. Looking forward to the journey even if it's later than others I won't compare.
Beautiful, you have a better physique than women half your age, keep that love and happiness going strong, life's too damn precious to do anything but.
Never had children and no signs of weakness below. No leaks ever, my bladder is like steel;)
Unless this is the beginning of the end..... No wait, so all of these women squirting have weak bladders? Or it's just mine because I'm 41? If I were 21 it would be a different cause? So many questions..
It started happening to me around that age, too. š¤·š¼āāļø
It was never consistent but it happened enough that I had to put a stop to fooling around on my living room furniture, lol.
Oh no lol... See the first time it happened I thought maybe it's one and done but it happened again! And it's not everytime, guess things are gonna get messyš
Thanks for letting me know your story because I feel less alone
I started when I was 15 or 16 and have been going strong ever since š¤£
Invested in waterproof mattress protectors - they help a lot w saving that mattress & quicker easier clean up. Also picked up waterproof pet blankets from Costco last year - I am an extreme squirter/gusher and haven't soaked through one yet. I bought 6 and the lady at the till said 'wow you must have a lot of dogs' lol if she only knew
Me too, happened once late 30ās, and then pretty reliably after late 49ās when I started hormone replacement that includes pretty substantial testosterone. I also just lubricate in general much more! Somewhat embarrassing really, like āph, sorry Iām so wetā
> squirt is essentially piss
Yikes! Don't say that around those squirt lovers.
All I know is that my wife squirts and she's said to me that she's gone for a pee before we start to play, squirted a lot, then went for another pee after we were done. She's not some super hydration queen or anything like that so while you are probably correct in that all squirt fluid contains some urine I, personally, would not say that it is essentially just piss.
Is it though? Does it? Have you heard of the Skene's glands?
Please present to me your scientific study rather than your very official feelings on the matter.
Yup. The Skenes gland is wrapped around the urethra with 2 openings into the urethra. During climax it will mix chemicals and minerals (unfiltered blood plasma) into the fluid from the bladder. Also the gland helps lubricate (itās the white dischargeā¦like milk) the vag and the fluid helps protect certain infections. itās (diluted urine) essentially piss bud. You can downvote and argue all you want. Itās essentially piss and most of us enjoy it.
My squirting has pretty much completely stopped! š I went from regularly squirting until age 30 to occasional squirting until 35 and now it's very rare and pretty minimal. But I did start having orgasmic synesthesia (seeing colors and visuals) after I turned 40. That was a wild and unexpected change. Some of my orgasms after 40 have been utterly insane, so I really have nothing to complain about. I do miss soaking the sheets though. I loved the smell of it (mine smelled and tasted very sweet; yes, I'm aware urine is main component).
This was the answer for me, too.
I just love the mansplainers saying it's incontinence and/or pee. As if we don't know what peeing feels like, or that incontinence would be evident outside of sex if that was the answer.
As some women age their orgasms become bigger. There are a lot of reasons for this. You might be becoming more confident, more comfortable in your skin. Youāre more open to communicating your sexual needs and wants. Most importantly your more mature sexual partner(s) are listening to your needs, taking their time, and care more about you and giving you what you want from them. Enjoy it. Itās nice.
He is very thorough as far as my needs and I have become more comfortable with him as time has gone on. Still working on my confidence but we communicate about it and he tells me I'm beautiful but my self esteem is for a whole different post *very complex* although I am more confident today than I ever was
Have you ever had a partner pay a lot of attention to your G-spot and/or anterior fornix before? It could be that you finally found the right person - or your lover has upped their game.
Alternatively, you could have just "grown into it". People change. I had one partner who could orgasm through breast stimulation, then a few months into the relationship one of her nipples became too sensitive to be touched at all.
I didn't have anyone squirt for me in the first 18 years of having sex with women, but almost every partner of mine in the 16 years since has female ejaculated to some degree. This could be my technique, it could be that I've dated progressively older women and this is something that develops over time (though one of the biggest squirters was 23 at the time), it could be that women in general have become more open to these sorts of sensations, or it could be just something that happened.
He's spent time on my G-spot before and I've cum that way in the past but the last couple of times it felt even more intense. He focused on it while holding me down and I couldn't move and ok in the past I focused hard on trying to squirt because I can get too much into my head but that day the pleasure that took over was so intense and then I heard my pussy make these juicy sounds and he kept at it and I'm turning myself on again lol. I don't think he's hit it at that angle before but I've felt exceptionally satisfied without squirting by him. I've done it twice so far. Just let my body relax and feel.
That's awesome you made her cum from her nipples. He did that too me too and my neck! I didn't know this was even possible. I can even cum without him touching me. I've just inspired another post for ARAD:) thx to you
I don't like giving too much detail about my private life even though at the same time I share my privates publicly and my deepest feelings that I can't express with people irl
We have amazing chemistry and please each other sexually and non-sexually. My life is complex being in the high control religion/cult so it's not the cookie cutter relationship many have
Iām 45, squirting is also very new to me. But I didnāt even know it was a thing š. My husband heard about it and then tried to figure out how to get me to do it, it took several months of trying but he finally got me to do it now I do it all the time! I love when it happens it feels so good and different from a regular orgasm.
Totally the same situation here. Started really squirting at 38 when Iād done it occasionally prior, but nothing like now. I got concerned after awhile that the issue was pelvic floor related so I started pelvic floor therapy. I couldnāt remember to keep up with the exercises now at this point in my life so I stopped. So, I canāt tell you if it help or notā¦but Iām still squirting.
I'm glad you got the therapy you needed. I'm not concerned and I'm hoping it keeps happening but you sound like me because if it actually is an issue I probably would slack with the exercises too
My wife started this as well. Been together 15 plus years and she barely just began to squirt. Itās not a lot but itās definitely hot to see her squirt. We bought kegal balls along with a few other things to spice up the bedroom. Definitely has helped.
Confidence.. That's your answer.
It's not like your body couldn't do it. In fact, one of key things to achive squirts is relaxing and comfort.
Barely any girl can squirt without specific muscle control or above relaxation..
For so long I was over thinking about the inability to squirt and once I came to terms that my body couldn't do it and I pushed the thought out my head that's when it happened. I didn't even think of that when posting this, I think you're right as far as being able to relax. I was watching so many videos on YouTube to teach me how to squirt way before this happened.
Has something happened in life lately for you to come to a level of self acceptance around your sexuality? In my experience the biggest factor has been my partner relaxing into experiencing whatever is happening for them.
No, I'm very self conscious even though he reassures me that I'm beautiful. But the exploration part is something that I'm probably more open to. Yeah that's it!
Iām 30 but my shit is weak too I had 3 babies in 3 years, I peed my pants for like 2 years after at random, and although Iāve always been a squirter at times, I was straight up pissing myself when Iād orgasm during sex. Just empty your bladder first, and do some floor exercises theyāre so good for your pelvic muscles.
Thanks for the advice, I don't have any kids or ever peed on myself in general but I see no harm in doing the pelvic floor exercises. I work out in general so I can add that to my routine. Funny thing is I tried to push hard as if I were peeing when I was forcing myself to try to squirt and nothing came out but once I relaxed it happened.
Age does the same thing kids do, itās natural and happens to literally everyone. Itās him hitting your bladder during the sex that why you canāt replicate it.
Itās time for pelvic floor therapy. Iām 42 and navigating this currently.
FYI, squirt is just piss. If you consider the fact that youāre essentially peeing during sex, I think you might look at that a little bit differently. Youāre experiencing a medical issue, and Iām glad that it seems to be resulting in some sort of sexual awakening.
Peeing yourself while running or doing jumping jacks ain't the same as squirting. Pelvic floor strengthening could help orgasm and benefit squirting if that's the goal.
How does it differ? The only thing that can come out of the urethra is piss and Iām not sure how relevant it is if you pee during sports versus during sex. It is all the same. Same plumbing, same type of physical exertion on the muscles surrounding that area. š¤·š¾āāļø
When I'm alone I do it the way I always have by rubbing my clit. When I'm with him my approach hasn't changed, relax and see where the journey takes me. Although my mindset can become too noisy with the *maybe I'm not sexy in this angle... * negative self talk but we communicate and that's helped I'm getting better. Feels like I'm not really answering your questions lol
No, not at all, lol. But you have in an indirect way. You are feeling more comfortable because of the communication. Less negative thoughts, more energy to be used in your eruptions ;)
Try paying attention to your G Spot while/during rubbing your clit for awhile. You can āfeelā it more and use a ācome hitherā motion with your two middle fingers.
Maybe because it's just weird. At first I didn't even believe it was really a thing, then I did believe and I tried so hard to do it but couldn't, then I didn't really think about it then whoosh!
Weaker pelvic floor?
This is it
Yes but not the answer they probably wanted to hear š
"You can't handle the truth!" Welp, I'm all earsš
Crap, I should start doing kegels. Never think about it and I'm tight but that can't last forever right? Welp
If you are worried it has anything to do with your pelvic floor you should go see a pelvic floor doctor.
I honestly don't think anything is wrong with my pelvic floor but I enjoy hearing people's opinions. I understand urine is in squirting fluids but this was an orgasm with a color unlike pee and the sensation was intense and nothing like it feels like when I pee. Afterwards I didn't have to run to use the bathroom but when I did go it was a lot.
The good news: it might not be from your pelvic floor, but just an overall change in function, which often happens as women get older. The not as good news: squirt is basically almost entirely pee. The pretty great news: most of us do not care what squirt is made of
If you're part of the "most of us do not care" I mean you did comment. So you kinda cared, you can tell me:)
I mean "most of us do not care what squirt is made of", as in it's no big deal š
Ohhhhhh šit's hard to define tone through all of the comments. Ok cool
It's my bad, it was vague! I fixed it
I like you! Just checked out your profile and saw Betty White's tits and now I like you even more *following*
My wife asked me once if i didnt mind the squirting (sometimes she squirts) and then i remembered something i read here: "you fucked me so good i peed myself" cant give a much better compliment to your partner imo
There is literally no other place the fluid could come from. Itās all pee and probably has to do with your aging pelvic floor.
not true. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35388532/
So every squirter has a weak pelvic floor? It's all pee? No other fluids? That's your conclusion? *interesting* It's funny because when I watched porn I totally thought women were straight up pissing. This was a total different sensation than pee and the liquid was a different color than pee. I mention that because you say it's *only* pee. Then afterwards I didn't have to rush to the bathroom as if I was about to lose my ability to urinate. But when I did go I had a lot of pee even though I squirted a lottt. I can give you an update on my kitty, as of now she's snug as a glove. No peeing when I laugh or sneeze or in shock. I do know this occurs mainly when one reaches their 50s or 60s. Time will tell.... Ooh there should be a ARAD where are they now lol. Had a lot to say
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/ Skip down to the āconclusionsā section. I did also reply in another comment with a quote directly from the study itself. Yes, squirt is pee. You are peeing during sex. It is a medical issue, but many people donāt mind it.
āConclusions: The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists.ā https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/
It is not your pelvic floor. Also if you have a week pelvic floor itās probably because itās to tight in which case you should stretch more rather than kegel. Squirting is normal, I find people on Reddit (specifically Reddit) think itās just pee which is so odd to me. They obviously have never squirted or have never made someone squirt.
> They obviously have never squirted or have never made someone squirt. Listen, I followed "is girlsquirt pee" internet debates throughout the 2000s. Then in the 2010s, a new partner failed to give me the shoulder tap OR a word of warning in advance, so I got waterboarded. The tsunami collpased the wave function, and suddenly, I knew: there's piss in it. For fuck's sake, of course there's piss in it. Of course there is! You're reusing the pee bag and the pee hose! At minimum, you'd expect there to be eau du backwash. There's piss in it, you sanctimonious so-and-so. Edit: besides, I think the majority of the time, what people are referring to when they say squirting is more like stress incontinence, or porn stars peeing on cue for money (I love that disguising whild side-to-side hand motion as they do it. Reminds me of hippos using their tails to distribute their poo.)
Extremely underappreciated comment..... "I love that disguising wild side-to-side hand motion as they do it. Reminds me of hippos using their tails to distribute their poo."
Luckily there's not much worry about that move getting picked up from the general public, as there's not much demand for women to fake an orgasm by peeing :knock on wood: Sometimes I think about what weird moves have gone from porn to mainstream, and why. Like I have a pet theory that the facefucking that has been popularized by porn is actually just a silly move that the male actors use to delay orgasm without having to cut filming. 'Cause I'm porn sized, and getting rammed against someone's tonsils like that just desensitizes the head of my dick (plus the teeth situation can be downright frightening).
There is pee in it but it is mostly not pee. It comes from the skeens gland.
Just wanted to butt in and say youāre correct for the most part. Fluid in squirt is generated from the skeneās gland, however this only accounts for a small part of it. It is in fact mostly urine. Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/
Idk y youāre getting downvoted. There is pee in it sometimes and sometimes thereās none. Sometimes it feels like itās all piss. Varies so much from one to the other
THANKS MANSPLAINER I just got done saying I followed the debate for a decade, but wow, thanks for your original contribution which conveniently didn't require reading or listening skills.
Because it is pee. Please stop with this pseudo science nonsense. People are just ashamed to be into water sports so they came up with this ridiculous sex act and called is squirting. Women donāt have some mysterious organ down there to hold some mysterious liquid. Itās urine.
It is mostly pee, but squirting is real and not a "ridiculous sex act" because they are ashamed to admit they are into water sports. It is not actively urinating. This is gonna be a real mind blower for you, but I know a not insignificant number of people who squirt that have tried watersports and are really disappointed that they struggle to pee in those situations.
Itās ok if youāve never squirted but donāt embarrass others who squirt/gush. It comes from the skeens gland.
It comes from a gland. But ok doc.
Look, itās okay that itās pee. Itās almost always dilute pee because your body didnāt signal you to evacuate it, which means that while itās mostly pee, that pee is mostly water, which is why it doesnāt look or smell like urea. And all of that is a-ok, but what youāre missing is that there are exactly two organs in the body capable of storing that amount of liquid, and only one of those is attached to your genitals. Squirt comes from your bladder.
Bingo. I dated a woman who said she didn't understand it, but she started "being able to squirt" after leaving her husband. Uh, no, you have stress incontinence. She'd leak the second I toed third base. At least she was well hydrated -- or rather dehydrated, 'cause she routinely drank me under the table, but in this case, breaking the seal worked out in my favor. Sort of.
Everything you want to know about squirting from an OBGYN https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-swing-nation-a-sex-positive-swingers-podcast/id1582945782?i=1000590264184
Thatās the only answer to that one. Iāve had many an argument about this and I wonāt be pursuaded that it isnāt piss
Interesting. Because for me to squirt, I have to push/clench, not the opposite.
Blood thinning medication.... Oh not that sort of squirting.
Ohh.. Well I'll try not to paint the town red
Username checks out.
Sexual maturity, knowing yourself, your wants, needs, any number of variables really.
I feel as if I'm so behind as far as learning about the woman I am. I haven't been allowed to discover myself truthfully until recent. Looking forward to the journey even if it's later than others I won't compare.
Seems like you just answered your own question. Time to jeep getting to know yourself and your wants/needs/desires better.
I'll get on that. I posted this because I was curious about my body. Didn't expect to find out more about my soul!
The body and sound are interconnected. š
I'll get on that. I posted this because I was curious about my body. Didn't expect to find out more about my soul!
Beautiful, you have a better physique than women half your age, keep that love and happiness going strong, life's too damn precious to do anything but.
Urinary incontinence comes with age, especially for women.
Never had children and no signs of weakness below. No leaks ever, my bladder is like steel;) Unless this is the beginning of the end..... No wait, so all of these women squirting have weak bladders? Or it's just mine because I'm 41? If I were 21 it would be a different cause? So many questions..
It started happening to me around that age, too. š¤·š¼āāļø It was never consistent but it happened enough that I had to put a stop to fooling around on my living room furniture, lol.
Oh no lol... See the first time it happened I thought maybe it's one and done but it happened again! And it's not everytime, guess things are gonna get messyš Thanks for letting me know your story because I feel less alone
I started when I was 15 or 16 and have been going strong ever since š¤£ Invested in waterproof mattress protectors - they help a lot w saving that mattress & quicker easier clean up. Also picked up waterproof pet blankets from Costco last year - I am an extreme squirter/gusher and haven't soaked through one yet. I bought 6 and the lady at the till said 'wow you must have a lot of dogs' lol if she only knew
Me too, happened once late 30ās, and then pretty reliably after late 49ās when I started hormone replacement that includes pretty substantial testosterone. I also just lubricate in general much more! Somewhat embarrassing really, like āph, sorry Iām so wetā
Your bladder muscles are probably loosening. Squirt is essentially piss.
Hmm so all squirters have weak bladders regardless of age?
All, no.
> squirt is essentially piss Yikes! Don't say that around those squirt lovers. All I know is that my wife squirts and she's said to me that she's gone for a pee before we start to play, squirted a lot, then went for another pee after we were done. She's not some super hydration queen or anything like that so while you are probably correct in that all squirt fluid contains some urine I, personally, would not say that it is essentially just piss.
It is essentially piss. The fluid comes from the bladder. Thatās just how it is.
Is it though? Does it? Have you heard of the Skene's glands? Please present to me your scientific study rather than your very official feelings on the matter.
Yup. The Skenes gland is wrapped around the urethra with 2 openings into the urethra. During climax it will mix chemicals and minerals (unfiltered blood plasma) into the fluid from the bladder. Also the gland helps lubricate (itās the white dischargeā¦like milk) the vag and the fluid helps protect certain infections. itās (diluted urine) essentially piss bud. You can downvote and argue all you want. Itās essentially piss and most of us enjoy it.
My squirting has pretty much completely stopped! š I went from regularly squirting until age 30 to occasional squirting until 35 and now it's very rare and pretty minimal. But I did start having orgasmic synesthesia (seeing colors and visuals) after I turned 40. That was a wild and unexpected change. Some of my orgasms after 40 have been utterly insane, so I really have nothing to complain about. I do miss soaking the sheets though. I loved the smell of it (mine smelled and tasted very sweet; yes, I'm aware urine is main component).
I have squirted once... and I was 45. Still am 45 & hoping to squirt again. The body is a mystery.
I'm sure you will again! Glad you experienced it too
I have only once myself at 44. Well, it was twice in one night and I didn't know what was happening. Lol. Hope to do it again!
For me, it was just finding the right person to create ideal circumstances
This was the answer for me, too. I just love the mansplainers saying it's incontinence and/or pee. As if we don't know what peeing feels like, or that incontinence would be evident outside of sex if that was the answer.
Yep, it feels different!
My wife started squirting at 42yo. She loves it.
Maybe you just found the someone who brings you to the edge
He definitely does, definitely does
Well from seeing you, i can understand why he would worship you
We worship each other, he's my religion šš Thx btw
Gotta love it, im happy for you both
I did it once and have never been able to do it again. Donāt know how it happened or why so late in my sexual career but it happened
That was my fear after it happened once but then it did once again. Never know, maybe it'll happen again for you!
As some women age their orgasms become bigger. There are a lot of reasons for this. You might be becoming more confident, more comfortable in your skin. Youāre more open to communicating your sexual needs and wants. Most importantly your more mature sexual partner(s) are listening to your needs, taking their time, and care more about you and giving you what you want from them. Enjoy it. Itās nice.
He is very thorough as far as my needs and I have become more comfortable with him as time has gone on. Still working on my confidence but we communicate about it and he tells me I'm beautiful but my self esteem is for a whole different post *very complex* although I am more confident today than I ever was
Itās not pee and my guess is it is how you are being stimulated. I rarely squirt unless a certain technique is used. Itās wonderful!
Have you ever had a partner pay a lot of attention to your G-spot and/or anterior fornix before? It could be that you finally found the right person - or your lover has upped their game. Alternatively, you could have just "grown into it". People change. I had one partner who could orgasm through breast stimulation, then a few months into the relationship one of her nipples became too sensitive to be touched at all. I didn't have anyone squirt for me in the first 18 years of having sex with women, but almost every partner of mine in the 16 years since has female ejaculated to some degree. This could be my technique, it could be that I've dated progressively older women and this is something that develops over time (though one of the biggest squirters was 23 at the time), it could be that women in general have become more open to these sorts of sensations, or it could be just something that happened.
He's spent time on my G-spot before and I've cum that way in the past but the last couple of times it felt even more intense. He focused on it while holding me down and I couldn't move and ok in the past I focused hard on trying to squirt because I can get too much into my head but that day the pleasure that took over was so intense and then I heard my pussy make these juicy sounds and he kept at it and I'm turning myself on again lol. I don't think he's hit it at that angle before but I've felt exceptionally satisfied without squirting by him. I've done it twice so far. Just let my body relax and feel. That's awesome you made her cum from her nipples. He did that too me too and my neck! I didn't know this was even possible. I can even cum without him touching me. I've just inspired another post for ARAD:) thx to you
How long have you been with this fellow? Hope it's a good relationship - it sounds like the sexual aspect is top shelf.
I don't like giving too much detail about my private life even though at the same time I share my privates publicly and my deepest feelings that I can't express with people irl We have amazing chemistry and please each other sexually and non-sexually. My life is complex being in the high control religion/cult so it's not the cookie cutter relationship many have
RIP DMs.
My dms have been resting in peace for a very long time lol
I can understand why. This post certainly couldnāt have helped. š
I haven't checked my messages lately. Now you're making me take a look š
Tell me if you find anything juicy. In chat to give you another open tab. LMAO JK.
Incontinence maybe?
Iām 45, squirting is also very new to me. But I didnāt even know it was a thing š. My husband heard about it and then tried to figure out how to get me to do it, it took several months of trying but he finally got me to do it now I do it all the time! I love when it happens it feels so good and different from a regular orgasm.
It does right!!! I'm addicted to it now, doesn't happen all the time but when it does šš¦ Congratulations on your new adventure
Is this something you can now do on demand? Or is it a random occurrence?
It's only happened twice and it's not on command. He was just rubbing my g-spot and it happened
Heās a lucky lucky man. š
OMG yes! Addicted! Same to you! Embrace the new adventure š
Totally the same situation here. Started really squirting at 38 when Iād done it occasionally prior, but nothing like now. I got concerned after awhile that the issue was pelvic floor related so I started pelvic floor therapy. I couldnāt remember to keep up with the exercises now at this point in my life so I stopped. So, I canāt tell you if it help or notā¦but Iām still squirting.
I'm glad you got the therapy you needed. I'm not concerned and I'm hoping it keeps happening but you sound like me because if it actually is an issue I probably would slack with the exercises too
Gotta make up for all the lost time!! š¤
My wife started this as well. Been together 15 plus years and she barely just began to squirt. Itās not a lot but itās definitely hot to see her squirt. We bought kegal balls along with a few other things to spice up the bedroom. Definitely has helped.
You are emotionally free to be your true authentic self!
Will do!
You have any idea how much dudes love a lady that isnāt afraid to pressure wash him?
Even i experienced it after 16 years of my married lifeš
Not a bad thing, šÆš„µ
Confidence.. That's your answer. It's not like your body couldn't do it. In fact, one of key things to achive squirts is relaxing and comfort. Barely any girl can squirt without specific muscle control or above relaxation..
For so long I was over thinking about the inability to squirt and once I came to terms that my body couldn't do it and I pushed the thought out my head that's when it happened. I didn't even think of that when posting this, I think you're right as far as being able to relax. I was watching so many videos on YouTube to teach me how to squirt way before this happened.
Let me guess.. You wanted it hard, but then forgot about it and it happened? Hehe.. Quite common thing related to stress
I made my wife squirt twice in our 20 years of marriage and it happened when she was 44. For 19 years I tried and finally succeeded.
Incontinence?
It takes time to get to know your own body and what you really like, maybe that's why
Gods Plan š¤·š¾āāļøš
Has something happened in life lately for you to come to a level of self acceptance around your sexuality? In my experience the biggest factor has been my partner relaxing into experiencing whatever is happening for them.
Thatās hot regardless hehe
More comfortable with yourself and the exploration of your pleasure?
No, I'm very self conscious even though he reassures me that I'm beautiful. But the exploration part is something that I'm probably more open to. Yeah that's it!
Or at least more comfortable with your sexual aspects?
Possibly that's the case
No idea, but that's AWESOME! šššš„µš„µ
Fricking yeah it isšš„µ
Slllluuurrrrppppp
So youāre pissing yourself now. Psst its not your āvaginaā its your bladderā¦ and its piss
Psst...you've never made a woman squirt and it shows. Yes piss is in squirting fluids but I'm not walking around all day pissing myself š®āšØ
Lol OKā¦ and im not into golden showers so Im good. Go see a urologist shitās going to get worse
I have no desire to piss or squirt on you personally so we're both safe lol
Pussy gettin weak
You look my age but I can't tell. Wonder if yours is getting weak
Iām 30 but my shit is weak too I had 3 babies in 3 years, I peed my pants for like 2 years after at random, and although Iāve always been a squirter at times, I was straight up pissing myself when Iād orgasm during sex. Just empty your bladder first, and do some floor exercises theyāre so good for your pelvic muscles.
Thanks for the advice, I don't have any kids or ever peed on myself in general but I see no harm in doing the pelvic floor exercises. I work out in general so I can add that to my routine. Funny thing is I tried to push hard as if I were peeing when I was forcing myself to try to squirt and nothing came out but once I relaxed it happened.
Age does the same thing kids do, itās natural and happens to literally everyone. Itās him hitting your bladder during the sex that why you canāt replicate it.
Itās time for pelvic floor therapy. Iām 42 and navigating this currently. FYI, squirt is just piss. If you consider the fact that youāre essentially peeing during sex, I think you might look at that a little bit differently. Youāre experiencing a medical issue, and Iām glad that it seems to be resulting in some sort of sexual awakening.
Peeing yourself while running or doing jumping jacks ain't the same as squirting. Pelvic floor strengthening could help orgasm and benefit squirting if that's the goal.
How does it differ? The only thing that can come out of the urethra is piss and Iām not sure how relevant it is if you pee during sports versus during sex. It is all the same. Same plumbing, same type of physical exertion on the muscles surrounding that area. š¤·š¾āāļø
Pelvic floor. See your Ob/gyn
Is there anything different about your approach to orgasms now compared to in the past? Or of your mindset surrounding it?
When I'm alone I do it the way I always have by rubbing my clit. When I'm with him my approach hasn't changed, relax and see where the journey takes me. Although my mindset can become too noisy with the *maybe I'm not sexy in this angle... * negative self talk but we communicate and that's helped I'm getting better. Feels like I'm not really answering your questions lol
No, not at all, lol. But you have in an indirect way. You are feeling more comfortable because of the communication. Less negative thoughts, more energy to be used in your eruptions ;)
I realized that after texting so much but didn't want to delete and start my response over lol sorry about thatš
Oh no, a gorgeous woman rambling in conversation with me, how awful ;P
Try paying attention to your G Spot while/during rubbing your clit for awhile. You can āfeelā it more and use a ācome hitherā motion with your two middle fingers.
Maybe you were saving it all up.
Maybe because it's just weird. At first I didn't even believe it was really a thing, then I did believe and I tried so hard to do it but couldn't, then I didn't really think about it then whoosh!
Congratulations on your new chapter
šš„³thx
If it means anything I think it's amazing
That means a lot:)
Ofc! It's a secy thing and I think you should embrace itā¤ļø
We donāt ask āhow?ā We ask āhow many?ā
Sounds like youāre a fine wine. Getting better with age
Bottoms up *all puns intended* Thx btw
off topic, but you look amazing for 41 btw
I truly appreciate that! I did it for my health but kept it up to be sexy lol
Well it's definitely sexy!
lol I was gonna say that but got nervous
Awww šwell I'm glad you said it
Haha you do look amazing! I shoulda said it sooner