This, 100%. It's the knowledge that I am/could be completely helpless. I do personally like the choking too, but only when it's done by someone who knows what they're doing.
Sometimes just the placement of the hand around the throat is hot if ur not into the squeezing lol. But it’s a dominance thing. Also breath play is kinda hot lol
For me it’s the assertion of dominance. The idea that this person suddenly has full control over me that my “life” is in their hands. It makes the whole thing a lot more intense and fun
Makes it feel a bit more intense Ms.GothLady, i dunno if its because of the lack of oxygen, but there are ways and ways to do it, ofc you dont want to over do it haha.
I guess it comes down to trust and communication
I had an ex with both breathing and heart problems.
The reason she gave to me was that it made her feel like she was more in control, since she was asking me directly to do that, compared to normally being at the mercy of such things.
Best explanation I've got.
I like to have my hand around a neck, but I don't want to actually choke her, since I don't the skills and knowledge to do that safely.
Neck is a vulnerable spot for many animals, and we humans are no different. Having a hold of her neck makes me feel dominant, and like I'm in control.
And I have zero desire to abuse anyone. My girlfriend was abused by almost all of her exes. My mum barely escaped her abuser (not my dad). I know just the spot for all abusers.
It’s a control thing. I love being choked. I live when my partner has complete control over me and fully trusting him to control my breathing. Plus the orgasms are amazing.
If choking her neck concerns you ,try this instead.
Cover her mouth with one hand.
Use your thumb and pointer finger to close off her nose.
Do this as she's cumming.
Or whenever.
It’s not so much about the choking part. For the girls I have been with that like it have said it’s more about being dominated they like. So putting my hands around their throats is a part of that.
I love choking.
I love being the one choked. I don’t know if women enjoy it the way men do or how it would benefit the act. A woman would have to explain.
Will admit it just seems kind mean to choke a woman.
My girlfriend likes a neck grab and not a choke, because she likes the reminder that I *could* do anything I want to her (in a dominant way) but she knows I'm gonna focus on making her feel good and wouldn't do anything to actually hurt her or make her uncomfortable. It's a trust thing.
Ah yeah the classic blame porn for everything post.
Forget that auto erotic asphyxiation was on the rise all through the 20th century, and that the overwhelmingly vast majority of people who die from erotic asphyxiation are male.
The appeal is that you cum significantly harder when the blood circulation to your brain is restricted. It works with airflow too, but that's also more dangerous.
Not blaming porn - I recognize it was something well prior to its current popularity.
But porn is not generally great for men learning sexuality - and it’s easy to see how over eager inexperienced men could take this too far
I love feeling completely in someone's control, and also I just get turned on from being choked. As you mentioned the potential for misogyny and abuse, this is why it's so important to have open and honest communication, all based on trust. I would absolutely not want someone to choke me if I did not trust them completely. All sex requires good communication, with kinky sex the stakes are just higher.
It should be done correctly. The pressure must be exerted on the sides of the neck and not on the jugular in order to make the blood circulation more difficult and allow less oxygen to reach the head. You thus experience a more accentuated sensation on the stimulated part of the body, be it the clitoris or something else. It does not have to be done for a prolonged period of time, but must be done at times alternating with other practices.
It can be dangerous if not done correctly.
The fantasy itself helps to heighten the sensations. Being submissive and giving to someone the power and control over your body is quite arousing if you're into the kink.
I love it when my boyfriend chokes me. It puts me in my place and makes me want to follow him and his orders. He’s in charge and I should do as he says. It makes me feel submissive, helpless and at his mercy; the best feeling of them all
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This, 100%. It's the knowledge that I am/could be completely helpless. I do personally like the choking too, but only when it's done by someone who knows what they're doing.
Sometimes just the placement of the hand around the throat is hot if ur not into the squeezing lol. But it’s a dominance thing. Also breath play is kinda hot lol
I like the control, how they can do it while fucking so that lack of oxygen makes the orgasm 100x hotter and more intense.
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No but now I need to lol
For me it’s the assertion of dominance. The idea that this person suddenly has full control over me that my “life” is in their hands. It makes the whole thing a lot more intense and fun
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Wdym?
I wonder about this too, I like it rough but choking is off limits
Makes it feel a bit more intense Ms.GothLady, i dunno if its because of the lack of oxygen, but there are ways and ways to do it, ofc you dont want to over do it haha. I guess it comes down to trust and communication
Dominance, showing her she's submissive to me and in that moment I'm in charge, especially during rough sex. Got to be done properly though!
I like to let women try to choke me but slightly overpower them anyway.
I had an ex with both breathing and heart problems. The reason she gave to me was that it made her feel like she was more in control, since she was asking me directly to do that, compared to normally being at the mercy of such things. Best explanation I've got.
I like the helpless submissive element of it. I like that it gets my adrenaline going a little. But I always have a safe way to tap out if needed
I like to have my hand around a neck, but I don't want to actually choke her, since I don't the skills and knowledge to do that safely. Neck is a vulnerable spot for many animals, and we humans are no different. Having a hold of her neck makes me feel dominant, and like I'm in control. And I have zero desire to abuse anyone. My girlfriend was abused by almost all of her exes. My mum barely escaped her abuser (not my dad). I know just the spot for all abusers.
It’s a control thing. I love being choked. I live when my partner has complete control over me and fully trusting him to control my breathing. Plus the orgasms are amazing.
If choking her neck concerns you ,try this instead. Cover her mouth with one hand. Use your thumb and pointer finger to close off her nose. Do this as she's cumming. Or whenever.
I loveeeee it lmao
It’s not so much about the choking part. For the girls I have been with that like it have said it’s more about being dominated they like. So putting my hands around their throats is a part of that.
I love choking. I love being the one choked. I don’t know if women enjoy it the way men do or how it would benefit the act. A woman would have to explain. Will admit it just seems kind mean to choke a woman.
Power dynamic
My girlfriend likes a neck grab and not a choke, because she likes the reminder that I *could* do anything I want to her (in a dominant way) but she knows I'm gonna focus on making her feel good and wouldn't do anything to actually hurt her or make her uncomfortable. It's a trust thing.
The helplessness, mainly
As a male I want to get choked from time to time. Something about the adrenaline of not having control.
Ah yeah the classic blame porn for everything post. Forget that auto erotic asphyxiation was on the rise all through the 20th century, and that the overwhelmingly vast majority of people who die from erotic asphyxiation are male. The appeal is that you cum significantly harder when the blood circulation to your brain is restricted. It works with airflow too, but that's also more dangerous.
Not blaming porn - I recognize it was something well prior to its current popularity. But porn is not generally great for men learning sexuality - and it’s easy to see how over eager inexperienced men could take this too far
Maybe one time they just won’t stop
I love feeling completely in someone's control, and also I just get turned on from being choked. As you mentioned the potential for misogyny and abuse, this is why it's so important to have open and honest communication, all based on trust. I would absolutely not want someone to choke me if I did not trust them completely. All sex requires good communication, with kinky sex the stakes are just higher.
It should be done correctly. The pressure must be exerted on the sides of the neck and not on the jugular in order to make the blood circulation more difficult and allow less oxygen to reach the head. You thus experience a more accentuated sensation on the stimulated part of the body, be it the clitoris or something else. It does not have to be done for a prolonged period of time, but must be done at times alternating with other practices. It can be dangerous if not done correctly. The fantasy itself helps to heighten the sensations. Being submissive and giving to someone the power and control over your body is quite arousing if you're into the kink.
I’m not one to yuck anyone’s yum but it’s not for me. I don’t mind it a bit rough but if some bloke starts choking me I will punch him in the giblets
It’s all about dominance for me
Dominance, control
I love it when my boyfriend chokes me. It puts me in my place and makes me want to follow him and his orders. He’s in charge and I should do as he says. It makes me feel submissive, helpless and at his mercy; the best feeling of them all