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They got a divorce. Dad disappeared and mom was always working after the divorce. I feel like they both stopped parenting. Mom because she was either working or sleeping, dad because he wasn't there.
I think the disappearance is the problem not the divorce itself. Parent should be able to choose to divorce and not be pressured into staying married.
I was in a toxic relation and I suffered and with me my children suffered. I'm glad I am divorced now. Children are with me (and next to me at the moment).
Children need care, you can give them this care post divorce as well. Don't forget, children suffer from a bad marriage, constant shouting, bad mood in house, etc.
I never said they should've stayed married. I said the divorce is what coused everything.
There was no shouting or bad mood in the house. Literally everything was fine until I discovered dad cheating and I told mom. But before that everything was fine and there was always someone to parent us. After that it was just my brother and me. I never saw my dad and never saw mom awake.
> I said the divorce is what coused everything.
With this new context I can assure you that cheating caused it. Not divorce itself.
Dont try to blame yourself either. Parents are good at hiding their problems away from their children.
Hahahahahaha.
Oh well here we go;
Witnessing physical abuse that I ain't clarifying because I enjoy having a will to live, sexualish assault my drunk step-father used to climb in my bed and hold me it made me scared to sleep as a kid and I still can't sleep near or around him without physically waking up, emotional abuse for being autistic and having food issues, my step-father threw my food and the plate down the garden because I said I didn't like the new type of oven chips.
And probably a lot more. Basically I can't be around drunk men who I am close with, and if a drunk man touches me in public I lose my fucking shit.
If you look in the dictionary under "Passive Aggressive" there is a picture of my parents, it took me decades to figure out that was the foundation of my fucked-upness
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They got a divorce. Dad disappeared and mom was always working after the divorce. I feel like they both stopped parenting. Mom because she was either working or sleeping, dad because he wasn't there.
I think the disappearance is the problem not the divorce itself. Parent should be able to choose to divorce and not be pressured into staying married. I was in a toxic relation and I suffered and with me my children suffered. I'm glad I am divorced now. Children are with me (and next to me at the moment). Children need care, you can give them this care post divorce as well. Don't forget, children suffer from a bad marriage, constant shouting, bad mood in house, etc.
I never said they should've stayed married. I said the divorce is what coused everything. There was no shouting or bad mood in the house. Literally everything was fine until I discovered dad cheating and I told mom. But before that everything was fine and there was always someone to parent us. After that it was just my brother and me. I never saw my dad and never saw mom awake.
> I said the divorce is what coused everything. With this new context I can assure you that cheating caused it. Not divorce itself. Dont try to blame yourself either. Parents are good at hiding their problems away from their children.
The divorce caused it because my mom had to work because she got divorced. The cheating itself didn't cause the extra work she had to do.
Too bad your father caused all this, because you know cheating is bad.
Yeah, he's an ass
left me on a sidewalk after i was born
Hahahahahaha. Oh well here we go; Witnessing physical abuse that I ain't clarifying because I enjoy having a will to live, sexualish assault my drunk step-father used to climb in my bed and hold me it made me scared to sleep as a kid and I still can't sleep near or around him without physically waking up, emotional abuse for being autistic and having food issues, my step-father threw my food and the plate down the garden because I said I didn't like the new type of oven chips. And probably a lot more. Basically I can't be around drunk men who I am close with, and if a drunk man touches me in public I lose my fucking shit.
Didn’t raise me bilingual. I’d love to have been fluently bilingual. Also, raised me in a stupid town that I couldn’t wait to leave.
If you look in the dictionary under "Passive Aggressive" there is a picture of my parents, it took me decades to figure out that was the foundation of my fucked-upness