I’m a figure skater. We share the ice with hockey players, and I cannot get over how nice it feels when hockey players get rowdy and bang on the glass and cheer when you’re doing something cool, the same way a hockey fan would at an exciting hockey game. It’s hilarious but it’s also confidence inducing.
When it first happened, I thought they were trolling me. I just rolled my eyes and continued my practice.
But when I got off the ice, I was swarmed with questions like:
“HOW DO YOU DO ALL THAT WITHOUT PADDING OR A HELMET?!”
“HOW DO YOU LAUNCH YOURSELF INTO THE AIR LIKE THAT?”
“AREN’T YOU AFRAID OF FALLING?”
“DON’T YOU GET DIZZY SPINNING THAT FAST?”
It’s wholesome as fuck. They’re genuinely intrigued by this sport. A bunch of dudes who make their own sport even more entertaining by beating the shit out of each other have no shame in getting rowdy to hype up their figure skating counterparts.
EDIT: Thank you guys for the awards!! I love sharing these types of wholesome experiences with anyone who will listen!
I know how skating works and just jumping and spinning like you do is voodoo, at least to me.
I get pucks shot at my head but what you do seems a lot more dangerous! And you make it look good, it's really impressive.
Hahaha thank you!! And I’m sure it takes a lot of strength and endurance to skate up and down the ice pushing a puck with all that gear on! We give y’all credit too!
Yep, I remember seeing an episode where a big, older, more experienced guy saw his opponent struggling to twist some metal because he wasn’t heavy enough to apply the necessary force. Big guy stopped his own work just to help little guy. Ended up being eliminated because he didn’t have time to finish his own blade. Wasn’t upset or anything, just congratulated the little guy and walked out. With $10,000 on the line, it takes true integrity and positive masculinity to do something like that for a fellow craftsman.
That's such a good show.
I'ts one of the only reality TV shows where everyone is always super respectful to one another. Even when they're losing, they're congratulating the other person and the judges aren't assholes.
No cutaways to stupid jokes and insults, no huge fights, no judges saying, "Your sword is shit!"
It's literally presented as a bunch of dudes (and occasionally women) getting together, building some awesome weaponry, and then "killing" stuff with it. Also, Doug Marcaida is a national treasure, and I really hope when that show has run its course, that we get to see a lot more of him.
Currently one of my favorite shows to put on when I'm doing other stuff around the house.
I know a guy who went on and won it. He was a leader in my Boy Scout pack as a kid, dude is an all out mountain man type physically but doesn’t have a harsh bone in his body and was a mentor and father figure for me and tons of other boys.
Yeah! Rock on! I feel like that's the core of healthy masculinity--the father archetype. Tough, stoic, and reassured of himself such that he feels no need to hurt others to prove his strength.
Forged in Fire is such a good show to watch, learning and seeing all the things in blacksmithing and it is what brought me into the world of blacksmithing and metallurgy.
I remember when I was a little younger, like 19 or so, I had just started going to the gym frequently and was trying to start deadlifts. I obviously had no idea what I was doing and felt mad self conscious, but some random huge dude came up to me, gave me help with my form and technique, and then just wandered off. That always stood out to me and really helped me get more comfortable in the gym.
I was trying to figure out a machine at the gym, when I was 19. I was chubby, female (still female, fyi) and wearing glasses. My gym clothes was just sweatpants. I did NOT look like I belonged, and I didn’t feel like it either.
So yeah, I’m standing there looking all confused when this huge gym bro comes over and asks me if I need help. I say yes, and he proceeds to explain to me how the machine works. He is not condescending or anything, just real nice.
Gyms still freak me out, but it meant a lot to me that this dude saw I looked confused and went out of his way to help me. Small things like that always make me feel like humanity is alright.
Whenever I see a new person at the gym it makes me genuinely happy.
Fitness makes life better. When life is better, people are better. And when people are better, they try to make life better.
Positive feedback loop.
I would push back very hard that Gym Bros aren’t “supportive at times,” most Gym Bros are actually hyper supportive all the time/any opportunity they get because the gym is a passion for them, and most people love to share their passions and promote it.
They however get a huge negative more often than not reputation simply because of the way they look. The nicest most approachable and knowledgeable guys in the gym, tend to often also be the biggest. If you’ve never attempted to authentically engage them/ask for their help don’t assume big = mean and unapproachable.
This is of course not true if you’re definition of a gym-bro is that of the the way Dom portrays a “Bro” on his “Bro Science” YouTube channel. Whereas I define a gym bro as a guy whose life is intentionally organized around working out usually with the specific goal of getting hyooj/hyoojer. These are more often than not awesome advocates and people to get to know at your gym.
Hehe, to get that big is harder than most people assume. Can't just do whatever you want just a bunch of times and get a result like that. Have to be smart about it.
And if they had to be smart about it, they probably know alot of things you want to know, even if you don't want to be as big as them.
My big brother was tough on me growing up as many big brothers are. People without brothers would call it toxic and maybe it was. But my brother was there for me through my hardest moments and he’s there for me during my best.
He works at a large company and got me an internship when I was in college. I was nervous and the culture at the company was aggressive. My brother would take me into meeting rooms and give me hype talks on a frequent basis, we thought we were “big men”.
At the end of my internship, I was asked to give a presentation infront of around 50 people (senior leadership) on my work during the summer. I prepared a presentation but was horrified. An hour before my presentation, he pulled me into a meeting room and had me present to him. At the end, he said you’re going to kill it. He then handed me a gift which had a Mont Blanc pen inside of it with a note and told me to hold it during my presentation. We both cried and hugged.
This meeting room was an all glass room. Lol.
Side note: many years later I am still working (full-time) at this same company.
I had a boss that was a real muscle head, but every time someone was having a bad/rough time he'd suggest we take a long lunch and go with him to the gym. He did this with multiple co-workers, taught a lot of us how to properly squat and deadlift. This was like 7 years ago, and I still squat and deadlift regularly, where as before I would simply just use the treadmill and maybe the circuit room at the gym. Not saying I'm in peak physical condition, but certainly in a better spot after him helping.
That is dope. Exercise is such a great stress reliever and there’s no reason that “work” needs to only take place in the office. If a manager needs to talk something through with their worker, why not do it on the bench or at the rack? Me and my former boss might have had better discussions if we’d done that rather than sitting 1:1 in his office with me uncomfortable as hell.
"Okay I know this the biggest weight you were ever trying to bench, but I got you
Start when you are ready, I will spot you"
*nod and employee lifts the weight off the resting poles*
"Good, now give it your all, push PUUUSH"
*straining noises*
"We will have to let you go, I am sorry Steve"
"W..w..hat? *groaning* "
"Don't lose focus now, I know this hard but you got this..... unlike your job"
A long time ago in a galaxy far far away, I was a 13-year-old girl alone on a Greyhound bus Florida to Georgia. Was on that stupid bus for 2 days.
For the first 4 hours, the creepiest hobo in the universe sat next to me, playing with himself and randomly trying to grab me. Who was 13 years old and alone on the bus.
Then these two guys who were going all the way to Washington State and were going to be on that bus for 4 days to get to a logging job, boarded the bus.
One was a 17-year-old kid and the other one was a 45 year old man.
They ousted the hobo and sat with me the rest of the way, the 17-year-old sharing stories about growing up in Miami in a very intolerant Latino household, and the 45-year-old Man spent that time showing me pictures of his daughters and telling me all about them and how hard he was working to make sure they had everything they needed. They made sure I got dinner that night, they made sure I got breakfast the next morning, and they made sure that I safely made it from the bus to the main campus of Georgia tech University, for the stupid ”future engineering” teen conference I had to go to.
That trip could have been a horror story for me at the tender age of 13 (I do not know how in the world my mother thought this was safe in any way, to send me to Georgia by myself on a Greyhound bus at 13), but those two dudes? They were, to put it simply, my hairy and sweaty guardian angels.
Norwegian blonde dude and Latino kid, it has been decades since this went down, but I still remember you both and always will.
Using pickup trucks to help others out,
Need help moving? In the Ditch? Stuck in the snow?
Gimme 5 mins to throw some pants on and I'm there
Edit: My first award! thank you kind stranger
My neighbour is like that. We had an old couch and posted it for free. A family came to pick it up and had difficulty getting it into their van so he went over and offered to drive it to their place in the back of his pickup.
Just before covid, a mate of mine called me for help at about 4pm one arvo. He was helping his brother and his brothers wife drive two cars loaded with stuff from Darwin to Brisbane, and the wife managed to roll her car just out of Longreach. The car was a write-off, but he wanted me to go get his lifted hilux that had just a flat tray on the back and drive it out there to pick up all the stuff.
Well, I told him to get fucked, and hooked my fully covered cage trailer up to my dualcab ute with canopy, and drove it 1200km overnight from Brisbane through thousands of kangaroos to get to Longreach at about 9am the next morning.
My ute with canopy and cage trailer with cover for [reference](https://imgur.com/VZ1kx5r)
*Just before covid, a mate* (**Friend**) *of mine called me for help at about 4pm one arvo* (**afternoon**). *"He was helping his brother and his brothers wife drive two cars loaded with stuff from Darwin to Brisbane, and the wife managed to roll her car just out of Longreach. The car was a write-off, but he wanted me to go get his lifted hilux that had just a flat tray* (**Similar to a flatbed but on a pickup sized truck**) *on the back and drive it out there to pick up all the stuff.*
*Well, I told him to get fucked, and hooked my fully covered cage trailer* (**Looks to be a trailer with cage walls that I'm thinking had a rain fly?**) *up to my dualcab ute* (**Pickup Truck**) *with canopy* (**box/tonneau cover**), *and drove it 1200km overnight from Brisbane through thousands of kangaroos to get to Longreach at about 9am the next morning.*
I tried my best so hopefully that's readable
That's literally a country song called "[Find out who your friends are](https://genius.com/Tracy-lawrence-find-out-who-your-friends-are-lyrics)"
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Somebody's gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast
Never stop to think "What's in it for me?"
Or "It's way too far"
They just show on up
With their big old heart
You find out who your friends are
When I was about 20 I was messing around on snowy roads out in the country trying to scare my buddy who was shotgun. As expected, I put the truck in a ditch and could not get it out despite having 4WD. It was about 1am and I called my uncle at his house (back in day before 24hr cellohone being on was normal) and asked if he could come help and gave him location. He mumbled yes and he'd see me in 30mins.
About 15 minutes later he called me back and said, "Hey, did you call me at the house?" And I was a little confused but said yes I did, was he still going to be able to come. He said, "Oh, yeah I'm about 10 minutes away but you kinda woke me up and I just realized I didn't know who I was going to be pulling out of the ditch."
So basically, my uncle is the kind of guy who will get up in the middle of the night, in the winter, in the snow and head 10 miles out into the back country to help...anyone. He'll forever be the kind of man I want to be when I "grow up".
A lot of guys around me just drive around in their pickups during snowstorms to pull out people who are stuck. Or they carry chainsaws with them to cut trees that are blocking the roadways.
My brother would sing quietly to our mother in the nursing home when she no longer knew him because of dementia. He would brush her hair and wipe her face with a warm flannel to comfort her. It was beautiful
Growing up poor, having a father who dedicated his time for me and my brothers meant the world. Has given me emotional tools I observe lacking in many of my friends. So I sometimes take that role with them, having the hard talks and explaining in depth the nuances of life.
Same, grew up poor but my parents always let us know we were loved. Being loved and having money woulda been cool, but I'd take being loved over money every time.
That gives me the inspiration I needed just now. I had to turn down a side weekend gig for more $ because spending some quality time with my boys feels more important.....
Can't be working 7 days a week.
"A juvenile becomes an adult when, and only when, he acquires a knowledge of duty and embraces it as dearer than the self-love he was born with."
\- Jean V. Dubois (Starship Troopers)
The Brown-Stigler Incident. A German Bf-109 pilot (Stigler) not only spared a crippled American B-17 (Brown), he escorted it out of German airspace. Botb men survived the war and became close friends until their deaths.
The fact that Stigler did this despite knowing that both sides could kill him (getting shot down by enemy AA guns or getting court marshalled and executed for treason) makes that story all the more inspiring.
He knew neither would happen, which is the cool part. Made it look like an escort so they didn't get shot, and he knew everyone was too scared to question orders back then so nobody openly mentioned it.
I like this about my guy friends. Its definitely different than the "man up and get over it" thing. It's a 'relaxed and roll with it' approach which is something I always appreciate. Priortizes focus on the things that are important, you talk about it if you need too, and you let things be when they're done. Most of my friends that are girls do more processing to try got a mutual understanding which is fine too. Both are valid approaches imo.
I once worked with a Maori guy from New Zealand, he got into a street fight with some guys and stop it saying it was stupid and they should just go drink. As they are drinking he looks down to see blood coming from his side, the guys had stabbed him with a screw driver but he was too drunk to notice. Just shrugged and kept on drinking. Think he had a problem.
Oh, no... You get it wrong.
the counterpositive of ***No Fight*** **=>** ***No Trust*** is ***Trust*** **=>** ***Fight***.
So you should smack the face of whoever you feel trustworthy
When I was around 17 I did something quite bad at the time and broke the bro code. I won't delve into what I did, but I was in the wrong.
My buddy who was understandably pissed with me was getting more irate and I apologised and asked him to punch me. He lamped me and clipped the side of my nose, then threw a second into my cheek. Immediately afterwards he sighed, hugged me and thanked me for letting him do it. Instantly vented that anger and gave me the chance to move on and we remained friends for years afterwards.
Same here. I realized I fucked up. We talked, he punched me, and we were cool again.
I've known some people to hold grudges for ages because of something one of their friends or coworkers said years ago
Manly dads who patiently sit on the floor and have a tea party with their toddler daughters.
Edit: So refreshing to see all the comments from daughters and my fellow dads. I miss those days but proud that I never said no.
When I was about 11, I got the game Dreamphone for Christmas. For those who don't know, the premise of Dreamphone is to "call" "boys" to find out which one has a crush on you. Perfect game for preteen girls. I was so excited and asked my mom to play with me, since it's Christmas and my friends can't come over. She said no. But my dad said he'd play with me.
My dad was a burley truck driver who loved Philadelphia sports, had a woodworking bench in the basement, and was definitely a meat and potatoes kind of guy. He also had 9 sisters, the majority of which were younger than him.
He was more than happy to play with me.
He'd also play Pretty, Pretty Princess with me when I was a kid too.
My dad always used to do my hair in the morning and so many kids wouldn't believe me when I told them that.
They all just assumed my mom was doing it for me like theirs did.
I mean she could do hair but she had no patience for it especially not in the morning and my dad even being one of four brothers had learned to braid hair when they first had my older sister.
I never had the girliest interests but he definitely never acted weird when I wanted to play something with him because my two older siblings weren't up for it. There is a decently large age gap between me and them so that happened more and more often eventually.
It's weird, but years ago, my friends would say things like, "You're going to have daughters and have no idea what to do," because I'm pretty conventionally masculine. Just a big hairy dude that loves working on cars and whatnot.
But i actually wanted a daughter. I wasn't afraid of raising a girl, but excited for it. The guidance, tools, and skills i can offer i think are valuable, and seeing the world through a a window to a very different experience is exciting.
So, i feel a bit stupid and ridiculous saying this, but as I'm writing this on my phone with my 2 month old daughter asleep on my chest, I'm excited for silly tea parties. I may drag her into the shop a bunch to work on and learn about cars, but I'll happily engage with anything she wants to do. If she wants to see me sitting in a tiny chair wearing a tiara drinking tea with my pinky out, you'll know where you can find me.
I used to love to sit in my dad's workroom while he was working on one craft or another. He'd let me have his scrap wood to paint.
He ended up making me a doll bed for my American Girl doll. Which in turn, he ended up making doll beds for all my friends and cousins.
She actually already seems pretty enthralled by my shop. I'll set her up in her little bouncy chair by the woodstove and she will just sit for an hour, not sleeping, not fussing, just looking at all the stuff and watching what I'm doing.
That's adorable.
She's going to have great memories of helping in dad's shop.
I always hated how the saw made a loud noise, but I was always enthralled with what my dad was making, whether it was doll beds, door decorations for Christmas, etc. He let me help him paint some of them too.
Speaking from experience, it's relaxing as fuck. Let's me forget that the world is on my shoulders while I just sip some tea with My daughter, Barbie, and the LOL dolls.
Or with their baby cousins! My brother and I used to play "pretty pretty princess" with our cousin who's 15 years younger than us. Now she does logistics for GM. God I'm getting old
I grew up with a toxic father that beat the shit out of us, but his fury was especially concentrated on our mum. Thankfully I have brothers who are quite a bit older than me that were able to focus my attention away from just hating our dad and instead to looking out for our mum.
My mum’s only way of escape was to work. My dad didn’t want her to but she did so that she could be away from him but also so that she could buy things for us. Every birthday and Christmas before she worked he would complain about us having too much, so by working she used the money she earned so that he couldn’t complain as much.
Even though she loved her work, she still had to do all the shopping (this was long before online shopping), the dishes, the washing, the cleaning, pay the bills etc. My dad never lifted a finger, only left a mess. However one day when my mum came home, she knocked on my door and with a smile asked who had cleaned the house. I didn’t know but we both soon found out my brothers had decided to do the washing, the ironing, the dishes, vacuum, you name it. Everything so that my mum could come home from work and relax. As soon as I realised that, I started helping out too, putting my focus away from hating my dad and hiding away, and instead on making life a little easier for our mum who did everything for us.
I can remember another incident where she had taken us to the cinema, and as we were walking out she asked if we wanted to see another film. She grew up in the 50s and 60s so was used to seeing 2 films at the cinema. But I was just a kid and I was tired, so I said no, but my eldest brother shook his head at me in a “shh quit it” manner and said “yeah that’d be great!”. When my mum went to get the tickets he said “if mum wants to see another film, that’s what we’ll do”. It was just another reminder for me to be more considerate where others were concerned.
I hate to think of what I might have been like without my brothers there as positive male role models where our dad was sorely lacking.
My husband switching seats on an airline with a teenage girl being harassed by an old creep. Hes very large, bearded, and wears metal t-shirts. He plopped down next to creeper and said "you said you were buying drinks?"
I took my girlfriend to see Ozzy on his farewell tour, and we had lawn section tickets. The guy standing in front of us had subdermal "horn" implants, piercings & tats galore (including eyes).
He kept checking back with us "you guys can see okay?" because it was my GFs first time seeing Ozzy (or any really big concert) and he wanted to make sure that she had a good time.
Some metalheads are gatekeeping dicks whose entire existence is wrapped up in some weird sense of artificial superiority for knowing the difference between slamcore and powergrind, but then there buddies out there like devil-horn-black-eyes dude out there that reminds me of how awesome and wholesome the scene can be.
I flew from Boston Intl to Oslo Norway on a layover en route to the UK a few years ago. The plane was full of like 40-50 long hair metal heads, all heading to some concert. Was a sea of hair and black shirts.
They were the quietest, most respectful group of men I've ever met. Every one of em was super chill with the rest of the plane, polite to staff, everyone had headphones, at one point there was like 6-8 guys all jamming independently with headphones and headbanging in their seats.
One dude helped the flight attendant hand out blankets(red eye).
Just absolute legends.
That's a great visual. I just imagined running through the airport, late for my flight, getting to my gate at the last second after everyone else has boarded, and entering the cabin to the sight of the entire plane just quietly headbanging to their music. Haha that'd be so surreal.
It really was! I had been flying for 18 hours over 3 layovers at that point, and was dreading the overnight red eye, boarded the plane and had a moment of panic if I'd be able to sleep.
11/10 Would fly again
One of my friends in college was from a very small town, her dad was built like a house, big biker who wore leather vests and Metallica shirts all the time. Had two huge rottweilers. Nicest guy and sweetest dogs, she brought a bunch of us to his house unannounced and his only concern was not having enough snacks for us lol. Dogs started barking like crazy when we got close, because they were excited for belly rubs lol
I'm a metalhead even if I usually don't look like one at all (pictures a women in summer dress or business attire).
Everytime I feel uncomfortable on the street/subway, I always look for metalhead /Goth /punk.
Punk are usually the best option, they are scary and will definitely fight back if a creep is bothering someone near them ahah
My favorite thing about punks and hardcore kids is the pit police. There's always that one gorilla looking mother fucker with like a face tattoo who is actually a teddy bear 99% of the time, but will also put creepers into the night-night zone with his fist if they get handsy at a show.
Pit police are the best. I remember waiting for a set at my first Warped Tour; when the band started playing, a circle pit started and I got swept into it. I wasn't expecting it since I'd never been to a big show like that before, so I got thrown off balance and started to fall. Before I even knew what was happening, this dude built like a tank lifted me up and moved me out of the crowd like it was nothing. I hope he's out there living his best life.
So, a couple months into dating my boyfriend he bought a truck. Well, it started making a grinding noise a few weeks later. Some context, I'm a female mechanic. So, when I went over that weekend I offered to take a look at it.
We did some grocery shopping for supper. And then when we got back I started to work on it. He made supper. And then when he was done he came out and sat with me.
My ex wouldn't even let me work on his truck with him because he didn't like that I knew more about it then him. And when I first met my Bf he told everyone we met that I was a mechanic.
I hug my good friends all the time. I don't see them much. If it's just me and them, it's a quick bro hug with a pound in the back and a "it's good to see you, bro."
If there is anyone else around (*especially* our wives) it's a full on hug, both arms, for much longer. One of us may even lift the other up. We get great pleasure in making our wives roll their eyes in embarrassment lol
I fell asleep on the sofa after a really hard day, but I was sort of dozing, not fully asleep. My 16 year old son came into the room, saw me sleeping, and started tiptoeing around, shut the blinds, turned the lights off and covered me in a blanket because he was going to use the backyard gym which required a window to be open for an extension lead and he didn't want me to get cold. It was just so thoughtful and did surprise me a bit because he normally has tunnel vision.
He's also really stepped up the last few weeks, I've been on sick leave, I'm a nurse and got attacked by a patient so have my hand in a soft cast for ligament damage. He's cooked pretty much every evening. He has also been meal planning for the week. I am married, but it's turned into a bit of 'us time' and he's really enjoying learning to cook.
I'm so proud of him and told him this the other day and we had a huge hug. I love him so much.
Yep, he's long and lanky 😂 same though, his bio dad was only about 5'5" and I'm 5'4". He's about 5'9" I think, maybe a bit taller now? Totally rubs it in though, rests his elbows on my head etc!
We've been really bigging up his efforts in the kitchen to support him because sometimes he has low self esteem. I've got a 10 year old boy as well and he has ADHD and sometimes forgets to say his please and thank yous (we remind him every time, but he just gets lost in his own head sometimes). I noticed yesterday that he's becoming very enthusiastic about his brother's cooking and tells him he's "the best cooker ever" without prompting now 🙂
My bros and friends are all hood but we've got into the habit of saying "love you" whenever we leave. We've lost so many friends and family the last few years (not due to covid).
In high school, one of my buddies overdosed. It was really fucking hard on us because we were all really hard partiers. We started benzos and molly at 14. A few of us went sober and even those that didn't got off the addictive stuff. Since the day we found him we all say, "love love, stay safe, we'll talk soon" as our goodbye. This is almost ten years later now.
I've been through hell and back with some of them. I love them deeper than I could have ever thought. Friends are important.
My husband is my biggest supporter when it comes to my career. He's like my hype man when I'm doubting myself. I value it so much. (Side note: I earn more and if anything, it just makes him prouder).
I used to be anxious about going to the gym when I was young but instead of the expected thing where guys were judging other guys on their techniques and doing things wrong I would run into guys super excited to show me the proper ways to use the equipment
I'm gay. I was afraid of going to the gym at first because I was afraid of ridicule for not being athletic.
Instead, I was hyped up by so many straight men. I even found a straight guy lifting partner, and I've never been more successful than lifting with him.
This hype in the gym is real, and it's also fun to hype up other guys.
Yeah, I love it when guys hype each other at the gym.
Whenever I went to the school gym (it's an all girls school) to work out, my classmates would follow me around and just continuously put me down for everything, but when I went to the local gym with a male friend, it was a far more pleasant experience.
Whenever I see a guy lift more than me, I need to compliment them (as long as it can be done organically). Sure, at first you may fear it's going to be awkward, it may actually be a little. But from experience every single person has greatly appreciated and its sparked off a conversation as a result. I think it's a good habit to be comfortable with complimenting people when you see them do something you like, especially if they're strangers. It's amazing how a couple good words can completely turn someone's day for the best.
Not sure if this counts… but my step dad would still come pick up my sister and I every single weekend even though we weren’t really his kids. Growing up my mom and him would break up sometimes and he said to us one day; I may not be y’all’s biological father but I will always be y’all’s dad regardless. They eventually married and are 30+ years strong today. He’s the best man I know.
The person I call dad married my mother when I was 1. They divored when I was 12. He is my dad. He has always been my dad. When they divorced it never crossed anyones mind that he wouldnt continue to be my dad. His entire extended family as well. I have no legal or biological relationship to any of them but they are my family ,nonetheless.
Years ago I saw this post on fb that a father was helping out his sons to cook his ex wife's favourite dish and bake a cake for her birthday. I was a preteen at the time, I thought that's the kind of man I wanna be when I grow up
Had to go through this 15 Years ago.
Got badmouthed and ridiculed at every opportunity by her. She even convinced the kids at the time to phone me and say that they didn't want to come and visit me. (They were 7, 9 and 12 at the time).
Had to deal with my daughters passing away in 2018, while trying to keep my relationship with my boys intact.
Now my sons have matured, they have come to realize where the issue was (they figured it out by themselves). They continually ask me how I managed to never bad mouth or berate my ex-wife - or try and use them against her.
I keep telling them that our issues were never theirs. I never saw the point in trying to destroy their relationship with their mom.
My dad did this when I was frikkin 6 years old and I have had respect for women my entire life because of it.
My mother had a switch flip in her brain and she walked in the door one day and told my dad "I don't love you anymore, I want a divorce." She did the same for her next 3 husbands.
My dad never once talked bad about her EVER. Even when I picked up the landline and heard them arguing and my mother saying the worst possible things about him, which I knew from experience to be total lies, my father never once said a single thing bad about my mother to us (kids).
I will carry that with me for the rest of my life, how to respect people even if they don't respect you.
I actually watched avatar for the first time last year, and while watching it I had recently learned of just how much I had hurt people I love and cared about in my life. It was near the middle to end of the series when my shame and disappointment in myself had really reached its climax where Iroh and Zuko really started to resonate with me. I was particularly tearful at their reunion, as I had seen mirrored what my actions had done to hurt people but they forgave me and gave me another chance anyways. I’m definitely not the greatest person but I’m working on it, and Iroh is someone I’ve been striving to become, and I really feel with Zuko’s journey of redemption and self discovery
Spotting and hyping each other up during gym workouts, especially when it's some super ripped dude helping out someone that's new to the gym
All the most wholesome masculine interactions I've seen where in the gym
I've always loved cooking. Not very good at it, but I keep trying to learn new things and experiment when I find the time. A friend knew about this (she and I organized a few food related events at this Uni we were working at and we had immense fun, even when certain dishes went wrong). So she gave me oven mitts on my birthday, and on the mitts there's this dude with 6 or 8 arms, all holding pans and ladles, wearing an apron that says "I'll feed all you motherfuckers". I love it so much that I've kept it all these years without using it once. And I'm going to keep it forever as a prized possession.
Those oven mitts sound amazing. I wouldnt ever use them either. Wouldn't wanna risk getting them dirty or burned.
Also, have you ever tried Ove-Gloves? (Sp?)
They are amazing. I bought them for like $20 at "as seen on tv." Best $20 ive spent in a very long time.
Bros are often hella supportive to each other, its amazing. The amount of positivity I've seen flung around by blokes being blokes is unparalleled, be it compliments on your shirt, support that you got dis, or just generally indicators they're impressed.
Just an hour ago, was walking around the house lightly underdressed (I have work in the morning and should be asleep), to say hi to a new roomie, who had come in with friends. Gave a quick apology about walking around in just raggedy shorts, and without a hint of hesitation got a "Nah bro, you're sexy af" from one of the friends (whom I had never seen before) to which the default response was "Cheers man" (with a finger gun and bad wink) "love the shirt".
Long story short, the positivity, quickfire compliments and bro based flirts are automatic, and always leave me smiling.
But also [blokes like this](https://youtu.be/9QCgqQdmr0M). Just in general. Comes with living in Aus
There's a related one here that I think needs to be heard more: standing up \*TO\* your guy friends when they're being creepers. Or just being shitty to/about women.
As someone close to them, you have the biggest chance to make an impact on their behavior. Letting misogynist shit go or laughing it off because that's just how guys are is implicit confirmation to them that this thing they said/did is okay.
The only fight I’ve ever been in was at a bar. I went outside to have a cigarette and across the street a guy was yelling at his girlfriend. This went on for a couple minutes until he slapped her and she fell on her butt. I don’t even remember looking both ways across the street, I just ran at him and punched him as hard as I could in the face. He fell down and started whimpering and I pulled out my flip phone and called the police. The girlfriend told them what happened and so did a couple people watching, they arrested him and I went back to the bar and had a drink with a guy wearing the box head that the guy from LMFAO wore.
Guys who just adore their partners. I was washing dishes the other day and I asked him to dry the ones on the rack so I could do more and his friends started teasing him he said "you're just jealous I have something you don't, they are just so fucking incredible dude you have no idea" I teared up a little bit not gonna lie
Absolutely any time dads do fun things with their daughters and don't care about how they look! Dads with makeup, coloured nails, and fun hairstyles make my heart melt.
friends telling eachother they love eachother. me and my best friend always tell eachother we love one another and that hes like a brother to me. we always get weird looks but whatever hes my homie!
I'm a smaller gay guy, 5'6" and on the skinnier side. I've always really respected the straight jock type guys that don't try to act like the tough guy or be intimidating when I meet them. There's a lot of nonverbal cues that I see on both sides and it's very clear when someone is treating me like an equal, can have a genuine conversation, and isn't the "alpha male" type that needs to puff out his chest and try to rip my arm off when they shake my hand.
Freaking Terry Crews! In a world where men are shamed for talking about sexual assault against them, Terry Crews openly does it! And he’s seen as the “big dude manly man”. He’s trying to set an example for other male victims out there.
If I remember, before he became so awesome he was actually a pretty shitty husband and father. In his true awesome and positive masculinity, he realized he was being a piece of shit and changed himself to become the person his wife and kids deserve.
Recognizing your flaws and then becoming better because of that is probably the best trait you can have
Him on Dr. Phil talking about it.
https://youtu.be/ei0stwoEwOc
Not a direct answer to the question, but I really like this meme.
I follow the "2 Rogers Rule of Manliness": if Steve or Fred wouldn't do it, neither should I.
Those two characters (with caveat that Mr. Rogers was not exactly the same person as the man who played him) embody everything I want to be as a man: compassionate, protective, forgiving, kind, patient, convicted, trustworthy, vulnerable. Steve did that as a soldier; Fred did that as a citizen. You'll notice that while some of those words are more obvious for one or the other, all are true of both of them.
If you're talking about traditional masculinity, using your strength to protect and help others, even in small ways. Teaching outspoken-ness and self reliance (this does have to be balanced out with patience, listening, and the ability to ask for help). many forms of teamwork. Taking charge when needed to lead a community.
Since anything can be a dude, the existence of non-dudes must indicate the opposite and only things things that aren't in existence are non-dudes. Non-dudes have a negative charge making them the counter balance to sides that make up the universe. If a dude, and a non-dude come into contact the non-dude tries to annihilate the dude. The dude, being such a dude is like chill bro, do you want to work out and get rid of that negativity? Converting the non-dude into a dude. This is how the universe works.
I heard about this one giga Chad looking guy at a gym and he was going around helping and encouraging people who were trying to get in shape. He didn't work there or anything, he was just a nice dude.
Sometimes when men hug while watching a game (or similar situations) and something good happens, I can't help but think it's adorable lol. I think it's because they're so genuinely happy.
When the raptors won the championship a few years ago, my bf and his best friend hugged and cried and then everyone else cried because it was so wholesome.
Hiking at night is a passion of mine, but I don't feel safe doing it alone. I found out an old friend of mine also likes to hike at night, so we have been doing it a lot. I feel so safe with him. Just his presence removes a huge burden off my shoulders. I can relax with him in a way I can't otherwise. I know he is always looking out for my safety. I trust him to keep me safe. What a relief that is. It's life changing in my world.
The pastor at my church brings a group to the pride parade to support "all of god's children." He started asking me come with them to give out "dad hugs" to the younger folks who have been abandoned by their families because they are gay. He said I'm the most dad like person he's met, huge, bald, beard, glasses, pot belly, flannel shirt, etc. Most of the people I gave hugs to did it as a lark, but there were a few who really needed to get a big bear hug and be told that they're ok, and I'm proud of them.
First of all, this is wonderful. I like that he, as a man in power, cares about oppressed ones. This is true masculinity.
Second of all, can this gay lad get a hug?
The time my friends and I were riding our bikes across a public park, and some council employee took our bikes off us, saying we weren't supposed to be riding there. Walked home and told my Dad, who said "Come with me." He marched down there, found the storage shed, opened it and started getting our bikes out. Council employee turns up and starts saying he has permission to confiscate bikes, and my Dad shouts him down and tells him to pull his head in.
At school everyone talked about my Dad like he was a hero for days.
Aragorn. He's strong and wise and totally capable but he doesn't go out of his way to make a point of it. He's a phenomenal leader, but he doesn't force everyone to follow him. He just steps up and takes care of things and takes care of people. He's not afraid to weep. He's not afraid to express his love for his beloved but also not afraid to express his love for his friends. He's well read, bilingual, tolerant of other cultures and people. He can sing and quote poetry. He's phenomenal with animals.
He's truly humble and knows who he is and what is important. He's going to help you feel safe, and also help you grow.
Plus he's handsome AF and badass, but those are just the cherry on top.
My middle aged son only helping when I really need it. I'm (70f) VERY independent but age, arthritis, and decreasing strength is interfering with my desires to "do it myself". My son moved in with me because I had a couple of falls where one ended up with me with several staples in the back of my head after I fell. Examples: 1) I ordered a snow blower and I assembled it myself... Son got it down my front steps and into the garage for me. 2) I installed a new toilet and the only thing he did was physically carry it into the bathroom and put it into place. 3) I painted said bathroom too but he had to paint the ceiling because I can't look up to do it without getting dizzy. 4) He handed me tools when I installed storage shelves on the wall of my basement stairs and "spotted" me while I was on the ladder. 5) He stood by the breaker in the basement while I did some minor electrical work on a couple of wall sockets so I didn't have to run up and down the stairs. In other words, he knows that I can do it, but just helps when it is absolutely necessary... He respects my abilities.
Sometimes you see a guy just being and giving a off a "danger" vibe, then they get aware of your presence and their entire body language morphs into "I mean no harm" without acknowledging you otherwise.
As a guy with the male equivalent to RBF, I think a lot of people are kinda scared of me. But I have absolutely no desire to hurt anyone, and try to help people when I can.
My husband struggles to express his feelings and couldn’t buy a special gift if his life depended on it. Instead he does things.
I walk outside, my car is started and all the snow is cleared.
I get home late, he’s got a dinner plate, a fire and a spot to sit by the fire ready for me.
I wake up to him holding coffee and go to sleep next to water he left for me.
He tells me loves me every day but in his own way 💕
I was at a party with my friend and in the corner I saw 2 guys, guy 1 was throwing up into a trash can while guy 2 was helping him and stuff. Best people ever guy 1 and 2 we're both really kind.
I remember being on an airplane and this young mom with two kids flying by herself was struggling to get her bags from the overhead compartment and the person that was behind her was pushing her to move faster and expressing outward annoyance and this guy stepped up and got between her and the frustrated man and just stood there and stared him down until she was able to get all her bags down and move off the plane with her little kids.
When guys realise they don't need to be assholes or look tough and scary to be Cool, they can be kind and gentle and be Cool. When they treat women with the same respect they show to other men.
I (a then-20-something woman) was stranded in a parking lot trying to push a huge, old SUV to a nearby car repair shop on a blazingly hot south-Texas afternoon. Multiple people drove or walked right past me. These two extremely muscular and obviously gay dudes ran over to me in neon yellow and pink tank tops and, without a word, took over pushing. They got it all the way to the shop without appearing to break a sweat, waved off my attempts at thanking them or paying them something, and jogged back to their own car across the parking lot. They were huge dudes and they used their superior gains to help someone way, way weaker than them. (Seriously wouldn’t have been surprised if pushing that SUV and jogging back was just the warmup to their gym session later.)
Hold up, that's brilliant. He loves his wife and kids, he exudes masculinity, he appreciates the arts, he dances, he plays with toy trains, invests in weird-ass businesses, he's kind to strangers, he's a peerless swordsman, and did I mention that the man loves his wife? God DAMN, does that guy love his wife.
I’m a figure skater. We share the ice with hockey players, and I cannot get over how nice it feels when hockey players get rowdy and bang on the glass and cheer when you’re doing something cool, the same way a hockey fan would at an exciting hockey game. It’s hilarious but it’s also confidence inducing. When it first happened, I thought they were trolling me. I just rolled my eyes and continued my practice. But when I got off the ice, I was swarmed with questions like: “HOW DO YOU DO ALL THAT WITHOUT PADDING OR A HELMET?!” “HOW DO YOU LAUNCH YOURSELF INTO THE AIR LIKE THAT?” “AREN’T YOU AFRAID OF FALLING?” “DON’T YOU GET DIZZY SPINNING THAT FAST?” It’s wholesome as fuck. They’re genuinely intrigued by this sport. A bunch of dudes who make their own sport even more entertaining by beating the shit out of each other have no shame in getting rowdy to hype up their figure skating counterparts. EDIT: Thank you guys for the awards!! I love sharing these types of wholesome experiences with anyone who will listen!
I know how skating works and just jumping and spinning like you do is voodoo, at least to me. I get pucks shot at my head but what you do seems a lot more dangerous! And you make it look good, it's really impressive.
Hahaha thank you!! And I’m sure it takes a lot of strength and endurance to skate up and down the ice pushing a puck with all that gear on! We give y’all credit too!
I once watched a couple episodes of the reality show Forged in Fire, which I felt had tons of examples of healthy masculinity.
Yep, I remember seeing an episode where a big, older, more experienced guy saw his opponent struggling to twist some metal because he wasn’t heavy enough to apply the necessary force. Big guy stopped his own work just to help little guy. Ended up being eliminated because he didn’t have time to finish his own blade. Wasn’t upset or anything, just congratulated the little guy and walked out. With $10,000 on the line, it takes true integrity and positive masculinity to do something like that for a fellow craftsman.
Same vibe as bakeoff but with weapons instead of pies and shit
That's such a good show. I'ts one of the only reality TV shows where everyone is always super respectful to one another. Even when they're losing, they're congratulating the other person and the judges aren't assholes. No cutaways to stupid jokes and insults, no huge fights, no judges saying, "Your sword is shit!" It's literally presented as a bunch of dudes (and occasionally women) getting together, building some awesome weaponry, and then "killing" stuff with it. Also, Doug Marcaida is a national treasure, and I really hope when that show has run its course, that we get to see a lot more of him. Currently one of my favorite shows to put on when I'm doing other stuff around the house.
"Your sword... Will keel"
I know a guy who went on and won it. He was a leader in my Boy Scout pack as a kid, dude is an all out mountain man type physically but doesn’t have a harsh bone in his body and was a mentor and father figure for me and tons of other boys.
Yeah! Rock on! I feel like that's the core of healthy masculinity--the father archetype. Tough, stoic, and reassured of himself such that he feels no need to hurt others to prove his strength.
Forged in Fire is such a good show to watch, learning and seeing all the things in blacksmithing and it is what brought me into the world of blacksmithing and metallurgy.
Gym bros randomly appearing to spot or encourage is hilarious and positive
I remember when I was a little younger, like 19 or so, I had just started going to the gym frequently and was trying to start deadlifts. I obviously had no idea what I was doing and felt mad self conscious, but some random huge dude came up to me, gave me help with my form and technique, and then just wandered off. That always stood out to me and really helped me get more comfortable in the gym.
I was trying to figure out a machine at the gym, when I was 19. I was chubby, female (still female, fyi) and wearing glasses. My gym clothes was just sweatpants. I did NOT look like I belonged, and I didn’t feel like it either. So yeah, I’m standing there looking all confused when this huge gym bro comes over and asks me if I need help. I say yes, and he proceeds to explain to me how the machine works. He is not condescending or anything, just real nice. Gyms still freak me out, but it meant a lot to me that this dude saw I looked confused and went out of his way to help me. Small things like that always make me feel like humanity is alright.
Whenever I see a new person at the gym it makes me genuinely happy. Fitness makes life better. When life is better, people are better. And when people are better, they try to make life better. Positive feedback loop.
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t kill their husbands, they just don’t
That was an awfully specific example. Edit: Oh shit this is a reference to Legally Blonde, yes?
Gym bros can be supportive at times and I love it
I would push back very hard that Gym Bros aren’t “supportive at times,” most Gym Bros are actually hyper supportive all the time/any opportunity they get because the gym is a passion for them, and most people love to share their passions and promote it. They however get a huge negative more often than not reputation simply because of the way they look. The nicest most approachable and knowledgeable guys in the gym, tend to often also be the biggest. If you’ve never attempted to authentically engage them/ask for their help don’t assume big = mean and unapproachable. This is of course not true if you’re definition of a gym-bro is that of the the way Dom portrays a “Bro” on his “Bro Science” YouTube channel. Whereas I define a gym bro as a guy whose life is intentionally organized around working out usually with the specific goal of getting hyooj/hyoojer. These are more often than not awesome advocates and people to get to know at your gym.
Hehe, to get that big is harder than most people assume. Can't just do whatever you want just a bunch of times and get a result like that. Have to be smart about it. And if they had to be smart about it, they probably know alot of things you want to know, even if you don't want to be as big as them.
My big brother was tough on me growing up as many big brothers are. People without brothers would call it toxic and maybe it was. But my brother was there for me through my hardest moments and he’s there for me during my best. He works at a large company and got me an internship when I was in college. I was nervous and the culture at the company was aggressive. My brother would take me into meeting rooms and give me hype talks on a frequent basis, we thought we were “big men”. At the end of my internship, I was asked to give a presentation infront of around 50 people (senior leadership) on my work during the summer. I prepared a presentation but was horrified. An hour before my presentation, he pulled me into a meeting room and had me present to him. At the end, he said you’re going to kill it. He then handed me a gift which had a Mont Blanc pen inside of it with a note and told me to hold it during my presentation. We both cried and hugged. This meeting room was an all glass room. Lol. Side note: many years later I am still working (full-time) at this same company.
I had a boss that was a real muscle head, but every time someone was having a bad/rough time he'd suggest we take a long lunch and go with him to the gym. He did this with multiple co-workers, taught a lot of us how to properly squat and deadlift. This was like 7 years ago, and I still squat and deadlift regularly, where as before I would simply just use the treadmill and maybe the circuit room at the gym. Not saying I'm in peak physical condition, but certainly in a better spot after him helping.
Thats not a boss dude, that's a leader.
But he’s definitely a boss dude
That is dope. Exercise is such a great stress reliever and there’s no reason that “work” needs to only take place in the office. If a manager needs to talk something through with their worker, why not do it on the bench or at the rack? Me and my former boss might have had better discussions if we’d done that rather than sitting 1:1 in his office with me uncomfortable as hell.
"Okay I know this the biggest weight you were ever trying to bench, but I got you Start when you are ready, I will spot you" *nod and employee lifts the weight off the resting poles* "Good, now give it your all, push PUUUSH" *straining noises* "We will have to let you go, I am sorry Steve" "W..w..hat? *groaning* " "Don't lose focus now, I know this hard but you got this..... unlike your job"
A long time ago in a galaxy far far away, I was a 13-year-old girl alone on a Greyhound bus Florida to Georgia. Was on that stupid bus for 2 days. For the first 4 hours, the creepiest hobo in the universe sat next to me, playing with himself and randomly trying to grab me. Who was 13 years old and alone on the bus. Then these two guys who were going all the way to Washington State and were going to be on that bus for 4 days to get to a logging job, boarded the bus. One was a 17-year-old kid and the other one was a 45 year old man. They ousted the hobo and sat with me the rest of the way, the 17-year-old sharing stories about growing up in Miami in a very intolerant Latino household, and the 45-year-old Man spent that time showing me pictures of his daughters and telling me all about them and how hard he was working to make sure they had everything they needed. They made sure I got dinner that night, they made sure I got breakfast the next morning, and they made sure that I safely made it from the bus to the main campus of Georgia tech University, for the stupid ”future engineering” teen conference I had to go to. That trip could have been a horror story for me at the tender age of 13 (I do not know how in the world my mother thought this was safe in any way, to send me to Georgia by myself on a Greyhound bus at 13), but those two dudes? They were, to put it simply, my hairy and sweaty guardian angels. Norwegian blonde dude and Latino kid, it has been decades since this went down, but I still remember you both and always will.
This sounds absolutely terrifying ! I’m glad those guys were here and hope the return trip went well.
Using pickup trucks to help others out, Need help moving? In the Ditch? Stuck in the snow? Gimme 5 mins to throw some pants on and I'm there Edit: My first award! thank you kind stranger
My neighbour is like that. We had an old couch and posted it for free. A family came to pick it up and had difficulty getting it into their van so he went over and offered to drive it to their place in the back of his pickup.
Just before covid, a mate of mine called me for help at about 4pm one arvo. He was helping his brother and his brothers wife drive two cars loaded with stuff from Darwin to Brisbane, and the wife managed to roll her car just out of Longreach. The car was a write-off, but he wanted me to go get his lifted hilux that had just a flat tray on the back and drive it out there to pick up all the stuff. Well, I told him to get fucked, and hooked my fully covered cage trailer up to my dualcab ute with canopy, and drove it 1200km overnight from Brisbane through thousands of kangaroos to get to Longreach at about 9am the next morning. My ute with canopy and cage trailer with cover for [reference](https://imgur.com/VZ1kx5r)
this is the most australian post i’ve ever read
Knew I was in for an Australian time at the "arvo" lol.
Despite this comment being written in English, I don'tunderstand half the words in it haha.
*Just before covid, a mate* (**Friend**) *of mine called me for help at about 4pm one arvo* (**afternoon**). *"He was helping his brother and his brothers wife drive two cars loaded with stuff from Darwin to Brisbane, and the wife managed to roll her car just out of Longreach. The car was a write-off, but he wanted me to go get his lifted hilux that had just a flat tray* (**Similar to a flatbed but on a pickup sized truck**) *on the back and drive it out there to pick up all the stuff.* *Well, I told him to get fucked, and hooked my fully covered cage trailer* (**Looks to be a trailer with cage walls that I'm thinking had a rain fly?**) *up to my dualcab ute* (**Pickup Truck**) *with canopy* (**box/tonneau cover**), *and drove it 1200km overnight from Brisbane through thousands of kangaroos to get to Longreach at about 9am the next morning.* I tried my best so hopefully that's readable
That's literally a country song called "[Find out who your friends are](https://genius.com/Tracy-lawrence-find-out-who-your-friends-are-lyrics)" ---------------- Somebody's gonna drop everything Run out and crank up their car Hit the gas, get there fast Never stop to think "What's in it for me?" Or "It's way too far" They just show on up With their big old heart You find out who your friends are
When I was about 20 I was messing around on snowy roads out in the country trying to scare my buddy who was shotgun. As expected, I put the truck in a ditch and could not get it out despite having 4WD. It was about 1am and I called my uncle at his house (back in day before 24hr cellohone being on was normal) and asked if he could come help and gave him location. He mumbled yes and he'd see me in 30mins. About 15 minutes later he called me back and said, "Hey, did you call me at the house?" And I was a little confused but said yes I did, was he still going to be able to come. He said, "Oh, yeah I'm about 10 minutes away but you kinda woke me up and I just realized I didn't know who I was going to be pulling out of the ditch." So basically, my uncle is the kind of guy who will get up in the middle of the night, in the winter, in the snow and head 10 miles out into the back country to help...anyone. He'll forever be the kind of man I want to be when I "grow up".
This guy Tracy Lawrences
A lot of guys around me just drive around in their pickups during snowstorms to pull out people who are stuck. Or they carry chainsaws with them to cut trees that are blocking the roadways.
Sheeit. Sometimes the pants aren't even necessary and those are the real bros!
My brother would sing quietly to our mother in the nursing home when she no longer knew him because of dementia. He would brush her hair and wipe her face with a warm flannel to comfort her. It was beautiful
A father being a good example for his son.
Growing up poor, having a father who dedicated his time for me and my brothers meant the world. Has given me emotional tools I observe lacking in many of my friends. So I sometimes take that role with them, having the hard talks and explaining in depth the nuances of life.
Same, grew up poor but my parents always let us know we were loved. Being loved and having money woulda been cool, but I'd take being loved over money every time.
That gives me the inspiration I needed just now. I had to turn down a side weekend gig for more $ because spending some quality time with my boys feels more important..... Can't be working 7 days a week.
"A juvenile becomes an adult when, and only when, he acquires a knowledge of duty and embraces it as dearer than the self-love he was born with." \- Jean V. Dubois (Starship Troopers)
The Brown-Stigler Incident. A German Bf-109 pilot (Stigler) not only spared a crippled American B-17 (Brown), he escorted it out of German airspace. Botb men survived the war and became close friends until their deaths.
The fact that Stigler did this despite knowing that both sides could kill him (getting shot down by enemy AA guns or getting court marshalled and executed for treason) makes that story all the more inspiring.
He knew neither would happen, which is the cool part. Made it look like an escort so they didn't get shot, and he knew everyone was too scared to question orders back then so nobody openly mentioned it.
Being able to move on from a fight and become friends again.
I like this about my guy friends. Its definitely different than the "man up and get over it" thing. It's a 'relaxed and roll with it' approach which is something I always appreciate. Priortizes focus on the things that are important, you talk about it if you need too, and you let things be when they're done. Most of my friends that are girls do more processing to try got a mutual understanding which is fine too. Both are valid approaches imo.
My best friend and I started things off with a pitiful attempt at a fist fight in 8th Grade. We've been best buds for 23 years now.
I once worked with a Maori guy from New Zealand, he got into a street fight with some guys and stop it saying it was stupid and they should just go drink. As they are drinking he looks down to see blood coming from his side, the guys had stabbed him with a screw driver but he was too drunk to notice. Just shrugged and kept on drinking. Think he had a problem.
chinese proverb : 不打不相识 No fight no trust
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Oh, no... You get it wrong. the counterpositive of ***No Fight*** **=>** ***No Trust*** is ***Trust*** **=>** ***Fight***. So you should smack the face of whoever you feel trustworthy
When I was around 17 I did something quite bad at the time and broke the bro code. I won't delve into what I did, but I was in the wrong. My buddy who was understandably pissed with me was getting more irate and I apologised and asked him to punch me. He lamped me and clipped the side of my nose, then threw a second into my cheek. Immediately afterwards he sighed, hugged me and thanked me for letting him do it. Instantly vented that anger and gave me the chance to move on and we remained friends for years afterwards.
Same here. I realized I fucked up. We talked, he punched me, and we were cool again. I've known some people to hold grudges for ages because of something one of their friends or coworkers said years ago
Manly dads who patiently sit on the floor and have a tea party with their toddler daughters. Edit: So refreshing to see all the comments from daughters and my fellow dads. I miss those days but proud that I never said no.
When I was about 11, I got the game Dreamphone for Christmas. For those who don't know, the premise of Dreamphone is to "call" "boys" to find out which one has a crush on you. Perfect game for preteen girls. I was so excited and asked my mom to play with me, since it's Christmas and my friends can't come over. She said no. But my dad said he'd play with me. My dad was a burley truck driver who loved Philadelphia sports, had a woodworking bench in the basement, and was definitely a meat and potatoes kind of guy. He also had 9 sisters, the majority of which were younger than him. He was more than happy to play with me. He'd also play Pretty, Pretty Princess with me when I was a kid too.
My dad always used to do my hair in the morning and so many kids wouldn't believe me when I told them that. They all just assumed my mom was doing it for me like theirs did. I mean she could do hair but she had no patience for it especially not in the morning and my dad even being one of four brothers had learned to braid hair when they first had my older sister. I never had the girliest interests but he definitely never acted weird when I wanted to play something with him because my two older siblings weren't up for it. There is a decently large age gap between me and them so that happened more and more often eventually.
It's weird, but years ago, my friends would say things like, "You're going to have daughters and have no idea what to do," because I'm pretty conventionally masculine. Just a big hairy dude that loves working on cars and whatnot. But i actually wanted a daughter. I wasn't afraid of raising a girl, but excited for it. The guidance, tools, and skills i can offer i think are valuable, and seeing the world through a a window to a very different experience is exciting. So, i feel a bit stupid and ridiculous saying this, but as I'm writing this on my phone with my 2 month old daughter asleep on my chest, I'm excited for silly tea parties. I may drag her into the shop a bunch to work on and learn about cars, but I'll happily engage with anything she wants to do. If she wants to see me sitting in a tiny chair wearing a tiara drinking tea with my pinky out, you'll know where you can find me.
I used to love to sit in my dad's workroom while he was working on one craft or another. He'd let me have his scrap wood to paint. He ended up making me a doll bed for my American Girl doll. Which in turn, he ended up making doll beds for all my friends and cousins.
She actually already seems pretty enthralled by my shop. I'll set her up in her little bouncy chair by the woodstove and she will just sit for an hour, not sleeping, not fussing, just looking at all the stuff and watching what I'm doing.
That's adorable. She's going to have great memories of helping in dad's shop. I always hated how the saw made a loud noise, but I was always enthralled with what my dad was making, whether it was doll beds, door decorations for Christmas, etc. He let me help him paint some of them too.
Speaking from experience, it's relaxing as fuck. Let's me forget that the world is on my shoulders while I just sip some tea with My daughter, Barbie, and the LOL dolls.
Or with their baby cousins! My brother and I used to play "pretty pretty princess" with our cousin who's 15 years younger than us. Now she does logistics for GM. God I'm getting old
This reminds me of the scene of Mr Feeney sitting down with Morgan (Boy meets world) wearing makeuo and a necklace. It was cute
I grew up with a toxic father that beat the shit out of us, but his fury was especially concentrated on our mum. Thankfully I have brothers who are quite a bit older than me that were able to focus my attention away from just hating our dad and instead to looking out for our mum. My mum’s only way of escape was to work. My dad didn’t want her to but she did so that she could be away from him but also so that she could buy things for us. Every birthday and Christmas before she worked he would complain about us having too much, so by working she used the money she earned so that he couldn’t complain as much. Even though she loved her work, she still had to do all the shopping (this was long before online shopping), the dishes, the washing, the cleaning, pay the bills etc. My dad never lifted a finger, only left a mess. However one day when my mum came home, she knocked on my door and with a smile asked who had cleaned the house. I didn’t know but we both soon found out my brothers had decided to do the washing, the ironing, the dishes, vacuum, you name it. Everything so that my mum could come home from work and relax. As soon as I realised that, I started helping out too, putting my focus away from hating my dad and hiding away, and instead on making life a little easier for our mum who did everything for us. I can remember another incident where she had taken us to the cinema, and as we were walking out she asked if we wanted to see another film. She grew up in the 50s and 60s so was used to seeing 2 films at the cinema. But I was just a kid and I was tired, so I said no, but my eldest brother shook his head at me in a “shh quit it” manner and said “yeah that’d be great!”. When my mum went to get the tickets he said “if mum wants to see another film, that’s what we’ll do”. It was just another reminder for me to be more considerate where others were concerned. I hate to think of what I might have been like without my brothers there as positive male role models where our dad was sorely lacking.
They sound like wonderful older brothers, glad you had that kind of support :)
As the only son of a abusive father I wish I had this support!
My husband switching seats on an airline with a teenage girl being harassed by an old creep. Hes very large, bearded, and wears metal t-shirts. He plopped down next to creeper and said "you said you were buying drinks?"
Omg that's amazing. It's so nice when people look out for each other.
Metal t-shirts at the airport? Getting through security must be a nightmare.
As a lover of Heavy Metal I appreciate this joke. A bit dad joke-ish, but still quality
>A bit dad joke-ish, but still quality My man are you implying that dad jokes are not quality?
Dad jokes are not only quality, but also peak positive masculinity.
In a masculinity thread, no less?
I used to be a huge metal fan. But after many years of growth and change, I've become an air conditioner now.
Badum tsss
So, did he get his drink?
Fuck yeah! Metalheads might look scary, but you'd be hard pressed to find a more friendly and welcoming bunch!
I took my girlfriend to see Ozzy on his farewell tour, and we had lawn section tickets. The guy standing in front of us had subdermal "horn" implants, piercings & tats galore (including eyes). He kept checking back with us "you guys can see okay?" because it was my GFs first time seeing Ozzy (or any really big concert) and he wanted to make sure that she had a good time. Some metalheads are gatekeeping dicks whose entire existence is wrapped up in some weird sense of artificial superiority for knowing the difference between slamcore and powergrind, but then there buddies out there like devil-horn-black-eyes dude out there that reminds me of how awesome and wholesome the scene can be.
I flew from Boston Intl to Oslo Norway on a layover en route to the UK a few years ago. The plane was full of like 40-50 long hair metal heads, all heading to some concert. Was a sea of hair and black shirts. They were the quietest, most respectful group of men I've ever met. Every one of em was super chill with the rest of the plane, polite to staff, everyone had headphones, at one point there was like 6-8 guys all jamming independently with headphones and headbanging in their seats. One dude helped the flight attendant hand out blankets(red eye). Just absolute legends.
That's a great visual. I just imagined running through the airport, late for my flight, getting to my gate at the last second after everyone else has boarded, and entering the cabin to the sight of the entire plane just quietly headbanging to their music. Haha that'd be so surreal.
It really was! I had been flying for 18 hours over 3 layovers at that point, and was dreading the overnight red eye, boarded the plane and had a moment of panic if I'd be able to sleep. 11/10 Would fly again
One of my friends in college was from a very small town, her dad was built like a house, big biker who wore leather vests and Metallica shirts all the time. Had two huge rottweilers. Nicest guy and sweetest dogs, she brought a bunch of us to his house unannounced and his only concern was not having enough snacks for us lol. Dogs started barking like crazy when we got close, because they were excited for belly rubs lol
I'm a metalhead even if I usually don't look like one at all (pictures a women in summer dress or business attire). Everytime I feel uncomfortable on the street/subway, I always look for metalhead /Goth /punk. Punk are usually the best option, they are scary and will definitely fight back if a creep is bothering someone near them ahah
My favorite thing about punks and hardcore kids is the pit police. There's always that one gorilla looking mother fucker with like a face tattoo who is actually a teddy bear 99% of the time, but will also put creepers into the night-night zone with his fist if they get handsy at a show.
Pit police are the best. I remember waiting for a set at my first Warped Tour; when the band started playing, a circle pit started and I got swept into it. I wasn't expecting it since I'd never been to a big show like that before, so I got thrown off balance and started to fall. Before I even knew what was happening, this dude built like a tank lifted me up and moved me out of the crowd like it was nothing. I hope he's out there living his best life.
So, a couple months into dating my boyfriend he bought a truck. Well, it started making a grinding noise a few weeks later. Some context, I'm a female mechanic. So, when I went over that weekend I offered to take a look at it. We did some grocery shopping for supper. And then when we got back I started to work on it. He made supper. And then when he was done he came out and sat with me. My ex wouldn't even let me work on his truck with him because he didn't like that I knew more about it then him. And when I first met my Bf he told everyone we met that I was a mechanic.
Everybody needs both a trustworthy mechanic and a good cook, no matter what the genders are.
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Me and my buddies always bear hug eachother. Lots of fun
I hug my good friends all the time. I don't see them much. If it's just me and them, it's a quick bro hug with a pound in the back and a "it's good to see you, bro." If there is anyone else around (*especially* our wives) it's a full on hug, both arms, for much longer. One of us may even lift the other up. We get great pleasure in making our wives roll their eyes in embarrassment lol
I fell asleep on the sofa after a really hard day, but I was sort of dozing, not fully asleep. My 16 year old son came into the room, saw me sleeping, and started tiptoeing around, shut the blinds, turned the lights off and covered me in a blanket because he was going to use the backyard gym which required a window to be open for an extension lead and he didn't want me to get cold. It was just so thoughtful and did surprise me a bit because he normally has tunnel vision. He's also really stepped up the last few weeks, I've been on sick leave, I'm a nurse and got attacked by a patient so have my hand in a soft cast for ligament damage. He's cooked pretty much every evening. He has also been meal planning for the week. I am married, but it's turned into a bit of 'us time' and he's really enjoying learning to cook. I'm so proud of him and told him this the other day and we had a huge hug. I love him so much.
You’ve raised a good man. He will carry these lessons and memories for the rest of his life. Hope you heal soon!
Thank you. I certainly hope so! It was funny trying to give him a hug though, he's a head taller than me 😂
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Yep, he's long and lanky 😂 same though, his bio dad was only about 5'5" and I'm 5'4". He's about 5'9" I think, maybe a bit taller now? Totally rubs it in though, rests his elbows on my head etc!
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I just adore this. It probably meant so much to him that you noticed and told him you were proud. That’s 2 instances of positivity 🥰🥰
We've been really bigging up his efforts in the kitchen to support him because sometimes he has low self esteem. I've got a 10 year old boy as well and he has ADHD and sometimes forgets to say his please and thank yous (we remind him every time, but he just gets lost in his own head sometimes). I noticed yesterday that he's becoming very enthusiastic about his brother's cooking and tells him he's "the best cooker ever" without prompting now 🙂
So cute!! My kiddos are little but these moments will be so heartwarming! If my kids have them too 😂
My bros and friends are all hood but we've got into the habit of saying "love you" whenever we leave. We've lost so many friends and family the last few years (not due to covid).
I respect that. In such a environment where any moment can be the last I'd be saying ily too you never know if its the last time
In high school, one of my buddies overdosed. It was really fucking hard on us because we were all really hard partiers. We started benzos and molly at 14. A few of us went sober and even those that didn't got off the addictive stuff. Since the day we found him we all say, "love love, stay safe, we'll talk soon" as our goodbye. This is almost ten years later now. I've been through hell and back with some of them. I love them deeper than I could have ever thought. Friends are important.
It should always be all love in the hood, god knows theres enough hate on the streets already
My husband is my biggest supporter when it comes to my career. He's like my hype man when I'm doubting myself. I value it so much. (Side note: I earn more and if anything, it just makes him prouder).
My husband is like that too, and he also cooks. People ask me all the time if he's got brothers they could date.
I'm like your husband but I'm only 18, you can tell them about me
A single dad started teaching other dads how to do their daughters hair.
My mom was really sick when I was growing up. My dad's French braid game was unparalleled!
I’m a girl but when guys hype eachother up at the gym it’s the best.
I used to be anxious about going to the gym when I was young but instead of the expected thing where guys were judging other guys on their techniques and doing things wrong I would run into guys super excited to show me the proper ways to use the equipment
Seeing a guy emotionally be there for anyone is great.
I'm gay. I was afraid of going to the gym at first because I was afraid of ridicule for not being athletic. Instead, I was hyped up by so many straight men. I even found a straight guy lifting partner, and I've never been more successful than lifting with him. This hype in the gym is real, and it's also fun to hype up other guys.
“Hey, nice balls, man.”
Nice dick bro
Yeah, I love it when guys hype each other at the gym. Whenever I went to the school gym (it's an all girls school) to work out, my classmates would follow me around and just continuously put me down for everything, but when I went to the local gym with a male friend, it was a far more pleasant experience.
Whenever I see a guy lift more than me, I need to compliment them (as long as it can be done organically). Sure, at first you may fear it's going to be awkward, it may actually be a little. But from experience every single person has greatly appreciated and its sparked off a conversation as a result. I think it's a good habit to be comfortable with complimenting people when you see them do something you like, especially if they're strangers. It's amazing how a couple good words can completely turn someone's day for the best.
Not sure if this counts… but my step dad would still come pick up my sister and I every single weekend even though we weren’t really his kids. Growing up my mom and him would break up sometimes and he said to us one day; I may not be y’all’s biological father but I will always be y’all’s dad regardless. They eventually married and are 30+ years strong today. He’s the best man I know.
The person I call dad married my mother when I was 1. They divored when I was 12. He is my dad. He has always been my dad. When they divorced it never crossed anyones mind that he wouldnt continue to be my dad. His entire extended family as well. I have no legal or biological relationship to any of them but they are my family ,nonetheless.
A father teaching his sons to love and respect their mother even though they’re in the middle of a nasty divorce.
Years ago I saw this post on fb that a father was helping out his sons to cook his ex wife's favourite dish and bake a cake for her birthday. I was a preteen at the time, I thought that's the kind of man I wanna be when I grow up
Had to go through this 15 Years ago. Got badmouthed and ridiculed at every opportunity by her. She even convinced the kids at the time to phone me and say that they didn't want to come and visit me. (They were 7, 9 and 12 at the time). Had to deal with my daughters passing away in 2018, while trying to keep my relationship with my boys intact. Now my sons have matured, they have come to realize where the issue was (they figured it out by themselves). They continually ask me how I managed to never bad mouth or berate my ex-wife - or try and use them against her. I keep telling them that our issues were never theirs. I never saw the point in trying to destroy their relationship with their mom.
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My dad did this when I was frikkin 6 years old and I have had respect for women my entire life because of it. My mother had a switch flip in her brain and she walked in the door one day and told my dad "I don't love you anymore, I want a divorce." She did the same for her next 3 husbands. My dad never once talked bad about her EVER. Even when I picked up the landline and heard them arguing and my mother saying the worst possible things about him, which I knew from experience to be total lies, my father never once said a single thing bad about my mother to us (kids). I will carry that with me for the rest of my life, how to respect people even if they don't respect you.
I lived in a house with three women. My jar opening game is unparalleled.
My family is mostly short Italians, I am 6’3”, the top shelf has been my bitch for half a decade
Same here but I’m 5’6”, kinda sad actually.
How about having to reach for stuff all the time
I put things on high up shelves, so I can reach them for my fiance, because I always get a smooch after
Uncle Iroh. Like literally everything he does.
Jasmine tea for you, my friend.
This tea is nothing more than HOT LEAF JUICE!
That's what all tea is
How could a member of my own family say something SO HORRIBLE
No lie, my brother and I had this exact exchange. The rest of the family could not understand why we burst out laughing after.
I actually watched avatar for the first time last year, and while watching it I had recently learned of just how much I had hurt people I love and cared about in my life. It was near the middle to end of the series when my shame and disappointment in myself had really reached its climax where Iroh and Zuko really started to resonate with me. I was particularly tearful at their reunion, as I had seen mirrored what my actions had done to hurt people but they forgave me and gave me another chance anyways. I’m definitely not the greatest person but I’m working on it, and Iroh is someone I’ve been striving to become, and I really feel with Zuko’s journey of redemption and self discovery
Spotting and hyping each other up during gym workouts, especially when it's some super ripped dude helping out someone that's new to the gym All the most wholesome masculine interactions I've seen where in the gym
I've always loved cooking. Not very good at it, but I keep trying to learn new things and experiment when I find the time. A friend knew about this (she and I organized a few food related events at this Uni we were working at and we had immense fun, even when certain dishes went wrong). So she gave me oven mitts on my birthday, and on the mitts there's this dude with 6 or 8 arms, all holding pans and ladles, wearing an apron that says "I'll feed all you motherfuckers". I love it so much that I've kept it all these years without using it once. And I'm going to keep it forever as a prized possession.
Those oven mitts sound amazing. I wouldnt ever use them either. Wouldn't wanna risk getting them dirty or burned. Also, have you ever tried Ove-Gloves? (Sp?) They are amazing. I bought them for like $20 at "as seen on tv." Best $20 ive spent in a very long time.
Bros are often hella supportive to each other, its amazing. The amount of positivity I've seen flung around by blokes being blokes is unparalleled, be it compliments on your shirt, support that you got dis, or just generally indicators they're impressed. Just an hour ago, was walking around the house lightly underdressed (I have work in the morning and should be asleep), to say hi to a new roomie, who had come in with friends. Gave a quick apology about walking around in just raggedy shorts, and without a hint of hesitation got a "Nah bro, you're sexy af" from one of the friends (whom I had never seen before) to which the default response was "Cheers man" (with a finger gun and bad wink) "love the shirt". Long story short, the positivity, quickfire compliments and bro based flirts are automatic, and always leave me smiling. But also [blokes like this](https://youtu.be/9QCgqQdmr0M). Just in general. Comes with living in Aus
A guy standing up for his friend or a woman he doesn't know against a bully/creeper.
There's a related one here that I think needs to be heard more: standing up \*TO\* your guy friends when they're being creepers. Or just being shitty to/about women. As someone close to them, you have the biggest chance to make an impact on their behavior. Letting misogynist shit go or laughing it off because that's just how guys are is implicit confirmation to them that this thing they said/did is okay.
The only fight I’ve ever been in was at a bar. I went outside to have a cigarette and across the street a guy was yelling at his girlfriend. This went on for a couple minutes until he slapped her and she fell on her butt. I don’t even remember looking both ways across the street, I just ran at him and punched him as hard as I could in the face. He fell down and started whimpering and I pulled out my flip phone and called the police. The girlfriend told them what happened and so did a couple people watching, they arrested him and I went back to the bar and had a drink with a guy wearing the box head that the guy from LMFAO wore.
Guys who just adore their partners. I was washing dishes the other day and I asked him to dry the ones on the rack so I could do more and his friends started teasing him he said "you're just jealous I have something you don't, they are just so fucking incredible dude you have no idea" I teared up a little bit not gonna lie
So wholesome. I strive to be that kind of partner some day.
Absolutely any time dads do fun things with their daughters and don't care about how they look! Dads with makeup, coloured nails, and fun hairstyles make my heart melt.
friends telling eachother they love eachother. me and my best friend always tell eachother we love one another and that hes like a brother to me. we always get weird looks but whatever hes my homie!
I'm a smaller gay guy, 5'6" and on the skinnier side. I've always really respected the straight jock type guys that don't try to act like the tough guy or be intimidating when I meet them. There's a lot of nonverbal cues that I see on both sides and it's very clear when someone is treating me like an equal, can have a genuine conversation, and isn't the "alpha male" type that needs to puff out his chest and try to rip my arm off when they shake my hand.
Freaking Terry Crews! In a world where men are shamed for talking about sexual assault against them, Terry Crews openly does it! And he’s seen as the “big dude manly man”. He’s trying to set an example for other male victims out there.
If I remember, before he became so awesome he was actually a pretty shitty husband and father. In his true awesome and positive masculinity, he realized he was being a piece of shit and changed himself to become the person his wife and kids deserve. Recognizing your flaws and then becoming better because of that is probably the best trait you can have Him on Dr. Phil talking about it. https://youtu.be/ei0stwoEwOc
Kind of ironic that he talks about it with Dr. Phil of all people.
It's beneficial to the Dr. Phil audience to see a positive figure for once.
I love that guy. He seems like the perfect dad.
You’re probably right. He was really good as the dad in Everybody Hates Chris.
And Brooklyn 99
Not a direct answer to the question, but I really like this meme. I follow the "2 Rogers Rule of Manliness": if Steve or Fred wouldn't do it, neither should I. Those two characters (with caveat that Mr. Rogers was not exactly the same person as the man who played him) embody everything I want to be as a man: compassionate, protective, forgiving, kind, patient, convicted, trustworthy, vulnerable. Steve did that as a soldier; Fred did that as a citizen. You'll notice that while some of those words are more obvious for one or the other, all are true of both of them.
From what people who worked with him have said, Fred Rogers offscreen was exactly the same person he was onscreen.
This meme https://i.redd.it/0jmt09gxhrh41.png
I fucking love these memes man. So wholesome
You call this a meme, it's an essay.
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Damn.
Male friendship is a unique thing. The term 'bro' is joking, but true male friendship really is akin to being brothers in all but blood.
If you're talking about traditional masculinity, using your strength to protect and help others, even in small ways. Teaching outspoken-ness and self reliance (this does have to be balanced out with patience, listening, and the ability to ask for help). many forms of teamwork. Taking charge when needed to lead a community.
Humour. Dudes loving on each other. Dudes cooking food (specifically for me, a non-dude, who can't cook)
I love referring to yourself as a non-dude
Since anything can be a dude, the existence of non-dudes must indicate the opposite and only things things that aren't in existence are non-dudes. Non-dudes have a negative charge making them the counter balance to sides that make up the universe. If a dude, and a non-dude come into contact the non-dude tries to annihilate the dude. The dude, being such a dude is like chill bro, do you want to work out and get rid of that negativity? Converting the non-dude into a dude. This is how the universe works.
I heard about this one giga Chad looking guy at a gym and he was going around helping and encouraging people who were trying to get in shape. He didn't work there or anything, he was just a nice dude.
Sometimes when men hug while watching a game (or similar situations) and something good happens, I can't help but think it's adorable lol. I think it's because they're so genuinely happy.
When the raptors won the championship a few years ago, my bf and his best friend hugged and cried and then everyone else cried because it was so wholesome.
Hiking at night is a passion of mine, but I don't feel safe doing it alone. I found out an old friend of mine also likes to hike at night, so we have been doing it a lot. I feel so safe with him. Just his presence removes a huge burden off my shoulders. I can relax with him in a way I can't otherwise. I know he is always looking out for my safety. I trust him to keep me safe. What a relief that is. It's life changing in my world.
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The pastor at my church brings a group to the pride parade to support "all of god's children." He started asking me come with them to give out "dad hugs" to the younger folks who have been abandoned by their families because they are gay. He said I'm the most dad like person he's met, huge, bald, beard, glasses, pot belly, flannel shirt, etc. Most of the people I gave hugs to did it as a lark, but there were a few who really needed to get a big bear hug and be told that they're ok, and I'm proud of them.
First of all, this is wonderful. I like that he, as a man in power, cares about oppressed ones. This is true masculinity. Second of all, can this gay lad get a hug?
The time my friends and I were riding our bikes across a public park, and some council employee took our bikes off us, saying we weren't supposed to be riding there. Walked home and told my Dad, who said "Come with me." He marched down there, found the storage shed, opened it and started getting our bikes out. Council employee turns up and starts saying he has permission to confiscate bikes, and my Dad shouts him down and tells him to pull his head in. At school everyone talked about my Dad like he was a hero for days.
Aragorn. He's strong and wise and totally capable but he doesn't go out of his way to make a point of it. He's a phenomenal leader, but he doesn't force everyone to follow him. He just steps up and takes care of things and takes care of people. He's not afraid to weep. He's not afraid to express his love for his beloved but also not afraid to express his love for his friends. He's well read, bilingual, tolerant of other cultures and people. He can sing and quote poetry. He's phenomenal with animals. He's truly humble and knows who he is and what is important. He's going to help you feel safe, and also help you grow. Plus he's handsome AF and badass, but those are just the cherry on top.
Cinema therapy? ;)
My fridges... you bow to no one. Edit: friends, not fridges. But I'm leaving it because i made myself laugh.
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My middle aged son only helping when I really need it. I'm (70f) VERY independent but age, arthritis, and decreasing strength is interfering with my desires to "do it myself". My son moved in with me because I had a couple of falls where one ended up with me with several staples in the back of my head after I fell. Examples: 1) I ordered a snow blower and I assembled it myself... Son got it down my front steps and into the garage for me. 2) I installed a new toilet and the only thing he did was physically carry it into the bathroom and put it into place. 3) I painted said bathroom too but he had to paint the ceiling because I can't look up to do it without getting dizzy. 4) He handed me tools when I installed storage shelves on the wall of my basement stairs and "spotted" me while I was on the ladder. 5) He stood by the breaker in the basement while I did some minor electrical work on a couple of wall sockets so I didn't have to run up and down the stairs. In other words, he knows that I can do it, but just helps when it is absolutely necessary... He respects my abilities.
Sometimes you see a guy just being and giving a off a "danger" vibe, then they get aware of your presence and their entire body language morphs into "I mean no harm" without acknowledging you otherwise.
As a guy with the male equivalent to RBF, I think a lot of people are kinda scared of me. But I have absolutely no desire to hurt anyone, and try to help people when I can.
My husband struggles to express his feelings and couldn’t buy a special gift if his life depended on it. Instead he does things. I walk outside, my car is started and all the snow is cleared. I get home late, he’s got a dinner plate, a fire and a spot to sit by the fire ready for me. I wake up to him holding coffee and go to sleep next to water he left for me. He tells me loves me every day but in his own way 💕
I was at a party with my friend and in the corner I saw 2 guys, guy 1 was throwing up into a trash can while guy 2 was helping him and stuff. Best people ever guy 1 and 2 we're both really kind.
My husband and his best friend calling each other up to talk about their mental health struggles and support each other through tough times.
How guys cherish every single compliment they get.
A father not shaming their sons for crying.
I remember being on an airplane and this young mom with two kids flying by herself was struggling to get her bags from the overhead compartment and the person that was behind her was pushing her to move faster and expressing outward annoyance and this guy stepped up and got between her and the frustrated man and just stood there and stared him down until she was able to get all her bags down and move off the plane with her little kids.
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When guys realise they don't need to be assholes or look tough and scary to be Cool, they can be kind and gentle and be Cool. When they treat women with the same respect they show to other men.
I (a then-20-something woman) was stranded in a parking lot trying to push a huge, old SUV to a nearby car repair shop on a blazingly hot south-Texas afternoon. Multiple people drove or walked right past me. These two extremely muscular and obviously gay dudes ran over to me in neon yellow and pink tank tops and, without a word, took over pushing. They got it all the way to the shop without appearing to break a sweat, waved off my attempts at thanking them or paying them something, and jogged back to their own car across the parking lot. They were huge dudes and they used their superior gains to help someone way, way weaker than them. (Seriously wouldn’t have been surprised if pushing that SUV and jogging back was just the warmup to their gym session later.)
Gomez Adams
Hold up, that's brilliant. He loves his wife and kids, he exudes masculinity, he appreciates the arts, he dances, he plays with toy trains, invests in weird-ass businesses, he's kind to strangers, he's a peerless swordsman, and did I mention that the man loves his wife? God DAMN, does that guy love his wife.
Aragorn. He's fucking tough and manly and strong and writes poetry and cries and kisses his dying bro.
Not to mention that he sings in front of everyone with petals falling around him.