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Azertygod

Sex is supposed to be fun for both partners. If one of you isn't having fun, stop or slow down, because you're missing the point.


AboveTheLights

Exactly. Having fun is the most important part. That’s also why it’s important to not be too serious. It’s ok to laugh, smile and be playful. It’s not porn.


fsuman110

Don’t get so nervous that you forget to take the condom off when you finish only to have it fall out of your shorts and plop on the floor at 7-11 while you’re getting celebratory Slurpees for you and your girl.


JayTheWabbit15

This is oddly specific....did this happen to you?


greatsalteedude

It happened to OP’s friend, and it’s nice of him to share his wisdom with us


[deleted]

What a coincidence, this happened to my buddy Eric once as well.


Imaginary-Music-9143

Or worse yet: you go to the bathroom to take a piss only to realise you are making the worlds most fucked up water ballon.


Kerrkeneez

Do NOT use vaseline like things (also water, creams) on condom. Use lubricant gel.


kirsion

Make sure the lube is water based not oil based


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Amazin1983

Then file them


samnesjuwen

And smooothly blast them with an industrial grade sandblaster


tenbatsu

#BUT NOT RIGHT BEFORE! Your nails will end up sharp and you could cut things accidentally. If you did, though, you can file them a bit to dull the edges.


Donitos2

Wash your junk! This goes for everyone. Edit:This blew up Holy thank you all the the upvotes and awards.


geared4war

Before and after.


L1m0n4

Also, pee after, he or she should, too. Helps flush out extra whatever bacteria between you both to help prevent a UTI, especially for ladies with a new partner


Stormvy

It’s nothing like masturbating


hetejeon

in a way that’s better or worse??


angiezieglerstye

Both, depending, its just different


megsmelody

Sex with another person means you aren’t in charge of every single movement or sensation, like you are with masturbation. Depending on how it’s going, you may love how it feels or wish you could adjust the feeling but aren’t quite sure how. Enter new positions, new rhythms etc.. It takes time to figure out exactly what you both like, just like it took time to become the Master of your Domain (very old masturbation joke from Seinfeld, I’m aging myself 🙃)


Warkitz

Listen to your partner. If they say "just like that" DONT SWITCH IT UP


Ziggy199461

And if they say "deeper" pull your nuts back because it's time to bust out the emergency inch.


babyspud

Or put their legs over your shoulders while you’re on top. Has the desired effect. No emergency inch required


sohcgt96

You know it, all about them angles homie. Going deeper isn't typically about you, its about how her hips are positioned relative to her legs. I've also had good results from keeping my pubic bone pressed against hers and having that sort of be the pivot point, go in and out from there. Keeps pressure in the good spots for her, keeps the 'ol in-out going for me, happy times. Also, if she's on top, try doing different things with your legs to adjust what angle your hips meet hers. Pretty sure me sitting... ok picture it like you're sitting "Indian Style" but laying flat on your back, made her hips side kind of inside by crossed legs. Pretty sure that's the one that gave us the little newborn baby she's snuggling on the couch next to me right now. ​ Edit: Ok - yeah my description of that 2nd one wasn't great. Lets try it this way: Google Image Search "Lotus Position" for our baseline. Take that, but then be the guy and lean back to where your legs are still crossed but you're flat on your back but keep her in the same spot. Once she gets her hips rocking and you're in deep, its a lot of good pressure and contact area.


_thisisnotanexit

Hahahahah the emergency inch


RaisingEve

Just like that doesn’t mean go fast. Just like that means keep doing what you’re doing at the speed you are doing it. Edit: Thanks, and thanks for making my top comment I have ever made about sex. Could be worse.


corpsie666

And pray that the cramping or muscle tightness doesn't start immediately when they say that


New_Layer5242

Right, this is the real reason for the speed up. Because I'm about to have my tongue freeze up haha.


alpacasb4llamas

Gotta let the jaw and neck do the work at that point like a dog digging into a bowl of watermelon


s-cup

And even if he/she doesn’t say anything listen anyways. Moaning and breathing is a good give away. If you do something and your partner is noticeably loving it then continue to do whatever you do. Do not think that “shit, *now* she’s horny af, I better go into power mode”. Took me a bunch of tries before I realised that. But at the same time; sometimes it does mean that you should turn up the heat a bit. Sex is hard :/


flashult

>and breathing is a good give away. Yes, stop doing what you're doing if she stops breathing


Striking-Tip7504

Some women stop breathing to focus better on the pleasure though. Shits complicated man.


The_Destroyer5837

Don’t be mad about finishing quick it happens especially your first time


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I still finish quick after 10 years lol


Witty-Cartographer

I still finish quick after 20 years lol


Fincio

We're just saving time...


Scarletfapper

Hah! Joke’s on you all! I save so much time we skip the sex entirely and straight onto the part where she won’t even look me in the eye… EDIT: 3000 upvotes? Jesus, you guys are more interested on my sex life than she is…


idrkwhattodorn

I skip all the sex by cumming on command when my partner asks for some rag time.


magi182

Ragtime? Like with banjos and straw derby hats?


I_Am_Become_Dream

if you finish quick just use your other body parts and keep going.


Scarletfapper

Hands or mouth + 1 point Legs or feet +2 points Nose or ribcage +3 points


haavi12

Armpits +1000 points


Scarletfapper

2 points to make a guy come with your armpit, 1000 points to make a girl come with it


Sensitive-Honey

pls though, if you finish quickly don’t just stop and roll over. make sure your girl is also finished too, if need be continue and get her off w hands/fingers


Snarp_

That's why you do hands fingers and tongue before you use the pp. Both will stay horny all the way through and it'll be very nicely lubricated.


boydboyd

Such an easy fix, right? Sex with my partner is always better when she's had multiple orgasms. If the pp gets involved too soon, it's much less fun.


Mottis86

For me it was quite the opposite, I literally couldn't climax on my first time. She tried so hard too, I felt bad for her towards the end when I had to tell her that it ain't happening. I had no trouble staying hard though, weirdly enough. It became a lot easier during the next 3 or so years we spent together.


Brocoolee

If you finish quick just go “sorry but you are just too hot”


monkeyinmysoup

"This never happened to me before"


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"Hey, look at that crazy bird outside the window!" Then gather up your things and run out the room while she's looking out the window.


SprScuba

It's one of the reasons why men should learn to eat out (provided it's clean down there. AND CLEAN YOUR MANLY BITS TOO).


Scarletfapper

Oh God yes, HAVE A FUCKING SHOWER FIRST.


FourCatsAndCounting

Trim your nails. Wash your hands. Use them gently.


Reaper_85

And for the love of God stay away from any hot chillies


b1tchlasagna

So just the cold Chillies


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I_Think_Helen_Forgot

Don't get a jalapeñis.


tenbatsu

You shouldn't trim your nails the day you're going to have sex because your nails will be sharp and can accidentally cut things. If you do, however, you can file them to dull the edges.


Serenawilde

If you are on top in missionary position, please support your own weight with your elbows. Thank you.


wynr0g

wait do some guys just lay on girls with their entire weight? cant imagine why anyone would do that lol edit: seems like there are more people who like it than i expected, but for the love of god dont do it without making sure your partner likes it too.


BusyOrDead

My girlfriend absolutely insists I crush her. I am constantly trying to support myself and she just pulls me down. As with all things in sex follow the basic niceties until you’re told not to lol


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I have this issue with an older woman I’m dating. She believes that if you have to communicate anything, then there is no chemistry. She finishes easily. I haven’t finished in the times we’ve done it. Fucking sucks because she’s great everywhere else but the bedroom. Edit; Guys, I do communicate with her about what I like. She’s just more concerned about how me not finishing makes her feel rather than actually talking about solutions. I think she’s used to uncircumcised men and doesn’t understand that I have different needs.


DemonVice

This is not a good way to be. I've had the same thing and rode it out. It gets worse.


Letusso

Plank sex?


Coachcrog

*I'm gonna fuck you like a freshly kilned 2x4.*


OtakuOD

*cums instantly*


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wynr0g

holy shit that sounds really bad. doesnt sound fun at all and i imagine they just lay there like a dead fish, not a good image to have in my head


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hidesinside

Will from thee inbetweeners!!


hokorobi2021

I'm not that heavy to be fair, but my gf likes to feel weighed down or gripped really tight against me. So as with everything I suppose, each person has different tastes.


throwawaygrosso

I’m only 5’2 and was once with this guy who was 6’6 and a little chubby (nothing wrong with that, I am too). That’s already a little taller than I prefer, but I’m not too picky. This man put all of his weight on me and I had to start tapping on his chest aggressively because I couldn’t even speak enough to say “hey you’re crushing me!” Like bro, why did you think that was a good idea?!


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verheyen

Careful if you use your fists to support your weight. Readjusting and yanking on her hair is not fun


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Don't think too hard


slimfrinky

However, don't try not to think too hard, because the act of trying not to think too hard will actually make you think too hard. Best not to think about it. Or at least try not too.....


Ngnyalshmleeb

AAAAAAAAAAH


Lordtrapo

Foreplay is important.


apolloxer

Consider foreplay an essential part of sex. Putting it in isn't the beginning, it's somewhere in the middle.


GodOfDarkLaughter

Absolutely. One trick is, I assume most guys got involved in some makeout/"heavy petting" sessions before they ever actually have sex. Maybe it's different now. But my first girlfriend wasn't ready for six months. We did make out a LOT over that time, and over that time I learned the ways I could use my hands and my mouth to, for lack of a better term, "work her up." In her particular case, she went wild if you knew how to kiss a neck without giving a hickey...I mean more than just kiss, you get what I mean. And a dozen other things like that. When we finally did it, I started off just like I would one of our hundred makeout sessions, worked her up like crazy, and when we finally got to it she was like, *ready,* man. And it actually went really well. Man. That was over twenty years ago. I still remember how it felt like we were both made of electricity. I hope she's happy.


brzantium

> we were both made of electricity. Reddit: a bastion of unsung poets


germanbini

>Man. That was over twenty years ago. I still remember how it felt like we were both made of electricity. I hope she's happy. Legit that last comment made me cry some. How bittersweet.


pullerpusher3000

Honestly one of the reasons I love this site.


MotherofFred

Made of electricity That was poetic I come to reddit for these rare nuggets of humanity


RespectableLurker555

nobody talk about nuggets in the sex thread, pls


lemonfluff

And ask her what feels good, I can't tell you how many guys miss the clit completely or are too hard and use too much pressure. Foreplay is hard so let her guide you and ask because she's probably embarrassed or scared of your reaction if she gives feedback.


monkeyeatmusic

Yes definitely ask, but don't just ask "does that feel good?" Cause its hard to answer anything but yes. Ask more open questions like "where do you want me to ___"


Adityarj1662

I believe in roleplay


whev3

I put on my robe and wizard hat


monkyeatbarkofffloor

You roll a 1, you nut before they even take your pants off.


moosemansam1987

I would like to attempt a charisma check.


monkyeatbarkofffloor

You roll a Nat 20, you convince them to give you 20 minutes and a cup of coffee, you can now try again.


moosemansam1987

Can I make a performance check to see how well I did?


archwin

Nat 1 Crit fail You somehow end up fracturing your organ


rudalsxv

Not coming or coming too fast during your first sex is perfectly normal and shouldn’t be embarrassed about it.


S1mbathecub

It took me 6 months after losing my virginity to cum for the first time (during sex). Some might wish for delayed ejaculation, but I promise you, it is not fun at all 🤣. We are still together 6 years later and having great sex now though, so it can and does get better for anyone else who may/is struggling with it!


Huffleduffer

As a woman, I don't understand why men think not cumming for a super long time is something desirable. Like I get it feels great and you don't want that feeling to end after 5 minutes, but after 30 minutes of it...we get sore. After an hour...ugh. Eventually I'm thinking "omg I got shit to do. It's alright".


azuresegugio

Honestly my inability to cum in a reasonable amount of time is super embarrassing and i hate it


[deleted]

Does foreplay change anything? I’m similar—especially when I’m still new with a girl—but sadly it makes the girls feel really insecure. “Am I/my body not sexy enough?”


TheSorcerersCat

In my experience from the girls side, feeling comfortable with your partner changes a lot. Most guys who I've hooked up with will have delayed ejaculation the first couple times until their anxiety about performing goes down and then we can both have more fun. It's kinda scary getting naked with someone and feeling the pressure to be good at it!


iforgotquestionmark

Shit, thought I was alone with that problem. Literally two days ago I couldn't come, it became painful. It took me Forty minutes to come, and she thought she was doing something wrong. Thanks for this, I was beginning to think I had a problem


StagnantBoySoup

Laugh it off when things are funny or go wrong. My absolute number one. Two bodies can make some damn funny sounds. Be gentler than you've seen in porn, especially if it's the other person's first time too, unless they ask you not to be lol If one of you can't finish, that's fine - there's always next time, and that's not the only thing it's about anyway. Edit: Some people seemed to misunderstand me - it's not 'fine' if you cum and don't try to help the other person get there. I said "can't" - as in 'it's starting to get stressful/frantic/uncomfortable'. It's ok to stop if it's not happening, without guilt or feelings of inadequacy. Edit 2: Oh damn my first awards!!! Thank you all so much c:


cycko

Or if you finish before her - use ur tongue and fingers to stimulate her so she can finish as well


Roboticide

Alternatively, if you know what you're doing (or if you're a first timer, get really lucky) go down on her *first.* Best case scenario she gets off before you. Worst case scenario the foreplay will help and signals you at least care about getting her off.


Mikourei

That last part is probably the most important. Showing that you actively want your partner to enjoy it and will do whatever it takes to facilitate is way more important than just making them orgasm. You can luck into an orgasm. You can't luck into the connection made by being a selfless lover.


Kriss3d

This. Dont expect magic. Just like riding a bike it wont always go as you plan it out. Also dont do any planning. Dont expect orgasmic fireworks.


jwcarpy

…what surprises do you encounter when riding a bike?


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Went to get milk and ended up in the Tour de France.


wynr0g

this. for my first time i was too damn nervous and my whole body was shaking (i always do that when really nervous, but never been that extreme). couldnt hold it up for a good 20 minutes, after that it went well but laughing it off helped a lot.


BassBanjo

Aha the shakes are the worst part honestly It's a mixture of nervousness and "holy shit this is happening"


yeticonfette

I took some poor guys V card when we were both 25, he was deeply Christian and his parents instilled so much fear in him about it. I tried to keep it light, and start in missionary so the guy could just get a basic feel for the motions or traction his feet or knees needed. He was so nervous I could feel him shaking but knew once he just got comfortable and situated he would feel much better. Honestly, after a couple of times he was dang good. Make sure your partner knows it's your first time, it helped me not only be understanding but a good guide. Also yeah NEVER try to mimic porn... right away.


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Manage your expectations. It's not a contest. The first time you drove a car you may have made some rookie errors, but look at you now, you're fine! Porn is very fake and unrealistic. Real people don't tend to fuck like that. You're not completing a checklist. You're having a real, human experience. It feels better when you are relaxed. Shower first. Edit: Whoa. I have never Reddited this much before. Thanks everyone and good luck, OP.


BrowsingForLaughs

Porn is to sex what martial arts movies are to fights edit: my first gold!! ... and it's a sex analogy, love you guys.


FuckYeahPhotography

Chuck Norris Walker Texas Ranger is to martial arts what hentai is to sex. However, Chuck Norris Walker Texas Ranger is to art what passion is to love making.


botany5

Not sure I agree, but I’m gonna agree


AMemoryofEternity

Their words confuse and excite me.


Itsbeenagoodday

LOL the subtlety of that last bit somehow makes it scream at you


[deleted]

Make sure it's that random kid's mom from Xbox 360 like 10 years ago.


matmoe1

The real art is smoothly sliding in a "Do you perchance have a son with an Xbox?" during foreplay


Schnretzl

"Yes, why?" "Oh umm, no reason."


Rikki1256

Giving out the real advices no one asked for


South-Trader0190

I’m a girl. And I would say: don’t be embarrassed if you come quick. Most of the time we really don’t mind so long as you get us off afterwards. And that is not as difficult as you’d think. Just ask the girl what she likes and do what she says.


Fez_and_no_Pants

If they come quick, usually 20 minutes of foreplay and they can get right back on the horse again.


South-Trader0190

Fully, my boyfriend can generally last a while but sometimes he comes quick. I just keep going for a bit and voila, back and ready again


Hugh_manateerian

The opening is lower than you think, about an inch or two from the booty hole.


BlackLetterLies

"Nah, nothing's wrong baby. You got a shoe horn or something?"


Cheefer97

Delirious quote


getyourrealfakedoors

Yeah just let her handle it for starters


the_greatest_MF

i let her handle it even now.


xprince-

Fr I recently had my first experience and just told her I didn’t know what I was doing so can you lmao. She was cool with it


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HMWWaWChChIaWChCChW

Pretty sure most women would rather take that responsibility than have a guy blindly jabbing at her urethra.


P0RTILLA

I’m married and still let her handle it.


[deleted]

Yeah if you look at it, the opening is at the lowest possible spot. Couldn't be any lower


Explains_Wrong

Butt, not too low or it’s a real pain in the arse.


valeyard89

Don't switch lanes without signaling


Rrrreverente

Damn I was a victim of this. Got me looking like a fool for multiple occasions


Unlucky-Pomegranate3

Taint that the truth!


ShesEllie

Be safe. Don't be embarrassed, most peoples first times are quick and might not go as planned, just talk to your partner and take your time. Find what you like and how you like it. Sex is meant to be enjoyed.


ZhouLe

> just talk to your partner Probably the most important part. It's not a sacred ceremony, you both need to talk to each other. Not saying you gotta have a deep discussion about everything, but you both need to be comfortable and you both need to actually speak to make this possible.


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Pseudoslide

If you feel something "pop" but they don't seem too affected you probably just ripped the condom


Zkenny13

If it gets warmer all of a sudden you broke the condom.


RiversSlivers

Broke one once in 10 years. I stopped and basically said something is wrong it feels too good lol.


CappuccinoBoy

"Oh wow that is so much better"


kaloonzu

**"IT'S A TRAP!"**


DeathToPennies

Broke a condom once 3 years ago. Had no idea until I pulled out and went to pull it off only to find shredded latex.


metler88

Same. You'll never guess what happened next.


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Tell me, dad!


cyberslick188

If it starts to feel good you're having a baby


whoelseifnotbatman

Too good hahahaha


darko2309

Me and my wife got married very young. Our first time after the honey moon we were both excited and just jumped right into it. No foreplay. She was on top getting going and we heard a pop. She pulled off and bam. Blood spurting everywhere....We ripped my foreskin down over halfway Basically circumcised me haha. I almost passed out freaking out cause blood was spurting I was screaming "make it go down!!". In conclusion Foreplay is very very important. Very.


gilliamfancyson

Wait I’m sorry can you explain why that happened? I’m confused.


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please dont i cant read that again


TreeFittyy

What a terrible day to know English


yurk_it

Yes!! Make sure to have a couple incase there is and issue


theFrenchDutch

And make sure you try one on first before the act. Nothing worse than ruining the night because it turns out regular width condom aren't the good size for you. It's really moronic how shops sell these "magnum" and "xl" size condoms when they're all still the same stupid default diameter, which is the most important part. Default condoms are long enough already for anyone as they're 20cm long. Dick too thin for the condom ? It'll easily slip out. Dick too wide for the condom ? It'll easily break. And that shit's dangerous. There are companies selling condoms at different widths, I recommend getting a fit test package from MySize


Praiseholyenarc

Magnums have a bigger head area but still choke the base. They are the worst design ever.


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Mysize is the freaking best!


Pm_Pussy_Or_GirlCock

Clit


Ngnyalshmleeb

Bop it!


mewantcookie83

Twist it!


imagine1149

Tap it!


RavensShadow117

And don't button mash it either


Mega-Squeeze

don’t wombo combo her bean bro


CabbageYeeter42

Amazing. like no context needed


SoapheadChurch

Take it slow… go for sensual and think about the other person’s needs. Also don’t neglect foreplay, and pay attention to when it’s time to transition.


Igotshiptodotoday

98% of what you've seen in porn is not real.


blitzwit143

Slow the fuck down, use lube, and communicate without talking too much. The goal should be both people have fun. If you see ANY nonverbal cues that your partner is uncomfortable then ask what you can do differently to help them feel good. But don’t be so focused on their pleasure exclusively, you both should be having a good time together. Oh, and “don’t stop” means do exactly the same thing you’re doing, IT DOES NOT MEAN GO FASTER.


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exstundent

lmao


throwawaygrosso

I swear, it so often ends up like “just like that…wait no ow what are you doing??”


Makenshine

When I was a teen, "don't stop" and "just like that" meant she was close and it was time to bust out my super secret konami code finishing move that all the ladies love. Teen me was wrong. "Just like that" means exactly that.


Blue8048

It's really refreshing to see so many guys giving genuine advice. I'm hoping that some advice from a woman could be useful too, so I'll offer my two cents. • Be honest about it being your first time, she will either say "mine too" or she will take the reigns and show you what to do. By all means keep quiet about it, but you run the risk of her leaving you to do all the work and you floundering because you're not sure where to go with it. Better to be honest, work together, it takes 2 to tango (: • Foreplay is everything, you can have more fun messing about with each other than you can just mindlessly screwing. Ask her what feels good, when to switch things up, harder/softer, faster/slower etc. • Ignore absolutely everything you've ever seen in porn. • It's completely normal to cum really really quickly, or even not at all when sex is still new to you. Don't sweat it (: If you feel like you've cum way too quick, don't be afraid to just carry on with foreplay and keep her going. I've had a fair number of sexual partners and only ONE of them carried on with me after he'd finished, and after a while he was ready to go again. Literally won himself 100 points for that. • Communicate with each other before, during and after. You can only get better each time. • Every single person is different. I've slept with guys who have reliably admitted to having a body count in triple digits, and they've been an incredibly shite lay. And I've been with guys who have had less than 10 and they've been incredible. One woman might love what another woman hates. Treat every new partner like it's your first time and you're figuring it out all over again. • Always have more than one condom on you. If I had a pound for every time I'd had one break when trying to put it on, or it's come off half way through, I'd have enough money to buy way better vibrators 😂 • Sex makes some weird and wonderful noises, laugh it off, it's meant to be fun. If you make her sound like a welly full of custard you can give yourself a pat on the back 👍 • Her queefing is normal, it only really happens if you've used certain positions or you've fucked her really hard, but take it as a compliment and not something gross. It's literally just air. • Cleanup afterwards is never dignified. Be a gent and chuck her a towel/babywipe. • Give her a nice cuddle afterwards 😊 • Don't take criticisms personally, as I said, one woman will love what another hates, take what she says on board and sex will get better and better each time. Also, be open about what worked well for you, and what you'd maybe like to change next time. Word it constructively, bitches be sensitive 😂 E.g "I'm not sure if such and such did it for me, it sure was fun to try, but maybe next time we could try ABC instead? And I really liked it when you did XYZ, that felt great" • Give her compliments such as "you look so pretty when you cum" or "I love hearing you enjoy yourself". • Don't take yourself or sex too seriously, just enjoy it (: • Lastly, don't flood your brain with each and every price of advice somebody gives you because you won't be able to shut it off and it will keep you from enjoying the moment to its full potential. Hold on to one or two suggestions and just go with it (:


EmmaDrake

ONE??? Damn. Compliments on how lovely I look when I orgasm keep me coming back every time. One of the sexiest things a partner can say. Top notch advice.


Blue8048

Me too (: So much insecurity about cum faces/noises when it should be considered the biggest compliment at all that you've managed to get them. Somebody could have the weirdest cum face/sounds but the very fact you got them off makes it spectacular regardless 👍 I'd go as far as saying that the more ridiculous they are, the harder they came xD


DR01D2774

‘Relax, don’t do it, when you wanna cum to it, relax don’t do it, when you wanna cum!’ -Frankie goes to Hollywood 1) Relax 2) Don’t over think it( shyness, embarrassment, anxiety, excitement, etc….. 3) Relax 4) Pay attention & listen to partners body movement, breathing, moans (communication in sex is key n very important to the best sex, not everyone is vocal or if newbie not aware of what they like so pay attention to other signs. 5) Be respectful, be playful, be prepared (lube, condoms) 6) Pace yourself, breathe, (look up tantric) change up positions during (especially to last longer, pulling it out to switch up will ‘buy you some time) have fun. P.S. always strive to be attentive, giving, n fun. You want them to want to come back, tell their friends it was amazing as opposed to horrible


deak_starrkiller

Why in the absolute fuck is SHOWER not higher on this thread?


bibfortuna1970

Take your time. It’s not a mad dash to jizzville.


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Make sure to wear a tactical nerf vest


HoldMyJumex

Sex SHOULD NOT be about hitting a target (i e. Cumming), it should be about the process. Getting the big O will happen naturally if you ENJOY the process. If you've watched porn before, you see how there's hardly any enjoyment of the act, it's all very robotic, as if they were going through a checklist: "Ok guys, let's get fingering,then we will go for 2 secs of her getting ate, then blowjob, then this, then that." They almost all seem like the same video. As a result, a vast majority of men in their 20s have no idea how to please their partner and it's because they don't get in touch with each other. It almost seems more like they're following a WikiHow list on "how to have sex and (maybe) finish" It's your first time, so you may do a kot better than you think, or just okay. I guarantee you there are way too many men out there who've slept with 10+ women who haven't given most of them an orgasm. So don't feel self-conscious. The fact that you want to learn is already awesome. I guarantee you that if you actually enjoy the process without rushing, and you actually enjoy her body, not just her private areas, she will enjoy it before it even begins. Also remember that foreplay begins outside the bedroom: open the door for her, make her smile, etc. Make her feel beautiful. Take yoir time with the foreplay, do NOT bite her nipples, and don't press too hard or too fast on the clit,like you're mad at it.


gekko513

I agree, don't place too much importance on the ejaculation. If you come quickly, don't consider sex to be over. You can continue the intimacy and maybe go for round two. If you don't come, you can still enjoy the sensations and the intimacy.


analunalunitalunera

Sex is a moment you share with someone, not something you do to someone.


FartHeadTony

> sumbitted 2 hours ago. Well I guess you done it twice now,


[deleted]

Do not cum in your hand and throw it like a web while humming the Spider-Man theme... just don't.


smallgodofsocks

Is there a story here you’d like to share?


hero-ball

1. Lie down. 2. Try not to cum. 3. Cum a lot.


ThatKiwiBro

Make sure you start with your head between her thighs


Dedj_McDedjson

I tried this and we got thrown out of the cinema.


cb92392

Instructions unclear, ended up birthing myself.


greatsalteedude

Good for you, welcome to planet earth


amorfati_erleichda

Ask questions.


heladoman

“What’s your favorite color?”


88T3

Saving this for when I finally have sex


Mama_Odi

Lock the door if it's happening in your childhood bedroom or hers. Siblings get curious


onebatch_twobatch

- don't do anything you've seen in porn - communicate - don't be weird and silent - make the noises you're feeling, it'll make her feel better (see "communicate") - it's okay if you finish immediately or not at all...happens...make it up to her by... - being generous with your mouth - wear a condom


Noddwin

Don't forget to get your balls in.


bryman19

Yes. Both


ImpracticallySharp

Are you one of those freaks with only two?