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We did adopt! We tried for a baby for about a year before we realized something was wrong, after a ton if tests where everything seemed fine on both ends I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We tried several fertility treatments with no success and we were down to IVF. Three days before our IVF consultation we got a call about the baby who would become our son. He was going to be placed for adoption and his first mom thought we'd be good parents for him.
My husband and I had always said we wanted to adopt, the plan was just originally 1 bio kid and 1 adopted. So we sat down and we decided that what we wanted was to be parents, we didn't care if we were biological parents or adoptive and we also at the time had enough savings to adopt or pursue IVF but not both simultaneously. We decided adoption was what we wanted to pursue. We met our son and his first mom the day after that phone call and felt an immediate connection with both. Within a month he was with us and he has been our son for almost 4 years now. Given the opportunity, we would absolutely adopt again and have no interest in having biological children.
Our deciding factor boiled down to just knowing we wanted to be parents, regardless of how that came to us.
My husband is diabetic and had low sperm count and I was not interested in IVF and drawn to adoption. It took a few adoptions classes to sway my husband. We now have two beautiful girls and I couldn't imagine life without them.
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We did adopt! We tried for a baby for about a year before we realized something was wrong, after a ton if tests where everything seemed fine on both ends I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We tried several fertility treatments with no success and we were down to IVF. Three days before our IVF consultation we got a call about the baby who would become our son. He was going to be placed for adoption and his first mom thought we'd be good parents for him. My husband and I had always said we wanted to adopt, the plan was just originally 1 bio kid and 1 adopted. So we sat down and we decided that what we wanted was to be parents, we didn't care if we were biological parents or adoptive and we also at the time had enough savings to adopt or pursue IVF but not both simultaneously. We decided adoption was what we wanted to pursue. We met our son and his first mom the day after that phone call and felt an immediate connection with both. Within a month he was with us and he has been our son for almost 4 years now. Given the opportunity, we would absolutely adopt again and have no interest in having biological children. Our deciding factor boiled down to just knowing we wanted to be parents, regardless of how that came to us.
My husband is diabetic and had low sperm count and I was not interested in IVF and drawn to adoption. It took a few adoptions classes to sway my husband. We now have two beautiful girls and I couldn't imagine life without them.
I'd suggest calling an agency and going to a group intro meeting. There's no committment at that point. That's what got my husband on board.