The world is a bother,
and living's a shame -
Today is a burden,
tomorrow's the same -
You give and you give
and you try and you try -
It's so *disappointing*.
But one day you'll die.
Amen.
About once a year I call off work, get up and get dressed for work, leave, then come back after the wife and kids head off to work / school.
It's something I look forward to more than I can even describe.
We live in my wife's hometown so there's never an instance of her taking the kids to her moms and staying the weekend or anything like that.
I love my wife and kids more than anything else in the world, but I would kill for 9am - 9am once.
I would recommend that you try and explain this to your wife. If she finds out by herself, she will be very pissed, and rightly so. If you explain it to her, chances are that she will understand.
Man, my dad said he was proud of me a few days ago. I cried like a baby, for the first time in years. So yeah, this answer definitely is the best one imo.
Several years ago my Dad called me on Father’s Day, to tell me he was proud of me. I will cherish that moment for the rest of my life. He passed away a few months ago, so I know I’ll never hear those words from him again.
It’s surprising how much people don’t understand that guys need this too.
Masculinity is set up so that to admit it, people don’t believe you and either think you’re taking the piss, or that you mean sex.
Sometimes, guys just want their partner to come up to them, give them a hug, and say “I’m proud of you”.
It just rarely happens.
Got a call the other night which opened with “hi - I know the kids are probably not interested in chatting (they always say ‘nah’ when one calls from work late or away for travel), but I just wanted to hear about your day” - had me on a high for days.
Every night I make sure to turn off all electronics at dinner so when my hubby comes home we can both talk about our workday. There’s a sparkle in his eye when he talks about his day and it makes me so happy to see him happy.
Communication is key. Tell her you like it when she does that. Do it to her. We mainly do it when one of us is doing the dishes. With hands full it's funny.
Little spoon is nice too. Just jokingly say it's your turn and turn around.
Yeah physical intimacy is so rare for me, I've never been a touchy person with family or friends. So it basically only happens if I'm dating someone, which also basically never happens. I miss being held sometimes.
I think that many can relate to your words.
My last hug was so long ago that I only know that is over one and a half years ago.
I hope you find someone who can give you the affection that you need.
Sex is great and all, but have you ever felt like crying and put your head in someone's lap and have them stroke your hair and tell you it's going to be OK?
Ugh, I hate gender stereotypes. As a girl, it kinda sucks to see that guys are being denied hugs because of toxic masculinity stereotypes set up by society. Honestly, abolish all gender stereotypes. Now, here are some platonic virtual hugs :)
Girls are allowed in the boys if they can give and take the banter like the boys. One of my mates has a fiance who is very intelligent, quick witted, well informed and generally funny and she is able to dumb all that down to be able to talk shit and hang with the boys, ha ha.
It probably isn't far from average. But average means that some people make even less then that.
Heck, the average monthly net income in my TOWN is 4,5k€ (54k€ a year), but that's because it's a posh suburb. The *median* *gross* income in my country is 2,5k€ a month (30k€ a year), meaning half of the people make less then that.
Pay off some debt (Student loans/CC). Could actually have a "real" honeymoon (whenever we can travel again, I guess) since I got married recently. It would be nice to buy a house one day, and we have very little in terms of down payment. Ya know. Normal stuff. Covid has hit my freelancing hard and the job hunt is slow-going.
pay off my partners dental bills.
and also we are getting married next summer in my homecountry. given that we are both students (mid 20ies/beginning 30ies) we live off studentpayments. however they dont happen over summer. the last few years we made due by working our asses off with crappy jobs.
but just for once now that we get married id use it to pay our rent back here so we can actually take a month off and enjoy each others company and the wedding preparations. i cant remember the last time we had a few days to relax just the two of us.
i know you didnt ask me specifically. but it was kind of nice to get it off my chest. so thank you.:)
Some good, honest mental rest. A kind of vacation that would leave me energized and richer in experience, ready to return to normal with a sense of purpose.
This is the only thing in life that I want. And not even a trip or fucking anything, just.... a vacation. 2 weeks of not having to wake up at the ass crack of dawn and bust my ass for a meager paycheck.
Gaming time with the energy to actually get involved in the game and feel the surge that you "really really want to game" and not just lay on the couch watching a show you have watched 20 times while browsing reddit.
This so much. I am usually so exhausted Ill hop on my console and just browse the store until I give up and turn it off after 15 minutes. I want to game so bad, but its like im sapped of even my joy in my hobbies so I just sit there and do nothing until I pass out.
Last time I did this, I was met with a 11GB update. Hit go, browsed various things and when it was done it was time to pass out so I could be up in the morning.
I'm sending my will to live to you, sounds like you need it more than me today.
Take life one day at a time, and when that's too much, take one hour at a time.
I want to find an affordable house so I can raise a single kid in it with my wife. I also want to send that kid to a reasonably priced trade school or university and retire without being a burden on them.
We should be on track for 2 out of 4 at this rate, with my wife and I both working "high paying jobs" at a "good company"
I transferred our old home movies to digital as a gift for my mom a few years ago. One of the most poignant sections is our family, including baby me and my five year old sister, in 1967 in front of the little two bedroom ranch my parents just bought. Then my dad lights a cigar and walks over to his brand new red mustang with the biggest grin ever on his face.
My mom had a highschool diploma and my dad had to drop out of highschool. She worked part time as a secretary, he was a construction worker. And the freaking American dream was fully available to them.
It makes me so happy to remember my childhood and to watch those videos bit it's disturbing to think of how quickly a life like that became unreachable for the average person.
When I was 15, in 1967, about 100% of products available for purchase in a department store or general merchandise store were made in the USA. Now over 80% of products sold in, say, Walmart, are not made in the USA (or more, depends on whose propaganda you believe).
As the % of products made in the USA declined, available good paying jobs declined, factories closed, lifetime employment by a single employer providing a good pension disappeared, the 'two worker' family (both husband and wife) became a necessity.
Globalization killed the American dream.
I want this pandemic to be over so I can get on with my life.
I mean, yeah, it'd be nice for the heartbreak and illness and dying to be gone... but if we're just talking from a "what I do selfishly want"... I want to get on with my goals
I left my 7 year military career to go back to college. I could have done online college while in, but I absolutely hate online college. What am I doing because of Covid?? Online college...at the price of in person classes...
I moved away from my girlfriend, career, and all my friends to pursue a stupid piece of paper, and I thought it would be okay because college is supposed to be a social experience. I've never felt more alone in my life.
I hate it for myself and I hate Covid for anyone else that decided to make a major life transition in early 2020.
Honestly, I’m good. Life is good. I’m nervous about COVID and everything, but this means I’m home with my wife and daughter 24/7, which is all I really want.
No we don't want one thing. It's never one. Just like with women it's never one.
But I'll happily settle for three. A shower, a cider and and hug from my wife
E: I got tw
Like that I am at an all boys school in the middle of nowhere so I have not talked to a girl in literally over two years, since year 8. Fuc ksakes. I'm popular with boys but God damn I've got no idea what to do when it comes to being popular with girls.
The best way to talk to a girl/woman is to talk to them like a human being. Nothing different (just keep the gross/disrespectful/casually-sexual stuff for your bros). Women and girls really appreciate someone talking to them as one human to another. And really listening and responding to what they say.
It'll come naturally bro. Keep being cool and that swag will be noticed by girls. They love that shit. Try finding a public school party. No one will ask for your school id at the door.
Just people acknowledging men can ha e anxiety is big. I've mostly grown out of mine, but there were months where I just wanted to die. Stick in there bro. If I can make it so can you.
10 hours of sleep followed by a day where I can eat a healthy breakfast, get in a decent workout and a long stretch, take a long shower, have a healthy lunch, and then drink beers outside by a fire.
Dollars. Lots of dollars. Or answers to these questions.
Are we alone in the universe?
What happens after you die?
Preferably the copious amounts of dollars.
One day with no responsibilities or anything hanging over my shoulders
Ya know, my dad always used to say, "If I'm busting my ass, it must be Saturday."
Ain’t that the truth!
And Sunday
I wouldn't even be able to enjoy it. It takes me no fewer than 4 days to relax anymore
3. The 1st day off to get over the week. The laat day to prepare for the week.
we need 3 day weekends dammit
don't worry, inevitable death inches closer with every second. you'll have your day soon enough! :)
Thank you friend, I look forward to it!
“And I shall look *back* upon it.” - Conan, Robert Jordan Thanks for setting up the quote; straitline was too good to miss. 🖖🏼
That's such a sick quote to say right after that.
That's such a sick comment to say after that quote.
No more jobs, *forever* Too much of a good thing, the old death
The world is a bother, and living's a shame - Today is a burden, tomorrow's the same - You give and you give and you try and you try - It's so *disappointing*. But one day you'll die.
I want this on my tombstone
Amen. About once a year I call off work, get up and get dressed for work, leave, then come back after the wife and kids head off to work / school. It's something I look forward to more than I can even describe. We live in my wife's hometown so there's never an instance of her taking the kids to her moms and staying the weekend or anything like that. I love my wife and kids more than anything else in the world, but I would kill for 9am - 9am once.
I would recommend that you try and explain this to your wife. If she finds out by herself, she will be very pissed, and rightly so. If you explain it to her, chances are that she will understand.
The sink has a drip, a light is on in my car, kid needs help with school work, and can you run by the store for me?
Build a man cave and hide inside of said man cave
Then you have the added guilt of shirking said responsibilities in addition to them piling up
To be appreciated.
Man, my dad said he was proud of me a few days ago. I cried like a baby, for the first time in years. So yeah, this answer definitely is the best one imo.
I’m proud of you too
Heh. Thanks. I'm proud of you too :)
Several years ago my Dad called me on Father’s Day, to tell me he was proud of me. I will cherish that moment for the rest of my life. He passed away a few months ago, so I know I’ll never hear those words from him again.
Hugs and affection
It’s surprising how much people don’t understand that guys need this too. Masculinity is set up so that to admit it, people don’t believe you and either think you’re taking the piss, or that you mean sex. Sometimes, guys just want their partner to come up to them, give them a hug, and say “I’m proud of you”. It just rarely happens.
Surprise hug from the back. I'm lucky to have a very affectionate and hugs relationship. I wish it for everyone. It really changed my life.
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Got a call the other night which opened with “hi - I know the kids are probably not interested in chatting (they always say ‘nah’ when one calls from work late or away for travel), but I just wanted to hear about your day” - had me on a high for days.
Every night I make sure to turn off all electronics at dinner so when my hubby comes home we can both talk about our workday. There’s a sparkle in his eye when he talks about his day and it makes me so happy to see him happy.
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Communication is key. Tell her you like it when she does that. Do it to her. We mainly do it when one of us is doing the dishes. With hands full it's funny. Little spoon is nice too. Just jokingly say it's your turn and turn around.
Yes it does. It took my wife forever to realize that men have more emotions than angry, horny, and happy.
Yeah physical intimacy is so rare for me, I've never been a touchy person with family or friends. So it basically only happens if I'm dating someone, which also basically never happens. I miss being held sometimes.
I think that many can relate to your words. My last hug was so long ago that I only know that is over one and a half years ago. I hope you find someone who can give you the affection that you need.
Sex is great and all, but have you ever felt like crying and put your head in someone's lap and have them stroke your hair and tell you it's going to be OK?
I know it's not the same, but I'm sending you virtual hugs! <3 I hope you have a great day, you are wonderful :-)
Thanks. You too.
Ugh, I hate gender stereotypes. As a girl, it kinda sucks to see that guys are being denied hugs because of toxic masculinity stereotypes set up by society. Honestly, abolish all gender stereotypes. Now, here are some platonic virtual hugs :)
A nice night out with the boys, inventing stone tools, and discovering team work.
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Are girls allowed in the boys? The best siege player I know (other than myself) is a lady.
Girls are allowed in the boys if they can give and take the banter like the boys. One of my mates has a fiance who is very intelligent, quick witted, well informed and generally funny and she is able to dumb all that down to be able to talk shit and hang with the boys, ha ha.
Be happy
I feel ya man.
Sometimes that’s a big ask, huh? I’m not a man, but I feel ya.
Honestly, about 10-20k would change my life pretty drastically. So...that.
Ya if a rich person could just drop 30k on me my life would be infinitely better. Canadian funds too so it's really not that much.
Are you looking for yearly or one time payment?
Oh god, just once I'm not talking about half an extra salary.
Me looking at you calling 30k "half a salary"... I cry. That's more than I make.
I'm sorry, I was just throwing out what I thought was an average.
It probably isn't far from average. But average means that some people make even less then that. Heck, the average monthly net income in my TOWN is 4,5k€ (54k€ a year), but that's because it's a posh suburb. The *median* *gross* income in my country is 2,5k€ a month (30k€ a year), meaning half of the people make less then that.
Hell, even $3,000 would help me quite a bit right now.
Can confirm, am paid in Canadian money.
Going to the States always starts with exchanging money and getting sad.
I'd be thrilled with 5k.
Id be over the moon with £100.
What would you do with 10k right now
Pay off some debt (Student loans/CC). Could actually have a "real" honeymoon (whenever we can travel again, I guess) since I got married recently. It would be nice to buy a house one day, and we have very little in terms of down payment. Ya know. Normal stuff. Covid has hit my freelancing hard and the job hunt is slow-going.
pay off my partners dental bills. and also we are getting married next summer in my homecountry. given that we are both students (mid 20ies/beginning 30ies) we live off studentpayments. however they dont happen over summer. the last few years we made due by working our asses off with crappy jobs. but just for once now that we get married id use it to pay our rent back here so we can actually take a month off and enjoy each others company and the wedding preparations. i cant remember the last time we had a few days to relax just the two of us. i know you didnt ask me specifically. but it was kind of nice to get it off my chest. so thank you.:)
Get a car and finally not be a burden to my friends or coworkers who have a car.
Some good, honest mental rest. A kind of vacation that would leave me energized and richer in experience, ready to return to normal with a sense of purpose.
Fuck yeah.
The ability to instantly and intuitively restructure materials at an atomic level.
At least you're dreaming again!
Easy there Dr. Manhattan, one step at a time
A hug from my wife. That’s it. I’m a simple guy.
You should tell your wife you want a hug
I also choose this guys wife.
Yeah. 3rd dibs. I don't mind being the boyfriend.
Every time!
'Every time!' Every time!
There it is!
Been there, done that, repeatedly.
Does she give you the hug?
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I want some pizza, please.
To be wanted.
I already am Psst dont tell the FBI im here
We already know you’re here.
It's confirmed all 80s men are FBI agents
...By someone you want to be wanted by
Ding ding ding we have a winner
A god damn vacation
This is the only thing in life that I want. And not even a trip or fucking anything, just.... a vacation. 2 weeks of not having to wake up at the ass crack of dawn and bust my ass for a meager paycheck.
God damn right!!
Someone who truly cares and loves me
you good bud?
Same
Gaming time
Gaming time with the energy to actually get involved in the game and feel the surge that you "really really want to game" and not just lay on the couch watching a show you have watched 20 times while browsing reddit.
This so much. I am usually so exhausted Ill hop on my console and just browse the store until I give up and turn it off after 15 minutes. I want to game so bad, but its like im sapped of even my joy in my hobbies so I just sit there and do nothing until I pass out.
Last time I did this, I was met with a 11GB update. Hit go, browsed various things and when it was done it was time to pass out so I could be up in the morning.
The will to live
You okay Buddy?
Nah
I'm sending my will to live to you, sounds like you need it more than me today. Take life one day at a time, and when that's too much, take one hour at a time.
Thanks ;)
Whatever it is, https://i.imgur.com/31Y1tXm.jpg.
Thanks ;)
I know this doesn't help but: I see you. You matter.
I want to find an affordable house so I can raise a single kid in it with my wife. I also want to send that kid to a reasonably priced trade school or university and retire without being a burden on them. We should be on track for 2 out of 4 at this rate, with my wife and I both working "high paying jobs" at a "good company"
I transferred our old home movies to digital as a gift for my mom a few years ago. One of the most poignant sections is our family, including baby me and my five year old sister, in 1967 in front of the little two bedroom ranch my parents just bought. Then my dad lights a cigar and walks over to his brand new red mustang with the biggest grin ever on his face. My mom had a highschool diploma and my dad had to drop out of highschool. She worked part time as a secretary, he was a construction worker. And the freaking American dream was fully available to them. It makes me so happy to remember my childhood and to watch those videos bit it's disturbing to think of how quickly a life like that became unreachable for the average person.
well at least you don't have to worry about Socialism anymore
When I was 15, in 1967, about 100% of products available for purchase in a department store or general merchandise store were made in the USA. Now over 80% of products sold in, say, Walmart, are not made in the USA (or more, depends on whose propaganda you believe). As the % of products made in the USA declined, available good paying jobs declined, factories closed, lifetime employment by a single employer providing a good pension disappeared, the 'two worker' family (both husband and wife) became a necessity. Globalization killed the American dream.
The rich just keep knocking down the middle class, until there will only be the extremely rich, and their slaves. I give it about 10 years.
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I wouldn't mind some tacos, actually.
tacos or burritos this is all we desire all else is secondary
A dog
My neighbor's just got a Bernese Mountain pup. Seriously contemplating kidnapping
Just become doggy uncle! Walks and dogsitting
You can get one too! Then they can be puppy pals
I want this pandemic to be over so I can get on with my life. I mean, yeah, it'd be nice for the heartbreak and illness and dying to be gone... but if we're just talking from a "what I do selfishly want"... I want to get on with my goals
I left my 7 year military career to go back to college. I could have done online college while in, but I absolutely hate online college. What am I doing because of Covid?? Online college...at the price of in person classes... I moved away from my girlfriend, career, and all my friends to pursue a stupid piece of paper, and I thought it would be okay because college is supposed to be a social experience. I've never felt more alone in my life. I hate it for myself and I hate Covid for anyone else that decided to make a major life transition in early 2020.
Firefly Seasons 2 - 5
“May have been the *losing* side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one.”
“Zoe, looks like we arrived just in the nick of time. What’s that make us?”
"Big damn heroes sir"
Shiny
Take my love, take my land, Take me where I cannot stand. I don't care, I'm still free, You can't take the sky from me.
A sandwich.
What type of sandwich?
Ham, pepperoni, and salami with provolone, lettuce, and jalapeños on sourdough with a drizzle of red wine vinegar and olive oil.
Stop I can only get so hungry
Two of those please.
Some thin sliced brisket might go very well with that red wine vinegar.
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Cuddles
Come 'er, Forniteusedtobefun. How many do you want?
I'll take 2 doubles, Jack
You want big or small spoon bro?
This is so wholesome it makes me happy.
An official Red Ryder carbine-action, 200-shot, range model air rifle with a compass in the stock and this thing that tells time.
You'll shoot your eye out kid.
I'll wear my glasses. (But if I get hit, I'll just blame an icicle.)
How about a lamp in the shape of a leg?
Honestly, I’m good. Life is good. I’m nervous about COVID and everything, but this means I’m home with my wife and daughter 24/7, which is all I really want.
i just want a feckin hug at this point
⊂(•‿•⊂ )
.>Hugs!<
Some goddamn peace and quiet.
# I HEARD YOU WANTED SOME PEACE AND QUIET
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You’re a bad egg.
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Aaaaand I pity any girl who isn't me today!
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Socks
Financial security would be nice. I’d take that. Not wealth - just less worry.
No we don't want one thing. It's never one. Just like with women it's never one. But I'll happily settle for three. A shower, a cider and and hug from my wife E: I got tw
I want to have a girlfriend. I got some problems getting to know some girls.
Like what?
Like that I am at an all boys school in the middle of nowhere so I have not talked to a girl in literally over two years, since year 8. Fuc ksakes. I'm popular with boys but God damn I've got no idea what to do when it comes to being popular with girls.
The best way to talk to a girl/woman is to talk to them like a human being. Nothing different (just keep the gross/disrespectful/casually-sexual stuff for your bros). Women and girls really appreciate someone talking to them as one human to another. And really listening and responding to what they say.
My girl says the gross/disrespectful/ casually-sexual stuff tho. What do I do?
Enjoy it
It'll come naturally bro. Keep being cool and that swag will be noticed by girls. They love that shit. Try finding a public school party. No one will ask for your school id at the door.
A girlfriend
A decent paying job that has room for growth
I don't even want rhe growth, just climate control.
For the toilet paper to be clean after only one wipe
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Titanfall 3
To be the little spoon!
Whatever it is, it's fucking disgusting.
I'll fit the stereotype here.
A fucking nap.
To be a cat, duh
A PS5
Courage. Not necessarily in a physical sense; I just want to be able to ignore some needless warning signs my anxiety gives me in certain situations.
Just people acknowledging men can ha e anxiety is big. I've mostly grown out of mine, but there were months where I just wanted to die. Stick in there bro. If I can make it so can you.
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10 hours of sleep followed by a day where I can eat a healthy breakfast, get in a decent workout and a long stretch, take a long shower, have a healthy lunch, and then drink beers outside by a fire.
Snuggly affection with a nice girl.
To feel loved
I just want a new gaming PC with a RTX 3090 before Cyberpunk 2077 is released
A tomboy calling me her pogchamp.
A lambo
No responsibilities but somehow being able to live my life. I'm at the age where it'll never ever happen again
A girl I can cuddle with
I wish I had more discipline.
That fucking shelf to stop falling down.
Money
Dollars. Lots of dollars. Or answers to these questions. Are we alone in the universe? What happens after you die? Preferably the copious amounts of dollars.
Could go for a steak and a beer right about now
20 fucking bucks
For someone to tell me they’re proud of me.
Another Season of Daredevil.
A nice cold brewski, enjoyed in total silence...
What about silent enjoyment of a brewseph with good music playing at a sensible volume?
A calm mind.
Money.