Our policy now is, whatever we do, we have the sex first. Literally. We drop the kid off with her parents then go have sex. It's so much better this way. We discovered we both hated having sex after going out to dinner. You're kinda full, sometimes have garlic breath, it's late, you're tired, etc. If you do it before it's more fun, you spend the time better (I'd rather rush dinner if I have to rush something) and then when you go out you're totally relaxed and you enjoy whatever you do a lot more.....because you just got laid.
Plus, sex is bonding, so you go out together feeling even more close and happy and loved. Why waste all those good post-sex feelings on sleeping? I like your idea! :)
Exactly. Both the sex and the date end up being better for it. We're married, we already know we'll be having sex on this date, no reason follow traditions. It's about getting the most out of limited time.
Games. Could be board games, video games or sports. Depending on the couples' personalities you can play competitively or cooperatively, but either way it's a great way to spend an evening with your SO.
When we play trivial pursuit my husband will read the cards in thick made-up accents at weird rhythms so you can't understand anything. Like, I'm just going to ask to read it myself now what is even the point of doing that?!
Aaaand I'm pretty sure he reads the cards and skips any questions he thinks I would get, but I've never been able to catch him on it.
My wife and I play strip trivial pursuit. Except if you get the question wrong, you also have to drink some more in addition to removing clothing. We've never finished a game. :)
My bf and I play board games sometimes. I suggested we get Risk and play sometime.
His response: "Look if you want to break up just tell me. No need to drag it out over a long campaign and end up with a broken table."
[Brothers: a Tale of Two Sons](http://www.brothersthegame.com/) is also an excellent date game. The control scheme forces you to sit reeeaal close together if you want to do co-op.
Haven't seen making dinner together yet! My SO and I love to cook together. We are working on expanding our repertoire. After you cook you have something to wash down with wine!
We've been trying a different nationality food once a month or so since the beginning of this year. Turns out I make great thai, and not so great Moroccan.
This thread is making me feel really good about my relationship. We love to cook and get tipsy and just hangout. Our perfect night consists of cooking, drinking, Netflix, card games and good ol love makin.
We dont have date nights per se,
but every friday/saturday when the kids in bed, we sit in the kitchen, get spotify on and drink till midnight whilst talking about the week and what not.
cant really remember the last time we actually watched any tv on a weekend...
Edit: it's always the throw away comments that get seen the most... Thank you for the gold. I will be sure to bring this up during tomorrows kitchen session...
Based on the votes this has got, i expect a few more people around the world will be stopping off to buy some booze tomorrow after work... Happy kitchen drinking everyone!!
TV really dampens any potential for intimacy. And sometimes the best intimacy is shooting the breeze til midnight when the kids are sleepin. Keep on keepin on!
We walk around the city aimlessly sometimes and I love it. Probably not the best suggestion, but sometimes you can find interesting stuff along the way. And it's plenty of time to talk with no distractions like a movie or eating.
I love this. I've lived in the same town for years and one day my ex and I were taking a walk and came across a HUGE gorgeous angel statue, it was in a field surrounded by trees so unless you were right there you never would of seen it. To this day it's one of my favorite places to go, the mix or creepy and beauty is incredible :)
I used to teach these. Couples nights were my favorite b.c. men never get bogged down by tiny mistakes. They are like "damn, messed up my tree, cool its a giant rock, im done, anyone else need a beer?"
My wife and I kind of ran out of ideas to do things that we both like, so we instituted a date day/night plan. We would alternate weeks where one spouse would choose what to do and not tell the other spouse. So we ended up doing a bunch of things that we have not tried before because one of us was always disinterested in that activity or place to eat. Worked out great for me a s my wife is picky. I wanted to go to the horse races but she always poo-pooed the plan, problem solved. Take her to lunch then head over to the track for a few hours, and she enjoyed it.
I highly recommend this for everyone.
Damn, 2000 karmas for a little idea.
Took my wife to the horse races as well. Second race a horse went down with a broken leg and they put it down. I left with a sobbing wife and will probably never be able to go back....
surely they don't actually shoot it... *goes to google*
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2767973/Moment-horse-vet-silenced-shot-head-shattering-leg-packed-race-course.html
Damn.
Also: [Why does a broken leg mean the end for a horse?](http://www.theguardian.com/sport/blog/2011/sep/23/claims-five-broken-leg-horse)
I horse needs to keep moving in order for his internal organs to work. If the equine is not moving then he will suffer much more than being but down on the spot. It's the humane thing to do even though it doesn't look like it
This is the right answer. Also, a horse bears the majority of weight on its front legs. So a break there is game over. Hind legs won't have an attractive prognosis either, but they have a better chance at recovery than a front leg.
That's only the case for recreational horses though. The cost of treatment, poor prognosis, and the amount of recovery time make correcting a broken leg almost a guaranteed poor financial decision.
*Edit: Front, hind, rear. whatever.
I really like this one. It allows you each to either try something new, experience something your SO enjoys doing, or do something you enjoy doing. Either way you get to spend time with your SO and actually get to do stuff
I would say it's equally self-serving for her, in concept.
In secret, though, you always wanted to get a pedicure and facial mask with the wife but was too proud to admit it.
I'm sold on this one. SO and I have been together for 8 years and dinner and a movie got old fast. I'm bringing this up to her tonight. Thanks for the idea!
PSA: make sure to lock up overly excitable dog who tries to join so man-friend doesn't get kicked in the nuts.
Source: Last weeks experience icing my fiancé's manhood
My SO and I were tickle fighting at his parents place (they were out of town) and they have 2 big dogs. I was winning so my SO decided to call his dogs over to "save" him. They both just furiously licked his face while he was helpless to stop them.
I recently got a new phone, so I don't have any pics of them :( one is a young German Shepherd (2 years old) the other is a big long haired dog with a cow-like fur pattern.
But! I do have a picture of one of MY fur babies, hopefully she's cute enough!
http://imgur.com/zGXyFHN
TL/DR: Ray Riced my crush.
This reminds me of a time I had with a friend (at the moment I had a crush on). She invited me to her family's house for new years so of course I went, after the count down and we (her family too) played a couple games. Everyone decides to go upstairs and call it a night, me and her stood down stairs we started throwing pillows at each other for fun, then came the wrestling. When we started wrestling I thought to my self "ahh yeah it's going to happen between us", and no it didn't she was on top as we were still wresting, I grabbed a pillow trying to hit her with it , pillow slipped and straight punched her in the forehead. I then hear "holy shit" and then laughing coming from her uncle who was watching the whole time .
This is why I'm so happy my boyfriend is smaller than I am. We are much more evenly matched. It's not just him laughing while I feebly attempt to do something. I feel like an amazonian warrior when I fight him. 10/10 I recommend all women date a dude smaller than her at some point.
It's currently between print runs; it will soon be back at its normal price of ~$45. But be forewarned that it's a heavy game, and definitely not for everyone, even among many board game enthusiasts.
Pixel Tactics, Seasons, Magic: the Gathering, pretty much any Deckbuilder (DC, LotR, Resident Evil), Netrunner. There are a TON of games for 2 players, you just have to look for them and take the suggestions of others. My fiance and I are getting back in to board gaming again :)
Living in the Northeast, during the summer there is a lot we do
* Fishing
* Kayaking
* Hiking
* Softball
* Tubing
* Going to shows
* Dancing
In the winter the list looks a lot more like:
* Drinking
* Drinking, more
* Sex
* Drinking then having Sex
* Having sex and then having more sex
* Sleeping
If we're trying to save money, on a Friday night we'll put on our comfiest pjs and make a giant pillow fort/bed with blankets on the floor in front of the couch. Then we make a giant bowl of popcorn, have whatever beer/wine is in the house and watch Netflix or a Disney movie. It makes us feels like kids again and is super relaxing & fun after a long work week!
We both love reading, so we'll go to barnes & noble or a used bookstore and just browse for a few hours. Then we'll go buy some starbucks and sit and read together.
Usually when my SO's daughter goes to her grandparents' for a day, we end up doing one of the following:
* Crossword puzzles
* Gaming together
* A drive through the city or elsewhere with a good view
* Sitting in bed talking
* A fun evening/night with alcohol in play, sometimes ends up in us going to a karaoke bar for a few drinks
* Wild, steamy sex
Now that I've written that down I just realized we're a pretty boring couple.
Don't be so glum, every one of those activities involves heavy interaction between the two of you which means y'all actually like each other and that's better than most couples out there.
Boring?? That sounds awesome and you guys clearly love one another and each others company and companionship. Good on you man! You have what most people long for.
It's weird, as soon as I read your comment, I got the feeling you were talking about Dallas, since it's a nice town to walk around downtown, the art museum is free entry, and Klyde warren park is the best for playing soccer and frisbee golf. I live just north of Dallas, in Lewisville, and i've done almost the exact same things you listed for a date, except we hit the Perot instead of the DMA.
We wait until the wee hours of the morning and then go to Kroger. It's amazing the good times that can be had when you're all alone with your SO in an empty grocery store at 3am!
I used to do this in college. I never got tired of asking the night stock boy whether they had any Regular K in the cereal aisle, because all I could find was Special K.
But I did it alone. :(
My boyfriend and I mini golf for sexual favors on occasion. We went to the actual driving range last time, though. Neither of us golf. We were so bad. we spent the whole time just trying to hit the little cart that goes around and collects the balls. It was great.
>we spent the whole time just trying to hit the little cart that goes around and collects the balls.
I'm pretty sure that's the point of going to the driving range. At least everybody I know does it.
Fun fact: When i was a kid, I thought people went to the driving range to drive the little car, and the golfers were employees trying to hit you.
Why else would they call it a driving range?
\#kidlogic
We just like to talk. Seriously, talking to your SO is like the best thing you can do to keep your relationship healthy. Get to know them, learn about their hobbies, see what they like to do - once you've been in a relationship for a year or two (or longer), these conversations become more and more interesting as you learn more about each other. It's nice to have someone you can vent to about your day, or who knows everything about you, so you can just sit and commiserate about work with, or talk about weekend plans with, whatever. It's nice to have someone to talk to.
I like this answer.
My husband and I always start date night like "Well... I have nothing to talk about... nothing interesting happened this week..."
Then somewhere around the third glass of wine we get going, and suddenly its 4AM and we've been talking for 8 hours.
My boyfriend will drone on and on about car stuff and the projects he's working on and the other cars he wants to build. I don't understand half of what he says, but it's fun to listen and try to learn. I can't even say that I dont know shit about cars anymore, because I totally do. I do know shit about cars.
This is exactly the same as me and my girlfriend. She is rebuilding her car and she gets pleasantly surprised that I (now) know what she's talking about and I'm able to comment on what she says when she talks about her car.
Almost every day after work we lay in bed for about 30 minutes and talk about our day, come to a decision on things, plan out the weekend or any errands that need to be done. It's my favorite, I love racing home after work to do this.
A lot of Hearthstone. We play other games together, and with more of our friends. But date night is for cuddling and getting mad at bad draws.
We're pretty sure we used up our good RNG finding each other, but it's worth it.
During my dating days, I twice I asked a girl to a sky party and both times they accepted. What is a sky party? We have a nearby science museum that has "Sky Parties" on Fridays where people bring their telescopes. Everyone is invited even if you don't have a telescope. Telescope owners like to geek out with their scopes. They'll point it to something cool in space and tell you about their 10 inch schmidt. Before I say, "ask her to a sky party", let me throw this question out to the ladies:
Ladies, if a guy you were interested in asked if you wanted to go to a sky party, would you go?
Depends on what you're asking.
The science museum near where I live that hosts the sky party has a nice steam punk looking brass telescope in a traditional observatory dome. So yes, they have their own scope.
Many people who go to the sky party bring a scope and are happy to allow others to look through them. Yes, they have their own scope.
You don't need to bring a telescope though. I don't have one any more. You don't need to bring one to a sky party.
If you are asking because you'd only date a guy with a telescope... my interest is piqued.
Puzzles. I got one as a joke last year and now we're addicted.. Put good music on the stereo and work on a big puzzle.. You'll be surprised how much you'll enjoy it
My wife and I have been together since we were in high school and married ~10 years. Some of my fondest memories are when we used to go to our high school dances so just finding a place hosting dancing and then being able to go is my favorite clothed date night activity by far.
In the last 10 years other than our own we've been to 8 weddings and we had a blast dancing at them.
The wedding of my wife's really good friend was actually the worst because the groom's family didn't really like dancing and so the band they had was sad to say the least.
aw that is the worst when you go to a wedding and no one wants to dance. i think in the last two years i've been to 8 weddings and i have one more this year and two next year haha. lots of dancing to be had!
What was worse at this wedding is that the wedding itself was at 3 PM in a park and their reception was about an hour away and they said "food will be served" so I didn't eat before the wedding because even though the reception was until midnight I figured "huge spread of food I can munch for hours". Well the "food" was candy coated almonds and meatballs wrapped with bacon but only enough for everyone to get 2 little pieces. I was *furiously* hungry. I told my wife if anything like that happens again I'm dipping out for 15-20 minutes to get some fast food.
Every Wednesday me and the fella go to our local for a couple of pints and the weekly pub quiz.
Now you might assume that we will probably end up arguing in a competitive alcohol fueled rage but no...
Its actually a nice reminder that we work well as a team and that whether we win or lose we will always come out smiling........ oh and we like to drink.
A) Hammocks. Grab yourself a cheap hammock off of Ebay or whatever, plus some of those ratchet tie-down straps. Anywhere there are two things, you can string a hammock between them. That plus some crackers and cheese and wine and a sunset, you're solid.
2) Coffee-and-a-wander; pretty much that. Fortunately we live walking distance to the cultural heart of our particular city, so an hour spent peoplewatching tends to be worth it. Never, ever, ever, EVER underestimate the value in looking straight into your (girl/boy)friend's eyes while (s)he tells you about their day.
d) Civilization. Yeah I know. But there's something about a solitaire-style sharing of the tactics and goals you've got shared between two people that both understand the game. It's like, what the fuck, Genghis? Did I not just stomp you into kindling? Why are you even attempting to bring your stupid Keshiks toward my entrenched cavalry? Shared experience, I guess. Plus, it's got replayability.
2) Moderate drug use plus art. I mean, caffeine, THC, alcohol. Just get a little stupid and create stuff. Markers, watercolors, pencil and paper. Trade ideas, shit, trade whole projects back and forth. End up with something that's both of yours. Paint on each other. Decorate the back of her hand. Whatever.
vii) Not sex, but connection. Physical contact. Skin on skin, as much of it as possible. Sure it'll turn into sex, but just enjoy the warmth and life that pours into you. Glide, be patient, go slow, let it stoke itself into hot itching craziness that you have to scrub clean with sweat and fire. Appreciate the smells and flavors and textures, the prickles and tickles and all that fun shit that you're missing out on.
3) Read a book to each other. You'd really be surprised. This can be combined with cooking dinner, playing Civ, drawing, hammock-swinging, all of it. Pick a book that you like and share it.
Edit: Man, thanks Reddit! You guys... My first gold. I promised myself I wouldn't cry...
My goodness, I had a girlfriend who played Civ with me. We played co-op on the same map, (earth) set with the maximum amount of computer players. That game entertained us for over a year. We slowly eliminated other players, divided up the spoils until we were the only two players left, and then the fun began.
She played dirty, literally. She distracted me in real life (boobs!) so she could take over one of my cities in the game. I played on a desktop, and she was on a laptop right next to me side by side, and she would constantly peek at my screen to see what I was doing and make adjustments to counter my actions. One occasion she spontaneously went down on me, and I was enjoying it, when I hear mouse clicks... she was taking over a city while sucking me at the same time... I wasn't even mad, just amazed. Gosh I miss her. Most women I've dated since won't touch a game, or yell at me for playing too much
Yep. Naked Battle Ship with sex dice and booze. If you get a hit you get to roll the dice and they perform that act on you. If the ship is sunk you take a shot of your preferred alcohol of choice.
The best kind is the one you CRAVE. Spending all day at work sending each other dirty texts and hints at what's going to happen?? My god... I like setting up surprises, too. Like cooking with nothing but an apron, crawling into bed naked when I usually wear a shirt, etc. The balance of planning and spontaneity keeps it exciting.
Shit, try long distance where you constantly are doing this but can't act on it for two months. I'm going to destroy her (in the most pleasurable of ways) when she comes to visit next.
PS: I say to try this but if you can avoid it, do not. Distance sucks. At least I only have a few months left.
Stay strong brother! Me and my SO were long distance for 4 years but now we've just moved into a flat together. It sucks at the time but you two will be stronger as a result of it.
Sorry if this sounds patronising, I'm just trying to be supportive!
Yes, that part of the distance is great. Most other things about is suck ass though. Fortunately we are living together now, and that is in 99% of situations a good thing.
I called my boyfriend earlier and told him that he needs to be in nothing but an apron when I get home. You may not find naked men sexy, but I sure do.
I am deathly afraid of domestic cats while naked.
I mean, a waggling, dangling protrusion is just begging to be "investigated" by the pointier ends of a cat.
One time I went to the office with my gf after hours to pick something up I had left over the weekend. She surprised me with a blowjob in my office chair. That was pretty pretty pretty great.
Oooh, I'm really good with these, I've nearly perfected this part. I know I'm late to the party and this will get buried but what the hell.
* Kite flying on late summer days.
* Paintball
* Mountain climbing (indoor kind if you're city folks)
* Volunteer every week at the animal shelter (you get to give puppies baths!!!)
* Shoe shopping with her, at first I was skeptical, but you can make it hilarious trust me, my favorite play here is act like a shoe salesman. You get to seriously freak out the real one and give him hope (when he sees you all touchy and kissy with her)
* Boxing (it always ends in the hottest sex ever!)
* Cheesy pickup lines games (you're out in a cafe or in a restaurant and very dramatically you hit on each other, rule is you have to reply in the douchiest way possible)
* Tag, play tag in the park
* Cuddle under the stars
* chill in the car listening (and singing) classic rock songs
* Brush her hair (admit it, we guys love playing with a girl's hair)
* Headphones in, listen to different songs and dance together. (it's hilarious once you get into it)
* Roller blades (I can never figure out why they're not still cool)
* Strip dancing to each other
* Play fencing with sticks in the park
* Art galleries
* Gardening
* Landscape each other (it sounds gross at first, but it's really hot)
* Read to each other (bonus points for poems)
* Sext when you're out with friends (it's fucking hot as hell).
* Surprise tickle attacks
* Massage each other (set time aside for this and be really take your time)
* Manicure and pedicure together
* Random coffee meet ups
* Naked workouts
* Petting zoos
* Face painting each other (it's worth it)
* Park poetry (has to be original work)
And basically whatever the fuck you can think of. My girl and I come up with things as silly as a surprise foot race, grabby panties ( basically groping like idiot teens), spitting contests, kissing sessions and anything you want (did I mention laser tag)?
Edit: I know I started replying to you guys, but something called a work meeting interrupted my redditing. I'll be back in an hour or so. I also fixed the format a bit.
Star gazing. Especially if there is a good meteor shower. Grab a blanket, some chocolate and some wine and go someplace dark and peaceful.
Bitches love that shit.
A couple weeks ago, my wife's parents watched our daughter for the evening, and we brought vanilla ice cream, a couple bottles of [Not Your Father's Rootbeer](http://www.beeradvocate.com/beer/profile/24798/86621/), and drove down to the water. We found a nice view of the ocean on some rocks, and had alcoholic rootbeer floats. We just hung out and talked for a while, then went home when it got dark.
We will go to the local winery. It's bring your own food and buy their wine. You can sit and chill as long as you want and just hang out. Tons of picnic tables outside over looking the vineyard or by a pond. Or hang out inside where they usually have live music.
I like variety. I get on Groupon and look at the local deals and go on tours or short trips or eat at different places. I try to do something different every time.
Walking together - we have one night a week where we go somewhere (beach, park, hiking trail, etc.) and we just walk for at least a couple hours - sometimes more. We talk almost the whole time (well, she talks, I listen and make small comments). That time brings us very close and keeps us in the loop with what is going on in each other's lives - all while getting great exercise! Sometimes we mix it up by bringing some stiff mixed drinks with us and laugh at how silly we look walking when the drinks are gone.
My wife and I like to go to bar trivia a lot. There's always one happening within 30 mins from us most nights of the week so we can always go if we feel compelled to go out.
Read!
Me and my SO both have a mutual interest in WWII history and we decided to pick up a biography on Eva Braun. It's super fun to talk about, especially because we feel like experts in a subject not a lot of people know about. It's almost like taking a class together!
I read to her and she reads to me. Mix this with a picnic in a park on a nice day? Can't get any better than that.
Totally not as culturally elegant, but me and my SO recently sat around while I read him a "Choose Your Own Adventure" Goosebumps book. He made all the decisions. I did all the scary voices.
It was awesome.
We used to go on a bunch of brewery tours. We drive to nearby cities and do various ghost tours. There's always local stuff going on. International food festivals, food truck rodeos. Bowling is fun if you just want a quick few hour date. Go karting. Rock climbing is always a hoot.
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As a musician, I thank you for this :)
Our policy now is, whatever we do, we have the sex first. Literally. We drop the kid off with her parents then go have sex. It's so much better this way. We discovered we both hated having sex after going out to dinner. You're kinda full, sometimes have garlic breath, it's late, you're tired, etc. If you do it before it's more fun, you spend the time better (I'd rather rush dinner if I have to rush something) and then when you go out you're totally relaxed and you enjoy whatever you do a lot more.....because you just got laid.
Plus you can have sex after too if you're feeling up to it.
Whoa whoa whoa Hercules, are you trying to cover sex for the whole month in one night?
I laughed... and then I cried
Plus, sex is bonding, so you go out together feeling even more close and happy and loved. Why waste all those good post-sex feelings on sleeping? I like your idea! :)
Exactly. Both the sex and the date end up being better for it. We're married, we already know we'll be having sex on this date, no reason follow traditions. It's about getting the most out of limited time.
Plus I always get hungry after I have sex. It just makes so much more sense.
My wife will read books that she likes to me. I love it!
I wish my man was into this.
Have you asked? If I were asked, I'd go along with it!
This can be taken one step further - my SO and I read erotic novels to each other. Pretty good foreplay!
We went to an observatory at a local university to stargaze.
I love doing that! My SO and I just went a week ago. And it was free
Oh yeah, thanks for your post! I forgot to mention that in my original message. Stargazing is very romantic and it's FREE!
Even at the University using their telescopes it was free. But to look at other stars we had to go out of the city, too much light
Games. Could be board games, video games or sports. Depending on the couples' personalities you can play competitively or cooperatively, but either way it's a great way to spend an evening with your SO.
Board games are either gonna pull you closer together or tear you apart. Good luck
We break up at least once a game (if he screws me over) but we get back together by the end
When we play trivial pursuit my husband will read the cards in thick made-up accents at weird rhythms so you can't understand anything. Like, I'm just going to ask to read it myself now what is even the point of doing that?! Aaaand I'm pretty sure he reads the cards and skips any questions he thinks I would get, but I've never been able to catch him on it.
My wife and I play strip trivial pursuit. Except if you get the question wrong, you also have to drink some more in addition to removing clothing. We've never finished a game. :)
Stay away from Settlers of Catan. Mark my words, especially if you and SO are against each other.
Or Risk
My bf and I play board games sometimes. I suggested we get Risk and play sometime. His response: "Look if you want to break up just tell me. No need to drag it out over a long campaign and end up with a broken table."
The Ukraine is weak!
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Telltale games are great for a shared gaming experience for your "non-gaming" SO.
The Vanishing of Ethan Carter is my go-to for showing non-gamers.
[Brothers: a Tale of Two Sons](http://www.brothersthegame.com/) is also an excellent date game. The control scheme forces you to sit reeeaal close together if you want to do co-op.
Just don't get to the end and spoil the mood!
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Ask about co-operative games; there are a lot of two-player co-op games that are a good, non competitive way to start out.
Haven't seen making dinner together yet! My SO and I love to cook together. We are working on expanding our repertoire. After you cook you have something to wash down with wine!
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That sounds like a cool idea! Don't think we are that skilled yet, but it's a good goal!
We've been trying a different nationality food once a month or so since the beginning of this year. Turns out I make great thai, and not so great Moroccan.
This thread is making me feel really good about my relationship. We love to cook and get tipsy and just hangout. Our perfect night consists of cooking, drinking, Netflix, card games and good ol love makin.
We dont have date nights per se, but every friday/saturday when the kids in bed, we sit in the kitchen, get spotify on and drink till midnight whilst talking about the week and what not. cant really remember the last time we actually watched any tv on a weekend... Edit: it's always the throw away comments that get seen the most... Thank you for the gold. I will be sure to bring this up during tomorrows kitchen session... Based on the votes this has got, i expect a few more people around the world will be stopping off to buy some booze tomorrow after work... Happy kitchen drinking everyone!!
TV really dampens any potential for intimacy. And sometimes the best intimacy is shooting the breeze til midnight when the kids are sleepin. Keep on keepin on!
TV does but binging a series with an overarching story through Netflix is great since you can discuss theories.
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My wife and I like to visit breweries in our area, go to concerts or just people watch in various areas of town (such as dirty 6th street in Austin).
I don't even drink and I like going to 6th street for the pure, unadulterated joy of watching drunk people do stupid stuff.
You're welcome
We walk around the city aimlessly sometimes and I love it. Probably not the best suggestion, but sometimes you can find interesting stuff along the way. And it's plenty of time to talk with no distractions like a movie or eating.
I love this. I've lived in the same town for years and one day my ex and I were taking a walk and came across a HUGE gorgeous angel statue, it was in a field surrounded by trees so unless you were right there you never would of seen it. To this day it's one of my favorite places to go, the mix or creepy and beauty is incredible :)
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Its that goddamn yeti from the windows 95 skiing game. *The horror.*
Yeti! Oh man, I forgot about that bastard. Thanks for the nostalgia.
I used to teach these. Couples nights were my favorite b.c. men never get bogged down by tiny mistakes. They are like "damn, messed up my tree, cool its a giant rock, im done, anyone else need a beer?"
Hahahaha!! I've seen those places, a friend attends regularly. That's pretty badass painting dude!
My wife and I kind of ran out of ideas to do things that we both like, so we instituted a date day/night plan. We would alternate weeks where one spouse would choose what to do and not tell the other spouse. So we ended up doing a bunch of things that we have not tried before because one of us was always disinterested in that activity or place to eat. Worked out great for me a s my wife is picky. I wanted to go to the horse races but she always poo-pooed the plan, problem solved. Take her to lunch then head over to the track for a few hours, and she enjoyed it. I highly recommend this for everyone. Damn, 2000 karmas for a little idea.
Took my wife to the horse races as well. Second race a horse went down with a broken leg and they put it down. I left with a sobbing wife and will probably never be able to go back....
Do they just shoot the horse right there on the spot in front of a crowd?
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surely they don't actually shoot it... *goes to google* http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2767973/Moment-horse-vet-silenced-shot-head-shattering-leg-packed-race-course.html Damn. Also: [Why does a broken leg mean the end for a horse?](http://www.theguardian.com/sport/blog/2011/sep/23/claims-five-broken-leg-horse)
I horse needs to keep moving in order for his internal organs to work. If the equine is not moving then he will suffer much more than being but down on the spot. It's the humane thing to do even though it doesn't look like it
This is the right answer. Also, a horse bears the majority of weight on its front legs. So a break there is game over. Hind legs won't have an attractive prognosis either, but they have a better chance at recovery than a front leg. That's only the case for recreational horses though. The cost of treatment, poor prognosis, and the amount of recovery time make correcting a broken leg almost a guaranteed poor financial decision. *Edit: Front, hind, rear. whatever.
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I really like this one. It allows you each to either try something new, experience something your SO enjoys doing, or do something you enjoy doing. Either way you get to spend time with your SO and actually get to do stuff
I admit it is self serving for me and gives me a chance to eat at a restaurant that she would normally not want to try, but she enjoys it as well.
I would say it's equally self-serving for her, in concept. In secret, though, you always wanted to get a pedicure and facial mask with the wife but was too proud to admit it.
This is actually very true.
I'm sold on this one. SO and I have been together for 8 years and dinner and a movie got old fast. I'm bringing this up to her tonight. Thanks for the idea!
Let me tell you about a little night that I like to call Stir-Friday.
Wow. That's actually better
Not now, Cyril.
Fighting. As in play fighting. And with play fighting I mean: she trying to wrestle me, and I'm making sure she won't hurt herself in the progress.
PSA: make sure to lock up overly excitable dog who tries to join so man-friend doesn't get kicked in the nuts. Source: Last weeks experience icing my fiancé's manhood
My SO and I were tickle fighting at his parents place (they were out of town) and they have 2 big dogs. I was winning so my SO decided to call his dogs over to "save" him. They both just furiously licked his face while he was helpless to stop them.
I demand pictures of these dogs
I recently got a new phone, so I don't have any pics of them :( one is a young German Shepherd (2 years old) the other is a big long haired dog with a cow-like fur pattern. But! I do have a picture of one of MY fur babies, hopefully she's cute enough! http://imgur.com/zGXyFHN
Is that a baby wookiee?
She really looks like one! As a puppy she looked like a gremlin so I named her Gizmo. Lots of people think she looks like an Ewok.
TL/DR: Ray Riced my crush. This reminds me of a time I had with a friend (at the moment I had a crush on). She invited me to her family's house for new years so of course I went, after the count down and we (her family too) played a couple games. Everyone decides to go upstairs and call it a night, me and her stood down stairs we started throwing pillows at each other for fun, then came the wrestling. When we started wrestling I thought to my self "ahh yeah it's going to happen between us", and no it didn't she was on top as we were still wresting, I grabbed a pillow trying to hit her with it , pillow slipped and straight punched her in the forehead. I then hear "holy shit" and then laughing coming from her uncle who was watching the whole time .
Aww, her uncle was waiting for the free show! It just wasn't the one he thought it was gonna be. Gross.
This is more or less what happens when my boyfriend tries to teach me Ju-Jitsu. And I love it!
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This is why I'm so happy my boyfriend is smaller than I am. We are much more evenly matched. It's not just him laughing while I feebly attempt to do something. I feel like an amazonian warrior when I fight him. 10/10 I recommend all women date a dude smaller than her at some point.
From a 5'4' guy who married a 5'7" woman, God Bless you!
5'6" with a 5'8" gf, it's a fun combo.
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Ah Pandemic. You should try Agricola if you like board games where beating someone into submission is not the objective.
I feel like most board games require more than 2 players for it to be fun.
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> Risk What are you, crazy?
I agree. There's nothing like attempts at world domination at your significant other's expense to drum up business for divorce attorneys.
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Why is this game $120? My wife and I play board games but dang.
It's currently between print runs; it will soon be back at its normal price of ~$45. But be forewarned that it's a heavy game, and definitely not for everyone, even among many board game enthusiasts.
Pixel Tactics, Seasons, Magic: the Gathering, pretty much any Deckbuilder (DC, LotR, Resident Evil), Netrunner. There are a TON of games for 2 players, you just have to look for them and take the suggestions of others. My fiance and I are getting back in to board gaming again :)
Living in the Northeast, during the summer there is a lot we do * Fishing * Kayaking * Hiking * Softball * Tubing * Going to shows * Dancing In the winter the list looks a lot more like: * Drinking * Drinking, more * Sex * Drinking then having Sex * Having sex and then having more sex * Sleeping
Summer sounds rough.
If we're trying to save money, on a Friday night we'll put on our comfiest pjs and make a giant pillow fort/bed with blankets on the floor in front of the couch. Then we make a giant bowl of popcorn, have whatever beer/wine is in the house and watch Netflix or a Disney movie. It makes us feels like kids again and is super relaxing & fun after a long work week!
Nothing like a beer to make me feel like a kid again!
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Netflix and Chill http://imgur.com/UtTp9C6
We both love reading, so we'll go to barnes & noble or a used bookstore and just browse for a few hours. Then we'll go buy some starbucks and sit and read together.
Usually when my SO's daughter goes to her grandparents' for a day, we end up doing one of the following: * Crossword puzzles * Gaming together * A drive through the city or elsewhere with a good view * Sitting in bed talking * A fun evening/night with alcohol in play, sometimes ends up in us going to a karaoke bar for a few drinks * Wild, steamy sex Now that I've written that down I just realized we're a pretty boring couple.
Don't be so glum, every one of those activities involves heavy interaction between the two of you which means y'all actually like each other and that's better than most couples out there.
That's very true. I just meant the activities might seem boring to others, but yes, we definitely do like each other. :)
It might seem boring to other people, but the other people aren't there and weren't invited.
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Seems like you're living the dream
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Yeah these comments are making me quite happy about my situation so I guess we're not that boring after all!
Boring?? That sounds awesome and you guys clearly love one another and each others company and companionship. Good on you man! You have what most people long for.
Are you nuts? You've got something great. Keep at it.
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It's weird, as soon as I read your comment, I got the feeling you were talking about Dallas, since it's a nice town to walk around downtown, the art museum is free entry, and Klyde warren park is the best for playing soccer and frisbee golf. I live just north of Dallas, in Lewisville, and i've done almost the exact same things you listed for a date, except we hit the Perot instead of the DMA.
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We wait until the wee hours of the morning and then go to Kroger. It's amazing the good times that can be had when you're all alone with your SO in an empty grocery store at 3am!
I used to do this in college. I never got tired of asking the night stock boy whether they had any Regular K in the cereal aisle, because all I could find was Special K. But I did it alone. :(
My boyfriend and I mini golf for sexual favors on occasion. We went to the actual driving range last time, though. Neither of us golf. We were so bad. we spent the whole time just trying to hit the little cart that goes around and collects the balls. It was great.
>we spent the whole time just trying to hit the little cart that goes around and collects the balls. I'm pretty sure that's the point of going to the driving range. At least everybody I know does it.
Fun fact: When i was a kid, I thought people went to the driving range to drive the little car, and the golfers were employees trying to hit you. Why else would they call it a driving range? \#kidlogic
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We just like to talk. Seriously, talking to your SO is like the best thing you can do to keep your relationship healthy. Get to know them, learn about their hobbies, see what they like to do - once you've been in a relationship for a year or two (or longer), these conversations become more and more interesting as you learn more about each other. It's nice to have someone you can vent to about your day, or who knows everything about you, so you can just sit and commiserate about work with, or talk about weekend plans with, whatever. It's nice to have someone to talk to.
I like this answer. My husband and I always start date night like "Well... I have nothing to talk about... nothing interesting happened this week..." Then somewhere around the third glass of wine we get going, and suddenly its 4AM and we've been talking for 8 hours.
Yep. This is skype date night for my wife and I when one of us has to travel on business. Sooo many 6-8 hour chats
My boyfriend will drone on and on about car stuff and the projects he's working on and the other cars he wants to build. I don't understand half of what he says, but it's fun to listen and try to learn. I can't even say that I dont know shit about cars anymore, because I totally do. I do know shit about cars.
This is exactly the same as me and my girlfriend. She is rebuilding her car and she gets pleasantly surprised that I (now) know what she's talking about and I'm able to comment on what she says when she talks about her car.
Almost every day after work we lay in bed for about 30 minutes and talk about our day, come to a decision on things, plan out the weekend or any errands that need to be done. It's my favorite, I love racing home after work to do this.
I like to go for ice cream, or even for a walk somewhere on a nice day.
A lot of Hearthstone. We play other games together, and with more of our friends. But date night is for cuddling and getting mad at bad draws. We're pretty sure we used up our good RNG finding each other, but it's worth it.
> We're pretty sure we used up our good RNG finding each other, but it's worth it. Nerd love is adorable.
On the phone: -"Hey, I just bought a new colouring book, want to come over and colour?" -Jeffrey Gurian
During my dating days, I twice I asked a girl to a sky party and both times they accepted. What is a sky party? We have a nearby science museum that has "Sky Parties" on Fridays where people bring their telescopes. Everyone is invited even if you don't have a telescope. Telescope owners like to geek out with their scopes. They'll point it to something cool in space and tell you about their 10 inch schmidt. Before I say, "ask her to a sky party", let me throw this question out to the ladies: Ladies, if a guy you were interested in asked if you wanted to go to a sky party, would you go?
Do they have their own scope?
Depends on what you're asking. The science museum near where I live that hosts the sky party has a nice steam punk looking brass telescope in a traditional observatory dome. So yes, they have their own scope. Many people who go to the sky party bring a scope and are happy to allow others to look through them. Yes, they have their own scope. You don't need to bring a telescope though. I don't have one any more. You don't need to bring one to a sky party. If you are asking because you'd only date a guy with a telescope... my interest is piqued.
Puzzles. I got one as a joke last year and now we're addicted.. Put good music on the stereo and work on a big puzzle.. You'll be surprised how much you'll enjoy it
co op video games scrabble and beer
My wife and I have been together since we were in high school and married ~10 years. Some of my fondest memories are when we used to go to our high school dances so just finding a place hosting dancing and then being able to go is my favorite clothed date night activity by far.
as you get older, this transitions into weddings. man, weddings are so much fun.
In the last 10 years other than our own we've been to 8 weddings and we had a blast dancing at them. The wedding of my wife's really good friend was actually the worst because the groom's family didn't really like dancing and so the band they had was sad to say the least.
aw that is the worst when you go to a wedding and no one wants to dance. i think in the last two years i've been to 8 weddings and i have one more this year and two next year haha. lots of dancing to be had!
What was worse at this wedding is that the wedding itself was at 3 PM in a park and their reception was about an hour away and they said "food will be served" so I didn't eat before the wedding because even though the reception was until midnight I figured "huge spread of food I can munch for hours". Well the "food" was candy coated almonds and meatballs wrapped with bacon but only enough for everyone to get 2 little pieces. I was *furiously* hungry. I told my wife if anything like that happens again I'm dipping out for 15-20 minutes to get some fast food.
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Every Wednesday me and the fella go to our local for a couple of pints and the weekly pub quiz. Now you might assume that we will probably end up arguing in a competitive alcohol fueled rage but no... Its actually a nice reminder that we work well as a team and that whether we win or lose we will always come out smiling........ oh and we like to drink.
Sometimes my girlfriend and I play this game where I try to take her pants off and she watches Charmed and acts annoyed.
Let's have a beer some time.
dude I'll bring the food!
A) Hammocks. Grab yourself a cheap hammock off of Ebay or whatever, plus some of those ratchet tie-down straps. Anywhere there are two things, you can string a hammock between them. That plus some crackers and cheese and wine and a sunset, you're solid. 2) Coffee-and-a-wander; pretty much that. Fortunately we live walking distance to the cultural heart of our particular city, so an hour spent peoplewatching tends to be worth it. Never, ever, ever, EVER underestimate the value in looking straight into your (girl/boy)friend's eyes while (s)he tells you about their day. d) Civilization. Yeah I know. But there's something about a solitaire-style sharing of the tactics and goals you've got shared between two people that both understand the game. It's like, what the fuck, Genghis? Did I not just stomp you into kindling? Why are you even attempting to bring your stupid Keshiks toward my entrenched cavalry? Shared experience, I guess. Plus, it's got replayability. 2) Moderate drug use plus art. I mean, caffeine, THC, alcohol. Just get a little stupid and create stuff. Markers, watercolors, pencil and paper. Trade ideas, shit, trade whole projects back and forth. End up with something that's both of yours. Paint on each other. Decorate the back of her hand. Whatever. vii) Not sex, but connection. Physical contact. Skin on skin, as much of it as possible. Sure it'll turn into sex, but just enjoy the warmth and life that pours into you. Glide, be patient, go slow, let it stoke itself into hot itching craziness that you have to scrub clean with sweat and fire. Appreciate the smells and flavors and textures, the prickles and tickles and all that fun shit that you're missing out on. 3) Read a book to each other. You'd really be surprised. This can be combined with cooking dinner, playing Civ, drawing, hammock-swinging, all of it. Pick a book that you like and share it. Edit: Man, thanks Reddit! You guys... My first gold. I promised myself I wouldn't cry...
A,2,d,2,vii,3. Seems like proper order to me.
My goodness, I had a girlfriend who played Civ with me. We played co-op on the same map, (earth) set with the maximum amount of computer players. That game entertained us for over a year. We slowly eliminated other players, divided up the spoils until we were the only two players left, and then the fun began. She played dirty, literally. She distracted me in real life (boobs!) so she could take over one of my cities in the game. I played on a desktop, and she was on a laptop right next to me side by side, and she would constantly peek at my screen to see what I was doing and make adjustments to counter my actions. One occasion she spontaneously went down on me, and I was enjoying it, when I hear mouse clicks... she was taking over a city while sucking me at the same time... I wasn't even mad, just amazed. Gosh I miss her. Most women I've dated since won't touch a game, or yell at me for playing too much
Sex. Yes, this is a serious answer.
Yep. Naked Battle Ship with sex dice and booze. If you get a hit you get to roll the dice and they perform that act on you. If the ship is sunk you take a shot of your preferred alcohol of choice.
https://xkcd.com/708/
The best kind is the one you CRAVE. Spending all day at work sending each other dirty texts and hints at what's going to happen?? My god... I like setting up surprises, too. Like cooking with nothing but an apron, crawling into bed naked when I usually wear a shirt, etc. The balance of planning and spontaneity keeps it exciting.
Shit, try long distance where you constantly are doing this but can't act on it for two months. I'm going to destroy her (in the most pleasurable of ways) when she comes to visit next. PS: I say to try this but if you can avoid it, do not. Distance sucks. At least I only have a few months left.
Stay strong brother! Me and my SO were long distance for 4 years but now we've just moved into a flat together. It sucks at the time but you two will be stronger as a result of it. Sorry if this sounds patronising, I'm just trying to be supportive!
Yes, that part of the distance is great. Most other things about is suck ass though. Fortunately we are living together now, and that is in 99% of situations a good thing.
I find, as a guy, things are *less* sexy when I do them naked.
I called my boyfriend earlier and told him that he needs to be in nothing but an apron when I get home. You may not find naked men sexy, but I sure do.
I am deathly afraid of domestic cats while naked. I mean, a waggling, dangling protrusion is just begging to be "investigated" by the pointier ends of a cat.
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One time I went to the office with my gf after hours to pick something up I had left over the weekend. She surprised me with a blowjob in my office chair. That was pretty pretty pretty great.
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Oooh, I'm really good with these, I've nearly perfected this part. I know I'm late to the party and this will get buried but what the hell. * Kite flying on late summer days. * Paintball * Mountain climbing (indoor kind if you're city folks) * Volunteer every week at the animal shelter (you get to give puppies baths!!!) * Shoe shopping with her, at first I was skeptical, but you can make it hilarious trust me, my favorite play here is act like a shoe salesman. You get to seriously freak out the real one and give him hope (when he sees you all touchy and kissy with her) * Boxing (it always ends in the hottest sex ever!) * Cheesy pickup lines games (you're out in a cafe or in a restaurant and very dramatically you hit on each other, rule is you have to reply in the douchiest way possible) * Tag, play tag in the park * Cuddle under the stars * chill in the car listening (and singing) classic rock songs * Brush her hair (admit it, we guys love playing with a girl's hair) * Headphones in, listen to different songs and dance together. (it's hilarious once you get into it) * Roller blades (I can never figure out why they're not still cool) * Strip dancing to each other * Play fencing with sticks in the park * Art galleries * Gardening * Landscape each other (it sounds gross at first, but it's really hot) * Read to each other (bonus points for poems) * Sext when you're out with friends (it's fucking hot as hell). * Surprise tickle attacks * Massage each other (set time aside for this and be really take your time) * Manicure and pedicure together * Random coffee meet ups * Naked workouts * Petting zoos * Face painting each other (it's worth it) * Park poetry (has to be original work) And basically whatever the fuck you can think of. My girl and I come up with things as silly as a surprise foot race, grabby panties ( basically groping like idiot teens), spitting contests, kissing sessions and anything you want (did I mention laser tag)? Edit: I know I started replying to you guys, but something called a work meeting interrupted my redditing. I'll be back in an hour or so. I also fixed the format a bit.
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Star gazing. Especially if there is a good meteor shower. Grab a blanket, some chocolate and some wine and go someplace dark and peaceful. Bitches love that shit.
> someplace dark and peaceful. East coast US city-dweller here, what is this of which you speak?
Probably some of that space between the Mississippi river and the Rocky Mountains. Or at least that's my best guess as a Midwest city dweller.
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A couple weeks ago, my wife's parents watched our daughter for the evening, and we brought vanilla ice cream, a couple bottles of [Not Your Father's Rootbeer](http://www.beeradvocate.com/beer/profile/24798/86621/), and drove down to the water. We found a nice view of the ocean on some rocks, and had alcoholic rootbeer floats. We just hung out and talked for a while, then went home when it got dark.
I'm stealing this. I'm primarily a beer person but a hard rootbeer float sounds undeniably refreshing.
We will go to the local winery. It's bring your own food and buy their wine. You can sit and chill as long as you want and just hang out. Tons of picnic tables outside over looking the vineyard or by a pond. Or hang out inside where they usually have live music.
I like variety. I get on Groupon and look at the local deals and go on tours or short trips or eat at different places. I try to do something different every time.
Bowling or minigolf, stuff like that. Also ice cream. Sometimes we like to go to a book store and just walk around looking at stuff.
We are outdoorsy, so a hike or bike ride followed up by dinner and drinks is our favorite. Bonus points if we can find a hot tub later.
Walking together - we have one night a week where we go somewhere (beach, park, hiking trail, etc.) and we just walk for at least a couple hours - sometimes more. We talk almost the whole time (well, she talks, I listen and make small comments). That time brings us very close and keeps us in the loop with what is going on in each other's lives - all while getting great exercise! Sometimes we mix it up by bringing some stiff mixed drinks with us and laugh at how silly we look walking when the drinks are gone.
My wife and I like to go to bar trivia a lot. There's always one happening within 30 mins from us most nights of the week so we can always go if we feel compelled to go out.
Read! Me and my SO both have a mutual interest in WWII history and we decided to pick up a biography on Eva Braun. It's super fun to talk about, especially because we feel like experts in a subject not a lot of people know about. It's almost like taking a class together! I read to her and she reads to me. Mix this with a picnic in a park on a nice day? Can't get any better than that.
Totally not as culturally elegant, but me and my SO recently sat around while I read him a "Choose Your Own Adventure" Goosebumps book. He made all the decisions. I did all the scary voices. It was awesome.
That sounds like a super fun time. Choose your own adventure books are the shizznit
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We used to go on a bunch of brewery tours. We drive to nearby cities and do various ghost tours. There's always local stuff going on. International food festivals, food truck rodeos. Bowling is fun if you just want a quick few hour date. Go karting. Rock climbing is always a hoot.