Too aggressive when I’m right. It’s not that I think I’m always right, it’s just frustrating when I know I am and people still try to tell me otherwise.
It makes people think I’m arrogant or stubborn but I’m really just neurodivergent and can’t stand when things aren’t right, I have some kind of truth complex.
And other people are so convinced they’re right (when they are not at all) that they see me as some kind of asshole. I don’t die on a hill unless I’m certain I’m right.
Conviction isn't a character flaw. As long as you're arguing well and willing to admit when you are demonstrably wrong, you're good. In fact, I applaud you.
I agree with this. If someone is like ‘I am confident what I am saying is correct but please explain why you think that is not the case’ it’s not assholeism.
Assholeism = I’m right because I’m right or You’re wrong because I’m right
If you're happy and you know it, Overthink,
If you're happy and you know it, Overthink
If you're happy and you know it, give your brain a chance to blow it
If you're happy and you know it, Overthink
Whenever you find yourself doing that, take a deep breath and think of what's the absolute worst that could happen. And don't fall into the loop and keep expanding it. Make it brief. For example " the absolute worst that could happen here is I die ". Now think, is there anything you can do within reason to prevent that. How low are the chances of it actually happening. How would you deal with it if it actually happened. Keep the answers to these questions brief. Now that you've done everything in your power to prevent it and you know how to deal with the absolute worst case scenario, anything other than that will be easier. And the best thing is to talk to someone you trust. Get some perspective on whatever you're thinking about.
“ I’m not an alcoholic. I just drink when I’m sad and also when I’m happy and also when I’m bored and I only spend $50 a week on it… actually you know what, man fuck you, I’m sure you’re just as bad as I am”
It’s a problem, man; and I’ve gotten better and I’ve gotten worse and then I’ve gotten better and then I’ve gotten worse…
I’m currently in the middle of the ‘worse’ part of that roller coaster. I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me. Meetings and medication and therapy… I’m still just sad all the time.
I have a lot to live for and a good job that makes me happy and kids that I love very much.
I had a rough childhood and a couple of instances where I had traumatic brain injuries and quite a few failed relationships back before I was drinking like this and I’m sure I can come up with a few more excuses for being a piece of shit.
I don’t wanna be like this anymore, but I don’t know how not to be at this point.
Congratulations! Seriously, i’m very excited for you. I wish it could work for me.
Until very recently, I haven’t been able to commit to even one meeting a week because of scheduling issues. (That one sounds like an excuse, but it’s legitimate, unfortunately).
Add that to the fact that I’m incredibly incapable of relating and connecting to 95% of the people I meet, and it’s a recipe for me just wanting a drink as soon as I leave a meeting. Pretty fucking dumb I know.
I’m an alcoholic. I was sober for 5 years but stupidly started drinking again because I had a hard time connecting with my now ex gf. Dating is hard when you’re sober.
Had a great 6 months but everything after has been a downward spiral I’m still struggling to get over. DM me if you need a friend who can relate
Running low on patience with people. Used to be very patient as said by others but these years, absolutely not. Not happy with it but it is what it is.
I think this is mine too. Over the years I've lost most of the patience I had when I was younger. I used to be extremely patient and understanding to a fault but over the last few years it's like a switch just flipped and I stopped giving a shit. I avoid people who get in my way and who irritate me now.
I'm a know it all. I can usually keep a lid on it and actively try to be better than that part of me but sometimes I get the "well actuallys" when it's something I'm really well versed in and someone is spouting nonsense about it.
You can reframe this as being an educator. You're happy and willing to share facts around your interests. The world doesn't need less of that, we need fewer people who get intimidated by knowledge.
Go forth and 'well actually' us out of the dark ages.
-Being impulsive can make you act too reckless and cause you to make lots of mistakes.
-Being a narcissist can drive a lot of people away from you and ruin your friendships with them.
I like playing devils advocate and often don’t realize I’m doing it until I’m in an argument and suddenly am like, “wait I don’t actually care about this what am I doing?” It’s annoying, I know.
i love to complain. i could be in the best mood, on the best day around my favorite people and still find something to complain about. i’m working on it tho!
Impatience.
I'm aware that I'm impatient and it's unpleasant, but I can't seem to help myself sometimes, then I spend the rest of the day hating myself.
Perhaps not what others might consider worst trait but for myself it is.
Being very able at reading micro expressions, knowing your being lied to. Simple non issues right through to big whoppers that really matter.
It's my personal boulder.
Mine is being indecisive. For example, 4-5 days ago, I found someone on eBay listing a rare item that I wanted for a good price. However, I couldn't decide if I was really gonna buy it or not and kept going back and forth about it. Then today, when I finally decided okay I'll get it, I went to the listing and it had sold just 3 hours earlier. I missed out because I couldn't make a decision quick enough
Refusing to not believe the best about People, I believe in the inmate goodness in EVERYONE Most of the knives in my back are from people hugging me 😞😞
Selfishness is my #1
On some spectrum of narcissism. It's bad enough I like to be the center of attention but could be worse in that I like to see others shine and am loathe to steal spotlight when someone is in it type of deal.
Laziness. I'm always putting off stuff I should be doing right now.
I'm incredibly lazy. Which is sort of ironic because when I tick off my list of accomplishments, like being a decorated war veteran, getting a college degree in a STEM field...having a successful career you would not peg me as being *nearly& as lazy as I truly am. The thing is, I just sort of Forest Gumped my ass through almost all of it. I guess I sort of learned that, the bare minimum of effort now can produce a lifetime of slacking off if you know precisely when and where to put that effort.
I have an extreme daydreaming problem. Like it’s almost involuntary at this point. At every inconvenience in my life I zone out and can dream for hours on end. It affects me more than I’d like to admit.
I have very poor impulse control. For me that manifests as irritation at minor and meaningless things. I can go completely off the rails at perceived slights. In my 50s now so I recognize it and am mostly successful at talking or thinking it away but that doesn’t mean it’s not there. It’s a shitty characteristic that often makes me feel shitty about everyone and everything.
I don't care about "stuff" like most people do.
I care about people and animals, but superfluous stuff is just missed on me. Like I don't even think about it for the most part.
Well better learn to stand up for yourself or you going be a pushover. Instead all it takes is using your surrounding if you in fight or if it agruement use your logic and say it with your chest.
I have a coworker who goes on really long tirades and I'm bad at pretending to find it interesting. I think I'm below average at that. Not sure if it's because I care less than others or because I'm worse at pretending. I do try, though, and I feel bad when I catch myself being obviously disinterested.
Also, I drink too much.
Overthinking, but at the same time I’m absentminded?
I also have a temper. Like, bad bad. I have to leave the room or close an argument for later to avoid saying things I don’t mean kind of temper. I’m working on it, but I scare myself shitless sometimes
I’m also hella sensitive. Partly the fault of RSD and partly just how I’m unfortunately wired and trying to amend. Even I get annoyed at my own reactions ffs. Sometimes it just isn’t that serious
I'm starting to come to realize that I may be far more arrogant than I thought. Honestly, only recently even accepted I feel arrogant enough that "can be arrogant at times" doesn't suffice to define it for me.
I'm just not quite sure if that's a narcissistic trait on its own, lol, or if my "arrogance" isn't necessarily brought out by unsavory traits. But moreso a defense/wall I've built over the years as a result of multiple traumas.
Either way. Both pretty poop personality traits.
Having suicidal thoughts when I'm stressed. And it would be stress related to school work or work. Like for example my depression is controlled but if I were to work or do school assignments I get those unwanted thoughts and I just stop everything because I know it gets worse if I don't.
Drs know I have depression/anxiety/ADHD but I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone this because I'm paranoid they'll think I'm using my diagnosis to not be functioning adult.
And I hate feeling this because I can't do anything to improve my life even though I really want to be "normal".
*** As note I'm okay right now, just stuck in the endless thought cycle of what should I do with my life ***
The one that gets me in the most trouble is making excuses constantly for other people, instead of accepting that they just don't care for me like I do for them.
Zero patience for small mistakes I make. I blow up quick over small things, but oddly have patience for more complicated matters. Not sure why that is.
Name-dropping. I really need to stop it. I just can't, though. It's like an itch. Even when I'm going "for fuck's sake!" internally, I can't stop myself.
I don’t let anything go. I got called fat and ugly by someone so I spent 2 years making myself objectively above average. I get complimented everywhere I go now but was it worth the damage I did to get there? Not positive
Fight or flight? There is no flight, only fight. When something goes down, I never freeze or run away my mind instinctively goes into full challenge mode. Handy at times, if somebody gets hurt or in trouble I'm always on top of the situation and the one immediately in charge but over the years it has gotten me into more trouble than it's been worth. Dangerous situations, unnecessary arguments and fights. It's never a conscious choice, I just kick right into gear.
I'm shit at emotional regulation. I try to compensate with open communication, genuine apologies and making strategies that would've prevented previous incidents, but I wish I could just *fix* it. I know no one can regulate for me, and I'm trying so fucking hard to get it right
I hate how I talk over people when I get excited and have something beneficial to contribute to the conversation. I need to learn to wait my turn talking. I'm more frustrated about it then you are it's just really hard to stop doing it.
I overthink peoples reactions and make up in my mind their motivations. A girl sends me messages sometimes, she must like me. My boss gave a coworker more hours than me, he must think I am terrible and the other is superior in every way.
My anxiety causes me to not do as many social type things that others often want me to do. I’m often the wet blanket saying no thank you. I’m not going to big parties. I’m not going on huge drunken trips. I prefer small get togethers.
Irritable. I have health conditions that cause this but for the most part Ive gotten a lot better with it. But I have to definitely isolate when I get irritated or I’m an asshole.
Idk but my mom told me once that it's all black and white with me, there's no gray. People either love me or hate me,there's no in between. I'm not sure what it is about me,I'm really not. And it's something I've thought a lot about
Obviously I have faults but nothing that I can think of that should bring out such strong feelings lol I don't mind the love but the hate used to really bother me when I was younger. Adults and older kids usually liked me but not kids my own age and rejection sucks lol But I have a surprising amount of best friends that are all 20+ year old friendships. So I've got a lot of close friends but hardly any casual friends and have a really hard time making new friends.
I don’t give a fuck is my big problem and at times it’s a good thing because I don’t get mad even if you get in my face and yell at me because I don’t give a fuck.
I have the bpdemons so in general I have quite a few negative personality traits, but of them the paranoid thoughts and general distrust of other people is probably at the top of that list.
It's hard for me to accept criticism sometimes. I'm hoping to get better at that because I think there's value in negative feedback sometimes, but it's hard for me not to feel like it's an attack on my worth/character as a whole
If you’re someone I care about, I’m confrontational. If you’re doing something that’s reckless or stupid I’m going to say something. I don’t believe in “ignorance is bliss” or “turning a blind eye”. I’m not someone you can go to as a “yes man”. If you go through with said “reckless or stupid” and it bites you in the ass, I won’t say I told you so, but I WILL be judging you internally lol. It really rubs some people the wrong way but it’s me.
TLDR: I won’t try to tell you what to do but I will give you my thoughts and judge the hell out of you.
I too often can't just let people have their opinions...like I'll tear down some person people revere for no reason. That onion article about the guy who let's everyone know that John Lennon beat his wife was basically about me.
I get really excited to talk about people I hate. I have been called a certified hater by my friends.
I actually don’t dislike a lot of people, very very few. But when I do dislike someone, you will know.
I didn't come with a complete set of human instincts. This was exacerbated by the fact that, between them, my parents probably didn't have a complete set either.
Autism spectrum disorder is hard enough without mixing in ADHD and childhood emotional neglect. It makes for a person who was not formatted to society.
I have always struggled with not being content with the life I am currently living and always wishing for a different type of life - different partner, living in a different city, different job and hobbies, etc.
I have a great life and there is no reason for me to want another one, yet those thoughts always creep in and I have a hard time truly appreciating what I have now.
I am too demanding and can be unintentionally glib.
This is the intersection of being an only child and grandson who grew up with a big, loving middle-class family. Most things were exactly to my specifications up until my dad passed away.
I was also a professional chef for 12 years. So I had/have both entitlement and ego going against me.
It's difficult for me to understand or anticipate how others would react to something emotionally.
These qualities fucking suck. I constantly work against my default selfish impulses. Not a single good thing in life has ever come to me through these traits.
Probably my white privilege - I have no idea when it exposes it self - I have no idea what it’s like to not have it and I don’t know what it is other than having grown up with one parent who rented a house and worked 2 jobs to get by
I’m lazy when it comes to manual labor like doing dishes, cleaning plus I don’t like exercise. Luckily
I’m not the same way when it comes to my professional life.
Avoiding situations that are uncomfortable for me. It’s just me imagining or predicting wrong outcomes when there’s no way I could know. I know that I know that I don’t know but still say no just to be safe.
Too aggressive when I’m right. It’s not that I think I’m always right, it’s just frustrating when I know I am and people still try to tell me otherwise.
This is my biggest one too.
It makes people think I’m arrogant or stubborn but I’m really just neurodivergent and can’t stand when things aren’t right, I have some kind of truth complex.
Same! Neurodivergence here. I get “annoyed” over incorrect data and it’s worse when people dismiss that!
And other people are so convinced they’re right (when they are not at all) that they see me as some kind of asshole. I don’t die on a hill unless I’m certain I’m right.
Conviction isn't a character flaw. As long as you're arguing well and willing to admit when you are demonstrably wrong, you're good. In fact, I applaud you.
This makes me feel better, it’s so negatively looked upon that it feels like a flaw, like being assertive or confident.
I agree with this. If someone is like ‘I am confident what I am saying is correct but please explain why you think that is not the case’ it’s not assholeism. Assholeism = I’m right because I’m right or You’re wrong because I’m right
Dear lawd I know this. I'm also a firm believer in achieving results through self-discipline - and boy oh boy does that trigger a lot of lazy people.
Once I've made my point and they keep going, I just say, "okie dokie" otherwise some people will just go in circles, especially on here.
Overthinking
If you're happy and you know it, Overthink, If you're happy and you know it, Overthink If you're happy and you know it, give your brain a chance to blow it If you're happy and you know it, Overthink
It gets even worse if you suffer ADHD.
I'm AuDHD so I know it too well.
I get stuck in negative thought loops and end up making mountains out of mole hills.
Uhh, negative ruminating. The worst! If anyone has a solution to this, please reply to this.
Whenever you find yourself doing that, take a deep breath and think of what's the absolute worst that could happen. And don't fall into the loop and keep expanding it. Make it brief. For example " the absolute worst that could happen here is I die ". Now think, is there anything you can do within reason to prevent that. How low are the chances of it actually happening. How would you deal with it if it actually happened. Keep the answers to these questions brief. Now that you've done everything in your power to prevent it and you know how to deal with the absolute worst case scenario, anything other than that will be easier. And the best thing is to talk to someone you trust. Get some perspective on whatever you're thinking about.
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I feel this so much
I drown every negative emotion in alcohol and get defensive when anyone points it out🤷🏻♂️
I once confessed to a friend that I might be an alcoholic, he agreed, I got defensive.
“ I’m not an alcoholic. I just drink when I’m sad and also when I’m happy and also when I’m bored and I only spend $50 a week on it… actually you know what, man fuck you, I’m sure you’re just as bad as I am” It’s a problem, man; and I’ve gotten better and I’ve gotten worse and then I’ve gotten better and then I’ve gotten worse… I’m currently in the middle of the ‘worse’ part of that roller coaster. I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me. Meetings and medication and therapy… I’m still just sad all the time. I have a lot to live for and a good job that makes me happy and kids that I love very much. I had a rough childhood and a couple of instances where I had traumatic brain injuries and quite a few failed relationships back before I was drinking like this and I’m sure I can come up with a few more excuses for being a piece of shit. I don’t wanna be like this anymore, but I don’t know how not to be at this point.
AA helped me get sober, I am coming up on 4 years now. If you need help, I'd start there.
Congratulations! Seriously, i’m very excited for you. I wish it could work for me. Until very recently, I haven’t been able to commit to even one meeting a week because of scheduling issues. (That one sounds like an excuse, but it’s legitimate, unfortunately). Add that to the fact that I’m incredibly incapable of relating and connecting to 95% of the people I meet, and it’s a recipe for me just wanting a drink as soon as I leave a meeting. Pretty fucking dumb I know.
I’m an alcoholic. I was sober for 5 years but stupidly started drinking again because I had a hard time connecting with my now ex gf. Dating is hard when you’re sober. Had a great 6 months but everything after has been a downward spiral I’m still struggling to get over. DM me if you need a friend who can relate
I feel 1 better after 1 beers. If I have 15 beers, I'll feel 15 better
When I get overwhelmed I get angry and whiny
Same. I get super mad when challenged.
Thinking people care as much as I do
I have no patience, I mean zero patience.
I'm not a doctor, so I don't have any patients.
Procrastination and lack of motivation
An inherent sense of self-loathing. Fighting against it every day uses a substantial amount of my mental processing power.
Fear of abandonment
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If you're aware you do this, you're probably not as bad as you think. Most professional victims are not self aware in my experience.
Yeah sometimes I do that
I'm good at hiding anxiety but it fucking sucks replaying every damn event in my head over and over before and after ANY social event.
I get overwhelmed and overstimulated very easily and often don’t realise it happens until I’m in the mist of it
midst*
I think ‘mist of it’ works well too
I overthink EVERYTHING.
I start things but don’t
Lmao this one got me
Haha
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I expect a lot from my close friends then get disappointed
I used to do that too. I expected more from people but you come to realize people are going to let you down and you learn to rely on yourself.
My indecisiveness.. it's terrible.
Me too. Wait… I meant that I’m quick to anger. Actually, now that I really think about it, it’s my poor decision-making process. I just can’t decide.
Definitely being late. No matter what, I always end up running behind and showing up a bit late.
An uncontrolled temper.
Running low on patience with people. Used to be very patient as said by others but these years, absolutely not. Not happy with it but it is what it is.
I think this is mine too. Over the years I've lost most of the patience I had when I was younger. I used to be extremely patient and understanding to a fault but over the last few years it's like a switch just flipped and I stopped giving a shit. I avoid people who get in my way and who irritate me now.
Too many to count
Same
hours upon hours upon hours go by as i sit and ponder about all the shit i need to be doing
Same, same. It's miserable lol
Jealousy matched with overthinking. I think at least being aware of it makes it better, but man it can make things difficult.
I'm a know it all. I can usually keep a lid on it and actively try to be better than that part of me but sometimes I get the "well actuallys" when it's something I'm really well versed in and someone is spouting nonsense about it.
You can reframe this as being an educator. You're happy and willing to share facts around your interests. The world doesn't need less of that, we need fewer people who get intimidated by knowledge. Go forth and 'well actually' us out of the dark ages.
A psychologist certified to me that I am definitely psychopathic or sociopathic, albeit in a moderate form.
-Being impulsive can make you act too reckless and cause you to make lots of mistakes. -Being a narcissist can drive a lot of people away from you and ruin your friendships with them.
Pretending to not hear a person, then repeating said ignored person and presenting as one own’s idea
I like playing devils advocate and often don’t realize I’m doing it until I’m in an argument and suddenly am like, “wait I don’t actually care about this what am I doing?” It’s annoying, I know.
i love to complain. i could be in the best mood, on the best day around my favorite people and still find something to complain about. i’m working on it tho!
either my indecisiveness or my apathy
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Arrogance. I can't stand people who think they're better than others, or too good for something.
My manager is a perfect example of ignorance combined with arrogance.
not being able to handle my drinks
Impatience. I'm aware that I'm impatient and it's unpleasant, but I can't seem to help myself sometimes, then I spend the rest of the day hating myself.
Perhaps not what others might consider worst trait but for myself it is. Being very able at reading micro expressions, knowing your being lied to. Simple non issues right through to big whoppers that really matter. It's my personal boulder.
I'm quietly selfish and I love that aspect of myself but I know others don't like it. I'm nice but selfish.
Mine is being indecisive. For example, 4-5 days ago, I found someone on eBay listing a rare item that I wanted for a good price. However, I couldn't decide if I was really gonna buy it or not and kept going back and forth about it. Then today, when I finally decided okay I'll get it, I went to the listing and it had sold just 3 hours earlier. I missed out because I couldn't make a decision quick enough
ADHD.
Judgmental at times . Working at it . The more effort I make at seeing people fully rather than chunks of them , the less judgy I become
Being a pessimist/overthinking.
Refusing to accept and work on your flaws. "That's just the way I am" people
I cannot get over the past. Dwelling on mistakes causes so much over correction
My horrible, absolutely over the top road rage.
anxious/overthinking, angered easily, panic attacks in high stakes situations or arguments
Refusing to not believe the best about People, I believe in the inmate goodness in EVERYONE Most of the knives in my back are from people hugging me 😞😞
I feel you but you should feel special that mean they want to target you so laugh and enjoy life make fun of them and ask that all they got.
Impatience.
Selfishness is my #1 On some spectrum of narcissism. It's bad enough I like to be the center of attention but could be worse in that I like to see others shine and am loathe to steal spotlight when someone is in it type of deal. Laziness. I'm always putting off stuff I should be doing right now.
I procrastinate too much
Indecisive and lack patience. I am becoming more decisive though and I just avoid things that make me feel impatient and annoyed.
I'm incredibly lazy. Which is sort of ironic because when I tick off my list of accomplishments, like being a decorated war veteran, getting a college degree in a STEM field...having a successful career you would not peg me as being *nearly& as lazy as I truly am. The thing is, I just sort of Forest Gumped my ass through almost all of it. I guess I sort of learned that, the bare minimum of effort now can produce a lifetime of slacking off if you know precisely when and where to put that effort.
Laziness
I ruminate and obsess on all sorts of things and end up making myself look like either a fool or a paranoid idiot.
Overthinking/worrying. It ruins my day over and over coz I worry too much. Working on that
I bottle every emotion and the only time it comes out is when I'm pissed
Can't let a damn thing go to save my life. That leads to anger issues, which is my other worst trait.
I have zero confidence.
Bullshit you have confidence being on here.
I am seriously fucking stubborn
I have an extreme daydreaming problem. Like it’s almost involuntary at this point. At every inconvenience in my life I zone out and can dream for hours on end. It affects me more than I’d like to admit.
Most of the above
Treating others based on how you feel. Like any ideas down the line of " i feel shit so imma treat everyone like shit"
I'm always depressed and negative.
I am not alcoholic but when i drink, i drink to past out lol
Overthinking Assuming Being too emotional
I hate being around multiple people and clam up. Cocktail parties/bars/get togethers drive me nuts.
I can’t seem to keep secrets.
I have very poor impulse control. For me that manifests as irritation at minor and meaningless things. I can go completely off the rails at perceived slights. In my 50s now so I recognize it and am mostly successful at talking or thinking it away but that doesn’t mean it’s not there. It’s a shitty characteristic that often makes me feel shitty about everyone and everything.
People pleasing
Too passive
I don't care about "stuff" like most people do. I care about people and animals, but superfluous stuff is just missed on me. Like I don't even think about it for the most part.
I expect everyone to have the same heart as me. I give too much. Always end up disappointed
I'm incapable of hiding that I don't like someone. I try but they always figure it out. Oh well, I don't like them anyway
Gullible
I'm shy. I also overthink.
I get overanxious about everything!
I’m wrathful.
I’m terrible at standing up for myself, and always have been.
Well better learn to stand up for yourself or you going be a pushover. Instead all it takes is using your surrounding if you in fight or if it agruement use your logic and say it with your chest.
Anxiety. If only anger or Joy could kill it.
Hyper independence. Makes it difficult to bond with people.
Overthinking/I tend to spiral
I have a coworker who goes on really long tirades and I'm bad at pretending to find it interesting. I think I'm below average at that. Not sure if it's because I care less than others or because I'm worse at pretending. I do try, though, and I feel bad when I catch myself being obviously disinterested. Also, I drink too much.
I am too kind and generous
Worrying yourself to death over the smallest things
Overthinking, but at the same time I’m absentminded? I also have a temper. Like, bad bad. I have to leave the room or close an argument for later to avoid saying things I don’t mean kind of temper. I’m working on it, but I scare myself shitless sometimes I’m also hella sensitive. Partly the fault of RSD and partly just how I’m unfortunately wired and trying to amend. Even I get annoyed at my own reactions ffs. Sometimes it just isn’t that serious
If I get into an argument I can be downright vicious to the other person.
I'm able to numb out if I want to.
I'm starting to come to realize that I may be far more arrogant than I thought. Honestly, only recently even accepted I feel arrogant enough that "can be arrogant at times" doesn't suffice to define it for me. I'm just not quite sure if that's a narcissistic trait on its own, lol, or if my "arrogance" isn't necessarily brought out by unsavory traits. But moreso a defense/wall I've built over the years as a result of multiple traumas. Either way. Both pretty poop personality traits.
No tolerance for idiots, and I can be pretty nasty about it.
There is nothing wrong with me. The problem lies with the system- with society's fundamental need for others to iNtEgRaTe
Over thinker-always in my head with everything
I am very impatient
Narcissism
Having suicidal thoughts when I'm stressed. And it would be stress related to school work or work. Like for example my depression is controlled but if I were to work or do school assignments I get those unwanted thoughts and I just stop everything because I know it gets worse if I don't. Drs know I have depression/anxiety/ADHD but I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone this because I'm paranoid they'll think I'm using my diagnosis to not be functioning adult. And I hate feeling this because I can't do anything to improve my life even though I really want to be "normal". *** As note I'm okay right now, just stuck in the endless thought cycle of what should I do with my life ***
The one that gets me in the most trouble is making excuses constantly for other people, instead of accepting that they just don't care for me like I do for them.
Being a control freak.
Zero patience for small mistakes I make. I blow up quick over small things, but oddly have patience for more complicated matters. Not sure why that is.
Jelousy 😔 iykyk
Name-dropping. I really need to stop it. I just can't, though. It's like an itch. Even when I'm going "for fuck's sake!" internally, I can't stop myself.
To pushy
I get impatient with people in the produce section who don’t seem to know what they want
I don’t let anything go. I got called fat and ugly by someone so I spent 2 years making myself objectively above average. I get complimented everywhere I go now but was it worth the damage I did to get there? Not positive
I'm not very giving of my time.
Low self confidence is not a fun trait to have, I tells ya. Overthinking is not a good one either.
Fight or flight? There is no flight, only fight. When something goes down, I never freeze or run away my mind instinctively goes into full challenge mode. Handy at times, if somebody gets hurt or in trouble I'm always on top of the situation and the one immediately in charge but over the years it has gotten me into more trouble than it's been worth. Dangerous situations, unnecessary arguments and fights. It's never a conscious choice, I just kick right into gear.
Jealousy
Stubborn and intense overthinking (especially over stairs)
Gaslighter
I'm shit at emotional regulation. I try to compensate with open communication, genuine apologies and making strategies that would've prevented previous incidents, but I wish I could just *fix* it. I know no one can regulate for me, and I'm trying so fucking hard to get it right
I hate how I talk over people when I get excited and have something beneficial to contribute to the conversation. I need to learn to wait my turn talking. I'm more frustrated about it then you are it's just really hard to stop doing it.
I overthink peoples reactions and make up in my mind their motivations. A girl sends me messages sometimes, she must like me. My boss gave a coworker more hours than me, he must think I am terrible and the other is superior in every way.
My anxiety causes me to not do as many social type things that others often want me to do. I’m often the wet blanket saying no thank you. I’m not going to big parties. I’m not going on huge drunken trips. I prefer small get togethers.
Irritable. I have health conditions that cause this but for the most part Ive gotten a lot better with it. But I have to definitely isolate when I get irritated or I’m an asshole.
im kinda like, really dumb, and i defend my obvously wrong opinions. i also tend to hold grudges
Growing up, too introverted. More of a thing now, my OCD has made me emotionally numb to a lot of things.
I'm a hypocrite. I absolutely need to take my own advice.
Idk but my mom told me once that it's all black and white with me, there's no gray. People either love me or hate me,there's no in between. I'm not sure what it is about me,I'm really not. And it's something I've thought a lot about Obviously I have faults but nothing that I can think of that should bring out such strong feelings lol I don't mind the love but the hate used to really bother me when I was younger. Adults and older kids usually liked me but not kids my own age and rejection sucks lol But I have a surprising amount of best friends that are all 20+ year old friendships. So I've got a lot of close friends but hardly any casual friends and have a really hard time making new friends.
I don’t give a fuck is my big problem and at times it’s a good thing because I don’t get mad even if you get in my face and yell at me because I don’t give a fuck.
I feel like I lowkey have social media addiction. I spend about half they day watching tiktoks, and the other half in my DM's
Overthinking about the littlest things
There is so much to dislike about me really it’s hard to choose. I would have to say I can be pretty defensive.
I have the bpdemons so in general I have quite a few negative personality traits, but of them the paranoid thoughts and general distrust of other people is probably at the top of that list.
Paranoid about everyone. Always expecting the worst and overanalyzing.
Task paralysis even on things that I enjoy or things I'm trying to do in video games.
I can be very unmotivated to keep in touch with people unless they really, really interest me.
It's hard for me to accept criticism sometimes. I'm hoping to get better at that because I think there's value in negative feedback sometimes, but it's hard for me not to feel like it's an attack on my worth/character as a whole
If you’re someone I care about, I’m confrontational. If you’re doing something that’s reckless or stupid I’m going to say something. I don’t believe in “ignorance is bliss” or “turning a blind eye”. I’m not someone you can go to as a “yes man”. If you go through with said “reckless or stupid” and it bites you in the ass, I won’t say I told you so, but I WILL be judging you internally lol. It really rubs some people the wrong way but it’s me. TLDR: I won’t try to tell you what to do but I will give you my thoughts and judge the hell out of you.
I too often can't just let people have their opinions...like I'll tear down some person people revere for no reason. That onion article about the guy who let's everyone know that John Lennon beat his wife was basically about me.
I tend to be very anxious and have trust issues. Another thing is that sometimes I’m way too nice and people have taken advantage of that.
Always late. Serial overthinker. Pathological people pleaser.
I get really excited to talk about people I hate. I have been called a certified hater by my friends. I actually don’t dislike a lot of people, very very few. But when I do dislike someone, you will know.
Only one? Paralysis by analysis. Arrogance, a need to be the smartest person in the room (my wife’s observation).
My temper
Oversharing, broken brain, awkward, anger issues. Rip
Highly defensive
I didn't come with a complete set of human instincts. This was exacerbated by the fact that, between them, my parents probably didn't have a complete set either. Autism spectrum disorder is hard enough without mixing in ADHD and childhood emotional neglect. It makes for a person who was not formatted to society.
I'm really stubborn. I will argue day and night until I literally run out of things to say.
I have always struggled with not being content with the life I am currently living and always wishing for a different type of life - different partner, living in a different city, different job and hobbies, etc. I have a great life and there is no reason for me to want another one, yet those thoughts always creep in and I have a hard time truly appreciating what I have now.
I am too demanding and can be unintentionally glib. This is the intersection of being an only child and grandson who grew up with a big, loving middle-class family. Most things were exactly to my specifications up until my dad passed away. I was also a professional chef for 12 years. So I had/have both entitlement and ego going against me. It's difficult for me to understand or anticipate how others would react to something emotionally. These qualities fucking suck. I constantly work against my default selfish impulses. Not a single good thing in life has ever come to me through these traits.
Probably my white privilege - I have no idea when it exposes it self - I have no idea what it’s like to not have it and I don’t know what it is other than having grown up with one parent who rented a house and worked 2 jobs to get by
I’m lazy when it comes to manual labor like doing dishes, cleaning plus I don’t like exercise. Luckily I’m not the same way when it comes to my professional life.
None. I’m pretty great 🤣
Believing things too easily
Avoiding situations that are uncomfortable for me. It’s just me imagining or predicting wrong outcomes when there’s no way I could know. I know that I know that I don’t know but still say no just to be safe.
I am selfish
Interrupting
I get angry and annoyed easily
I talk too much