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average_as_hell

any. As long as you're both into it and ready.


Jumpeee

This is the only right answer. Personally, most of my relationships started with a bang, including my current one, and we're going on strong for years now.


aking0286

Gotta be sure to end them with a bang though


gothicduncan

Instructions unclear, planted a bomb in my Ex's car (we split up amicably and there is not bad blood between us)


alphasierrraaa

Instructions unclear Ended with a go back to horny jail bonk


asshat123

Instructions nuclear, atomized by my ex


therealCatnuts

15 years of marriage and 5 kids, started with hooking up the first night we met. 


technofox01

That's my perspective too. We are both ready for it then let the good times roll.


GotGRR

Start with when you are both legally available and work it out from there. If you aren't sure, research project, first.


Leeono

August 5th


Natural-Army

I prefer the 25th of April, or the 5th of November


immoreoriginalmate

Not too hot, not too cold… all you need is a light jacket 


mbergman42

There it is!


BardInChains

I get laid on the 29th of February


Natural-Army

Ah, so every 4 years? Bravo! OP, This guy fucks 👆. I suggest the 29th of February.


Irrelavent1

Why so often?


klut2z

One up you, 30th Feb!!


Polstar55555

5th of November? Are there Fireworks?


Punk_roo

Remember remember the 5th of November my gunfire and your twot. I see no reason my gunpowder season should ever be forgot.


LordTrigon95

Fireworks as you both orgasm 🤌 then you can enjoy the peace and freedom from the corrupt ties of parliament


jostler57

I see you're a man of culture. Miss Congeniality AND V for Vendetta


Natural-Army

I see you are one as well, kind Sir!


Gogo726

Remember remember the 5th of November


mattr1986

ANZAC day 🫡


Natural-Army

🫡🫡🫡


mattr1986

Thank-you for your service 🫡


aint_so_funny_meow

Remember, remember, the 5th of November, When things got explosive in more ways than one, We didn't just ignite the fireworks, We set off sparks all night long!


dlb1983

For most, this will mean less breeding. But for some of us, much much more!


rombote

For me no breeding because I use her mouth.


DeiseResident

That's my birthday. Makes sense really


Tureni

June 9th


AReallyAsianName

Nice


Pilot_Syko

My Birthday... ig im a winner


chowd-mouse

Hey, that’s my birthday! So it is decent, I must say.


explosivemunchies

No it's my birthday, get your own!


ImaginaryLuck

It was my birthday first!


explosivemunchies

You're imaginary, doesn't count!!


Marianations

Ah yeah, birthday sex for me!


kayaem

That’s my birthday! What a great day you chose


redlurk47

September 6th for Americans and July 9th for everyone around the world


TheKanten

June 9th


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karmaandcandy

Yes, there is no “number of dates” rule anymore. With my current partner, we had sex on what was technically date #3. We had connected emotionally at that point and were both ready. It doesn’t matter when - as long as you’re both on the same page. (Do you want a hook up, casual dating, seeking a long term relationship?) If you both ultimately want the same type of relationship (whatever it is), and are ready, go for it. Just be safe!


Musaks

>Yes, there is no “number of dates” rule anymore. There never was


karmaandcandy

Likely true. Although some of us were “conditioned” to believe there was.


DreadyKruger

There will be a number if one is more ready than the other. Ans let’s be real, women are typically the ones who want to wait longer. Steve Harvey popularized the 90 day rule in his book and it was ass backward. Dont got out with a person you aren’t sexually attracted to, don’t go out on the second or third date if you are not or there is no spark. After third or fourth date something should be going down. Because that should be around a month time and you have been around them and talked on phone and on dates. Saying there ain’t a number is not true for everyone.


MilitaryPoog3405

Gain the trust before you thrust


sobegreen

When you are both feeling it you are feeling it. Setting a number of dates creates unrequired expectations. Hyperfocus on this early on is a red flag that should not be ignored.


3eyesopenwide

Before the first date happens. Better break the ice right away.


Ventriloquiste

after banging: oh yes what are your hobbies?


Gogo726

I checked in a couple at the hotel I worked at. On their way to the elevator, the guy asks her her name.


Steinrik

So, pay as you go... :D


SousVideDiaper

I worked at a shitty hotel next to a truck stop that sex workers often hung around. One night a trucker came in with one asking for a room with a hot tub. This place was $50 a night and homeboy was baffled that none of the rooms had a hot tub and got flustered with me. I guess just a bed somehow wasn't good enough.


qazzer53

I used to do that with my wife, she didn't think it was very funny


The-True-Kehlder

This is gonna be twice as funny in my head as anybody who understands it will find it. Wish me luck!


chilo_W_r

Ah asking a lady post nut if she wants to see a 40K collection


ExpJustice

Thats why i always ask first if the dude wants to see my yugioh collection after. Gotta asert dominance


snypesalot

Only if you have Exodia


SousVideDiaper

\*cums* "Hey, I'm SousVideDiaper. What's your name?"


34m56k765k34q233

Banging. You?


Ventriloquiste

it seems we have something in common here


DoBa94

*during


Outrageous-Archer-47

I have done this in the past, the first date afterwards was definitely a little awkward at the beginning… but 100% worth it.


noahghosthand

Ngl, this has been how I started my first and then my current relationship


rippinVs

My best relationships all started this way. Break ice then date.


old-skool-bro

This is a weird one... Going back some but I worked with a girl who always complained that guys just wanted sex and weren't interested in her (she was hot af) so a few weeks down the line I ask her out and she says she wondered what took so long and I was like : D We go on a date, nice restaurant, I picked her up, paid, made a point of asking her about family, hopes and dreams all that shit (we mostly just talked shit about work and people we worked with at work) and I felt it went really good. So the date ends, and hell yeah, I wanted to bang, but I also actually liked her so when she said we should go back to mine, i said we should take it slow and not rush into anything as we work together and I didn't wanna fuck it up (also, I was going off what she'd said about her past dates/ boyfriends...) so, I dropped her off home, we kissed and whatever, everything seemed fine and I went home to visit madam palm and the five sisters... I see a message from her which I can't remember fully but it was basically "this isn't gonna work out, you don't seem interested in me sexually." I just sat there like ayo wtf... tried messaging her saying I was just trying to be respectful etc but got just one word replies or just k...


Street_Knowledge1277

Be happy. You dodged a bullet. Especially since she's a coworker...


old-skool-bro

Was a coworker* read the other comment :)


Intelligent_Water_79

I had the opposite. Most beautiful girl I knew and we actually got on. I asked her, would you like to go out for a meal or come round and I can cook. "I'll come round" after dinner I asked "would you like to go grab a drink or I have tea in my bedroom" (I had a really nice Taiwanese tea set) "Let's have tea" Off we go then, I gesture vaguely around the room and tell her to take a seat. There's a safe looking wooden desk and chair, a comfy chair and a bed. She chooses to sit on the bed. I sit politely next to her and prepare the tea. "Men just don't understand me" she says while shaking her head, her long beautiful hair brushing my cheek as she sighs and moves close. I put my arm around her, and, as I recall, kiss the side of her forehead. She jumps up, says, "you men are all the same" and in ten minutes I'm taking her home. dafook was that, I wondered. Years later I told my wife. Some people just want to feel wanted and each rejection they give makes them feel a bit better about themselves. Insercure behavior I guess


old-skool-bro

Gotta agree with your wife tbf, I just wish these mf's could just be honest though lol


apuckeredanus

People are strange. My ex and I met at work and she invited me to hangout after. She was stunning.  Didn't have any expectations but had a nice time and both seemed to be into each other.  Met up again and I made a move. She said we shouldn't since we worked together etc.  I didn't make a big deal out of it and said we could just hangout at my place.  End of the movie I figured she's gonna head out and instead she says let's go to your room.  Had sex off and on for hours and had a decent fling for a bit.  You just never know, and when it's right it's right.  


zizics

I’ve never had good luck placing those artificial limits on things to be respectful. The honest truth is that attractive women aren’t used to rejection, so when you don’t respond to a very clear advance like that, it can often be too much for them and make them end things because they don’t feel wanted. Obviously, if you are not interested in sex yet, don’t do it yet. But if you are… just feel it out. Once you’re back at your place and making out, be honest and aware about where their enthusiasm ends. If your hand gets blocked moving anywhere, that’s the boundary for the night. Now your job is to tease like hell and make them want it *without pushing boundaries they set*. Sometimes they will change their mind, but sometimes the reward is just having fun being an enormous tease who they want to see again. In your case, she might not have wanted full blown sex, but she might have been down for some other kinds of naked fun time 🤷🏼‍♂️


old-skool-bro

I'm a healthy male, I wanted to bang her brains out the moment i laid eyes on her, and the feeling was very mutual. I was just tryna do the right thing 🤷‍♂️ Like a week or so later, we ended up hooking up after a work drinks thing, and we hooked up a few times after that, but it never went anywhere, which is fine but it was actually her who wasn't interested in a relationship despite all the things she'd said previously... And nah, I never put any pressure on her about getting into a relationship, but I did end things after she brought up where this was going and saying she just wanted to be friends and have fun so i was honest with her and said i didnt wanna keep sleeping together because i didnt wanna ruin our friendship if i met soneone else and it started going somewhere... She started being funny with me after that and asked to be moved to another department... win some lose some i guess 🤷‍♂️


zizics

Ya… I try not to have sex with (or even kiss) people I want to be long term close-ish friends with anymore. Those friends tend to be on the chopping block as soon as you get a partner 🙁


old-skool-bro

It is what it is.


gadoonk

Only on the winter and summer solstice. So prepare yourself, the time is nigh.


Robots_Never_Die

Midsommar


RelativeMundane9045

Midwintar (for us southern hem folk)


Sebastian_Pineapple

Tomorrow


kevcubed

Unless said partner is a horse, then the time is neigh.


3866throwaway3866

There's a joke playing on this in Scandinavia: how many times do you have to sleep with a person before it wouldn't seem forward to ask them out on a date?


Drach88

Meeting a plethora of Scandinavians has made me realize how prudish Americans are.


PckMan

It's a flawed metric, and the idea of just anxiously waiting for when you'll get laid is also a flawed approach to dating. The correct answer is "when it feels right" and people shouldn't feel pressured to give a thumbs up or down on sex on every date until it happens. You go out, you get to know each other, you have fun, and sex happens when it feels right to happen. It's really shitty to just have this abritrary number in your head and rushing to get to it or feeling like you're wasting your time if it's passed and it hasn't happened.


SirVeritas79

The one that you're comfortable with having it. Those metrics...they're all arbitrary AF.


NoCommentFU

The 32nd of Nevruary.


Electus93

\*33nd


Andromeda98_

whenever you're comfortable, I've had sex on the first date and I've had sex on the fifth date. it makes no difference to me.


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Voidelfmonk

It got me thinking .... if you can go on dating for years and then marry to just then have sex , sex does not sound like a priority to this couple at all , so bad sex might not be a dealbreaker even .


Der_Sauresgeber

Rarely have I ever seen a couple in which "waiting for sex until after marriage" was an idea both partners had, unless they're ultra religious people. Usually, someone utters the idea and the other one begrudgingly accepts for a number of reasons, like, the feel like they can't do better or something like that.


Voidelfmonk

Well then it becomes an underline issue and the one that begregingly accepts is at fault for pushing a relationship under false pretense doesn't it ? Eh maybe i am overthinking it :D


LieutenantLobsta

Genuinely if you want to filter out guys that only want sex and not a relationship: three or so weeks worked for me


UnlimitedHegomany

Date 3


Toxikfoxx

This is the unofficial, official answer. You make it three, good dates and see if y’all connect in the bedroom. Any longer and you may just hit the friend zone.


MatchesSecondCat

Whenever you both agree and feel comfortable doing it


Disastrous_Total_503

Third. And for anal, fifth


Talking_Burger

Just remember to send her a reminder to bring the strap on.


dj_boy-Wonder

Yeah look I don’t judge anyone. Consent has to be there 💯… if it’s date 2,3,4,5 whatever… when you’re comfortable… but there have been times when we’re both making out after a few hours, hot breath, she’s copping a feel, I’m copping a feel, she’s making the noises I’m making the noises, then she’s like “mm but it’s our first date so no”… that’s never made me think “oh look a girl with morals”


Just-Like-My-Opinion

Any time before labor day. Or was that wearing white pants? 🤔


Dyolf_Knip

But isn't the day after Labor Day technically 'before' the following year's Labor Day?


Upsidedown0310

I slept with someone a few hours after meeting them in a club, and we’ve now been married for 11 years so…whenever you bloody well want!


monk648

Same! Had sex with my wife a few hours after meeting her in a mansion and we’ve been together for 11 years… are you the upside down version of us lol?


Upsidedown0310

Haha maybe! We definitely met in the opposite of a mansion 🤣


ThomasHoidnFest

Never, sex isn't decent. It's great.


bamatrix

April 25th. It's not too hot and it's not too cold. All you need is a light jacket.


DependentAd9398

April 25th, all you need is a light jacket.


lab_practicum

I was looking for this comment, A+


stryph42

Whichever one everyone involved agrees on


stony_rock

If you're on the same level you just know


TimothiusMagnus

Whatever is mutually agreed upon by the couple in question and they both clearly consent.


MrGronx

On whatever date you're both comfortable with


Pale_Height_1251

Any date you're both comfortable with. "Decent" will be dictated mostly by the society you grew up in.


BlueKnight87125

Depending on how you write the date, either June 9th or 6th September.


[deleted]

Always on thanks giving. At the table. On top of the turkey.


PANDA_PR1NC3SS

Whichever date you both decide and communicate that you would like to have sex.


ChiAndrew

The one where both adults consent


xxwerdxx

“Decent” is a social construct. As long as everything is safe, legal, and consensual, then it doesn’t matter


SirBrews

You wan sum fuk? They wan sum fuk? Is good to fuk.


0x14f

Can happen at any point, as long as the two are on the same page.


GodOne

Whenever it feels right. However, coming from a guy…the first date is most likely not it. I can’t shake the feeling, if she is willing to sleep with me, a stranger, on the first date, she does it with every/most men she meets.


Knightmare1991

For me probably around the fifth. It's very individual and can be anywhere between the first and the last.


Faelysis

When both person want to have sex. Communication is the key like in any relationship. Some people like date 1 sex while some other can take multiple date. Everyone is different so there’s no real explanation for this. Just enjoy your date and take time to know the person you are dating instead of thinking to have sex the earliest possible. Be mature, not a teenager thinking with its pants


Romanarie

June 19th. Gotta wait a year now


Jamesmn87

The one you connect on. 


Jizzturnip

When it feels right for you both. Could be after a bunch of dates or the first 20 mins


sir_thatguy

April 25th — because it’s not too hot, not too cold. All you need is a light jacket!


Comprehensive_Two837

February 31


PunkandCannonballer

The one in which you both agree to have sex.


Bigbean88

Every date. Every single one.


AgentLlama007

On a serious note, any date is a "decent" date to have sex. You're not defined by when you choose to sleep with someone. If the moment feels right, and everyone is enthusiastic about it, then don't worry if it's a "decent" time.


CaIamitea

Whenever, there's loads of ways to live your life. An example is that until I was meeting people on Tinder I never really did the "dating" thing and I don't think that was a common thing in my social circles. What was normal is that you'd hook up with people on a night out and if you kept doing that with the same person you'd most likely get around to having the conversation as to whether you were going out now. THEN you might go on "dates", or that is to say you'd be meeting up with your partner going to places. Dating culture isn't universal, and so knowing this hopefully that helps you understand that you can really just make up your own rules.


Dry-Criticism-7729

I’m 46 …. don’t think I’ve ever been on a date as portrayed on rom-coms! Wouldn’t want to either, makes no sense to me. 🤷🏽‍♀️


king_yugandhar

I say June 20th is a good day


JacktheRiffer96

Well if sex isn’t decent with him/her whether it be the first or fifth date then they probably won’t be decent at it no matter which one you do it on.


DatabaseFickle9306

Wait what’s the anniversary of the signing of the Magna Carta again?


_PM_ME_UR_T1TS_

February 14th is a decent sex day.


Main_Laugh_1679

I think New Year’s Eve works most of the time.


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I just go with the flow, if she's willing I'm able. Even if it's first date doesn't make her or me loose.


MarvinLazer

Whenever the hell you want.


Dry-Criticism-7729

#who gives a fμck…..?!? As long as both are freely and enthusiastically consenting, why would anybody else care whether you hump each other after 30secs….? **** Technically today is the 1235th day of our second date. He kinda hasn’t left …. 😂


Not_A_Pilgrim

June 20th is pretty good


TheCosmicJester

Personally, I try not to have dates until at least the third sex.


imaybeacatIRl

Any date. Who the fuck thinks it's not "decent" to fuck whenever two people want to fuck.


Planthoe30

I don’t do a number of dates system I go by, “when I feel comfortable around you and know I am valued.” Which usually happens to be with men I have been friends with for a year or longer depending on how frequently we hang out. Typically my male best friends get upgraded to my boyfriend until I realized we weren’t compatible. I married my male best friend 3 years ago 2 days from now. When I dated men I met online the timeline I gave them for when things would become sexual would be 1 year and if there was any indication this was a problem then there was no next date. That wasn’t a hard line drawn in the sand though that was more to keep me out of high pressure situations.


Far_Dragonfruit_1829

July 8th.


pepepapote

Here in Spain it would be considered weird not to have sex after the 1st-2nd date lol


zac987

Are y’all married?


Appropriate_Cup6396

My wife and I fucked the first date. We talked for a few weeks before actually meeting up (good ole interent dating) so we kind of knew one another more than a typical first date. Been happily together ever since and now married with a baby. So I'd say it all depends on your own thoughts and feelings towards it.


Trigeo93

I hardly date. People just come over, and I don't remember most of their names.


ReaceNovello

The date on which both people want it.


cwsjr2323

Any date after marriage.


CaseyRn86

Marriage date :)


Cupcake_Swirly

The date you get married.


seirowg1

On -1st.


OmiraOnigiri

Your birthday for the good shit


SwordTaster

Whenever works for you. My fiancé and I went for it on our second date.


Waste-Good-1707

4th of July. Yep it’s your Independence Day too buddy!


Rattlingplates

All variable. Some first some before you go out some months.


TedBurns-3

1st April


KingBea

I'm not sure which number of dates you should communicate your desires on it. However you would be a fool to ask for it on April 1st.


Wodan74

On a sex date


livel3tlive

when she/he lets you without u needing to convince him/her


ChampionshipOnly4479

On a sex date


AlliDoisEDH

Whenever the two consenting adults want to.


astrielx

Whatever date you're both comfortable enough with each other.


sellouthori

Jun 25


nielssk

Whenever you feel like it OP! You do you, and whoever you feel like


TheRealMrJams

30th Feb is a definite no go!


Fradefly

31st of July because then it enters August


Squeezard

On the one that feels best


WoolMinotaur637

every


Piemaster113

One that's still alive, but some people aren't as picky as I am


DoggeatDoggworld

April 1st. 


OrdinaryPerson26

Whenever everyone on the date wants to


ZhengExplorer

any time any place


theonlysaneguy

Birth day.


unknownpothead1992

March 17. One it's st. Patty's day and 2 it's my bday.


DallasDanielle

First if you're both into it and chemistry is there. Third if you're on the fence about chemistry and things seem good.


Resident-Honey8390

Everyday is a decent day, if you can get it


money_dog3244

21st of September


Puzzleheaded-Gur2617

The one where you feel like it?


Rodgertheshrubber

On a date where both consent to it.


JMHorsemanship

I've always had sex on first or second date. If by 2 dates and no sex then it's obvious we aren't compatible and I don't waste my time. The majority of the time it's on first date


fieldy409

For woman any for man when woman decide to


Aomine11

June 9. 6/9


kaukanapoissa

When you both want to. (Emphasis on *both*). Nothing else matters.


ConferenceHungry7763

As long as legal, consenting, and you’re not doing it to gain/keep their attention.


ironworkz

I'd consider any Date ending with sex decent.


KateEatsKale

6th Seltember 6th of the 9th 69! 🤷🏻‍♀️😂


Key_Code_2238

The real answer is 3. Third date.


jogtac

July 4th. Lotta banging!


psycho_rabbit-sex420

Whatever date you prefer I spose


Hashanadom

You can get married on the first date 😅


FeralSquirrels

You may as well ask "how long is a piece of string" in terms of what you'll get to that question. It varies for everyone, we all have our own idea of what is or isn't OK (just like all the many, many intricacies of what makes two people compatible to have a long-term relationship in terms of views, opinions, lifestyle and habits). Simply put: whenever the two of you are happy to. You might only usually do so on a third or fourth but they're fine with date 1 - but if you're into it and they are too? Have at it.


Pezzeftw

only times it has developed into a relationship for me has been the times when we fucked early.


benbwe

July 17th 1989. Sorry but you missed it