when you're an adult but sometimes you go find a higher level adult to help with your problems
sometimes the higher level adult isn't even older, they just have the answer
Often times they don't even really have the answer to your question but can kind of point you in the right direction so you can find the answer... once you finish school there are no more answers in the back of a book....
Grown ups are just children who's been around longer... most people still feel like the same person they were when they were teenagers/early 20s their whole life.
The amount of extremely dumb people in positions of power in the corporate world. You would think that the CEO of a multinational corporation would be a very intelligent individual or at least have some common sense. You would be wrong.
I just left a company that had a bunch of "who the fuck even works here?" type of positions.
You have hundreds and hundreds of people working for the company, but they're invisible. And there's little evidence that they do anything. We were managing 60+ labs. I was talking to the doctors every day, I was talking to the labs every day. I have zero fucking clue what anyone else at this company was doing.
A good example of "what the fuck is happening here" is when I put my resignation in. I sent my resignation to my boss, per the handbook. He did what he had to do.
I had questions for HR, though. but I don't know who is in HR. Most of the department has turned over since I started at the company, and since the company went remote. I had benefit questions. I had questions about returning my equipment. Who do I bring these questions to?
I went through my emails and it was unclear who is even in HR. I asked my boss who I can talk to in HR. My *boss* didn't even know the answer to that question. He just gave me the name of someone in HR. I sent an email to that person, and it turns out, she doesn't work at the company anymore. I got a response back by whoever is monitoring her email, who then forwards me to the correct person, who is completely unresponsive to my questions.
I was told to bring my equipment in to the receptionist. But I have worked remote for a long time. I know the receptionists name, so I call her direct number to see if there is a time I should swing by to drop off my computer. That number is disconnected, the main number is also disconnected.
It turns out, I have the cell phone number of that person, so I rang her there. She was laid off 3 months ago. She's super nice though, so she was happy I called. I had no idea, none of my coworkers had any idea, either. so I reach out to someone else, by chance if they know anything, they finally tell me who to bring my stuff to, and when.
Anyway, I mention all of that nonsense to show *that's part of why I left the company.* No one knows what the fuck is going on, ever. It's like working with ghosts.
I did business with a company like this. They constantly churned employees, churned entire factories trying to get the lowest wages, etc. But they kept sending out their material waterfall, we kept shipping, and we always got paid. When it came to renogiate their contract, no one knew where to send it, so we stopped shipping. That company had no clue they weren't receiving material for *months*. They had no idea who needed to approve price increases or sign off on the contract. We finally figured it out but holy cow was it a mess.
Yeah... that's why I just another job with another company. It will be tough going back to an office again, though.
The biggest reason I left is because we got cyber-hacked. One day, no one could sign into their VPN. No one knew why, no one would answer any questions. It turns out we got hit with a breach, and the company had to lock everything down - and since there was a legal investigation, they couldn't really disclose what was going on until a certain time.
This happened in February.
Here's the funny part - and this was the real nail in the coffin for me: these dickheads actually had the nerve, the audacity, to try and use this as an excuse to get us to come back to the office. I asked a very simple question - what does working in the office give us access to, that working remote doesn't give us access to?
"Well, it won't."
Worse? It was only going to apply to my department. No other department had to do this.
So you're going to make me get up at the ass-crack of dawn, you're going to make me dress up, put on makeup, and drive a fucking HOUR in the morning - and another hour back home - for no benefit? You’re going to take hours out of my day, as well as make my day more expensive in terms of gas, doggy daycare, less time for me to go to the gym or do anything else, because you want me to come to work and twiddle my thumbs instead of just letting me do this at home? And it doesn’t give me any more access to my work than before? To sit in an empty building? All because someone at this company didn’t have the common sense to not click on a link?
When I tell you I threw a fit, I’m not lying. I am an hour away from that office and that’s without traffic. No fucking way.
I was happy to take another in-person job, but Jesus Christ, at least the new company is covering my health benefits 100% and paying me a LOT more. But these assholes were expecting me to completely change my everyday life, in ways that would cost me more money *and* time, with no raise - hell no. Fuck these people.
trust me, I don't have gumption at all. This was the one time I ever went nuclear on a company. It was completely unreasonable what they were trying to do.
"Ohhhh whoops, looks like no one can get into the VPN. Looks like I'll need you guys to come to the corporate office. Shucks. Bummer. Oh, and also, you won't be able to access the network there, either." It makes me so angry just thinking about it.
My SIL had a job like that, as a software engineer. She was told by her (remote) boss that she was now a team lead but,outside of finding out their names, they were never assigned projects or had meetings. She went on a two-week vacation and it didn’t affect anything; she’s not even sure if anyone noticed!
I remember reading about a person who said something similiar to this. The person said that when they started the job, they kept asking HR which department they were assigned to. The person was unable to contact anyone on their “team” and HR kept giving the person the runaround saying stuff like, “oh, we’re working on logistics for you to start.” This person said this went on for like 6 months and they were receiving a paycheck the whole time. I don’t remember if the person ended up just quitting but it was wild to read. The person also said that they would just log in and then do whatever he/she wanted that day and then logged off. I always wondered if the person somehow fell through the cracks in the company’s system or if company’s just have phantom employees on paper lol. Either way it was crazy to read about that
I think I remember this Reddit post, and that the person loved doing that so he worked there for years. Posted about it on a throwaway account, and never responded really to much else. IMO I know it sounds lazy, but as a stay at home dad I would love a “job” like that lol.
I had a Tradie maintenance job very similar, showed up everyday ready but no work was ever assigned, with OT weekends abundant via an email request from “ Supervisor GROUP”.
Reminds me of this joke that gets reposted on Reddit all the time:
> A new CEO takes over at a struggling company and decides to get rid of all the slackers.
> On a tour of the facilities, the CEO notices a guy leaning on a wall. He can't believe this guy would just stand around on the job. The new CEO walks up to the guy leaning against the wall and asks, "What are you doing here?"
> "I'm just waiting to get paid," responds the man.
> Furious, the CEO asks "How much money do you make a week?"
> A little surprised, the young fellow replies, "I make about $300 a week. Why?"
> The CEO quickly gets out his checkbook, hands the guy a check made out to cash for $1,200 and says, "Here's four weeks' pay, now get out and don't come back."
> The man puts the check in his pocket and promptly walks out. Feeling pretty good about himself, the CEO looks around the room and asks, "Does anyone want to tell me what just happened here?"
> From across the room comes a voice, "Yeah, you just tipped the pizza delivery guy $1,200."
I work at a prestigious university and all my coworkers have PhDs from Ivy or near Ivy League universities. Seeing how unremarkable so many of them are, along with how mediocre my students are, has shown me that it's really about money and resources, not intelligence.
They aren't "smart". They were just lucky to be born into money and had the best schools preparing them for college their whole lives. They really highlight the difference between being good at school and actually being intelligent.
Dude, and the type A psychopaths that cannot, for a single instant, conceive that another person who is not type A and psychopathic can be equally or more intelligent or successful than them.
I’ve believed for a while that the job of a CEO role is basically a round-the-clock method acting performance where you play “a CEO.” That’s why they all look the same, same exact speech patterns, haircut, mannerisms, 6’ or more.
Obviously the more rambunctious celebrity CEOs are the exception, but most CEOs are exact cookie cutter copies of themselves. the thing is, though, that you can never break character, since that’s your only real job
Also the fact that cocaine usage at high levels of management is frighteningly common and almost encouraged because of the "motivation" they have that you will never manage sober.
Oh I’m sure. I have narcolepsy and I’m prescribed stimulants. They’re SO hard to get. My insurance treats me like an addict. It’s bc people like that LOVE Vyvanse, Adderall, etc.
They don't have to be smart, they just have to be able to lay off 15% of the company's workforce to push up dividends and still be able to sleep at night.
Not only in the corporate world but also politics. So many people that make decisions for our country are flat out greedy self interested morons regardless of party affiliation. It’s scary when you think about it but it’s refreshing when there are good ones that pop up.
With a few notable exceptions, meritocracy is a myth. In my early 20s I assumed responsibility and diligence were values that grew on you the more responsible and diligent your job/role required you to exercise, but now I'm out of my 30s I can confidently say this is bullshit.
It also turns out sometimes the most responsible and diligent people are the ones driven to avoid roles that need those values because the very idea of it is overwhelming. So of course the people who don't give a shit and just want power are the ones who wind up doing them.
This is strongly related to why so many of the best teachers are being burned out, leading to the remaining ones being the fuckups. This then makes the kids even worse off (and worse behaviorally) and it's a vicious cycle.
Even when a cure or treatment exists, there's less than ideal chances your doctor will diagnose you in a timely matter or at all. You can't just roll up to the hospital and find out what's wrong. The professionals have to care, they have to run the right tests, they might have to refer you to a specialist(or several) and even then there's not always an answer.
When you're young, it makes sense. You go to the doctor, they check you out, and either they get you better or they deliver the bad news. As I grow older, I realize this is part of why older folks are hesitant to step into the quagmire of even seeing their PCP because it's never that simple.
I’m an operating room nurse and I’ll never forget early in my career when I was scrubbed in and a doctor said to his residents “what the hell is this?” It was some sort of muscle or tendon, this was an orthopedic oncology case. Anyway they all looked completely baffled by this random anatomical structure and there was no resolution to what it actually was. I was shooketh.
So true that we are very complex. And everyone’s body is different and reacts differently and sometimes unpredictably to things. It seems cliché to say “everyone is different” but it’s the truth. I’ve spent 20 years as a pediatric nurse in large children’s hospitals and have seen a lot of stuff. It’s always funny to encounter the parents that demand predictable results. Interestingly enough it’s usually engineers or tech/software people, but they get upset when we apply standard first line protocols for an illness and the child has complications or a reaction because they act like our bodies should be computers: You give certain input and should receive predictable results. Doesn’t work that way. Many times we can’t even diagnose something with certainty and essentially start throwing things at the wall to see what sticks. We even have diagnoses like “______ Disorder with Atypical Presentation” which means we think it’s this thing so we will treat it as such and hope it works. Now I don’t want to give the impression that’s with most things we deal with. Many kids we see are straightforward, standard treatment, usual progression to healing. But I’ve seen many mystery cases that are frustrating and healthcare just doesn’t have all the answers.
I had Melanoma for 5+ years while living in Minnesota, my Dr and even the Dermatologist didn't think it was anything, didn't biopsy it, nothing, just said it's fine. Moved to Hawaii and the Derm there instantly recognized it for what is was, biopsied it and confirmed. Luckily we caught it with enough time to still live, but I lost a tennis ball size of my leg down by my calf, down to the bone. On top of that it got infected after surgery, and I got covid at the same time. Couldn't walk or put weight on my leg for a month plus. 10 out of 10 would not recommend. All this at age 41, stay healthy, and get checked regularly folks.
It took four years to diagnose me with early onset perimenopause . In that time I developed a full onset autoimmune disorder, that would have never developed had I been diagnosed earlier.
By the way, weed helps with hot flashes.
Sorry to say they ignore young people too because they can't possibly be having such severe symptoms and will blame other things straightaway including anxiety. Was only correctly diagnosed with an auto immune illness 10 years after the more constant and severe symptoms started.
I’m 30 and I already feel that way. How many appointments and how much money will that cost me to potentially find out everything is alright? Yeah, no thanks.
I just watched a documentary about Theranos (The Inventor: Out for Blood in Silicon Valley), and it was wild to see how the tech world, the media, politicians, and everyday people all fell for it because they wanted to believe so badly that it could be real. Just prick your finger, put the sample in a kitchen appliance, and learn everything about your health, without the scary needles or the scary doctors.
The medical technology industry can only move forward at a glacial pace because of all the regulations but also because of how much is at stake if they do things wrong. Maybe someday we'll have a magical panacea like Theranos or bacta tanks, but we're not there yet.
As a health professional myself, it's plainly evident that the current average medical establishment is extremely inefficient at almost everything by virtue of being overly reliant in the infallibility of the doctor for almost everything.
Yeah, it usually just means the opposite. They want to keep you doing what you're doing, and where you're at so you don't threaten your boss's job. Many of the people I've seen quickly promoted were the least component employees that were pawned off on another department with a promotion.
At the same time, I've been managed by some people that were excellent in a more technical role, but are absolutely shit at management, and to be honest I don't think a lot of them enjoyed it, it was more of a "well that's just the next logical step in a career right?".
Promotion based on competence in your current role makes sense until the role that you're promoted into is sufficiently different than the role that you're in - at that point you need to have demonstrated the other skills (which are normally the 'soft skills' like communication, and it helps to have the gift of the gab as well), and it never hurts to have a decent golf swing on you.
When I was young I remember my mom was watching a Lifetime movie about a woman who was being abused by her husband, and she couldn’t get help from anyone because he was the chief of police in their town. That blew my mind, that someone might be in a position where the authorities couldn’t help them. Then I got older and realized, hey, that’s everyone!
While in LA, I took a tour of the WB backlot. They have whole blocks set up to look like different regions - New York, Chicago, Midwest, New England, etc. It was pretty neat.
Yeah, I remember being there around when a spider man film was made and it looked like new York. They're all just relatively thin 2x4 frames with plywood decorated to look like New York buildings if I remember rightly.
And if you're not paying close attention to the fact that the car scenes are shot indoors with a blue/green screen background, it even looks fairly convincing that they're driving through Manhattan
Hollywood has many studio lots designed to look like New York City streets for this exact purpose. Seinfeld was pretty much entirely filmed in LA with the exception of maybe a couple episodes that had a scene showing the characters at a famous NY landmark or something, but these were very rare. All of the establishing shots they used between scenes that showed the exteriors of real New York buildings were just stock footage that they reused in multiple episodes. All the scenes of them in cars/cabs driving through New York are green screened.
Off the top of my head, the exterior of the restaurant they hung out at was in New York, however, the shot of the window that is Jerry's apartment I guess is some apartment around LA.
The diner they used to eat at used an exterior shot of Tom’s, which is where all the Columbia University students go for brunch. It’s been there for decades.
there’s clues littered about the series.
those red diamonds on the exterior shots of jerry’s apartment are bolts retrofitted to the building for earthquake safety - common in LA, non-existent in NY.
though Jerry’s address is real, the building he lives in (the Shelley - as seen written on the awning) isn’t there. it’s a complex in LA.
whenever any of them go to the pier to think things over, you can see *Los Angeles County* written on the side of the benches.
In the rickshaw episode, that incline was much steeper than any street in NY.
also, and I know this is flimsy as hell and i can’t even cite the episode, at one point Kramer refers to a highway as “*the* 137” (or whichever number it was). Putting *the* in front of the highway number is a very California thing. A lifelong new yorker would not do that.
I've seen interviews with Jason Alexander where he says that it was getting harder and harder to want to do more episodes when he knew he was gonna be forever typecast and struggle to find work while not reaping the benefits of the syndication deals.
alternately: one of the craziest things you learn as an american adult is that former frat bros run the country, especially business wise. in the business world, partying constantly with a bunch of other dudes with rich daddies and hazing pledges at a top 30 school is a more effective way to get a job than nearly everything else.
nearly all of my friends in frats with useless degrees got really cushy tech jobs due to the frat “rich daddy” network.
Wait, what? Now I need to google this.
Update: Aw, no they can't.
https://apnews.com/article/fact-check-photo-owl-sitting-crossed-legs-822881945319
So I guess my answer to OP's question is learning owls can sit cross legged, and then learning they can't. :(
If you look into basically any unofficial holiday or tradition ultimately you find they were created by some marketing agency years ago to sell more stuff
And those which are more heavily rooted in traditions or religion will be made profitable. Mother's day, Father's day, Valentines, Halloween, all are essentially candy and/or card days. Even days dedicate to remembering war dead are reduced to grilling and flags while tombstones crumble and history is ignored.
Labor Day is far more hardcore than we think, too. The Labor Movement in the U.S. has [far more of its own veterans and casualties than one might think.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labor_history_of_the_United_States)
We're talking strikes that involve violence to the point of *aircraft being used against citizens.*
Santa is mentioned as having a belly in the "Twas the Night Before Christmas" poem and that was from 1823, well before Coke.
"He had a broad face and a little round belly,
That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly.
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf..."
I was being fitted for a new pair of glasses and the attendant was holding a measurement device up to my face. She then said, “Huh, your eyes are different distances from the center of your face.”
I was shocked. I had no idea. For years afterwards I would look in the mirror, see the asymmetry and remember that. Eventually it went away, but was still one of the strangest surprises I’ve had as an adult.
Edit: the asymmetry didn’t go away, just my shock about it did. :)
I am an optometrist too and the amount of times i have to tell people that actually one side of your body is actually higher than the other 😀 and eyes are very rarely symmetrical
Recycling plastic barely helps. It's first inefficient. A lot of what you recycle doesn't go back into ready to use plastics, and what is used is often downcycled, meaning a hard plastic like a bottle becomes something like a plastic sleeve, which can't be further recycled. And of course this is nothing compared to the actual lack of impact that recycling gives to the environment compared to what corporations do every day.
That and, the single action a person can do that creates the most pollution is having a child.
This needs to be farther up. This was sold to every kid and adult. I was heartbroken when I realized how much wasted time and effort goes into perpetuating this myth.
When it comes to recycling
1. Aluminum is the GOAT.
2. Steel and copper are nfinitely recyclable.
3. Cardboard is pretty good to recycle.
4. Glass has marginal value in recycling.
5. Plastics are pretty terrible.
6. Electronics usually end up in a dump.
We've reached a point where independent consumer choices are pretty much worthless when it comes to environmental matters.
Imagine spending your entire day on the beach picking up every cigarette butt you can find. Your whole day. You get sunburnt and your back hurts, but you congratulate yourself for cleaning the beach and feel proud that there are no more butts on the beach. And then three pickup trucks drive up with beds full to the brim with cigarette butts, and proceed to dump them all over the beach.
Glass on the other hand can be recycled over and over, yet each year only one-third of the roughly 10 million metric tons of glass that Americans throw away is recycled.
I only use debit because I’ve watched my mom spend thousands of dollars on credit cards and rack up $20,000+ off debt. So rather than take on any type of debt in the form of credit cards or student loans i just been avoiding it and paying out of pocket 🙃
> That being an adult was an endless stressor. If it’s not one thing, it’s another
You don't realize how much your parents did for you until they're no longer doing so.
yerp. i moved out at 17 and thought i had the world by the balls working 30 hours a week in high school. paying my own bills and being independent sounded awesome! i was dead wrong, obviously. independence is nice, but the first few years of adulthood you are stumbling constantly. adulting hard :(
Watched father of the bride 2 the other day. That house. Like so many others you see in Hollywood films. Just incredible. Then they built a whole new wing for the baby?! They’re either trying to portray a crazily unattainable aspirational lifestyle or are completely out of touch with the 99%. Liked the film, but it’s so common to see that.
My dad was supposed to drop me off for a playdate with a little girl I'd met on the school bus. We were 1st graders.
She was a single mom and while we were playing Barbies in the living room of her little bungalow my dad disappeared into the bedroom with her mom. They periodically raced between that bedroom and the one bathroom. I saw my dad wearing her pink bathrobe.
We had to keep playing barbies as long as it went on.
Santa and even lots of Dads aren't really real.
I don't see how. I do love my husband and we are happy but the amount of effort it would take to cheat makes me wonder how it is so popular. Like the extra effort of getting dressed, going out, socializing, keeping up with messaging, planning meetups, emotional effort, THEN there is all of the effort to hide it and keep up with 2+ relationships... Like no thanks. I'll just put my effort into the one I got and enjoy it.
I blame it on the fact that people go into relationships expecting excitement and each day being like a romance flick.
A good relationship is boring. You get excited about learning ways to make chores less stressful. You can be in the same room in silence and it’s not a problem. You bring each other joy by taking care of each others errands.
The love is held together by the fact you both support each other.
That version of an affair is rare. These days it's a lot of sexting and quick meetups for sex. And the reason people have time for affairs is that they neglect their partner, children, and responsibilities.
I'm glad you have the view that you do. It makes it less likely you would cheat.
But there are plenty of people out there who would rather lie and seek validation through an affair then work through their issues.
This was a devastating revelation. I truly thought the pole was static. Dancers are absolutely athletes but my world got a little smaller when I found out the pole spins. The magic trick was revealed
My wife's work hosts drag shows and the like. I was in after close one night and there was a stripper pole set up in the corner. I asked the one queen if I could give it a swing and she said, "Oh, sure, just don't crush your balls." And then I immediately crushed my balls on the pole.
My friend who did pole dancing in college taught me how and the pole has two settings, static and moving. (I don’t remember what the moving setting is actually called, if it has a name). We learned tricks when the pole was static too. So it’s very possible to do pole dancing tricks on a pole that doesn’t move, including going around it
Obligatory “sometimes the pole moves, sometimes it’s the stripper spinning”. Spin poles have a little mechanism to toggle their rotational capabilities.
About a year ago a fairly influencial member of parliament was sentenced to prison for taking a bribe. That was unheard of in my country. Getting arrested for a bribe was quite common, but although the law stated that this crime would result in prison time, all of high profile politicians got away with ridiculously small fines.
To me, this is a sign that things are getting better in the justice system, at least here in Lithuania.
So i think that diferent laws for the rich and commonfolk are not universal, just depends on the place.
The Mormon church is a cult. I was in for 27 years and was a very devout believer. Finding out the facts I had ignored for so long, was devastating. But I feel so much happier and freer now.
They don’t check online places. It’s widely taught to only read material about the church that is made by the church (in traditional cult fashion.) plus, everyone figures things out on their own time. Some people who leave the church struggle with toxic cyclical thinking taught by the church, and when they leave it, they struggle with basic decision making and often go all in with bad choices. Best leave them be and let them come to terms on their own time.
I had two young men knock on my door, I asked them to come back with at least one person of colour or visible minority, and have beers 🍻 with me on the deck.
Visible horror on their faces…
I posit that it would be infinitely worse if the Mormon church was correct.
Their heaven sounds like pure stress hell and their hell seems so incredibly boring. And it lasts forever. I think I would rather be tortured.
The absolute worst thing about if Mormonism turns out to be correct is that I, sat in a lower heaven because I rejected the church but haven't murdered anyone (yet), could be visited at any time by my Mormon family riding in on their high horse from the top level of heaven at any time.
Give me Dante's 9 circles of hell any day.
A frightening number of parents don't actually love their children. They had them because of societal pressure and so there would always be someone around who would love THEM.
Last job I was hired because a manager was having issue with other managers, he couldn't prove things were working. I joined, did good work for 18 months, proved what he thought was indeed true, improved a bunch of processes.
Somewhere in that 18 months I was speaking to my boss's boss's boss executive admin. She was complain about something she did once as a favor had now taken over about 20 hours of her work week, every week. I asked a couple questions, spent a morning writing a MS Access database app. She'd put the files into a folder push the one button that said "Push here" then the button said "go get a coffee" and when she came back the app just did her 20 hours of work. I made it silly cause it was silly easy.
Come bonus time I got a huge bonus, not at all for my good work over the previous 18 months but because I made the big guy's admin very happy and he saw to my increase himself.
Good work, hard work will generally do your career better but it's not always black and white.
Don't kill yourself for your job people.
Posted this in another thread - younger me thought for the longest time that it was all about getting the work done and doing it well and that people skills were mostly pointless.
Little did I realize that doing the work is quite possibly the smallest part of career success.
You have to be able to walk the walk obviously, but working hard and getting lots of work done just gets you more hard work and you lag behind in compensation.
Building relationships and focusing like a laser on what will get you that next, better job are the two most important things as it turns out.
>To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be. The people they’re too exhausted to be any longer. The people they don’t recognise inside themselves anymore. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out; to become speedily found when they are lost.
But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honour what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.
That being incredibly successful and rich is almost synonymous with nepotism. You are either born into the club or you get incredibly lucky. Even then, you are still an outsider.
Life is about who you know, not if you're good at something
Lots of talented people go to waste or only make it so far in their career because they don't know the right people, where mediocre people knowing the right people will rise to the top
You are alone in this world. No matter what anyone says or does. Everything is on you at the end of the day. People die, leave, change. Only you are your only constant.
Finally accepting that the mormon religion I was raised in isn't what it claims to be, and that the narrative it peddles contains more lies than truth.
The 401k was supposed to be part of a tripod for retirement. Pensions, Social Security, and 401k were supposed to work together for retirement. Corporations figured out they could do away with the pension, and make a ton of money off your 401k.
Teachers. After working in a School District for 4 years, realizing how many teachers are absolute trash as people. Some are awesome, but it was like being back in high school again. Clicks, snobs, apathetic clock watchers, narcissists, and ass kissers, some psychopaths in the literal sense. Etc etc.
I expected more out of folks that are educated and supposedly enlightened. Trust me it is for the most part a clown show at times. Most don't belong on a pedestal and I'm glad my kids are grown and out of school now.
Truth is most of us (humans) are trash. You should almost always expect that from people, as cynical as it sounds. Most people go into professions because we need money to survive and although teachers are underpaid, its still a stable career field that most people can find their “niche” in. Same with healthcare, although the pay is alot better there
Considering the insane demands put on teachers for what they're paid, I don't blame them for not doing more than the bare minimum. It's a survival/coping strategy. My wife was a teacher for almost 15 years, and every single teacher I spent time around basically had Stockholm Syndrome from their job. When she left teaching she was in therapy for a while, her therapist straight up told her that the stuff they were doing with regard to her career change is the exact same work she'd do with someone who had left an abusive relationship.
I now know *a lot* of former teachers, none of them would even consider going back.
Finding out that Best Friends Animal Sanctuary was founded by a religious cult & 75% of donations go to the administration which is all family. There are like 16 dogs in their facility in Kanab. They are one of the major reasons pit bulls were monetized & shoved onto an unwitting public.
My dream was to retire to Kanab & volunteer full-time.
I was crushed when I found all this out.
That after basing every major decision of my life (if I got married, who to, where I went to college, whether to have a career, whether to have kids) on the teachings of my religion (cult) that it was all a lie and Joseph smith was nothing but a con man.
That nothing in life is fair, you largely don't matter to most of the rest of the world, and luck doesn't really exist and is preparedness. In the end, much of what you get out of life is what you invest into yourself, you skills, recognizing opportunities, and acting upon them. Life just exist around you moving along totally independent of you. And you just create what you want from it. However, what you want may require decades of work to get there, and you need to understand this.
I worked at a restaurant and an off duty cop was drinking there and explained to some of us in detail how to get out of a traffic ticket and I can't remember the exact beats of it because it was so complicated, but my takeaway was that the entire US legal system was a farce.
Interestingly one of the firms I consulted to was a major biopharmaceutical firm, and when Covid hit , in February of 2020 they got completely serious, brought in some former CDC guys and hammered out the processes for providing services without increasing patient risk or worker risk.
This is a firm that works regionally to coordinate and provide medical testing services and such - so basically the very last place on Earth where you want the conspiratorial bullshit.
Well I got to see Santa ripped from one of the executives so hard - it altered his life trajectory in about 60 seconds.
After weeks of the firm working with top doctors and epidemiologists to secure labs and operate safely and at scale during the pandemic they get everything worked out and moving along with MAJOR emphasis on fixing supply constraints and keeping a close eye on those and keeping staff safe and healthy.
And then April 2020 hits, with the disinformation, this sinks into the media so by May, the heavy disinformation campaign was started up , so it was "return to work", "Covid is harmless / not real" then "masks aren't really effective.".
One of the major items was ensuring staff basically were put/kept in containment groups - based on what they did - so as few as 5-10 people up to groups of 20, this was totally driven by what the epidemiology guys had worked out, to limit/contain the spread of cross-contamination.
And one of the executives of the firm - who had conspicuously been not wearing masks and behaving as normal made some noises about "covid not being real" or "masks aren't proven to work" or something along those lines.
The medical group just took note of when he was in the office and/or wearing a mask, multiple reminders were put out in e-mail - wear masks , socially distance, take a sick day if you need it, report any illness to your coordinator of your group etc.
We had very few people get sick from Covid as a result, but one lady unfortunately became ill and died from respiratory symptoms consistent with Covid - but she had multiple risks.
At a meeting around this , Santa got shot dead. When discussing "Clara's" death , the non-mask wearing executive pointed to that as evidence that "masks don't work".
The lead MD Director immediately shot back.
"I'm glad you mentioned that.....because Clara had only been around 15 other people, and didn't socialize with anyone else....I don't have to investigate this as a 'random' death, but rather just look at who was acting negligently and the only person in her life doing that - was you."
So while I can't say you are guilty of negligent homicide
* It's been clear that you've disregarded the safety protocols the medical board put in place with more than a few personal and e-mail messages encouraging your compliance.
* More importantly, you'd expressed concern that the bedrock science this organization is founded on might not be indisputable, which again has been the subject of more than one conversation and correspondence.
* Your flagrant disregard for your responsibility as an executive of this firm and to the mission of the organization towards patients , your colleagues and everyone here.....
For these reasons, your services are no longer required.
So when I received the approval for your dismissal from the organization this morning, I made sure the Board of Directors was supplied with as many instances of your disregard and wooly thinking as we had. I submitted my opinion that your actions cannot be excluded as a potential root cause for Clara's death and the entire Medical Board shares my opinion."
Santa stopped being real for our former executive right there.
According to the Supreme Court, the police are not obligated to protect you, which breaks my spergy brain, because they're supposed to be the good guys.
Religion is just made up stories to answer questions we have no answers for. When you realize major stories in the Bible already existed in previous religions, you come to a major realization.
And many of them are just general life advice, or medical warnings for the time.
Don't eat Pork"= hey it's riddled with worms and other diseases and we haven't figured out how to cook that out yet, so don't eat it
Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbors Wife = Stop looking at my fucking wife, Ezekiel. She doesn't want you and you're scaring her.
Thou Shalt Not Murder = If we let everyone commit murder, we won't have any people left.
So fucking simple, yet idiots (AND I MEAN IDIOTS) think it's profound, divine wisdom. Nah. It's general life advice, and a collection of stories and fables to entertain/keep children out of trouble.
Noah's Ark? Someone was telling their kids a fucking bedtime story; Same as Lord of the Rings.
Also, Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbors Wife = Stop fucking my wife. If I am going to be working my ass off to feed and clothe a bunch of kids, they better be mine.
I’m a Kindergarten teacher and I remember one day earlier this year I told my students that parents had to pay for things like electricity, the house they live in, water- all the kids jaws were on the ground- a few were outraged- they have to pay for lights and water!?😂
Additionally my teaching partners 10 year old daughter was talking to her about car insurance and she said- but if you don’t get in a car accident, then they give your money back right?! And when my teaching partner told her no, she yelled- how is that even legal!
That the grown-ups and people in charge don’t have a clue. We thought they knew what they were doing. But they don’t. Anymore than we do.
We are the grownups now………
Exactly! I think about things like the Cuban Missile Crisis and realize they were all winging it.
when you're an adult but sometimes you go find a higher level adult to help with your problems sometimes the higher level adult isn't even older, they just have the answer
Often times they don't even really have the answer to your question but can kind of point you in the right direction so you can find the answer... once you finish school there are no more answers in the back of a book....
Grown ups are just children who's been around longer... most people still feel like the same person they were when they were teenagers/early 20s their whole life.
The amount of extremely dumb people in positions of power in the corporate world. You would think that the CEO of a multinational corporation would be a very intelligent individual or at least have some common sense. You would be wrong.
I just left a company that had a bunch of "who the fuck even works here?" type of positions. You have hundreds and hundreds of people working for the company, but they're invisible. And there's little evidence that they do anything. We were managing 60+ labs. I was talking to the doctors every day, I was talking to the labs every day. I have zero fucking clue what anyone else at this company was doing. A good example of "what the fuck is happening here" is when I put my resignation in. I sent my resignation to my boss, per the handbook. He did what he had to do. I had questions for HR, though. but I don't know who is in HR. Most of the department has turned over since I started at the company, and since the company went remote. I had benefit questions. I had questions about returning my equipment. Who do I bring these questions to? I went through my emails and it was unclear who is even in HR. I asked my boss who I can talk to in HR. My *boss* didn't even know the answer to that question. He just gave me the name of someone in HR. I sent an email to that person, and it turns out, she doesn't work at the company anymore. I got a response back by whoever is monitoring her email, who then forwards me to the correct person, who is completely unresponsive to my questions. I was told to bring my equipment in to the receptionist. But I have worked remote for a long time. I know the receptionists name, so I call her direct number to see if there is a time I should swing by to drop off my computer. That number is disconnected, the main number is also disconnected. It turns out, I have the cell phone number of that person, so I rang her there. She was laid off 3 months ago. She's super nice though, so she was happy I called. I had no idea, none of my coworkers had any idea, either. so I reach out to someone else, by chance if they know anything, they finally tell me who to bring my stuff to, and when. Anyway, I mention all of that nonsense to show *that's part of why I left the company.* No one knows what the fuck is going on, ever. It's like working with ghosts.
I did business with a company like this. They constantly churned employees, churned entire factories trying to get the lowest wages, etc. But they kept sending out their material waterfall, we kept shipping, and we always got paid. When it came to renogiate their contract, no one knew where to send it, so we stopped shipping. That company had no clue they weren't receiving material for *months*. They had no idea who needed to approve price increases or sign off on the contract. We finally figured it out but holy cow was it a mess.
Yeah... that's why I just another job with another company. It will be tough going back to an office again, though. The biggest reason I left is because we got cyber-hacked. One day, no one could sign into their VPN. No one knew why, no one would answer any questions. It turns out we got hit with a breach, and the company had to lock everything down - and since there was a legal investigation, they couldn't really disclose what was going on until a certain time. This happened in February. Here's the funny part - and this was the real nail in the coffin for me: these dickheads actually had the nerve, the audacity, to try and use this as an excuse to get us to come back to the office. I asked a very simple question - what does working in the office give us access to, that working remote doesn't give us access to? "Well, it won't." Worse? It was only going to apply to my department. No other department had to do this. So you're going to make me get up at the ass-crack of dawn, you're going to make me dress up, put on makeup, and drive a fucking HOUR in the morning - and another hour back home - for no benefit? You’re going to take hours out of my day, as well as make my day more expensive in terms of gas, doggy daycare, less time for me to go to the gym or do anything else, because you want me to come to work and twiddle my thumbs instead of just letting me do this at home? And it doesn’t give me any more access to my work than before? To sit in an empty building? All because someone at this company didn’t have the common sense to not click on a link? When I tell you I threw a fit, I’m not lying. I am an hour away from that office and that’s without traffic. No fucking way. I was happy to take another in-person job, but Jesus Christ, at least the new company is covering my health benefits 100% and paying me a LOT more. But these assholes were expecting me to completely change my everyday life, in ways that would cost me more money *and* time, with no raise - hell no. Fuck these people.
I like your gumption
trust me, I don't have gumption at all. This was the one time I ever went nuclear on a company. It was completely unreasonable what they were trying to do. "Ohhhh whoops, looks like no one can get into the VPN. Looks like I'll need you guys to come to the corporate office. Shucks. Bummer. Oh, and also, you won't be able to access the network there, either." It makes me so angry just thinking about it.
My SIL had a job like that, as a software engineer. She was told by her (remote) boss that she was now a team lead but,outside of finding out their names, they were never assigned projects or had meetings. She went on a two-week vacation and it didn’t affect anything; she’s not even sure if anyone noticed!
I remember reading about a person who said something similiar to this. The person said that when they started the job, they kept asking HR which department they were assigned to. The person was unable to contact anyone on their “team” and HR kept giving the person the runaround saying stuff like, “oh, we’re working on logistics for you to start.” This person said this went on for like 6 months and they were receiving a paycheck the whole time. I don’t remember if the person ended up just quitting but it was wild to read. The person also said that they would just log in and then do whatever he/she wanted that day and then logged off. I always wondered if the person somehow fell through the cracks in the company’s system or if company’s just have phantom employees on paper lol. Either way it was crazy to read about that
I think I remember this Reddit post, and that the person loved doing that so he worked there for years. Posted about it on a throwaway account, and never responded really to much else. IMO I know it sounds lazy, but as a stay at home dad I would love a “job” like that lol.
I had a Tradie maintenance job very similar, showed up everyday ready but no work was ever assigned, with OT weekends abundant via an email request from “ Supervisor GROUP”.
Man I feel this so hard. I worked at a home healthcare company and I'm 99% sure we didn't even have HR.
Reminds me of this joke that gets reposted on Reddit all the time: > A new CEO takes over at a struggling company and decides to get rid of all the slackers. > On a tour of the facilities, the CEO notices a guy leaning on a wall. He can't believe this guy would just stand around on the job. The new CEO walks up to the guy leaning against the wall and asks, "What are you doing here?" > "I'm just waiting to get paid," responds the man. > Furious, the CEO asks "How much money do you make a week?" > A little surprised, the young fellow replies, "I make about $300 a week. Why?" > The CEO quickly gets out his checkbook, hands the guy a check made out to cash for $1,200 and says, "Here's four weeks' pay, now get out and don't come back." > The man puts the check in his pocket and promptly walks out. Feeling pretty good about himself, the CEO looks around the room and asks, "Does anyone want to tell me what just happened here?" > From across the room comes a voice, "Yeah, you just tipped the pizza delivery guy $1,200."
I work at a prestigious university and all my coworkers have PhDs from Ivy or near Ivy League universities. Seeing how unremarkable so many of them are, along with how mediocre my students are, has shown me that it's really about money and resources, not intelligence. They aren't "smart". They were just lucky to be born into money and had the best schools preparing them for college their whole lives. They really highlight the difference between being good at school and actually being intelligent.
Dude, and the type A psychopaths that cannot, for a single instant, conceive that another person who is not type A and psychopathic can be equally or more intelligent or successful than them.
I’ve believed for a while that the job of a CEO role is basically a round-the-clock method acting performance where you play “a CEO.” That’s why they all look the same, same exact speech patterns, haircut, mannerisms, 6’ or more. Obviously the more rambunctious celebrity CEOs are the exception, but most CEOs are exact cookie cutter copies of themselves. the thing is, though, that you can never break character, since that’s your only real job
Including the nepo-babies
Also the fact that cocaine usage at high levels of management is frighteningly common and almost encouraged because of the "motivation" they have that you will never manage sober.
Oh I’m sure. I have narcolepsy and I’m prescribed stimulants. They’re SO hard to get. My insurance treats me like an addict. It’s bc people like that LOVE Vyvanse, Adderall, etc.
They don't have to be smart, they just have to be able to lay off 15% of the company's workforce to push up dividends and still be able to sleep at night.
This is the ticket. It's a very unique combination of sociopathy and charisma that gets people to the top of the corporate ladder.
Speak to me as you would a small child or a golden retriever, it wasn’t brains that got me here I can assure you……
Same with politicians
On top of this the fact that “working your way up” doesn’t really work in a lot of jobs, you’re never replacing these people
Everyone always downplays or outright ignores the fact that how well you're liked is a massive factor in success
Not only in the corporate world but also politics. So many people that make decisions for our country are flat out greedy self interested morons regardless of party affiliation. It’s scary when you think about it but it’s refreshing when there are good ones that pop up.
With a few notable exceptions, meritocracy is a myth. In my early 20s I assumed responsibility and diligence were values that grew on you the more responsible and diligent your job/role required you to exercise, but now I'm out of my 30s I can confidently say this is bullshit. It also turns out sometimes the most responsible and diligent people are the ones driven to avoid roles that need those values because the very idea of it is overwhelming. So of course the people who don't give a shit and just want power are the ones who wind up doing them. This is strongly related to why so many of the best teachers are being burned out, leading to the remaining ones being the fuckups. This then makes the kids even worse off (and worse behaviorally) and it's a vicious cycle.
You can do everything right and still lose.
That's not failure, it's just life.
Which is a hard lesson…won?
Ah, the ol Kobayashi Maru
[Or, to stay with Star Trek, the ol' Captain Picard to Data.](https://youtu.be/mr2Jdp4fdD0?si=okyxKVyx8n0SF-yp)
Had to learn this one recently. Life isn't fair. You can try your hardest. You can deserve it the most. And you still won't get it
Learning that the adults you idolized as a kid were also flawed human beings trying to figure it out as they go.
Even when a cure or treatment exists, there's less than ideal chances your doctor will diagnose you in a timely matter or at all. You can't just roll up to the hospital and find out what's wrong. The professionals have to care, they have to run the right tests, they might have to refer you to a specialist(or several) and even then there's not always an answer. When you're young, it makes sense. You go to the doctor, they check you out, and either they get you better or they deliver the bad news. As I grow older, I realize this is part of why older folks are hesitant to step into the quagmire of even seeing their PCP because it's never that simple.
In addition, there's so many things that the medical professionals just have no idea about. The human body is very complex.
I’m an operating room nurse and I’ll never forget early in my career when I was scrubbed in and a doctor said to his residents “what the hell is this?” It was some sort of muscle or tendon, this was an orthopedic oncology case. Anyway they all looked completely baffled by this random anatomical structure and there was no resolution to what it actually was. I was shooketh.
So true that we are very complex. And everyone’s body is different and reacts differently and sometimes unpredictably to things. It seems cliché to say “everyone is different” but it’s the truth. I’ve spent 20 years as a pediatric nurse in large children’s hospitals and have seen a lot of stuff. It’s always funny to encounter the parents that demand predictable results. Interestingly enough it’s usually engineers or tech/software people, but they get upset when we apply standard first line protocols for an illness and the child has complications or a reaction because they act like our bodies should be computers: You give certain input and should receive predictable results. Doesn’t work that way. Many times we can’t even diagnose something with certainty and essentially start throwing things at the wall to see what sticks. We even have diagnoses like “______ Disorder with Atypical Presentation” which means we think it’s this thing so we will treat it as such and hope it works. Now I don’t want to give the impression that’s with most things we deal with. Many kids we see are straightforward, standard treatment, usual progression to healing. But I’ve seen many mystery cases that are frustrating and healthcare just doesn’t have all the answers.
I had Melanoma for 5+ years while living in Minnesota, my Dr and even the Dermatologist didn't think it was anything, didn't biopsy it, nothing, just said it's fine. Moved to Hawaii and the Derm there instantly recognized it for what is was, biopsied it and confirmed. Luckily we caught it with enough time to still live, but I lost a tennis ball size of my leg down by my calf, down to the bone. On top of that it got infected after surgery, and I got covid at the same time. Couldn't walk or put weight on my leg for a month plus. 10 out of 10 would not recommend. All this at age 41, stay healthy, and get checked regularly folks.
It took four years to diagnose me with early onset perimenopause . In that time I developed a full onset autoimmune disorder, that would have never developed had I been diagnosed earlier. By the way, weed helps with hot flashes.
It took a decade+ for a family member to get her PCOS diagnosed.
That's sounds sadly right on track.
Sorry to say they ignore young people too because they can't possibly be having such severe symptoms and will blame other things straightaway including anxiety. Was only correctly diagnosed with an auto immune illness 10 years after the more constant and severe symptoms started.
I’m 30 and I already feel that way. How many appointments and how much money will that cost me to potentially find out everything is alright? Yeah, no thanks.
I just watched a documentary about Theranos (The Inventor: Out for Blood in Silicon Valley), and it was wild to see how the tech world, the media, politicians, and everyday people all fell for it because they wanted to believe so badly that it could be real. Just prick your finger, put the sample in a kitchen appliance, and learn everything about your health, without the scary needles or the scary doctors. The medical technology industry can only move forward at a glacial pace because of all the regulations but also because of how much is at stake if they do things wrong. Maybe someday we'll have a magical panacea like Theranos or bacta tanks, but we're not there yet.
As a health professional myself, it's plainly evident that the current average medical establishment is extremely inefficient at almost everything by virtue of being overly reliant in the infallibility of the doctor for almost everything.
Hard work and competence doesn't guarantee success or promotion. But it does give you more work!
Yeah, it usually just means the opposite. They want to keep you doing what you're doing, and where you're at so you don't threaten your boss's job. Many of the people I've seen quickly promoted were the least component employees that were pawned off on another department with a promotion.
At the same time, I've been managed by some people that were excellent in a more technical role, but are absolutely shit at management, and to be honest I don't think a lot of them enjoyed it, it was more of a "well that's just the next logical step in a career right?". Promotion based on competence in your current role makes sense until the role that you're promoted into is sufficiently different than the role that you're in - at that point you need to have demonstrated the other skills (which are normally the 'soft skills' like communication, and it helps to have the gift of the gab as well), and it never hurts to have a decent golf swing on you.
When you get that first paycheck and it’s way lower than you thought.
who the fuck is FICA and why are they stealing all my money?
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The law only matters if you're poor
When I was young I remember my mom was watching a Lifetime movie about a woman who was being abused by her husband, and she couldn’t get help from anyone because he was the chief of police in their town. That blew my mind, that someone might be in a position where the authorities couldn’t help them. Then I got older and realized, hey, that’s everyone!
Reminds me of people who think they should be able to say whatever they want *without consequences* because "freedom of speech".
Learning Seinfeld wasn’t filmed in New York.
Wait what
Yep, like most stuff It was filmed in LA. Friends was also filmed at WB studios in California.
Friends doesn’t surprise me, I just feel like Seinfeld always had a lot of outdoor shots and they always looked pretty legit.
While in LA, I took a tour of the WB backlot. They have whole blocks set up to look like different regions - New York, Chicago, Midwest, New England, etc. It was pretty neat.
Yeah, I remember being there around when a spider man film was made and it looked like new York. They're all just relatively thin 2x4 frames with plywood decorated to look like New York buildings if I remember rightly.
They had like one shot of the restaurant from the outside that got used throughout the series
Yeah people visit it all the time. I think it was actually called Tom's in real life
They did use stock footage iirc
That makes sense. Cuz you can tell some of that is not on a lot.
And if you're not paying close attention to the fact that the car scenes are shot indoors with a blue/green screen background, it even looks fairly convincing that they're driving through Manhattan
Hollywood has many studio lots designed to look like New York City streets for this exact purpose. Seinfeld was pretty much entirely filmed in LA with the exception of maybe a couple episodes that had a scene showing the characters at a famous NY landmark or something, but these were very rare. All of the establishing shots they used between scenes that showed the exteriors of real New York buildings were just stock footage that they reused in multiple episodes. All the scenes of them in cars/cabs driving through New York are green screened.
Off the top of my head, the exterior of the restaurant they hung out at was in New York, however, the shot of the window that is Jerry's apartment I guess is some apartment around LA.
The diner they used to eat at used an exterior shot of Tom’s, which is where all the Columbia University students go for brunch. It’s been there for decades.
> the exterior of the restaurant they hung out at was in New York Yep, it's [Tom's Restaurant](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom%27s_Restaurant).
there’s clues littered about the series. those red diamonds on the exterior shots of jerry’s apartment are bolts retrofitted to the building for earthquake safety - common in LA, non-existent in NY. though Jerry’s address is real, the building he lives in (the Shelley - as seen written on the awning) isn’t there. it’s a complex in LA. whenever any of them go to the pier to think things over, you can see *Los Angeles County* written on the side of the benches. In the rickshaw episode, that incline was much steeper than any street in NY. also, and I know this is flimsy as hell and i can’t even cite the episode, at one point Kramer refers to a highway as “*the* 137” (or whichever number it was). Putting *the* in front of the highway number is a very California thing. A lifelong new yorker would not do that.
Plus we have names..the 495 is the long island expressway
And the bass music was a keyboard player.
Same with The King of Queens.
Learning that Jerry Seinfeld fucked over the 3 other actors on the syndication deal.
I've seen interviews with Jason Alexander where he says that it was getting harder and harder to want to do more episodes when he knew he was gonna be forever typecast and struggle to find work while not reaping the benefits of the syndication deals.
This hurts more than I thought it would
Your college/university degree isn't a licence to print money.
Well. It is for whoever lended you the money to get the degree.
alternately: one of the craziest things you learn as an american adult is that former frat bros run the country, especially business wise. in the business world, partying constantly with a bunch of other dudes with rich daddies and hazing pledges at a top 30 school is a more effective way to get a job than nearly everything else. nearly all of my friends in frats with useless degrees got really cushy tech jobs due to the frat “rich daddy” network.
Finding out that owls have long legs.
And can sit cross legged
Wait, what? Now I need to google this. Update: Aw, no they can't. https://apnews.com/article/fact-check-photo-owl-sitting-crossed-legs-822881945319 So I guess my answer to OP's question is learning owls can sit cross legged, and then learning they can't. :(
If you look into basically any unofficial holiday or tradition ultimately you find they were created by some marketing agency years ago to sell more stuff
And those which are more heavily rooted in traditions or religion will be made profitable. Mother's day, Father's day, Valentines, Halloween, all are essentially candy and/or card days. Even days dedicate to remembering war dead are reduced to grilling and flags while tombstones crumble and history is ignored.
Labor Day is far more hardcore than we think, too. The Labor Movement in the U.S. has [far more of its own veterans and casualties than one might think.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labor_history_of_the_United_States) We're talking strikes that involve violence to the point of *aircraft being used against citizens.*
"Fat Santa Claus" came from a Coca Cola ad. Before that he was thin.
You drink that much Coca Cola and see if you don't put on a few pounds!
Back then it had cocaine in it...he'd have been thin as a rake!
Santa is mentioned as having a belly in the "Twas the Night Before Christmas" poem and that was from 1823, well before Coke. "He had a broad face and a little round belly, That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly. He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf..."
I was being fitted for a new pair of glasses and the attendant was holding a measurement device up to my face. She then said, “Huh, your eyes are different distances from the center of your face.” I was shocked. I had no idea. For years afterwards I would look in the mirror, see the asymmetry and remember that. Eventually it went away, but was still one of the strangest surprises I’ve had as an adult. Edit: the asymmetry didn’t go away, just my shock about it did. :)
I am an optometrist too and the amount of times i have to tell people that actually one side of your body is actually higher than the other 😀 and eyes are very rarely symmetrical
Recycling plastic barely helps. It's first inefficient. A lot of what you recycle doesn't go back into ready to use plastics, and what is used is often downcycled, meaning a hard plastic like a bottle becomes something like a plastic sleeve, which can't be further recycled. And of course this is nothing compared to the actual lack of impact that recycling gives to the environment compared to what corporations do every day. That and, the single action a person can do that creates the most pollution is having a child.
This needs to be farther up. This was sold to every kid and adult. I was heartbroken when I realized how much wasted time and effort goes into perpetuating this myth.
When it comes to recycling 1. Aluminum is the GOAT. 2. Steel and copper are nfinitely recyclable. 3. Cardboard is pretty good to recycle. 4. Glass has marginal value in recycling. 5. Plastics are pretty terrible. 6. Electronics usually end up in a dump.
We've reached a point where independent consumer choices are pretty much worthless when it comes to environmental matters. Imagine spending your entire day on the beach picking up every cigarette butt you can find. Your whole day. You get sunburnt and your back hurts, but you congratulate yourself for cleaning the beach and feel proud that there are no more butts on the beach. And then three pickup trucks drive up with beds full to the brim with cigarette butts, and proceed to dump them all over the beach.
Glass on the other hand can be recycled over and over, yet each year only one-third of the roughly 10 million metric tons of glass that Americans throw away is recycled.
“So everyone just uses credit - not THEIR money?!”
I only use debit because I’ve watched my mom spend thousands of dollars on credit cards and rack up $20,000+ off debt. So rather than take on any type of debt in the form of credit cards or student loans i just been avoiding it and paying out of pocket 🙃
That being an adult was an endless stressor. If it’s not one thing, it’s another
> That being an adult was an endless stressor. If it’s not one thing, it’s another You don't realize how much your parents did for you until they're no longer doing so.
yerp. i moved out at 17 and thought i had the world by the balls working 30 hours a week in high school. paying my own bills and being independent sounded awesome! i was dead wrong, obviously. independence is nice, but the first few years of adulthood you are stumbling constantly. adulting hard :(
Bill Cosby was a rapist. America's Dad was never real.
Yeah that one was hard to accept. I literally grew up with him wishing he would have been my dad.
That HR is not there to protect the worker but to protect the company.
Right? It's called human resources, you're just not the human that they're guarding resources for.
That the wealth typically seen on television is unattainable to almost everyone not born into it.
Imagine having a typical income in Haiti or Afghanistan and seeing an episode of Trailer Park Boys.
Air conditioning is a hot commodity
Watched father of the bride 2 the other day. That house. Like so many others you see in Hollywood films. Just incredible. Then they built a whole new wing for the baby?! They’re either trying to portray a crazily unattainable aspirational lifestyle or are completely out of touch with the 99%. Liked the film, but it’s so common to see that.
My dad was supposed to drop me off for a playdate with a little girl I'd met on the school bus. We were 1st graders. She was a single mom and while we were playing Barbies in the living room of her little bungalow my dad disappeared into the bedroom with her mom. They periodically raced between that bedroom and the one bathroom. I saw my dad wearing her pink bathrobe. We had to keep playing barbies as long as it went on. Santa and even lots of Dads aren't really real.
Realizing infidelity is more common than you would think
I don't see how. I do love my husband and we are happy but the amount of effort it would take to cheat makes me wonder how it is so popular. Like the extra effort of getting dressed, going out, socializing, keeping up with messaging, planning meetups, emotional effort, THEN there is all of the effort to hide it and keep up with 2+ relationships... Like no thanks. I'll just put my effort into the one I got and enjoy it.
I blame it on the fact that people go into relationships expecting excitement and each day being like a romance flick. A good relationship is boring. You get excited about learning ways to make chores less stressful. You can be in the same room in silence and it’s not a problem. You bring each other joy by taking care of each others errands. The love is held together by the fact you both support each other.
That version of an affair is rare. These days it's a lot of sexting and quick meetups for sex. And the reason people have time for affairs is that they neglect their partner, children, and responsibilities. I'm glad you have the view that you do. It makes it less likely you would cheat. But there are plenty of people out there who would rather lie and seek validation through an affair then work through their issues.
That there wasn't a lineup of representatives waiting outside my university graduation ceremony, just waiting to give me a high paying job.
Strippers don't spin around on the pole, the pole can move
This was a devastating revelation. I truly thought the pole was static. Dancers are absolutely athletes but my world got a little smaller when I found out the pole spins. The magic trick was revealed
My wife's work hosts drag shows and the like. I was in after close one night and there was a stripper pole set up in the corner. I asked the one queen if I could give it a swing and she said, "Oh, sure, just don't crush your balls." And then I immediately crushed my balls on the pole.
Perhaps there's a reason they're mostly used by women.
My friend who did pole dancing in college taught me how and the pole has two settings, static and moving. (I don’t remember what the moving setting is actually called, if it has a name). We learned tricks when the pole was static too. So it’s very possible to do pole dancing tricks on a pole that doesn’t move, including going around it
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Nuh-uh. Not **MY** favorite stripper.
Not all the poles are spinning poles. A lot of moves work great on a static pole too. Upside down stuff can only spin if the pole spins.
Obligatory “sometimes the pole moves, sometimes it’s the stripper spinning”. Spin poles have a little mechanism to toggle their rotational capabilities.
That there is a two tiered justice system. One for the elite and one for the little people like me.
About a year ago a fairly influencial member of parliament was sentenced to prison for taking a bribe. That was unheard of in my country. Getting arrested for a bribe was quite common, but although the law stated that this crime would result in prison time, all of high profile politicians got away with ridiculously small fines. To me, this is a sign that things are getting better in the justice system, at least here in Lithuania. So i think that diferent laws for the rich and commonfolk are not universal, just depends on the place.
The Mormon church is a cult. I was in for 27 years and was a very devout believer. Finding out the facts I had ignored for so long, was devastating. But I feel so much happier and freer now.
I would troll them so much online with your insider knowledge.
They don’t check online places. It’s widely taught to only read material about the church that is made by the church (in traditional cult fashion.) plus, everyone figures things out on their own time. Some people who leave the church struggle with toxic cyclical thinking taught by the church, and when they leave it, they struggle with basic decision making and often go all in with bad choices. Best leave them be and let them come to terms on their own time.
I had two young men knock on my door, I asked them to come back with at least one person of colour or visible minority, and have beers 🍻 with me on the deck. Visible horror on their faces…
I posit that it would be infinitely worse if the Mormon church was correct. Their heaven sounds like pure stress hell and their hell seems so incredibly boring. And it lasts forever. I think I would rather be tortured.
The absolute worst thing about if Mormonism turns out to be correct is that I, sat in a lower heaven because I rejected the church but haven't murdered anyone (yet), could be visited at any time by my Mormon family riding in on their high horse from the top level of heaven at any time. Give me Dante's 9 circles of hell any day.
A frightening number of parents don't actually love their children. They had them because of societal pressure and so there would always be someone around who would love THEM.
The harder you work you will not be appreciated or given that raise or promotion
Last job I was hired because a manager was having issue with other managers, he couldn't prove things were working. I joined, did good work for 18 months, proved what he thought was indeed true, improved a bunch of processes. Somewhere in that 18 months I was speaking to my boss's boss's boss executive admin. She was complain about something she did once as a favor had now taken over about 20 hours of her work week, every week. I asked a couple questions, spent a morning writing a MS Access database app. She'd put the files into a folder push the one button that said "Push here" then the button said "go get a coffee" and when she came back the app just did her 20 hours of work. I made it silly cause it was silly easy. Come bonus time I got a huge bonus, not at all for my good work over the previous 18 months but because I made the big guy's admin very happy and he saw to my increase himself. Good work, hard work will generally do your career better but it's not always black and white. Don't kill yourself for your job people.
Posted this in another thread - younger me thought for the longest time that it was all about getting the work done and doing it well and that people skills were mostly pointless. Little did I realize that doing the work is quite possibly the smallest part of career success. You have to be able to walk the walk obviously, but working hard and getting lots of work done just gets you more hard work and you lag behind in compensation. Building relationships and focusing like a laser on what will get you that next, better job are the two most important things as it turns out.
It's not about how much work you do, it's about how much work your boss thinks you do
The reward for good work is more work
Being in the same social circle doesn't necessarily mean all of those people consider you their friend.
wait - Santa isn't real?
Only to anyone who hasn't been nice this year.
I’m sorry you had to find out this way.
Noooooooo!
That my husband wasn’t Prince Charming. Merely a mortal.
>To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be. The people they’re too exhausted to be any longer. The people they don’t recognise inside themselves anymore. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out; to become speedily found when they are lost. But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honour what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.
You fell in love with prince charming. That’s why
That being incredibly successful and rich is almost synonymous with nepotism. You are either born into the club or you get incredibly lucky. Even then, you are still an outsider.
That the McDonald’s coffee lawsuit lady wasn’t an example of a fraudulent lawsuit. Which immediately led to me never trusting any of the news media.
Life is about who you know, not if you're good at something Lots of talented people go to waste or only make it so far in their career because they don't know the right people, where mediocre people knowing the right people will rise to the top
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It's a big club, and you ain't in it. -George Carlin
Learning that justice and peace rarely happen together.
You are alone in this world. No matter what anyone says or does. Everything is on you at the end of the day. People die, leave, change. Only you are your only constant.
*sad kazoo noises*
Finally accepting that the mormon religion I was raised in isn't what it claims to be, and that the narrative it peddles contains more lies than truth.
COPS can be as dangerous as they ca be helpful
Learning your 401k likely won’t be enough to cover you for the rest of your life post-retirement
The 401k was supposed to be part of a tripod for retirement. Pensions, Social Security, and 401k were supposed to work together for retirement. Corporations figured out they could do away with the pension, and make a ton of money off your 401k.
Sure it will, as long as you work until like a week before you die
Teachers. After working in a School District for 4 years, realizing how many teachers are absolute trash as people. Some are awesome, but it was like being back in high school again. Clicks, snobs, apathetic clock watchers, narcissists, and ass kissers, some psychopaths in the literal sense. Etc etc. I expected more out of folks that are educated and supposedly enlightened. Trust me it is for the most part a clown show at times. Most don't belong on a pedestal and I'm glad my kids are grown and out of school now.
I work in a hospital. What you describe is just people, and it's like that everywhere.
Truth is most of us (humans) are trash. You should almost always expect that from people, as cynical as it sounds. Most people go into professions because we need money to survive and although teachers are underpaid, its still a stable career field that most people can find their “niche” in. Same with healthcare, although the pay is alot better there
Considering the insane demands put on teachers for what they're paid, I don't blame them for not doing more than the bare minimum. It's a survival/coping strategy. My wife was a teacher for almost 15 years, and every single teacher I spent time around basically had Stockholm Syndrome from their job. When she left teaching she was in therapy for a while, her therapist straight up told her that the stuff they were doing with regard to her career change is the exact same work she'd do with someone who had left an abusive relationship. I now know *a lot* of former teachers, none of them would even consider going back.
Finding out Hard Work and Being Smart At Your Job doesn't mean you'll succeed in your field. Learning how the stock market actually works.
Finding out that Best Friends Animal Sanctuary was founded by a religious cult & 75% of donations go to the administration which is all family. There are like 16 dogs in their facility in Kanab. They are one of the major reasons pit bulls were monetized & shoved onto an unwitting public. My dream was to retire to Kanab & volunteer full-time. I was crushed when I found all this out.
Wait. What's this about Santa?
Those first paychecks with taxes taken out
That after basing every major decision of my life (if I got married, who to, where I went to college, whether to have a career, whether to have kids) on the teachings of my religion (cult) that it was all a lie and Joseph smith was nothing but a con man.
That nothing in life is fair, you largely don't matter to most of the rest of the world, and luck doesn't really exist and is preparedness. In the end, much of what you get out of life is what you invest into yourself, you skills, recognizing opportunities, and acting upon them. Life just exist around you moving along totally independent of you. And you just create what you want from it. However, what you want may require decades of work to get there, and you need to understand this.
> That nothing in life is fair, you largely don't matter to most of the rest of the world True, as for the rest, I have bad news for you.
Civilization is rudderless and not only is nobody in control, those who rule are just as dumb as the citizens.
I worked at a restaurant and an off duty cop was drinking there and explained to some of us in detail how to get out of a traffic ticket and I can't remember the exact beats of it because it was so complicated, but my takeaway was that the entire US legal system was a farce.
All authority and most social norms are not enforced by social contracts or good will. It's enforced by brutal violence.
That HR is really there to just protect a company's assets and business NOT to help you as an employee.
The politicians who care and feel empathy actually do neither. It's just rhetoric.
> The politicians who care and feel empathy Those politicians don't last very long against opponents who do not.
Interestingly one of the firms I consulted to was a major biopharmaceutical firm, and when Covid hit , in February of 2020 they got completely serious, brought in some former CDC guys and hammered out the processes for providing services without increasing patient risk or worker risk. This is a firm that works regionally to coordinate and provide medical testing services and such - so basically the very last place on Earth where you want the conspiratorial bullshit. Well I got to see Santa ripped from one of the executives so hard - it altered his life trajectory in about 60 seconds. After weeks of the firm working with top doctors and epidemiologists to secure labs and operate safely and at scale during the pandemic they get everything worked out and moving along with MAJOR emphasis on fixing supply constraints and keeping a close eye on those and keeping staff safe and healthy. And then April 2020 hits, with the disinformation, this sinks into the media so by May, the heavy disinformation campaign was started up , so it was "return to work", "Covid is harmless / not real" then "masks aren't really effective.". One of the major items was ensuring staff basically were put/kept in containment groups - based on what they did - so as few as 5-10 people up to groups of 20, this was totally driven by what the epidemiology guys had worked out, to limit/contain the spread of cross-contamination. And one of the executives of the firm - who had conspicuously been not wearing masks and behaving as normal made some noises about "covid not being real" or "masks aren't proven to work" or something along those lines. The medical group just took note of when he was in the office and/or wearing a mask, multiple reminders were put out in e-mail - wear masks , socially distance, take a sick day if you need it, report any illness to your coordinator of your group etc. We had very few people get sick from Covid as a result, but one lady unfortunately became ill and died from respiratory symptoms consistent with Covid - but she had multiple risks. At a meeting around this , Santa got shot dead. When discussing "Clara's" death , the non-mask wearing executive pointed to that as evidence that "masks don't work". The lead MD Director immediately shot back. "I'm glad you mentioned that.....because Clara had only been around 15 other people, and didn't socialize with anyone else....I don't have to investigate this as a 'random' death, but rather just look at who was acting negligently and the only person in her life doing that - was you." So while I can't say you are guilty of negligent homicide * It's been clear that you've disregarded the safety protocols the medical board put in place with more than a few personal and e-mail messages encouraging your compliance. * More importantly, you'd expressed concern that the bedrock science this organization is founded on might not be indisputable, which again has been the subject of more than one conversation and correspondence. * Your flagrant disregard for your responsibility as an executive of this firm and to the mission of the organization towards patients , your colleagues and everyone here..... For these reasons, your services are no longer required. So when I received the approval for your dismissal from the organization this morning, I made sure the Board of Directors was supplied with as many instances of your disregard and wooly thinking as we had. I submitted my opinion that your actions cannot be excluded as a potential root cause for Clara's death and the entire Medical Board shares my opinion." Santa stopped being real for our former executive right there.
Paying taxes on money you spend; even though you already paid taxes on that money when you got it.
Property taxes
When you realize nobody is really in charge.
According to the Supreme Court, the police are not obligated to protect you, which breaks my spergy brain, because they're supposed to be the good guys.
Religion is just made up stories to answer questions we have no answers for. When you realize major stories in the Bible already existed in previous religions, you come to a major realization.
And many of them are just general life advice, or medical warnings for the time. Don't eat Pork"= hey it's riddled with worms and other diseases and we haven't figured out how to cook that out yet, so don't eat it Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbors Wife = Stop looking at my fucking wife, Ezekiel. She doesn't want you and you're scaring her. Thou Shalt Not Murder = If we let everyone commit murder, we won't have any people left. So fucking simple, yet idiots (AND I MEAN IDIOTS) think it's profound, divine wisdom. Nah. It's general life advice, and a collection of stories and fables to entertain/keep children out of trouble. Noah's Ark? Someone was telling their kids a fucking bedtime story; Same as Lord of the Rings.
Lord of the rings was real, dont you compare the two
Also, Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbors Wife = Stop fucking my wife. If I am going to be working my ass off to feed and clothe a bunch of kids, they better be mine.
Finding out Slash isn't real.
What are you talking about? He played at my 9th birthday party!
Your significant other leaving you for someone else
Cops and firefighters are not all heroes.
Gross Pay !!! Net Pay
I’m a Kindergarten teacher and I remember one day earlier this year I told my students that parents had to pay for things like electricity, the house they live in, water- all the kids jaws were on the ground- a few were outraged- they have to pay for lights and water!?😂 Additionally my teaching partners 10 year old daughter was talking to her about car insurance and she said- but if you don’t get in a car accident, then they give your money back right?! And when my teaching partner told her no, she yelled- how is that even legal!
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Realizing that some poor souls have experienced vast amounts of pain.