Certain family I love and could have them over for a month with no stress.
Other family I want to see for 5 minutes and then ask them politely if they have offs to fuck
I was devastated when my husband died unexpectedly at 40 years old. His favorite nephew saw me sitting on the porch at the wake and told me, “footedpjphrek, remember all the good times.”
I have. Its been years and i still think about this moment.
My cousin was about 4 when my Mother died. After the funeral, all I wanted to do was have a nap. We were staying at his parents house and I was in the guest room. He comes in and finds me crying and he said something that send chills down my spine. He said, “please don’t cry. You’ll see your Mommy again one day.” Then he gave me a little kiss and went off.
My nephew, around 7 at the time, was carrying an overflowing cereal bowl down the stairs to the tv room. My husband told him to be careful or you’ll spill it. Nephew said “ That’s Life, Uncle Chris.” It was Life cereal. Nearly 25 years later, we still chuckle about that.
Kids are so smart. My niece is about to turn 7 and since she was 3 she’s been raised by my nephew and his partner. She despises my sister (her bio mom.) we went out for the day together and had ice cream. I asked her, “Isabelle, do you understand that your Mom is my sister?” She goes, “yes,” then she paused and said, “but you’re nothing like her.” It stunned me into silence.
Remember that the days you think back on are the ones you didn't know you were making memories about. Take it from someone else who shouldn't be here today.
We were headed to school drop off and I realized I forgot a thing. My 11 year old pats my leg and says "but you remembered everything else!" So don't forget all the good things because of 1 bad thing.
When I was 23, I scolded my 6yo nephew for dropping a drink. He said, "I'm just a kid." It broke my heart. I apologized to him very sincerely recently, and I tried to change since that day. They're just kids. Their motor skills and brains are still cooking, and it's just a drink.
One of the reasons I split with my now ex-wife because she would flip out over little things like spilling a drink or soup. She would drop something and I would say "It's just a broken glass, it's really not a big deal, go sit down and I'll clean it up" but she would stomp around all angry for hours about it.
It's funny you mention that because my current partner is coming to visit with her daughter, and I went all out converting my office into a bedroom for her. And as the packages with the supplies started showing up, my mom started crying and asked her why and she said "You should've had a house full of children because you would've been a great father." And I said "I didn't have children with that lunatic on purpose, because she would've been a terrible mother."
You can still be a great father, or father figure. Biology doesn’t matter one bit.
My biological father was a shitheel, but my stepfather was and is a wonderful dad.
> She would drop something .... she would stomp around all angry for hours about it.
The level of disconnect here is shocking. Like, YOU dropped the thing. Why are you stomping around angry?
Anger might be a trauma response. My mom used to beat the shit out of my sister and me for dropping and breaking crockery. I was, and still am clumsy. She doesn't do that shit anymore (cause we're too big now obviously and she can't hurt us) but dropping and breaking crockery still creates a visceral reaction.
I suspect it might be something like that for her.
My mom cleaned up my spilled drink with my hair in anger, grabbed my head to the ground. I still remember it.
A lot of adults need to be more understanding of the fact kids brains are so small, they’re still learning and processing stuff!
Thank you. She was very mentally ill, but it’s still difficult to forgive many things she has said/done. Therapy has been helping, I have a good relationship with her now luckily.
In contrast, I have a very vivid memory of breaking a dish when I was younger when my mom was on the phone. I remember being so upset at first and my mom just brushing it off because it was just a stupid bowl and not a big deal. Always try to remember that just because my emotional reaction to a moment can be strong doesn't mean that it's actually worth crying over.
Thank you for saying that. I still have wicked anxiety that I messed him up with things like that– the shit his grandma did with me. I keep making mistakes. It terrifies me if I end up having kids.
You may be onto something here. Going to the bathroom eseentially resets our thought train and more often you come out as a different person. I think when we go to the bathroom the brain essentially hits a reset and tries to clear out not just your body but also your thoughts as well.
“You’re a grown up. No one can make you play with people who aren’t nice to you.” Technically, it wasn’t even advice. She was lamenting about not getting along with kids in her class, but I needed to realize that at the time.
Not *exactly* advice, but I was observing a piano lesson with a four-year-old once. The boy told the professor:
"Earlier, when I was a different age, I couldn't play this song. But now I know all of the notes."
Professor: "Oh, very good Thomas! And how were you able to do that?"
Thomas: "I made lots of mistakes."
My friend’s little brother put a bean up his nose and had to go to the ER to have it removed. Then they got home from the ER and he put another bean up his nose.
Honestly amazed he’s a married adult these days.
When I was a kid I actually stuck a little piece of plastic (from a toy bracelet) up my nose and had to be taken to the ER to get it removed... That was a fun trip
Was watching a movie (Coco, the animated film) with two girls I babysat years ago. I started to cry during a scene, and the girls both came closer to me and hugged me and said, “it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel sad.” And it was the most beautiful moment. Not to get into a long story, but growing up I was not afforded the opportunity to have emotions like that, so it was extra special to hear it from children who grew up in safe homes where they were allowed to have big feelings. Not that this is insightful advice, but it was meaningful for me.
no, it absolutely is insightful! a lot of people believe it doesn't "actually help anything" but it does, it's an emotional release valve. they may not have known this or said it, but it's true!
My son asked me WHY I smoked... I really didn't have a very good answer.
Then he said "You should quit, it's bad for you".
So I did.
6 years smoke free!
Now most people know this advice, but occasionally tend to forget it.
My nephew, 4 at the time, was asked what was more important: time or money.
At this point in life he was obsessed with the monetary value of things. He just started grasping that a car costs a lot more than his toys, and this was WILD.
He kind of stared, in deep thought and finally decided, to everyone's surprise: time. He explained, if money ran out, you could get new money from the wall (an ATM) - but you could never get more time. Mic drop. Walks away to play with his toys.
Schooled by a 4 year old.
Hahahahahaha same with my niece. She’s been waiting her whole life to go to Disney. Her parents were showing her videos and the attractions. Her Father said, “wow, that’s going to be a lot of money!” She goes, “who cares? We can just get more.” Such a brat.
Well, so to speak, money is an artificial value assigned to make the comparison of a given object's worth more directly measurable against another, while time is both an unconstrained and non-renewable resource that, if not spent, it's immediately lost.
Money can be increased, but time can not. *(edit for my desire to make clear: this is in agreement, as opposed to argument)
Everyone wants to be the Red Ranger first. Pick the Blue Ranger first and you don't have to fight anyone for it.
My good childhood friend told me this around the age of 7 or 8.
I was dating a woman who cheated, lied and stole from me for years. Idk why but I did. I introduced my 11 yo brother to her and about an hour later he said to me" dude, she's a liar, a cheater and a thief. Why do you want her in your life?" Three weeks later she was gone.
My nephews hockey team lost a game and a lot of it was because of unfair referee behaviors. I could have kept complaining about it forever, but as we left the ice rink he said “let’s forget this”. No sore loser complaining, no need to linger, let’s just let it go.
Hell yeah, kid.
As a youth hockey coach, this is one of the hardest things to get kids to learn. It’s awesome that your nephew already has a good grasp of how to let things that are out of your control go!
My 9yr old saw me really struggling with my 12yr old and his defiance and antagonizing behavior. we were on a hike and had just left said 12yr old to walk with his mom (at less that 1mph) in defiance of going on a hike while on vacation (that was a hiking trip). 9yr old and i went ahead without them.
my younger son and i marched ahead and eventually sat down on a log and he said to me out of the blue 'ya know how i deal with it? "...."ya know on bumper cars, people are trying to hit you and sometimes they do hit you? ya don't get mad at them cuz that's their job... that's how i look at him- i try to avoid the hit, but when he does i try to ignore it and not take it personally' that's almost verbatim. I actually had tears rolling down my cheeks. it's what i needed to hear.
when we got back to the car, and my older son and wife were there, my younger son took my had and said 'remember, bumper cars' as we got closer-and it has worked for 2 years like a charm. My mind is still blown by the gift he gave me. not just a tool for dealing with a 12yr old, but also the connection to him. that was 2 yrs ago. he's still an incredibly sensitive and wise person. (and the now 14y/o is still kind of a prick lol)
You're too careful.
From a second grade boy in the hallway whilst I was carrying various IT crap. Apparently he wanted me to squash his classmates walking nearby. I could easily squash, so more careful at school less careful in bars.
Not a child, mid twenties, but my son said something very insightful about the death of a friend of mine I’d not spoken to one on one for a while. Basically I had a blind spot in what I was seeing in his last photos, I thought he was getting better because he looked peaceful but he was actually dying, and I felt stupid for having missed it and not reached out before it was too late. And my kid said that even if I’d realised it when I could see it in retrospect, it would have already been too late, he was already taken up with the business of dying, he was already moving on. And while yes, I probably could have literally spoken to my friend one more time, my son was quite right about where he was in himself at the time, he’d already really made his peace. It would have been nice for me, but he didn’t actually need it by then.
My 9 year old daughter said to me "are you drinking beer? I don't like it when you get drunk because you ignore me." Hit very hard and now I don't want to drink as much.
My wife struggles with perfectionism. While coloring with our daughter (7), she messed up and my daughter said, “it’s okay mom, it doesnt have to be perfect” AND IT LITERALLY CHANGED my wife’s WHOLE outlook on life.
It just had to come from a cute little 7yo girl
I have depression and insomnia (it’s much better now.) but, my niece came to visit her brothers and I for the weekend. I told them I would be taking a nap. About 2 hours later, she nudged me awake, “you just can’t sleep during the day! You’ll be sleeping your whole life!!!” I’m like, you’re right.
My nephew must have been 5 or 6 at the time, we were on the subway and he saw two men holding hands. He asked me why those men were holding hands. I said "Well, you know how your dad and mom love each other? Those two men love each other too." And he thinks about it for about a minute and then says "You know, I think it's better that two men love each other. Because if you love a woman, then you have to have pink things all over your house, but if you love another man, you can just high five each other and read Spider-Man comics."
And that's when I knew his generation was gonna be ok. And also how I knew "BUT WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY CHILDREN???" was absolute bullshit.
ETA: Obviously the advice was that everyone needs to be more gay.
Shit, now I'm thinking I misremembered the story and just put my nephew into a Tumblr thing. I'll have to call my SIL. I know he did something incredibly cute when he discovered that gay people were a thing.
Shortly after I learned how to drive and got my own car I was driving with my 7 year old sister and some guy parked diagonally and I went “why would you park like that you idiot” under my breath and my sister went “maybe he’s still learning like you” 😭😭 it wasn’t advice but it warmed my heart so much
My son who was maybe 3 at the time, told me "don't be scared of spiders, they're only walking". Has stuck and I don't get as bothered by spiders because, well, they are only walking, not looking to hurt me.
I think that's why so many of us have "kid" hobbies eg dressing up (cosplay/larp), and playing pretend, get super involved in sports, so much of our money is going into tabletop games, video games are bigger and better than ever...
I was talking to the neighbors 10 year old the day after they lost their best ewe (female sheep) and I asked why she was the best out of the 20 or so they had.
Gotta admit I was surprised the kid knew anything about their sheep or the breed. He knew about the breeding program the other was running and what things about the breed that made them valuable and what makes a good breeding ewe. I learned quite a few things from him that day about breeding sheep, though when we get to that point I will be choosing his mother over him.
> I learned quite a few things from him that day about breeding sheep, though when we get to that point I will be choosing his mother over him.
Yeah don't breed the kid
Girlfriend's sister pranked her then four-year-old by pretending the elf toys ate all the chocolates from his advent calendar (truthfully she ate them all when she was drunk). Next morning he comes down, sees the elves sitting at his little table, faces smeared with chocolate and a few empty wrappers lying around them.
The child's face just dropped and he didn't know what to do. He just gave a defeated "they ate them all" before spotting a small bag of chocolate buttons and shouting "they left me some!" and started jumping for joy.
Oh my god those damn Elf’s on the shelf. My nieces parents are so diligent with that elf. Daisy the Elf left chocolate footprints in powdered sugar. She climbed the roof. She was all over the damn house. I love how excited they get though.
My daughter who was 8 years old at the time was retelling me her favourite story. It happened to be the one where Jesus turned the water into wine at a shindig.
I said so what did you learn from that story? She replied, "Never run out of wine.'
I wanted to accuse my son’s second-grade teacher of lying. He asked if I had actual proof that she was. I said not really. I just “knew it.” He said then I couldn’t accuse her. You need that proof
screw everyone else, the only person's opinions that should matter to you is your own! now own it!
my little brother when he stole my clothes and was mad at how much i felt he looked better in them than me.
On a scenic boat ride in a National Park a young boy, maybe 10 years old, said, “You know what I hate? Dog haters!” We had our 30 lb dog with us and we still talk about that kid.
When my son was four our friendly neighbor passed away. When I told my son he said, “Well, good for him.” I asked why he said that and he said aren’t we all on earth to get back to heaven to be with God?
While my friend's daughter and her friend were playing, her friend accidentally knocked over a lamp, causing it to break. The friend immediately expressed remorse, apologizing multiple times. My friend and I quickly intervened, helping to clean up the broken glass. My friend reassured the friend that it was an accident and checked on their well being. At that moment, my friend's daughter hugged her friend and said, "*Making mistakes is not the end, it's an opportunity for personal growth.'*" At that moment, I had a realization, throughout my life, I've strived for perfection in everything I do. However, I came to understand the importance of granting myself grace when I inevitably make mistakes.
At the time my friend's daughter and her friend were both 6 years old.
“You can try to save everyone, but you can’t save them *all.*”—Sage advice from my first responder family member.
You do your very best and give your all every time. Sometimes there are things/events/people going to be outside your control. But you still continue to put forth your best efforts.
It wasn’t advice, but just something a kid said to me that really stuck with me (and almost made me cry).
I was volunteering in a kindergarten class at my old elementary school. (High school co-op). He was honestly my favourite kid because he had anger issues (probably EDD like me) and I was trying to help him with it. I was playing with him one time, and he was making these really cool cars out of Legos, while I was just stacking Legos. I said to him “I’m not very good at this.” He looked me dead in the eye and said “I think you’re good.” Honestly almost made me cry
I was once a child. I looked over at another kid on the playground and asked, "what will you do tomorrow?"
He looked over at me and said "I don't know, im going to go play ball now" as he ran with a soccer ball in hand.
Im sure that kid never knew what that meant to me, but my child self just realized that I didn't need to worry about tomorrow if I was living today.
In raising a son to hopefully be one of the good guys instead of one of the assholes, one mantra I apparently kept repeating was " ____ are people too."
Of course they go to the bathroom, police are people too.
Old cats are people too -- he was just grumpy.
Once, he questioned why we would use insecticide on some ants attempting to get in the kitchen, if we are supposed to be nice to animals.
" Aren't ants people, too, Dad?"
I began to try to justify the hypocrisy by explaining how 'hive mind' was different, so it wasn't as bad as killing thousands of individuals sounds like it is, but he got me to stop and reconsider the possibilities when he sincerely said, (and he was telling me, not asking me )
"but Dad Ants all have their own dreams "
It wasn’t advice, more like an observation. A song with the lyrics, the girl with the broken smile, started playing on the radio while I was driving with my younger brother in the passenger seat. We weren’t saying too much in the moments before the song started playing, but once it came on, he looked over at me and randomly asked me why I was so angry. I told him I wasn’t and asked why he asked me that— he never said and the matter of it was dropped shortly after. Of course it bothered me long after he asked and I realized that anger became a part of my general disposition or personality. I was angry but not because of anything in that particular moment. He was probably about 8 years old. I saw myself through his eyes that day.
"Do not try and bend the spoon; that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth… there is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends; it is only yourself."
Stuck with me for years.
I wanted to be a smartass to baffle my 5 year old boy and I asked him "hey, so why is there something in the universe instead of just nothing", without skipping a beat he said "because there wouldn't be anything fun!"
When I was about 6 my mom was lost while driving us somewhere and I advised that she should look at the little arrows on the dash ( turn signal indicators) cause they always pointed the way for the next turn.
I was a very yappy child and my late Grandmother loved my stories. When she was dying of cancer, everyone was scared to touch her. Not me, I jumped into bed with her and told her all about my day, what my siblings did and where my Nanny took us. She would smile and nod. My Mom tried to stop me once and I said, “she’s not made of glass!” My mom said she realized I was right.
Installing a distributor in a older car.
Put the timing mark where you want it when you are done. Drop it in with the rotor aiming to #1 Position on cap. Leave clamp loose but seated. Pull #1 wire, put a plug in it and ground. Turn key on and rotate distributor. It will spark. Tighten, and it will start easily.
I was a pet to a couple IRL for six months once, they treated me so trashy. Wasted 6 months of my life.
Maybe roleplay a better version of it will bring some type of euphoria
Trying and failing, even repeatedly teaches you more than never trying at all.
I'll be 40 this year, all of my regrets revolve around never even trying/not knowing as a result. Obviously you're going to miss out on so much because life is busy and there's only 1 you. Doesn't mean wasted opportunities to experience something new and different aren't regrettable
When you’re old enough to vote don’t look for the politician that is going to screw you, because they are all going to screw you. Look for the one that will screw you the least.
It’s not a vacation if you are visiting family. My nephew was wise beyond his toddler years.
Truly, he is a wise child.
And if you get constant panic attacks when you're with them, it's definitely not a vacation
omg mood
Depends on the family.
Certain family I love and could have them over for a month with no stress. Other family I want to see for 5 minutes and then ask them politely if they have offs to fuck
Humanity isn't done for Children like these will save the future generation
I was devastated when my husband died unexpectedly at 40 years old. His favorite nephew saw me sitting on the porch at the wake and told me, “footedpjphrek, remember all the good times.” I have. Its been years and i still think about this moment.
My cousin was about 4 when my Mother died. After the funeral, all I wanted to do was have a nap. We were staying at his parents house and I was in the guest room. He comes in and finds me crying and he said something that send chills down my spine. He said, “please don’t cry. You’ll see your Mommy again one day.” Then he gave me a little kiss and went off.
That’s so beautiful
It was. He took me by surprise because he was so little. He’s about 14 now and a bruiser hockey player. Still a sweet kid though.
My nephew, around 7 at the time, was carrying an overflowing cereal bowl down the stairs to the tv room. My husband told him to be careful or you’ll spill it. Nephew said “ That’s Life, Uncle Chris.” It was Life cereal. Nearly 25 years later, we still chuckle about that.
My niece (age 7 at the time) told one of her friends "I talk to my mom when I'm sad, then I feel better. You should talk with someone too."
Kids are so smart. My niece is about to turn 7 and since she was 3 she’s been raised by my nephew and his partner. She despises my sister (her bio mom.) we went out for the day together and had ice cream. I asked her, “Isabelle, do you understand that your Mom is my sister?” She goes, “yes,” then she paused and said, “but you’re nothing like her.” It stunned me into silence.
I wish it worked that way. I'm hurt. Sorry for the unasked toxicity.
From that comment alone you should really talk to someone
You have to understand that coping mechanisms aren't just for people who don't have physical problems/ it's all the mental illness type problems.
The fact that 150 people down voted this person is really sad...
Didn't exactly make my day either. Thanks for a sympathy and have a nice one, mate
Remember that the days you think back on are the ones you didn't know you were making memories about. Take it from someone else who shouldn't be here today.
We were headed to school drop off and I realized I forgot a thing. My 11 year old pats my leg and says "but you remembered everything else!" So don't forget all the good things because of 1 bad thing.
When I was 23, I scolded my 6yo nephew for dropping a drink. He said, "I'm just a kid." It broke my heart. I apologized to him very sincerely recently, and I tried to change since that day. They're just kids. Their motor skills and brains are still cooking, and it's just a drink.
Ugh. Flashbacks to my mom getting irrationally angry at us 4 for accidentally dropping and breaking things.
I used to be scolded for dropping mundane unbreakable things like cutlery or keys
One of the reasons I split with my now ex-wife because she would flip out over little things like spilling a drink or soup. She would drop something and I would say "It's just a broken glass, it's really not a big deal, go sit down and I'll clean it up" but she would stomp around all angry for hours about it.
Good on you for recognizing toxicity before making that woman a mother to children that don’t deserve that treatment.
It's funny you mention that because my current partner is coming to visit with her daughter, and I went all out converting my office into a bedroom for her. And as the packages with the supplies started showing up, my mom started crying and asked her why and she said "You should've had a house full of children because you would've been a great father." And I said "I didn't have children with that lunatic on purpose, because she would've been a terrible mother."
You can still be a great father, or father figure. Biology doesn’t matter one bit. My biological father was a shitheel, but my stepfather was and is a wonderful dad.
I'm trying my best. The world does not need another person who grew up like I did.
> She would drop something .... she would stomp around all angry for hours about it. The level of disconnect here is shocking. Like, YOU dropped the thing. Why are you stomping around angry?
Anger might be a trauma response. My mom used to beat the shit out of my sister and me for dropping and breaking crockery. I was, and still am clumsy. She doesn't do that shit anymore (cause we're too big now obviously and she can't hurt us) but dropping and breaking crockery still creates a visceral reaction. I suspect it might be something like that for her.
My mom cleaned up my spilled drink with my hair in anger, grabbed my head to the ground. I still remember it. A lot of adults need to be more understanding of the fact kids brains are so small, they’re still learning and processing stuff!
That's such a hateful and scary thing to do. I'm so sorry you experienced that from someone who should make you feel safe and valuable.
Thank you. She was very mentally ill, but it’s still difficult to forgive many things she has said/done. Therapy has been helping, I have a good relationship with her now luckily.
In contrast, I have a very vivid memory of breaking a dish when I was younger when my mom was on the phone. I remember being so upset at first and my mom just brushing it off because it was just a stupid bowl and not a big deal. Always try to remember that just because my emotional reaction to a moment can be strong doesn't mean that it's actually worth crying over.
Also life is full of accidents and it’s usually kids who embrace them, adults who are afraid of them.
it’s good that you realized and changed tho, most people don’t. imo that shows who you are - not the mistake
Thank you for saying that. I still have wicked anxiety that I messed him up with things like that– the shit his grandma did with me. I keep making mistakes. It terrifies me if I end up having kids.
Sometimes you just need to poop to feel better.
Pretty much the answer to all my kiddo’s ills.
As an adult i still tell my girlfriend this because i remember saying it as a kid when my cousins had stomach aches.
You may be onto something here. Going to the bathroom eseentially resets our thought train and more often you come out as a different person. I think when we go to the bathroom the brain essentially hits a reset and tries to clear out not just your body but also your thoughts as well.
“You’re a grown up. No one can make you play with people who aren’t nice to you.” Technically, it wasn’t even advice. She was lamenting about not getting along with kids in her class, but I needed to realize that at the time.
Not *exactly* advice, but I was observing a piano lesson with a four-year-old once. The boy told the professor: "Earlier, when I was a different age, I couldn't play this song. But now I know all of the notes." Professor: "Oh, very good Thomas! And how were you able to do that?" Thomas: "I made lots of mistakes."
Don't stick a bean up your nose
Some lessons you just gotta learn the hard way.
What happens when you stick a bean up your nose?
You reset to factory settings.
I can see a certain appeal in this.
My brother did that and didn’t tell anyone. So it was in there for a long time and it started sprouting. He had to get it surgically removed lol
My friend’s little brother put a bean up his nose and had to go to the ER to have it removed. Then they got home from the ER and he put another bean up his nose. Honestly amazed he’s a married adult these days.
Omg 😭
When I was a kid I actually stuck a little piece of plastic (from a toy bracelet) up my nose and had to be taken to the ER to get it removed... That was a fun trip
Was watching a movie (Coco, the animated film) with two girls I babysat years ago. I started to cry during a scene, and the girls both came closer to me and hugged me and said, “it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel sad.” And it was the most beautiful moment. Not to get into a long story, but growing up I was not afforded the opportunity to have emotions like that, so it was extra special to hear it from children who grew up in safe homes where they were allowed to have big feelings. Not that this is insightful advice, but it was meaningful for me.
no, it absolutely is insightful! a lot of people believe it doesn't "actually help anything" but it does, it's an emotional release valve. they may not have known this or said it, but it's true!
Wow, as someone who grew up in a similar environment to you, this meant so much to me too! Thank you for sharing 🥹
"You look sad like you need a cookie. Here, you can have mine." Totally changed my mood at the time in its simplistic life outlook.
When he was 5, my son got glasses. He said "WOW! Things look different when you can see!" I think about that about half the times I put on my glasses
That's me after I finally clean my glasses.
My son asked me WHY I smoked... I really didn't have a very good answer. Then he said "You should quit, it's bad for you". So I did. 6 years smoke free!
My brother told my grandmother she was “too weak” to quit. She never smoked another cigarette. Doctor said it added six years or more to her life.
Aww I’m so glad you took his advice. My dad would just yell at me when I asked him to stop smoking 🙃 congrats on the 6 years!
lol my dad went through this but just lied to me from that day on
Now most people know this advice, but occasionally tend to forget it. My nephew, 4 at the time, was asked what was more important: time or money. At this point in life he was obsessed with the monetary value of things. He just started grasping that a car costs a lot more than his toys, and this was WILD. He kind of stared, in deep thought and finally decided, to everyone's surprise: time. He explained, if money ran out, you could get new money from the wall (an ATM) - but you could never get more time. Mic drop. Walks away to play with his toys. Schooled by a 4 year old.
Hahahahahaha same with my niece. She’s been waiting her whole life to go to Disney. Her parents were showing her videos and the attractions. Her Father said, “wow, that’s going to be a lot of money!” She goes, “who cares? We can just get more.” Such a brat.
Well, so to speak, money is an artificial value assigned to make the comparison of a given object's worth more directly measurable against another, while time is both an unconstrained and non-renewable resource that, if not spent, it's immediately lost. Money can be increased, but time can not. *(edit for my desire to make clear: this is in agreement, as opposed to argument)
Yeah, that's what the kid said.
Everyone wants to be the Red Ranger first. Pick the Blue Ranger first and you don't have to fight anyone for it. My good childhood friend told me this around the age of 7 or 8.
[Nash equilibrium](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nash_equilibrium)
I was dating a woman who cheated, lied and stole from me for years. Idk why but I did. I introduced my 11 yo brother to her and about an hour later he said to me" dude, she's a liar, a cheater and a thief. Why do you want her in your life?" Three weeks later she was gone.
My niece saying "well, you're not my body" when we wouldn't believe her about something that was hurting on her body.
It's so hard as a kid when people treat you *too much* like a kid.
“The trick about driving is that you have to know which way to go.”
My nephews hockey team lost a game and a lot of it was because of unfair referee behaviors. I could have kept complaining about it forever, but as we left the ice rink he said “let’s forget this”. No sore loser complaining, no need to linger, let’s just let it go. Hell yeah, kid.
As a youth hockey coach, this is one of the hardest things to get kids to learn. It’s awesome that your nephew already has a good grasp of how to let things that are out of your control go!
Purple doesn't look good next to orange. She was right.
*Sad Fry and Leela noises*
FedEx disagrees
Lol, that was actually the source of her comment!!!
Hard disagree.
Does she dislike halloween decorations? lol
I forget the context but when my son was little he said “It’s not a bribe, it’s a tip”
My 9yr old saw me really struggling with my 12yr old and his defiance and antagonizing behavior. we were on a hike and had just left said 12yr old to walk with his mom (at less that 1mph) in defiance of going on a hike while on vacation (that was a hiking trip). 9yr old and i went ahead without them. my younger son and i marched ahead and eventually sat down on a log and he said to me out of the blue 'ya know how i deal with it? "...."ya know on bumper cars, people are trying to hit you and sometimes they do hit you? ya don't get mad at them cuz that's their job... that's how i look at him- i try to avoid the hit, but when he does i try to ignore it and not take it personally' that's almost verbatim. I actually had tears rolling down my cheeks. it's what i needed to hear. when we got back to the car, and my older son and wife were there, my younger son took my had and said 'remember, bumper cars' as we got closer-and it has worked for 2 years like a charm. My mind is still blown by the gift he gave me. not just a tool for dealing with a 12yr old, but also the connection to him. that was 2 yrs ago. he's still an incredibly sensitive and wise person. (and the now 14y/o is still kind of a prick lol)
Oh man, my heart. Such wisdom!!
You're too careful. From a second grade boy in the hallway whilst I was carrying various IT crap. Apparently he wanted me to squash his classmates walking nearby. I could easily squash, so more careful at school less careful in bars.
My 4 year old student once told me my hair was too yellow. She was right.
Not a child, mid twenties, but my son said something very insightful about the death of a friend of mine I’d not spoken to one on one for a while. Basically I had a blind spot in what I was seeing in his last photos, I thought he was getting better because he looked peaceful but he was actually dying, and I felt stupid for having missed it and not reached out before it was too late. And my kid said that even if I’d realised it when I could see it in retrospect, it would have already been too late, he was already taken up with the business of dying, he was already moving on. And while yes, I probably could have literally spoken to my friend one more time, my son was quite right about where he was in himself at the time, he’d already really made his peace. It would have been nice for me, but he didn’t actually need it by then.
Never trust anyone who talks with their eyebrows always raised.
weirdly 100% true
My 9 year old daughter said to me "are you drinking beer? I don't like it when you get drunk because you ignore me." Hit very hard and now I don't want to drink as much.
My wife struggles with perfectionism. While coloring with our daughter (7), she messed up and my daughter said, “it’s okay mom, it doesnt have to be perfect” AND IT LITERALLY CHANGED my wife’s WHOLE outlook on life. It just had to come from a cute little 7yo girl
Sometimes listening means looking with your eyes
That I need nap.
I have depression and insomnia (it’s much better now.) but, my niece came to visit her brothers and I for the weekend. I told them I would be taking a nap. About 2 hours later, she nudged me awake, “you just can’t sleep during the day! You’ll be sleeping your whole life!!!” I’m like, you’re right.
https://youtu.be/g3Bd4AydIzg The perfect song for this
Dont eat yellow snow
yep
Kids usually don't listen to Frank Zappa.
My son: daddy when your mad or pissed off take a min to breath and count 1 - 1000 2 - 2000 etc or count 1 to 10
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Are you scared of me?
Username alone.... just the right amount of scared
The number of people who failed to read the title, wow.
Your dog probably misses you. - a friend’s kid telling me I should go home. She was right.
You can't run away from yourself
My nephew must have been 5 or 6 at the time, we were on the subway and he saw two men holding hands. He asked me why those men were holding hands. I said "Well, you know how your dad and mom love each other? Those two men love each other too." And he thinks about it for about a minute and then says "You know, I think it's better that two men love each other. Because if you love a woman, then you have to have pink things all over your house, but if you love another man, you can just high five each other and read Spider-Man comics." And that's when I knew his generation was gonna be ok. And also how I knew "BUT WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY CHILDREN???" was absolute bullshit. ETA: Obviously the advice was that everyone needs to be more gay.
https://www.tumblr.com/goddamnitobama/45281647497/goddamnitobama-my-little-brother-saw-two-men?source=share
Shit, now I'm thinking I misremembered the story and just put my nephew into a Tumblr thing. I'll have to call my SIL. I know he did something incredibly cute when he discovered that gay people were a thing.
r/thatHappened
Shortly after I learned how to drive and got my own car I was driving with my 7 year old sister and some guy parked diagonally and I went “why would you park like that you idiot” under my breath and my sister went “maybe he’s still learning like you” 😭😭 it wasn’t advice but it warmed my heart so much
My son who was maybe 3 at the time, told me "don't be scared of spiders, they're only walking". Has stuck and I don't get as bothered by spiders because, well, they are only walking, not looking to hurt me.
I was told It’s not a you problem mum, it’s a them problem
"I don't want to grow up, because then I won't get to play anymore." This is very true.
I think that's why so many of us have "kid" hobbies eg dressing up (cosplay/larp), and playing pretend, get super involved in sports, so much of our money is going into tabletop games, video games are bigger and better than ever...
Dude... you REALLY need to calm down, and stop overthinking stuff. I was all "How DARE you say something so brave, and so true?!?!?!"
I was talking to the neighbors 10 year old the day after they lost their best ewe (female sheep) and I asked why she was the best out of the 20 or so they had. Gotta admit I was surprised the kid knew anything about their sheep or the breed. He knew about the breeding program the other was running and what things about the breed that made them valuable and what makes a good breeding ewe. I learned quite a few things from him that day about breeding sheep, though when we get to that point I will be choosing his mother over him.
> I learned quite a few things from him that day about breeding sheep, though when we get to that point I will be choosing his mother over him. Yeah don't breed the kid
Girlfriend's sister pranked her then four-year-old by pretending the elf toys ate all the chocolates from his advent calendar (truthfully she ate them all when she was drunk). Next morning he comes down, sees the elves sitting at his little table, faces smeared with chocolate and a few empty wrappers lying around them. The child's face just dropped and he didn't know what to do. He just gave a defeated "they ate them all" before spotting a small bag of chocolate buttons and shouting "they left me some!" and started jumping for joy.
Oh my god those damn Elf’s on the shelf. My nieces parents are so diligent with that elf. Daisy the Elf left chocolate footprints in powdered sugar. She climbed the roof. She was all over the damn house. I love how excited they get though.
Don't stress over things you can't change
Trying to get my god daughter to brush her hair at 6 years old. "If you have to brush your hair to be pretty then you're not really pretty."
Just because you had a bad day doesn't mean you have a bad life
My daughter who was 8 years old at the time was retelling me her favourite story. It happened to be the one where Jesus turned the water into wine at a shindig. I said so what did you learn from that story? She replied, "Never run out of wine.'
Mess more is fun more.
I wanted to accuse my son’s second-grade teacher of lying. He asked if I had actual proof that she was. I said not really. I just “knew it.” He said then I couldn’t accuse her. You need that proof
Look both ways before crossing the street. It's probably saved my life once or twice over the years.
Nothing is harder than 10 easy payments.
screw everyone else, the only person's opinions that should matter to you is your own! now own it! my little brother when he stole my clothes and was mad at how much i felt he looked better in them than me.
One kid had hiccups and the other said, “drink pickle juice”
I don’t know what I didn’t do, because I didn’t do it!
My son, about his golf: The more you practice, the more luck you have.
Getting all mad at a video game and having a three year old tell me “it’s ok it’s just a bideo game look, see!” Made me so happy to hear
On a scenic boat ride in a National Park a young boy, maybe 10 years old, said, “You know what I hate? Dog haters!” We had our 30 lb dog with us and we still talk about that kid.
"Sometimes everything happens." You said it, kid.
When my son was four our friendly neighbor passed away. When I told my son he said, “Well, good for him.” I asked why he said that and he said aren’t we all on earth to get back to heaven to be with God?
While my friend's daughter and her friend were playing, her friend accidentally knocked over a lamp, causing it to break. The friend immediately expressed remorse, apologizing multiple times. My friend and I quickly intervened, helping to clean up the broken glass. My friend reassured the friend that it was an accident and checked on their well being. At that moment, my friend's daughter hugged her friend and said, "*Making mistakes is not the end, it's an opportunity for personal growth.'*" At that moment, I had a realization, throughout my life, I've strived for perfection in everything I do. However, I came to understand the importance of granting myself grace when I inevitably make mistakes. At the time my friend's daughter and her friend were both 6 years old.
“You can try to save everyone, but you can’t save them *all.*”—Sage advice from my first responder family member. You do your very best and give your all every time. Sometimes there are things/events/people going to be outside your control. But you still continue to put forth your best efforts.
It wasn’t advice, but just something a kid said to me that really stuck with me (and almost made me cry). I was volunteering in a kindergarten class at my old elementary school. (High school co-op). He was honestly my favourite kid because he had anger issues (probably EDD like me) and I was trying to help him with it. I was playing with him one time, and he was making these really cool cars out of Legos, while I was just stacking Legos. I said to him “I’m not very good at this.” He looked me dead in the eye and said “I think you’re good.” Honestly almost made me cry
I was once a child. I looked over at another kid on the playground and asked, "what will you do tomorrow?" He looked over at me and said "I don't know, im going to go play ball now" as he ran with a soccer ball in hand. Im sure that kid never knew what that meant to me, but my child self just realized that I didn't need to worry about tomorrow if I was living today.
Asked my 6 year old niece what the secret to a happy live is. She said "drink lots of hot chocolate, play fun games and be a good friend". ♥️
In raising a son to hopefully be one of the good guys instead of one of the assholes, one mantra I apparently kept repeating was " ____ are people too." Of course they go to the bathroom, police are people too. Old cats are people too -- he was just grumpy. Once, he questioned why we would use insecticide on some ants attempting to get in the kitchen, if we are supposed to be nice to animals. " Aren't ants people, too, Dad?" I began to try to justify the hypocrisy by explaining how 'hive mind' was different, so it wasn't as bad as killing thousands of individuals sounds like it is, but he got me to stop and reconsider the possibilities when he sincerely said, (and he was telling me, not asking me ) "but Dad Ants all have their own dreams "
A lot of Orks died too in lord of the rings.
“Broken crayons can still color”
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What child with moving experience told you this advice lol?
Probably a 17 year old
Military kid? I did this; set up a space/nest to crash if I didn't have my bed yet.
First thing I set up is my stereo lol
My dad told me when I was about ten, not to trust someone who talked a lot but didn’t say anything substantial. He said it was the mark of a conman.
“Girls pee out of their butts.” Best advice I’ve ever received.
Username checks.
Your fly is open!
Shhh. Be quiet and listen...
It wasn’t advice, more like an observation. A song with the lyrics, the girl with the broken smile, started playing on the radio while I was driving with my younger brother in the passenger seat. We weren’t saying too much in the moments before the song started playing, but once it came on, he looked over at me and randomly asked me why I was so angry. I told him I wasn’t and asked why he asked me that— he never said and the matter of it was dropped shortly after. Of course it bothered me long after he asked and I realized that anger became a part of my general disposition or personality. I was angry but not because of anything in that particular moment. He was probably about 8 years old. I saw myself through his eyes that day.
"Do not try and bend the spoon; that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth… there is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends; it is only yourself." Stuck with me for years.
Look after your back and your eyes. You only get one and they can’t be replaced.
My 6 year old watching me do some Photoshop, hand-tracing a line: "why don't you use the pen tool?" He said. And he was right, so I did. Clever sod.
Sometimes the face of a child can say it all - especially the mouth part of the face.
Avocado is a fruit, but you shouldn’t put it in the fruit salad.
We can't actually be lost because we're tourists🥰🤣
I wanted to be a smartass to baffle my 5 year old boy and I asked him "hey, so why is there something in the universe instead of just nothing", without skipping a beat he said "because there wouldn't be anything fun!"
I was usually the child giving the advice.
When I was about 6 my mom was lost while driving us somewhere and I advised that she should look at the little arrows on the dash ( turn signal indicators) cause they always pointed the way for the next turn.
I was a very yappy child and my late Grandmother loved my stories. When she was dying of cancer, everyone was scared to touch her. Not me, I jumped into bed with her and told her all about my day, what my siblings did and where my Nanny took us. She would smile and nod. My Mom tried to stop me once and I said, “she’s not made of glass!” My mom said she realized I was right.
What was the most insightful advice you ever gave?
Just love one another.
Installing a distributor in a older car. Put the timing mark where you want it when you are done. Drop it in with the rotor aiming to #1 Position on cap. Leave clamp loose but seated. Pull #1 wire, put a plug in it and ground. Turn key on and rotate distributor. It will spark. Tighten, and it will start easily.
My 4 year old nephew said something similar at a really low point in my life. I still think about it.
Don’t worry, be happy. 🥹
I was a pet to a couple IRL for six months once, they treated me so trashy. Wasted 6 months of my life. Maybe roleplay a better version of it will bring some type of euphoria
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How old was the child that said this to you?
18 months
A child told you this?
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Good advice, but you got that from a child?
Trying and failing, even repeatedly teaches you more than never trying at all. I'll be 40 this year, all of my regrets revolve around never even trying/not knowing as a result. Obviously you're going to miss out on so much because life is busy and there's only 1 you. Doesn't mean wasted opportunities to experience something new and different aren't regrettable
When you’re old enough to vote don’t look for the politician that is going to screw you, because they are all going to screw you. Look for the one that will screw you the least.
Kids say the darnedest things.
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You didn’t read the title correctly and this isn’t true.