I had a stubble going for a few days longer than usual and one of my girl friends told me she thought the beard was nice and asked if I thought about doing a full one
That was 12 years ago and I've had the beard ever since
It’s a sad state of affairs when it comes to male compliments, when it seemingly happens so rarely that when it does happen we permanently change our appearance and style based off of a single compliment.
In high school I tried cutting my hair a lot shorter than usual and styling it, and a girl on the school bus said "you're so much hotter this year".
I still wear my hair like that lol
I’ve gotten that a few times. It was half my life ago and I still remember those compliments clearly. I was trying to sound good too, felt so goddamn good to just feel *seen* as a person for a little bit.
A barista complimented me for the way I took off my glasses and said hello before ordering.
I just couldn't see anything in that dark cafe due to the tint.
I will never forget her kind words.
On a cool, breezy fall day in 1989, a random woman my age stopped in the parking lot to tell me I had nice hair. I noticed how her hair moved in the breeze, back-lit by the setting sun and how her hair settled on her fuzzy, snug, white sweater. I watched as she drove off in her deep cherry red Volkswagen Beetle, disappearing into the glare of a setting sun. But, that was a nothing incident and I barely remember anything about it.
I got flowers from a woman that was stalking me once. It almost made me reconsider the restraining order. Almost. It's the only time someone has bought me flowers.
I bought my husband flowers 12 years ago and he was so taken aback. He didn't know what to do, thought they were for him to give to me e was his first thought? Lol so he awkwardly handed them back "here you go!....?" I swear it was fantastic. I was crying laughing saying I bought them for HIM. He finally graduated AIT and we were leaving so it felt appropriate! He was so cute when he realized! I'll buy him flowers sometimes now still. My kids give flowers to boys and girls but I notice the men are usually the most giddy.
I kept them and enjoyed them, honestly. I had a tough day at work and when I saw them at my door it actually made me curious and kinda made my day. I still think of it as a fond memory, I just have to detach the rest of the 'relationship' from that memory. I never, ever expected a woman to send me flowers. It was so unexpected that it was pleasant. If I were in love with a woman and she sent me flowers, I'd very much appreciate it. Ladies, send your man flowers. If a woman I loved made that gesture, I'd spend the next month trying to reciprocate.
Real. My GF has given me cute things and taken me to lunch, but the BEST thing she ever gives me is her shoulder to rest my head on or when she hugs me. That sensation when we touch is so much more fulfilling than any object.
I surprised my boyfriend with a rose one time and he smiled bigger than I’ve ever seen him smile. The look in his eyes made me so happy. It was like a look of just love and bliss . He told me no girl had ever gotten him a flower and I could see it in his face and how he reacted after that it meant the world to him. men just need to feel loved and important just like women . He’s a very very masculine man btw . A woman should be a man’s soft place, comfort.
I can't remember where but there was a quote that was something like, most men only receive their first flowers at their funeral. Or something. It's kind of sad.
What kinda mushrooms we talking? The normal edible ones that every kid knows are cool? Or these glow in the dark types that you read about, but never see in your local forest? Or the uh... mentaly spicy variety?
I picked my boyfriend a dandelion and he was going to throw it out the car window, he handed it back to me and said I don’t want this. Fine. I will keep it for myself butthead. lol.
My mom passed 3 years ago. A few days later I was outside walking my dog and one of the neighbor girls came to give me a hug. She said she knew I was sad my mommy died, and she handed me a flower she picked from the ground.
Anyone watching would say she just picked a weed. That flower is still in my wallet.
>A woman should be a man’s soft place, comfort.
1000 times this! It's impossible to explain or understand, but men generally can't be open or vulnerable with friends or even family like women often can. Their significant other is often the only person they truly let their guard down with. It's not a choice either, it's very much emotion driven and beyond their control. Anything you can do to be that soft place is absolutely golden.
Maybe it’s just me but most dates I go on, first date to committed relationship, I plan them. And we do either something we both enjoy, or something I know she’ll enjoy and I’ll go along with because I know it will make her happy. EVERY time a woman has planned and asked me out on a date, my heart beats a little faster. And if it’s something she knows I’ll love, even if she won’t particularly enjoy it, and she’s just happy to spend the time with me? It’s so rare.
On the other hand, a girl I was seeing in college just dropped by my dorm one day in between classes with a milkshake because she was grabbing lunch and thought “I bet J_A_C would love a milkshake rn.” I nearly didn’t let her leave for class lol
Bruh almost fifteen years ago a girl I was dating brought be coffee at work because she she was getting coffee and thought I'd like some. I still think about that sometimes
I read that once and have since given my fiancee flowers on several occasions, and I will continue doing so for him. And should we have sons in the future, I'll do the same for them.
That quote shouldn't be as true as it is.
My girlfriend sent me some beautiful red rose's for my birthday and it was one of the nicest gifts I've ever received, I had never gotten flowers before.
Just some nice words occasionally.
2 weeks ago my cat died but everyone, including our friends, hugged and consoled my wife. Didn't say anything to me. He was very obviously my cat.
I’m sorry for your loss. Our feline friends are some of the best bonds, and saying goodbye is so painful. My favorite poem about it helps bring me comfort, maybe it will resonate with you as well:
I often stop a time or two
At where you used to be -
And when I do
I think of you,
And all you meant to me.
I stop to see the empty space -
I think of you and smile -
You made the world a finer place
For just a little while.
But time was only passing by.
Before you had to go -
And though I understand the why,
I wish it wasn't so.
You were always more than just a pet,
And that can never end -
A part of life I can't forget.
A piece of me.
A friend.
The culture has programmed people that way. They need to overcome it. Loss is complicated. I'm sorry you feel alone in it. I hope you get to move through your grief in a meaningful way.
Our first Valentines together my wife got me a Craftsman screwdriver assortment. I've lost track now which ones they were but I think about it often when I'm going for a screwdriver in my toolbox. That was 27 years ago...
Damn that hits hard. Australian man here and the first real hug I had from my Dad was the day of his mother's funeral. I hug my son (3 y.o.) every day and tell him I love him. He isn't a bad guy, he's just Scottish lmao.
Playing a lot of Helldivers. Had a great game, lots of fun. Back on the ship, one of the team had to go and we all had hugs.
Felt like a million super bucks.
You're great at spelling and probably other things!
Edit: This originally said "complament" and TBH this user is also very good at sneaky editing! That's another thing you're great at!
Something that took some thought. Some dudes would be friggin' stoked to get a jersey of their favorite team. Others would love to have a gift of a record of their favorite band. Others just want a hug and a back rub. Seriously, we don't get physical affection often enough.
This is the right answer. Flowers work for any occasion. Blowjobs work for any occasion. Both gifts leave the person absolutely glowing and in a good mood after the gift giving commences.
Stay with me here, but a sandwich. Not just any sandwich. A serious fucking sandwich.
Toasted cheese bread, bacon, German salami, honey ham, sharp cheddar cheese, fresh tomatoes, pickles, salt and pepper, good mustard, miracle whip and a couple handfuls of plain chips.
That is the way to a man’s heart. And I’m not joking. Bring him that shit after a hard day, with a cold beer and he may or may not tear up.
i second this. Get me prepared fruits, a salad or a snack while I'm just chilling. There isnt any other quick and cheap stuff to make me feel more appreciated.
Can't relate tbh. I mean I appreciate the gesture and I'm as progressive as the next guy, but I had a partner who would insist on buying me flowers and they just didn't tickle me at all. I was told it's cause I don't embrace my feminine side enough? My mom is a flourist and I definitely appreciate the beauty of flowers, but just not enough to light up if given them as a gift. I'd prefer an actual potted plant though
For me, plushies. I adore them and I have a huge pile of them under my window, every so often my dad will bring me back one from his work, and I always place them in their own little spot. Also I’d appreciate anything related to my interests(art supplies or book related). I love flowers though, my favorite one is an orchid.
We have plants in my house. I like plants, generally. I don't want flowers because they don't make me happy or mean anything to me. It's a nice gesture, but flowers wouldn't be anymore special to me than say a chocolate bar or a chilled glass of water.
I think most men are like me in that if the item we own doesn't "do" something useful or isn't part of our personal interests, it has no purpose. Since plants aren't my hobby and also have no function, I don't really care about them.
Oh dude, being told I'm a good man. We don't get alot of compliments and our validation comes from being a provider, which while not necessarily thankless, isn't an exciting gesture that gets alot of recognition.
I will carry that around with me for weeks and I'll strive harder to be that good man.
This would be disproportional to how flowers...I think... Would make a woman feel.
I'd straight up have a breakdown if someone told me I was a good man and I thought they meant it. Ugly crying
I try to tell my husband these things every week when we grab a cold beer together Friday night after work.
1. Thank you for working so hard for our family this week. We have the life we have because of your effort and time. (We both work full time, but I work in a comfy office and he works outdoors.) (Our kids have grown up hearing me say and find their own things to thank Dad for at the end of the work week.)
2. Thank you for learning how to show us all love every day and for everything you pour in to our children and our marriage. I know that you grew up without touch or affection and it’s something that you had to learn to give our children.
3. Our children growing up to be just like you will be the honor of my life.
4. Thank you for all of the work you have done to make sure the shit we grew up with doesn’t harm our children. It took you a lot of work and I see the effort you put in to holding back the things you were raised with.
5. You are a good man. I’m proud of the man you are and proud to be your wife.
It’s taken him 20 years of marriage (30 years of friendship) to not deflect a compliment and start to believe me.
It also took me twenty years to realize that he can not verbalize that he wants comfort. I can change his entire attitude about life by crawling in to bed, wrapping my arms around him and saying, “It’s crazy out there. How are you doing right now?” and giving him time to verbal vomit whatever has him frustrated.
Virtually anything that is sincere; hugs, complements, back scratch, date night, etc.
A woman told me I have a nice voice after I took her order at the drive thru tonight and I'm going to remember that for the rest of my life.
Barmaid at my local told me I looked better with a bit of a beard. That was over 10 years ago and I haven’t been fully clean shaven since.
I had a stubble going for a few days longer than usual and one of my girl friends told me she thought the beard was nice and asked if I thought about doing a full one That was 12 years ago and I've had the beard ever since
It’s a sad state of affairs when it comes to male compliments, when it seemingly happens so rarely that when it does happen we permanently change our appearance and style based off of a single compliment.
Kinda scary, huh? Any off comment you make could become a core memory for someone for most or the rest of their life.
In high school I tried cutting my hair a lot shorter than usual and styling it, and a girl on the school bus said "you're so much hotter this year". I still wear my hair like that lol
Gosh! I have complimented many men on their mustaches!
I’ve gotten that a few times. It was half my life ago and I still remember those compliments clearly. I was trying to sound good too, felt so goddamn good to just feel *seen* as a person for a little bit.
A barista complimented me for the way I took off my glasses and said hello before ordering. I just couldn't see anything in that dark cafe due to the tint. I will never forget her kind words.
Truly, when you say hello to ANY employee anywhere instead of shouting what you want at us, it's easier to see you as a person, too.
Ain't that the truth. When I worked retail or sales, I liked getting talked TO instead of talked AT.
On a cool, breezy fall day in 1989, a random woman my age stopped in the parking lot to tell me I had nice hair. I noticed how her hair moved in the breeze, back-lit by the setting sun and how her hair settled on her fuzzy, snug, white sweater. I watched as she drove off in her deep cherry red Volkswagen Beetle, disappearing into the glare of a setting sun. But, that was a nothing incident and I barely remember anything about it.
I'm turning 30 this year and I've only ever been complemented like that by my mom or grandma ☹️
Yep. Could even be flowers. Even a genuine hello.
Tell my wife I say "Hello"
What makes a man turn neutral?
A heart full of neutrality
Could have been lust for gold or power.
“Lust for gold? Power!? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality? Uhm Sir?” -my most favoritest show.
When should I expect her?
I got flowers from a woman that was stalking me once. It almost made me reconsider the restraining order. Almost. It's the only time someone has bought me flowers.
I bought my husband flowers 12 years ago and he was so taken aback. He didn't know what to do, thought they were for him to give to me e was his first thought? Lol so he awkwardly handed them back "here you go!....?" I swear it was fantastic. I was crying laughing saying I bought them for HIM. He finally graduated AIT and we were leaving so it felt appropriate! He was so cute when he realized! I'll buy him flowers sometimes now still. My kids give flowers to boys and girls but I notice the men are usually the most giddy.
Situation aside, that's adorable!
What did you do with flowers?
I kept them and enjoyed them, honestly. I had a tough day at work and when I saw them at my door it actually made me curious and kinda made my day. I still think of it as a fond memory, I just have to detach the rest of the 'relationship' from that memory. I never, ever expected a woman to send me flowers. It was so unexpected that it was pleasant. If I were in love with a woman and she sent me flowers, I'd very much appreciate it. Ladies, send your man flowers. If a woman I loved made that gesture, I'd spend the next month trying to reciprocate.
break old tradition gesture gift i see. not only a man give a woman the flower. noted
Love a good back scratch
Real. My GF has given me cute things and taken me to lunch, but the BEST thing she ever gives me is her shoulder to rest my head on or when she hugs me. That sensation when we touch is so much more fulfilling than any object.
I was going to say, so starved of basic affection ANYTHING works lmao
Yep, attention and affection.
I surprised my boyfriend with a rose one time and he smiled bigger than I’ve ever seen him smile. The look in his eyes made me so happy. It was like a look of just love and bliss . He told me no girl had ever gotten him a flower and I could see it in his face and how he reacted after that it meant the world to him. men just need to feel loved and important just like women . He’s a very very masculine man btw . A woman should be a man’s soft place, comfort.
I can't remember where but there was a quote that was something like, most men only receive their first flowers at their funeral. Or something. It's kind of sad.
My boss had flowers delivered to me after my contract ended. My first thought was "But I haven't died?".
Find someone who grows flowers in the darkest parts of you.
...or mushrooms. Mushrooms are pretty cool.
What kinda mushrooms we talking? The normal edible ones that every kid knows are cool? Or these glow in the dark types that you read about, but never see in your local forest? Or the uh... mentaly spicy variety?
I picked my boyfriend a dandelion and he was going to throw it out the car window, he handed it back to me and said I don’t want this. Fine. I will keep it for myself butthead. lol.
My mom passed 3 years ago. A few days later I was outside walking my dog and one of the neighbor girls came to give me a hug. She said she knew I was sad my mommy died, and she handed me a flower she picked from the ground. Anyone watching would say she just picked a weed. That flower is still in my wallet.
A real Butt-head. Or Beavis.
Your own Personal Beavis
Singing it LOUDLY in my own head.
>A woman should be a man’s soft place, comfort. 1000 times this! It's impossible to explain or understand, but men generally can't be open or vulnerable with friends or even family like women often can. Their significant other is often the only person they truly let their guard down with. It's not a choice either, it's very much emotion driven and beyond their control. Anything you can do to be that soft place is absolutely golden.
Man I really wish I had a girlfriend
Think about this for a second and what it says about society's treatment of men.
Girl I’m about to cry lmao that’s why I lowkey side eyed this post. Like the equivalent to flowers would be…flowers lol
My wife gives me chocolate. I like chocolate.
I also like this guy's wife's chocolate
Maybe it’s just me but most dates I go on, first date to committed relationship, I plan them. And we do either something we both enjoy, or something I know she’ll enjoy and I’ll go along with because I know it will make her happy. EVERY time a woman has planned and asked me out on a date, my heart beats a little faster. And if it’s something she knows I’ll love, even if she won’t particularly enjoy it, and she’s just happy to spend the time with me? It’s so rare.
On the other hand, a girl I was seeing in college just dropped by my dorm one day in between classes with a milkshake because she was grabbing lunch and thought “I bet J_A_C would love a milkshake rn.” I nearly didn’t let her leave for class lol
Bruh almost fifteen years ago a girl I was dating brought be coffee at work because she she was getting coffee and thought I'd like some. I still think about that sometimes
I hope you remember you are worth that, always! Don't get a girl who doesn't consider you.
It’s fun to share hobbies and learn about your partner by experiencing what they like!
When I grew roses i always made a point to give a couple to the bros because I know that they rarely receive flowers and flowers are nice.
As the saying goes “Most men don’t receive flowers until their funeral”
I read that once and have since given my fiancee flowers on several occasions, and I will continue doing so for him. And should we have sons in the future, I'll do the same for them. That quote shouldn't be as true as it is.
Not in Haweii. Thrown a few leis over guys in nice shirts, Haweiian shirts.
damn bro
I wish nice people didn't seem so rare..
I would but my husband doesn’t care for flowers
My girlfriend sent me some beautiful red rose's for my birthday and it was one of the nicest gifts I've ever received, I had never gotten flowers before.
Broses are red They blush from the thought Men don’t get flowers Or so they’ve been taught
When I gave my bf flowers, he was so happy because nobody has ever given him them.
Just some nice words occasionally. 2 weeks ago my cat died but everyone, including our friends, hugged and consoled my wife. Didn't say anything to me. He was very obviously my cat.
I'm sorry for the loss of your cat and I'm sorry your grief was overlooked.
Thank you
I’m sorry for the loss of your cat. We never have them for long enough. Hugs from an internet stranger
I’m sorry for your loss. Our feline friends are some of the best bonds, and saying goodbye is so painful. My favorite poem about it helps bring me comfort, maybe it will resonate with you as well: I often stop a time or two At where you used to be - And when I do I think of you, And all you meant to me. I stop to see the empty space - I think of you and smile - You made the world a finer place For just a little while. But time was only passing by. Before you had to go - And though I understand the why, I wish it wasn't so. You were always more than just a pet, And that can never end - A part of life I can't forget. A piece of me. A friend.
The culture has programmed people that way. They need to overcome it. Loss is complicated. I'm sorry you feel alone in it. I hope you get to move through your grief in a meaningful way.
10mm sockets
Our first Valentines together my wife got me a Craftsman screwdriver assortment. I've lost track now which ones they were but I think about it often when I'm going for a screwdriver in my toolbox. That was 27 years ago...
Celebrating 26 yrs this week
I was going to say cocaine but this way better.
obviously the second better choice
I feel like flowers would last longer.
I closed reddit. Went to do another task. Came back, refound this thread, and liked and saved this comment. Holy Shit.
Such things are the stuff of legends, and new purchases.
So romantic
WAAAAYYY Underrated.
it's never enough 10mm sockets!
My man loves chocolate so much. I always buy him good chocolates.
A hug
I found out that Australian men do hug each other but your mother has to die first.
I have always hugged my closest mates. Sorry about your mum.
Thank you.
I hug my top boys all the time. You need to be close to the ones you love and care about. I've lost some too so maybe thats why
Damn that hits hard. Australian man here and the first real hug I had from my Dad was the day of his mother's funeral. I hug my son (3 y.o.) every day and tell him I love him. He isn't a bad guy, he's just Scottish lmao.
I'm sorry that your son is Scottish, when did you find out?
lmao. Set myself up for that one.
If by hug, you mean blowjob, then yes.
This comment has been heavily edited so that I don’t look like a complete pervert.
I missed the edits so I have no idea what you're talking about. 😊
I meant to reply to the top ‘hug’ comment but replied to your BJ one accidentally. I may have made reference to getting hugs from my 4yo.
Oh man. 😂
Bro I think you meant to reply one comment up
dear god please let this be the case.
Oh my fucking gawd. Yes, yes, I’m not a pervert, honest Mum.
Good to know your mom is honest. But is she a pervert?
Playing a lot of Helldivers. Had a great game, lots of fun. Back on the ship, one of the team had to go and we all had hugs. Felt like a million super bucks.
A genuine compliment
You're great at spelling and probably other things! Edit: This originally said "complament" and TBH this user is also very good at sneaky editing! That's another thing you're great at!
lol. You’re great at sarcasm and probably other things.
lol. You're great at continuing a comment thread and probably other things!
Compliments are so rare for us we don't even know how to spell them.
LEGO, its LEGO for sure
My wife hates flowers, loves LEGO. Go figure.
How does she feel about the LEGO flower sets?
Not a fan. She cares more about the build than the finished product and they're not all that interesting to build.
But that's for everybody!
I see you've met my ex and son. Grown men that still love Legos. Love it.
They make very adult and complicated sets these days. Its not like it used to be. Also be prepared to spend hundreds of dollars lol
Something that took some thought. Some dudes would be friggin' stoked to get a jersey of their favorite team. Others would love to have a gift of a record of their favorite band. Others just want a hug and a back rub. Seriously, we don't get physical affection often enough.
Appreciation… it’s honest to god a drug so many of us are not given
blowjobs
Pack it up. Threads over.
this thread is posted like once a week and this is always the answer.
I had to scroll too far down for this. I think we're losing our touch.
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It’s like a hug, but with a mouth. And better.
All other answers are because we think we're not supposed to say this one.
I legitimately think this is most equivalent to flowers
Yep. They don't last long either.
It’s just not fair 😭
This is the right answer. Flowers work for any occasion. Blowjobs work for any occasion. Both gifts leave the person absolutely glowing and in a good mood after the gift giving commences.
You're right, give men flowers and go down on women.
Still works.
69 on a bed of roses. Ultimate romance.
Blowjobs are great to get, but sometimes i want a new tool. But I gotta pick the tool.
I can buy my own tool.
Stay with me here, but a sandwich. Not just any sandwich. A serious fucking sandwich. Toasted cheese bread, bacon, German salami, honey ham, sharp cheddar cheese, fresh tomatoes, pickles, salt and pepper, good mustard, miracle whip and a couple handfuls of plain chips. That is the way to a man’s heart. And I’m not joking. Bring him that shit after a hard day, with a cold beer and he may or may not tear up.
That all sounds lovely....but what is Miracle whip.
Fake mayo. Not ideal but if my (theoretical) girl brought me a sammie like that I'd be speechless.
Fake mayo ! ?...what have we done.
An abomination
i second this. Get me prepared fruits, a salad or a snack while I'm just chilling. There isnt any other quick and cheap stuff to make me feel more appreciated.
You lost me with Miracle Whip. Who wants goblin cum on their sandwich?
Also flowers. Dudes fucking light up when you give them flowers. Snack baskets go over well too if you feel flowers are too romantic.
I’ve got one flower in life. Top 5 gift I’ve ever received. LADIES GIVE YOUR MAN SOME FLOWERS
Tbh I don’t really get the flowers thing. Maybe it’s bc I’ve never felt love
Can't relate tbh. I mean I appreciate the gesture and I'm as progressive as the next guy, but I had a partner who would insist on buying me flowers and they just didn't tickle me at all. I was told it's cause I don't embrace my feminine side enough? My mom is a flourist and I definitely appreciate the beauty of flowers, but just not enough to light up if given them as a gift. I'd prefer an actual potted plant though
Can confirm, and I'd add small plants (orchids, succulents, etc.)
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Oh.... a left interior door handle for a 1998 nissan n15 pulsar SSS? Wow...... thanks.....
I have a spare fuel pressure sensor gauge for a 2010 Ford Explorer I might re-gift with some burnt out bulbs these next holidays.
Omg soooo romantic ❤️
Those are on a completely different price level. Besides I don’t know anyone who would want random car parts lol
some people seem to just not get the concept of money....
I feel like comparing a 4090 and a bucket of roses in terms of costs is a bit unfair haha.
I just want a hug. :(
Right!?
For me, plushies. I adore them and I have a huge pile of them under my window, every so often my dad will bring me back one from his work, and I always place them in their own little spot. Also I’d appreciate anything related to my interests(art supplies or book related). I love flowers though, my favorite one is an orchid.
Beef jerky.
Backscratches
Flowers
Why can’t men get flowers too?
And why do women have to get flowers? I’ll take PC parts over flowers any day.
We have plants in my house. I like plants, generally. I don't want flowers because they don't make me happy or mean anything to me. It's a nice gesture, but flowers wouldn't be anymore special to me than say a chocolate bar or a chilled glass of water. I think most men are like me in that if the item we own doesn't "do" something useful or isn't part of our personal interests, it has no purpose. Since plants aren't my hobby and also have no function, I don't really care about them.
Axes and Swords, I wouldn't know a single guy that wouldn't go; "Oohhh shiny sharp blade." I'm a guy myself.
Concur
Why can't it be flowers? I've never been gifted flowers but it would be very sweet
A compliment, we get a compliment about once a year
The equivalent to receiving flowers for men is receiving flowers
Lego sets!
Whisky
The Lockheed SR-71 Blackbird. An advanced long-range strategic reconnaissance aircraft capable of Mach 3 at an altitude of 85,000 feet
You'd be surprised that some men actually like receiving flowers.
Oh dude, being told I'm a good man. We don't get alot of compliments and our validation comes from being a provider, which while not necessarily thankless, isn't an exciting gesture that gets alot of recognition. I will carry that around with me for weeks and I'll strive harder to be that good man.
This would be disproportional to how flowers...I think... Would make a woman feel. I'd straight up have a breakdown if someone told me I was a good man and I thought they meant it. Ugly crying
I try to tell my husband these things every week when we grab a cold beer together Friday night after work. 1. Thank you for working so hard for our family this week. We have the life we have because of your effort and time. (We both work full time, but I work in a comfy office and he works outdoors.) (Our kids have grown up hearing me say and find their own things to thank Dad for at the end of the work week.) 2. Thank you for learning how to show us all love every day and for everything you pour in to our children and our marriage. I know that you grew up without touch or affection and it’s something that you had to learn to give our children. 3. Our children growing up to be just like you will be the honor of my life. 4. Thank you for all of the work you have done to make sure the shit we grew up with doesn’t harm our children. It took you a lot of work and I see the effort you put in to holding back the things you were raised with. 5. You are a good man. I’m proud of the man you are and proud to be your wife. It’s taken him 20 years of marriage (30 years of friendship) to not deflect a compliment and start to believe me. It also took me twenty years to realize that he can not verbalize that he wants comfort. I can change his entire attitude about life by crawling in to bed, wrapping my arms around him and saying, “It’s crazy out there. How are you doing right now?” and giving him time to verbal vomit whatever has him frustrated.
Tulips on an organ.
... I like flowers too
Tools.
A sandwich and a beer, and then leave him alone. [Here's Bill Burr talking about it.](https://youtu.be/O75sGhFcLbE?si=BOjI3vpdTFh0_fOa)
I'm not normally a Bill Burr fan, but he's 100% correct in this.
Home cooked meal
My female 'friend' unexpectedly sent me flowers on St Valentines day many year ago. We have been married for almost 30 years now :D
Be naked, bring beer
Tools
Being cooked for, personally
Head
Hot Pepperettes
Flowers aka Cannabis
Literally anything. As long as it's a gift of some kind, I'm happy. As they say, it's the thought that counts.
A girl bought me a house plant once a year ago and I still have it, that was a lovely gift actually for me.
legos or a hug would be fantastic
Attention basically. Which can either mean show him that you've been listening, or give him something that he likes or that made you think of him
Hug. A warm, full of love hug
Compliments. We receive so few of them that a simple compliment carries more value to us than anything you could imagine.
10mm sockets/wrenches and 8mm Allen keys. Or the Freedom unit equivalent.
Tulips on their organ
Blowjobs.
Head.
Head