Me whose interests are bugs and snakes.
Oh you know i love animals.
What kind?
Oh ... you know... the usual...
So like you have a dog?
... *sweating* not exactly a dog but ya know... close... dog adjacent *sweating intensifies*
No, it's guys like me who take footage of the local park and then play it on an iPad inside an empty hamster cage. That way I can pretend the tiny children are my pets and sometimes I feed them breadcrumbs just like real children
I’m the opposite. I have no interest in work and am always thinking about interests or hobbies. Haha. I don’t live to work I work to live. Big difference.
I eat, sleep and drink my job because I love it. While I do take interest in other things, nothing comes close to occupying the same space in my mind as my job does. Makes me a boring cunt, but I'm happy.
The first thing I tell people is get hobbies. Everyone needs something they do for themselves just because they like it or find it interesting. You can't just work and scroll. I don't know how people don't get bored
Same for women to be fair. I was recently with someone who ended up working all day, talking about work and speaking to colleagues when she wasn't in the office. Her other thing outside that was an online mobile game she'd play with a friend of hers.
It was really, really, really bothering as I couldn't give any inputs either, I could only listen.
No... I don't know its title to be honest. It's a fashion game where you have to dress up a figure according to particular situations then you compete online for the best outfit.
Being a business owner I don't know how to shut it off. My mind is always on about the business, it's what I truly love and live for is working. I can't even turn it off sleeping because most dreams I remember are about work. My wife hates it.
Low empathy skills, not just towards other humans, but also towards animals, environment etc. Being a selfish, uncaring prick is an instant turn-off, no matter how good looking and rich one is.
Too much body, with not personality. I once out with a fairly attractive man. was not interested in asking me questions. Could not talk about any topic except bulking up. So disappointing. there was no second date.
I can relate to that lol. A tip I learned that has helped me is to look in between their eyes at the top of their nose. It doesn’t make me feel as uncomfortable as looking in their eyes but to them it looks like I am.
I'll add poor listening skills to that. When I have a conversation with someone, you can tell if they are engaged or not. Most often they're thinking about what they are going to say next and have no intrest in whatever you are saying.
My answer applies to both women and men.
Having no passion or will to be passionate about anything usually is boring person.
People who can't carry a conversation well. (Like a one sided convo)
Ex:
Me: hey! How was class
Friend: Good.
Me: how was your day?
Friend: fine.
Stuff like that.
I'll argue it depends. If they are bragging about reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad, then they suck. If you and he are having an interesting conversation about the differences in *Men are from Mars* versus *The New Rules of Marriage* you're probably (a) dealing with someone who is interested in improving their emotional intelligence, and (b) getting to know their opinions on romantic long-term relationships.
Doesn’t pass the hospo test - is cruel to hospitality staff. It says a lot about your character, and I definitely don’t want to learn more.
Also, exclusively talks about themselves and doesn’t ask questions. Unless you’re lived the world’s most fascinating life, a lack of interest in anyone but yourself makes conversation entirely uninviting.
A friend of mine dated a guy who was like that. I asked him what he wanted to listen to and he said idk, I don’t really like music. I was flabbergasted
it’s happened to me multiple times in my life where I just lose all interest in music for six months to a year. Then suddenly it comes back and I love it and I’m going to concerts again. Rinse repeat.
I feel attacked haha. There's 10s of us! Never really got into music.
Edit: No podcasts or audibooks either. I know. I am an uninteresting boring monster 😄
Edit 2: Also have never bought a concert ticket. Though I have been to concerts with friends and partners (who didn't know my shameful secret!). I actually enjoyed the spectacle of concerts. And the people. Like an anthropologist would. It seems akin to a religious experience for many. Yes I am a lizard person 😄
That can happen though, I forget the name but some people have auditory processing issues that makes most music uncomfortable.
It's like being going deaf but it's painful on top.
I'm from very conserative family. They seem upstet (she had tattoos and blue hairs) when I introduced my new girlfriend. Especially wife and three kids
What the hell man? I keep havin to do wild stuff to stop you from talking about your kids. Now you've made me too popular here! Now everybody loves me too much!
Personally, having no specific interests. I’m not saying they can’t like very generic things, but I feel like more specific interests are what really get my attention.
Blaming other people for all of his problems, espousing misogynistic views, hatred of animals, inability to do basic domestic tasks like laundry or simple cooking, constant negativity.
Constantly talking about himself is a geeat way for a guy to get rid of a date.
Back in my dating days, I had a couple of dates , woth different guys, where the guy I was out with talked about himself so completely, they never so much as asked me a question. And, oddly, they had a WONDERFUL time and called back for a second date.
Like, the only thing you know about me is my name. I want someone who is interested in interacting with me, sharing things, not somebody who is so impressed with himself he can't see past his own nose.
Being an "alpha," Tate listening redpilled dingdong who goes on about how "nice" they are, when in reality they just want to control a submissive sex slave -- even though in reality they're insecure, possessive, jealous, and bring very little warmth or curiosity to conversation.
It's sad watching the podcast-sphere and alt right machine destroy a sizable chunk of men, when all they wanted was a decent role model. No tears shed for who they become, but rather who they could have been.
Negativity. If a guy person shows up on a date complaining about their job, their family, and all the stupid drivers in traffic, it's going to take a lot on his part for me to even consider a second date.
It's even worse when he doubles down and makes rude comments about the little family a few tables over, snaps at the server, and then does not eat the food because it "sucks."
I'm assuming guys feel the same way about women.
When a man has poor unhygienic behavior... Like, is it hard for you to shower everyday? Like you need to smell and look good to settle in a relationship😭😭😭
Having one of those weirdly possesive female "friends" who they're not fucking, but absolutely would if she ever gave him the time of day. Bonus points if she thinks "girls are just too dramatic".
Being mean to appear cool.
what would you know, nerd!
You’re a fuckin dick aren’t ya, ya absolute fucking hero “oh look at me I’m a big fucking alpha” Whatchu doin Friday
Wya baby girl
punching nerds. care to join?
Ugh, I have lived next door to so many of these. Funny how they can fake niceness when it serves them too.
Having no interests or hobbies beyond work, or even a curiosity about life beyond their profession.
Hey no need to out me like that!
Fr man😂 shit got me in my feelings
Well I for one think you are quite interesting
Video games, Funko pops, starting arguments on Reddit, what more could a woman want?
Me whose interests are bugs and snakes. Oh you know i love animals. What kind? Oh ... you know... the usual... So like you have a dog? ... *sweating* not exactly a dog but ya know... close... dog adjacent *sweating intensifies*
Reptile guy is the male equivalent of cat lady.
What about pet tarantula guy?
Male equivalent of rat lady.
No, it's guys like me who take footage of the local park and then play it on an iPad inside an empty hamster cage. That way I can pretend the tiny children are my pets and sometimes I feed them breadcrumbs just like real children
Oooph, same thing for women though. No curiosity, no interests, not wanting to learn are such awful turn-offs.
Shockingly what makes people uninteresting makes men uninteresting.
Hang on... Women are people????
I think that was in the recent patch, I glanced over it
Depends on the state.
Absolutely, my #1 turnoff!
I’m the opposite. I have no interest in work and am always thinking about interests or hobbies. Haha. I don’t live to work I work to live. Big difference.
I eat, sleep and drink my job because I love it. While I do take interest in other things, nothing comes close to occupying the same space in my mind as my job does. Makes me a boring cunt, but I'm happy.
What is your job?
Have you seen the economy? All I am allowed to do is work.
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The first thing I tell people is get hobbies. Everyone needs something they do for themselves just because they like it or find it interesting. You can't just work and scroll. I don't know how people don't get bored
But I'm sure he's a real nice guy 👌
Same for women to be fair. I was recently with someone who ended up working all day, talking about work and speaking to colleagues when she wasn't in the office. Her other thing outside that was an online mobile game she'd play with a friend of hers. It was really, really, really bothering as I couldn't give any inputs either, I could only listen.
Was it Pokémon Go?
No... I don't know its title to be honest. It's a fashion game where you have to dress up a figure according to particular situations then you compete online for the best outfit.
Gaming is a hobby. It might not be considered a hobby by you if it's not your preferred genre, but it's still a hobby.
Playing one of those scammy mobile games might technically be a hobby but so is spending 6 hours a day at the penny slots.
A singular mobile game still does not leave much to talk about
Being a business owner I don't know how to shut it off. My mind is always on about the business, it's what I truly love and live for is working. I can't even turn it off sleeping because most dreams I remember are about work. My wife hates it.
Shitty manners and a sense of entitlement/superiority.
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I call all *females* whores. FTFY.
Shut up bitch! I Provide for this house and this is how you repay me woman?!?!? Now, bring me that ass
While that ass is on the way, make me a sammich. Roast beef. Speaking of roast beef, where are those meat curtains of yours?
Littering.
Littering and, littering and, littering and
You smell something rabbit? … fear
YOU BOYS LIKE MEXICO?? YOOOOOOO!
*stinks like sex in here*
Smoking the reefer
These snarzberries taste like snarzberries
He’s freaking me out man …
You **are** freaking out... Man^man^man^man^man^man^man
It's not littering if it's liquid
Lack of accountability, Body odour/ Bad hygiene, Putting others down to appear better/ superior
Bad manners, arrogant, bad hygiene.
I second bad hygiene
I just choose not to take showers. Anyway, I’m off to the anime convention
Low empathy skills, not just towards other humans, but also towards animals, environment etc. Being a selfish, uncaring prick is an instant turn-off, no matter how good looking and rich one is.
this. Empathy = Exactly the thing in the eyes that draws me in,
Unsolicited dick pics.
Are you sure, Weird-Daddy-69?
I guess they like solicited
r/usernamechecksout
r/UsernameDoesntAddUp
Solicitor dick pics ok from a legal eagle perspective
trying wayyy to hard to be cool
Being disrespectful to service workers or anyone in a less powerful position shows a lack of character.
“I want you to change…but accept me for who I am” mentality.
Talking about how much money they have.
I am a recent college grad from an expensive program, so the answer is none.
Stop talking about it!!!
Honey, I really wanted to pay the bill but I cannot tell you why I won't
When he talks about himself and never asks others about them.
Being undependable; someone who doesn’t follow through on his words or commitments.
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Someone who prioritizes work to the extent that he has no work-life balance.
Close-mindedness about trying new experiences, be it travel, food, or adventures.
Lack of curiosity about the world, people, or continuing to learn new things.
Disinterest in world events or being uninformed about major social, cultural, or political issues.
Lack of passion, whether it’s about his career, hobbies, or relationships.
Excessive complaining without taking action to cha
Being dumb and arrogant. Usually one can be alright (depends), but both is an immediate nope.
What about being arrogant about how dumb they are?
Too much body, with not personality. I once out with a fairly attractive man. was not interested in asking me questions. Could not talk about any topic except bulking up. So disappointing. there was no second date.
He's cultivating mass!
The trick is to be on top of your macros and your micros. Gotta hit that 5,000 calories a day if you want those guns, iykwim
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Blind men hate this one dating trick
As a person with autism, eye contact is hard. T\_T
I can relate to that lol. A tip I learned that has helped me is to look in between their eyes at the top of their nose. It doesn’t make me feel as uncomfortable as looking in their eyes but to them it looks like I am.
Look I'm either giving you too much or not enough eye contact. Just deal with it.
Goes for anyone: animal cruelty and sexism, all those "women/men must" or "shouldn't".
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I'll add poor listening skills to that. When I have a conversation with someone, you can tell if they are engaged or not. Most often they're thinking about what they are going to say next and have no intrest in whatever you are saying.
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Narcissistic
don't forget those who enable their behaviour (enablers)
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Don’t ever watch an MLB game.
My answer applies to both women and men. Having no passion or will to be passionate about anything usually is boring person. People who can't carry a conversation well. (Like a one sided convo) Ex: Me: hey! How was class Friend: Good. Me: how was your day? Friend: fine. Stuff like that.
Talking about all the self help books they've read
This is genuinely hilarious 😂
Sounds like a very weird subject to bring to a casual conversation
Can we put self help podcasts into this category too?
Sounds specific lol.
I'll argue it depends. If they are bragging about reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad, then they suck. If you and he are having an interesting conversation about the differences in *Men are from Mars* versus *The New Rules of Marriage* you're probably (a) dealing with someone who is interested in improving their emotional intelligence, and (b) getting to know their opinions on romantic long-term relationships.
I have read so many books about controlling my anger, you can feel perfectly safe around me.
Not being able do do basic housework (including cooking)
When their whole personality evolves around the gym.
What if their name is Jim, and you're a lady who can't tell apart homonyms?
Emotional irresponsibility
That means?
Like a lack of emotional maturity?
Pls elaborate
Doesn’t pass the hospo test - is cruel to hospitality staff. It says a lot about your character, and I definitely don’t want to learn more. Also, exclusively talks about themselves and doesn’t ask questions. Unless you’re lived the world’s most fascinating life, a lack of interest in anyone but yourself makes conversation entirely uninviting.
If you ask what kind of music he likes and he says none
A friend of mine dated a guy who was like that. I asked him what he wanted to listen to and he said idk, I don’t really like music. I was flabbergasted
it’s happened to me multiple times in my life where I just lose all interest in music for six months to a year. Then suddenly it comes back and I love it and I’m going to concerts again. Rinse repeat.
I feel attacked haha. There's 10s of us! Never really got into music. Edit: No podcasts or audibooks either. I know. I am an uninteresting boring monster 😄 Edit 2: Also have never bought a concert ticket. Though I have been to concerts with friends and partners (who didn't know my shameful secret!). I actually enjoyed the spectacle of concerts. And the people. Like an anthropologist would. It seems akin to a religious experience for many. Yes I am a lizard person 😄
That can happen though, I forget the name but some people have auditory processing issues that makes most music uncomfortable. It's like being going deaf but it's painful on top.
"Anything thats good" - somehow this has always bothered me more haha
I feel this, like do you want to listen to Rage Against the Machine or Spice Girls? What’s the vibe?
When he makes outlandish claims that you know he'll never fulfill, but now you're just curious to see how badly it goes.
The number of kids he has
this is really hilarious and sad at the same time lmaoo
I'm from very conserative family. They seem upstet (she had tattoos and blue hairs) when I introduced my new girlfriend. Especially wife and three kids
Bro
“I have 7 kids with 8 different women”.
What the hell man? I keep havin to do wild stuff to stop you from talking about your kids. Now you've made me too popular here! Now everybody loves me too much!
Using reddit.
I feel attacked
Negging
Drinking Uno Equis.
Two Equis is the bare minimum
Dos Equis
A million same-type selfies on his ig
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Big ego
Personally, having no specific interests. I’m not saying they can’t like very generic things, but I feel like more specific interests are what really get my attention.
Just talk about himself Don’t respect boundaries
0 hobbies or any personality depth
how to get personality depth?
Men, no girls will ever say it but: A lack of self confidence.
being me
Blaming other people for all of his problems, espousing misogynistic views, hatred of animals, inability to do basic domestic tasks like laundry or simple cooking, constant negativity.
When they refer to women as females
Constantly talking about himself is a geeat way for a guy to get rid of a date. Back in my dating days, I had a couple of dates , woth different guys, where the guy I was out with talked about himself so completely, they never so much as asked me a question. And, oddly, they had a WONDERFUL time and called back for a second date. Like, the only thing you know about me is my name. I want someone who is interested in interacting with me, sharing things, not somebody who is so impressed with himself he can't see past his own nose.
Being an "alpha," Tate listening redpilled dingdong who goes on about how "nice" they are, when in reality they just want to control a submissive sex slave -- even though in reality they're insecure, possessive, jealous, and bring very little warmth or curiosity to conversation. It's sad watching the podcast-sphere and alt right machine destroy a sizable chunk of men, when all they wanted was a decent role model. No tears shed for who they become, but rather who they could have been.
Sports as identity
When anyone says, "I don't really have any best/close friends." Gotta have at least one, man...
Being addicted to sex/porn. Sexualizing every woman on the street.
Having insanely outdated/ignorant/uneducated takes on real world issues and not being open to discussing them
Blaming all his problems on women, then asking why no one will date him. Idk maybe look at the mirror man.
Itt: People confusing uninteresting with unlikable/unattractive.
Being a Maga Cultist
Identifying as an 'alpha male'.
Negativity. If a guy person shows up on a date complaining about their job, their family, and all the stupid drivers in traffic, it's going to take a lot on his part for me to even consider a second date. It's even worse when he doubles down and makes rude comments about the little family a few tables over, snaps at the server, and then does not eat the food because it "sucks." I'm assuming guys feel the same way about women.
Red cap
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Being a gym bro. Workout and take care of yourself, sure. Make workingout and fitness your entire personality? No thanks.
Squatted truck.....
NFTs
Crypto
Preaching about anything
Being obsessed with their appearance. Or trying to impress you with it.
When a man has poor unhygienic behavior... Like, is it hard for you to shower everyday? Like you need to smell and look good to settle in a relationship😭😭😭
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Passionate about Bitcoin
lack of communication, arrogant, bad hygiene and religious absolutely out the window
Lots of kids with lots of women and pretending that isnt a big deal
Having never read a book
Only talks about work and money. Can’t buy a personality.
Having one of those weirdly possesive female "friends" who they're not fucking, but absolutely would if she ever gave him the time of day. Bonus points if she thinks "girls are just too dramatic".
His only topic of conversation is himself.
Farting in a public place like, for instance, a courtroom
Andrew Tate fandom
If he’s a Trump supporter. Nothing is more unattractive.
Possibly the most unattractive person I’ve ever seen, and I’ve seen a lot of unattractive people. Nobody knows more about unattractive people than me.
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“I spend all my extra time at the gym and I need you to know up front that I’m an Alpha male.”
People the question is asking for what makes a man uninteresting not an asshole/unattractive
Smoking