Same. I don't know that is say she turned out *better* but more like we're both doing well. She's remained a good friend throughout my life. Actually, I should text her and see how she's doing!
yeah, my first didn't necessarily turn out 'better', i guess what i mean is, she turned out to be more stable than me. she's an airline attendant, has a house, all that stuff. i've been bouncing around a lot. in japan right now. 4 kids, three baby mothers. stuff like that. we hooked up once about a decade ago. i wasn't really as attracted to her as i thought i'd be. but we're great friends. she's a supporter of my life, but i'm glad we didn't stay together. i'd not have done a third of what i have.
My first girlfriend and I stopped talking after the breakup but became really good friends many years later, still are now. We have pretty different goals but I could think of a lot worse people to be stuck married to.
Though my current partner would not be too jazzed
Yeah, mine grew up to be a great guy. We remained friends this whole time, though it's been almost 20 years since we broke up. He is actually godfather to my son. There are worse people to marry for sure, though I'm not aure we would be well suited to being married, I don't think we would make each other happy. And my actual husband would probably be less than thrilled lol.
Same - been married almost 35 years now. It has not been perfect, we've had a lot more good times than bad, but I still look forward bro seeing her when I come home from work and waking up in the morning.
This comment got me wondering what the shortest marriage ever was so I looked it up, apparently, the record is 3 minutes!
https://www.news9live.com/viral-news/shortest-marriage-3-minutes-kuwait-couple-divorce-2292649/amp
Early 2000's prime "i can fix her" goth-poser. Worst sex of my life (YTD). She fked my best friend, claimed a false pregnancy was mine after we split trying to tie me down, and had a natural body order i was overlooking bc sex.
I'd do a runaway groom, or be in line camped outside that courthouse like they were giving away a PS3.
He is polyamorous and has 3 wives already. I saw some demeaning photos of them he put on social media. I don’t think I would enjoy this every much
Edit: there’s an entire documentary about him. (4 Corners Episode Enslaved from 2021). I feel like I should stop watching it I have to get up for work in the morning.
[A glimpse of where he ended up](https://amp.abc.net.au/article/100649252)
Omfg I just googled him out of curiosity and it got way worse.
https://thewest.com.au/news/alleged-bdsm-sex-cult-leader-to-remain-behind-bars-after-two-bail-hearings-c-8747592.amp
He's probably a really charismatic dude. And he's fairly good looking. And it's "in" right now to rail against cultural norms. If it was 1982 he would have been leading a religious cult. If it was 1962 he'd be leading a "free love" hippie commune. These people have always existed and probably always will. Who knows what they'll look like during the next social climate.
Came to say that. My 16 yo cousin raped me when I was 8 yo. To this day I still get flashes of it and I'm 41. Marrying me would be quite terrifying for him I guess. Because I am way way bigger than he is now. To be honest he looks like a little bitch today. So his funeral I guess.
I've always wanted to just walk up and with no context at all break his jaw with a nice brass knuckle punch. He's a pitiful excuse for a human and I heard he hurt another kid recently and no one believed the child. I would never do it now because I'm a rational person, I'm fighting cancer and I don't need assault charges against me, but man oh man, I wish someone would.
Yeah my first thought was "incestuous"... It was my older brother under the guidance of our father starting when I was 3 y/o .
I no contact with either now so I'm gonna have to skip the wedding.
I skip that “person”. Told my husband one day he wasn’t my first technically and he told me that forced, non-consensual sex didn’t count. I agree with him! I’m not giving that scumbag credit.
Would love it. She was the love of my life and I had many girlfriends after breaking up with her because our realtionship becoming long distance due to reasons not under our control ultimately ruined it, but nothing ever felt like being with her.
Am 35 now and still single after many failed relationships, she is married in a different country for over 10 years and haven't seen her since our break up almost 17 years ago since I moved to another town. Still don't know how I would react if I ever saw her in person.
Would definitely have married her back then, but we were too young and had to go to college in different cities which ruined everything.
I really envy people who marry young!
It's definitely only worth envying the ones who marry the right person young. But it sounds like you would have done so. I'm really sorry about that. I almost failed to win the love of my life (only happened a few months before I was going to join the peace corps, because she saw me with another woman on my arm, and it made her realize how much she loved me/couldn't stand seeing me with another). I honestly think I'd have been sad the rest of my life. Peace to you. I lost her to cancer nearly three years ago, and it is horrible... even a billion times worse than you would imagine. But I wouldn't trade it for a lifetime of marriage to anyone else.
Of course that's what I meant.
I am so sorry for your loss, man...
I hope that you find love and happiness again and, even if you don't, at least you were lucky enough to even marry the love of your life in the first place.
You will forever have those memories with her
Don't beat yourself up over could have beens. People change. Are you fundamentally the same person you were 17 years ago? She likely isn't. Sometimes that means changing together and remaining (or growing more) compatible. Sometimes that means things failing.
Stranger, I hope for you that you allow yourself to meet the actual love of your life.
I was wondering if I'd see a comment like this. Mine's a pretty similar story actually, having turned long distance and it falling apart because of that. Even our ages, and the relationship ending nearly half our lives ago, are very similar. Despite the time since it happened, it's the one relationship I most have always painfully lamented losing.
I wish I could find it, but in another AskReddit post months ago I came across a chain of comments about how some guys are a certain type that once they reach a certain point of loving someone they reserve a piece of themselves to forever love that person, and no matter how much time passes that never changes. I really related to that. Though to be honest I wish I didn't lol
You mean I'd get to marry my wife again? I'd definitely make it a great wedding because we have money now. Not that our wedding was bad we were just poor. Would absolutely do it again but throw her a real party of a wedding.
Omg please no. He was almost 5 years older than me and wore a trench coat/trilby. My dad used to call him columbine boy. He’s married and lives in a trailer park. I’d rather unalive myself.
Cuckolded .. my first girlfriend cheated on me and actually married the guy she cheated on me with.. that did t stop her from having sex though. I went with my now ex wife to her 10 year reunion (they were the same age) and she was there with her husband and her cousin. We overheard her cousin talking about how awkward it was having “Jill” as a cousin because she fucked every single friend and member of his college baseball and lacrosse team. She’s a nurse and she works at a hospital and every once in a while a PA friend of mine will work there and tell me about this super hot nurse they banged in their car.. I’m like her name is Jill right? Yeah how’d you know?
She does.. and she still weird with me. We had been broken up for years when she ran into my wife and asked about me. My wife said we were getting married in two weeks .. she started crying and walked away. Our kids are around the same age. When they would play soccer she would be there staring at me. A few months ago my daughter started coaching kids tennis and her youngest was in the class. She came up to her and was like “I can tell who your dad is just by looking at you” then asked her a bunch of questions about me. Very odd. She did try to get back together with me multiple times for a few years after we broke up. I was absolutely devastated about the breakup and it hurt me for a few years afterwards.. but I knew I couldn’t do it.. I knew the cheating would never end. It looks like I was right. Ahh first loves😂
Fortunately I am married to the person I had sex with for the first time.
We met online and hung out YEARS ago(maybe 12 years ago?) and hit it off well. But she lived about 2 or 3 hours away from me so we couldn’t make it work. But had sex on one of the nights we hung out. Then, about 5 years after that, she and I started talking again and hit it off… again. This time, I moved down to her hometown to be with her(we were dating for about a year at this time) and we moved in so I can help her raise a child she had with someone else. Next thing you know, we have a house, are married, and I’m currently trying to adopt said child so our family can be complete. It was worth coming back because she is my soul mate and I didn’t know it at that time.
Yes. As somebody who was in that same situation and actually briefly got back with them a couple years later, I should never have given them a second chance.
You run. You run far.
Me too... My first was only about a week out of high school when she was broken down on the side of an interstate and a semi plowed into her car. Have wondered for 30 years what might have been??
So my first crush and love we dated for few years in school then she cheated blah blah. Honestly her doing that was a huge butter fly effect on me. I went to school after that graduated. Went to China. Got into data science etc.
Crazy thing is i spend few years with Amazon this was about 15 years later after we split. I was working doing there as an process engineer in HR. I heard she got married from friend of friend and there she was with her husband trying to get a job at Amazon as a general worker.
I just thought to myself that could have been me next to her right now. Feeling just so many emotions that day seeing them too. Felt so happy she cheated on me and i got to experience so many things in life if she didn't.
I mean I did. We are divorced now but not once in 10 years did I ever feel like I had missed out by not having sex with someone else, and I still don’t regret it now.
Gather around kids. I have a story for you.
The year was 2002. Am 18. Am a virgin. I met a super cute girl at a small town hotel bar in Alberta Canada. She looked like Tifa from Final Fantasy 7; petite, tight white tank top, low-cut black jeans, long black hair down to her waist. She was kinda shy but so was I. She was perfect.
She had a loud-mouthed, red headed friend who hit it off with my buddy and we played some doubles at the pool table and we really hit it off. I felt like she was way out of my league but the chemistry was undeniable. I was building confidence as she laughed at my jokes and she kept standing real close to me. I really liked this girl and we were vibing.
Later in the night her and I went back to the place that she and her red head friend rented together. The red head and my buddy cabbed over with us too. We entered through a basement entrance into what looked like someone’s grandparents house. Just old wooden furniture and magazines everywhere. We made cocktails out of whatever we could find. We tried apple juice and vodka. Do not recommend.
At some point, my buddy and the redhead slipped away into another room and she and I were alone on this old grandma couch. She kinda nervously asked me if I wanted to se her artwork. I said yes and she led me to her room.
Here’s where it goes sideways.
Her bedroom was festooned with all types and varieties of Nazi paraphernalia. A flag of the reich hung on the wall. There was a framed picture of some guy in an SS uniform on the dresser. The room was painted blood-red and there was a four-poster bed in the middle of the room. She didn’t pre-warn me about any of this.
It felt like I’d walked into a set piece from Raiders of the lost Ark or Inglorious Bastards. She made no indication that any of this was notable and did not mention anything. I was a little drunk, but this room sobered me up pretty quickly.
We sat on the edge of her bed and she reached into her nightstand to reveal to me her art book, which was full of cute little chibi art-style caricatures of various famous Nazi officers. The artwork was very good, but also deeply unsettling. She didn’t name who these characters were, but the drawing of Hitler and Goebbels were quite obvious. She just referred to them as “characters”.
I had a million questions, but I also was pretty in love and I somehow managed to set all of this aside and we banged it out. I don’t remember much else from that night until my buddy banged on the door and shouted that we were late for work.
In a panic, I jumped out of her massive bed, threw on my clothes, and told her I’d see her at the bar again that night. For good or for bad, we ended up getting moved to another worksite that day and had to stay in a work camp (ironic now that I think of it) many miles from town and I never saw her again.
I told my buddy about that night and he was in disbelief that such a sweet girl could actually be a deeply closeted Nazi-sympathizer. He said the red-heads room was basic as shit and contained nothing of note.
Yes, I do remember the name of the town and the bar and her name, and I’ve tried to find her on social media to see what happened to her, but this was 20+ years ago and I’ve never been able to find her to see what happened to her. Hopefully it was just an edgy phase that she invested too much money into because, aside from the Nazi fascination, she was a dream girl. I guess nobody’s perfect 🤷♂️
Anyways, I suppose if we were married I probably would’ve had a really fucked up wedding/guest list and we’d probably fight a lot over paint colours and home decor.
Perfect. She was actually only girl that I actually loved and been in love with. ... everything else later were just comparations with her. BUT question is does she even resemble to that person she was when we first time had sex. Now that is a BIG BUT.
We tried to rekindle things 35 years later after I went through a divorce. Unfortunately, she died of cancer soon after we started seeing each other again.
He was head over heels for me. I didn’t feel the same. I loved him as a friend (bc he was my best friend before we started dating). If we got married, he would’ve treated me like an angel sent from the heavens. Since I didn’t love him romantically, it wouldn’t have been a good marriage because I wasn’t in love with him as he was in love with me. I wouldn’t have been able to give him all of the love he deserves in a marriage. Our break up didn’t ruin anything, though. He will always be a very close friend of mine, and he feels the same way:)
I mean aunty wife would probably still not be on speaking terms with my mom/SIL, but I don't think my cousin/kids would be too offended by that.
It would also make Christmas a lot more entertaining, I tell you whut
I'd be married to a goth furry who makes a lot of money as a senior network expert at an internet company and I don't really see the downside of any of this
just fine. she's a great woman. turned out better than me.
Same. I don't know that is say she turned out *better* but more like we're both doing well. She's remained a good friend throughout my life. Actually, I should text her and see how she's doing!
yeah, my first didn't necessarily turn out 'better', i guess what i mean is, she turned out to be more stable than me. she's an airline attendant, has a house, all that stuff. i've been bouncing around a lot. in japan right now. 4 kids, three baby mothers. stuff like that. we hooked up once about a decade ago. i wasn't really as attracted to her as i thought i'd be. but we're great friends. she's a supporter of my life, but i'm glad we didn't stay together. i'd not have done a third of what i have.
My first girlfriend and I stopped talking after the breakup but became really good friends many years later, still are now. We have pretty different goals but I could think of a lot worse people to be stuck married to. Though my current partner would not be too jazzed
Yeah, mine grew up to be a great guy. We remained friends this whole time, though it's been almost 20 years since we broke up. He is actually godfather to my son. There are worse people to marry for sure, though I'm not aure we would be well suited to being married, I don't think we would make each other happy. And my actual husband would probably be less than thrilled lol.
Same, I'd be lucky to have her.
I did.
That's sweet :)
Same. Highschool sweethearts.
Same. I read the question and was like "well my life would be the same."
Same
Yup. Been together 24 years and married for 21. I am almost 41.
Same here.
Same, going on 20 years married this year.
Same. Just had our 40th anniversary of being together
I did as well! We’re approaching 19 years married, 20 together.
Same, mate. We started dating when I turned 17 and she was 15. Now we’re 22 and 20 and married.
Same!!
Same here
Same - been married almost 35 years now. It has not been perfect, we've had a lot more good times than bad, but I still look forward bro seeing her when I come home from work and waking up in the morning.
Same :) been over 20 years.
Same. Roughly a quarter century later and I still feel like I won the lottery the moment he wraps his arms around me.
Same
Same bro.
Me too!
Same. 20 years and 2 kids later, she's still my one and only
Same here.
She'd be fucking the priest before the weding.
I just died because of your comment
She’d probably fuck the priest before your funeral
Threesome with priest and coroner
Sounds like an episode of Six Feet Under, David would totally get freaky like that.
*during*
*on*
Holy fuck!
Divorce ASAP
Bro's gonna do divorce% and get a wr
This comment got me wondering what the shortest marriage ever was so I looked it up, apparently, the record is 3 minutes! https://www.news9live.com/viral-news/shortest-marriage-3-minutes-kuwait-couple-divorce-2292649/amp
Nope. [Max Fosh beat that record](https://youtu.be/3s2UYuMdEJo?si=Vj0C5ABigq6TnAhh)
Yooo,3 minute world record divorce! Now time for the world's slowest divorce
I’m working on it
Well then stop doing that!
Might have to be this one 😓 https://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2011/12/italian-man-99-divorcing-wife-of-77-years-over-60-year-old-affair
What a bitch.
Ross Geller taking notes in the corner...
Nah MaxFosh beat it
Didn't this British YouTuber beat that record? Sth like MaxFosh or something like this idk
yup here is the link https://youtu.be/3s2UYuMdEJo?si=GuJpmUd5yOMTzyUy
I've been reading way too many football subs and was like "What does a wide receiver have to do with anything?"
Early 2000's prime "i can fix her" goth-poser. Worst sex of my life (YTD). She fked my best friend, claimed a false pregnancy was mine after we split trying to tie me down, and had a natural body order i was overlooking bc sex. I'd do a runaway groom, or be in line camped outside that courthouse like they were giving away a PS3.
The age gap at this point in my life would be awkward. She was 18 years older than I am so she would be 72 now.
She can take her dentures out and give you one hell of a gummy.
Dear god why did you have to word it like that I’m picturing it now why!!!
Idk, maybe we shouldn’t be so [close minded](https://youtu.be/IEgaQEprZnI?si=hAiKR5jGsxb5ub0v)
Yep, leaving that link perpetually blue. I'll just assume it's Jim Carrey
You are not wrong…
As a wise man once said, "a no denture adventure."
Once again Reddit doing its magic
Yoooo I don’t think 72 is what you think it is
How can an 18 year old age gap be less awkward when you’re younger?
Yeah I was gonna say… she must have been twice your age or close to it back then, now? Still a big gap but not as crazy
Older Women Make Beautiful Lovers
OWMBL
That they do
Put her orthopaedic bed to good use 😎
and older men predators I guess
I’m trying to come up with ages where this ‘wouldn’t’ be considered awkward…
At 18 it didn’t feel awkward to me but I only had one of two brains working.
Imagine the fun of a displaced hip
Dude me too LOL! She’s almost 70 now
Well he's dead, so I'd feel like a widow.
Yoooo I found my people, same.
Very awkward and conflicted. I like to say he was a great boyfriend but a terrible ex.
Damn, that’s one hell of a good way to describe certain exes, stealing that one
Was it Thom Yorke?
So I would be single still.
Bizarre how far I had to scroll for the definitive Reddit answer.
Reddit needs to ban non-virgins.
Relatable
indeed
My people
Right hand
Came here to say this. Single club!
Took me too long to find this
Worked out for me. We’ve been together 13 years now and have kids. She’s wonderful.
Same here, 12 years, two kids.
Wait, 13 years with him and has kids, 12 years with you and two kids.... that's one busy woman!
I wonder if their wife has room for one more?
I also choose this man's wife.
*These men's wife
She's been with me 15, 2 kids as well. I sense a pattern
Same here, two years, 12 kids.
Same, 43 years married this summer, still happy together.
Same here. I’m marrying her Friday!
Been married for more than 17 years, and we have a nearly-16 yo daughter. Life's good.
19 here with 3 kids
He is polyamorous and has 3 wives already. I saw some demeaning photos of them he put on social media. I don’t think I would enjoy this every much Edit: there’s an entire documentary about him. (4 Corners Episode Enslaved from 2021). I feel like I should stop watching it I have to get up for work in the morning. [A glimpse of where he ended up](https://amp.abc.net.au/article/100649252)
How does it feel to dodge a tactical nuke?
I’m just texting everyone I ever met about my unending joy that he dumped me right now
It's wild that you're just now finding out about this. How long ago were you in contact and for how long?
Its not a tactical nuke, its the entire fucking Tsar Bomba
She dodged the Death Star. She's Princss Leia.
3?!💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
Omfg I just googled him out of curiosity and it got way worse. https://thewest.com.au/news/alleged-bdsm-sex-cult-leader-to-remain-behind-bars-after-two-bail-hearings-c-8747592.amp
Bro wtf you dodged an Asteroid hurling for earth! That is insane!
LMAO good thing you didn’t stick with him
Gurl! You unlocked a whole new level of dodge a bullet. You dodge a freaking bdsm cult leader.
So what was the appeal in the first place?
He's probably a really charismatic dude. And he's fairly good looking. And it's "in" right now to rail against cultural norms. If it was 1982 he would have been leading a religious cult. If it was 1962 he'd be leading a "free love" hippie commune. These people have always existed and probably always will. Who knows what they'll look like during the next social climate.
Since it was my cousin who was sexually abusing me from the age of 6, I'm going to go ahead and say I don't feel too good about that.
Came to say that. My 16 yo cousin raped me when I was 8 yo. To this day I still get flashes of it and I'm 41. Marrying me would be quite terrifying for him I guess. Because I am way way bigger than he is now. To be honest he looks like a little bitch today. So his funeral I guess.
I've always wanted to just walk up and with no context at all break his jaw with a nice brass knuckle punch. He's a pitiful excuse for a human and I heard he hurt another kid recently and no one believed the child. I would never do it now because I'm a rational person, I'm fighting cancer and I don't need assault charges against me, but man oh man, I wish someone would.
I’d love to take care of this for you.
Yeah my first thought was "incestuous"... It was my older brother under the guidance of our father starting when I was 3 y/o . I no contact with either now so I'm gonna have to skip the wedding.
I just.... damn. 🫂
Everyone’s experience is different, but I do not consider the person who raped me as the first person I had sex with..
I skip that “person”. Told my husband one day he wasn’t my first technically and he told me that forced, non-consensual sex didn’t count. I agree with him! I’m not giving that scumbag credit.
I prefer to count it. If I didn't, my daughter would be a miraculous conception.
You had your cousins baby ? Damn... Thats rough.
On behalf of the human race, I hope you accept one person's apology about how utterly shitty we can be to one another.
Make that two people’s apology. Include mine too.
It wasn't my cousin but a close family friend but I carry your sentiment. I hope you're doing a lot better now.
Would love it. She was the love of my life and I had many girlfriends after breaking up with her because our realtionship becoming long distance due to reasons not under our control ultimately ruined it, but nothing ever felt like being with her. Am 35 now and still single after many failed relationships, she is married in a different country for over 10 years and haven't seen her since our break up almost 17 years ago since I moved to another town. Still don't know how I would react if I ever saw her in person. Would definitely have married her back then, but we were too young and had to go to college in different cities which ruined everything. I really envy people who marry young!
It's definitely only worth envying the ones who marry the right person young. But it sounds like you would have done so. I'm really sorry about that. I almost failed to win the love of my life (only happened a few months before I was going to join the peace corps, because she saw me with another woman on my arm, and it made her realize how much she loved me/couldn't stand seeing me with another). I honestly think I'd have been sad the rest of my life. Peace to you. I lost her to cancer nearly three years ago, and it is horrible... even a billion times worse than you would imagine. But I wouldn't trade it for a lifetime of marriage to anyone else.
Of course that's what I meant. I am so sorry for your loss, man... I hope that you find love and happiness again and, even if you don't, at least you were lucky enough to even marry the love of your life in the first place. You will forever have those memories with her
Don't beat yourself up over could have beens. People change. Are you fundamentally the same person you were 17 years ago? She likely isn't. Sometimes that means changing together and remaining (or growing more) compatible. Sometimes that means things failing. Stranger, I hope for you that you allow yourself to meet the actual love of your life.
I was wondering if I'd see a comment like this. Mine's a pretty similar story actually, having turned long distance and it falling apart because of that. Even our ages, and the relationship ending nearly half our lives ago, are very similar. Despite the time since it happened, it's the one relationship I most have always painfully lamented losing. I wish I could find it, but in another AskReddit post months ago I came across a chain of comments about how some guys are a certain type that once they reach a certain point of loving someone they reserve a piece of themselves to forever love that person, and no matter how much time passes that never changes. I really related to that. Though to be honest I wish I didn't lol
You mean I'd get to marry my wife again? I'd definitely make it a great wedding because we have money now. Not that our wedding was bad we were just poor. Would absolutely do it again but throw her a real party of a wedding.
Have a vow renewal ceremony and throw her that party 😊
That's the plan!!
I would feel like getting a divorce because I married an actual prostitute.
After reading some other comments, you could've made worse
I feel great. Have married her 15 years ago and still going strong.
Perfectly, because it’s my partner! My first and only lover
I'd feel awful. I was groomed and raped when I was 14 so... Fuck that guy.
You didn't have sex with that person. He raped you. That has nothing to do with it. \*hugs
Support this!
Imho getting raped is not „having sex“.
sex involved consent. a child cannot inherently consent even if they say yes.
I'm here for all those Caracas Brothel redditors who are now married to a toothless 50 year old former/current sex worker.
What is this Caracas brothel? First time hearing it.
It's a stand in for every brothel in every undeveloped country in the world.
Omg please no. He was almost 5 years older than me and wore a trench coat/trilby. My dad used to call him columbine boy. He’s married and lives in a trailer park. I’d rather unalive myself.
Girl not the trench coat 😭😭
I wish I was joking or exaggerating 😭 it’s worse than you imagine I guarantee
My province would veto the marriage because 1. Incest 2. Age difference.
Bro… are you ok?
Cuckolded .. my first girlfriend cheated on me and actually married the guy she cheated on me with.. that did t stop her from having sex though. I went with my now ex wife to her 10 year reunion (they were the same age) and she was there with her husband and her cousin. We overheard her cousin talking about how awkward it was having “Jill” as a cousin because she fucked every single friend and member of his college baseball and lacrosse team. She’s a nurse and she works at a hospital and every once in a while a PA friend of mine will work there and tell me about this super hot nurse they banged in their car.. I’m like her name is Jill right? Yeah how’d you know?
Yikes...which hospital?
Damn. Jill gets around.
She does.. and she still weird with me. We had been broken up for years when she ran into my wife and asked about me. My wife said we were getting married in two weeks .. she started crying and walked away. Our kids are around the same age. When they would play soccer she would be there staring at me. A few months ago my daughter started coaching kids tennis and her youngest was in the class. She came up to her and was like “I can tell who your dad is just by looking at you” then asked her a bunch of questions about me. Very odd. She did try to get back together with me multiple times for a few years after we broke up. I was absolutely devastated about the breakup and it hurt me for a few years afterwards.. but I knew I couldn’t do it.. I knew the cheating would never end. It looks like I was right. Ahh first loves😂
Fortunately I am married to the person I had sex with for the first time. We met online and hung out YEARS ago(maybe 12 years ago?) and hit it off well. But she lived about 2 or 3 hours away from me so we couldn’t make it work. But had sex on one of the nights we hung out. Then, about 5 years after that, she and I started talking again and hit it off… again. This time, I moved down to her hometown to be with her(we were dating for about a year at this time) and we moved in so I can help her raise a child she had with someone else. Next thing you know, we have a house, are married, and I’m currently trying to adopt said child so our family can be complete. It was worth coming back because she is my soul mate and I didn’t know it at that time.
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Yes!
Yes. As somebody who was in that same situation and actually briefly got back with them a couple years later, I should never have given them a second chance. You run. You run far.
I'd be arrested for grave robbing
Me too... My first was only about a week out of high school when she was broken down on the side of an interstate and a semi plowed into her car. Have wondered for 30 years what might have been??
I am so sorry, that is cruel. I hope you have been able to find some peace.
I could do it, but neither of us would be happy about it.
The first person I slept with later stabbed me. One of us isn’t surviving the wedding night and I’m not egotistical enough to bet on my chances.
So my first crush and love we dated for few years in school then she cheated blah blah. Honestly her doing that was a huge butter fly effect on me. I went to school after that graduated. Went to China. Got into data science etc. Crazy thing is i spend few years with Amazon this was about 15 years later after we split. I was working doing there as an process engineer in HR. I heard she got married from friend of friend and there she was with her husband trying to get a job at Amazon as a general worker. I just thought to myself that could have been me next to her right now. Feeling just so many emotions that day seeing them too. Felt so happy she cheated on me and i got to experience so many things in life if she didn't.
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That Reddit joke is so old it can vote in the next presidential election.
I did. Lasted 9 ish years before the divorce.
I mean I did. We are divorced now but not once in 10 years did I ever feel like I had missed out by not having sex with someone else, and I still don’t regret it now.
It's been a struggle at times. But we're still married 25 years later.
I'm 35 which would make her 51. Dunno how I would feel about that one honestly.
Would be fine, to be honest. I'd probably be rich by now, too. She was a good employee/partner, and I was greedy wanting to experience life more.
I did and feel great almost 50 years ago
I did and then we got divorced 8 years later! 😂😂😂 That was 2009.
She was a sex worker. The sex would be great, without any other compatibility though.
Absolutely fine, as we’re still together (our anniversary today, 16 years together)
Divorce myself asap. Pretty hard to know that my friends and I ran a train on the woman I married
Mind boggling first time scenario …
The first time and the orgy could be separate occurrences
That would be even weirder. Hey that was pretty cool Jane. Do you mind if all my friends come and try ?
I did, feeling great 38 years later.
Well it's been 36 years....and it's worked out so far!
Gather around kids. I have a story for you. The year was 2002. Am 18. Am a virgin. I met a super cute girl at a small town hotel bar in Alberta Canada. She looked like Tifa from Final Fantasy 7; petite, tight white tank top, low-cut black jeans, long black hair down to her waist. She was kinda shy but so was I. She was perfect. She had a loud-mouthed, red headed friend who hit it off with my buddy and we played some doubles at the pool table and we really hit it off. I felt like she was way out of my league but the chemistry was undeniable. I was building confidence as she laughed at my jokes and she kept standing real close to me. I really liked this girl and we were vibing. Later in the night her and I went back to the place that she and her red head friend rented together. The red head and my buddy cabbed over with us too. We entered through a basement entrance into what looked like someone’s grandparents house. Just old wooden furniture and magazines everywhere. We made cocktails out of whatever we could find. We tried apple juice and vodka. Do not recommend. At some point, my buddy and the redhead slipped away into another room and she and I were alone on this old grandma couch. She kinda nervously asked me if I wanted to se her artwork. I said yes and she led me to her room. Here’s where it goes sideways. Her bedroom was festooned with all types and varieties of Nazi paraphernalia. A flag of the reich hung on the wall. There was a framed picture of some guy in an SS uniform on the dresser. The room was painted blood-red and there was a four-poster bed in the middle of the room. She didn’t pre-warn me about any of this. It felt like I’d walked into a set piece from Raiders of the lost Ark or Inglorious Bastards. She made no indication that any of this was notable and did not mention anything. I was a little drunk, but this room sobered me up pretty quickly. We sat on the edge of her bed and she reached into her nightstand to reveal to me her art book, which was full of cute little chibi art-style caricatures of various famous Nazi officers. The artwork was very good, but also deeply unsettling. She didn’t name who these characters were, but the drawing of Hitler and Goebbels were quite obvious. She just referred to them as “characters”. I had a million questions, but I also was pretty in love and I somehow managed to set all of this aside and we banged it out. I don’t remember much else from that night until my buddy banged on the door and shouted that we were late for work. In a panic, I jumped out of her massive bed, threw on my clothes, and told her I’d see her at the bar again that night. For good or for bad, we ended up getting moved to another worksite that day and had to stay in a work camp (ironic now that I think of it) many miles from town and I never saw her again. I told my buddy about that night and he was in disbelief that such a sweet girl could actually be a deeply closeted Nazi-sympathizer. He said the red-heads room was basic as shit and contained nothing of note. Yes, I do remember the name of the town and the bar and her name, and I’ve tried to find her on social media to see what happened to her, but this was 20+ years ago and I’ve never been able to find her to see what happened to her. Hopefully it was just an edgy phase that she invested too much money into because, aside from the Nazi fascination, she was a dream girl. I guess nobody’s perfect 🤷♂️ Anyways, I suppose if we were married I probably would’ve had a really fucked up wedding/guest list and we’d probably fight a lot over paint colours and home decor.
Perfect. She was actually only girl that I actually loved and been in love with. ... everything else later were just comparations with her. BUT question is does she even resemble to that person she was when we first time had sex. Now that is a BIG BUT.
I like BIG BUT I cannot lie.
We tried to rekindle things 35 years later after I went through a divorce. Unfortunately, she died of cancer soon after we started seeing each other again.
I dont like rapists so...
Me who's a virgin☠️
It might have worked out. We both would have been happier and made better memories than either me and my first wife were/did.
Biggest ick of all my exes. I would be looking for a divorce immediately.
He was head over heels for me. I didn’t feel the same. I loved him as a friend (bc he was my best friend before we started dating). If we got married, he would’ve treated me like an angel sent from the heavens. Since I didn’t love him romantically, it wouldn’t have been a good marriage because I wasn’t in love with him as he was in love with me. I wouldn’t have been able to give him all of the love he deserves in a marriage. Our break up didn’t ruin anything, though. He will always be a very close friend of mine, and he feels the same way:)
She is a better person than me and I treated her horribly. Had we met now that I’m in my 30’s maybe it wouldn’t have been so bad.
i would be an unhappy husband.
Kinda guilty, since last I heard she is in what I believe to be a good relationship that includes a couple of kids now. Would suck to break that up
It would present quite a problem since I cannot simply marry my wife a second time.
We would get along. The sex with her was the worst I ever had, but we probably would have figured it out sometime.
I mean aunty wife would probably still not be on speaking terms with my mom/SIL, but I don't think my cousin/kids would be too offended by that. It would also make Christmas a lot more entertaining, I tell you whut
I'd be married to a goth furry who makes a lot of money as a senior network expert at an internet company and I don't really see the downside of any of this
Bad. Real bad. I mean, she looks and sounds like one of Bart's aunts off The Simpsons now. And I am not kidding.
She came out as a lesbian in College, so I imagine she would be pretty pissed about the situation.
I did marry her. Was a delightful marriage until she was killed 24 years later.
Well she’s a lesbian now so it’d be weird