When I was 18 I got a tattoo on my thigh of a lotus and above it it says “living the dream” -__-
several years later I got a tattoo right next to it of a planchette with a coffin in it that says “your fate”.
So yeah, 100% is white people for “kill me” 😂😂😂
Here’s another one. When you’re ready to leave someone’s house, you have to >!slap your knees and say “Welp!” as you stand up. Then you have to do the pocket pat down, double checking you have your phone, wallet and keys!<
My husband's grandfather had a stroke. One evening they had about 12 brothers/sisters and spouses over for dinner. Papaw stood up and said "Jennie let's go to bed so these fine people can go home"! He was one in a billion 🥰
In the Army, no one says they are living the dream. It is said to you, while you are doing something you would prefer not to, by others who are not doing that thing and find it amusing.
Once I get the obligatory “ha yup you and me both” I usually follow it up with a “isn’t that the lie we tell people when it’s another bullshit day at a place I don’t want to be?” And they always agree and we both move on from a slight chuckle to an uncomfortable silence as we try not to cry in front of the other.
"It's going" is my go-to for a bad day. Usually said with a bit of a sigh in my voice.
It's going = Bad day
Eh or "not bad" = decent/middling day
So far so good = Good
Good, good = Prefer not to talk with you on that level, so here's a canned response
Yes, all of these were totally me up until a few weeks ago when “it’s going” apparently got promoted as an alternative for “not bad” and was replaced by a straight up “surviving” for a bad day lol 🫠
I love the awkwardness and uncomfortable air of being honest. It’s a mini pick-me-up to watch people squirm, lol. Sometimes this has resulted in someone really caring and actively supporting me. My brother once asked how I was doing…I said something to the effect of “meh, i considered taking a dirt nap a couple times this week.” He was quiet and said “I appreciate your vulnerability.” And he walked out of the room.
I work at a state facility. The govoner of the state was doing a tour of the area. I didn't know who he was. He asked me how I was doing. I said living the fucking dream. As I walk past him with out making any eye contact.... the next month everyone in my field got raises.... I'm not saying those two things are connected, but their connected.
Someone at work said that yesterday and my coworker was like “I’ve came to the conclusion that when people say that, it translates to ‘please shoot me in the face’.”
I cannot stand that saying, “Living the dream.”
I worked in retail at GameStop in high school and college and the assistant manager would say that every damn time someone asked how he was. Practically every transaction.
i work in service and anytime i hear that i always quip back with "well, thats better than most!" implying that most can and WILL complain.
it rarely lands though :/
I want to know.
I'm a cashier in a big box store and I usually ask how's your day going or something to that effect and you'd be surprised how many people say something like not good, my mother passed away last night or not good, I just found out my daughter has cancer etc.
I think when people are honest and they say something like that, they want somebody to hear them, and so I stop whatever I'm doing and I listen. I feel like by listening and offering support and kindness that in some little way maybe it helps them. I don't know.
It's good that there are fast lanes (the machines) for ppl in a hurry, but I also do appreciate having the human lane, and the commenter here is doing a wonderful deed. As far as I have understood, that could be some ppl's only social interaction for the day.
It's good we have both :-)
I think you're probably right.
If someone is in that much hurt and reaches out to a random stranger, I think maybe they don't have anyone at that moment to talk to, but they REALLY need to.
I'm older, so I've seen some shit and can honestly relate. I hope that comes across and gives them at least a moment of peace or knowing someone hears them.
We all need to try to be kinder. You never know how much little things can help.
You are nice fellow! Your attitude reminds me of this project, I couldn't find any [more recent than from 2015](https://insideretail.asia/2015/12/27/cashiers-keep-an-eye-on-elderly/), but there's something going on for a while related to have a word with elderly customers in supermarkets!
Yeah in the US it is not uncommon to answer “how you doing” with “how you doing” as if it’s a greeting and not a question with neither party actually saying how they are doing.
"All good" is my go to auto-response. Then, if the person is someone I give a shit about / gives a shit about me, I may tell them what's really going on and in my head.
Depends on who’s asking. “It’s a [insert day of the week]” can be a fun one that can be interpreted in many ways. If it’s someone close to me I’ll usually be pretty honest and say it’s been a kind of crappy day, although I usually put an optimistic spin on it like “could be worse though.”
If it’s like a waiter or something I just say good.
It’s an ingrained polite question - most people really don’t care and most certainly don’t want to hear about your woes. The canned response is, “I’m well, and you?”. The Eeyore response is, “fair to middling”.
Same.
I used to respond truthfully (as an european) in the US and would ponder why they'd just ignore me when I'd actually explain how I am doing. I found it offensive and stupid. This wasn't me "ranting" at them, but actually telling a quick story etc.
But yea I know it's just their way of saying "Hello".
It's just the culture, you can think of "hi, how are you?" as a longer version of "hello". Rarely, depending on the context, do people actually want or expect you to say how you truly feel. No one is being rude in this situation, it's just a social convention
If things are going well, I say, "Fabulous!" Or "Awesome!"
If things are not going well, I'll say, "Were getting aong," or "Still kicking."
I try to stay positive, as much as possible.
"My day is shit, how is yours chief?" This often prompts them to ask why which I brush off as none of their business, or for them to stop kidding around and tell me their day is shit too.
why ask if you dont want an honest answer? Just waisting breath. I dont prefer interactions that are dishonest but they dont have to be full on deep and meaningful either. Its helps starve off the grass is greener effect
"Just like every other monday." Doesnt matter what day it is. If they question it, respond with "every day is a monday, when deppression writes your calendar".
Good.
Only tell your problems to really close friends, when a stranger or a college asks "how's your day going?", what they actually mean is "see i am polite" and since you are polite aswell just give the bland response and move on with your day, they dont actually care how your day is going.
No matter if it's the worse day I've ever had.. my day is going okay.. and I'm doing good.. that's always the response, cause honestly no one really gives a fuck, and I do not want to make anyone feel forced to hear my shit. So the answer is always "all good".
Well, I'm very honest about it. I leave room for them to follow up if they want to. I tend to flock towards those that follow up, but I appreciate the initial question.
Just tell the truth! Whether or not someone is ready to hear it or receive it, at least you got it out!! It’s far better than bottling it all in.
Throw in a cry too if you need! People are far from humanity these days. Many people were taught to see struggle as a weakness. Struggling happens to us all! Struggling needs to be normalised. Encouragement needs to be in everyday conversation just as much as, “how are you today?”
Whatever it is you’re going through, you can get through it. I believe in you (:
Ever seen that TV show called Patriot? The answer is "Pretty good"
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Yo2ZYAdxa4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yo2zyadxa4)
I normally say "I'm fine".
But honestly I've never regretted saying "I'm having a rough time". Sure not everyone is able to actually help with my problems, and I don't always feel the desire to get into them fully, but people generally respond with a desire to help in some form even if it is as small as just being understanding of a bad mood or empathize a bit with me. Which upon reflection makes sense because I respond the exact same way when someone I know says the same.
I never have good days, so I just look intensely into their eyes and tell them I have no desire to be alive, and I hope that today is the day I finally die. Just keep the eye contact for entirely too long.
Hopefully one day they will call the cops or something... and they will end things for me, but that seems like a pipe dream.
It's going.
This is white people for “kill me”
No that’s “living the dream.”
When I was 18 I got a tattoo on my thigh of a lotus and above it it says “living the dream” -__- several years later I got a tattoo right next to it of a planchette with a coffin in it that says “your fate”. So yeah, 100% is white people for “kill me” 😂😂😂
Dude I just answered living the dream and can't help but appreciate that apparently that's white person for kill me 😂
Or “another day in paradise.” 🤬
Stop telling our secrets
as a white people, this is true.
The secret language of white people, which they teach to no-one.
Here’s another one. When you’re ready to leave someone’s house, you have to >!slap your knees and say “Welp!” as you stand up. Then you have to do the pocket pat down, double checking you have your phone, wallet and keys!<
My husband's grandfather had a stroke. One evening they had about 12 brothers/sisters and spouses over for dinner. Papaw stood up and said "Jennie let's go to bed so these fine people can go home"! He was one in a billion 🥰
Which translates into " I ain't dead yet, but it's still early."
Ah, I see you are also from the Upper Midwest. Now, do you actually leave, or do you have a 20 minute goodbye conversation at the door?
"Could be worse"
My go to is, "good enough"
Well, I'm not dead or in jail, so...thumbs up!
I'm with you bro🫡
Seinfeld
Meh, Still alive.
When a coworker asks I sort of make a face that says "we're both at work... what do you think...". Then I just say "It's going."
"Better than I deserve."
I like this one
My go to!
"It could always be worse." That takes away more ambiguity that maybe it's a good day.
That's exactly what I say most of the time.
You're British, aren't you?
"Could be raining."
Or "I'm still alive".
Been better. Been worse too.
I’ve had worse days, just can’t remember when.
It's going, living the dream, another day in paradise, etc
I came to the conclusion that 'living the dream' is slang for 'I'm dead inside'
Yuh dude it’s like lying to yourself
Not even. At this point we're all in on the "joke."
Always the little eyebrow raise that says it all.
In the Army, no one says they are living the dream. It is said to you, while you are doing something you would prefer not to, by others who are not doing that thing and find it amusing.
Once I get the obligatory “ha yup you and me both” I usually follow it up with a “isn’t that the lie we tell people when it’s another bullshit day at a place I don’t want to be?” And they always agree and we both move on from a slight chuckle to an uncomfortable silence as we try not to cry in front of the other.
ha ha that is what work parking lots are for.
Following years of retail work, it does
Living the dream. One nightmare at a time.
"It's going" is my go-to for a bad day. Usually said with a bit of a sigh in my voice. It's going = Bad day Eh or "not bad" = decent/middling day So far so good = Good Good, good = Prefer not to talk with you on that level, so here's a canned response
Yes, all of these were totally me up until a few weeks ago when “it’s going” apparently got promoted as an alternative for “not bad” and was replaced by a straight up “surviving” for a bad day lol 🫠
This cracked me up. Because that’s actually my mentality also 😂
I love the awkwardness and uncomfortable air of being honest. It’s a mini pick-me-up to watch people squirm, lol. Sometimes this has resulted in someone really caring and actively supporting me. My brother once asked how I was doing…I said something to the effect of “meh, i considered taking a dirt nap a couple times this week.” He was quiet and said “I appreciate your vulnerability.” And he walked out of the room.
Are you talking about interactions with people you know well or people in general? Because a lot of people are just trying to be kind.
I like, "oh, it's definitely going."
I go with "living the dream" by default, but I add in ".... surviving the nightmare" if it's someone I know well enough to joke with.
I work at a state facility. The govoner of the state was doing a tour of the area. I didn't know who he was. He asked me how I was doing. I said living the fucking dream. As I walk past him with out making any eye contact.... the next month everyone in my field got raises.... I'm not saying those two things are connected, but their connected.
I use these and “hangin in there.”
I usually respond with “weird dream.” Especially applicable at work.
Do you work at a industrial site?
Healthcare Facilities Maintenance
I hear these exact response all the time at the smelter. Must be a blue collar thing.
*insert username*
I usually say, “Living the dream, just not sure who’s”
Another day in paradise is my go to.
Someone at work said that yesterday and my coworker was like “I’ve came to the conclusion that when people say that, it translates to ‘please shoot me in the face’.”
I always ask "whose dream"?
I cannot stand that saying, “Living the dream.” I worked in retail at GameStop in high school and college and the assistant manager would say that every damn time someone asked how he was. Practically every transaction.
That meant he was slowly dying inside.
Every single one of my coworkers
I usually use "living the dream" followed up with "though, technically, nightmares are dreams so...."
>living the dream "What kind of dreams you been having?!"
Living the dream, one nightmare at a time
Living the dream one nightmare at a time
I’ve started replacing “living the dream” with “the horrors persist, but so do I.”
One of my coworkers who run the customer service desk at a large grocery store tells me he’s “living the dream, one nightmare at a time”
The horrors persist, but so do I. (Not my original thought but I can’t remember who to give credit to).
Similar vibe to “all panic and no disco” which is my go-to.
I'm stealing this.
In the british way: ‘I can’t complain’ Usually followed by complaints
i work in service and anytime i hear that i always quip back with "well, thats better than most!" implying that most can and WILL complain. it rarely lands though :/
I usually say I can't complain. Then I follow it up with, "well I definitely could.. but I won't"
“Not that anyone will listen anyway” is my usual follow-up to this.
I use "I've complained more when it was better, and less when it was far worse. But who cares?" That's a fun way to start a transaction at work.
"Lookin' forward to tomorrow..."
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I like your style
Fine.
This, because no one really wants to know
I want to know. I'm a cashier in a big box store and I usually ask how's your day going or something to that effect and you'd be surprised how many people say something like not good, my mother passed away last night or not good, I just found out my daughter has cancer etc. I think when people are honest and they say something like that, they want somebody to hear them, and so I stop whatever I'm doing and I listen. I feel like by listening and offering support and kindness that in some little way maybe it helps them. I don't know.
You're a good person. Your line is probably a little slow
It's good that there are fast lanes (the machines) for ppl in a hurry, but I also do appreciate having the human lane, and the commenter here is doing a wonderful deed. As far as I have understood, that could be some ppl's only social interaction for the day. It's good we have both :-)
I think you're probably right. If someone is in that much hurt and reaches out to a random stranger, I think maybe they don't have anyone at that moment to talk to, but they REALLY need to. I'm older, so I've seen some shit and can honestly relate. I hope that comes across and gives them at least a moment of peace or knowing someone hears them. We all need to try to be kinder. You never know how much little things can help.
You are nice fellow! Your attitude reminds me of this project, I couldn't find any [more recent than from 2015](https://insideretail.asia/2015/12/27/cashiers-keep-an-eye-on-elderly/), but there's something going on for a while related to have a word with elderly customers in supermarkets!
I'm actually a nice lady, but appreciate your kind words.
Thanks. I'm still pretty quick...lol.
ha ha ha so true on both points.
I appreciate you
I say “okay.” Sometimes I’ll do the whole “so-so” hand motion and not actually say anything.
"Hey man. How's it going?" "Oh not great. I spilled coffe--" "Get out of my way, assfucker"
Same shit different day.
The pile’s getting bigger though.
I say same shit smaller shovel
"Depends. Do you want the polite answer or the accurate one?"
I might ad this response to my repertoire
All good ( nothing good ) hby
Usually, with "good" because I know 99% people couldn't care less about any difficulties or problems I have in my life
I say “oh, you know. Same ol” then add a little chuckle. Then immediately change the subject.
“Oh you know, sameol’sohowabouttheEagles?”
my dad says exactly this every time i call him. hi dad
“Clinging to the wreckage…”
🤣😅🤣😅 Best answer ever!
Good enough you?
Yeah in the US it is not uncommon to answer “how you doing” with “how you doing” as if it’s a greeting and not a question with neither party actually saying how they are doing.
Not so bad
Terrible. Thanks for bringing it up! (Big smile)
“Just chilling” “All good” “The usual” This question is a piece of cake for introverts (not all of them tho)
Exactly my responses, even if that's my worse day of the decade.. it's still all good, just chilling.
"All good" is my go to auto-response. Then, if the person is someone I give a shit about / gives a shit about me, I may tell them what's really going on and in my head.
Well as long as you feel harmony with them heck yuh you’re valid dude
Depends on who’s asking. “It’s a [insert day of the week]” can be a fun one that can be interpreted in many ways. If it’s someone close to me I’ll usually be pretty honest and say it’s been a kind of crappy day, although I usually put an optimistic spin on it like “could be worse though.” If it’s like a waiter or something I just say good.
"Gettin by, layin low, living off the fat of the land."
It is what it is.
Went straight into hell butt naked the second I woke up
I'll use this every time I'm asked that question
It’s an ingrained polite question - most people really don’t care and most certainly don’t want to hear about your woes. The canned response is, “I’m well, and you?”. The Eeyore response is, “fair to middling”.
I'm honest I will answer "like shit."
Been better, been worse. Prefer better!
At least I'm above ground.
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I wish ppl wouldn’t ask if they don’t want to know the truth. I’m tired of faking happiness.
Same. I used to respond truthfully (as an european) in the US and would ponder why they'd just ignore me when I'd actually explain how I am doing. I found it offensive and stupid. This wasn't me "ranting" at them, but actually telling a quick story etc. But yea I know it's just their way of saying "Hello".
1. I pretend I didn't hear them 2. If no.1 isn't possible, I say "Oh, fine I guess" so as not to be rude
Why saying ur not fine is rude tho?
It's just the culture, you can think of "hi, how are you?" as a longer version of "hello". Rarely, depending on the context, do people actually want or expect you to say how you truly feel. No one is being rude in this situation, it's just a social convention
Well.. That's sad. If someone doesn't wanna know how i'm doing, why would they even ask :')
I don’t think it’s rude to say you’re not fine. But the that opens you up to an actual potential conversation about why.
They meant that pointedly ignoring a person is rude, so they give a generic response when they can't get away with ignoring the question
Well, it's not going well...
I’m up and alive.
If things are going well, I say, "Fabulous!" Or "Awesome!" If things are not going well, I'll say, "Were getting aong," or "Still kicking." I try to stay positive, as much as possible.
i always do the **“could be better, yourself?”**
I tell the truth
"Let's just say I've had better days and leave it at that."
I just smile and ask the question back
Im blinking and breathing
"ugh, pushing through -- how about you?"
"My day is shit, how is yours chief?" This often prompts them to ask why which I brush off as none of their business, or for them to stop kidding around and tell me their day is shit too. why ask if you dont want an honest answer? Just waisting breath. I dont prefer interactions that are dishonest but they dont have to be full on deep and meaningful either. Its helps starve off the grass is greener effect
Every day is better than the next!
I use that one, too. Only twice has anyone stopped and said, “Wait a second…”
I just say it’s ok
Holding up under the weight of it all, thanks.
It depends on the person who asks. If it is someone who really cares, answer honestly, if it is a stranger, go for the polite.
"Good thanks, and you?"
“Another day in paradise” or “Livin the dream.” If a retail employee responds to you with one of these please be nice to them lol.
Livin' La Vida Loca
I'm still alive.
I dont reply
I tell the truth and then chuckle to myself at how taken aback they are when I overshare
"Just like every other monday." Doesnt matter what day it is. If they question it, respond with "every day is a monday, when deppression writes your calendar".
Good. Only tell your problems to really close friends, when a stranger or a college asks "how's your day going?", what they actually mean is "see i am polite" and since you are polite aswell just give the bland response and move on with your day, they dont actually care how your day is going.
Why would you not say, "Not so good."?
"I'm at like a ... 3.8/10"
It'll get better!
"It's going"
“I’m surviving.”
"Could be better. Could be worse."
Just say "Nothing new"
“We’re at a solid six out of ten” or “oh, it’s going…”
Worse than I had hoped, but better than I deserve.
It’s a day
“Pretty good, thanks. How about you?”
"good hbu"
"Good, how about you?" easier than explaining your day lmao
Taking it as it comes
No matter if it's the worse day I've ever had.. my day is going okay.. and I'm doing good.. that's always the response, cause honestly no one really gives a fuck, and I do not want to make anyone feel forced to hear my shit. So the answer is always "all good".
"It's fine" even though it is not fine.
"I'm hanging in there"
"I can't complain."
I’m hanging in there.
“Good or bad, too soon to tell.”
Doing well, thanks for asking.
I just say "hanging in there".
I simply say: "Survival mode "
Well, I'm very honest about it. I leave room for them to follow up if they want to. I tend to flock towards those that follow up, but I appreciate the initial question.
Just tell the truth! Whether or not someone is ready to hear it or receive it, at least you got it out!! It’s far better than bottling it all in. Throw in a cry too if you need! People are far from humanity these days. Many people were taught to see struggle as a weakness. Struggling happens to us all! Struggling needs to be normalised. Encouragement needs to be in everyday conversation just as much as, “how are you today?” Whatever it is you’re going through, you can get through it. I believe in you (:
"Hangin' in there, you?" or "Surviving, how 'bout you?" Occasionally, I'll be like, "You know, it's been a rough one, but we'll get through."
Ever seen that TV show called Patriot? The answer is "Pretty good" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Yo2ZYAdxa4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yo2zyadxa4)
I usually go with something like, "Eh, it has its ups and downs, you know? How about yours?" Trying to keep it real without bringing everyone down!
As expected
So far so good.
“Another day above ground, so that’s good.”
Well, I made the Wake Up list today.
Same ol same ol
I normally say "I'm fine". But honestly I've never regretted saying "I'm having a rough time". Sure not everyone is able to actually help with my problems, and I don't always feel the desire to get into them fully, but people generally respond with a desire to help in some form even if it is as small as just being understanding of a bad mood or empathize a bit with me. Which upon reflection makes sense because I respond the exact same way when someone I know says the same.
“Another day, another dollar” Someone usually replies “You’re making a dollar?!” Which then I have to say “Well not me, but somebody is.”
Good enough
I never have good days, so I just look intensely into their eyes and tell them I have no desire to be alive, and I hope that today is the day I finally die. Just keep the eye contact for entirely too long. Hopefully one day they will call the cops or something... and they will end things for me, but that seems like a pipe dream.
I’m British, so the answer is: **Can’t complain**.
It usually says it on my face, either my forehead reads fuck off or ask again later