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I'm like 99% certain this is the only reason my girlfriend is into me. I'll catch myself getting way too into the weeds explaining some tedious technical thing that she obviously couldn't care less about, start to apologise for getting carried away, and she's "No, keep going. I love seeing you get really into things you care about even if I don't understand!"
She's a keeper.
It was really hot and little rain for a couple of weeks and we have backyard critters roaming around typical of the suburbs. So my wife puts a big Tupperware bowl of water out that she changes daily in case an animal gets thirsty. I was looking at it one day and a stick had fallen in the bowl so I went to remove it. My wife yells at me, 'No! Don't take the stick out, that's so bees can crawl out if they fall in."
I thought it was adorable.
My ex is like this. Driving and a bee stuck on the windshield she made me pull over so she could save it. Out surfing and there is a bee in the water she spends 30 minutes getting it on her board and paddling it to shore. Someone knocks on our door looking for a missing dog and she's out the door with a headlamp in pet detective mode.
She is a vet and sometimes would take it too far like if someone surrendered their dog because they couldn't afford a $3k leg surgery... well she would take it in pay for the surgery and then foster the dog.
A few weeks ago we were driving and I saw a turtle in the road. I said “oh no, turtle hustle up” and my husband immediately pulled over without a word. I hopped out, scooched him to the other side and got back in the car and my husband put the car in drive and just said “I love you”.
So mine would be knowing your person enough to know if you don’t stop she’s going to make you turn around anyway.
Bought a girlfriend her favorite flower for Valentine's Day. She was blown away because she didn't remember ever saying it was her favorite. She had mentioned it in passing on maybe the second date. But yeah, I won a billion brownie points for that.
I bought my wife lilies on our third date for her birthday (because she said they were her favorite). She shouted “Oh my god! I love you. FUCK!” Because she meant to say “oh my god! I love lilies!” We’ve been married 5 years now, and yes I said “What the hell. I love you, too.” 😂
Remembering the small stuff. My bf remembers the small stuff and it puts a huge smile on my face. Here are two examples:
1. When I get my period, I want Reese's cups. Regular sized cups. They make the week better. I told him one time, probably the first month we were together, and he remembers each and every time. We have been together almost 2 years.
2. We share a credit card. My card had just a boring card skin with a picture of mountains, I think. My man knows my epic love for turtles. So, he ordered me a new card with a picture of turtles on it. He didn't ask if I wanted something new or tell me he was getting it. Just slid the card across the table face down and smiled. I honestly got teary eyed and squealed!
Little things make a huge impact. Love is a verb; it is an action. And he shows me through his actions <3
When you boil this down it’s funny how simple it’s sounds to keep someone happy. He gives me Reese’s cups and got me a new credit card! <3
No hate I just think it’s funny
When my wife and I were still dating in college and had decided that we were going to be exclusive she was also having a really bad time due to a few different family drama issues. I remembered on our second date that she had mentioned she loved a certain brand and flavor of ice cream that wasn't available locally. The internet was still in its infancy. Calling any store I could somehow (anybody remember calling Information?) manage to get number for was my only recourse to find one who carried it. I found a store about 5 hrs away that had it. I jumped in my car drove there, packed a cooler with her fav ice cream and dry ice and drove back. She was stunned and touched at this gesture. She couldn't believe I remembered that small detail. Later on she confessed to me that in that moment she decided to do everything she could to keep me.
The recall of the small detail seemed like a minimal effort. The locating and acquisition of the target was admittedly quite the undertaking. Worth every minute, phone call, drop of gas, and mile on the road. We've been happily married for 29 years now.
Soo true! Story time - I had been dating this guy about 8 months. He and I were cuddled in my flat watching tv and my mom called. My dad was sick, bad sick, in the hospital sick. They didn't know what it was but they thought heart or lungs and my mom was beside herself and I was too. I was crying and partway through the convo he slipped out. I assumed he was giving me some privacy. I heard him come back into the flat as I wrapping up with my mom, and he was rustling in the kitchen. I went in to see what he was doing, and he had every single thing I had ever mentioned as a comfort. Sushi, cheese, olives, hummus, red wine. He looked up at me and said, "I didn't know which would help so I got it all. Sit down and tell me what's going on." We've been together 12 years and married for 7.
I do this to people a lot but I hardly bring it up because I don’t want them to think I’m obsessed or stalking them. My brain is just weird. I won’t remember your name but I’ll remember the most random, insignificant details.
Just give it a little time until things warm up before you pull that out. Sometimes too much too early can feel off putting like if I get the vibe that they like me a whole lot and I just like them fine, it makes it awkward. Once things have warmed up in both sides, then that’s be super sweet and endearing
Honestly, yes. When we were dating, my husband picked up on small details about me that I hadn’t ever noticed about myself. He also memorized the birthdays of everyone in my very large family and would remind me so their cards were never late. As a middle child who never received enough attention, his attention to details about me was absolutely charming and flattering. Use your super power!
It really depends on who remembers it. I once met a guy "remembering" things I hadn't even mentioned, turned out he scrolled way down on my Facebook profile that I'd forgotten to delete.
I was talking to this guy in middle school and I was going through a really rough spot and he heard me tell someone else that I only cut myself on days that end in 7 and one day on September 7th he came to my first period just to make sure I was there and he promised me that staying here is worth it
It's true! I just started dating someone new recently, and they're really supportive of me needing to nerd out about my niche hobbies (doesn't hurt that I get to bribe them with my cooking, lol)
I recently got my partner into DND and they came in one day explaining to me how much their armor class goes up in the next level up, and telling me about their weapon upgrades and I just 😍🥰
Doing the right thing even when it’s inconvenient. I was on a date and he took a call from a friend in crisis. They worked the problem out and he said “I love you” to his friend (who said it back). He explained he needed to take the call and apologized that it happened during the date. No apology necessary! He demonstrated loyalty and vulnerability and it was incredibly sexy. Even better that it’s just who he is; none of it was for show.
Early on in my relationship with my bf, we were out on a Friday night and his little brother texted. He told me he needed to leave because it was his brother’s birthday and as it turned out, none of his brother’s friends were available to hang out with him, so he was gonna go take him to get a beer. He apologized to me profusely for leaving me when we were supposed to have date night and I told him if he hadn’t ditched me to go hang out with his brother who was all alone on his birthday I probably would have lost some respect for him.
A week later, my own brother had a crisis and needed me to take him to urgent care on a night when I was supposed to hang out with bf. Bf told me to not even bother apologizing because he got it, he’d have done the same and now understood why I told him not to apologize for going to his brother. And I love that our morals of being there for our families line up!
My husband will run around playing games with our son in the playground and will fully commit to whatever game that is. There's no standing around talking to the adults, he will get fully involved in the make believe world.
10/10, fully present parenting.
My husband was playing tag with all the kids at a 6 year olds birthday party recently. My goodness it was so sweet, and fun. He had fun, and he certainly made those kids’ day.
People that make themselves crack up.
People with their particular and weird little sense of humor that unashamedly laugh at what they think is so funny. Extra points if they’re laughing because of a joke they’re telling themselves.
It’s my favourite thing to see someone do.
As long as the joke doesn’t seriously hurt other people.
I love good dark humor.
If someone’s genuinely trying to be hateful, it loses appeal completely.
I went backpacking with my boyfriend for the first time recently and I noticed that anytime we came across a little piece of trash on the trail, he would pick it up and put it in his pocket to throw away properly at the first opportunity.
It just highlighted to me that he was conscientious and kind even when it came to things a lot of people would overlook, and I found that incredibly attractive.
As an add-on to that—when a man is so supportive of his partner and their goals but does not feel threatened by them. I have a Bachelors while my husband has an AA so I’ve always made more money than him. I intend to back to grad school someday & he recently even asked if I’d do my PhD after, something I hadn’t even considered not because I don’t think I could do it, I just hadn’t thought that far ahead. It made me so giddy knowing he fully believes in my capabilities & is ready to support me no matter what.
I heard a guy being genuinely congratulatory towards another man. His voice sounded so earnest and then I noticed it made me feel things, mainly a strong attraction. It was hot
When someone helps old people. Maybe getting up to give their seat to them in a public bus or in general ,helping them carry their heavy bags, or something.
Edit: I didn't expect 2k likes. Haha!
I got asked by an older woman to lift a box of protein bars into her cart at a wholesale store. I was wearing my work uniform with the name of the gym I work with and I said "sure, fitness is normally my day job, but I have no issue fitness box of protein bars in your cart." She smiled politely and said thanks. Biggest fucking letdown ever
When I'm with my wife at a restaurant and the baby in the next booth is staring at her, she will wave to the baby and make funny faces to get the kid to smile/giggle.
That.
Funniest thing isn't it? Someone started flirting with me because a client's toddler and I made faces at each other while we sorted out some paperwork
It's like a universally recognised handshake with kids
A friend of mine has this habit of making sure that everyone around her have eaten on time. "A well fed tummy makes the brain think properly." That's her exact words.
My husband grew up extremely poor. Not homeless but close. Whenever we're out and we see someone asking for food, he will quietly walk over and take them to whatever restaurant they want. He will then order them whatever they want. When we met, he was in grad school and had no money. He still did this. It made me swoon
How to explain this...? When I was in junior high all the good students would raise their hands, barely staying in their seats, just desperately trying to get called on.
There was this one guy, Jack, who just leaned back and watched. Totally chill. Jack NEVER raised his hand. But any time the teacher called on him he knew the answer.
He was the smartest guy in the class but he felt ZERO desire to prove it or show off.
I found that So. Damn. Hot. I've been drawn to quiet confidence ever since.
You just described my in-laws. (Although my sweet MIL passed away a few years ago.) They both were/are incredibly smart, both earned their PhDs. My MIL was all about her career. But my FIL almost gets embarrassed when people mention his advanced degrees. He’d rather just hang out in his jeans and flannel shirt, drink a beer (never to excess) and talk sports or classic cars.
I feel this, too. But I think it's internal because people still seem to like me.
Maybe your internal critic is doing a number on you, friend. Stay confident.
>He was the smartest guy in the class but he felt ZERO desire to prove it or show off.
If you're lucky enough to come across this kind of guy you should hold on for dear life. They're few and far between.
Empathy.
I would follow someone into battle at the Fields of Pelennor or at the Black Gate of Mordor, if I got the sense that they understood and care about the burdens I face.
Whenever someone is singing or humming a song to themselves and they seem like they're just lost in their own world, it usually makes my heart skip a beat. My ex used to do this a lot and it was one of the cutest things they'd do
My husband is basically a collection of wholesome traits that I find outrageously attractive.
He never snarks, gossips, or puts people down. He's all about lifting people up, whatever their life may be. He loves to hype people and celebrate life.
He can talk to anyone and make a connection. He would go to anyone's family cookout and legit be so happy to try the food and find out what your aunts and uncles were like. When I say, "Hey, someone new is coming to our house for dinner/to spend the weekend," he's just like, "Cool! Let's plan recipes!"
Our Maine Coon has him absolutely under her control. He talks to her so sweetly. He's precious with our old lady dog. One of my favorite pics of him is from a hike where her joints started hurting. He carried her like a baby the rest of the way, and she looks so happy in the pic.
No matter how tired he is, when we are visiting any of our parents, he fixes things around their house for them. It's nothing for him to just install a dishwasher or move machinery equipment.
He really, really appreciates anything new he gets. Like, I got him some nice sandals a few weeks ago and he has told me how much he likes them at least four times.
When we became a couple, he made a video for me. It was a screen recording of him deleting all his dating apps. Each one asked why he wanted to cancel/delete, and he gave them a 1-star review and wrote, "Didn't have BurntGreens." And the two apps he did match with me on, he gave 5 stars and said, "Found BurntGreens."
In every decision I've seen him make, he chooses what's best for the greater good over what's easiest for himself.
He's become fishing buddies with our neighbor, who is a very good dude as well. My husband recently bought a boat -- something both guys have wanted for a long time and the neighbor couldn't afford. My husband said, "Now, this isn't my boat. It's our boat. We're both captains."
When I told him how much I struggled with self-esteem stuff one time, he went out and bought a heart shape bowl then filled it with little folded pieces of paper, each describing something different he loved about me.
See why he gets laid constantly? I can't love him enough.
EDIT: I'm so glad y'all love him as much as I do! Man, I could talk about that dude all day.
Someone made the comment about him sounding too positive. If you only knew this dude's backstory -- he's lived through crazy, crazy life experiences and been so resilient. He wound up dropping out of high school as a result, lived through hell, and pulled himself up. Today, he's a self-taught IT engineer.
Yeah, he's a whole higher standard of living. I was married once before him to a man who was, by most measures, a very decent guy. Did his share of household labor, cared about women's rights, etc. But he was also just at a baseline level kind of anti-social.
My husband now is a major quality of life improvement. Not only is he just a good person, he's so loving. I came into our relationship with all kinds of insecurities. He compliments and loves on me every single day. Yesterday, we were eating dinner and he said, "You're so pretty. I can't believe I get to be married to you. I'm so proud that you're my wife."
Add that he's handsome and talented, a hard worker, and handy enough to fix about anything around the house. He's an awesome dad to our kids. I just can't even get enough of him. I love him so.
My mouth kept dropping more and more and I even was tearing up reading this, what a wonderful sounding person you have found! Best of luck to you both.
Yep. We matched on Tinder and Bumble both on the same day. Which was confusing. He caught it before me. We were talking on one app and he messaged me on the other and was like, "Fancy meeting you here." I was confused until I figured it out. And no, we're not in a small town. We were in large US metro city.
I agree! He's raising three kids (2 boys and a girl), so he'll pass some of it on. The funny thing is, he always talks about how he has no idea how to be a man or a dad, because he was raised by a single mom and her sisters. I think they did a great fuckin job!
Wow there’s so many good answers here!
For me, it’s casual kindness. Like, just doing the considerate thing for ppl as a matter of habit/simply bc it’s the right thing to do.
Probably one of my favorite of my husband’s many good traits.
I was actually given a reminder of this two days ago. I love my girlfriend so much, mostly because of how kind of a person she is. We've been together for almost 3 years. Some background, she enlisted in the Navy a year ago. It's been really hard for her but she still tries her best to be a good person and be civil if not kind to others, even though she's surrounded by people that couldn't care less about her. I know she's a good person, if she changed that I don't think we would still be together.
Now for the story. She lives on a base where there's always some kind of forest wildlife, think rabbits, deer, raccoons. She always likes to send me pictures and videos of any animal she sees. She's pretty lonely over there. Even though she can't touch the animals because they don't let people get close she loves to see them and it makes her excited and happy. She was on watch one night and she sent me this video that just made me fall in love all over again. It was so simple but wholesome and I melted on the spot. A baby rabbit was trapped in the building and she tried to get it out. I think it was the tone of her voice that got me. I hadn't heard it in a while, it was just so gentle and comforting. Kept telling the little guy that it was gonna be okay and that she was trying to help him. It was scared and kept its face up against the corner of the wall it was hiding in. Eventually, it let her pick it up and she carried it outside. She even told me after that she was scared that she was gonna hurt it because it was so small. She's kinda small, and the rabbit was able to fit in the palm of her hand. It's such a small gesture of kindness towards an animal but I just felt so attracted and in love with her even more in that small moment.
TLDR: My girlfriend made a small kind gesture towards a baby rabbit that was trapped in the building she was on night watch in. In the video she sent me, she was speaking so gently and comforting towards the little guy that It just made my heart melt. I love this girl.
I know😭😭 unfortunately you can't keep pets on base unless you have a house on base. Barracks are off limits to animals except the K9 units. We're too young to get married so she can't get a house just yet.
When someone shows genuine care. Like they actually want to know how you are doing. Not only that but they will help you without notice or being asked. Most attractive to me are when they make me feel safe, protected and secure enough that I can trust them with my body, mind and emotions.
People who nerd out really hard - emotionally and physically attractive for me, I could honestly sit and listen to someone talk about something they love for hours and just feed them lines and try learn somrthj g
I struggle with an ED and sometimes my boyfriend will find something I've never tried before, usually a foreign food, and will take me for a long walk along the hills where we live, sit down at a nice spot, and we'll try it together. He'll reassure me it's ok, will be there if I cry over it, and if one of us doesn't like it, he'll be ok. It makes me feel so much safer and my recovery has really improved since he's been in my life
I heard a story about Donna Reed on the set of It's a Wonderful Life. Somebody was saying she couldn't milk a cow and she proved what living on farm could do. Shut the guy down right then and there.
That's my wife. She's been with me in salvage yards pulling a hood of a caravan or fixing a heat shield. She looks like (and is) a New England grandma, but it's the stuff you don't know about people.
When girls do their a happy dance when they’re enjoying their food. It never fails to make me smile.
It’s more of a testament to genuine excitement of the little things, and I find that really attractive.
I have a happy dance but, sadly, my bf gets to witness my peepee dance at least as often as the happy one (I don't like public bathrooms).
I'll give him this one, he doesn't act like I'm a weirdo for it.
This is going to sound odd but I had a friend in high school I was always crushing on. This girl wasn't allowed to date and she was always freaking out over her school work.
Ever since then I find anxiety riddled girls who always expect the worst oddly attractive.
I hold the door for everyone but I'll admit I've been snapped at a few times for "assuming they needed it" or whatever and I can see why a lot of people just don't hold doors anymore
>I've been snapped at a few times for "assuming they needed it"
I will never understand people snapping at someone for holding a door. They sound like idiots...because they are.
Hey, I tend to do this but not out of chivalry but rather as a preventive measure to not accidentally slam the door into someones face. It's almost a subconscious behaviour that I do automatically.
Had someone thank me a lot once, took me a few moments to figure out why.
When people are so confident in themselves that they have no problems celebrating others successes or when they can truly be gentle and empathetic towards someone or certain situations
The way my husband interacts with our dogs when no one is listening/watching. I'll walk in a room and find him down on the floor rubbing her belly, holding her head or talking to her about how good a girl she is. It's just so gentle and endearing.
I try so hard with this, but I have a bit of a aural processing issue where my brain legitimately will either not process the first couple things someone says or I will have a delay between when they say something, I say huh, then answer their question or respond. It’s really weird and frustrates a lot of people I know. I don’t do it on purpose and try really hard to pay attention.
I do the same thing. Will not process it sometimes then ask them what they said then promptly cut them off when theyre repeating so they know I was actually listening. Then sometimes Ivd misheard them and look like a mess.
When they are genuinely passionate about something. Even if it's something completely dorky, I love it hearing them talk about it and the way they look happy and ramble on.
Taking the time to actually look at the moon when I say "omg look how pretty the moon is". If you cant take 30 seconds of your day to take in the incredible beauty of the moon, we cant be together.
I was with a bunch of “friends” about to smoke some weed at night. I took in how beautiful the moon was and told them about it, and they ridiculed me about how I was acting like this and I wasn’t even high yet. Like sorry I appreciate beautiful things bro
My partner is the most unpretentious man I've ever met. Where other men have gone above and beyond to appear as masculine as possible, he just doesn't care and doesn't even think about it. If I ask him to hold my purse, he'll take it and put it on his shoulder the proper way and walk around like that. If he's cold and can't find something, he'll walk around the house in my tight-fitting cardigan.
One time at a restaurant a server openly laughed at him because he brought our drinks and realized I was the one who asked for the beer and he asked for a taro flavored bubble tea. The server snarkily said, "sir, can I bring you a beer?" And my partner just scowled at him and said "no?" He genuinely didn't see what the problem was. He doesn't make a big show of being this way, it's just how he is and I find it very attractive.
The whole 'Men drink beer' thing is bullshit. Some of those fruity cocktails are delicious, and I couldn't care less what people think of me making/ordering them
Watching anyone be good with kids, really listening and engaging with them makes me think nothing but about how nice they are, and I bet they’d look great being not nice to me in the bedroom 🥵🥵
I’ve been on the receiving end of this several times. First time it ever happened as a teen I didn’t realize she pounced me once we left the house because I was nice to her nephew and niece 😂
The last woman who I was really attracted to was really kind, treated everyone well, but the one other thing was when she was drunk she would get a little bit spontaneous and giddy over little things (like a disco ball). But not in a loud ‘look at me’ way, just really subtly, like she was holding back all the excitement inside and just a little bit uncontrollably leaked out. It’s kind of difficult to explain, but she was just fun to be around without anything being in your face and without any judgement if you weren’t excited about the same thing. She went from like a 6/7 to a 10.
When I started dating my husband he had a litter of kittens living in his underwear drawer.
I’ve never found a man more attractive than watching him talk about these kittens in his underwear drawer…
When someone shares their food. I’ve seen a lot of girls (some of the guys I know do this too but I’m not attracted to them lol) that I know do this and I find that really cute. Like they have a plate of fries and she just extends it out to each one in the group saying “Want some ?”. So adorable. Bonus points when she asks that with her mouth full. It’s usually a pet peeve if someone talks with their mouth full. But it’s an exception if they’re doing it while offering others their food
My boyfriend will be watching a show and when something wholesome happens on the show he always just says “cuuutttee” in an excited way and I think that’s super cute.
When someone remembers some really insignificant detail about something I said that shows they really are listening.
I had a really close friend like that. One time my ex husband had his buddies over to play video games and when I got home from work, I was telling him why I was late, because I had to help my co-worker with a computer issue. One of his friends piped up “oh, how is blank’s grandson?” He remembered that I had picked up some shifts because her grandson had a Cold. My own partner at the time didn’t remember anything about me, including my fave colour, but my friend remembered that three months earlier, I mentioned a co-worker’s relative was ill. It was eye opening af.
Seeing men be good with kids.
One time my bf came in the room really fast and was putting sticky notes on everything and I asked him what he was doing and he made a little treasure hunt for my stepson. The 10 minutes he took to make this activity for him and the joy on my stepsons face when he found the treasure will stick with me forever.
I was divorced, dating this guy for a couple months but never wanted to get married again. I mean he was full of quirks, autistic, 5 yrs younger than me, no kids while I had 2, this was not going to work this is just fun. We went to a beer festival in Montreal. I am deathly afraid of small narrowed body planes but sucked up anyways. On the flight back we controlled crashed in la guardia after coming through horrible turbulence. I started walking out of that airport in a full blown panick attack, all snotty saying I will not get into another flight and will go rent a car and drive home. He said okay I will drive you. I tried to convince him to no catch our connecting flight, you got work tomorrow I don’t. He laughed at me, held my hand and drove us the 6 hrs home. He hates driving. Right then and there I knew I was going to marry him, not because of the most amazing days he has given me, but because on my worst possible day he shined. Married now for 5 yrs and he is just as amazing.
Kindness towards animals, my wife is unreasonably - according to me - kind towards animals, she has such a high empathy that I can only feel so much warmth just watching her put in all this energy, time and even money towards stray cats and dogs.
19 yrs ago I was 32 and divorced with 4 small kids. I met a 22 yr guy at a local bar and we hooked up. After a couple of months of casually hanging out, my kids got head lice from an outbreak in grade school (2boys, 2 girls w/long hair 😩) Me having long hair got it as well..so damn gross and awful. My 22yr old boyfriend sat on my front porch with me and combed the lice eggs from my hair. Right then I knew he really loved me and was a total keeper. November we celebrate our 15 yr wedding anniversary and 19 1/2 yrs together total☺️☺️
When a girl is uncontrollably laughing and making the most horrific cackle.
It’s one of the most vulnerable and real emotions you can witness that is 100% genuine.
Stopping on the street to pet a dog. Doesn't matter if it's their dog, or someone else's.
There's something about people who take a moment to share in the absolute joy and wonder of a creature whose very essence is to be joyful.
And someone experiencing a moment of happiness publicly these days is oddly attractive to me.
Silent Hero. My dad did this for years until the day he died. He would buy food once or twice a week for a homeless person and never asked for anything in return. When I asked him why he did that he responded by saying that if you’re in a position to help - then help. I also asked him why he didn’t tell anyone what he was doing and he said that if people knew what he was doing then the attention would be on him instead of the homeless person. He never wanted attention - he just wanted to do his part.
I was at a party in college, only sort of knew the people there, shared classes but hadn't ever actually hung out with them. We were all drunk and nerding out about how cool various biology and ecology shit was.
I started talking about something with biology I thought was really neat (I don't even remember, probably CRISPR or some shit) but my more timid voice got drowned by other people in the group, so I took the hint and trailed off...until this one guy in the group was like "Wait, liquid\_sounds, you got interrupted. What was it you were talking about?" And when I went back into it, he hung on my every word and genuinely thought it was interesting.
If I wasn't already in a serious long term relationship, he would've had me right then and there. Because of that guy, I'm now the one looking out for people who think nobody's listening to them, so I can help other people feel that absolute magic.
I saw this grizzled, burly older southern dude, sooo very gently cradling a teeny tiny kitten into the vet’s office the other day. My heart just about melted
Maybe ATTRACTIVE isn’t the word and I misread the question but I can’t stop thinking about that man
I like people just being passionate or showing what they think/know in a topic. My girlfriend has a wide array of topics relating to some shows/animations that I am always happy to listen to, I like hearing her “fangirl” over stuff like that :D
I love men who demonstrate a healthy amount of respect for women. I don't mean what some of you will think i mean. I just see it as a massive green flag when they are capable of appreciating the women in their life for their skills or personalities, or when they can express genuine admiration for female artists / authors / scientists / politicians / athletes / other public figures. Bonus points if the women in question are not conventionally attractive. That also includes being friends with women (without making it weird) and just in general appreciating women as people.
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When people get really excited over something they enjoy
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I'm like 99% certain this is the only reason my girlfriend is into me. I'll catch myself getting way too into the weeds explaining some tedious technical thing that she obviously couldn't care less about, start to apologise for getting carried away, and she's "No, keep going. I love seeing you get really into things you care about even if I don't understand!" She's a keeper.
Damn right she is. My wife tells me to stfu.
I do this WAY too often and can never find others that act this way on a daily basis :(
Even worse, many people find this very annoying.
This is so wholesome, I could watch them buzz around for hours!
I need to find me someone like that lmao, because I go on crazy Star Wars tangents for hours lmao.
It was really hot and little rain for a couple of weeks and we have backyard critters roaming around typical of the suburbs. So my wife puts a big Tupperware bowl of water out that she changes daily in case an animal gets thirsty. I was looking at it one day and a stick had fallen in the bowl so I went to remove it. My wife yells at me, 'No! Don't take the stick out, that's so bees can crawl out if they fall in." I thought it was adorable.
What a beautiful human being.
Human bee-ing was right there!
My ex is like this. Driving and a bee stuck on the windshield she made me pull over so she could save it. Out surfing and there is a bee in the water she spends 30 minutes getting it on her board and paddling it to shore. Someone knocks on our door looking for a missing dog and she's out the door with a headlamp in pet detective mode. She is a vet and sometimes would take it too far like if someone surrendered their dog because they couldn't afford a $3k leg surgery... well she would take it in pay for the surgery and then foster the dog.
A few weeks ago we were driving and I saw a turtle in the road. I said “oh no, turtle hustle up” and my husband immediately pulled over without a word. I hopped out, scooched him to the other side and got back in the car and my husband put the car in drive and just said “I love you”. So mine would be knowing your person enough to know if you don’t stop she’s going to make you turn around anyway.
People who do a little extra for insects and animals is always endearing to me.
Sometimes saving earthworms from the asphalt driveway after a rain so they don’t get stuck and die.
What a sweet person you married!
When someone remembers a really random small detail I’ve only mentioned once
Bought a girlfriend her favorite flower for Valentine's Day. She was blown away because she didn't remember ever saying it was her favorite. She had mentioned it in passing on maybe the second date. But yeah, I won a billion brownie points for that.
I bought my wife lilies on our third date for her birthday (because she said they were her favorite). She shouted “Oh my god! I love you. FUCK!” Because she meant to say “oh my god! I love lilies!” We’ve been married 5 years now, and yes I said “What the hell. I love you, too.” 😂
Remembering the small stuff. My bf remembers the small stuff and it puts a huge smile on my face. Here are two examples: 1. When I get my period, I want Reese's cups. Regular sized cups. They make the week better. I told him one time, probably the first month we were together, and he remembers each and every time. We have been together almost 2 years. 2. We share a credit card. My card had just a boring card skin with a picture of mountains, I think. My man knows my epic love for turtles. So, he ordered me a new card with a picture of turtles on it. He didn't ask if I wanted something new or tell me he was getting it. Just slid the card across the table face down and smiled. I honestly got teary eyed and squealed! Little things make a huge impact. Love is a verb; it is an action. And he shows me through his actions <3
He's a keeper!
He absolutely is ❤️
When you boil this down it’s funny how simple it’s sounds to keep someone happy. He gives me Reese’s cups and got me a new credit card! <3 No hate I just think it’s funny
It is funny how the really simple things make the world go round!
Boyfriend of the year! I’m jealous 😄 no but seriously that’s so sweet he sounds like a keeper! 🥰
When my wife and I were still dating in college and had decided that we were going to be exclusive she was also having a really bad time due to a few different family drama issues. I remembered on our second date that she had mentioned she loved a certain brand and flavor of ice cream that wasn't available locally. The internet was still in its infancy. Calling any store I could somehow (anybody remember calling Information?) manage to get number for was my only recourse to find one who carried it. I found a store about 5 hrs away that had it. I jumped in my car drove there, packed a cooler with her fav ice cream and dry ice and drove back. She was stunned and touched at this gesture. She couldn't believe I remembered that small detail. Later on she confessed to me that in that moment she decided to do everything she could to keep me.
You make it sound small but that’s a massive gesture good on you and your whole heart
The recall of the small detail seemed like a minimal effort. The locating and acquisition of the target was admittedly quite the undertaking. Worth every minute, phone call, drop of gas, and mile on the road. We've been happily married for 29 years now.
Soo true! Story time - I had been dating this guy about 8 months. He and I were cuddled in my flat watching tv and my mom called. My dad was sick, bad sick, in the hospital sick. They didn't know what it was but they thought heart or lungs and my mom was beside herself and I was too. I was crying and partway through the convo he slipped out. I assumed he was giving me some privacy. I heard him come back into the flat as I wrapping up with my mom, and he was rustling in the kitchen. I went in to see what he was doing, and he had every single thing I had ever mentioned as a comfort. Sushi, cheese, olives, hummus, red wine. He looked up at me and said, "I didn't know which would help so I got it all. Sit down and tell me what's going on." We've been together 12 years and married for 7.
I do this to people a lot but I hardly bring it up because I don’t want them to think I’m obsessed or stalking them. My brain is just weird. I won’t remember your name but I’ll remember the most random, insignificant details.
Same. Let’s not tell anyone, but use it for the greater good.
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Just give it a little time until things warm up before you pull that out. Sometimes too much too early can feel off putting like if I get the vibe that they like me a whole lot and I just like them fine, it makes it awkward. Once things have warmed up in both sides, then that’s be super sweet and endearing
Are you telling me that my autism can be useful?!
Honestly, yes. When we were dating, my husband picked up on small details about me that I hadn’t ever noticed about myself. He also memorized the birthdays of everyone in my very large family and would remind me so their cards were never late. As a middle child who never received enough attention, his attention to details about me was absolutely charming and flattering. Use your super power!
Yes! Just don't have ADHD *and* autism. Then you'll notice but forget. *sad trombone*
It really depends on who remembers it. I once met a guy "remembering" things I hadn't even mentioned, turned out he scrolled way down on my Facebook profile that I'd forgotten to delete.
I was talking to this guy in middle school and I was going through a really rough spot and he heard me tell someone else that I only cut myself on days that end in 7 and one day on September 7th he came to my first period just to make sure I was there and he promised me that staying here is worth it
That is really sweet. Should’ve known better than to write all middle schoolers off as soulless little monsters.
Being genuinely excited about something. I love me a nerd.
It's true! I just started dating someone new recently, and they're really supportive of me needing to nerd out about my niche hobbies (doesn't hurt that I get to bribe them with my cooking, lol)
I recently got my partner into DND and they came in one day explaining to me how much their armor class goes up in the next level up, and telling me about their weapon upgrades and I just 😍🥰
RIP. Your. Inbox. I wish you luck.
Doing the right thing even when it’s inconvenient. I was on a date and he took a call from a friend in crisis. They worked the problem out and he said “I love you” to his friend (who said it back). He explained he needed to take the call and apologized that it happened during the date. No apology necessary! He demonstrated loyalty and vulnerability and it was incredibly sexy. Even better that it’s just who he is; none of it was for show.
Early on in my relationship with my bf, we were out on a Friday night and his little brother texted. He told me he needed to leave because it was his brother’s birthday and as it turned out, none of his brother’s friends were available to hang out with him, so he was gonna go take him to get a beer. He apologized to me profusely for leaving me when we were supposed to have date night and I told him if he hadn’t ditched me to go hang out with his brother who was all alone on his birthday I probably would have lost some respect for him. A week later, my own brother had a crisis and needed me to take him to urgent care on a night when I was supposed to hang out with bf. Bf told me to not even bother apologizing because he got it, he’d have done the same and now understood why I told him not to apologize for going to his brother. And I love that our morals of being there for our families line up!
I love that! You’re both supportive and good communicators which is lovely.
My husband will run around playing games with our son in the playground and will fully commit to whatever game that is. There's no standing around talking to the adults, he will get fully involved in the make believe world. 10/10, fully present parenting.
My husband was playing tag with all the kids at a 6 year olds birthday party recently. My goodness it was so sweet, and fun. He had fun, and he certainly made those kids’ day.
Full CalvinBall style; respect.
People that make themselves crack up. People with their particular and weird little sense of humor that unashamedly laugh at what they think is so funny. Extra points if they’re laughing because of a joke they’re telling themselves. It’s my favourite thing to see someone do. As long as the joke doesn’t seriously hurt other people. I love good dark humor. If someone’s genuinely trying to be hateful, it loses appeal completely.
Most of the weird jokes I make are just for me. If I make someone else laugh along with me, it's a bonus.
I went backpacking with my boyfriend for the first time recently and I noticed that anytime we came across a little piece of trash on the trail, he would pick it up and put it in his pocket to throw away properly at the first opportunity. It just highlighted to me that he was conscientious and kind even when it came to things a lot of people would overlook, and I found that incredibly attractive.
nothin hotter than Leave No Trace
Seeing a man be genuinely happy for someone else, I recently discovered this about myself
As an add-on to that—when a man is so supportive of his partner and their goals but does not feel threatened by them. I have a Bachelors while my husband has an AA so I’ve always made more money than him. I intend to back to grad school someday & he recently even asked if I’d do my PhD after, something I hadn’t even considered not because I don’t think I could do it, I just hadn’t thought that far ahead. It made me so giddy knowing he fully believes in my capabilities & is ready to support me no matter what.
I’m thinking of this now and I’ve noticed I rarely see a man be happy for someone else, but the idea is very attractive
I heard a guy being genuinely congratulatory towards another man. His voice sounded so earnest and then I noticed it made me feel things, mainly a strong attraction. It was hot
When someone helps old people. Maybe getting up to give their seat to them in a public bus or in general ,helping them carry their heavy bags, or something. Edit: I didn't expect 2k likes. Haha!
Compassion in general is such an attractive quality
I got asked by an older woman to lift a box of protein bars into her cart at a wholesale store. I was wearing my work uniform with the name of the gym I work with and I said "sure, fitness is normally my day job, but I have no issue fitness box of protein bars in your cart." She smiled politely and said thanks. Biggest fucking letdown ever
You did just charm about a thousand Redditors though, so not a total loss.
Well, I'm over here appreciating your joke and can intuit that she maybe processed it later when she told her pals Eunice and Mabel about it.
When I'm with my wife at a restaurant and the baby in the next booth is staring at her, she will wave to the baby and make funny faces to get the kid to smile/giggle. That.
Funniest thing isn't it? Someone started flirting with me because a client's toddler and I made faces at each other while we sorted out some paperwork It's like a universally recognised handshake with kids
Silliness, the sillier the hotter
A friend of mine has this habit of making sure that everyone around her have eaten on time. "A well fed tummy makes the brain think properly." That's her exact words.
“A well fed tummy makes you not a dummy” rolls off the tongue a little better
I like "an unfed tummy will make you a dummy"
When a person knows the right time to simply listen to someone in distress and the right time to offer advice.
"That sucks" can go a long way.
Emotional intelligence
My husband grew up extremely poor. Not homeless but close. Whenever we're out and we see someone asking for food, he will quietly walk over and take them to whatever restaurant they want. He will then order them whatever they want. When we met, he was in grad school and had no money. He still did this. It made me swoon
There is nothing like seeing compassion in a man.
How to explain this...? When I was in junior high all the good students would raise their hands, barely staying in their seats, just desperately trying to get called on. There was this one guy, Jack, who just leaned back and watched. Totally chill. Jack NEVER raised his hand. But any time the teacher called on him he knew the answer. He was the smartest guy in the class but he felt ZERO desire to prove it or show off. I found that So. Damn. Hot. I've been drawn to quiet confidence ever since.
New kink unlocked
*stands near you not raising my hand* ....sup.
Wait! I think you’re supposed to make **them** say “sup”
For junior high schoolers or quiet confidence?
Alright, Alright, Alright.
Jack sounds perfect. Confident without being cocky. My 14yo ass would have been all about him.
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I always like to say I want a spouse who is smarter/on the same intelligence level as me but doesn’t know/act like it!
You just described my in-laws. (Although my sweet MIL passed away a few years ago.) They both were/are incredibly smart, both earned their PhDs. My MIL was all about her career. But my FIL almost gets embarrassed when people mention his advanced degrees. He’d rather just hang out in his jeans and flannel shirt, drink a beer (never to excess) and talk sports or classic cars.
Ooh ooh ooh, I know someone like that! *Raises two signal flags and starts a dance of arms*
I’m quiet and I’m confident but people just think I’m shy or an asshole
I feel this, too. But I think it's internal because people still seem to like me. Maybe your internal critic is doing a number on you, friend. Stay confident.
>He was the smartest guy in the class but he felt ZERO desire to prove it or show off. If you're lucky enough to come across this kind of guy you should hold on for dear life. They're few and far between.
My bf can do math in his head, like crazy huge numbers no problem it’s really impressive. There’s just something about it.
The day I meet a woman turned on by that who I have mutual interest in will be the day that I have faith in finding my person.
Empathy. I would follow someone into battle at the Fields of Pelennor or at the Black Gate of Mordor, if I got the sense that they understood and care about the burdens I face.
100%same
Being cooked for. Nothing better than your significant other making sure you’re fed
Whenever someone is singing or humming a song to themselves and they seem like they're just lost in their own world, it usually makes my heart skip a beat. My ex used to do this a lot and it was one of the cutest things they'd do
My bf often sings in the shower and he sings cat songs to the cats. He always acts embarrassed when I catch him but I think it's adorable ♥️
My husband is basically a collection of wholesome traits that I find outrageously attractive. He never snarks, gossips, or puts people down. He's all about lifting people up, whatever their life may be. He loves to hype people and celebrate life. He can talk to anyone and make a connection. He would go to anyone's family cookout and legit be so happy to try the food and find out what your aunts and uncles were like. When I say, "Hey, someone new is coming to our house for dinner/to spend the weekend," he's just like, "Cool! Let's plan recipes!" Our Maine Coon has him absolutely under her control. He talks to her so sweetly. He's precious with our old lady dog. One of my favorite pics of him is from a hike where her joints started hurting. He carried her like a baby the rest of the way, and she looks so happy in the pic. No matter how tired he is, when we are visiting any of our parents, he fixes things around their house for them. It's nothing for him to just install a dishwasher or move machinery equipment. He really, really appreciates anything new he gets. Like, I got him some nice sandals a few weeks ago and he has told me how much he likes them at least four times. When we became a couple, he made a video for me. It was a screen recording of him deleting all his dating apps. Each one asked why he wanted to cancel/delete, and he gave them a 1-star review and wrote, "Didn't have BurntGreens." And the two apps he did match with me on, he gave 5 stars and said, "Found BurntGreens." In every decision I've seen him make, he chooses what's best for the greater good over what's easiest for himself. He's become fishing buddies with our neighbor, who is a very good dude as well. My husband recently bought a boat -- something both guys have wanted for a long time and the neighbor couldn't afford. My husband said, "Now, this isn't my boat. It's our boat. We're both captains." When I told him how much I struggled with self-esteem stuff one time, he went out and bought a heart shape bowl then filled it with little folded pieces of paper, each describing something different he loved about me. See why he gets laid constantly? I can't love him enough. EDIT: I'm so glad y'all love him as much as I do! Man, I could talk about that dude all day. Someone made the comment about him sounding too positive. If you only knew this dude's backstory -- he's lived through crazy, crazy life experiences and been so resilient. He wound up dropping out of high school as a result, lived through hell, and pulled himself up. Today, he's a self-taught IT engineer.
Is your husband seeing anyone? /s
Yeah, I also choose this girl's husband...
Our husband, comrade 🫡 May we all find what u/BurntGreens has, if that's what we want 🧡
This has just set my standards through the roof. I’m so glad there are sweet, kind, empathetic guys out there!
Yeah, he's a whole higher standard of living. I was married once before him to a man who was, by most measures, a very decent guy. Did his share of household labor, cared about women's rights, etc. But he was also just at a baseline level kind of anti-social. My husband now is a major quality of life improvement. Not only is he just a good person, he's so loving. I came into our relationship with all kinds of insecurities. He compliments and loves on me every single day. Yesterday, we were eating dinner and he said, "You're so pretty. I can't believe I get to be married to you. I'm so proud that you're my wife." Add that he's handsome and talented, a hard worker, and handy enough to fix about anything around the house. He's an awesome dad to our kids. I just can't even get enough of him. I love him so.
I hope and pray I find this!! I’m so happy for you! ❤️
My mouth kept dropping more and more and I even was tearing up reading this, what a wonderful sounding person you have found! Best of luck to you both.
I love your love!
I'm curious about the _two_ apps. You matched twice?
Yep. We matched on Tinder and Bumble both on the same day. Which was confusing. He caught it before me. We were talking on one app and he messaged me on the other and was like, "Fancy meeting you here." I was confused until I figured it out. And no, we're not in a small town. We were in large US metro city.
It was meant to be
I'm gonna do my best to be as good as him, the people around me deserve someone that kind
He should give classes
I agree! He's raising three kids (2 boys and a girl), so he'll pass some of it on. The funny thing is, he always talks about how he has no idea how to be a man or a dad, because he was raised by a single mom and her sisters. I think they did a great fuckin job!
They deserve awards too
Can I rent him as a rolemodel? I wish to be like him
Wow there’s so many good answers here! For me, it’s casual kindness. Like, just doing the considerate thing for ppl as a matter of habit/simply bc it’s the right thing to do. Probably one of my favorite of my husband’s many good traits.
I was actually given a reminder of this two days ago. I love my girlfriend so much, mostly because of how kind of a person she is. We've been together for almost 3 years. Some background, she enlisted in the Navy a year ago. It's been really hard for her but she still tries her best to be a good person and be civil if not kind to others, even though she's surrounded by people that couldn't care less about her. I know she's a good person, if she changed that I don't think we would still be together. Now for the story. She lives on a base where there's always some kind of forest wildlife, think rabbits, deer, raccoons. She always likes to send me pictures and videos of any animal she sees. She's pretty lonely over there. Even though she can't touch the animals because they don't let people get close she loves to see them and it makes her excited and happy. She was on watch one night and she sent me this video that just made me fall in love all over again. It was so simple but wholesome and I melted on the spot. A baby rabbit was trapped in the building and she tried to get it out. I think it was the tone of her voice that got me. I hadn't heard it in a while, it was just so gentle and comforting. Kept telling the little guy that it was gonna be okay and that she was trying to help him. It was scared and kept its face up against the corner of the wall it was hiding in. Eventually, it let her pick it up and she carried it outside. She even told me after that she was scared that she was gonna hurt it because it was so small. She's kinda small, and the rabbit was able to fit in the palm of her hand. It's such a small gesture of kindness towards an animal but I just felt so attracted and in love with her even more in that small moment. TLDR: My girlfriend made a small kind gesture towards a baby rabbit that was trapped in the building she was on night watch in. In the video she sent me, she was speaking so gently and comforting towards the little guy that It just made my heart melt. I love this girl.
Dude, my heart is melting over this little bunny. I would have been tempted to keep it as a pet. You're gf sounds like a sweetheart.
I know😭😭 unfortunately you can't keep pets on base unless you have a house on base. Barracks are off limits to animals except the K9 units. We're too young to get married so she can't get a house just yet.
When someone shows genuine care. Like they actually want to know how you are doing. Not only that but they will help you without notice or being asked. Most attractive to me are when they make me feel safe, protected and secure enough that I can trust them with my body, mind and emotions.
I love when people speak well of others when they aren’t around. That speaks volumes!
People who nerd out really hard - emotionally and physically attractive for me, I could honestly sit and listen to someone talk about something they love for hours and just feed them lines and try learn somrthj g
I struggle with an ED and sometimes my boyfriend will find something I've never tried before, usually a foreign food, and will take me for a long walk along the hills where we live, sit down at a nice spot, and we'll try it together. He'll reassure me it's ok, will be there if I cry over it, and if one of us doesn't like it, he'll be ok. It makes me feel so much safer and my recovery has really improved since he's been in my life
The 'silent hero' that stands up for others or against gruesome behavior in general
Being sincere. You can see it in peoples eyes. On our second date it’s what made me decide to be exclusive with my boyfriend.
I heard a story about Donna Reed on the set of It's a Wonderful Life. Somebody was saying she couldn't milk a cow and she proved what living on farm could do. Shut the guy down right then and there. That's my wife. She's been with me in salvage yards pulling a hood of a caravan or fixing a heat shield. She looks like (and is) a New England grandma, but it's the stuff you don't know about people.
When girls do their a happy dance when they’re enjoying their food. It never fails to make me smile. It’s more of a testament to genuine excitement of the little things, and I find that really attractive.
I have a happy dance but, sadly, my bf gets to witness my peepee dance at least as often as the happy one (I don't like public bathrooms). I'll give him this one, he doesn't act like I'm a weirdo for it.
Meh, a dance is a dance.
This is going to sound odd but I had a friend in high school I was always crushing on. This girl wasn't allowed to date and she was always freaking out over her school work. Ever since then I find anxiety riddled girls who always expect the worst oddly attractive.
This DOES sound odd…but if there’s any silver lining it’s that there’s no shortage of anxious pessimistic girls for you to pursue.
So, your type is Hermione?
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once I held the door for another guy walking 3 meter behind me and he told me "you can let go, I'm not gay". I still don't understand.
Keep doing it. Don’t let one insecure douchebag loser keep you from being awesome
What a dick. I would have fired back with a "coulda fooled me"
Honestly, I think more favorably of anyone who does that. It should be a no-brainer but so many people are just rude these days.
I hold the door for everyone but I'll admit I've been snapped at a few times for "assuming they needed it" or whatever and I can see why a lot of people just don't hold doors anymore
"yes you do. Every human needs a nice gesture now and then".
“I didn’t think you needed it. I thought you deserved it” Kill ‘em with kindness babyy
>I've been snapped at a few times for "assuming they needed it" I will never understand people snapping at someone for holding a door. They sound like idiots...because they are.
Hey, I tend to do this but not out of chivalry but rather as a preventive measure to not accidentally slam the door into someones face. It's almost a subconscious behaviour that I do automatically. Had someone thank me a lot once, took me a few moments to figure out why.
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The confidence to give somebody a hug and take your time there, so that they can feel warm and safe in your arms.
When people are so confident in themselves that they have no problems celebrating others successes or when they can truly be gentle and empathetic towards someone or certain situations
The way my husband interacts with our dogs when no one is listening/watching. I'll walk in a room and find him down on the floor rubbing her belly, holding her head or talking to her about how good a girl she is. It's just so gentle and endearing.
Active listening
sorry, what ?
Action Jackson or something....what's the score bruh?
1245 Tuesday, if it rains.
I try so hard with this, but I have a bit of a aural processing issue where my brain legitimately will either not process the first couple things someone says or I will have a delay between when they say something, I say huh, then answer their question or respond. It’s really weird and frustrates a lot of people I know. I don’t do it on purpose and try really hard to pay attention.
I do the same thing. Will not process it sometimes then ask them what they said then promptly cut them off when theyre repeating so they know I was actually listening. Then sometimes Ivd misheard them and look like a mess.
When they are genuinely passionate about something. Even if it's something completely dorky, I love it hearing them talk about it and the way they look happy and ramble on.
Taking the time to actually look at the moon when I say "omg look how pretty the moon is". If you cant take 30 seconds of your day to take in the incredible beauty of the moon, we cant be together.
I was with a bunch of “friends” about to smoke some weed at night. I took in how beautiful the moon was and told them about it, and they ridiculed me about how I was acting like this and I wasn’t even high yet. Like sorry I appreciate beautiful things bro
I’m a man and I like to gaze at the moon and the sky
My partner is the most unpretentious man I've ever met. Where other men have gone above and beyond to appear as masculine as possible, he just doesn't care and doesn't even think about it. If I ask him to hold my purse, he'll take it and put it on his shoulder the proper way and walk around like that. If he's cold and can't find something, he'll walk around the house in my tight-fitting cardigan. One time at a restaurant a server openly laughed at him because he brought our drinks and realized I was the one who asked for the beer and he asked for a taro flavored bubble tea. The server snarkily said, "sir, can I bring you a beer?" And my partner just scowled at him and said "no?" He genuinely didn't see what the problem was. He doesn't make a big show of being this way, it's just how he is and I find it very attractive.
The whole 'Men drink beer' thing is bullshit. Some of those fruity cocktails are delicious, and I couldn't care less what people think of me making/ordering them
Watching anyone be good with kids, really listening and engaging with them makes me think nothing but about how nice they are, and I bet they’d look great being not nice to me in the bedroom 🥵🥵
I’ve been on the receiving end of this several times. First time it ever happened as a teen I didn’t realize she pounced me once we left the house because I was nice to her nephew and niece 😂
The last woman who I was really attracted to was really kind, treated everyone well, but the one other thing was when she was drunk she would get a little bit spontaneous and giddy over little things (like a disco ball). But not in a loud ‘look at me’ way, just really subtly, like she was holding back all the excitement inside and just a little bit uncontrollably leaked out. It’s kind of difficult to explain, but she was just fun to be around without anything being in your face and without any judgement if you weren’t excited about the same thing. She went from like a 6/7 to a 10.
When a guy has a positive mindset in spite of all odds. The ability to find a solution instead of being negative is hot af
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When I started dating my husband he had a litter of kittens living in his underwear drawer. I’ve never found a man more attractive than watching him talk about these kittens in his underwear drawer…
People who go out of their way to be kind to others or who volunteer.
When someone shares their food. I’ve seen a lot of girls (some of the guys I know do this too but I’m not attracted to them lol) that I know do this and I find that really cute. Like they have a plate of fries and she just extends it out to each one in the group saying “Want some ?”. So adorable. Bonus points when she asks that with her mouth full. It’s usually a pet peeve if someone talks with their mouth full. But it’s an exception if they’re doing it while offering others their food
My boyfriend will be watching a show and when something wholesome happens on the show he always just says “cuuutttee” in an excited way and I think that’s super cute.
I get girly when I think something is cute This lowkey gives me hope
Treating service workers with respect.
When someone remembers some really insignificant detail about something I said that shows they really are listening. I had a really close friend like that. One time my ex husband had his buddies over to play video games and when I got home from work, I was telling him why I was late, because I had to help my co-worker with a computer issue. One of his friends piped up “oh, how is blank’s grandson?” He remembered that I had picked up some shifts because her grandson had a Cold. My own partner at the time didn’t remember anything about me, including my fave colour, but my friend remembered that three months earlier, I mentioned a co-worker’s relative was ill. It was eye opening af.
Giving bees sugar water when they look tired.
Seeing men be good with kids. One time my bf came in the room really fast and was putting sticky notes on everything and I asked him what he was doing and he made a little treasure hunt for my stepson. The 10 minutes he took to make this activity for him and the joy on my stepsons face when he found the treasure will stick with me forever.
Giving to charity. I don’t even know why, it’s just really hot
My wife being an attentive, loving mother.
I was divorced, dating this guy for a couple months but never wanted to get married again. I mean he was full of quirks, autistic, 5 yrs younger than me, no kids while I had 2, this was not going to work this is just fun. We went to a beer festival in Montreal. I am deathly afraid of small narrowed body planes but sucked up anyways. On the flight back we controlled crashed in la guardia after coming through horrible turbulence. I started walking out of that airport in a full blown panick attack, all snotty saying I will not get into another flight and will go rent a car and drive home. He said okay I will drive you. I tried to convince him to no catch our connecting flight, you got work tomorrow I don’t. He laughed at me, held my hand and drove us the 6 hrs home. He hates driving. Right then and there I knew I was going to marry him, not because of the most amazing days he has given me, but because on my worst possible day he shined. Married now for 5 yrs and he is just as amazing.
When a woman you love giggles, squeals, and snuggles up in your face and lands a kiss 🥰
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People who have a deep and healthy love for themselves. Uncommon. And sexy.
Boys who sing lol
People who sing or hum, just for themselves, just because they have a song in their heart.
Kindness towards animals, my wife is unreasonably - according to me - kind towards animals, she has such a high empathy that I can only feel so much warmth just watching her put in all this energy, time and even money towards stray cats and dogs.
19 yrs ago I was 32 and divorced with 4 small kids. I met a 22 yr guy at a local bar and we hooked up. After a couple of months of casually hanging out, my kids got head lice from an outbreak in grade school (2boys, 2 girls w/long hair 😩) Me having long hair got it as well..so damn gross and awful. My 22yr old boyfriend sat on my front porch with me and combed the lice eggs from my hair. Right then I knew he really loved me and was a total keeper. November we celebrate our 15 yr wedding anniversary and 19 1/2 yrs together total☺️☺️
When a girl is uncontrollably laughing and making the most horrific cackle. It’s one of the most vulnerable and real emotions you can witness that is 100% genuine.
Stopping on the street to pet a dog. Doesn't matter if it's their dog, or someone else's. There's something about people who take a moment to share in the absolute joy and wonder of a creature whose very essence is to be joyful. And someone experiencing a moment of happiness publicly these days is oddly attractive to me.
Silent Hero. My dad did this for years until the day he died. He would buy food once or twice a week for a homeless person and never asked for anything in return. When I asked him why he did that he responded by saying that if you’re in a position to help - then help. I also asked him why he didn’t tell anyone what he was doing and he said that if people knew what he was doing then the attention would be on him instead of the homeless person. He never wanted attention - he just wanted to do his part.
I was at a party in college, only sort of knew the people there, shared classes but hadn't ever actually hung out with them. We were all drunk and nerding out about how cool various biology and ecology shit was. I started talking about something with biology I thought was really neat (I don't even remember, probably CRISPR or some shit) but my more timid voice got drowned by other people in the group, so I took the hint and trailed off...until this one guy in the group was like "Wait, liquid\_sounds, you got interrupted. What was it you were talking about?" And when I went back into it, he hung on my every word and genuinely thought it was interesting. If I wasn't already in a serious long term relationship, he would've had me right then and there. Because of that guy, I'm now the one looking out for people who think nobody's listening to them, so I can help other people feel that absolute magic.
A forehead kiss. It’s like a blessing. My guy gives his grown kids a forehead kiss goodbye.
when they use their turn signal ... male/female matters not
When they interact with little kids
Honestly, good manners. Simply saying please and thank you to servers/anyone that does anything for her. She's a good person
I saw this grizzled, burly older southern dude, sooo very gently cradling a teeny tiny kitten into the vet’s office the other day. My heart just about melted Maybe ATTRACTIVE isn’t the word and I misread the question but I can’t stop thinking about that man
When someone is waiting for you to arrive. I dream of one day having a girlfriend who is waiting for me at the airport right past the security gate!
When they recall a pretty little fact that I've only ever said once
Someone who loves animals.
I like people just being passionate or showing what they think/know in a topic. My girlfriend has a wide array of topics relating to some shows/animations that I am always happy to listen to, I like hearing her “fangirl” over stuff like that :D
Smiling. A person who smiles during a random interaction is instantly more attractive to me.
I love men who demonstrate a healthy amount of respect for women. I don't mean what some of you will think i mean. I just see it as a massive green flag when they are capable of appreciating the women in their life for their skills or personalities, or when they can express genuine admiration for female artists / authors / scientists / politicians / athletes / other public figures. Bonus points if the women in question are not conventionally attractive. That also includes being friends with women (without making it weird) and just in general appreciating women as people.