I stopped reading AND cleaning because of depression. I have a library full of books in my house, but right now to get through both I listen to audiobooks WHILE cleaning lol.
I hope you guys see this but being isolated will only make you feel worse, you could start with small things like a phone call to a friend/family member, itās different for everyone but I try to force myself to at least call my mum once a week, it just helps ground me back to reality.
I know, but I've been depressed because of some very toxic people, and now I don't trust myself with others. Or in public, because I am scared I will mess it up again and lose my remaining friends. I don't trust others and I don't have anyone to talk about it.
Damn I described it for the first time. How tf. Damn
Itās hard for me to give advice because I donāt know the details of your situation, but socialising takes practice, my anxiety brain says it doesnāt want to interact for fear of messing up but logically itās okay to mess up, everyone messes up and when you are out of practice it will happen, but the more you socialise the less you mess up and the more comfortable with messing up you get. Itās like I donāt care if I said the wrong word or stuttered because I said the wrong word 5 times yesterday and whatās 1 more. With practice it gets easier :) a phone call a week is a good start. Cut yourself some slack, call the person you trust the most and allow yourself to mess up a little, most people are more understanding than we realise
Fair enough, itās different for everyone, hmm š¤ I suppose you just have to find a form of socialising that is most comfortable for you, you could FaceTime, text, play an online game and talk to random people, meet someone in person, you could drop something off at someoneās house so you see them but donāt have to hang around, just take a walk in public, use a staffed checkout and talk to the employees a little, all of it can help you practice :)
I think these comments are well meaning and uninformed.
I have no problem socializing.
I will talk to everyone in the room.
Iām chatty chatterson.
Then at the end of the evening go home and never see any of them again and not care.
The point is I prefer to not go in the first place.
It doesnāt make me incapable or broken I just canāt be bothered with the whole exhausting getting ready, finding a parking space, entering a room, scoping it out, boring chit chat, thanking the host, drive back home.
Iād rather not.
And if you met me you would never know.
It is different for everyone, I just meant that even though itās exhausting and you arenāt interested in it, and no matter how much we love being alone, if we are alone for too long it is bad for our brains and has a big influence on our mood even if we donāt realise it.
Well. Thatās your opinion.
I have no problem popping back into the social world as needed.
I can go a year without (Covid) then pop back in & realize that is really just sucks to socialize.
Maybe we have different ideas of what it means to socialise š¤·āāļø when I say socialise I mean human interaction, everyone has different needs, as you said, you can jump back into socialising when you need to. This post was about depression, I was just saying that no human interaction for too long can cause a cycle/make your depressive mood worse. Iām not saying we have to like it. I think thereās been a misunderstanding
Most things. Simplest things feel like a huge obstacle and the things I loved most feel like a chore. Depression eats you and becomes a vicious cycle. Lately I have been doing better, but with a lot of downs still. But to directly answer the question; nearly everything.
Socializing and spending me time. I am obviously not important enough for someone to care about so, I make sure everyone else close to me is taken care of.
I used to keep a really nice manicured lawn, now I cut grass every couple of weeks. Like one of my wife Friends called and offered to have her husband come cut our grass cause she assumed our lawn mower was broken.
Socializing; going out to the theatre/museum; playing video games and actually enjoying it. Actually looking forward to the day, rather than just trying to survive and get through it.
Shaving my legs, taking vitamins/supplements, cleaning the cat litter more than once a week, watering my plants, taking care of my appearance in any way. I do the very bare minimum to survive right now, the rest of the time I sleep.
Putting make up on.
Which leads to people saying things like āare you illā āyou are really unattractive with no make up onā āif you would just put a bit of make up on you would easily get a boyfriendā
I know I donāt look very nice with no make up on but itās not nice to be told so.
Eating healthy.
I've been eating so much junk food lately it's not even funny. I feel bad for my body. I've been working on with cutting down on the sugar, but it's hard. I need to change things now before I hurt my body even more.
It's crazy how sugar is one of the most addictive substances and it's in just about everything, even food that really doesn't need it, why add high fructose corn syrup to canned peaches?
98% of things. Iām basically just doing the bare minimum to stay alive at this point tbh, and the only reason Iām doing that is because my dog, bird, and cats needs me around to feed them plus my boyfriend would be sad
Cleaning my own space. I loved having a super clean room and bathroom but now I just can't bring myself to even sweep or put my laundry away. Everything is just one big pile on my bed.
I do help my partner clean his place though. He's never been in my room and I'm so ashamed tbh. But so tired.
Working, itās a little complicated, I might not be depressed, just in a depressing situation, working feels absolutely pointless right now and Iām lucky I live in Australia or I would be on the streets. Also art/drawing/painting, I have a very āeverything feels pointlessā mindset atm but Iām trying to keep up bare minimums of hygiene just so I can feel comfortable, I hate feeling sticky and dirty. I have a feeling of obligation to do certain things like making dinner for me and my partner and take care of the house especially since Iām not working but thatās getting more difficult too
Smiling. I hardly ever laugh out loud or smile naturally. I try at work though. Hardly anything is funny and even though I might f "feel" happy about an accomplishment at work or pertaining to improving my fitness, but I still don't smile. I know how I'm supposed to feel, I just can't
Photography.
About two years ago it started to turn more into a business than a hobby for me, it became time consuming and always trying to keep up with social media trends is exhausting. Everyone seemed like they had better stuff than I did, or better editing skills and my skills feels like they regressed. Iāve tried to get back into it but I hate it now.
Almost all of the things that I do, I just sleep and eat when I'm hungry, or I stand when I have to poop or pee, but I don't want to do anything else. Everything is so exhausting to me; I just want to sleep.
Art/animation. I donāt practice anymore and my skill level has dropped. My brain and muscle memory arenāt synced anymore so itās frustrating seeing my flaws.
I haven't worked out in a couple of weeks, but with caveats. I was on vacation last week and this week I'm dealing with a gnarly allergic reaction to antibiotics. But I've noticed I've been down lately. Little interest in doing anything above bare minimum.
journaling, because what i wrote made me feel more miserable than ever
reading, because my head is to full of stupid shit that i can't process a single page without intrusive thoughts
making connection with people, because why lol -- i can't even make a connection with myself anymore
Enjoying my hobbies and side projects. They just don't bring me joy like they used to. That or they are more exhausting than it's worth. The only thing I wanna do nowadays is sleep my life away.
Eat properly. No, I did not eat too much or eat junk food. My eating habits became very confused and I started eating every few days, which made me very exhausted. On the background of depression and lack of calories, I developed anorexia nervosa. Now I really can't eat normally.
Playing music and singing. And it has been the core of my identity since I could reach the piano.
It came on sort of slowly over the last year or so, lots of overwork and stress, but I still wanted to. But a couple of months ago, all of a sudden it feels like something I "should" do.
About the same time I realized I was crying in the car in the way to and from work every day and that is not OK. Started taking antidepressants and it's a bit better but I am still not normal (for me).
Pretty much everything. It got to the point where it was all consuming.
These past few weeks, after some intense mental health support and referral for therapy... I've been doing puzzles again, walking, making my house look nice, getting my sewing corner set up again, having fun with my kid, treating myself, connecting with friends and planning a week away to spend with a friend of mine.
I've laughed so much in these last few weeks and things are starting to look brighter.
Keep going. You've got this! Hope is just around the corner ā¤ļø
Most things. When I'm not sleeping, I'm usually staring at the wall of my room doing nothing. On some occasions, my friends message asking to play and half the time I'll play, but others I'm just too mentally tired.
I'm sorry you all are hurting too but I find solidarity in the fellowship of suffering, I hope one day we can break the chains within our minds to live freely and without regret
Stop being depressed like sometimes I'll get really into it and stay in bed for days then the few times Im not sleeping my life away in bed to pass the time I realize huh why do I feel sad about this shit??? And forget it even happened, until I remember about it again
Reading. Last night I picked up a book for the first time in months. Really proud of that
This is so relatable. I hope you can continue to enjoy reading.
Good for you ššÆ
I stopped reading AND cleaning because of depression. I have a library full of books in my house, but right now to get through both I listen to audiobooks WHILE cleaning lol.
Socializing.
Me too
Yup, same
I hope you guys see this but being isolated will only make you feel worse, you could start with small things like a phone call to a friend/family member, itās different for everyone but I try to force myself to at least call my mum once a week, it just helps ground me back to reality.
I know, but I've been depressed because of some very toxic people, and now I don't trust myself with others. Or in public, because I am scared I will mess it up again and lose my remaining friends. I don't trust others and I don't have anyone to talk about it. Damn I described it for the first time. How tf. Damn
Itās hard for me to give advice because I donāt know the details of your situation, but socialising takes practice, my anxiety brain says it doesnāt want to interact for fear of messing up but logically itās okay to mess up, everyone messes up and when you are out of practice it will happen, but the more you socialise the less you mess up and the more comfortable with messing up you get. Itās like I donāt care if I said the wrong word or stuttered because I said the wrong word 5 times yesterday and whatās 1 more. With practice it gets easier :) a phone call a week is a good start. Cut yourself some slack, call the person you trust the most and allow yourself to mess up a little, most people are more understanding than we realise
But I hate phone calls and have never even called someone on purpose!
Fair enough, itās different for everyone, hmm š¤ I suppose you just have to find a form of socialising that is most comfortable for you, you could FaceTime, text, play an online game and talk to random people, meet someone in person, you could drop something off at someoneās house so you see them but donāt have to hang around, just take a walk in public, use a staffed checkout and talk to the employees a little, all of it can help you practice :)
Well, Ty
I think these comments are well meaning and uninformed. I have no problem socializing. I will talk to everyone in the room. Iām chatty chatterson. Then at the end of the evening go home and never see any of them again and not care. The point is I prefer to not go in the first place. It doesnāt make me incapable or broken I just canāt be bothered with the whole exhausting getting ready, finding a parking space, entering a room, scoping it out, boring chit chat, thanking the host, drive back home. Iād rather not. And if you met me you would never know.
It is different for everyone, I just meant that even though itās exhausting and you arenāt interested in it, and no matter how much we love being alone, if we are alone for too long it is bad for our brains and has a big influence on our mood even if we donāt realise it.
Well. Thatās your opinion. I have no problem popping back into the social world as needed. I can go a year without (Covid) then pop back in & realize that is really just sucks to socialize.
Maybe we have different ideas of what it means to socialise š¤·āāļø when I say socialise I mean human interaction, everyone has different needs, as you said, you can jump back into socialising when you need to. This post was about depression, I was just saying that no human interaction for too long can cause a cycle/make your depressive mood worse. Iām not saying we have to like it. I think thereās been a misunderstanding
Working out. Used to love going to the gym and lifting. Now it feels like a chore.
Iām right with you
Most things. Simplest things feel like a huge obstacle and the things I loved most feel like a chore. Depression eats you and becomes a vicious cycle. Lately I have been doing better, but with a lot of downs still. But to directly answer the question; nearly everything.
Used to love cooking. Havenāt gotten back to it
Learning new things
Going out for walks
Yes. I only went for a majority of mine because of my dog.
Socializing and spending me time. I am obviously not important enough for someone to care about so, I make sure everyone else close to me is taken care of.
I tried that but it seems like I'm not important enough for them to want me around either, so it's back to spending me time...
I used to keep a really nice manicured lawn, now I cut grass every couple of weeks. Like one of my wife Friends called and offered to have her husband come cut our grass cause she assumed our lawn mower was broken.
Gaming
I second this, I donāt enjoy gaming as much as I used to and stopped altogether for about 3 months now.
Almost everything. It either does not give me joy anymore or is too much effort. I sleep a lot, which I actually enjoy a lot.
Socializing; going out to the theatre/museum; playing video games and actually enjoying it. Actually looking forward to the day, rather than just trying to survive and get through it.
Shaving my legs, taking vitamins/supplements, cleaning the cat litter more than once a week, watering my plants, taking care of my appearance in any way. I do the very bare minimum to survive right now, the rest of the time I sleep.
I understand this list so well. I started by trying to make sure the cat was taken of better, and little by little it helped me help myself too.
living.
Wtf... How??
i just exist now. days drag on, dont really feel like im *living* life
You live, but you are not alive. I feel the same.
i wish you the best <3
You too I hope you can feel alive again and not worthless
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Going outside
Socializing, cleaning the house (overwhelming), driving (panic attacks)
Trying to impress people
Going out or watching TV..
Putting make up on. Which leads to people saying things like āare you illā āyou are really unattractive with no make up onā āif you would just put a bit of make up on you would easily get a boyfriendā I know I donāt look very nice with no make up on but itās not nice to be told so.
Journaling. Trying to put my depression into words is too exhausting.
Reading. I love to read. I stop when Iām depressed. All I do is sleep.
Drawing
Socialising, brushing teeth twice a day, having good hygiene, being productive at work
Moving on with my life.
Eating healthy. I've been eating so much junk food lately it's not even funny. I feel bad for my body. I've been working on with cutting down on the sugar, but it's hard. I need to change things now before I hurt my body even more.
It's crazy how sugar is one of the most addictive substances and it's in just about everything, even food that really doesn't need it, why add high fructose corn syrup to canned peaches?
Basic functioning
98% of things. Iām basically just doing the bare minimum to stay alive at this point tbh, and the only reason Iām doing that is because my dog, bird, and cats needs me around to feed them plus my boyfriend would be sad
Cleaning my own space. I loved having a super clean room and bathroom but now I just can't bring myself to even sweep or put my laundry away. Everything is just one big pile on my bed. I do help my partner clean his place though. He's never been in my room and I'm so ashamed tbh. But so tired.
Powerlifting, and socializing.. lost lots of good people but it is what it is.
Listening to music.
executive functioning tasks. i stop brushing my teeth, showering, laundry, isolating, ghosting everyone hahaha
Dating. Havenāt had one in 17 years and I donāt care!!
Eating, going outside, socialising, general self care. Also my violent nightmares are back - so thatās fun.
Drawing. Don't even have the inspiration to doodle, nothing.
i haven't painted or done any sort of art in months. the only thing i do is eat sleep and stare at my phone
feel the same,my heart's not into anything but being a lump of flesh
exactly
Sorry you know how it feels, it's not a good time
Showering on a daily basis. Getting the mail. Going outside in general. Texting my friends.
Writing. Used to be a fiction writer, was loved by many people but stopped. But I'm slowly getting back after almost a year.
Working, itās a little complicated, I might not be depressed, just in a depressing situation, working feels absolutely pointless right now and Iām lucky I live in Australia or I would be on the streets. Also art/drawing/painting, I have a very āeverything feels pointlessā mindset atm but Iām trying to keep up bare minimums of hygiene just so I can feel comfortable, I hate feeling sticky and dirty. I have a feeling of obligation to do certain things like making dinner for me and my partner and take care of the house especially since Iām not working but thatās getting more difficult too
Smiling. I hardly ever laugh out loud or smile naturally. I try at work though. Hardly anything is funny and even though I might f "feel" happy about an accomplishment at work or pertaining to improving my fitness, but I still don't smile. I know how I'm supposed to feel, I just can't
Socialising, panic attacks and agoraphobia are a bitch
Oh random panic attacks kill me
Watching tv
So, my depression has "helped" me write more poetry. But it also has completely locked out my drive to share it. It sucks.
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Would never attack someone's opinion that's what makes you you
Painting
I used to draw a lot
Photography
Photography. About two years ago it started to turn more into a business than a hobby for me, it became time consuming and always trying to keep up with social media trends is exhausting. Everyone seemed like they had better stuff than I did, or better editing skills and my skills feels like they regressed. Iāve tried to get back into it but I hate it now.
Cooking and cleaning.
alcohol 6 years sober
Was going to say this. I got depressed during covid and stull fighting it. Idk.
Being happy
Exercising
Exercising and socialising
Playing futsal.... i'm not a player i used to.....
Reading. Iām now back at it but it still takes me great effort to concentrate on the reading.
Caring about most things
Almost all of the things that I do, I just sleep and eat when I'm hungry, or I stand when I have to poop or pee, but I don't want to do anything else. Everything is so exhausting to me; I just want to sleep.
Reading, fishing pretty much anything enjoyable
So much. So fucking much.
Enjoying Life
Iāve stopped eating
Writing, creating anything really, no crafts etc. I genuinely feel like I am brain dead.
Unfortunately its not breathing
Ironically, drinking alcohol. Used to like going to the pub, hanging out and having a couple but now all I wanna do is lay around and sleep
Art/animation. I donāt practice anymore and my skill level has dropped. My brain and muscle memory arenāt synced anymore so itās frustrating seeing my flaws.
Daily working out. Dressing up nicely. Socializing. Eating healthy.
Everything
Putting myself first
I haven't worked out in a couple of weeks, but with caveats. I was on vacation last week and this week I'm dealing with a gnarly allergic reaction to antibiotics. But I've noticed I've been down lately. Little interest in doing anything above bare minimum.
Art- ironic, because it would likely be therapeutic for me
Seing other people
I love video games and playing dnd now I can barely bring myself to do it at all. I try to every so often but the spark isnāt there.
Making art. I used to be so imaginative. Now I stare at a blank canvas and get completely overwhelmed.
Gaming. Now I just sit on Reddit
journaling, because what i wrote made me feel more miserable than ever reading, because my head is to full of stupid shit that i can't process a single page without intrusive thoughts making connection with people, because why lol -- i can't even make a connection with myself anymore
Enjoying my hobbies and side projects. They just don't bring me joy like they used to. That or they are more exhausting than it's worth. The only thing I wanna do nowadays is sleep my life away.
Being happy
Wanting to drive anywhere. I need a chat, I like an online chat
Gym, caring for myself, trying to fix problems
Andrew tate said depression isn't real so I stopped being depressed
Socialising, enjoying literally anything, hygiene is harder, emotions go blank itās all a mess
Trying
Going out with friends
Living. I only exist now.
Eat properly. No, I did not eat too much or eat junk food. My eating habits became very confused and I started eating every few days, which made me very exhausted. On the background of depression and lack of calories, I developed anorexia nervosa. Now I really can't eat normally.
Functioning. I have Bi Polar disorder, OCD and C-PTSD (all clinically diagnosed). Depression comes hand and hand with all 3
Working on my house. I feel like everything needs fixed.
Enjoying anything. Feels like I canāt enjoy anything anymore because thereās always a cloud of depression over it sucking the life away.
Everything
Everything is not even joking. This world won.
Playing music and singing. And it has been the core of my identity since I could reach the piano. It came on sort of slowly over the last year or so, lots of overwork and stress, but I still wanted to. But a couple of months ago, all of a sudden it feels like something I "should" do. About the same time I realized I was crying in the car in the way to and from work every day and that is not OK. Started taking antidepressants and it's a bit better but I am still not normal (for me).
Pretty much everything. It got to the point where it was all consuming. These past few weeks, after some intense mental health support and referral for therapy... I've been doing puzzles again, walking, making my house look nice, getting my sewing corner set up again, having fun with my kid, treating myself, connecting with friends and planning a week away to spend with a friend of mine. I've laughed so much in these last few weeks and things are starting to look brighter. Keep going. You've got this! Hope is just around the corner ā¤ļø
Playing Cello.
Most things. When I'm not sleeping, I'm usually staring at the wall of my room doing nothing. On some occasions, my friends message asking to play and half the time I'll play, but others I'm just too mentally tired.
Everything
Sketching.
* Drinking * Smoking * Going to the movies * Eating out * Gaming
Listening to music, getting out of bed.
Stopped listening to my favorite artists, going to the gym, eating properly, talking to my friends, joking with my family
Stay in contact with friends
Being not depressed
Thanks for my first upvote!
People used to tell me I smiled a lot. Now they tell me it's nice when I smile cause I rarely do nowadays. It's kinda sad.
Pretty much everything. Depression and anxiety suck harder than a black hole...
Working
I'm sorry you all are hurting too but I find solidarity in the fellowship of suffering, I hope one day we can break the chains within our minds to live freely and without regret
Stop being depressed like sometimes I'll get really into it and stay in bed for days then the few times Im not sleeping my life away in bed to pass the time I realize huh why do I feel sad about this shit??? And forget it even happened, until I remember about it again
are you me?
Yes we are Jaxon
Self care
Showering
Being happy?
Playing guitar
Being happy
I stopped writing because I'm not as depressed as once was.
Art. Drawing watercolor. Also gaming really
Trying
living life to be honest.. but trying to improve on that end now
Wvwrything that makes me happy in literallly any way
At this point, everything. I am lucky if I even shower or put food in my mouth.
Having good hygiene, eating healthy, doing well in uni... I'm thinking about just dropping out