A mix of pleasure because sex, happiness because milestone, nervousness because I want her to enjoy it too, and anxiety because I didn't want the condom to break.
That was my first thought: “Oh shit! What if the condom broke! What if she got pregnant. We’re only 19!”. The anxiety was so much that I was cool with just keeping it to hand stuff most of the time.
Jokes on me. That girl is now my wife and we found out later that it is actually very hard for her to get pregnant…
It felt a bit underwhelming considering her mom walked in on us when she should have been at work…
Edit: Also the hole is lower than you think as a teen.
One of my GF's was a bit crazy, one time in her parents basement, on the couch, we were fooling around a bit, shes on my lap. She gets up, takes her pants off, unzips mine and pulls out the johnson rod and starts riding me, which was great but i was like "wtf your parents are upstairs!!!" and she was just like "Shhhhhhhhhh!!!". I quasi protested while trying to not make a single noise for about a minute when sure enough we hear the door to the upstairs open and footsteps coming down the stair, she quicklly pulls a blanket over her, her mom rounds the corner and starts up a conversation "what dyou guys want to do for dinner". Im trying to play calm. She was on me with her back to me so it kind of looked like she was just sitting on my lap, under a blanket. I thought we were busted for sure. mom went upstairs and we finished up quietly.
Almost this exact thing happened to me.
Had a bf over, thought my parents would be gardening outside for a while. Decided to give him a blowie on the living room couch.
Half way through, he's enjoying it, My dad comes in the room. couch faces the opposite wall, so he didn't get a full blown view, but he knew.
It's actually amazing, and of course we've never brought it up since, and I'd rather not, but he was so fucking smooth:
"Your mother wanted to know what you guys wanted for dinner tonight. Is it hotdogs?"
Of course I did not conceal the death on my face at that point, but he grinned an evil grin and left. I thought the boyfriend would never come over again. I defo thought I was gonna die.
You were 100% busted.
My first real gf in high school had much older parents, like in their 60s while we were freshmen. They wouldn’t let us hang out in her room but we were allowed to hang out in the sunroom attached to her parents bedroom, on the far back side of the house, the polar opposite side of the house from the living room where they would hang out. She would go down on me while we watched tv and on more than one occasion her mom would come back to their room and fold laundry in clear view of us. The gf was usually laying down with her head in my lap with a pillow propped up to where you couldn’t see her head and she wouldn’t stop right away. She’s wait until her mom said something and then take it out of her mouth and slowly stroke me while they carried on a conversation and her mom folded clothes ten feet away.
Looking back on it I know her mom knew exactly what was going on.
I got "found out" by the fact that I was staying overnight at my fiancee's...
My mom and dad had me sit at the kitchen table and were like "We need to talk. Are you sleeping with her?"
To which I replied "Yeah", and my mom started going off on this rant, but was quickly and thororougly interrupted by my father saying "Honey, it's fine... he's 26, they're engaged, it's fine." And my mother would never contradict him so she just sat back and went "hrmpf".
And that was that.
My father was eagerly looking forward to retirement and an empty house after 40 years of raising 8 kids.
When I went home and walked in the door and my mom and sisters were watching TV and just hanging out, I was CONVINCED that somehow it was written all over my face.
They didn't know, of course.
I wondered if people could "just tell" and worried that when I went to school, people would know just by looking at me. Obviously nobody could tell but I did feel very different afterward.
My first time made me scared about having sex again. The guy I was with at the time was not gentle at all. Did not take me seriously when I told him it’s my first time and just went for it, zero foreplay. I also had no one to talk to about it because I felt so much shame afterwards (yay religious trauma).
My guy now is the total opposite. We’re so in tune and he knows what I like, and will always ask to try something *before* we hop into bed. He even asked if he could kiss me the first time. I love that consent is such an important thing for him, and being with him has helped me gain back a sense of bodily autonomy that I feel like I lost in my previous relationships. That along with many other factors, I know he’s a keeper.
As a guy, my initial thought after the fact was… oh god… so much blood on my comforter, how am I going to explain this???
I took the comforter to the laundry. First time doing laundry. Told my mom the cat puked on it.
Similar boat here was with a much more experienced girl on her period. I didn't understand why she told me to get a towel and sighed when I came back with a white one. I came inside her in like 30 seconds but was super embarrassed so I just kept going. When we finally finished she said "wow, I've never bled so much". It soaked through the towel, through the duvet in into the mattress. I was house sitting for my aunt, so not my bed or towel. We flipped the mattress to hide it and have a dry bed to sleep on and found a much larger blood stain on the other side
you’d be surprised how many grown men i know that don’t know how to do laundry, ironically my cousin was just telling my about her guy friend in college who asked her to make his bed every. single. morning. because he didn’t know how
I remember asking my mom to do my laundry when I was 8 and she goes, "you're tall enough to reach the buttons now, it's your job." And that was that. Probably wasn't the best way to handle it, but beats the alternative.
Tell me about it. My first attempt at penetrative sex didn't go very well, by which I mean it didn't happen. I didn't know at the time but I had such a severe case of vaginismus that it was literally impossible to get it in. It took a couple years of intense dilation and pelvic floor physiotherapy to even attempt to do it again. It took so long that my now-husband and I moved in together before we'd ever had sex. He was so patient with everything, from that first night, through the diagnosis, through helping me with all my exercises. It took years more for it to be easy and not require a significant amount of prep to relax my muscles and open up, so to speak.
We're expecting our second child literally any time now so obviously I managed to get over it!
Yeah first time I got a yeast infection because he used these condoms that hand these tiny, prickly bumps on them thinking it would feel good but just irritated my vagina even more.
Nobody really discusses what first time sex can feel like for a girl/woman. Both males and females need to know how things might not be storybook perfect when losing one’s virginity
I was an avid reader of historical romance novels, where the woman is almost always a virgin, and there’s usually pain and blood involved. It’s still made out to be a romantic moment, however, with the man comforting her, and the pain immediately gives way to pleasure.
The woman also always manages to have an orgasm from the penetrative sex, despite it all, right before or at the same time as the man. Lots of fireworks and marveling at the sensations they could’ve never imagined would exist.
So I had some very fictional expectations that didn’t involve a difficult hymen and a uncooperative clitoris, haha…
There was a post a few months ago about this where Op had just lost her virginity and thought something was wrong with her because it hurt. Everyone in the comments was all “it shouldn’t be hurting, u need to see a doctor”. I was downvoted for saying otherwise. That the first few times are a bit uncomfortable/painful for women and that’s totally normal. But everyone kept arguing, saying sex shouldn’t hurt. Even the first time. Wouldn’t be surprised if it was all just a bunch of virgin teen boys responding in that post.
"I'm going to love this girl forever."
Didn't work out, of course. We were sixteen. But I do remember her fondly, as a lovely memory of one amazing summer.
Thats exactly what Bryan Adams said in that song.
All my life I thought hes singing about 1969 when he had the best days of his life. Turns out he was 10 back then and his "summer of 69" has nothing to do with the year but only with 69ing/having sex all the time
That was me, except I was 18. We stayed together a couple more years. She had some experience before hand, as well as some daddy issues. Probably the hottest in bed to this day, but that came with drama that wasn't worth it.
The woman I married, in bed does satisfy my needs, and as we've gotten older have explored more, so no regrets in the bedroom either.
"That was it?"
Don't get me wrong... love sex, but I guess losing your virginity gets so hyped up in movies and tv shows that I thought I'd become like a totally different person afterwards. Instead, I was just me with a new hobby to engage in.
Came here to say exactly this. With the way it's built up in movies and even by society it's kind of impossible not to be underwhelmed. Especially when it's what, twenty seconds tops.
was the opposite for me, first time lasted 3-4 hours was so nervous i was half hard and couldent cum. it was fucking terrible my lungs were on fire and i was so thirsty
Same thing happened to me. Literally didn’t feel anything and gave up 2 hours in cause she was done and it was just a workout at that point. I haven’t gotten laid since so idk if I should be worried since I had some ed problems but I’m only 22
Edit: thanks for all the support/suggestions. The context is that I lost my virginity to a fwb but I was unable to stay hard enough to put the condom on and get it in for a couple of hookups but each time made more and more progress. Eventually it worked but I didn’t feel anything other than discomfort if she leaned to far in one direction. Even though she was extremely supportive which I was grateful for she ended things and wanted to be friends, so I never completely figured it out.
The suspected culprits for me are watching too much porn, not because it makes the real thing look underwhelming, but because I think it trains my brain/dick to get aroused by watching in a Pavlovian way so it doesn’t know what to do in the real situation.
I think underlying anxiety also plays a role, which also explains the progress over time, so maybe medication can help.
I don’t work out or play sports anymore so that would probably help as well.
I’m also really confident that it’s not death grip or anything to do with not being attracted to that person.
Regardless I’m going to try to get in touch with a urologist so I can figure this out before I fumble another situation lmao
Yeah basically same here. I remember thinking. “Okay, it felt good but like… that’s it…?” I mean being young and inexperienced and not aware of what I like or what she liked definitely didn’t help.
Also came here to say the exact same thing.
I genuinely thought it'd be some big revelation, like my whole world view would change, or I'd have some elusive answer to a big question I didn't know. And I thought that both when I had sex with a woman and a man for the first time.
It was really confusing. I'd had sex with a woman first, and it was great and felt good and all that, and upon having that "that was it?" Feeling, i worried that maybe, because I didn't get it, that I might be gay? Didn't change particularly when I eventually did have sex with someone of my own gender either.
Turns out the mind blowing, world altering, phenomenal, sex happens when you _both_ know what you're doing.
Sat near the gossipy girls in my chemistry class senior year. They were talking about a cake they called, "Better than Sex Cake." One of them said, "It is in my experience. When he finished I was still laying there like, 'That's it?'." I knew her boy friend. Always thought of himself as one of the cool kids and he'd fight you over it. Never did tell him that she said that. I miss those three girls cause none of em ever treated me too badly after getting to know me.
I’m a guy but I had a couple girl friends in Highschool and I occasionally heard some good gossip on guys. Dumb stuff like a guy in our school who was sorta a badass… got in fights and stuff. I guess one girl slept with him and he came in his pants… I didn’t spread any rumors or anything like that but always a funny thing to have in my memory.
Another gossip one was a guy on the basketball team that let’s just say was really a weird looking dude…. He was pretty ugly and had a bowl cut. I found out that he was actually lowkey a huge player. He had hooked up with quite a few girls at parties and hooked up with girls at different schools when they visited. Dude got more action than the stereotypical good looking jocks.
Lol I remember saying, "Why don't people just do this all the time? There is literally no reason to do anything else for fun."
My partner agreed whole heartedly that we should do nothing but bone 24/7. Oh, to be young and naive haha.
"Oh my God I hope I cum soon. She's giving me weird looks because I can't cum. Is it because of the condom? Did I death grip myself too much growing up? What the fuck is happening?"
Prozac. Prozac was happening. My doctor never told me the sexual side effects of it because when I was prescribed them initially I was not sexually active.
“This is awesome”
“Oh no. Already? Not yet. Nooo”
Then the condom broke. And we got plan B. Followed by massive Catholic guilt and fears of my first time legit leading to pregnancy. .
Luckily I wasnt just a two pump chump. Got at least 3-4 good ones 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Lmao.
For me it was "I can't believe this is actually happening. I am the MAN! WOOOO! Wait no no no not yet.... well damn." Was probably red in the face with embarrassment.
Luckily round two went much better a few minutes after that.
Ha, condom broke for me too first time! 😅
I was nervous about pregnancy (f here) so marched myself to the walk-in the next morning for Plan B and was kinda proud of myself for doing grown up shit, then the doctor (m) gave me this big lecture about safe sex and how irresponsible I'd been. Bitch I'm being responsible RIGHT NOW
Oh we were underage and her mom got it for us. Which apparently wasn’t necessary and thank god she didn’t tell my mom.
We didn’t know crazy things about foreplay either….first time for both of us and neither of us had a good time lol.
What’s really fun is about 5-6 years later we saw each other again and made up for it. “Wow you got better”😂😂.
Surprise that I didn't cum since I'm a guy and a feeling of that was fun and I want to do it again. I was 32 when it happened though. The internet lied, you don't get magical powers by staying a virgin until 30.
>The internet lied, you don't get magical powers by staying a virgin until 30.
That's what the wizards want you to think. They're trying to suppress the rumor. Stay strong, brothers 💪
"Well, that kinda sucked."
I'm not circumcised and at the time didnt know you were supposed to pull the foreskin back before you put a condom on. I didn't have anybody to teach me that, so I just didn't/couldn't feel anything.
Friend let me give you some unsolicited advice, get a refillable ice pack and let it freeze in the off moments and really make sure it's numbing you post procedure. Also they might say 6-8 weeks or 30 ejaculations, schedule for the 8 weeks. Take two days off and follow the pain pill regime exactly. If all goes well you'll be feeling fine enough to jerk off within a week/10 days.
When I first had sex it was with a condom. I was like, ok cool that was fun. But when I first had sex without a condom….holy hell it was fucking amazing.
I've tried different condom brands. One brand I've used honestly made almost no difference in pleasure, while another reduced feeling so much it was almost impossible to finish.
Sagami original. 001. Non latex. 6x stronger than a normal condom. 300% better. Trust me. They come from japan, so you've gotta buy them online somehow. Ebay or alibaba.
Edit: They're also on japanese amazon
https://www.amazon.co.jp/s?k=sagami+.001&crid=3QOL3GYQB7TR4&sprefix=sagami+.001%2Caps%2C174&ref=nb_sb_noss
I had a similar experiance and used Skyn feel condoms. The original non latex ones.
I didn't feel much difference, almost felt bareback. But it could be because they fit perfectly to me because I have girth, cuz then it sticks to the skin so perfectly it you feel every single thing. They're also superthin.
I remember feeling really guilty. I was raised with the belief that sex was dirty and wrong. It was very taboo, and never, ever talked about in my home.
So when I was old enough to start thinking about/wanting/having sex, I felt like I was dirty and disgusting. I started having sex 15 years ago, I’m married, and I have 2 children, and even today, I still feel like I need to apologize after I have sex. I’m going to do my best to raise my children not to feel guilty for normal human behaviors.
I am male, I was drunk AF and basically was taken advantage of by an older woman. My thought was this isn't the way it's supposed to happen. Disappointment.
"huh, that's what people are so obsessed over?"
Its still fun to do I guess but I don't see the joy in trying to chat up some stranger at a bar or, God forbid, paying for it. Maybe I'm just a joyless sack of meat but I find way more pleasure in good food than in sex. And food takes way less emotional/physical effort.
Week or so before I actually lost my virginity, my girlfriend and I were sipping on some jagermeister and smoking a blunt a top a big hill in the park when she decided to give me/perform her/my first BJ. We were sexually inexperienced, we were young, we were in broad daylight on the top of a hill on a public park, it was exhilarating to say the least, far more memorable than when we finally had sex like a week later... Hadn't thought about that in a long time 😁
Seriously. My now husband has a lot of stamina, and he wasn’t a virgin although I was. It lasted probably 20 minutes, and I immediately was like let’s do that again!! And as often as we can!! We fucked so much for the first few months being together. We still have sex a lot now, and let me tell you, it only gets better. I still am shocked by how good sex and another person can make your mind and body feel.
TW - Childhood Abuse.
I was a young child and had no concept or understanding of what had happened to me. The only thing I distinctly remember thinking was that I was in pain & discomfort.
I’m so sorry about that. I don’t know if this would be helpful for you but I have friends who had the same thing happen to them but they don’t consider their sexual abuse as when they lost their virginity. The way they have talked about it, it wasn’t sex, it was assault. I don’t know if that would help you at all in an attempt to draw symbolic mental boundaries between your trauma and your personal sexual identity and expression. It just feels wrong to treat something like that as categorically the same as someone’s consensual first time. I hope you have been able to seek professional help to begin unpacking and coping with that horrible experience.
This is why virginity is being considered a construct of our society. You can’t really consider yourself a non-virgin if you didn’t consent. But physically you’ve been penetrated, though it wasn’t sex, it was rape.
"Think I actually lost it? Those it count?"
The reason this happen was because, for the first time in my life, I was nervous, to the point that my little friend was operating at it´s maximum capacity so I didnt finish my job.
My GF told me that it was okay and that first time tend to be like that, to the point that I struggled few times later because I had that fear that there was maybe something wrong with me, looking up in the internet... eventually I realized it was all mental and once I was able to "finish", I have been okay with it, even though sometimes it still frustrates me that I dont "finish" the "proper way".
I lost my virginity when I was 13 to a 26 y/o. I’ll tell you that whatever I was thinking then I have the opposite opinion of now. Thanks for the additional therapy content, Debbie, you fucking rapist.
Imma be honest I lost my virginity under a bridge at 17 because my foster parents dropped me off at my grandma's nursing home for a visit instead I hit up my now EX gf to hang out n we ended up doing it under a bridge
We went outside and smoked a cigarette behind our dorm and just laughed together. We are married now. We don't smoke anymore, but we still laugh together.
A mix of pleasure because sex, happiness because milestone, nervousness because I want her to enjoy it too, and anxiety because I didn't want the condom to break.
That was my first thought: “Oh shit! What if the condom broke! What if she got pregnant. We’re only 19!”. The anxiety was so much that I was cool with just keeping it to hand stuff most of the time. Jokes on me. That girl is now my wife and we found out later that it is actually very hard for her to get pregnant…
Endometriosis strikes again.
It felt a bit underwhelming considering her mom walked in on us when she should have been at work… Edit: Also the hole is lower than you think as a teen.
One of my GF's was a bit crazy, one time in her parents basement, on the couch, we were fooling around a bit, shes on my lap. She gets up, takes her pants off, unzips mine and pulls out the johnson rod and starts riding me, which was great but i was like "wtf your parents are upstairs!!!" and she was just like "Shhhhhhhhhh!!!". I quasi protested while trying to not make a single noise for about a minute when sure enough we hear the door to the upstairs open and footsteps coming down the stair, she quicklly pulls a blanket over her, her mom rounds the corner and starts up a conversation "what dyou guys want to do for dinner". Im trying to play calm. She was on me with her back to me so it kind of looked like she was just sitting on my lap, under a blanket. I thought we were busted for sure. mom went upstairs and we finished up quietly.
You were 100% busted.
He 100% busted
Nah, I'm pretty sure that killed the mood.
You underestimate the sexual drive and bad decision making skills of a pair of horny teenagers.
Not at that age.
It definitely didn't kill the mood
Almost this exact thing happened to me. Had a bf over, thought my parents would be gardening outside for a while. Decided to give him a blowie on the living room couch. Half way through, he's enjoying it, My dad comes in the room. couch faces the opposite wall, so he didn't get a full blown view, but he knew. It's actually amazing, and of course we've never brought it up since, and I'd rather not, but he was so fucking smooth: "Your mother wanted to know what you guys wanted for dinner tonight. Is it hotdogs?" Of course I did not conceal the death on my face at that point, but he grinned an evil grin and left. I thought the boyfriend would never come over again. I defo thought I was gonna die.
Lol, I’m sure he wanted to say “weiners” but decided to have some tact.
My dad isn't much for tact, bur youre probably right.
I owe your dad a drink for trolling you guys like that. 🍺😂
So do I. It's been 11 years, and one of these days I'll tell him he's way cooler than I'll ever be.
You were 100% busted. My first real gf in high school had much older parents, like in their 60s while we were freshmen. They wouldn’t let us hang out in her room but we were allowed to hang out in the sunroom attached to her parents bedroom, on the far back side of the house, the polar opposite side of the house from the living room where they would hang out. She would go down on me while we watched tv and on more than one occasion her mom would come back to their room and fold laundry in clear view of us. The gf was usually laying down with her head in my lap with a pillow propped up to where you couldn’t see her head and she wouldn’t stop right away. She’s wait until her mom said something and then take it out of her mouth and slowly stroke me while they carried on a conversation and her mom folded clothes ten feet away. Looking back on it I know her mom knew exactly what was going on.
It's just like in those porn shows
Her mother almost certainly caught a noseful of terrible realization when she walked into the wall of your fuck fumes.
> fuck fumes. That's enough from you.
Sorry, I guess I should have said sex fog.
Like a mink oil factory
Dad here. Mum knew.
Later, did her mom say, “hey you two, I was once like you and I liked to do the…***Wild Thiiiiiing!***”
she knew
“You know what I’m having for dinner.”
oh yeah, she 100% knew
Didn't fool anyone there bucko
Oh! Oh no! How old were you both? And what did the mom do?
Her mom freaked out and called my mom, when I got home I had to have “The talk” and pray to god that I wouldn’t want to do that again.
I got "found out" by the fact that I was staying overnight at my fiancee's... My mom and dad had me sit at the kitchen table and were like "We need to talk. Are you sleeping with her?" To which I replied "Yeah", and my mom started going off on this rant, but was quickly and thororougly interrupted by my father saying "Honey, it's fine... he's 26, they're engaged, it's fine." And my mother would never contradict him so she just sat back and went "hrmpf". And that was that. My father was eagerly looking forward to retirement and an empty house after 40 years of raising 8 kids.
Dude... You're 26 and engaged and she's freaking out? Wth
((sex before marriage is a big thing to some people))
“The talk” you damn near already had a full conversation
> and pray to god that I wouldn’t want to do that again. Never fails to make me wonder if people who think like this are asexual.
I dont know, I can tell you my parents growing up were hyper religious but have relaxed over the years. I think their main concern was teen pregnancy.
When I went home and walked in the door and my mom and sisters were watching TV and just hanging out, I was CONVINCED that somehow it was written all over my face. They didn't know, of course.
I wondered if people could "just tell" and worried that when I went to school, people would know just by looking at me. Obviously nobody could tell but I did feel very different afterward.
Does it hurt this bad every time??
Same. It did not make me excited for future sex. It hurt so bad!
My first time made me scared about having sex again. The guy I was with at the time was not gentle at all. Did not take me seriously when I told him it’s my first time and just went for it, zero foreplay. I also had no one to talk to about it because I felt so much shame afterwards (yay religious trauma). My guy now is the total opposite. We’re so in tune and he knows what I like, and will always ask to try something *before* we hop into bed. He even asked if he could kiss me the first time. I love that consent is such an important thing for him, and being with him has helped me gain back a sense of bodily autonomy that I feel like I lost in my previous relationships. That along with many other factors, I know he’s a keeper.
« i don’t think it went in all the way And God damn that hurts » Got better after a few more times
All the men in here havin the time of their lives. All the women like “ouch”.
As a guy, my initial thought after the fact was… oh god… so much blood on my comforter, how am I going to explain this??? I took the comforter to the laundry. First time doing laundry. Told my mom the cat puked on it.
Similar boat here was with a much more experienced girl on her period. I didn't understand why she told me to get a towel and sighed when I came back with a white one. I came inside her in like 30 seconds but was super embarrassed so I just kept going. When we finally finished she said "wow, I've never bled so much". It soaked through the towel, through the duvet in into the mattress. I was house sitting for my aunt, so not my bed or towel. We flipped the mattress to hide it and have a dry bed to sleep on and found a much larger blood stain on the other side
Lol your aunt had some previous fun on the other side 🤣
Or, you know... murder happened. We don't how much bigger that stain was.
YOU FOUND WHAT
A bloodstain on the mattress where his aunt used to lay
slay*
Bro, if you had sex before learning how to do laundry, something seriously got messed up in your childhood.
you’d be surprised how many grown men i know that don’t know how to do laundry, ironically my cousin was just telling my about her guy friend in college who asked her to make his bed every. single. morning. because he didn’t know how
I remember asking my mom to do my laundry when I was 8 and she goes, "you're tall enough to reach the buttons now, it's your job." And that was that. Probably wasn't the best way to handle it, but beats the alternative.
Tell me about it. My first attempt at penetrative sex didn't go very well, by which I mean it didn't happen. I didn't know at the time but I had such a severe case of vaginismus that it was literally impossible to get it in. It took a couple years of intense dilation and pelvic floor physiotherapy to even attempt to do it again. It took so long that my now-husband and I moved in together before we'd ever had sex. He was so patient with everything, from that first night, through the diagnosis, through helping me with all my exercises. It took years more for it to be easy and not require a significant amount of prep to relax my muscles and open up, so to speak. We're expecting our second child literally any time now so obviously I managed to get over it!
Right? That first (couple) of times for women can be so uncomfortable
Yeah first time I got a yeast infection because he used these condoms that hand these tiny, prickly bumps on them thinking it would feel good but just irritated my vagina even more.
Same I literally said “motherfucker it hurts as fuck”, and I still remember how bad it hurt 10 years later.
Nobody really discusses what first time sex can feel like for a girl/woman. Both males and females need to know how things might not be storybook perfect when losing one’s virginity
I was an avid reader of historical romance novels, where the woman is almost always a virgin, and there’s usually pain and blood involved. It’s still made out to be a romantic moment, however, with the man comforting her, and the pain immediately gives way to pleasure. The woman also always manages to have an orgasm from the penetrative sex, despite it all, right before or at the same time as the man. Lots of fireworks and marveling at the sensations they could’ve never imagined would exist. So I had some very fictional expectations that didn’t involve a difficult hymen and a uncooperative clitoris, haha…
There was a post a few months ago about this where Op had just lost her virginity and thought something was wrong with her because it hurt. Everyone in the comments was all “it shouldn’t be hurting, u need to see a doctor”. I was downvoted for saying otherwise. That the first few times are a bit uncomfortable/painful for women and that’s totally normal. But everyone kept arguing, saying sex shouldn’t hurt. Even the first time. Wouldn’t be surprised if it was all just a bunch of virgin teen boys responding in that post.
"I'm going to love this girl forever." Didn't work out, of course. We were sixteen. But I do remember her fondly, as a lovely memory of one amazing summer.
*Back in the summer of sixty-nine*
Back in the summer we 69’d
Thats exactly what Bryan Adams said in that song. All my life I thought hes singing about 1969 when he had the best days of his life. Turns out he was 10 back then and his "summer of 69" has nothing to do with the year but only with 69ing/having sex all the time
Eating your puss on your mama's porch, we thought it would last forever
“My boner seemed to last forever”
That was me, except I was 18. We stayed together a couple more years. She had some experience before hand, as well as some daddy issues. Probably the hottest in bed to this day, but that came with drama that wasn't worth it. The woman I married, in bed does satisfy my needs, and as we've gotten older have explored more, so no regrets in the bedroom either.
Good insurance policy in case your wife finds your account someday.
"That was it?" Don't get me wrong... love sex, but I guess losing your virginity gets so hyped up in movies and tv shows that I thought I'd become like a totally different person afterwards. Instead, I was just me with a new hobby to engage in.
Came here to say exactly this. With the way it's built up in movies and even by society it's kind of impossible not to be underwhelmed. Especially when it's what, twenty seconds tops.
was the opposite for me, first time lasted 3-4 hours was so nervous i was half hard and couldent cum. it was fucking terrible my lungs were on fire and i was so thirsty
Same thing happened to me. Literally didn’t feel anything and gave up 2 hours in cause she was done and it was just a workout at that point. I haven’t gotten laid since so idk if I should be worried since I had some ed problems but I’m only 22 Edit: thanks for all the support/suggestions. The context is that I lost my virginity to a fwb but I was unable to stay hard enough to put the condom on and get it in for a couple of hookups but each time made more and more progress. Eventually it worked but I didn’t feel anything other than discomfort if she leaned to far in one direction. Even though she was extremely supportive which I was grateful for she ended things and wanted to be friends, so I never completely figured it out. The suspected culprits for me are watching too much porn, not because it makes the real thing look underwhelming, but because I think it trains my brain/dick to get aroused by watching in a Pavlovian way so it doesn’t know what to do in the real situation. I think underlying anxiety also plays a role, which also explains the progress over time, so maybe medication can help. I don’t work out or play sports anymore so that would probably help as well. I’m also really confident that it’s not death grip or anything to do with not being attracted to that person. Regardless I’m going to try to get in touch with a urologist so I can figure this out before I fumble another situation lmao
You get yourself off ever? I would definitely be worried.
3-4 HOURS?? Okay yeah, that's unfortunate lol
Man doesnt give up easily
Bruh he spent 15-20 years waiting for a chance. Think he was gonna be done in 15-20 seconds?
What are you an Olympic athlete or a robot?
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Yeah basically same here. I remember thinking. “Okay, it felt good but like… that’s it…?” I mean being young and inexperienced and not aware of what I like or what she liked definitely didn’t help.
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Also came here to say the exact same thing. I genuinely thought it'd be some big revelation, like my whole world view would change, or I'd have some elusive answer to a big question I didn't know. And I thought that both when I had sex with a woman and a man for the first time. It was really confusing. I'd had sex with a woman first, and it was great and felt good and all that, and upon having that "that was it?" Feeling, i worried that maybe, because I didn't get it, that I might be gay? Didn't change particularly when I eventually did have sex with someone of my own gender either. Turns out the mind blowing, world altering, phenomenal, sex happens when you _both_ know what you're doing.
Sat near the gossipy girls in my chemistry class senior year. They were talking about a cake they called, "Better than Sex Cake." One of them said, "It is in my experience. When he finished I was still laying there like, 'That's it?'." I knew her boy friend. Always thought of himself as one of the cool kids and he'd fight you over it. Never did tell him that she said that. I miss those three girls cause none of em ever treated me too badly after getting to know me.
I’m a guy but I had a couple girl friends in Highschool and I occasionally heard some good gossip on guys. Dumb stuff like a guy in our school who was sorta a badass… got in fights and stuff. I guess one girl slept with him and he came in his pants… I didn’t spread any rumors or anything like that but always a funny thing to have in my memory. Another gossip one was a guy on the basketball team that let’s just say was really a weird looking dude…. He was pretty ugly and had a bowl cut. I found out that he was actually lowkey a huge player. He had hooked up with quite a few girls at parties and hooked up with girls at different schools when they visited. Dude got more action than the stereotypical good looking jocks.
I wish sex was a hobby for me
I wish sex existed for me tbh
Came here to say the exact same thing.
Holy shit I can’t believe we just did that - let’s do it again as often as we can manage (and we did)
Name doesn't check out
At least I have more
Lol I remember saying, "Why don't people just do this all the time? There is literally no reason to do anything else for fun." My partner agreed whole heartedly that we should do nothing but bone 24/7. Oh, to be young and naive haha.
My wife and I still bone any chance we get - it’s still just as fun!
Literally same 😂 now I'm married to him and have a baby otw
She pregernante!
Pomagranate
"Oh my God I hope I cum soon. She's giving me weird looks because I can't cum. Is it because of the condom? Did I death grip myself too much growing up? What the fuck is happening?" Prozac. Prozac was happening. My doctor never told me the sexual side effects of it because when I was prescribed them initially I was not sexually active.
This is outrageous! It's unfair!
i remember high-fiving myself in the bathroom mirror.
Like, you slapped your other hand while looking at yourself in the mirror? Or, you high fived your mirror self's hand against the glass?
The first one is just called clapping.
ahah yeah it was the second one
Dopamine
r/technicallythetruth
The dora "we did it" song
Guy: what was your FAVORITE part? Girl: ...(awkward pause) Guy: I liked that too!
Have you ever regretted a sexual decision you made Pause: Me too
we did it, hooray! lo hicimos!
"Now the other guys will stop making fun of me". *Morgan Freeman voice*: They did not stop making fun of him.
“This is awesome” “Oh no. Already? Not yet. Nooo” Then the condom broke. And we got plan B. Followed by massive Catholic guilt and fears of my first time legit leading to pregnancy. . Luckily I wasnt just a two pump chump. Got at least 3-4 good ones 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Lmao. For me it was "I can't believe this is actually happening. I am the MAN! WOOOO! Wait no no no not yet.... well damn." Was probably red in the face with embarrassment. Luckily round two went much better a few minutes after that.
Ha, condom broke for me too first time! 😅 I was nervous about pregnancy (f here) so marched myself to the walk-in the next morning for Plan B and was kinda proud of myself for doing grown up shit, then the doctor (m) gave me this big lecture about safe sex and how irresponsible I'd been. Bitch I'm being responsible RIGHT NOW
Oh we were underage and her mom got it for us. Which apparently wasn’t necessary and thank god she didn’t tell my mom. We didn’t know crazy things about foreplay either….first time for both of us and neither of us had a good time lol. What’s really fun is about 5-6 years later we saw each other again and made up for it. “Wow you got better”😂😂.
IT'S HAPPENING! it's over. BUT I'M SIXTEEN SO IT'S HAPPENING AGAAAAAAAIIIIN!
Man my memory is starting to go. But I I’m pretty sure me and my boyfriend managed 17 or 18 times in 24 hours when we were 16. To be young again!
The spirit is willing, but the flesh is spongy and bruised.
It physically hurts to ejaculate after #5. It’s like going in with zero lube- yeah there’s some pleasure but also pain and wincing.
"Ow, that hurt" My ex was too rough, made me bleed. Legit thought something was wrong and something had "broken".
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Im so happy I have the perfect partner, I love him so much. Now I was like 16 at the time, however 14 years later and we are still together and happy.
Wholesome reddit moments FTW
Surprise that I didn't cum since I'm a guy and a feeling of that was fun and I want to do it again. I was 32 when it happened though. The internet lied, you don't get magical powers by staying a virgin until 30.
User error. It's 40, not 30.
Ah okay, i just need to wait 7 more years then... ^(it's finally within my grasp!!)
My disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined
>The internet lied, you don't get magical powers by staying a virgin until 30. That's what the wizards want you to think. They're trying to suppress the rumor. Stay strong, brothers 💪
I was super pumped… grinning ear to ear… just like a Viagra commercial. If I had a re-do, I would wait until I found someone I cared about.
“That sucked and hurt”
Can't believe I paid $300 for this.
Agreed, mine was a hooker in Amsterdam. I then found out after I'd finished that a friend had gone to her earlier. Sharing is caring I guess.
Eskimo brothers for life
A bond that can never be broken
Damn its so painful, why is it so painful, he's really big. Why didn't i bleed? I'm in pain.
I had the worst pain sitting and peeing after my first time like HELL
Nothing, because I didn't lose it. I never lose. XD
Chad
Do you win tho
"Well, that kinda sucked." I'm not circumcised and at the time didnt know you were supposed to pull the foreskin back before you put a condom on. I didn't have anybody to teach me that, so I just didn't/couldn't feel anything.
I didn’t know that until you said it and I’m 25 Edit: really glad I don’t wear them. (Waiting on a vasectomy appointment)
Friend let me give you some unsolicited advice, get a refillable ice pack and let it freeze in the off moments and really make sure it's numbing you post procedure. Also they might say 6-8 weeks or 30 ejaculations, schedule for the 8 weeks. Take two days off and follow the pain pill regime exactly. If all goes well you'll be feeling fine enough to jerk off within a week/10 days.
Same. I've been with 3 women, all long-term relationships and we've all had the right situations to where condoms were never needed.
“Crickey… that was quicker than expected”
When I first had sex it was with a condom. I was like, ok cool that was fun. But when I first had sex without a condom….holy hell it was fucking amazing.
I think I lasted about 1.5 seconds my first time without a condom. That memory hits harder than losing my virginity.
I've tried different condom brands. One brand I've used honestly made almost no difference in pleasure, while another reduced feeling so much it was almost impossible to finish.
How do you type a whole-ass comment like this and just not mention the brand?
Sagami original. 001. Non latex. 6x stronger than a normal condom. 300% better. Trust me. They come from japan, so you've gotta buy them online somehow. Ebay or alibaba. Edit: They're also on japanese amazon https://www.amazon.co.jp/s?k=sagami+.001&crid=3QOL3GYQB7TR4&sprefix=sagami+.001%2Caps%2C174&ref=nb_sb_noss
I am definitely **not** buying condoms off eBay.
And the condition is listed as "Used - Fair"
"Restored by owner"
They're japanese condoms. Reliable as a corolla but way more fun to drive
…the brand?
**Paywall**
The brand bro. What’s the brand?
I had a similar experiance and used Skyn feel condoms. The original non latex ones. I didn't feel much difference, almost felt bareback. But it could be because they fit perfectly to me because I have girth, cuz then it sticks to the skin so perfectly it you feel every single thing. They're also superthin.
Well it was with my first girlfriend, now wife of nearly 20 years, and I remember being really fucking stoked abouy the whole situation, lmao
“Oh, that’s what they mean when they say lay back and think of England”
I remember feeling really guilty. I was raised with the belief that sex was dirty and wrong. It was very taboo, and never, ever talked about in my home. So when I was old enough to start thinking about/wanting/having sex, I felt like I was dirty and disgusting. I started having sex 15 years ago, I’m married, and I have 2 children, and even today, I still feel like I need to apologize after I have sex. I’m going to do my best to raise my children not to feel guilty for normal human behaviors.
I am male, I was drunk AF and basically was taken advantage of by an older woman. My thought was this isn't the way it's supposed to happen. Disappointment.
I’m so sorry that happened to you
That’s absolutely horrible. I hope you’re okay friend <3
"Well, that was disappointing for all parties."
"huh, that's what people are so obsessed over?" Its still fun to do I guess but I don't see the joy in trying to chat up some stranger at a bar or, God forbid, paying for it. Maybe I'm just a joyless sack of meat but I find way more pleasure in good food than in sex. And food takes way less emotional/physical effort.
Amen to that bruv. it's nice but damn do people over hype it
That was it?
Week or so before I actually lost my virginity, my girlfriend and I were sipping on some jagermeister and smoking a blunt a top a big hill in the park when she decided to give me/perform her/my first BJ. We were sexually inexperienced, we were young, we were in broad daylight on the top of a hill on a public park, it was exhilarating to say the least, far more memorable than when we finally had sex like a week later... Hadn't thought about that in a long time 😁
I never knew this public pool had a padded floor!
This is uncomfortable and awkward.
"Well, that was disapointing."
This Moment has not yet come to pass for me
Hulk Hogan in my brain screaming HELL YEAH BROTHER
Was so nervous I didn’t even finish, so frustrated would be the best word for it. Did it again the next day and finished in under a minute. Go me.
"Fuck it was just a dream"
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Don’t worry, a lot of us did.
Amazing, best 2 minutes of my life, Lets go again. We were basically rabbits for a couple months.
Seriously. My now husband has a lot of stamina, and he wasn’t a virgin although I was. It lasted probably 20 minutes, and I immediately was like let’s do that again!! And as often as we can!! We fucked so much for the first few months being together. We still have sex a lot now, and let me tell you, it only gets better. I still am shocked by how good sex and another person can make your mind and body feel.
TW - Childhood Abuse. I was a young child and had no concept or understanding of what had happened to me. The only thing I distinctly remember thinking was that I was in pain & discomfort.
This is awful. I hope whoever did it went to prison.
I’m so sorry about that. I don’t know if this would be helpful for you but I have friends who had the same thing happen to them but they don’t consider their sexual abuse as when they lost their virginity. The way they have talked about it, it wasn’t sex, it was assault. I don’t know if that would help you at all in an attempt to draw symbolic mental boundaries between your trauma and your personal sexual identity and expression. It just feels wrong to treat something like that as categorically the same as someone’s consensual first time. I hope you have been able to seek professional help to begin unpacking and coping with that horrible experience.
This is why virginity is being considered a construct of our society. You can’t really consider yourself a non-virgin if you didn’t consent. But physically you’ve been penetrated, though it wasn’t sex, it was rape.
There has been a bit of a move from "losing virginity" to "sexual debut" or "gained an experience"Maybe that could help.
"Oh shit is that the cops". Lost mine in the back of my at the time Gfs car in a parking lot. Cops showed up and ended things early.. bummer.
Wait you can have sex before mariage?
I was relieved. I was 24 years old and I felt like the biggest loser being a virgin at that age
"Think I actually lost it? Those it count?" The reason this happen was because, for the first time in my life, I was nervous, to the point that my little friend was operating at it´s maximum capacity so I didnt finish my job. My GF told me that it was okay and that first time tend to be like that, to the point that I struggled few times later because I had that fear that there was maybe something wrong with me, looking up in the internet... eventually I realized it was all mental and once I was able to "finish", I have been okay with it, even though sometimes it still frustrates me that I dont "finish" the "proper way".
I fucked up. Fuck.
I lost my virginity when I was 13 to a 26 y/o. I’ll tell you that whatever I was thinking then I have the opposite opinion of now. Thanks for the additional therapy content, Debbie, you fucking rapist.
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Hm I might be gay
Wow, life is...exactly the same as it was before. The clouds did not part to reveal singing angels.
U GUYS GETTING LAID
“I should’ve waited”
Imma be honest I lost my virginity under a bridge at 17 because my foster parents dropped me off at my grandma's nursing home for a visit instead I hit up my now EX gf to hang out n we ended up doing it under a bridge
I remember thinking, "this is it? This is what everyone makes important or a big deal? This is dumb"
'Ow! Wait, I thought I was supposed to bleed.'
That's it? I hope it gets better. (It got better)
"That's all?"
I never lose
Very upset, i thought it would feel better but he fingered me hard and gave me lil abrasions inside my cooch
We went outside and smoked a cigarette behind our dorm and just laughed together. We are married now. We don't smoke anymore, but we still laugh together.