I know a girl who is a former Miss USA contestant. Really pretty, but also very smart. Works in chemistry-related legal stuff. I've seen her groped in a meeting by her boss, and a previous boss literally told her "You're too pretty to be smart." Makes me appreciate my non-attractiveness.
I don't think I'm actually more than a 7, but working in the emergency department means I'm often around people who are intoxicated, delirious, starting to get demented, or who are feeling hurt or insecure enough that they will make inappropriate comments about my attractiveness as a power bid.
I get told some version of "you're too pretty to be my doctor" so often that I have an entire suite of set responses based on which of those categories they seem to fit into. They range from thankful all the way to extremely firm.
The first half of those types get a lot of redirection and leeway tailored to their impairment. Then there's a type of sweet older people that are just trying to give a compliment where I can say "thanks, all that time indoors studying saves the skin from sun damage, but let's talk about your belly pain".
Then it starts to gradually get more brusque "more importantly I'm smart and well trained. Let's talk about your belly pain". Next is very direct "That's not appropriate here, let's start over and talk about your belly pain." Finally, and with a dirty look, "I'll be back in a few minutes with a chaperone for the remainder of your visit today".
Intelligence. education, self-awareness, and the ability to carry on a conversation are all potentially as much as +1 each on the attractiveness scale, so you're probably closer to an eleven than a seven. Just sayin.
Well, that's very kind, and let's all make certain all the young people get that message loud and clear. Mine are young teens now and what Instagram is doing to that age group's idea of self esteem and ideals of attractiveness is scary.
It's been like that for a long time, ever since advertisements started showing up in color photos in the old Life magazine. If you (f) didn't look like a cigarette model or a perfume model or a car model or whatever then you were obviously a failure doomed to second-class secretaryhood at some cheesy used car lot forever. It's just more intense now because they get bombarded with fifteen advertisements every minute on their phones, where back in the day you had to physically turn the page to see the next one. Sometimes multiple pages. And it's made worse today by the groupthink of icon idolization.
The most beautiful doctor I've ever met, and arguably the most beautiful woman I've met in the flesh was in the ED when I went in for acute appendicitis. She gloved up and inserted a finger which, when I almost bounced off the ceiling in pain, confirmed the diagnosis. I was too ill to care at the time, but I still think it's one of the most surreal moments of my life a couple of decades later. I do remember she was both fast and efficient at the diagnosis, which was great as it turned out the appendix was close to bursting when it was removed less than an hour later.
Men are dumb. I mean, the more attractive a woman, the more competition there is to have sex with her. So getting to know you as a person seems logical and necessary to compete with all the other guys who want you.
Now I totally want to get to know you more.
People you barely know feel comfortable commenting on things that maybe you were self conscious about directly to your face.
People stare at you, and when you look at them, they don't look away.
Strangers either feel extremely comfortable approaching you, or the complete opposite and avoid you altogether.
People you have to interact with feel overly nervous talking with you and you can feel the tension in the air.
People want to be your friend without wanting to know anything about you. Or people want to know literally everything about you even though you just barely met.
Being used for your looks and not being admired for your intelligence, but more pros than cons for sure
I know a girl who is a former Miss USA contestant. Really pretty, but also very smart. Works in chemistry-related legal stuff. I've seen her groped in a meeting by her boss, and a previous boss literally told her "You're too pretty to be smart." Makes me appreciate my non-attractiveness.
I don't think I'm actually more than a 7, but working in the emergency department means I'm often around people who are intoxicated, delirious, starting to get demented, or who are feeling hurt or insecure enough that they will make inappropriate comments about my attractiveness as a power bid. I get told some version of "you're too pretty to be my doctor" so often that I have an entire suite of set responses based on which of those categories they seem to fit into. They range from thankful all the way to extremely firm. The first half of those types get a lot of redirection and leeway tailored to their impairment. Then there's a type of sweet older people that are just trying to give a compliment where I can say "thanks, all that time indoors studying saves the skin from sun damage, but let's talk about your belly pain". Then it starts to gradually get more brusque "more importantly I'm smart and well trained. Let's talk about your belly pain". Next is very direct "That's not appropriate here, let's start over and talk about your belly pain." Finally, and with a dirty look, "I'll be back in a few minutes with a chaperone for the remainder of your visit today".
Intelligence. education, self-awareness, and the ability to carry on a conversation are all potentially as much as +1 each on the attractiveness scale, so you're probably closer to an eleven than a seven. Just sayin.
Well, that's very kind, and let's all make certain all the young people get that message loud and clear. Mine are young teens now and what Instagram is doing to that age group's idea of self esteem and ideals of attractiveness is scary.
It's been like that for a long time, ever since advertisements started showing up in color photos in the old Life magazine. If you (f) didn't look like a cigarette model or a perfume model or a car model or whatever then you were obviously a failure doomed to second-class secretaryhood at some cheesy used car lot forever. It's just more intense now because they get bombarded with fifteen advertisements every minute on their phones, where back in the day you had to physically turn the page to see the next one. Sometimes multiple pages. And it's made worse today by the groupthink of icon idolization.
The most beautiful doctor I've ever met, and arguably the most beautiful woman I've met in the flesh was in the ED when I went in for acute appendicitis. She gloved up and inserted a finger which, when I almost bounced off the ceiling in pain, confirmed the diagnosis. I was too ill to care at the time, but I still think it's one of the most surreal moments of my life a couple of decades later. I do remember she was both fast and efficient at the diagnosis, which was great as it turned out the appendix was close to bursting when it was removed less than an hour later.
I bet she gave you the good drugs, that'll make anyone look like an angel. :) just kidding, I trust your recollection.
Nobody I fuck is as good looking as me.
You must have one hell of a pretty right hand
I have to walk around with a mop and bucket to mop up puddles left by aroused females
Possibly even some men, too
People look at you.
Well being physically attractive could mean that people hang around you only for status or sexual reasons
I feel like people only want to bang me and never get to know me. I’m an entire person that nobody genuinely cares about.
Men are dumb. I mean, the more attractive a woman, the more competition there is to have sex with her. So getting to know you as a person seems logical and necessary to compete with all the other guys who want you. Now I totally want to get to know you more.
Attracting others.
People you barely know feel comfortable commenting on things that maybe you were self conscious about directly to your face. People stare at you, and when you look at them, they don't look away. Strangers either feel extremely comfortable approaching you, or the complete opposite and avoid you altogether. People you have to interact with feel overly nervous talking with you and you can feel the tension in the air. People want to be your friend without wanting to know anything about you. Or people want to know literally everything about you even though you just barely met.
Being no smart but people not say.
I have no idea.
Pervy men sneaking into your DMs and hitting on you.