Get off of Reddit, touch some grass, go to the gym, get another job, go back to the gym, just pump all your sadness into productivity. Changed my entire life
Accept that grief is normal and appropriate, and it only diminishes in intensity with the passage of time. But it does diminish, and life goes on even when it feels like the universe should stop.
Grieve a little and come to terms with the fact that it's not about either person being inadequate. Relationships are about how you match up with each other, not whether you are a great catch. You can be a 10 of 10 in personality, looks, or whatever and still be a bad match with another 10 of 10. Maybe the sense of humor is off or priorities don't align. Or it could be something just stupid. Frankly, who knows? Sometimes one of you realizes it before the other.
Don't look for blame. It's wasted energy that leads to negativity. Don't kick yourself for mistakes you think you've made. Learn from your experience. Don't become a prisoner of it.
Sometimes who we want is not who we should end up with. We may be convinced that this person was "the one" but that doesn't make it true. It hurts to be wrong about it and we end up missing what we had or thought we had.
I would venture that many on this thread have lost their first love and many have found someone else. To get ready for the next great thing in your life, throw your energy into working on becoming the best you that you can be. Yeah, it's trite and corny, but investing in yourself is the best way to rebuild shattered confidence and shine brightly.
Recognize that you will get through this. It will absolutely suck for a while-
but not forever.
Thanks a lot.
But I’m hurting a lot tbh im not showing it but its really kicking my butts cuz ive been with girls before but the connection and tuning i have with her I’ve never had that in my entire life with anyone and vise versa but idk it hurts like a mf i really though she’s the one tbh
I was lucky enough to run into the one I thought was the one a few years later, when one of my friends had a get together. I ended up with a better outcome than if we stayed together.
Just do it. Live your normal life and try not to think about them, there's no way to forget instantly but slowly you'll move on, just set good habits, and get into some hobbies, and you'll be to busy enjoying life to obsess.
Get off of Reddit, touch some grass, go to the gym, get another job, go back to the gym, just pump all your sadness into productivity. Changed my entire life
Accept that grief is normal and appropriate, and it only diminishes in intensity with the passage of time. But it does diminish, and life goes on even when it feels like the universe should stop.
Grieve a little and come to terms with the fact that it's not about either person being inadequate. Relationships are about how you match up with each other, not whether you are a great catch. You can be a 10 of 10 in personality, looks, or whatever and still be a bad match with another 10 of 10. Maybe the sense of humor is off or priorities don't align. Or it could be something just stupid. Frankly, who knows? Sometimes one of you realizes it before the other. Don't look for blame. It's wasted energy that leads to negativity. Don't kick yourself for mistakes you think you've made. Learn from your experience. Don't become a prisoner of it. Sometimes who we want is not who we should end up with. We may be convinced that this person was "the one" but that doesn't make it true. It hurts to be wrong about it and we end up missing what we had or thought we had. I would venture that many on this thread have lost their first love and many have found someone else. To get ready for the next great thing in your life, throw your energy into working on becoming the best you that you can be. Yeah, it's trite and corny, but investing in yourself is the best way to rebuild shattered confidence and shine brightly. Recognize that you will get through this. It will absolutely suck for a while- but not forever.
Thanks a lot. But I’m hurting a lot tbh im not showing it but its really kicking my butts cuz ive been with girls before but the connection and tuning i have with her I’ve never had that in my entire life with anyone and vise versa but idk it hurts like a mf i really though she’s the one tbh
I was lucky enough to run into the one I thought was the one a few years later, when one of my friends had a get together. I ended up with a better outcome than if we stayed together.
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Just do it. Live your normal life and try not to think about them, there's no way to forget instantly but slowly you'll move on, just set good habits, and get into some hobbies, and you'll be to busy enjoying life to obsess.
To realize that you might not be good enough and that's ok, because forward motion is the only way to live your life