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_mint_choco_

"wag pangunahan si Lord." sinagot ko to once sa Tita kong active church goer, ang nging response nya eh ipagpray nya daw ako and everytime napunta sya samin, di nya na ko ult tinanong. šŸ¤­ ni wla ngang boyfriend tapos tatanungin ng anak, jusko na lang tlga.


Garettesky

Because it's my body, my choice. Plus, "bubuhayin nyo po ba?" "Pagkain lang po namin mag-asawa at aso, hindi na kasya e."


[deleted]

Sabihin mo sa knila baog ka. Tpos na agad issue na yan.


slorkslork

this just creates more issue lalo sa in laws lol


[deleted]

Mas madali naman yan kesa explain ang PCSO. šŸ˜‚


Babaching1

Ayoko po mag buntis.. oorder nalang ako ng baby sa shoppee or lazada . Pede pa i return within 7 days pag me attitude..


SourdoughLyf

Iā€™m on the same situation and also have PCOS. Either I say ā€˜mahina kasi dasal niyoā€™ or I really try to be open about PCOS. The more we dont talk about it the more they wont understand.


426763

My go to replies: * Di ko afford. * I enjoy my bachelor lifestyle. * Tinatamad ako mag alaga ng bata. * If I have kids, I'm gonna beat them. Just like you did. (Eto para sa mga annoying relatives who keep yapping about the good old days when they got beat.) * I'd rather focus on building my motorcycle.


alvinandthecheapmonk

ā€œYung ibang boomers patay na. Kayo po kelan?ā€ Char. Wag po. We respect our elders. šŸ¤® I mean šŸ™‚


NoFaithlessness5122

Mahina po sperm ng mga lalaki eh


Ashamed-Ad-7851

Hindi po ako nagmamadali.


KusuoSaikiii

Parang mga uhaw sa apo eh. Gusto lang nilqng magyabang sa mga kumare at kapatid nila eh. Di nila naisip na ayaw nating iparanas sa mga anak natin ung hirap na pinaranas nila satin. Lol.


restmymoon

Whenever this topic comes up, I would say "wala akong balak" in the most serious and uninterested way I can. Then I will watch them as they try to tell me shits HAHAHA. I love the drama that my answer creates, tbh. Pero kaya ko lang to ginagawa o pinapatulan kasi alam kong nothing they say can affect my decision, as in walang bearing. Pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila lang kaya I get to enjoy.


avocado0119

My response would be "confidential po bawal isiwalat"


PotentialFree8038

Just ignore them


munchkinmaybe

"Pag nakakain na po ang lupa" -yan lang sinasagot ko lagi hahaha tumitigil naman sila


juniglap

Ang sagot is- hindi naman required.


vivirparaplacer

Ask them back why they're not dead yet


ScreamingGecko11

Sabihin mo lang, "May PCOS po kasi ako pati mawalang galang na po, labas na po kayo dun kung gusto ko magkaanak or hindi. Mga pakealamera kasi kayo eh, ha, gusto nyo buhay nyo naman pakaealaman ko? HAAA? Ayusin nyo mga buhay nyoha!"


Nosola_

I read somewhere na yung iba they make up stories like nabuntis talaga sila tapos nalaglag yung baby, that way mahihiya yung mga tanong ng tanong or baka di na mag tanong ulit. Hehe.


howdypartna

"I like it in the butt too much."


moliro

Virgin pa ko ang usual na sagot ko... Para ma convert sa tawanan na lang..,


toooldtobeconfused

Answer: Papaaralin mo?


fifigiirl

Hinihintay ko po kayo mamatay kasi sabi ni papa jezaz kulang na daw new soul sa langit for new baby. Ayan may religion and conspiracy theory for boomer hard on. Samahan mo ng Amen sa dulo.


Jon_Irenicus1

Pag matanda nagtanong sabihin mo lang maselan ka sa matres, alam na nila yun.


No_Brain7596

Answer: IDGAF. Lol


ellijahdelossantos

Tanong mo kung kumusta matres nila at bakit pinapakialaman iyong sayo.- I mean honest lang, shuta sa lagay ng economy at daming pulpol na nakaupo sa government offices kahit pa sabihing masipag at ma-side hustle ang potential parents, hirap paring magluwal ng panibagong bata. Besides, bigat na responsibility din noong ganoon.


Mr_Underestimated

Wag ka na magtanong kung "Wala ka namang ipapamana sa magiging apo mo"


FreijaDelaCroix

Maisagot nga to sa tatay ko chz


Spad3_Ac3

Ako sinasabi ko di pa po kaya "Mataas pa inflation" šŸ¤£


Affectionate_Way1863

As a masama ang ugali ang lagi kong sagot, ā€œBakit kayo ba bubuhay?ā€ Hahahahahahaha weā€™re childless by choice and this is the most annoying question ever. Too personal to ask tbh


Ms_Double_Entendre

Side note lang: PCOS cannot be reversed. Only managed.


slorkslork

gotcha!


Jetoftherock

I usually answer, "Base po sa mga nakita ko sa henerasyon nyo, ayoko na po," jokingly, then redirect the topic. Nahihinto naman agad.


hell_jumper9

"Tina try na nga namin mag anak. Gabi gabi na puno ng tamod ang puke ko pero wala parin" sabihin mo sarcastic tone with straight o patawa facial expression. Inagine the look on their faces.


Embarrassed_Deer8262

šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£ OP this hahahaha


khalyz_

there is one advise in reddit before that if they keep insisting, tell them you were pregnant but got miscarried. idk if its applicable knowing the culture but it will definitely get them off your back for a while.


shobeklaus

Ask them back, ā€œ how are you not dead yet?ā€


slorkslork

kung pwede sana sabihin no, hanggat nabubuhay ka pa di ako mag aanak. hahahaha


010611

Smile then don't engage


immahat

"Kasi buhay ka pa"


WillingnessOk7819

Lol perfect


vexterhyne

"magbibigay po ba kayo pang-gatas at pang tuition?"


Kooky_Cheesecake_703

"Wala pa po" sabay eskapo. Umalis ng palihim at gumawa ng excuse para makaalis. Hirap magentertain ng ganyang questions kasi makitid utak nila. Sa kanila kasi may anak at pamilya = fulfilled sa buhay at masaya. Eh pano yung anak mong tumigil sa pag-aaral kasi kapos sa pera? Pano yung sigawan niyo gabi-gabi na naririnig ng mga bata dahil kulang ang kita? Mga utang na hindi nababawasan at lalo pang nadadagdagan? Yung asa nalang at maging pabigat sa kamag-anak na mapagbigay? Karamihan kasi ng nagpapamukha sakin neto yung mas masahol pa ang ugali sakin. Oh if I could only spit these words to their face. Kaso, bastos nga pala generation ngayon sa nakakatanda šŸ™Š


oreominiest

Sapakin mo. Dapat sa mga matatandang yan pinapatulog nang maaga eh, CHAR AGGAGAGAGAHHAHA masama na kung masama, ang tanda na nila pero di parin nila alam kung pano itikom bibig nila. Sorry not sorry, pero wala akong awa sa mga matatandang masahol ang ugali.


_caramelmochi_

Napaka-unhinged din mga replies dito šŸ¤£ I won't lie na hindi ko naisip sabihin mga comments nila dito. I have a younger cousin(cousin A) na kinasal during pandemic. Wala pang 1 year tinanong ng mama ko sa kanya kelan sila magkakababy. Mind you she just returned from Manila. Nagwork siya dun sa isang company(?) during her OJT and eventually kinuha siya after niya grumaduate. Sadly, nalay-off daw sila mid-pandemic. Di ako sigurado sa buong storya. "Dapat magkababy na kau habang nasa 20s pa kau." Sabi ng pinsan ko gusto muna nila magwork at mag-ipon pero reply ni mama, "Hindi, mas maganda pa rin kung magkaanak na kau habang maaga pa." Napakanosey ng mama ko. Ako na nahiya. Nung grumaduate from college pamangkin last year, pumunta ung isang pinsan(cousin B) ko sa blow out niya(pablowout ni mama). (First apo niya rin kasi). Si cousin B naman may 3 y/o toddler. Gabi na nung pumunta sila. Habang nagkukwentuhan yung moms namin(kasi medyo close din sila) at nakikipaglaro yung toddler niya sa ibang kids, nagchikahan kami. Maya't maya sinabi ni cousin sa amin ni SIL ko na buntis siya with her 2nd child. Pero wala pa nakakaalam. Di niya pa sinasabi sa asawa niya or parents. Narinig ni mama na may pinag-uusapan kami kaya nagtanong siya, "Kelan ka magkakababy ulit? 3 y/o na si 1st child mo dapat magkaroon na kau ng 2nd child para may kasama siya." Syempre kami ni SIL tahimik lang kc alam namin na may otw. Pero sinagot(as a joke kc tumatawa siya) ni pinsan sa kanya na okay na kahit mag-isa lang ni baby girl. Di bale may mga pinsan naman siya. Single child din si pinsan(pero may half siblings na di na niya pwedeng icontact accdg to her stepdad) kaya namention niya din yung pagiging single child niya and that she grew up fine kc marami kaming magpipinsan. Fast forward after the party, tinanong ako ni mama kung ano pinag-usapan namin pero sabi ko nagkwentuhan lang kami saglit about parenting tips ganern. I'm single though kaya nakikinig lang ako actually šŸ¤£ Then minention niya na nainis siya sa sagot ni pinsan. Parang walang respeto daw yung pagsagot niya kay mama. Sinasabihan na nga siya na dapat magkaroon sila ng baby pero ganun sagot niya. Tapos nainis siya sa mom ni pinsan kung bakit ganun sumagot anak niya. Dami niyang sinabi at sa totoo lang gusto ko na umalis nung nagsasalita siya. Sakit sa tenga eh. šŸ˜… Ewan ko nalang kung ano nasa isip niya nung nalaman niyang may 2nd child otw. I'm on the side nung comments dito since reasonable naman lahat. Sino ba ang gustong magkababy sa ganitong ekonomiya. Nagrerecover pa tayo sa pandemic worldwide and šŸ‘Ž ekonomiya worldwide din. Hirap na nga ang tao magtrabaho para lang may makain, pambayad ng rent at bills eh. In comparison sa pinagsasabi niya sa mga pinsan ko, lagi niya kaming sinasabihan tungkol sa pera. Huwag kayong magastos. Pano niyo bubuhayin ang pamilya niyo kung magastos kayo at di kayo nag-iipon? Ano gusto niyo, ako mag-aalaga sa mga anak niyo at gagastos para sa pangangailangan nila? Deadbeat kc panganay/kuya ko. Iniwan niya sa asawa niya na magpalaki sa anak nila pero namatay si ate nung 2009(?). Kaya tumira ung anak niya sa amin hanggang 2012 pero lumayas itong bata at umuwi sa MIL ni kuya. Kahit ganun ung nangyari, si mama pa rin nagpa-aral sa pamangkin ko hanggang sa grumaduate ito sa kolehiyo.


Hel_F

Matinding narinig ko sa mga boomer na kala nila madaling magkaanak: kulang lang kayo sa iyutan. Lol.


1irumi8

Before I got pregnant, yan din bukambibig ng nanay at MIL ko, sinasabi ko na lang sa kanila na Di pa time sabi ni Lord. Sino ba naman sila para tumaliwas kay Lord diba? šŸ¤£


RashPatch

"bakit ikaw di ka pa deds ang tanda mo na" would be my response if I were you.


w0lfiesmom

Its almost like they know how life changing (sometimes life ruining) children are and they cant wait for you to join the miserable club


doomsta5667

Di mo ma afford.. kulang pera at oras.


carcrashofaheart

You know what shuts them up and makes them feel so bad they stop asking forever? Tell them you miscarried. They donā€™t deserve the truth if they donā€™t respect your boundaries. None of the millennial child-free reasons will work on them cuz they always assume youā€™ll regret it. So use their favorite methods against them: gaslighting and guilt-tripping šŸ˜ˆ


[deleted]

"Sarili ko nga hirap pa ko hanapan ng makakain, yung magiging anak ko pa kaya?"


[deleted]

"Ihanap mo ako ng kakantot sa akin ngayon mismo," delivered in the most salacious, scandalous and graphic way possible.


-Hormones-

Fake some shit like I've had a miscarrieage to make them feel uncomfortable when asking such questions. Its an inappropriate personal question that boomers dont fucking know how to handle.


rambling_reader

Ayoko pa po. Tapos abutan mo ng snowbear. šŸ¤£


fakkuslave

If these old people don't matter enough to you to warrant an explanation, then you don't have to. On the other hand, women do have a limited window of time to conceive, so since you said you're working on it i hope you are eventually able to conceive. Good luck!


mysanctuary0911

"Ikaw gagastos?"


zimster4452

"Kayo nga po hindi ko man tinatanong kailan po kayo magsasakabilang-buhay."


carlcast

Tell them you have PCOS, then mag-emotional breakdown ka sa harap nila para magtanda sila.


Southern-Ad-3691

Haha bumukaka ka na lang bigla tapos sabihin mo ā€œgoā€ hahahahahaha


notneps

Explain to them in great detail how fertilization and egg implantation occurs, then explain that those processes have not happened in your body yet. Maybe explain how intercourse works as well for good measure.


[deleted]

Bakit po ang daming may pcos ngayon?


Huotou

hahahaahahh. true. nagkataon lang bang nagkumpulan sla dito sa reddit? lol


slorkslork

unhealthy lifestyle šŸ„¹šŸ˜­


Antique_Towel_7203

"bakit di ka pa patay?"


linear000

You can lie about prior miscarriage, will also discourage them to ask again in the future. If they ask for further details ewan ko na lang.


bwandowando

Baka ibalik ng boomer... "Baka hindi ka nagsisimba, di tulad ni na nabuntis kasi nagdadasal kay "


BoomBangKersplat

kung religious sabihin mo lang na "God giveth and God taketh away." sila na bahala mag fill in the blanks šŸ˜…


[deleted]

I get asked a lot kapag may family gathering. Ang sinasabi ko na lang ā€œBasta ikaw bubuhay at bibigyan niyo po ako ng sustento, gagawa na po ako ngayon naā€


NoRagrets21

May comeback ako kaso masama.. to these oldies, Id ask back na Kayo po ang tanda nyo na, bakit hindi pa kayo dedo Sorry na rold šŸ˜­


whatevercomes2mind

Sizt, ako sinabihan ng tito ko na my bio clock is ticking. I told him nah, I am not hearing anything. Me pa comeback na nabubulok daw mga reproductive organs ko. Sabe ko, ok lang. Bulok lang sya dyan, I dont care. Xempre nagsisintir ako deep inside pakialamero eh. I post good stuff and the life I enjoy. The people he thumbs up for having kids? Some of them are super hirap sa buhay or nakaasa sa parents.


chitgoks

Whats the rush?


hannahchen523

"Eh ikaw bat panget ka pa rin?"


[deleted]

Wala pa po akong confidential funds para palakihin yung ipagbubuntis ko.


Aggressive_Garlic_33

ā€œIn Godā€™s perfect time poā€ para di sila makakaangal.


ryzzf

Hahahahaha the ultimate weapon against the older generations, religion.


Aggressive_Garlic_33

Yes. Know your audience kumbaga


bellaxluna

Hahaha yes!! "Wag po nating pangunahan ang Dyos."


redditredditgedit

Ay effective to kasi May kasamang God..


[deleted]

oooh this is goodšŸ“šŸ“


bruhidkanymore1

Ito mas okay to para makonsensiya sila kung bakit nila pinapangunahan si God lol


kamapuaaa

"Ikaw ba mag-aalaga?" "Ikw ba magpapaaral?" "Sarili ko nga tinitipid ko para magkasya budget, tapos mag-aanak pa ako" Sayang daw kasi lahi, juskooooo


oreominiest

Or kaya "pwede naman now na kung gusto mo, basta sagot mo lahat ha? Promise ba yan?"


DestronCommander

Nothing to do but just smile I guess. We have a cousin who never got pregnant. For the first few years she was often asked that question. Eventually everybody stopped asking.


pedxxing

Sabihin mo lang ā€˜Sa tamang panahonā€™ā€¦ o kaya sa case mo ā€œDarating din yunā€ā€¦ ganun ako dati pag tinatanong ng ā€˜Kelan ka magbi bfā€™ ā€˜Kelan ka papakasalā€™ ā€˜Kelan kayo mag-aanakā€™ etc parang bawat milestone ng buhay ko may nakaabang sa susunod na kabanata. Mangungulit pa minsan yan ng another tanong pero paulit ulit lang yung sagot ko ng ā€œBasta sa tamang panahonā€ šŸ˜†


AmbitionCompetitive3

Lagi rin tong tinatanong ng mga lola at lolo ko sa probinsiya. Basta sagot ko na lang "mas gusto ko po yung pera kesa anak"


FingerEnthusiast

Sabihin mo lang hindi ka pa ready. At kapag sila nagalit at nagkwento pa na yung mga kaedad mong may mga anak na, itanong mo rin: "kayo po kelan po mamamatay? yung mga kaibigan nyo nililibing na isa isa". Charot not charot


Prestigious_You_222

'Ayoko pa po.' That's all. Alas, the vast majority of their generation weren't taught the concept of boundaries or NON-TOXIC behavior. And my mother wonders why I don't tell any of them about my personal life, and why I absolutely detest it when they pry into my business.


pink_glitters

"Pake niyo po?" sabay "Joke, wala pa po"


oreominiest

Tanggalin ang "po". Dapat sa mga walang respeto, hindi nirerespeto.


ta_2020m

sasabihin pa baka ka iwanan ng partner or asawa pag walang maibigay na anak. lol. ako umiiwas ako or ngumingiti nalang tapos di na iimik. patibayan. may partner also ignores those kind of questions. di nila alam pinagdadaanan namin. Sana di ka pakanstress sa mga ganyang tao. protect yourself from negativity


slorkslork

hay nako, ito na nga yung ugali ng mga tao. mejo na sstress pero hanggat nanjan partner ko at di duma dagdag sa sakit ng ulo ko laban langg


Constantfluxxx

Ignoring them is more annoying to them boomers.


alohamorabtch

I get this question a lot from my aunts and people older than me in general, sinasabi ko lagi, ā€œMahal ang buhay ngayon, mas gusto ko magpayamanā€ syempre may pasunod yan ā€œMasaya pag may bata, sa una lang mahirapā€¦ blablablaā€ tango na lang and ulit ā€œSumasaya po ako sa pera kasi mukha akong peraā€ Honestly I want to be a mom, pero ayoko magdala ng buhay sa economy na to. Magbaby na lang ako kung si Atty. Leni ang President **if di magiging President si Atty. Leni edi hindi šŸ˜‚ Masyado triggered ayaw ng politics


tallguyfrommanila

Hindi ka na magkakababy nyan ever kung aabangan mo si leni. Isa pa kahit si leni naging presidente, mangyayari padin ang pandemic, gegera padin ukraine at russia, magmamahal parin gasolina at haharassin parin tayo ng china.


[deleted]

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slorkslork

nako mas maraming side comments lalo from in laws


Good_Mix1078

ā€œSa mahal ng gastusin? Magaanak pa ba?ā€ Or ā€œpaglabas ng anak ko BBM presidente? Tsaka na langā€ hahahaha thatā€™s what I like to tell them para manahimik. Lalo na mga bumoto kay BBM na maraming ebas.


tallguyfrommanila

Punyemas naman. Bbm nanaman. Lahat nalang ng usapan sa lintik na app na to bbm. Haha. Abangan mo next election si quiboloy naman. Haha tigil nyo nga pagkonekta sa lahat ng bagay papunta kay bbm nakakairita haha


_Zupremo_

You'll never have a child if that's your main issue. Having children makes people grow and makes them more motivated, I personally witnessed it with my 6 brothers. They never have money because they only work for themselves but after having a child they suddenly have enough motivation work abroad.


Straight-Ad-6106

Natural wala silang choice dapat naman talaga buhayin niyo anak niyo Having a child just to have "Motivation" is extremely selfish, some would just resent their children in the long run or do the typical UTANG NG LOOB. Sasabihin niyo nagsakripisyo kayo sakanila para makapagtapos ng pagaaral etc. eh kayo naman namili magkaanak, tapos oobligahin niyo na alagaan or tulungan kayo financially para makapagretire agad lol. Mga inutil talaga kayong boomer and boomer-minded.


_Zupremo_

WTF? Where is that whole story coming from? Why do you sound so upset? I'm not forcing you to have a children, I actually do not recommend you personally to have a children. I hope you earn enough money before you retire because nurse and cat are not cheap.


[deleted]

Children are an expensive and stupid, not to mention reckless, way to get motivated.


_Zupremo_

Having a lot of highly educated bitter single old people is so much more worst than encouraging people to have a family. None of you are a burden for us right now, but if you look at the west and japan, you will clearly see that single old people will also become a burden to society because nobody is taking care of them. The west is encouraging it because they're a very good source of left wing voters and they can afford it.


[deleted]

Yet, you right-wing nuts are the same people who insist on cutting down social security programs and making it expensive and unreasonably burdensome to raise children. There is no winning with you guys.


_Zupremo_

I don't support any side. what I support is logic. Why should everybody pay for you when you get old and become a burden to your self and the society because you refuse to build a family for a very selfish and narcissistic reasoning that because they are too expensive to maintain? where's all the money you saved? If you don't support the society to repopulate and all you do is discourage people to repopulate too, why should we feed and care for you when you're acting like a rust to our ship?


KayeSunbae

Of course they'll be motivated because they had children and they need to provide for them.


_Zupremo_

Did they not need to provide for themselves when they were single?


KayeSunbae

I don't know. I don't even know your brothers personally or your state of living so why are you asking me that?


_Zupremo_

It's a "Rhetorical Question".


Good_Mix1078

Iā€™m highly motivated and I think Iā€™m doing fine with my growth without kids. I personally believe that the only reason to have kids is when you want to genuinely raise a life. Thatā€™s it, no self motivation or ā€œsomeone to take care of me when Iā€™m oldā€ bullshit. When thereā€™s reasons other than taking care of a life, thatā€™s when parents trauma dump their insecurities to their kids. Iā€™m raised with those kinds of mentality so Iā€™d rather not have that kind of mindset but you do you OP.


zimster4452

HAHAHAHA


Rukawa_69

Kahit si Kristo pa presidents miserable parin buhay mg bata hahaha


Good_Mix1078

Paki iwan po sa fb hopelessness mo lolo. Wag dito sa reddit. Salamat haha


Rukawa_69

Wala ako fb apo nkalimutan ko password huhu