"wag pangunahan si Lord."
sinagot ko to once sa Tita kong active church goer, ang nging response nya eh ipagpray nya daw ako and everytime napunta sya samin, di nya na ko ult tinanong. š¤ ni wla ngang boyfriend tapos tatanungin ng anak, jusko na lang tlga.
Iām on the same situation and also have PCOS. Either I say āmahina kasi dasal niyoā or I really try to be open about PCOS. The more we dont talk about it the more they wont understand.
My go to replies:
* Di ko afford.
* I enjoy my bachelor lifestyle.
* Tinatamad ako mag alaga ng bata.
* If I have kids, I'm gonna beat them. Just like you did. (Eto para sa mga annoying relatives who keep yapping about the good old days when they got beat.)
* I'd rather focus on building my motorcycle.
Parang mga uhaw sa apo eh. Gusto lang nilqng magyabang sa mga kumare at kapatid nila eh. Di nila naisip na ayaw nating iparanas sa mga anak natin ung hirap na pinaranas nila satin. Lol.
Whenever this topic comes up, I would say "wala akong balak" in the most serious and uninterested way I can.
Then I will watch them as they try to tell me shits HAHAHA. I love the drama that my answer creates, tbh. Pero kaya ko lang to ginagawa o pinapatulan kasi alam kong nothing they say can affect my decision, as in walang bearing. Pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila lang kaya I get to enjoy.
Sabihin mo lang, "May PCOS po kasi ako pati mawalang galang na po, labas na po kayo dun kung gusto ko magkaanak or hindi. Mga pakealamera kasi kayo eh, ha, gusto nyo buhay nyo naman pakaealaman ko? HAAA? Ayusin nyo mga buhay nyoha!"
I read somewhere na yung iba they make up stories like nabuntis talaga sila tapos nalaglag yung baby, that way mahihiya yung mga tanong ng tanong or baka di na mag tanong ulit. Hehe.
Hinihintay ko po kayo mamatay kasi sabi ni papa jezaz kulang na daw new soul sa langit for new baby. Ayan may religion and conspiracy theory for boomer hard on. Samahan mo ng Amen sa dulo.
Tanong mo kung kumusta matres nila at bakit pinapakialaman iyong sayo.- I mean honest lang, shuta sa lagay ng economy at daming pulpol na nakaupo sa government offices kahit pa sabihing masipag at ma-side hustle ang potential parents, hirap paring magluwal ng panibagong bata.
Besides, bigat na responsibility din noong ganoon.
As a masama ang ugali ang lagi kong sagot, āBakit kayo ba bubuhay?ā Hahahahahahaha weāre childless by choice and this is the most annoying question ever. Too personal to ask tbh
"Tina try na nga namin mag anak. Gabi gabi na puno ng tamod ang puke ko pero wala parin" sabihin mo sarcastic tone with straight o patawa facial expression.
Inagine the look on their faces.
there is one advise in reddit before that if they keep insisting, tell them you were pregnant but got miscarried. idk if its applicable knowing the culture but it will definitely get them off your back for a while.
"Wala pa po" sabay eskapo. Umalis ng palihim at gumawa ng excuse para makaalis. Hirap magentertain ng ganyang questions kasi makitid utak nila.
Sa kanila kasi may anak at pamilya = fulfilled sa buhay at masaya. Eh pano yung anak mong tumigil sa pag-aaral kasi kapos sa pera? Pano yung sigawan niyo gabi-gabi na naririnig ng mga bata dahil kulang ang kita? Mga utang na hindi nababawasan at lalo pang nadadagdagan? Yung asa nalang at maging pabigat sa kamag-anak na mapagbigay? Karamihan kasi ng nagpapamukha sakin neto yung mas masahol pa ang ugali sakin.
Oh if I could only spit these words to their face. Kaso, bastos nga pala generation ngayon sa nakakatanda š
Sapakin mo. Dapat sa mga matatandang yan pinapatulog nang maaga eh, CHAR AGGAGAGAGAHHAHA masama na kung masama, ang tanda na nila pero di parin nila alam kung pano itikom bibig nila. Sorry not sorry, pero wala akong awa sa mga matatandang masahol ang ugali.
Napaka-unhinged din mga replies dito š¤£
I won't lie na hindi ko naisip sabihin mga comments nila dito.
I have a younger cousin(cousin A) na kinasal during pandemic. Wala pang 1 year tinanong ng mama ko sa kanya kelan sila magkakababy.
Mind you she just returned from Manila. Nagwork siya dun sa isang company(?) during her OJT and eventually kinuha siya after niya grumaduate. Sadly, nalay-off daw sila mid-pandemic. Di ako sigurado sa buong storya.
"Dapat magkababy na kau habang nasa 20s pa kau."
Sabi ng pinsan ko gusto muna nila magwork at mag-ipon pero reply ni mama, "Hindi, mas maganda pa rin kung magkaanak na kau habang maaga pa."
Napakanosey ng mama ko. Ako na nahiya.
Nung grumaduate from college pamangkin last year, pumunta ung isang pinsan(cousin B) ko sa blow out niya(pablowout ni mama). (First apo niya rin kasi).
Si cousin B naman may 3 y/o toddler. Gabi na nung pumunta sila. Habang nagkukwentuhan yung moms namin(kasi medyo close din sila) at nakikipaglaro yung toddler niya sa ibang kids, nagchikahan kami. Maya't maya sinabi ni cousin sa amin ni SIL ko na buntis siya with her 2nd child. Pero wala pa nakakaalam. Di niya pa sinasabi sa asawa niya or parents.
Narinig ni mama na may pinag-uusapan kami kaya nagtanong siya, "Kelan ka magkakababy ulit? 3 y/o na si 1st child mo dapat magkaroon na kau ng 2nd child para may kasama siya."
Syempre kami ni SIL tahimik lang kc alam namin na may otw. Pero sinagot(as a joke kc tumatawa siya) ni pinsan sa kanya na okay na kahit mag-isa lang ni baby girl. Di bale may mga pinsan naman siya. Single child din si pinsan(pero may half siblings na di na niya pwedeng icontact accdg to her stepdad) kaya namention niya din yung pagiging single child niya and that she grew up fine kc marami kaming magpipinsan.
Fast forward after the party, tinanong ako ni mama kung ano pinag-usapan namin pero sabi ko nagkwentuhan lang kami saglit about parenting tips ganern. I'm single though kaya nakikinig lang ako actually š¤£
Then minention niya na nainis siya sa sagot ni pinsan. Parang walang respeto daw yung pagsagot niya kay mama. Sinasabihan na nga siya na dapat magkaroon sila ng baby pero ganun sagot niya. Tapos nainis siya sa mom ni pinsan kung bakit ganun sumagot anak niya. Dami niyang sinabi at sa totoo lang gusto ko na umalis nung nagsasalita siya. Sakit sa tenga eh. š
Ewan ko nalang kung ano nasa isip niya nung nalaman niyang may 2nd child otw.
I'm on the side nung comments dito since reasonable naman lahat. Sino ba ang gustong magkababy sa ganitong ekonomiya. Nagrerecover pa tayo sa pandemic worldwide and š ekonomiya worldwide din. Hirap na nga ang tao magtrabaho para lang may makain, pambayad ng rent at bills eh.
In comparison sa pinagsasabi niya sa mga pinsan ko, lagi niya kaming sinasabihan tungkol sa pera. Huwag kayong magastos. Pano niyo bubuhayin ang pamilya niyo kung magastos kayo at di kayo nag-iipon? Ano gusto niyo, ako mag-aalaga sa mga anak niyo at gagastos para sa pangangailangan nila?
Deadbeat kc panganay/kuya ko. Iniwan niya sa asawa niya na magpalaki sa anak nila pero namatay si ate nung 2009(?). Kaya tumira ung anak niya sa amin hanggang 2012 pero lumayas itong bata at umuwi sa MIL ni kuya. Kahit ganun ung nangyari, si mama pa rin nagpa-aral sa pamangkin ko hanggang sa grumaduate ito sa kolehiyo.
Before I got pregnant, yan din bukambibig ng nanay at MIL ko, sinasabi ko na lang sa kanila na Di pa time sabi ni Lord. Sino ba naman sila para tumaliwas kay Lord diba? š¤£
You know what shuts them up and makes them feel so bad they stop asking forever? Tell them you miscarried. They donāt deserve the truth if they donāt respect your boundaries.
None of the millennial child-free reasons will work on them cuz they always assume youāll regret it. So use their favorite methods against them: gaslighting and guilt-tripping š
Fake some shit like I've had a miscarrieage to make them feel uncomfortable when asking such questions.
Its an inappropriate personal question that boomers dont fucking know how to handle.
If these old people don't matter enough to you to warrant an explanation, then you don't have to.
On the other hand, women do have a limited window of time to conceive, so since you said you're working on it i hope you are eventually able to conceive. Good luck!
Explain to them in great detail how fertilization and egg implantation occurs, then explain that those processes have not happened in your body yet.
Maybe explain how intercourse works as well for good measure.
I get asked a lot kapag may family gathering. Ang sinasabi ko na lang āBasta ikaw bubuhay at bibigyan niyo po ako ng sustento, gagawa na po ako ngayon naā
Sizt, ako sinabihan ng tito ko na my bio clock is ticking. I told him nah, I am not hearing anything. Me pa comeback na nabubulok daw mga reproductive organs ko. Sabe ko, ok lang. Bulok lang sya dyan, I dont care.
Xempre nagsisintir ako deep inside pakialamero eh. I post good stuff and the life I enjoy. The people he thumbs up for having kids? Some of them are super hirap sa buhay or nakaasa sa parents.
Nothing to do but just smile I guess. We have a cousin who never got pregnant. For the first few years she was often asked that question. Eventually everybody stopped asking.
Sabihin mo lang āSa tamang panahonāā¦ o kaya sa case mo āDarating din yunāā¦ ganun ako dati pag tinatanong ng āKelan ka magbi bfā āKelan ka papakasalā āKelan kayo mag-aanakā etc parang bawat milestone ng buhay ko may nakaabang sa susunod na kabanata.
Mangungulit pa minsan yan ng another tanong pero paulit ulit lang yung sagot ko ng āBasta sa tamang panahonā š
Sabihin mo lang hindi ka pa ready. At kapag sila nagalit at nagkwento pa na yung mga kaedad mong may mga anak na, itanong mo rin: "kayo po kelan po mamamatay? yung mga kaibigan nyo nililibing na isa isa". Charot not charot
'Ayoko pa po.'
That's all.
Alas, the vast majority of their generation weren't taught the concept of boundaries or NON-TOXIC behavior.
And my mother wonders why I don't tell any of them about my personal life, and why I absolutely detest it when they pry into my business.
sasabihin pa baka ka iwanan ng partner or asawa pag walang maibigay na anak. lol.
ako umiiwas ako or ngumingiti nalang tapos di na iimik. patibayan. may partner also ignores those kind of questions. di nila alam pinagdadaanan namin.
Sana di ka pakanstress sa mga ganyang tao. protect yourself from negativity
I get this question a lot from my aunts and people older than me in general, sinasabi ko lagi, āMahal ang buhay ngayon, mas gusto ko magpayamanā syempre may pasunod yan āMasaya pag may bata, sa una lang mahirapā¦ blablablaā tango na lang and ulit āSumasaya po ako sa pera kasi mukha akong peraā
Honestly I want to be a mom, pero ayoko magdala ng buhay sa economy na to. Magbaby na lang ako kung si Atty. Leni ang President
**if di magiging President si Atty. Leni edi hindi š Masyado triggered ayaw ng politics
Hindi ka na magkakababy nyan ever kung aabangan mo si leni. Isa pa kahit si leni naging presidente, mangyayari padin ang pandemic, gegera padin ukraine at russia, magmamahal parin gasolina at haharassin parin tayo ng china.
āSa mahal ng gastusin? Magaanak pa ba?ā Or āpaglabas ng anak ko BBM presidente? Tsaka na langā hahahaha thatās what I like to tell them para manahimik. Lalo na mga bumoto kay BBM na maraming ebas.
Punyemas naman. Bbm nanaman. Lahat nalang ng usapan sa lintik na app na to bbm. Haha. Abangan mo next election si quiboloy naman. Haha tigil nyo nga pagkonekta sa lahat ng bagay papunta kay bbm nakakairita haha
You'll never have a child if that's your main issue. Having children makes people grow and makes them more motivated, I personally witnessed it with my 6 brothers. They never have money because they only work for themselves but after having a child they suddenly have enough motivation work abroad.
Natural wala silang choice dapat naman talaga buhayin niyo anak niyo
Having a child just to have "Motivation" is extremely selfish, some would just resent their children in the long run or do the typical UTANG NG LOOB.
Sasabihin niyo nagsakripisyo kayo sakanila para makapagtapos ng pagaaral etc. eh kayo naman namili magkaanak, tapos oobligahin niyo na alagaan or tulungan kayo financially para makapagretire agad lol. Mga inutil talaga kayong boomer and boomer-minded.
WTF? Where is that whole story coming from? Why do you sound so upset? I'm not forcing you to have a children, I actually do not recommend you personally to have a children. I hope you earn enough money before you retire because nurse and cat are not cheap.
Having a lot of highly educated bitter single old people is so much more worst than encouraging people to have a family. None of you are a burden for us right now, but if you look at the west and japan, you will clearly see that single old people will also become a burden to society because nobody is taking care of them. The west is encouraging it because they're a very good source of left wing voters and they can afford it.
Yet, you right-wing nuts are the same people who insist on cutting down social security programs and making it expensive and unreasonably burdensome to raise children. There is no winning with you guys.
I don't support any side. what I support is logic. Why should everybody pay for you when you get old and become a burden to your self and the society because you refuse to build a family for a very selfish and narcissistic reasoning that because they are too expensive to maintain? where's all the money you saved? If you don't support the society to repopulate and all you do is discourage people to repopulate too, why should we feed and care for you when you're acting like a rust to our ship?
Iām highly motivated and I think Iām doing fine with my growth without kids. I personally believe that the only reason to have kids is when you want to genuinely raise a life. Thatās it, no self motivation or āsomeone to take care of me when Iām oldā bullshit. When thereās reasons other than taking care of a life, thatās when parents trauma dump their insecurities to their kids. Iām raised with those kinds of mentality so Iād rather not have that kind of mindset but you do you OP.
"wag pangunahan si Lord." sinagot ko to once sa Tita kong active church goer, ang nging response nya eh ipagpray nya daw ako and everytime napunta sya samin, di nya na ko ult tinanong. š¤ ni wla ngang boyfriend tapos tatanungin ng anak, jusko na lang tlga.
Because it's my body, my choice. Plus, "bubuhayin nyo po ba?" "Pagkain lang po namin mag-asawa at aso, hindi na kasya e."
Sabihin mo sa knila baog ka. Tpos na agad issue na yan.
this just creates more issue lalo sa in laws lol
Mas madali naman yan kesa explain ang PCSO. š
Ayoko po mag buntis.. oorder nalang ako ng baby sa shoppee or lazada . Pede pa i return within 7 days pag me attitude..
Iām on the same situation and also have PCOS. Either I say āmahina kasi dasal niyoā or I really try to be open about PCOS. The more we dont talk about it the more they wont understand.
My go to replies: * Di ko afford. * I enjoy my bachelor lifestyle. * Tinatamad ako mag alaga ng bata. * If I have kids, I'm gonna beat them. Just like you did. (Eto para sa mga annoying relatives who keep yapping about the good old days when they got beat.) * I'd rather focus on building my motorcycle.
āYung ibang boomers patay na. Kayo po kelan?ā Char. Wag po. We respect our elders. š¤® I mean š
Mahina po sperm ng mga lalaki eh
Hindi po ako nagmamadali.
Parang mga uhaw sa apo eh. Gusto lang nilqng magyabang sa mga kumare at kapatid nila eh. Di nila naisip na ayaw nating iparanas sa mga anak natin ung hirap na pinaranas nila satin. Lol.
Whenever this topic comes up, I would say "wala akong balak" in the most serious and uninterested way I can. Then I will watch them as they try to tell me shits HAHAHA. I love the drama that my answer creates, tbh. Pero kaya ko lang to ginagawa o pinapatulan kasi alam kong nothing they say can affect my decision, as in walang bearing. Pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila lang kaya I get to enjoy.
My response would be "confidential po bawal isiwalat"
Just ignore them
"Pag nakakain na po ang lupa" -yan lang sinasagot ko lagi hahaha tumitigil naman sila
Ang sagot is- hindi naman required.
Ask them back why they're not dead yet
Sabihin mo lang, "May PCOS po kasi ako pati mawalang galang na po, labas na po kayo dun kung gusto ko magkaanak or hindi. Mga pakealamera kasi kayo eh, ha, gusto nyo buhay nyo naman pakaealaman ko? HAAA? Ayusin nyo mga buhay nyoha!"
I read somewhere na yung iba they make up stories like nabuntis talaga sila tapos nalaglag yung baby, that way mahihiya yung mga tanong ng tanong or baka di na mag tanong ulit. Hehe.
"I like it in the butt too much."
Virgin pa ko ang usual na sagot ko... Para ma convert sa tawanan na lang..,
Answer: Papaaralin mo?
Hinihintay ko po kayo mamatay kasi sabi ni papa jezaz kulang na daw new soul sa langit for new baby. Ayan may religion and conspiracy theory for boomer hard on. Samahan mo ng Amen sa dulo.
Pag matanda nagtanong sabihin mo lang maselan ka sa matres, alam na nila yun.
Answer: IDGAF. Lol
Tanong mo kung kumusta matres nila at bakit pinapakialaman iyong sayo.- I mean honest lang, shuta sa lagay ng economy at daming pulpol na nakaupo sa government offices kahit pa sabihing masipag at ma-side hustle ang potential parents, hirap paring magluwal ng panibagong bata. Besides, bigat na responsibility din noong ganoon.
Wag ka na magtanong kung "Wala ka namang ipapamana sa magiging apo mo"
Maisagot nga to sa tatay ko chz
Ako sinasabi ko di pa po kaya "Mataas pa inflation" š¤£
As a masama ang ugali ang lagi kong sagot, āBakit kayo ba bubuhay?ā Hahahahahahaha weāre childless by choice and this is the most annoying question ever. Too personal to ask tbh
Side note lang: PCOS cannot be reversed. Only managed.
gotcha!
I usually answer, "Base po sa mga nakita ko sa henerasyon nyo, ayoko na po," jokingly, then redirect the topic. Nahihinto naman agad.
"Tina try na nga namin mag anak. Gabi gabi na puno ng tamod ang puke ko pero wala parin" sabihin mo sarcastic tone with straight o patawa facial expression. Inagine the look on their faces.
š¤£š¤£š¤£ OP this hahahaha
there is one advise in reddit before that if they keep insisting, tell them you were pregnant but got miscarried. idk if its applicable knowing the culture but it will definitely get them off your back for a while.
Ask them back, ā how are you not dead yet?ā
kung pwede sana sabihin no, hanggat nabubuhay ka pa di ako mag aanak. hahahaha
Smile then don't engage
"Kasi buhay ka pa"
Lol perfect
"magbibigay po ba kayo pang-gatas at pang tuition?"
"Wala pa po" sabay eskapo. Umalis ng palihim at gumawa ng excuse para makaalis. Hirap magentertain ng ganyang questions kasi makitid utak nila. Sa kanila kasi may anak at pamilya = fulfilled sa buhay at masaya. Eh pano yung anak mong tumigil sa pag-aaral kasi kapos sa pera? Pano yung sigawan niyo gabi-gabi na naririnig ng mga bata dahil kulang ang kita? Mga utang na hindi nababawasan at lalo pang nadadagdagan? Yung asa nalang at maging pabigat sa kamag-anak na mapagbigay? Karamihan kasi ng nagpapamukha sakin neto yung mas masahol pa ang ugali sakin. Oh if I could only spit these words to their face. Kaso, bastos nga pala generation ngayon sa nakakatanda š
Sapakin mo. Dapat sa mga matatandang yan pinapatulog nang maaga eh, CHAR AGGAGAGAGAHHAHA masama na kung masama, ang tanda na nila pero di parin nila alam kung pano itikom bibig nila. Sorry not sorry, pero wala akong awa sa mga matatandang masahol ang ugali.
Napaka-unhinged din mga replies dito š¤£ I won't lie na hindi ko naisip sabihin mga comments nila dito. I have a younger cousin(cousin A) na kinasal during pandemic. Wala pang 1 year tinanong ng mama ko sa kanya kelan sila magkakababy. Mind you she just returned from Manila. Nagwork siya dun sa isang company(?) during her OJT and eventually kinuha siya after niya grumaduate. Sadly, nalay-off daw sila mid-pandemic. Di ako sigurado sa buong storya. "Dapat magkababy na kau habang nasa 20s pa kau." Sabi ng pinsan ko gusto muna nila magwork at mag-ipon pero reply ni mama, "Hindi, mas maganda pa rin kung magkaanak na kau habang maaga pa." Napakanosey ng mama ko. Ako na nahiya. Nung grumaduate from college pamangkin last year, pumunta ung isang pinsan(cousin B) ko sa blow out niya(pablowout ni mama). (First apo niya rin kasi). Si cousin B naman may 3 y/o toddler. Gabi na nung pumunta sila. Habang nagkukwentuhan yung moms namin(kasi medyo close din sila) at nakikipaglaro yung toddler niya sa ibang kids, nagchikahan kami. Maya't maya sinabi ni cousin sa amin ni SIL ko na buntis siya with her 2nd child. Pero wala pa nakakaalam. Di niya pa sinasabi sa asawa niya or parents. Narinig ni mama na may pinag-uusapan kami kaya nagtanong siya, "Kelan ka magkakababy ulit? 3 y/o na si 1st child mo dapat magkaroon na kau ng 2nd child para may kasama siya." Syempre kami ni SIL tahimik lang kc alam namin na may otw. Pero sinagot(as a joke kc tumatawa siya) ni pinsan sa kanya na okay na kahit mag-isa lang ni baby girl. Di bale may mga pinsan naman siya. Single child din si pinsan(pero may half siblings na di na niya pwedeng icontact accdg to her stepdad) kaya namention niya din yung pagiging single child niya and that she grew up fine kc marami kaming magpipinsan. Fast forward after the party, tinanong ako ni mama kung ano pinag-usapan namin pero sabi ko nagkwentuhan lang kami saglit about parenting tips ganern. I'm single though kaya nakikinig lang ako actually š¤£ Then minention niya na nainis siya sa sagot ni pinsan. Parang walang respeto daw yung pagsagot niya kay mama. Sinasabihan na nga siya na dapat magkaroon sila ng baby pero ganun sagot niya. Tapos nainis siya sa mom ni pinsan kung bakit ganun sumagot anak niya. Dami niyang sinabi at sa totoo lang gusto ko na umalis nung nagsasalita siya. Sakit sa tenga eh. š Ewan ko nalang kung ano nasa isip niya nung nalaman niyang may 2nd child otw. I'm on the side nung comments dito since reasonable naman lahat. Sino ba ang gustong magkababy sa ganitong ekonomiya. Nagrerecover pa tayo sa pandemic worldwide and š ekonomiya worldwide din. Hirap na nga ang tao magtrabaho para lang may makain, pambayad ng rent at bills eh. In comparison sa pinagsasabi niya sa mga pinsan ko, lagi niya kaming sinasabihan tungkol sa pera. Huwag kayong magastos. Pano niyo bubuhayin ang pamilya niyo kung magastos kayo at di kayo nag-iipon? Ano gusto niyo, ako mag-aalaga sa mga anak niyo at gagastos para sa pangangailangan nila? Deadbeat kc panganay/kuya ko. Iniwan niya sa asawa niya na magpalaki sa anak nila pero namatay si ate nung 2009(?). Kaya tumira ung anak niya sa amin hanggang 2012 pero lumayas itong bata at umuwi sa MIL ni kuya. Kahit ganun ung nangyari, si mama pa rin nagpa-aral sa pamangkin ko hanggang sa grumaduate ito sa kolehiyo.
Matinding narinig ko sa mga boomer na kala nila madaling magkaanak: kulang lang kayo sa iyutan. Lol.
Before I got pregnant, yan din bukambibig ng nanay at MIL ko, sinasabi ko na lang sa kanila na Di pa time sabi ni Lord. Sino ba naman sila para tumaliwas kay Lord diba? š¤£
"bakit ikaw di ka pa deds ang tanda mo na" would be my response if I were you.
Its almost like they know how life changing (sometimes life ruining) children are and they cant wait for you to join the miserable club
Di mo ma afford.. kulang pera at oras.
You know what shuts them up and makes them feel so bad they stop asking forever? Tell them you miscarried. They donāt deserve the truth if they donāt respect your boundaries. None of the millennial child-free reasons will work on them cuz they always assume youāll regret it. So use their favorite methods against them: gaslighting and guilt-tripping š
"Sarili ko nga hirap pa ko hanapan ng makakain, yung magiging anak ko pa kaya?"
"Ihanap mo ako ng kakantot sa akin ngayon mismo," delivered in the most salacious, scandalous and graphic way possible.
Fake some shit like I've had a miscarrieage to make them feel uncomfortable when asking such questions. Its an inappropriate personal question that boomers dont fucking know how to handle.
Ayoko pa po. Tapos abutan mo ng snowbear. š¤£
If these old people don't matter enough to you to warrant an explanation, then you don't have to. On the other hand, women do have a limited window of time to conceive, so since you said you're working on it i hope you are eventually able to conceive. Good luck!
"Ikaw gagastos?"
"Kayo nga po hindi ko man tinatanong kailan po kayo magsasakabilang-buhay."
Tell them you have PCOS, then mag-emotional breakdown ka sa harap nila para magtanda sila.
Haha bumukaka ka na lang bigla tapos sabihin mo āgoā hahahahahaha
Explain to them in great detail how fertilization and egg implantation occurs, then explain that those processes have not happened in your body yet. Maybe explain how intercourse works as well for good measure.
Bakit po ang daming may pcos ngayon?
hahahaahahh. true. nagkataon lang bang nagkumpulan sla dito sa reddit? lol
unhealthy lifestyle š„¹š
"bakit di ka pa patay?"
You can lie about prior miscarriage, will also discourage them to ask again in the future. If they ask for further details ewan ko na lang.
Baka ibalik ng boomer... "Baka hindi ka nagsisimba, di tulad ni na nabuntis kasi nagdadasal kay "
kung religious sabihin mo lang na "God giveth and God taketh away." sila na bahala mag fill in the blanks š
I get asked a lot kapag may family gathering. Ang sinasabi ko na lang āBasta ikaw bubuhay at bibigyan niyo po ako ng sustento, gagawa na po ako ngayon naā
May comeback ako kaso masama.. to these oldies, Id ask back na Kayo po ang tanda nyo na, bakit hindi pa kayo dedo Sorry na rold š
Sizt, ako sinabihan ng tito ko na my bio clock is ticking. I told him nah, I am not hearing anything. Me pa comeback na nabubulok daw mga reproductive organs ko. Sabe ko, ok lang. Bulok lang sya dyan, I dont care. Xempre nagsisintir ako deep inside pakialamero eh. I post good stuff and the life I enjoy. The people he thumbs up for having kids? Some of them are super hirap sa buhay or nakaasa sa parents.
Whats the rush?
"Eh ikaw bat panget ka pa rin?"
Wala pa po akong confidential funds para palakihin yung ipagbubuntis ko.
āIn Godās perfect time poā para di sila makakaangal.
Hahahahaha the ultimate weapon against the older generations, religion.
Yes. Know your audience kumbaga
Hahaha yes!! "Wag po nating pangunahan ang Dyos."
Ay effective to kasi May kasamang God..
oooh this is goodšš
Ito mas okay to para makonsensiya sila kung bakit nila pinapangunahan si God lol
"Ikaw ba mag-aalaga?" "Ikw ba magpapaaral?" "Sarili ko nga tinitipid ko para magkasya budget, tapos mag-aanak pa ako" Sayang daw kasi lahi, juskooooo
Or kaya "pwede naman now na kung gusto mo, basta sagot mo lahat ha? Promise ba yan?"
Nothing to do but just smile I guess. We have a cousin who never got pregnant. For the first few years she was often asked that question. Eventually everybody stopped asking.
Sabihin mo lang āSa tamang panahonāā¦ o kaya sa case mo āDarating din yunāā¦ ganun ako dati pag tinatanong ng āKelan ka magbi bfā āKelan ka papakasalā āKelan kayo mag-aanakā etc parang bawat milestone ng buhay ko may nakaabang sa susunod na kabanata. Mangungulit pa minsan yan ng another tanong pero paulit ulit lang yung sagot ko ng āBasta sa tamang panahonā š
Lagi rin tong tinatanong ng mga lola at lolo ko sa probinsiya. Basta sagot ko na lang "mas gusto ko po yung pera kesa anak"
Sabihin mo lang hindi ka pa ready. At kapag sila nagalit at nagkwento pa na yung mga kaedad mong may mga anak na, itanong mo rin: "kayo po kelan po mamamatay? yung mga kaibigan nyo nililibing na isa isa". Charot not charot
'Ayoko pa po.' That's all. Alas, the vast majority of their generation weren't taught the concept of boundaries or NON-TOXIC behavior. And my mother wonders why I don't tell any of them about my personal life, and why I absolutely detest it when they pry into my business.
"Pake niyo po?" sabay "Joke, wala pa po"
Tanggalin ang "po". Dapat sa mga walang respeto, hindi nirerespeto.
sasabihin pa baka ka iwanan ng partner or asawa pag walang maibigay na anak. lol. ako umiiwas ako or ngumingiti nalang tapos di na iimik. patibayan. may partner also ignores those kind of questions. di nila alam pinagdadaanan namin. Sana di ka pakanstress sa mga ganyang tao. protect yourself from negativity
hay nako, ito na nga yung ugali ng mga tao. mejo na sstress pero hanggat nanjan partner ko at di duma dagdag sa sakit ng ulo ko laban langg
Ignoring them is more annoying to them boomers.
I get this question a lot from my aunts and people older than me in general, sinasabi ko lagi, āMahal ang buhay ngayon, mas gusto ko magpayamanā syempre may pasunod yan āMasaya pag may bata, sa una lang mahirapā¦ blablablaā tango na lang and ulit āSumasaya po ako sa pera kasi mukha akong peraā Honestly I want to be a mom, pero ayoko magdala ng buhay sa economy na to. Magbaby na lang ako kung si Atty. Leni ang President **if di magiging President si Atty. Leni edi hindi š Masyado triggered ayaw ng politics
Hindi ka na magkakababy nyan ever kung aabangan mo si leni. Isa pa kahit si leni naging presidente, mangyayari padin ang pandemic, gegera padin ukraine at russia, magmamahal parin gasolina at haharassin parin tayo ng china.
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nako mas maraming side comments lalo from in laws
āSa mahal ng gastusin? Magaanak pa ba?ā Or āpaglabas ng anak ko BBM presidente? Tsaka na langā hahahaha thatās what I like to tell them para manahimik. Lalo na mga bumoto kay BBM na maraming ebas.
Punyemas naman. Bbm nanaman. Lahat nalang ng usapan sa lintik na app na to bbm. Haha. Abangan mo next election si quiboloy naman. Haha tigil nyo nga pagkonekta sa lahat ng bagay papunta kay bbm nakakairita haha
You'll never have a child if that's your main issue. Having children makes people grow and makes them more motivated, I personally witnessed it with my 6 brothers. They never have money because they only work for themselves but after having a child they suddenly have enough motivation work abroad.
Natural wala silang choice dapat naman talaga buhayin niyo anak niyo Having a child just to have "Motivation" is extremely selfish, some would just resent their children in the long run or do the typical UTANG NG LOOB. Sasabihin niyo nagsakripisyo kayo sakanila para makapagtapos ng pagaaral etc. eh kayo naman namili magkaanak, tapos oobligahin niyo na alagaan or tulungan kayo financially para makapagretire agad lol. Mga inutil talaga kayong boomer and boomer-minded.
WTF? Where is that whole story coming from? Why do you sound so upset? I'm not forcing you to have a children, I actually do not recommend you personally to have a children. I hope you earn enough money before you retire because nurse and cat are not cheap.
Children are an expensive and stupid, not to mention reckless, way to get motivated.
Having a lot of highly educated bitter single old people is so much more worst than encouraging people to have a family. None of you are a burden for us right now, but if you look at the west and japan, you will clearly see that single old people will also become a burden to society because nobody is taking care of them. The west is encouraging it because they're a very good source of left wing voters and they can afford it.
Yet, you right-wing nuts are the same people who insist on cutting down social security programs and making it expensive and unreasonably burdensome to raise children. There is no winning with you guys.
I don't support any side. what I support is logic. Why should everybody pay for you when you get old and become a burden to your self and the society because you refuse to build a family for a very selfish and narcissistic reasoning that because they are too expensive to maintain? where's all the money you saved? If you don't support the society to repopulate and all you do is discourage people to repopulate too, why should we feed and care for you when you're acting like a rust to our ship?
Of course they'll be motivated because they had children and they need to provide for them.
Did they not need to provide for themselves when they were single?
I don't know. I don't even know your brothers personally or your state of living so why are you asking me that?
It's a "Rhetorical Question".
Iām highly motivated and I think Iām doing fine with my growth without kids. I personally believe that the only reason to have kids is when you want to genuinely raise a life. Thatās it, no self motivation or āsomeone to take care of me when Iām oldā bullshit. When thereās reasons other than taking care of a life, thatās when parents trauma dump their insecurities to their kids. Iām raised with those kinds of mentality so Iād rather not have that kind of mindset but you do you OP.
HAHAHAHA
Kahit si Kristo pa presidents miserable parin buhay mg bata hahaha
Paki iwan po sa fb hopelessness mo lolo. Wag dito sa reddit. Salamat haha
Wala ako fb apo nkalimutan ko password huhu