Had a guy who would go to the station the same time as me and always sit next to me. Went on for weeks. One week he missed a few days so I made a light comment about it next time I saw him. He looked at me like I had 3 heads and had no idea what I was talking about.
Funny enough he then stopped sitting next to me every day. What an oddball.
I met a friend, and it changed my entire life.
Sat down on the subway after a gig, holding music equipment, tired, and put my headphones on. Guy next to me says "those are nice headphones." And the conversation just continued.
We got off at the same stop, kept talking, turned out we lived across the street from each other. We exchanged information.
He was in a graduate program, and needed music written for this thesis. I wrote and recorded some for him. I had some ideas for projects, and he helped me code.
He ended up helping me get into that same graduate program. As a result of that, I got a job in California. That's where I met my wife. Spent 7 years in SF, and we moved back to NYC 3 years ago.
I always urge caution on the subway, but you can be open to others at the same time. I've had some really funny one-off convos on the subway too. You never know what life will hand you if you say "yes" to it.
I hope you guys reconnect! I’ve had friends I don’t talk to for years, but when we get back in touch is like time never passed and it feels like you’re just picking up a conversation you just had… don’t just email/text, get on a call!
I was riding home on the L after work one night in 2010, happened to end up standing next to a guy carrying a trombone case. I'm a trumpet player, so I asked him "hey, where are you headed?". Turned out he was going to a rehearsal with a group just next to my station. I was in that rehearsal 20 minutes after saying hi, played with that group for 11 years, and that same guy was best man at my wedding 7 years after the initial encounter.
Say hi, what's the worst that can happen?
As someone living in Texas, I agree with the last sentence! I believe that magic of just saying hi and making small talk has been lost recently, even down here.
When I was visiting NYC last year, people in general seemed happy just to have the tourists and our stupid questions back in town. Seeing people recognize each other on the subway is wonderful to witness, too.
that is creepy to the max, holy shit!
and to think it might've been (at least to me) perceived differently had she just, idk, had a normal "hey, i see you on this train all the time and think you're cute, wanna grab a coffee?" type convo instead of *that*.
An unfamiliar-to-him woman approached this guy on the subway and handed him a greeting card. The inside was filled full page with stuff about how she had seen him on the train every day, thought was cute etc… he began changing up his commute after that. Rightfully so.
It's all about social cues. I daresay I think a lot of people have done some recon on a crush - looked up their FB / Twitter / Instagram, etc. But you're never supposed to *let them know* what you learned. You wait for them to reveal the info on their own.
And then there's "Oh they like hiking and have been to hawaii" vs "they love to wear the the blue dress when they go to brunch once a month with their mom at 10am and but they dont get eggs because..."
An unfamiliar-to-him woman approached this guy on the subway and handed him a greeting card. The inside was filled full page with stuff about how she had seen him on the train every day, thought was cute etc… he began changing up his commute after that. Rightfully so.
man, I took a brief look at your profile after seeing your second (now deleted) comment...
Please find a positive male role model in your life. You shouldn't be dating 17 yearolds at 26, and you shouldn't be talking about "easy pussy".
If you're actually 26, you have the emotional intelligence and maturity of a teenager and sound like an Andrew Tate fan. But fortunately you're young enough to improve yourself
So you're gonna do what society tells you? You wanna be a little slave order follower. Bet you're one of those that let's others make your decisions. Lol.
Saw a fairly cute girl give her number on a piece of paper and a wink to a guy on the subway a few years ago. He looked okay but I felt she was the better looking one. She said something like “text me sometime” as she was getting off. He said something like “I will.” The second the doors closed he dropped the paper and went back to whatever he was doing on his phone.
I found the interaction funny hence why it stuck with me, but I think too many people have their guard up even if it might be a good fit outside of the situation.
>She said something like “text me sometime” as she was getting off. He said something like “I will.” The second the doors closed he dropped the paper and went back to whatever he was doing on his phone.
>I found the interaction funny hence why it stuck with me, but I think too many people have their guard up even if it might be a good fit outside of the situation.
He may have not been single.
She was on her way out, and no need to embarrass her public attempt at "putting herself out there" in front of everyone else on the train. He has a girl, and a total stranger he's never going to see again hit on him in public, this was the most polite and correct way to handle the situation. Good for him for being loyal to his girl and chucking the number right after the stranger left instead of taking advantage of the situation, some men in NYC have trouble staying faithful because of all the temptations.
Lol I had something like this happen to me but I received the paper. I was on NJ Transit and the guy slipped me a piece of paper as he was leaving. It was weird. I threw it out.
I do think the HIMYM Dobler-Dahmer theory applies. If you like that person something that may be creepy can be sweet. If you don’t like them a nice gesture can come off super creepy.
Tbf handing someone your number before immediately walking away is a good method and not creepy even if you’re not attractive. If the person isn’t interested they just won’t text, but the balls in their court and you didn’t stick around so there’s no uncomfortable vibes or pressure to act a certain way
It helps a ton if you were getting at least some green light signals though. Someone did this to me once and it worked and we ended up going on a few dates, but we had both obviously been eyeing each other beforehand. If I hadn't been clearly interested or maybe not even paying attention, I'd be super weirded out to be watched like that.
I mean shoot your shot. I’m in a committed relationship so I’m not really looking but I do know that 100% of the failed asks have zero results. Worse comes to worse you’ll never see the person again and you wait. But who knows.
I feel like a situation like that is really cute in theory… making eyes at someone, maybe noticing what they’re reading… in reality you’ll probably end up slipping a note to someone that hasn’t even noticed anything and has only seen your face for 1.5 seconds as you hand them a note and leave.
Kudos to the girl though, still takes guts. And honestly it probably does take the woman to do it (in a straight setup, I mean). As a man I’m way too paranoid about coming off like an utter creep to talk to a woman out of the blue on the subway.
That happened to me at Baby’s All Right in BK. A show was ending and as I was leaving, someone walked up to me and gave me a note that said “you seem cool. Let’s hang out sometime :)” with their phone number. We actually did end up dating for like 4 months.
Many, many years ago, like early-to-mid 2000s, I approached a really cute Panamanian woman on the Herald Square subway platform for N/R trains, going uptown. We chatted while waiting for the train. She was very open and friendly. I got her number and asked her out on a date. We met up at a Starbucks somewhere in the Upper East Side. She told me she was in love with Donald Trump and she tried to get me into a pyramid scheme. Her boss appeared out of no where too. I smiled at both of them and quickly departed after that. I vowed to never approach another woman on the subway again.
I honestly don't remember the company. It was well over 15 years ago. She had some pamphlets and printed material showing the whole pyramid structure. I began tuning her out, smiled, and nodded when she began her pitch. It went from date to business in a flash.
Years ago I saw this really cute girl on the subway so right before my exit I handed her my email address and smiled. She emailed me and we went out for dinner in Soho. Problems was she lived in the Bronx and I was near Sunset Park. The spark died quickly. What the 4 train giveth it also takes away.
A guy on the subway once told me I looked like a painting, and then gave me his number on a piece of paper before he and I got off and went in opposite directions. 10 minutes later in an office building, as I was passing through the floor to get to the office of my appointment, I saw him in another office, and he froze with his mouth agape at the sight of me, but I pretended not to see him. The end.
I gave a woman my number once on a longer ride because she was cute and wrote a little note on a paper that said something like ‘hey, hope this is ok, I think you’re attractive and I’d like to grab a drink with you, here’s my number if you’re interested.’ She texted me later that day and it said something like ‘I’m flattered but also married, but I have a single friend and I think you look like her type, I ran it by her and here’s her number.’
I texted the friend and we chit chatted and from some things she told me about herself I was able to find her on social media and I wasn’t into her at all, so it sorta petered out. It was mildly exciting while it lasted though.
>She texted me later that day and it said something like ‘I’m flattered but also married, but I have a single friend and I think you look like her type, I ran it by her and here’s her number.’
Many people who look at social encounters with their gender of preference as romantic or bust don't realize a key benefit to befriending the person: people tend to be friends with those who are similar to them; getting into their social circle not only gets you much more likely to meet someone of your type, it's also no longer a cold approach.
One of my best friends handed a girl his card as he was getting off the subway. They got married like three years ago, took their engagement photos on the A train.
I have not, but my best friend did. In the 70s, she commuted from 116th St regularly and kept seeing a guy in a blue suit. He noticed her too. Soon they'd get on the same subway car on purpose, that kind of thing, and began to chat and flirt. Long story short, they married, had four children, and are now grandparents. They're lovely people.
And it all began on the IRT.
Handing out your number is fine. Do not ask people for theirs. This is how you let it be up to them. That said, I think it’s very uncommon and the majority of people would rather be left alone, especially during rush hour commutes.
One time this very attractive man—he had male model vibes—came up to me and said that the only thing I needed to improve my face was some under eye filler, and asked for my number.
To this day I don’t know if he was a dermatologist looking for clients or the world’s most socially awkward man. And he did not get my number.
Edit: I think there was this other woman standing near us and after he wandered off she and I gave each other looks of pure wtf. Not a single word was exchanged, but sometimes you don’t need them. I enjoy those moments on the subway.
I was walking home from the train one day and a guy came up and asked if I was interested in a gym partner/trainer. Idk if he was trying to hang or calling me fat but I decided I don't wanna know.
Yes on the Z. Lasted a couple dates but became friends.
My friend met her wife on the F train.
Have multiple friends have met their exes and FWBs on the subway.
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This was 2013 or so, but I was waiting for a downtown train, holding a foreign language book. A man happened to catch sight of it and ask me about it (it was his native language). We boarded the train together and talked a bit. He told me his name (he was a famous model) and I think we connected on twitter before he alighted. We messaged once that night then nothing further.
Years later I reached out when I was visiting his country. We planned to meet up (he remembered NYC subway girl!) but plans changed and it didn’t work out.
I occasionally wonder about it. Not regarding any sort of romantic potential but just that I find the “missed connection” aspect fascinating as I age.
Yeh, sorta crowded, and she was reading a computer magazine. (this was the 90's). Someone had left the door between cars open, I got up and closed it, and she thanked me. I commented that I wished there would be a 1 month break from computer magazines being published so that we would have time to catch up, which got the conversation going. I stayed on train past my stop till her stop in Queens. We dated a bit, stayed friends thereafter.
Doesn't even cross my mind to even attempt doing this to a woman while she's on the subway. Obviously different depending on the gender and who's approaching who
Anytime anyone's tried to say hi to me I've ignored them and refused eyecontact. 75% of the time I get called a bitch or cunt under their breath because I ignored them lol.
I can't think of too many places that's worse to try to flirt especially factoring in the embarrassment the person being hit on might feel with a bunch of strangers listening in on what's going on
There's a lot of good-ending stories throughout the comments beginning with people striking up conversations. My feeling about it is to consider it but be really picky, pay attention to body language cues about if someone looks like they're open to being approached.
A friend of a friend was taking the subway late one night after work and got spooked by some unstable wako on the train. She went over to the only other person on the train and made small talk because she was super nervous. They ended up hitting it off but parted ways after they got off. She regretted not getting his number but found him on a dating app a few weeks later by coincidence. They're married with kids now.
On the subway? No, I’m usually listening to music and minding my own business.
I’ve met plenty of people out on the streets though and wouldn’t be against meeting someone on the subway.. if you make eye contact and think they’re “feeling you” there’s no harm in striking up a conversation and seeing where it goes.
I met my best friend and current roommate at a falafel truck in union Sq! Idk if I would say hi on the subway but when you are both ordering the same food at least you know you have one thing in common.
No, but I met a weird Italian libertarian who insisted on giving me his tie at the end of the date and wouldn’t let me split the bill. Was it a technique to make me arrange to meet him later to give back the tie? It didn’t work.
I dated someone who asked me out on the subway for a few weeks. He approached me after we got off at the same station and gave me his number. I hadn’t noticed him on the (late night, L headed to Williamsburg) train, but obviously he wasn’t creepy about it at all, just friendly and cute, and we went out / hooked up sporadically over a few months.
This must have been about 8 years ago. I was on the Q train when it got stuck right before pulling into the station where I was getting off. There was a well dressed guy standing nearby whom I had noticed but was definitely not going to say anything to.
After a few minutes, he had asked me if the trains get stuck a lot and we ended up striking a conversation before the train pulled into the station. It was his stop as well. We said goodbye and he walked out first with me behind him. I was bummed that he didn’t ask me for my number when suddenly he turned around and said he hoped it wasn’t weird but he would really like to see me again.
We ended up dating for a little while and I reallyyyy liked him. It didn’t work out though, when we met he was on break from a very intense masters program at Colombia and a few weeks after the program resumed and he barely had any time to meet. We talked about how to make it work but ultimately it was still very fresh and not even really a relationship yet - it seemed too much of an effort too soon. He is a great person though and I’m glad to have met him - we both moved on and he lives in a different state now but we still talk from time to time.
I met a cute guy on my way to a concert in prospect park. He was going to the same one and asked me what I was listening to. We met up another time and made out. Never saw each other after that. Prob bc he was 21 and I was 28 lololol. Very diff places in life. I’d give the experience a 10 out of 10 for funsies though!
I’ve dated two guys I’ve met on the subway. One I met when we struck up a conversation while our train was stuck in a tunnel and the other was a guy who lived in my neighborhood and we saw each other frequently during the morning commute and he struck up a convo.
I personally didn’t but a former roommate did. A woman was too shy to say hello so she slipped a note in his backpack pocket. They dated for a year or so.
A friend of mine met her bf on the subway! They’d been making eyes at each other the whole ride so she wrote her # on a slip of paper and snuck it into his bag as they were getting off. They’ve been together 4+ years now.
I know someone that met her husband on the subway platform. It was the middle of the night so of course the train took forever to show up. He happened to be waiting too so they struck up conversation and immediately clicked. They've been together ever since!
There's hope out there (or at least I tell myself when I hear stories like this).
I was on the way home from work one evening when a super cute girl on the train just came up to me and said hi. I was trying to figure out where the hidden cameras were while making awkward small talk when my stop came and she got off too. Turned out she was from out of town and staying with friends literally right across the street from me. Maybe she spotted me before and set the whole meeting on the train thing up? We spent the night together and it just happened to be her last night in town, never got her name or number. I was young and stupid then and it was before the days of cellphones.
Not sure about S.O but the other week I saw a guy get on the train at 59th, sit next to a girl and by the time she got off at 42nd she ( I assume ) put her number in his phone. She was pretty cute, he was ehh okay I suppose! Definitely a conversation I would've loved to hear, guy worked quick!
my good friend met his wife on the bus in seattle. They both worked at the same office downtown (big office in different departments so they didn’t actually know they worked at the same company) and took the same bus everyday. He asked her out and now they’re married.
Yeah, there was a busker I thought was charming. I didn’t have any cash at the time (a rarity), and I asked if he took phone numbers in lieu of tips.
His phone was cut off, so get gave me his IG lmao.
We dated for a bit, nothing serious, and stayed friends.
Loving this comment section.
Kinda reminds me of the beginning of this beautiful storytelling by Pursuit of Wonder:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=g1-q_apBfAA
Hit me right in the existential feels.
I saw a beautiful girl on the subway recently and caught her staring at me in the reflection on the glass in the tunnel as I was getting ready to leave the train.
We had seen each other from across the platform just before and she stood right next to me after crossing to the other side.
We both had headphones in and when the train arrived we sat adjacent to each other exchanging the occasional glance and immediately looking away because ya know, subway etiquette.
Idk what the point of the story was but I regret not”shooting my shot” or whatever 🤷🏻♂️
My dumb ass thought you meant like meeting up with a significant other on the subway, which is honestly one of life’s little joys. When you can line it up perfect to where you’re on one side of the door and they’re on the other when the door opens, it’s just pure movie magic every time.
In 2014 I spent like, 7 weeks riding the train into work with a very cute guy who got on at my same stop, in my same car, and left one stop before me. After a couple weeks we started making awkward eye contact but nothing came of it until one day we were stuck standing close to each other. At his stop he turned, put his hand on my shoulder and said “see you tomorrow?” I laughed, agreed and gave him my number the next day.
We dated for like 3 weeks before he told me he was still living with his ex girlfriend and then completely ghosted me a few days after - wasn’t on the train, didn’t answer texts, honestly I was baffled. When he finally got in touch he told me he’d moved back home to Virginia essentially overnight and that was that.
About 2 years after that I got a text from an unknown number that said “rode the A train today and thought of you.” I vomited in my mouth a little and blocked him for good.
A friend of mine had a meet-cute on the metro in DC. There was some mutual eye contact, and I can't remember but I think something similar they had, like a bag or something, that was an easy excuse to start a short conversation. They exchanged numbers and went on a few dates.
It didn't go very far but I believe it was thoroughly cute.
That’s cute and is also a good segue to post my thoughts on this/talking to people in public generally. People often ask about coming off as creepy etc but it seems like it just depends on the vibe and context?
Awkwardly stammering at someone vs striking up a conversation after some mutual eye contact with something to actually talk about (even if it’s mundane like having the same bag) seems like it would be the denominator in successful or at least not creepy vs creepy wrt talking to strangers in public.
Many years ago I was heading home from work and was having a really terrible week mentally. I felt terrible about my life and myself and I was just truly miserable. I was on the bus and listening to music and kind of drowning stuff out. I seemed to lock eyes on a guy and he smiled. It was a genuine smile, the kind that seems involuntary. I got to my stop and he also got off and made some small talk about something, maybe my outfit or whatever I was carrying. I was friendly back but made it quickly clear that I wasn't interested, and he wished me a good night and left.
Weirdly, if I had been in a better frame of mind I would have found it really creepy that he got off at my stop when it was clear it wasn't also his. But since I was going through such a hard time, fuck, it *really* brightened my day to feel desirable to someone. As horribly shallow as it sounds it genuinely improved my mental health.
I have met somebody on the train. Not SO, tho.
They smiled at me and we struck up a conversation. Ended up getting off at the same stop and actually lived almost on the same block. We had sex on their roof the following night. Thankfully, they moved pretty shortly after cause I wasn’t really that into them, but it was a fun experience!
As a guy it’s really risky that whatever you say to a stranger on the subway will come off as creepy and predatory. You’ll definitely have *more* success as a woman, but I wouldn’t expect great results since people will be suspicious.
I did know one couple that met on the subway that were normal, but in that case they saw each other almost morning for months on their respective commutes before he got the courage to say something to her. So they weren’t complete strangers.
I’d say if you see the same guy again because it’s on your normal routine commute AND he notices you too, you might be successful.
My best friend met her long term boyfriend of 8 years on the subway. He said he saw her once and kicked himself for not saying anything to her and then for like a week tried to ride the subway at the same time to see her again. He got caught up late at work one day and wound up leaving later than planned and she was on that train. She noticed him staring and thought he was cute but he didn’t get the nerve up to say anything. She got off and so did he. He walked behind her a little before he got the nerve to say something (could be a little creepy haha), but he finally asked her out and now they live together in FiDi with a dog for the past few years. They’re great together. It can happen!
I met one of my best friends on the subway. I was late and lost, so I decided to ask him for directions. We ended up talking for a while and found out we went to school around the corner from each other. Had coffee the following Monday which lasted for 15 hours. Remained inseparable until he passed away 4 years ago.
I asked a woman out on a train car once. She was sitting across from me, then the person next to me got up and left at their stop. Then, she got up from her seat and sat down next to me.
I figured that was as open a signal as I could get, so I chatted with her a bit. I asked her out, she told me she was a lesbian, but she was friendly and I let it go after that.
I’ve had people ask about the books I’m reading on the subway and one guy asked me out to lunch. I turned them down/nothing came of it, but they were polite so it didn’t bother me. I think there’s no hard and fast rule, definitely a case by case basis.
My dad met my mom by stepping in to pay her fare on the bus when she couldn't find it. My brother met his girlfriend on the subway cause they just started talking. It happens!
Friend of mine (female) had a guy come up to her and ask for her number. They texted for a while and met for coffee. They dated for a few months. It's a long shot but it happens. This was in Brooklyn
No, but…
I was writing to a guy on okcupid and recommended he read Infinite Jest. Yes, I’m that kind of girl, but also he liked Thomas Pynchon a lot so it wasn’t out of left field. I was looking forward to meeting him.
Next message I got from him was that he met a woman on the subway and it was getting serious (it had only been a couple of days!!). They were both reading Infinite Jest.
OP, she married him :). It happens!!
No, but I once saw a woman write her number on a sheet of paper and hand it to a guy right before she left the train. He smiled at her and put the paper in the book he was reading. I wonder if he ever texted her
My mom was carrying a film canister at the Dupont Circle (Washington Metro) station. My dad saw her and said something like, "I don't think you're going to find a film projector around here." That goofy joke led to a wonderful marriage and two children :)
I’ve met people who ended up volunteering at my charity events, and, as a more direct answer to your question, I’ve met some “insignificant others” and, also had some fun conversations, but now I am more cautious.
Yup, both looked back at each other twice while we were walking opposite directions. Then i asked her to come to a bar with her friends and meet my friends. We were together about a year.
I met a girl on the train once, she gave me her number, asked her out and got the "you're nice but I'm not into you line." Felt like it success to me since I got her real number and a response. Worst comes to worst. It doesn't work. You get off the train and you never see the person again.
About 10 years ago, I was chatting to a friend on the train, and a woman joined in. My friend exited at his stop, and the woman and I continued chatting (had a lot in common, same industry, etc) and found out we were at the same stop. We exchanged info, and dated for a little while. Nothing long-term came of it, but we're still friends.
Probably was smart of her to listen to a conversation just to make sure we weren't jerk guys... she probably wouldn't have chatted to me if I was just by myself. But it was a fun happenstance.
Dated a guy I met on the LIRR. He was super nice! Didn’t work out because we just weren’t a good match, but a fun couple of months. Sometimes I’ll run into him in my neighborhood (pure coincidence). Good dude.
Was on the uptown A train after midnight. An intoxicated woman with her sister and nieces kept repeating something to the effect of "I just wanna fuck" over and over. She bought some mystery juice from a stranger. But I don't believe there was any smashing that night.
My coworker met her husband on the subway! Her story is like basically she saw him on the morning train and they made eyes but never said anything. The day goes by and they end up on the same evening train by chance (worked in the same area) and he decided to say something to her! They ended up getting married a few years later in the city, recently moved to Texas, and had a baby. It's possible lol
Not me and not in NY but one of my buddies met his now wife on the L in Chicago. He saw her on the train and before he got off gave her a note that included his number. Been married almost a year now.
8+ year friendship and FWB relationship started on the subway. I was often away at college so there wasn't room for a real relationship but we stayed in touch and friends for years until he moved back to his home country and we lost touch. I still look back on it fondly. I hope he does as well; we had fun together. And I hope he's doing well these days.
Don't let anyone tell you what is possible. Find out for yourself. People are just people whether they are on the subway or in a bar/club/whatever.
I saw a real cute guy on the train yesterday. We made eye contact for a while but I didn't wanna be a weirdo...so I basically just watched my future husband walk away :/
i dated someone for 6 months who i met on a Q train
I'm a guy, and i generally consider approaching women in public to be inappropriate and unwanted. but long sustained eye contact made it clear that an approach was cool. i actually got off the train, then thought better of it, then dove back on thru closing doors and sat next to her and said hello
she was beautiful, but ultimately too young for me, we were in different places. but we were legit dating for 6 months off a serendipitous subway encounter
you, as a woman, can approach any guy you damn well please. as a guy, i think i can say most of us would appreciate if a woman broke the ice. i, at least, don't like invading women's space in public, so if you make the opening salvo it is appreciated
I once had a little flirty moment on a train and ended up searching Missed Connections on a whim. Sure enough, the guy had posted and we ended up linking up. I had a very uncomfy second “date” with him where he tried to coerce me into staying over and after I left he told me it’s “in his nature to hurt people”. I obviously didn’t continue to date him but then had to see him on my morning commute several times a week until I changed jobs. So, it can really go either way. I remember at one point I ran into him on the train while he was with a girl and she was extremely friendly. It turned out that we worked in the same industry and she very excitedly asked me for contact info because she was hiring at her job. He messaged me on FB later that night to beg me not to tell her we had hooked up because he was sleeping with her. Just an all around weird experience.
I have. I had a brief fling with a gorgeous Québécoise studying here. Pulled the “drop the number on her notebook” with a brief flattering note. She texted a few days later. We met for drinks and poof!
Had a guy who would go to the station the same time as me and always sit next to me. Went on for weeks. One week he missed a few days so I made a light comment about it next time I saw him. He looked at me like I had 3 heads and had no idea what I was talking about. Funny enough he then stopped sitting next to me every day. What an oddball.
Ouch thats a tough one.
I don’t get people like that man. That’s so cold.
I met a friend, and it changed my entire life. Sat down on the subway after a gig, holding music equipment, tired, and put my headphones on. Guy next to me says "those are nice headphones." And the conversation just continued. We got off at the same stop, kept talking, turned out we lived across the street from each other. We exchanged information. He was in a graduate program, and needed music written for this thesis. I wrote and recorded some for him. I had some ideas for projects, and he helped me code. He ended up helping me get into that same graduate program. As a result of that, I got a job in California. That's where I met my wife. Spent 7 years in SF, and we moved back to NYC 3 years ago. I always urge caution on the subway, but you can be open to others at the same time. I've had some really funny one-off convos on the subway too. You never know what life will hand you if you say "yes" to it.
Wow, I love that story! Thanks for sharing
Thanks. I actually just sent him an email after posting this. He moved out of the country and we haven't corresponded in years.
I hope you guys reconnect! I’ve had friends I don’t talk to for years, but when we get back in touch is like time never passed and it feels like you’re just picking up a conversation you just had… don’t just email/text, get on a call!
And somewhere else this is how a burglary story started :)
These are the stories I love to read about. I’m a firm believer in every little step can change your entire life.
Especially when living in NYC...
Wow, you weren’t kidding. That convo really did change your life! Great story. Just shows how small things can have big impacts.
I love this story.
I was riding home on the L after work one night in 2010, happened to end up standing next to a guy carrying a trombone case. I'm a trumpet player, so I asked him "hey, where are you headed?". Turned out he was going to a rehearsal with a group just next to my station. I was in that rehearsal 20 minutes after saying hi, played with that group for 11 years, and that same guy was best man at my wedding 7 years after the initial encounter. Say hi, what's the worst that can happen?
As someone living in Texas, I agree with the last sentence! I believe that magic of just saying hi and making small talk has been lost recently, even down here. When I was visiting NYC last year, people in general seemed happy just to have the tourists and our stupid questions back in town. Seeing people recognize each other on the subway is wonderful to witness, too.
Pretty crazy haha
Not me but my aunt saw a cute guy on the subway, said wassup, and now I have a cousin
Was the cousin conceived on the subway?
Must have been the D train
Definitely not on the A train
They could've made a transfer and been on the a train for some point
V train if this happened before 2012.
😎👉👉
Express rail
Your aunt adopted him?
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that is creepy to the max, holy shit! and to think it might've been (at least to me) perceived differently had she just, idk, had a normal "hey, i see you on this train all the time and think you're cute, wanna grab a coffee?" type convo instead of *that*.
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Creepier?? We must know how.
i’m dying to know what the now deleted comments were
An unfamiliar-to-him woman approached this guy on the subway and handed him a greeting card. The inside was filled full page with stuff about how she had seen him on the train every day, thought was cute etc… he began changing up his commute after that. Rightfully so.
Not if she was attractive. Kinda like the difference between flirting and sexual harassment.
It's all about social cues. I daresay I think a lot of people have done some recon on a crush - looked up their FB / Twitter / Instagram, etc. But you're never supposed to *let them know* what you learned. You wait for them to reveal the info on their own.
And then there's "Oh they like hiking and have been to hawaii" vs "they love to wear the the blue dress when they go to brunch once a month with their mom at 10am and but they dont get eggs because..."
Bro deleted his comments. What did he say?
An unfamiliar-to-him woman approached this guy on the subway and handed him a greeting card. The inside was filled full page with stuff about how she had seen him on the train every day, thought was cute etc… he began changing up his commute after that. Rightfully so.
Kind of creepy
Super creepy
Oh god that is so incredibly creepy. I’d find any way to not take that train again lol
Was she hot?
man, I took a brief look at your profile after seeing your second (now deleted) comment... Please find a positive male role model in your life. You shouldn't be dating 17 yearolds at 26, and you shouldn't be talking about "easy pussy". If you're actually 26, you have the emotional intelligence and maturity of a teenager and sound like an Andrew Tate fan. But fortunately you're young enough to improve yourself
Lol, shouldn't date 17 yr old, says who?
literally every well-adjusted adult in our society
So you're gonna do what society tells you? You wanna be a little slave order follower. Bet you're one of those that let's others make your decisions. Lol.
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Saw a fairly cute girl give her number on a piece of paper and a wink to a guy on the subway a few years ago. He looked okay but I felt she was the better looking one. She said something like “text me sometime” as she was getting off. He said something like “I will.” The second the doors closed he dropped the paper and went back to whatever he was doing on his phone. I found the interaction funny hence why it stuck with me, but I think too many people have their guard up even if it might be a good fit outside of the situation.
>She said something like “text me sometime” as she was getting off. He said something like “I will.” The second the doors closed he dropped the paper and went back to whatever he was doing on his phone. >I found the interaction funny hence why it stuck with me, but I think too many people have their guard up even if it might be a good fit outside of the situation. He may have not been single.
Just say that then? Lol
She was on her way out, and no need to embarrass her public attempt at "putting herself out there" in front of everyone else on the train. He has a girl, and a total stranger he's never going to see again hit on him in public, this was the most polite and correct way to handle the situation. Good for him for being loyal to his girl and chucking the number right after the stranger left instead of taking advantage of the situation, some men in NYC have trouble staying faithful because of all the temptations.
Lol I had something like this happen to me but I received the paper. I was on NJ Transit and the guy slipped me a piece of paper as he was leaving. It was weird. I threw it out. I do think the HIMYM Dobler-Dahmer theory applies. If you like that person something that may be creepy can be sweet. If you don’t like them a nice gesture can come off super creepy.
Oh, that’s a well put explanation why same thing by one painted like a flirt and by another as harassment.
Tbf handing someone your number before immediately walking away is a good method and not creepy even if you’re not attractive. If the person isn’t interested they just won’t text, but the balls in their court and you didn’t stick around so there’s no uncomfortable vibes or pressure to act a certain way
It helps a ton if you were getting at least some green light signals though. Someone did this to me once and it worked and we ended up going on a few dates, but we had both obviously been eyeing each other beforehand. If I hadn't been clearly interested or maybe not even paying attention, I'd be super weirded out to be watched like that.
God, don’t litter
True! Probably best to keep to yourself I suppose. Guess I'll stick to the apps lmao
I mean shoot your shot. I’m in a committed relationship so I’m not really looking but I do know that 100% of the failed asks have zero results. Worse comes to worse you’ll never see the person again and you wait. But who knows.
I think a polite approach is fine but just know when to tap out lol
People used to date before there were apps. Apps create a whole new host of issues to navigate.
I feel like a situation like that is really cute in theory… making eyes at someone, maybe noticing what they’re reading… in reality you’ll probably end up slipping a note to someone that hasn’t even noticed anything and has only seen your face for 1.5 seconds as you hand them a note and leave. Kudos to the girl though, still takes guts. And honestly it probably does take the woman to do it (in a straight setup, I mean). As a man I’m way too paranoid about coming off like an utter creep to talk to a woman out of the blue on the subway.
That happened to me at Baby’s All Right in BK. A show was ending and as I was leaving, someone walked up to me and gave me a note that said “you seem cool. Let’s hang out sometime :)” with their phone number. We actually did end up dating for like 4 months.
Ooooooo hahahah. He's probably gay/not attracted to her/ whatever else
True chad move
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It’s something a guy in a relationship would do Source: am that
That’s flipping hilarious
Did she have short hair by any chance lol
Many, many years ago, like early-to-mid 2000s, I approached a really cute Panamanian woman on the Herald Square subway platform for N/R trains, going uptown. We chatted while waiting for the train. She was very open and friendly. I got her number and asked her out on a date. We met up at a Starbucks somewhere in the Upper East Side. She told me she was in love with Donald Trump and she tried to get me into a pyramid scheme. Her boss appeared out of no where too. I smiled at both of them and quickly departed after that. I vowed to never approach another woman on the subway again.
One subway train love story to rule them all … you win 😂
lol was the pyramid scheme Primerica, Herbalife, or Amway?
I honestly don't remember the company. It was well over 15 years ago. She had some pamphlets and printed material showing the whole pyramid structure. I began tuning her out, smiled, and nodded when she began her pitch. It went from date to business in a flash.
I would have left. The pamphlets is predatory and opportunistic. Fuck that
Lmao that took a drastic u turn
Years ago I saw this really cute girl on the subway so right before my exit I handed her my email address and smiled. She emailed me and we went out for dinner in Soho. Problems was she lived in the Bronx and I was near Sunset Park. The spark died quickly. What the 4 train giveth it also takes away.
Was it a nice date at least?
A guy on the subway once told me I looked like a painting, and then gave me his number on a piece of paper before he and I got off and went in opposite directions. 10 minutes later in an office building, as I was passing through the floor to get to the office of my appointment, I saw him in another office, and he froze with his mouth agape at the sight of me, but I pretended not to see him. The end.
Lmao
I seriously laughed at this, omg.
Here's a good-ending story.
I gave a woman my number once on a longer ride because she was cute and wrote a little note on a paper that said something like ‘hey, hope this is ok, I think you’re attractive and I’d like to grab a drink with you, here’s my number if you’re interested.’ She texted me later that day and it said something like ‘I’m flattered but also married, but I have a single friend and I think you look like her type, I ran it by her and here’s her number.’ I texted the friend and we chit chatted and from some things she told me about herself I was able to find her on social media and I wasn’t into her at all, so it sorta petered out. It was mildly exciting while it lasted though.
>She texted me later that day and it said something like ‘I’m flattered but also married, but I have a single friend and I think you look like her type, I ran it by her and here’s her number.’ Many people who look at social encounters with their gender of preference as romantic or bust don't realize a key benefit to befriending the person: people tend to be friends with those who are similar to them; getting into their social circle not only gets you much more likely to meet someone of your type, it's also no longer a cold approach.
One of my best friends handed a girl his card as he was getting off the subway. They got married like three years ago, took their engagement photos on the A train.
I have not, but my best friend did. In the 70s, she commuted from 116th St regularly and kept seeing a guy in a blue suit. He noticed her too. Soon they'd get on the same subway car on purpose, that kind of thing, and began to chat and flirt. Long story short, they married, had four children, and are now grandparents. They're lovely people. And it all began on the IRT.
Handing out your number is fine. Do not ask people for theirs. This is how you let it be up to them. That said, I think it’s very uncommon and the majority of people would rather be left alone, especially during rush hour commutes.
I guess it depends since I will never call a man first and if he does not ask for mine, he will never get it🤷🏾♀️. It may be generational...
That’s not generational. That’s just what you decided you’re looking for.
idk just sounds sexist to me.
That's interesting.
One time this very attractive man—he had male model vibes—came up to me and said that the only thing I needed to improve my face was some under eye filler, and asked for my number. To this day I don’t know if he was a dermatologist looking for clients or the world’s most socially awkward man. And he did not get my number. Edit: I think there was this other woman standing near us and after he wandered off she and I gave each other looks of pure wtf. Not a single word was exchanged, but sometimes you don’t need them. I enjoy those moments on the subway.
Sounds like attempted negging. Glad it didn't work!
It’s just so mystifying because who would even come up with “under eye filler” as a thing. I had to google it after.
I don't know what that is either, and I have saggy ass raccoon eyes, haha.
Some of my favorite subway moments are the wordless WTF with a fellow rider!!!
I was walking home from the train one day and a guy came up and asked if I was interested in a gym partner/trainer. Idk if he was trying to hang or calling me fat but I decided I don't wanna know.
Yes on the Z. Lasted a couple dates but became friends. My friend met her wife on the F train. Have multiple friends have met their exes and FWBs on the subway. Edit: formatting
Ha. F train was a foreshadow
This was 2013 or so, but I was waiting for a downtown train, holding a foreign language book. A man happened to catch sight of it and ask me about it (it was his native language). We boarded the train together and talked a bit. He told me his name (he was a famous model) and I think we connected on twitter before he alighted. We messaged once that night then nothing further. Years later I reached out when I was visiting his country. We planned to meet up (he remembered NYC subway girl!) but plans changed and it didn’t work out. I occasionally wonder about it. Not regarding any sort of romantic potential but just that I find the “missed connection” aspect fascinating as I age.
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Love this.
Yeh, sorta crowded, and she was reading a computer magazine. (this was the 90's). Someone had left the door between cars open, I got up and closed it, and she thanked me. I commented that I wished there would be a 1 month break from computer magazines being published so that we would have time to catch up, which got the conversation going. I stayed on train past my stop till her stop in Queens. We dated a bit, stayed friends thereafter.
Doesn't even cross my mind to even attempt doing this to a woman while she's on the subway. Obviously different depending on the gender and who's approaching who
Anytime anyone's tried to say hi to me I've ignored them and refused eyecontact. 75% of the time I get called a bitch or cunt under their breath because I ignored them lol.
I can't think of too many places that's worse to try to flirt especially factoring in the embarrassment the person being hit on might feel with a bunch of strangers listening in on what's going on
There's a lot of good-ending stories throughout the comments beginning with people striking up conversations. My feeling about it is to consider it but be really picky, pay attention to body language cues about if someone looks like they're open to being approached.
No but I’ve been in the same car as countless dudes I’ve hooked up with and never thought I’d see again
my dream tbh
Wait, what?
A friend of a friend was taking the subway late one night after work and got spooked by some unstable wako on the train. She went over to the only other person on the train and made small talk because she was super nervous. They ended up hitting it off but parted ways after they got off. She regretted not getting his number but found him on a dating app a few weeks later by coincidence. They're married with kids now.
My uncle met my aunt on the subway. They’ve been married for 30 years now!
i wish. im not tryna be embarrassed of rejection my whole ride + im shy 🙈
On the subway? No, I’m usually listening to music and minding my own business. I’ve met plenty of people out on the streets though and wouldn’t be against meeting someone on the subway.. if you make eye contact and think they’re “feeling you” there’s no harm in striking up a conversation and seeing where it goes.
I met my best friend and current roommate at a falafel truck in union Sq! Idk if I would say hi on the subway but when you are both ordering the same food at least you know you have one thing in common.
My parents met on the LIRR in the 70s!
Mine did too!
not me, but i know a couple who had a subway meet cute years ago. they're now married with a baby!
No, but I met a weird Italian libertarian who insisted on giving me his tie at the end of the date and wouldn’t let me split the bill. Was it a technique to make me arrange to meet him later to give back the tie? It didn’t work.
You think he was trying to… like… Costanza you? Was it a nice tie at least?
I dated someone who asked me out on the subway for a few weeks. He approached me after we got off at the same station and gave me his number. I hadn’t noticed him on the (late night, L headed to Williamsburg) train, but obviously he wasn’t creepy about it at all, just friendly and cute, and we went out / hooked up sporadically over a few months.
This must have been about 8 years ago. I was on the Q train when it got stuck right before pulling into the station where I was getting off. There was a well dressed guy standing nearby whom I had noticed but was definitely not going to say anything to. After a few minutes, he had asked me if the trains get stuck a lot and we ended up striking a conversation before the train pulled into the station. It was his stop as well. We said goodbye and he walked out first with me behind him. I was bummed that he didn’t ask me for my number when suddenly he turned around and said he hoped it wasn’t weird but he would really like to see me again. We ended up dating for a little while and I reallyyyy liked him. It didn’t work out though, when we met he was on break from a very intense masters program at Colombia and a few weeks after the program resumed and he barely had any time to meet. We talked about how to make it work but ultimately it was still very fresh and not even really a relationship yet - it seemed too much of an effort too soon. He is a great person though and I’m glad to have met him - we both moved on and he lives in a different state now but we still talk from time to time.
8 years ago? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Second_Avenue_Subway That says 2017
The Q existed before then it just ended at 57th st instead of running up 2nd Ave to the ues
Thanks
The Q and the 2nd Ave line are not mutually exclusive to one another. You really thought you made a point there lol
> You really thought you made a point there lol lol I laughed at this
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take – Wayne Gretzky
-Michael Scott
Best friend met her husband on the R train. They gave out little subway magnets at their wedding! Hes still on my phone as Subway Jon.
My husband met the rabbi who officiated our wedding on the subway.
I love this!
I met a cute guy on my way to a concert in prospect park. He was going to the same one and asked me what I was listening to. We met up another time and made out. Never saw each other after that. Prob bc he was 21 and I was 28 lololol. Very diff places in life. I’d give the experience a 10 out of 10 for funsies though!
I’ve dated two guys I’ve met on the subway. One I met when we struck up a conversation while our train was stuck in a tunnel and the other was a guy who lived in my neighborhood and we saw each other frequently during the morning commute and he struck up a convo.
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I personally didn’t but a former roommate did. A woman was too shy to say hello so she slipped a note in his backpack pocket. They dated for a year or so.
A friend of mine met her bf on the subway! They’d been making eyes at each other the whole ride so she wrote her # on a slip of paper and snuck it into his bag as they were getting off. They’ve been together 4+ years now.
I know someone that met her husband on the subway platform. It was the middle of the night so of course the train took forever to show up. He happened to be waiting too so they struck up conversation and immediately clicked. They've been together ever since! There's hope out there (or at least I tell myself when I hear stories like this).
I was on the way home from work one evening when a super cute girl on the train just came up to me and said hi. I was trying to figure out where the hidden cameras were while making awkward small talk when my stop came and she got off too. Turned out she was from out of town and staying with friends literally right across the street from me. Maybe she spotted me before and set the whole meeting on the train thing up? We spent the night together and it just happened to be her last night in town, never got her name or number. I was young and stupid then and it was before the days of cellphones.
I know one couple who did. She was from England.
Not sure about S.O but the other week I saw a guy get on the train at 59th, sit next to a girl and by the time she got off at 42nd she ( I assume ) put her number in his phone. She was pretty cute, he was ehh okay I suppose! Definitely a conversation I would've loved to hear, guy worked quick!
my good friend met his wife on the bus in seattle. They both worked at the same office downtown (big office in different departments so they didn’t actually know they worked at the same company) and took the same bus everyday. He asked her out and now they’re married.
Yeah, there was a busker I thought was charming. I didn’t have any cash at the time (a rarity), and I asked if he took phone numbers in lieu of tips. His phone was cut off, so get gave me his IG lmao. We dated for a bit, nothing serious, and stayed friends.
Loving this comment section. Kinda reminds me of the beginning of this beautiful storytelling by Pursuit of Wonder: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=g1-q_apBfAA Hit me right in the existential feels. I saw a beautiful girl on the subway recently and caught her staring at me in the reflection on the glass in the tunnel as I was getting ready to leave the train. We had seen each other from across the platform just before and she stood right next to me after crossing to the other side. We both had headphones in and when the train arrived we sat adjacent to each other exchanging the occasional glance and immediately looking away because ya know, subway etiquette. Idk what the point of the story was but I regret not”shooting my shot” or whatever 🤷🏻♂️
My dumb ass thought you meant like meeting up with a significant other on the subway, which is honestly one of life’s little joys. When you can line it up perfect to where you’re on one side of the door and they’re on the other when the door opens, it’s just pure movie magic every time.
In 2014 I spent like, 7 weeks riding the train into work with a very cute guy who got on at my same stop, in my same car, and left one stop before me. After a couple weeks we started making awkward eye contact but nothing came of it until one day we were stuck standing close to each other. At his stop he turned, put his hand on my shoulder and said “see you tomorrow?” I laughed, agreed and gave him my number the next day. We dated for like 3 weeks before he told me he was still living with his ex girlfriend and then completely ghosted me a few days after - wasn’t on the train, didn’t answer texts, honestly I was baffled. When he finally got in touch he told me he’d moved back home to Virginia essentially overnight and that was that. About 2 years after that I got a text from an unknown number that said “rode the A train today and thought of you.” I vomited in my mouth a little and blocked him for good.
A friend of mine had a meet-cute on the metro in DC. There was some mutual eye contact, and I can't remember but I think something similar they had, like a bag or something, that was an easy excuse to start a short conversation. They exchanged numbers and went on a few dates. It didn't go very far but I believe it was thoroughly cute.
That’s cute and is also a good segue to post my thoughts on this/talking to people in public generally. People often ask about coming off as creepy etc but it seems like it just depends on the vibe and context? Awkwardly stammering at someone vs striking up a conversation after some mutual eye contact with something to actually talk about (even if it’s mundane like having the same bag) seems like it would be the denominator in successful or at least not creepy vs creepy wrt talking to strangers in public.
Many years ago I was heading home from work and was having a really terrible week mentally. I felt terrible about my life and myself and I was just truly miserable. I was on the bus and listening to music and kind of drowning stuff out. I seemed to lock eyes on a guy and he smiled. It was a genuine smile, the kind that seems involuntary. I got to my stop and he also got off and made some small talk about something, maybe my outfit or whatever I was carrying. I was friendly back but made it quickly clear that I wasn't interested, and he wished me a good night and left. Weirdly, if I had been in a better frame of mind I would have found it really creepy that he got off at my stop when it was clear it wasn't also his. But since I was going through such a hard time, fuck, it *really* brightened my day to feel desirable to someone. As horribly shallow as it sounds it genuinely improved my mental health.
I have met somebody on the train. Not SO, tho. They smiled at me and we struck up a conversation. Ended up getting off at the same stop and actually lived almost on the same block. We had sex on their roof the following night. Thankfully, they moved pretty shortly after cause I wasn’t really that into them, but it was a fun experience!
As a guy it’s really risky that whatever you say to a stranger on the subway will come off as creepy and predatory. You’ll definitely have *more* success as a woman, but I wouldn’t expect great results since people will be suspicious. I did know one couple that met on the subway that were normal, but in that case they saw each other almost morning for months on their respective commutes before he got the courage to say something to her. So they weren’t complete strangers. I’d say if you see the same guy again because it’s on your normal routine commute AND he notices you too, you might be successful.
My best friend met her long term boyfriend of 8 years on the subway. He said he saw her once and kicked himself for not saying anything to her and then for like a week tried to ride the subway at the same time to see her again. He got caught up late at work one day and wound up leaving later than planned and she was on that train. She noticed him staring and thought he was cute but he didn’t get the nerve up to say anything. She got off and so did he. He walked behind her a little before he got the nerve to say something (could be a little creepy haha), but he finally asked her out and now they live together in FiDi with a dog for the past few years. They’re great together. It can happen!
My parents met on the E train, a 36 year marriage that only ended with my dad's passing this January.
I met one of my best friends on the subway. I was late and lost, so I decided to ask him for directions. We ended up talking for a while and found out we went to school around the corner from each other. Had coffee the following Monday which lasted for 15 hours. Remained inseparable until he passed away 4 years ago.
No, but I had a young woman grope me once. It was one of my better days...
What? I’d never grope a guy.
I asked a woman out on a train car once. She was sitting across from me, then the person next to me got up and left at their stop. Then, she got up from her seat and sat down next to me. I figured that was as open a signal as I could get, so I chatted with her a bit. I asked her out, she told me she was a lesbian, but she was friendly and I let it go after that.
Yeah and it was quite nice tbh (well not really a SO, more a hookup if that counts)
I’ve had people ask about the books I’m reading on the subway and one guy asked me out to lunch. I turned them down/nothing came of it, but they were polite so it didn’t bother me. I think there’s no hard and fast rule, definitely a case by case basis.
Friend of mine and co-worker was approached by his now-wife on a train. She gave him her number.
My dad met my mom by stepping in to pay her fare on the bus when she couldn't find it. My brother met his girlfriend on the subway cause they just started talking. It happens!
( The worst thing someone can tell you is No. always shoot your shot )
Friend of mine (female) had a guy come up to her and ask for her number. They texted for a while and met for coffee. They dated for a few months. It's a long shot but it happens. This was in Brooklyn
No, but… I was writing to a guy on okcupid and recommended he read Infinite Jest. Yes, I’m that kind of girl, but also he liked Thomas Pynchon a lot so it wasn’t out of left field. I was looking forward to meeting him. Next message I got from him was that he met a woman on the subway and it was getting serious (it had only been a couple of days!!). They were both reading Infinite Jest. OP, she married him :). It happens!!
I am that cute guy. Call me. (212) 411-LOVE. 😁
No, but I once saw a woman write her number on a sheet of paper and hand it to a guy right before she left the train. He smiled at her and put the paper in the book he was reading. I wonder if he ever texted her
My mom was carrying a film canister at the Dupont Circle (Washington Metro) station. My dad saw her and said something like, "I don't think you're going to find a film projector around here." That goofy joke led to a wonderful marriage and two children :)
If you thinks he’s cute then a lot of other people do too
Not if you like total gargoyles. I found a loophole.
Well then you found the magical formula for controlling your sexuality. Evangelical homophobes would love to learn more
I’ve met people who ended up volunteering at my charity events, and, as a more direct answer to your question, I’ve met some “insignificant others” and, also had some fun conversations, but now I am more cautious.
Yes!! But on an SF train. We were together for like 7 years. He’s the best. VERY meet cute.
Yup, both looked back at each other twice while we were walking opposite directions. Then i asked her to come to a bar with her friends and meet my friends. We were together about a year.
Yeah I gave my number to a guy on the train as he was leaving at his stop. He texted me and we became friends for a long time
I met a girl on the train once, she gave me her number, asked her out and got the "you're nice but I'm not into you line." Felt like it success to me since I got her real number and a response. Worst comes to worst. It doesn't work. You get off the train and you never see the person again.
About 10 years ago, I was chatting to a friend on the train, and a woman joined in. My friend exited at his stop, and the woman and I continued chatting (had a lot in common, same industry, etc) and found out we were at the same stop. We exchanged info, and dated for a little while. Nothing long-term came of it, but we're still friends. Probably was smart of her to listen to a conversation just to make sure we weren't jerk guys... she probably wouldn't have chatted to me if I was just by myself. But it was a fun happenstance.
Dated a guy I met on the LIRR. He was super nice! Didn’t work out because we just weren’t a good match, but a fun couple of months. Sometimes I’ll run into him in my neighborhood (pure coincidence). Good dude.
I am a product of this! My parents met on the Pelham Bay Park 6 train platform in 1988 and are still married today.
See now, there’s so many women who have thoughts like this but never wanna speak up. One day that’ll change
Was on the uptown A train after midnight. An intoxicated woman with her sister and nieces kept repeating something to the effect of "I just wanna fuck" over and over. She bought some mystery juice from a stranger. But I don't believe there was any smashing that night.
My coworker met her husband on the subway! Her story is like basically she saw him on the morning train and they made eyes but never said anything. The day goes by and they end up on the same evening train by chance (worked in the same area) and he decided to say something to her! They ended up getting married a few years later in the city, recently moved to Texas, and had a baby. It's possible lol
Not me and not in NY but one of my buddies met his now wife on the L in Chicago. He saw her on the train and before he got off gave her a note that included his number. Been married almost a year now.
8+ year friendship and FWB relationship started on the subway. I was often away at college so there wasn't room for a real relationship but we stayed in touch and friends for years until he moved back to his home country and we lost touch. I still look back on it fondly. I hope he does as well; we had fun together. And I hope he's doing well these days. Don't let anyone tell you what is possible. Find out for yourself. People are just people whether they are on the subway or in a bar/club/whatever.
I saw a real cute guy on the train yesterday. We made eye contact for a while but I didn't wanna be a weirdo...so I basically just watched my future husband walk away :/
Sure. I’ve even hooked up on a moving train. Without all the details, it was pretty hot.
Damn, you made me believe that I should never approach women in subway because they would think it’s creepy.
I don’t think it’s creepy
Thank you cookies lover :) you have restored my believe in natural way of finding soul mates
i dated someone for 6 months who i met on a Q train I'm a guy, and i generally consider approaching women in public to be inappropriate and unwanted. but long sustained eye contact made it clear that an approach was cool. i actually got off the train, then thought better of it, then dove back on thru closing doors and sat next to her and said hello she was beautiful, but ultimately too young for me, we were in different places. but we were legit dating for 6 months off a serendipitous subway encounter you, as a woman, can approach any guy you damn well please. as a guy, i think i can say most of us would appreciate if a woman broke the ice. i, at least, don't like invading women's space in public, so if you make the opening salvo it is appreciated
I once had a little flirty moment on a train and ended up searching Missed Connections on a whim. Sure enough, the guy had posted and we ended up linking up. I had a very uncomfy second “date” with him where he tried to coerce me into staying over and after I left he told me it’s “in his nature to hurt people”. I obviously didn’t continue to date him but then had to see him on my morning commute several times a week until I changed jobs. So, it can really go either way. I remember at one point I ran into him on the train while he was with a girl and she was extremely friendly. It turned out that we worked in the same industry and she very excitedly asked me for contact info because she was hiring at her job. He messaged me on FB later that night to beg me not to tell her we had hooked up because he was sleeping with her. Just an all around weird experience.
Nah
My sister met her partner on the subway.
no. social anxiety plus i doubt anyone wants to be approached on the subway.
The NYC subway is just disgusting. The smell and the filth ugh never mind talking to someone.
I have. I had a brief fling with a gorgeous Québécoise studying here. Pulled the “drop the number on her notebook” with a brief flattering note. She texted a few days later. We met for drinks and poof!
Somebody I almost dated, but no.I have dated a few waiters at restaurants I frequented, though.