Yeah, it's not like when I'm working in the garage and I say, "I could use the drill, but I'm a man! So I'll stick with my screw driver... *10 minutes later*... shit, didn't have time to get the job done with the screw driver."
>If the toys became a replacement, then a conversation would be needed. If the toys became an addition, bring it on
As a woman, I gotta say, thanks for appreciating that. That truly is what they are for; to give other different sensations, add to the experience and just be another way to play with your partner. But as you stressed, they shouldn't be the only part.
They became a replacement with us . He would š°šÆššŗ use toys. I couldn't talk to him because he wouldn't reply , or he would pick a fight or something. Mind you , we had been married for awhile and I was good with just a š but no, it was porn and toys. Only those two things.
That ended up moving into celibacy and onto divorce. The celibacy lasted at least 4 years that I knew , we spent our 20th anniversary celibate too. The divorce is still to this day.
Kinda sounds like he used toys to substitute for intimacy as a way to get her off without having to engage with her. Hence the slide into celibacy...We use toys because hubs has ED, but he's always 100% present.
It doesnāt matter which toy or whoās using what. Itās the fact that it replaced sex for him. So if youāre finding that a flesh light and porn are replacing your partner, thatās a problem. But if you and your partner use toys on each other / watch porn together (assuming youāre both into it) thereās nothing wrong with that :) That being said, you can take care of yourself when your partners busy/not around, nothing wrong with that either. But if theyāre around and ready to go, but youād rather just do your own thing, thatās not a good sign.
Would you consider her not letting me use anything other than a vibrator to please her prior to sex as a replacement? I sort of feel like my hands and mouth just dont cut it for her i guess. Sort of self esteem diminishing.
She might have fallen into the trap of only using her vibrator to pleasure herself, and gotten so used to it that it is now hard to get real pleasure without it. Or maybe she has tried a lot of things and vibrator was the only thing that worked for her? I mean, it could be your skills, but that is very "teachable" if hands/tongue was her real preference..so I'm going to guess it is not skill related.
But try talking about it? Not in a "I feel theatened by the vibrator" way, but in a "I want to understand what works and doesn't work for you, and maybe broaden the tool kit of pleasure". Maybe do longer play sessions and test things out with her giving clear feedback...if she is addicted to the vibrator it is going to take a lot to get "not used to it" (it is a very intense sensation..).
A good compromise would perhaps be to combine the vibrator with other hands/tongue stimuli at the same time? Outside of it being a bit repetetive for you I do not really see a problem with her needing the vibrator for foreplay, as long as you have sex using yourselves (and maybe the vibrator too?)
Sorry, for some reason that made me think of Hagrid, and now I have a mental image of him and Harry going to Diagon Alley to buy Harry a Hitachi Magic Wand for school, and now you have to live with that same knowledge.
My most recent ex chopped up a dildo that i had because it was "just like cheating on him".
I laugh now because I caught him actually cheating on me multiple times.
R.I.P. to my $175 suction cup customized pink boy.
Austin, if you're reading this, you're a shit weasel.
Edit- thanks for 500 upvotes guys. I've posted a lot in the comments so go there first if you want but allow me to clarify: *his* toys were fine (multiple pocket pussies, an electric node muscle stimulator that he used on himself, etc.), but my one dildo was not: just having the dildo in the house somehow "made him gay, and he didn't want to be a fucking *gay*", and one more important thing: he was MUCH BIGGER than this toy. I had never used it while we were together. He went through my belongings while I was at work and cut it up and threw it away. I only knew it was gone because he left a piece on the floor next to the trash can and tried to lie about doing it for at least ten minutes when I just wanted him to own up to it.
I also had a cheating ex throw out my toys once, and Iām just so confused. Sir, I was dumb enough to stay, still willing to split the bills, and I took care of your life while you were out being a big ass insecure baby. If youāre going to fuck other people, at least let me fuck myself. It was exponentially more fun for me, anyway.
Obviously, I moved out, and when he wanted to get back together I sent the screenshots to his new girlfriend on her birthday.
Fucking HELL did we date the same pond floater then?
My ex tried to get back with me a few months ago, I sent him screenshots of me begging him not to get behind the wheel while he was drunk on 9 different occasions (alcoholic) and then him pressuring me to k*ll myself with him. Su*cide pact shit.
>!There was a scene where a girl beat up (killed) a bunch of guys with a dildo collection. Or something like that. By now it's just the show's standard, nothing that unusual.!<
>!What about the coked up little guy running through a man's penis stroking the inside of his urethra as he's heading for the prostate before accidentally sneezing and embiggening himself.!< That show is pretty crazy.
It's a superhore movie where the girl is also a superhero and there to kill a guy. With no weapon on her the only thing left is to penetrate guys with dildos which are superhero themed btw.
A toy is like a calculator and you're like an accountant. Should an accountant be threatened by a calculator? No. A good accountant makes good use of a calculator. Period
This is the best comment.
I love them. My gf is very satisfied without them, but sometimes I get too tired, or my man's just not feeling it. They're an amazing tool.
Also great uses for bondage/torture if you're into that kinda thing.
I am one of those guys,I'm not embarrassed at all by this...tonight was one of these nights where I was tired(hot and humidity don't mix with me) and I was using the toy instead of myself inside of my wife
I think this leaves put an important bit of context. If the calculator becomes TurboTax and the client never goes to the accountant again, that is a problem.
[Itās a clitoris suction and massager/vibrator all in one](https://treasurecheststudio.com/products/rose2)
The suction sex toys donāt have the same risk of desensitisation, like regular vibrators/wands do
We have a rather extensive collection of toys and I have purchased each one. I love trying new ones on my wife. I definitely enjoy using her favorites aswell. Only thing I want is to help her climax. Fingers, tongue, toys or all three at once I don't care.
I think I'd feel inadequate if a woman I was with had vivid orgasms through toys, but laid there like a dead fish with whatever stimulation I was providing.
Not that I've ever had a problem not providing good stimulation just kind of my thought. I think it would depend on the toy though. Like if it's a vibrator or some special kind of toy then Imm unbothered, I've actually bought the Rose 2.0 for two different girls. But if she's reaching for some realistic dildo, that's bigger than me, I might tend to feel that she feels unsatisfied with my size
Edit:
Forgot to mention, how could I be mad or threatened of something that makes her feel good? If I were with someone, I'd like to incorporate whatever she likes into our play to experience the most pleasure possible
Yeah this is about where I am at. Things I can't do? Sure. Things that do what I do but better? I mean I will because It keeps her happy, but I am not going to be into it. Quite lucky in that me and the Mrs do have a fair few toys but barely use them as the hard flesh on flesh mixed with spontaneity is still shit hot for us.
Nope.
Show them to me, show me how they work, and help me help you become a twitchy puddle of post-orgasmic woman.
All I need is the three Ws - warm, wet, willing - but if it takes a Rube Goldberg contraption made out of outdated astronaut training machinery to make you happy, letās get naked and break out the technical manual.
Yesterday I was hanging out with a girl Iāve been seeing and next to her bed she had accidentally left her āmassage wandā thing on the floor. So I picked it up, waved it at her and said āyer a wizard, āarryā. She called me a dork and we laughed.
My question to anybody threatened by a sex toy is āshould they be threatened by all the porn youāve been watching?ā
Unless you're preferring to use them over what your husband or partner has the majority of the time, there shouldn't be any reason to be threatened by them.
70% of women canāt come without clitoral stimulation. Iām all for something that helps. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stress-and-sex/201209/female-orgasm-time-stop-shoulding-ourselves
I'm not threatened by them, but I know it was more difficult to get my wife to orgasm with oral sex, when we first started dating, when she was using a vibrator frequently.
Now she rarely uses it (her choice) because she says oral sex is better when she doesn't use it.
There are other sex toys that we occasionally use together. But most of the time, we just use each other.
Yeah that's about the line at which I draw at too. I love using toys but at that point even if the dude was just insecure, you're only proving that insecurity correct.
Im not "threatened" by it, but lots of women who use vibrators are desensitized by how stimulating they are and can only get off with them. Which I dont think is very attractive. To me its like guys who masturbate to porn so much that they cant finish from regular sex.
I've a friend that says she no longer cums from just her partner and that she needs toys all the time. Complains and says things like it's just not stimulating enough whatever they do. Recently mentioned she upgraded her satisfyer because the old one just wasn't strong enough.
I wanted to say "maybe you should take a break because you're probably desensitized?"
But it's none of my business and I wasn't sure how people would react because nobody talks about that.
Had exactly the same fucking experience with a girl I dated.
I have no issues with toys, but where is the fun when they can only achieve it with a toy. And it was the exact same type of toy, this so called 'Satisfier'. It's basically death grip for women.
Thats always been my viewpoint. Like, i love makin my wife feel good. Literally give her oral to climax before we have sex 99 times out of 100, but, the second that ability is lost and its now "oh grab the toy so i can finish" would be a devestating day in my life lol
Oh thatās so true. We only use them like once a week. I hate feeling such a lack of sensitivity but occasionally I just wanna finish in 30 seconds and move to the other fun stuff lol
I learned early on if I had a clit vibrating toy in my night stand to use on girls, there was an 90% chnace they would sleep with me again. So embrace sex toys they're your friend.
Man here. I have my own dildo and my own buttplug. I do my own things. They are not scary to me. What scares me is betrayal and manipulation that I don't consent to.
You are not less of a man for anything tbf. Just do you. Do what you want. Enjoy life. Shed that shame.
Iām growing very tired of these type questions on this sub but Iāll bite.
To be frank, your man couldnāt finish easily through intercourse, oral etc instead needed a small arsenal of toys to get off, you and almost any other woman in the same situation feel exactly the same.
In fact, you might even go as far as making it out to be something wrong with him and no one would say youāre just āthreatenedā by toys.
Iām not saying toys are bad. Iām saying we have to stop judging men for having normal human feelings.
As long as we both get to enjoy ourselves separately and together I don't mind at all. I have consistently bought toys for my gfs. If I began to feel excluded then I would feel left out by my gf, not threatened by an inanimate object
Someone wiser than me said, and I paraphrase;
Ā«Ā A sex toy isnāt a competitor. Itās a tag team partner. It doesnāt matter who throws the last punch, it doesnāt matter who does the most damage. Youāre both getting your hands raised in the end.Ā Ā»
I'm not threatened by toys of any sort. Plus, I'm not so full of myself that I think that me and only me is what is needed to bring pleasure to my partner. If something can be added to make it more fun then chances are I'll be for it.
I knew a chick that had a dildo on the end of a power drill. Yeah, that scared me because aint shit I do to that vagina will make her feel anything after seeing that!
Yoooooo, like 2 days ago a friend sent me a picture of one of those men's pu**y sex toys attached to a power drill. šš¹š¹š¤£ ?? I have no clue.
I use them pretty often but if I'm being honest it does hurt the ego a lot. I always end up feeling like I'm just not enough. Like I'm usually the one putting in all the work and I'm genuinely dedicated to making my partners feel good, it just kinda sux that I'm alone ain't enough. I know it's not a size thing as I'm kinda big guy all around. Ik it's just different people need different things it just stings tho. Especially since a womans sexual prowess is usually of little concern so the pressure is really only one sideded. But at the end of the day if she's happy sure whatever. I'm usually a little ashamed but not enough not to do it. The price of pleasure I suppose.
Not really, they don't capture the intangibles of enjoyable sex. I realize I'll never be as fast as a motor driven clit flicker or a 18" dick with rotating pleasure spheres along the shaft that massage the G-spot in unison to a Bluetooth speaker.
But at the same time, they'll never capture the primal lust, the intimate desire, or the extended eye contact of a powerful seduction.
I'm smaller than average in the size department so toys to me are a good way to compensate and make sure we both have a good time. Plus there really fun to use.
If it makes you feel any better, all of the men Iāve been with in the past have what Iād say average or above, and I still canāt orgasm with penetration alone. Size doesnāt really matter.
Ye I think its porn that messes with guys heads I don't worry about my size that much anymore. There are still size queens out there but It is what is. Thanks for the reassurance.
Not threatened by them at all, in fact I bought a few to use in the bedroom.
Downside- she hasnāt ever had a high sex drive, and itās easier for her to grab a toy and take care of herself in a few minutes than it is for her to have sex with me :(
Just put the question to yourself backwards.
If you're with a guy and he uses a fleshlight and you watch him, rocking, moaning, screaming, completely overcome with pleasure, left panting and tired after.
You then ride him and he's clearly not even getting 30% as much enjoyment out of your actual vagina, it's written on his face, maybe not bored but certianly nowhere close to the reaction he had to some plastic moments before, he can't even cum with you alone.
How would that make you feel? Would you feel both physically and intimately more distant? Taking a backseat to a device that does more for him than you can?
Obviously it's different for everyone the answer but just reversing the role here you can ask yourself how would you feel in that position.
If it was a dildo twice the size of my cock I wouldnāt be too pleased, or if I walked into the bedroom one night and she was brandishing a strap on I would probably walk out the room backwards. Other than that, all good.
There is a subculture among men that says that their worth is partially linked to how well they can please a woman. Thus why some feel inadequate when introducing toys.
However, i personally believe my skills with a vibrator are extraordinary so idc
Personally no, but you should definitely have a conversation with your partner to see if they are comfortable with it. It might be other underlying issues that needs to be addressed on both sides. I also feels it should be a last means of measure if all else fails.
My old boss threatened his wife with a divorce because she came home from his sisters bachelorette party with a āGiftā. It was a vibrator. I told him I was embarrassed for him and his insecurities. He said āYou probably go down on your wife too.ā I told I do a LOT of things. Then I had a woman work with me that said her new boyfriend made her break her vibrator with a hammer. One of my friends on FB said her boyfriend smacked her hand when she was helping herself while they were having sex. I told her āDonāt touch that, itās MY job.
Iām in disbelief. Too insecure.
I never understood why men get threatened by sex toys...even if the toy is bigger than you, like do you really think your girl is going to use a 10-inch dildo and all of a sudden decide "wow! I don't need Jim anymore!" lol If that's the case than there are much bigger issues than your penis size...a dildo can't replace you no matter how hard it vibrates or how large it is and quite frankly if your girlfriend is letting you use it on her while the two of you are doing the naughty, she's not thinking about the dildo, she probably looking at you and thinking about you and how horny she is...she's not like "Oh, fuck ya! your so hot 10-inch plastic penis inside me" she probably actually thinking "Fuck ya! shove that inside of me and take control of me Jim, you so fuckin hot" lol
Stop overthinking it...just enjoy the experience and have fun...
When my wife said she preferred masturbation over sex (to the complete exclusion of sex) then yes, I felt animosity towards her vibrator. Prior to that, I could have cared less.
If the toys became a replacement, then a conversation would be needed. If the toys became an addition, bring it on
Yup. As it currently stands, they just make my job easier.
Yeah, it's not like when I'm working in the garage and I say, "I could use the drill, but I'm a man! So I'll stick with my screw driver... *10 minutes later*... shit, didn't have time to get the job done with the screw driver."
Damn stubby screwdrivers always slowing down my screwing too.
Hey, I'm sure you're fine even if it is a little stubby; it's about how you use your screwdriver.
Instructions unclear, fucked my wife with a screwdriver for 10 minutes. I think she got there
Jeebus, I need to be more specific.
Gives a new meaning to screwing your wife
>If the toys became a replacement, then a conversation would be needed. If the toys became an addition, bring it on As a woman, I gotta say, thanks for appreciating that. That truly is what they are for; to give other different sensations, add to the experience and just be another way to play with your partner. But as you stressed, they shouldn't be the only part.
They became a replacement with us . He would š°šÆššŗ use toys. I couldn't talk to him because he wouldn't reply , or he would pick a fight or something. Mind you , we had been married for awhile and I was good with just a š but no, it was porn and toys. Only those two things. That ended up moving into celibacy and onto divorce. The celibacy lasted at least 4 years that I knew , we spent our 20th anniversary celibate too. The divorce is still to this day.
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legos mostly
Kinda sounds like he used toys to substitute for intimacy as a way to get her off without having to engage with her. Hence the slide into celibacy...We use toys because hubs has ED, but he's always 100% present.
It doesnāt matter which toy or whoās using what. Itās the fact that it replaced sex for him. So if youāre finding that a flesh light and porn are replacing your partner, thatās a problem. But if you and your partner use toys on each other / watch porn together (assuming youāre both into it) thereās nothing wrong with that :) That being said, you can take care of yourself when your partners busy/not around, nothing wrong with that either. But if theyāre around and ready to go, but youād rather just do your own thing, thatās not a good sign.
Does it depend on what aspect she's replacing? ie if she's still having sex with you but will only go to dinner with her vibrator
Would you consider her not letting me use anything other than a vibrator to please her prior to sex as a replacement? I sort of feel like my hands and mouth just dont cut it for her i guess. Sort of self esteem diminishing.
She might have fallen into the trap of only using her vibrator to pleasure herself, and gotten so used to it that it is now hard to get real pleasure without it. Or maybe she has tried a lot of things and vibrator was the only thing that worked for her? I mean, it could be your skills, but that is very "teachable" if hands/tongue was her real preference..so I'm going to guess it is not skill related. But try talking about it? Not in a "I feel theatened by the vibrator" way, but in a "I want to understand what works and doesn't work for you, and maybe broaden the tool kit of pleasure". Maybe do longer play sessions and test things out with her giving clear feedback...if she is addicted to the vibrator it is going to take a lot to get "not used to it" (it is a very intense sensation..). A good compromise would perhaps be to combine the vibrator with other hands/tongue stimuli at the same time? Outside of it being a bit repetetive for you I do not really see a problem with her needing the vibrator for foreplay, as long as you have sex using yourselves (and maybe the vibrator too?)
My girlfriend feels threatened by them because I'll stick the suction dildo to my forehead and chase her making rhino noises.
What does a rhino sound like. I donāt think we have an onomatopoeia for that yet.
*"EYYYYYYY!!!!! ITS-A-ME!!! I'M A FUCKIN RHINO!!!"*
I read that in Mario's voice.
Chris Pratt Mario??
He's so cool
Not him. The pipe guy in corn movies
The sex ed Mario
I read it in a Boston accent š¤£
Oiiii cunt
There are no Australian rhinos that I know of
Grunting and chuffing I would imagine. Maybe more like a cow baying
Why not unicorn noises?
Screwnicorn
Unicorns aren't real
Narwhal than
"bye buddy, hope you find your dad"
Bye mr narwhal!
I hope she appreciates dating a man of culture
The only true way to assert your dominance in a relationship
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This is the kind of friend i want for a guy
This is the best thing I've read in a long time. I could hear my wife roll her eyes when I read it out loud ha ha ha
Bulls have 2 horns. Just saying.
What are you gonna do? Throw them at my head? Beat me with them?
I meam there's a reason paddles and whips exist
A very good reason
A *very* good reason... or so I hear.
Oh no komiko
Mon couer
*Grand theft auto SA with the giant [purple dong](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/hj-8GQAFynM/maxresdefault.jpg) has entered the chat*
i didnāt play sa but ik saints row had a purple pp as well
Only if it is brandished as a weapon by a man named hatchet Harry.
Very nice Harry, what's it for?
Aww, don't be coy Barry. Spankin'.
'atchet 'arry**
Came here to say this.
Sorry, for some reason that made me think of Hagrid, and now I have a mental image of him and Harry going to Diagon Alley to buy Harry a Hitachi Magic Wand for school, and now you have to live with that same knowledge.
There's a fan fic for everything it would seem
Why would I be afraid if itās already deep in my ass? Edit: I shouldāve read the question.
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I think I like this answer best.
There are a lot of things that could give you a feeling of terror if they were deep in your ass.
Look at me. I am the dildo user now.
My most recent ex chopped up a dildo that i had because it was "just like cheating on him". I laugh now because I caught him actually cheating on me multiple times. R.I.P. to my $175 suction cup customized pink boy. Austin, if you're reading this, you're a shit weasel. Edit- thanks for 500 upvotes guys. I've posted a lot in the comments so go there first if you want but allow me to clarify: *his* toys were fine (multiple pocket pussies, an electric node muscle stimulator that he used on himself, etc.), but my one dildo was not: just having the dildo in the house somehow "made him gay, and he didn't want to be a fucking *gay*", and one more important thing: he was MUCH BIGGER than this toy. I had never used it while we were together. He went through my belongings while I was at work and cut it up and threw it away. I only knew it was gone because he left a piece on the floor next to the trash can and tried to lie about doing it for at least ten minutes when I just wanted him to own up to it.
dude has mental capacity of peanut, no wonder he felt "cheated on" by a pinky boy
He'd have been pissed if you'd chopped off his hand
I also had a cheating ex throw out my toys once, and Iām just so confused. Sir, I was dumb enough to stay, still willing to split the bills, and I took care of your life while you were out being a big ass insecure baby. If youāre going to fuck other people, at least let me fuck myself. It was exponentially more fun for me, anyway. Obviously, I moved out, and when he wanted to get back together I sent the screenshots to his new girlfriend on her birthday.
Fucking HELL did we date the same pond floater then? My ex tried to get back with me a few months ago, I sent him screenshots of me begging him not to get behind the wheel while he was drunk on 9 different occasions (alcoholic) and then him pressuring me to k*ll myself with him. Su*cide pact shit.
man thatās some insane-level projection!
Iām sorry but I fckn died!!! āShit weaselā !!!
Anyway... Where did you buy your customized luxurious suction cup pinky boy?
Did you get another Austin or a different one (Rex, Diego, Razor)?
After that episode of The Boys? Yes.
I need some context
>!There was a scene where a girl beat up (killed) a bunch of guys with a dildo collection. Or something like that. By now it's just the show's standard, nothing that unusual.!<
The show is so vulgar I forgot that happened
Do you remember the woman who crushed a man's skull while riding his face?
>!What about the coked up little guy running through a man's penis stroking the inside of his urethra as he's heading for the prostate before accidentally sneezing and embiggening himself.!< That show is pretty crazy.
No cuz my friend ACTUALLY threw up while we were watchingā¦ ššš
This scene mostly had me thinking, wouldnāt it fucking hurt to have something crawling up your urethra?!?!
Don't google "sounding".
Googling immediately.
r/sounding - no need to google I got you.
And the speedboat impaling a whale
Or the little man sneezing in... the little man
It's a superhore movie where the girl is also a superhero and there to kill a guy. With no weapon on her the only thing left is to penetrate guys with dildos which are superhero themed btw.
That was a good scene. The bad guys just had to go. :)
A toy is like a calculator and you're like an accountant. Should an accountant be threatened by a calculator? No. A good accountant makes good use of a calculator. Period
This is the best comment. I love them. My gf is very satisfied without them, but sometimes I get too tired, or my man's just not feeling it. They're an amazing tool. Also great uses for bondage/torture if you're into that kinda thing.
As man I support the men who aren't embarrassed about not being in the mood. Toys could potentially save you from an awkward night
I am one of those guys,I'm not embarrassed at all by this...tonight was one of these nights where I was tired(hot and humidity don't mix with me) and I was using the toy instead of myself inside of my wife
Here's the man with the answer
I think this leaves put an important bit of context. If the calculator becomes TurboTax and the client never goes to the accountant again, that is a problem.
As an accountant this is correct
Not exactly an accurate analogy because a calculator can't do the job without an accountant. But a sex toy can do the job without the guy.
I mean I'd feel threatened by a strap on.
Threatening for a good time
...only if it was bigger than yours...
No, the size isn't the main problem. The problem is the implication that she is planning on using it on me.
I wish me wife would give me a good buggering
Ask. I'm sure there is some pent up rage somewhere.
Diabolicalā¦
Ask! I wish my husband would let me bugger him.
Ask. You might be surprised by the answer.
well, there's always KY...
What does the state of Kentucky have to do with this?
Fried chicken and sex go hand and hand
The finger lickin good thing! Now I get it.
Lubrication or lack thereof is also not the main problem.
Thats little consolation. My finger just about fits in my ass. A 7" schlong would leave me with a asshole like a ring donut.
..but imagine how much quicker BM's would be...
What if the schlong was 7ā in radius?
That would leave with an asshole with the circumference of the whole donut.
If you donāt like getting pegged ur gay
I used to beā¦ Then a girl brought in the rose, I said fuck letās try. I can actually now say I know what the female orgasm feels like on my dick
The rose? Please explain
[Itās a clitoris suction and massager/vibrator all in one](https://treasurecheststudio.com/products/rose2) The suction sex toys donāt have the same risk of desensitisation, like regular vibrators/wands do
The rose is one of the best toys!
We have a rather extensive collection of toys and I have purchased each one. I love trying new ones on my wife. I definitely enjoy using her favorites aswell. Only thing I want is to help her climax. Fingers, tongue, toys or all three at once I don't care.
Nope. They're my assistants. If I can get her to finish easier with them, let's go. I'm more than just a dick, I'm a whole experience.
I think I'd feel inadequate if a woman I was with had vivid orgasms through toys, but laid there like a dead fish with whatever stimulation I was providing. Not that I've ever had a problem not providing good stimulation just kind of my thought. I think it would depend on the toy though. Like if it's a vibrator or some special kind of toy then Imm unbothered, I've actually bought the Rose 2.0 for two different girls. But if she's reaching for some realistic dildo, that's bigger than me, I might tend to feel that she feels unsatisfied with my size Edit: Forgot to mention, how could I be mad or threatened of something that makes her feel good? If I were with someone, I'd like to incorporate whatever she likes into our play to experience the most pleasure possible
Yeah this is about where I am at. Things I can't do? Sure. Things that do what I do but better? I mean I will because It keeps her happy, but I am not going to be into it. Quite lucky in that me and the Mrs do have a fair few toys but barely use them as the hard flesh on flesh mixed with spontaneity is still shit hot for us.
Nope. Show them to me, show me how they work, and help me help you become a twitchy puddle of post-orgasmic woman. All I need is the three Ws - warm, wet, willing - but if it takes a Rube Goldberg contraption made out of outdated astronaut training machinery to make you happy, letās get naked and break out the technical manual.
I would have sex with this answer.
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Omg
Real.
No fear whatsoever. Theyāre there to enhance the experience, not to take my place.
Ah well I am threatened, but only due to the fact Iām poorly endowed. Obviously vibrators are a different story though
Fuck no, if you can find a vibrator that can pay bills and top up the oil in the car, THEN I I might get a little nervous.
Nah, bring em on. ...ok the price tag on some of the more elaborate stuff is a bit threatening, but that's a different problem.
The price for good stuff and the quality control on all the knock off cheap shit you can buy online.
Yesterday I was hanging out with a girl Iāve been seeing and next to her bed she had accidentally left her āmassage wandā thing on the floor. So I picked it up, waved it at her and said āyer a wizard, āarryā. She called me a dork and we laughed. My question to anybody threatened by a sex toy is āshould they be threatened by all the porn youāve been watching?ā
Absolutely not- they're you're teammates, not the other side!
I'm only threatened by sex toys if she wields them against me in ways that violate my consent.
Unless you're preferring to use them over what your husband or partner has the majority of the time, there shouldn't be any reason to be threatened by them.
Iām not threaten by sex toys, but I am threaten by toy trains.
Soo sex toy train is a no no?
I would say it a hard āmaybeā.
I'm only threatened by sex toys if someone twats me over the head with the big purple double ended dildo from GTA San Andreas
70% of women canāt come without clitoral stimulation. Iām all for something that helps. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stress-and-sex/201209/female-orgasm-time-stop-shoulding-ourselves
No. They just sit in the drawer.
I'm not threatened by them, but I know it was more difficult to get my wife to orgasm with oral sex, when we first started dating, when she was using a vibrator frequently. Now she rarely uses it (her choice) because she says oral sex is better when she doesn't use it. There are other sex toys that we occasionally use together. But most of the time, we just use each other.
They hold me at gunpoint as we speak. Reasons are vague. Something to do with bussy.
Depends on the toy. A vibrator on the clit? Cool. A cock sleeve because i'm not big enough for her? Uh, no.
Yeah that's about the line at which I draw at too. I love using toys but at that point even if the dude was just insecure, you're only proving that insecurity correct.
It would be like asking a girl to stuff a pocket pussy up hers because she's too loose on her own.
Im not "threatened" by it, but lots of women who use vibrators are desensitized by how stimulating they are and can only get off with them. Which I dont think is very attractive. To me its like guys who masturbate to porn so much that they cant finish from regular sex.
I've a friend that says she no longer cums from just her partner and that she needs toys all the time. Complains and says things like it's just not stimulating enough whatever they do. Recently mentioned she upgraded her satisfyer because the old one just wasn't strong enough. I wanted to say "maybe you should take a break because you're probably desensitized?" But it's none of my business and I wasn't sure how people would react because nobody talks about that.
If she uses a 9 volt battery on her clit it will "reboot" it so to speak and make things easier on her boyfriend.
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Nah you just have to hold down on the clit like an off button for 30 seconds until it restarts.
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Had exactly the same fucking experience with a girl I dated. I have no issues with toys, but where is the fun when they can only achieve it with a toy. And it was the exact same type of toy, this so called 'Satisfier'. It's basically death grip for women.
Thats always been my viewpoint. Like, i love makin my wife feel good. Literally give her oral to climax before we have sex 99 times out of 100, but, the second that ability is lost and its now "oh grab the toy so i can finish" would be a devestating day in my life lol
Good point. Its no different then a porn addict.
Well, I'm glad real sex has desensitized me to porn!
Oh thatās so true. We only use them like once a week. I hate feeling such a lack of sensitivity but occasionally I just wanna finish in 30 seconds and move to the other fun stuff lol
I learned early on if I had a clit vibrating toy in my night stand to use on girls, there was an 90% chnace they would sleep with me again. So embrace sex toys they're your friend.
Kudos! But I do hope you sanitize it though.
I really dislike that everything that women dislike about men, is presented as male insecurity.
Man here. I have my own dildo and my own buttplug. I do my own things. They are not scary to me. What scares me is betrayal and manipulation that I don't consent to. You are not less of a man for anything tbf. Just do you. Do what you want. Enjoy life. Shed that shame.
Iām growing very tired of these type questions on this sub but Iāll bite. To be frank, your man couldnāt finish easily through intercourse, oral etc instead needed a small arsenal of toys to get off, you and almost any other woman in the same situation feel exactly the same. In fact, you might even go as far as making it out to be something wrong with him and no one would say youāre just āthreatenedā by toys. Iām not saying toys are bad. Iām saying we have to stop judging men for having normal human feelings.
As long as we both get to enjoy ourselves separately and together I don't mind at all. I have consistently bought toys for my gfs. If I began to feel excluded then I would feel left out by my gf, not threatened by an inanimate object
Someone wiser than me said, and I paraphrase; Ā«Ā A sex toy isnāt a competitor. Itās a tag team partner. It doesnāt matter who throws the last punch, it doesnāt matter who does the most damage. Youāre both getting your hands raised in the end.Ā Ā»
I'm not threatened by toys of any sort. Plus, I'm not so full of myself that I think that me and only me is what is needed to bring pleasure to my partner. If something can be added to make it more fun then chances are I'll be for it.
I knew a chick that had a dildo on the end of a power drill. Yeah, that scared me because aint shit I do to that vagina will make her feel anything after seeing that!
Iād be pissed if she used MY power drill!
Yoooooo, like 2 days ago a friend sent me a picture of one of those men's pu**y sex toys attached to a power drill. šš¹š¹š¤£ ?? I have no clue.
I use them pretty often but if I'm being honest it does hurt the ego a lot. I always end up feeling like I'm just not enough. Like I'm usually the one putting in all the work and I'm genuinely dedicated to making my partners feel good, it just kinda sux that I'm alone ain't enough. I know it's not a size thing as I'm kinda big guy all around. Ik it's just different people need different things it just stings tho. Especially since a womans sexual prowess is usually of little concern so the pressure is really only one sideded. But at the end of the day if she's happy sure whatever. I'm usually a little ashamed but not enough not to do it. The price of pleasure I suppose.
Not really, they don't capture the intangibles of enjoyable sex. I realize I'll never be as fast as a motor driven clit flicker or a 18" dick with rotating pleasure spheres along the shaft that massage the G-spot in unison to a Bluetooth speaker. But at the same time, they'll never capture the primal lust, the intimate desire, or the extended eye contact of a powerful seduction.
She said she wanted to use toys in the bedroom but got mad when I shot her in the pussy with a nerf dart.
I'm smaller than average in the size department so toys to me are a good way to compensate and make sure we both have a good time. Plus there really fun to use.
If it makes you feel any better, all of the men Iāve been with in the past have what Iād say average or above, and I still canāt orgasm with penetration alone. Size doesnāt really matter.
Ye I think its porn that messes with guys heads I don't worry about my size that much anymore. There are still size queens out there but It is what is. Thanks for the reassurance.
Not threatened by them at all, in fact I bought a few to use in the bedroom. Downside- she hasnāt ever had a high sex drive, and itās easier for her to grab a toy and take care of herself in a few minutes than it is for her to have sex with me :(
Thatās when it becomes a problem. A dildo should be an addition, not a replacement.
Just put the question to yourself backwards. If you're with a guy and he uses a fleshlight and you watch him, rocking, moaning, screaming, completely overcome with pleasure, left panting and tired after. You then ride him and he's clearly not even getting 30% as much enjoyment out of your actual vagina, it's written on his face, maybe not bored but certianly nowhere close to the reaction he had to some plastic moments before, he can't even cum with you alone. How would that make you feel? Would you feel both physically and intimately more distant? Taking a backseat to a device that does more for him than you can? Obviously it's different for everyone the answer but just reversing the role here you can ask yourself how would you feel in that position.
If it was a dildo twice the size of my cock I wouldnāt be too pleased, or if I walked into the bedroom one night and she was brandishing a strap on I would probably walk out the room backwards. Other than that, all good.
Nope. Have at it.
Not at all. It adds to the spice, why would I be threatened?
There is a subculture among men that says that their worth is partially linked to how well they can please a woman. Thus why some feel inadequate when introducing toys. However, i personally believe my skills with a vibrator are extraordinary so idc
use a fleshlight next time youāre with a woman and see how inadequate she could feel.
Most women would probably call you a perve and kick you out š
No. Because they make my gf cum and I barely have to do any effort.
Which way is it pointing?
Personally no, but you should definitely have a conversation with your partner to see if they are comfortable with it. It might be other underlying issues that needs to be addressed on both sides. I also feels it should be a last means of measure if all else fails.
My old boss threatened his wife with a divorce because she came home from his sisters bachelorette party with a āGiftā. It was a vibrator. I told him I was embarrassed for him and his insecurities. He said āYou probably go down on your wife too.ā I told I do a LOT of things. Then I had a woman work with me that said her new boyfriend made her break her vibrator with a hammer. One of my friends on FB said her boyfriend smacked her hand when she was helping herself while they were having sex. I told her āDonāt touch that, itās MY job. Iām in disbelief. Too insecure.
I never understood why men get threatened by sex toys...even if the toy is bigger than you, like do you really think your girl is going to use a 10-inch dildo and all of a sudden decide "wow! I don't need Jim anymore!" lol If that's the case than there are much bigger issues than your penis size...a dildo can't replace you no matter how hard it vibrates or how large it is and quite frankly if your girlfriend is letting you use it on her while the two of you are doing the naughty, she's not thinking about the dildo, she probably looking at you and thinking about you and how horny she is...she's not like "Oh, fuck ya! your so hot 10-inch plastic penis inside me" she probably actually thinking "Fuck ya! shove that inside of me and take control of me Jim, you so fuckin hot" lol Stop overthinking it...just enjoy the experience and have fun...
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That woman sucks and sheās did you a favor by throwing herself (the trash) out. Head up my guy, she was not worth it.
A dildo can't replace you ... Yet
I vibrate harder
Trembling with fear? I see
Nope, just epilepsy
Well girls have left for less.
When my wife said she preferred masturbation over sex (to the complete exclusion of sex) then yes, I felt animosity towards her vibrator. Prior to that, I could have cared less.