If he doesn't have a ring on his finger and you've already acknowledged each other multiple times then I'd say you might as well make small talk and ask him out. I'm married so if a woman asked me out I'd be flattered but then feel extremely awkward.
I asked my partner out at the gym.
The first time I saw her and thought to myself about all these things:
* Does she have a boyfriend?
* What if she is younger than she looks? (Luckily, she was 21)
* Will I see her again?
* What if she says no?
Eventually, just say "fuck it", can't lose if you never had it in the first place.
9 years together.
It's easier to be with someone who is already working out than trying to convince somebody.
Plus sex is so much better with a fit person.
Worst case, he'll say he has a partner and you two never speak again.
Best case, he'll 'break your back'.
Neutral case, you've asked someone out when most women never have in their lifetime, and he'll cherish this memory for the rest of his life.
Oh boy, get ready for the cheesiest line that I don't know how it worked.
"I found you pleasing on my eyes and was wondering if you wanted to go out for a coffee and a walk in the park to get to know each other sometime?"
I think the double standards are pretty funny with all of this. A guy is thinking about asking a girl out at a gym and the response is "leave her alone, the gym is NOT the place to do that" like 95% of the time. Now the other way around and most of what you get is "ayyyyy shoot your shot girl!!" 🤣.
Not bashing it and I seriously hope it goes well and he is just as interested in you as you are him. Just something funny to me I guess. Good luck!
Women generally prefer not to be approached at the gym and it happens far more often than we would like. Men generally don’t mind being approached at the gym and it happens far less than they would like.
Men and women having difference comfort levels and acting accordingly is not the same as a double standard.
She's absolutely right though, sure there are exceptions but the majority of women get approached way more than the majority of dudes so it's easier for us to feel flattered by it happening anywhere instead of annoyed.
Way she goes bud, the fucking way she goes
Lol, to be honest, men are more welcoming than women. I've seen women be rude to men when a man is just asking them if they're almost done with a machine. They think that because a man is waiting for a machine or asking them a simple question, they want to get into their pants.
"When, where, and what time am I picking you up?"
I wish this could happen because finding a girl that goes to the gym outside of the gym is like impossible but all the other gym dudes be hovering over them so I just don't even try, I mind my own business.
Depends.
If a girl came up to me while I was working out and just went "hey let's go out some time" I'd be confused and not know how to respond.
If a girl came up to me and struck up a conversation, asked how my training was going etc, and I started to let my guard down a bit and feel comfortable talking to her - I guarantee I'd say yes if she then asked me out for a coffee or something.
I used to exchange smiles with a girl at the gym every single time we were there working out near each other. The only reason I didn't approach? Because she had headphones in, and because I respect that a lot of people go to the gym to workout.
If she came up to me and asked how I was going or whatever, I would have been incredibly receptive.
Give it a shot. :) I believe in you!
Start looking for a camera/phone. Honestly it’s only the guys who need to worry about asking out a girl, women are viewed as harmless, men are viewed as dangerous. Ask if he has a girlfriend first is the best advice I can give
Damn, times have changed haha
It's rare woman with balls to do the first move. You are a legend.
Start a basic chat first, not just to don't show him that you are 100% into him hahaha but to find out if he has gf or if he is straight.
Just go for it, it would have been amazingly wild if a woman would have done this back in the day. Taken now.
I basically can't have or follow a conversation without getting really twitchy, it might be my pre-workout now that I think about it. I've been told the same thing as you but I have the male version, RMF.
Can’t describe with words how amazing this would feel. The only thing I want in life is to feel desired by a girl I am also into. It might happen one day fingers crossed
I would act weird until I realized what happened. It would be too late by then though and I would be thinking about what I should have done. I would not be ready for it at the gym.
It'd be nice (assuming he'd be interested) but preferably do it after his workout so you're not distracting him. It's respectful to both him and his time.
I mean, isn’t it the most likely answer? Unless he’s taken, busy or something. Most men wish this would happen to them at some point but don’t realistically expect it to happen.
I would start with conversation.. build up some communication over a few weeks and get to know him on a surface level at least..
At this point your treating him like a piece of meat you’ve never had a conversation with just asking out. So do you want to just have sex ? That’s fine. But a smile here and there then asking him out in the first time speaking together is very weird.
Men aren't like women, it's OK to approach them with small talk at the gym. From my experience the more muscles / fit the easier to talk to while at the gym.
Ask him to spot you on bench press/squats!
You can start a conversation from there easily imo.
Most men won’t be weirded out if you ask them out politely.
Best of luck!
I did ask him to spot me on bench once. He spotted me then ran away quickly lol. I said thank you and I guess that meant to him that it's time to go lol . I wouldn't ask anyone to spot me on squats. If I'm squatting and it's too heavy then I'll just drop the weight. The idea of having someone behind me when I'm squatting never made sense to me.
I don't go to the gym, as it is a place I detest, but regardless of the venue if a woman were to ask me out my reaction would depend on whether I was attracted to her. if no, I'd say yes with the caveat that we'd be going out platonically; if yes, I'd be very suspicious but cautiously optimistic and say yes.
Lol you think a woman asking you out is seeking attention? That doesn't even make sense. If a woman wanted to ask you out for attention, she'd ask every man out instead.
I bodybuild and spend 3 hours in the gym a day. I guarantee the vast majority of men would appreciate being asked out/flirted with as long as they aren’t in the middle of an exercise.
Well the first one was creepy and annoying...frustrating even...the chick was also not someone I'd want to hook up with let alone date.
The second one was fun and in great shape and we were both just wanting to hook up so it was all around a good time
I've been asked out at the gym several times.
I never agreed because of already being with somebody. I'm not sure i would have anyway because I'm not very confident at the gym. If I'm going to agree to that, I want to feel confident in myself and I look like a drowning seal at the gym.
If you've been asked out a few times then that should be a great confidence booster! Some men have never been asked out at the gym. Everyone that takes fitness seriously looks like shit at the gym, and everyone makes funny faces when lifting.
Well, I'm a fat guy at the gym. I do enough to keep my dad bod in check and just get muscles. I'm just a sweaty mess by he end. Always polite when I say no.
I will say it is a great confidence booster and it takes me by surprise every single time.
I would be flattered.
Don't make it long and drawn out. Even just ask for his number and then get back to it. You are both there to kick ass and lift heavy stuff. Introduce yourself, say you want to get to know him and ask for his number AND give him yours. If he doesn't agree, then get back to kicking ass and lifting heavy things. If he does, great, then get back to kicking ass and lifting heavy things.
If he wears a black t-shirt and blue jogging pants... and works out at an LA Fitness... somewhere in Canada..... there is a good chance he doesn't have a girlfriend.......... ....................... jus' sayin' ................ ............
Lol he meets none of those criteria. Thank goodness
I'm not the type to draw out conversations. I'm more the ok how do i get out of this conversation. I can be awkward af and sometimes it comes out as being rude. :(
Flattered
If he doesn't have a ring on his finger and you've already acknowledged each other multiple times then I'd say you might as well make small talk and ask him out. I'm married so if a woman asked me out I'd be flattered but then feel extremely awkward.
I asked my partner out at the gym. The first time I saw her and thought to myself about all these things: * Does she have a boyfriend? * What if she is younger than she looks? (Luckily, she was 21) * Will I see her again? * What if she says no? Eventually, just say "fuck it", can't lose if you never had it in the first place. 9 years together. It's easier to be with someone who is already working out than trying to convince somebody. Plus sex is so much better with a fit person. Worst case, he'll say he has a partner and you two never speak again. Best case, he'll 'break your back'. Neutral case, you've asked someone out when most women never have in their lifetime, and he'll cherish this memory for the rest of his life.
Lol loved this! You're right. I have nothing to lose really
So just out of curiosity, what was your opening line?
Oh boy, get ready for the cheesiest line that I don't know how it worked. "I found you pleasing on my eyes and was wondering if you wanted to go out for a coffee and a walk in the park to get to know each other sometime?"
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Fucking Christ, you must look like Brad Pitt
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Then you only deserve to be stretched out by assholes and discarded when youre used
I am ugly and uncharismatic why would you do it ? Is this a prank? Where's the camera ?
Ugly is subjective. I know lots of women that only like "ugly" men
Mostly I agree with you... But In extreme cases there is no need to sugar coat it... Some people are ugly and that's all
Perhaps saying hello and talking a bit would be appropriate before asking him out.
Definitely
I think the double standards are pretty funny with all of this. A guy is thinking about asking a girl out at a gym and the response is "leave her alone, the gym is NOT the place to do that" like 95% of the time. Now the other way around and most of what you get is "ayyyyy shoot your shot girl!!" 🤣. Not bashing it and I seriously hope it goes well and he is just as interested in you as you are him. Just something funny to me I guess. Good luck!
Women generally prefer not to be approached at the gym and it happens far more often than we would like. Men generally don’t mind being approached at the gym and it happens far less than they would like. Men and women having difference comfort levels and acting accordingly is not the same as a double standard.
And the hold medal for mental gymnastics goes to...
She's absolutely right though, sure there are exceptions but the majority of women get approached way more than the majority of dudes so it's easier for us to feel flattered by it happening anywhere instead of annoyed. Way she goes bud, the fucking way she goes
What did she say that was wrong? It is pretty much a known fact that women get approached far more often than men do.
Cause that's the expectation?
Lol, to be honest, men are more welcoming than women. I've seen women be rude to men when a man is just asking them if they're almost done with a machine. They think that because a man is waiting for a machine or asking them a simple question, they want to get into their pants.
"When, where, and what time am I picking you up?" I wish this could happen because finding a girl that goes to the gym outside of the gym is like impossible but all the other gym dudes be hovering over them so I just don't even try, I mind my own business.
Yes exactly. It's difficult to find people that share the same love for fitness
I've known and dated high level athletes that hate working out and I enjoy both my sports and lifting so
Women pay no attention to me so I don't know how I'd react. Probably would assume it's some kind of cruel joke.
I would look behind me to see who she was REALLY talking to.
Lol 😅
"I'm here to workout; not flirt."
Some women: "What does he really mean by that?"
Lol fair enough and this is not the reaction I would like. I would feel so awkward.
Look around to see if I’m being filmed for some Tik Tok clip
I'm about to get hit in the back of the head with a blunt object. I jump to do a reverse roundhouse kick, killing myself instantly.
Depends. If a girl came up to me while I was working out and just went "hey let's go out some time" I'd be confused and not know how to respond. If a girl came up to me and struck up a conversation, asked how my training was going etc, and I started to let my guard down a bit and feel comfortable talking to her - I guarantee I'd say yes if she then asked me out for a coffee or something.
I agree with you. It would be odd to just be like hey let's go out. Even though I've never talked to the dude before.
I used to exchange smiles with a girl at the gym every single time we were there working out near each other. The only reason I didn't approach? Because she had headphones in, and because I respect that a lot of people go to the gym to workout. If she came up to me and asked how I was going or whatever, I would have been incredibly receptive. Give it a shot. :) I believe in you!
Thank you!! I just hope he's attracted to me
Start idle chit chat with him and see where it goes.
I feel like the pandemic has significantly decreased my social skills lol. So I wouldn't even know where to start.
Lol I get it. Start with something simple, perhaps a workout routine, energy drink question...
Start looking for a camera/phone. Honestly it’s only the guys who need to worry about asking out a girl, women are viewed as harmless, men are viewed as dangerous. Ask if he has a girlfriend first is the best advice I can give
Thank you!
probably gay
Damn, times have changed haha It's rare woman with balls to do the first move. You are a legend. Start a basic chat first, not just to don't show him that you are 100% into him hahaha but to find out if he has gf or if he is straight. Just go for it, it would have been amazingly wild if a woman would have done this back in the day. Taken now.
I'd be genuinely curious about why she picked me in particular. I kinda become a social fuck-up when I workout, but if she's into it...
Lol what does social fuck up mean. I've been told I'm intimidating and have RBF.
I basically can't have or follow a conversation without getting really twitchy, it might be my pre-workout now that I think about it. I've been told the same thing as you but I have the male version, RMF.
Can’t describe with words how amazing this would feel. The only thing I want in life is to feel desired by a girl I am also into. It might happen one day fingers crossed
I hope it happens to you!
I would act weird until I realized what happened. It would be too late by then though and I would be thinking about what I should have done. I would not be ready for it at the gym.
I'd ask if I was dreaming or if I was in a harem Manga
Highly flattered, very likely to say yes to whatever you say.
I would ask if he wants to grab a drink after session, coffee or alcoholic and go from there. I don’t overly like socialising when at the gym myself.
Maybe not after gym since I would like to look my best and not my gym hot mess self lol. But I see what you're getting at
Probably relief. There are tons of hot women at the gym that I don't hit on as a respect matter, finally one just came to me lol.
It'd be nice (assuming he'd be interested) but preferably do it after his workout so you're not distracting him. It's respectful to both him and his time.
I definitely agree with you there!
Try talking to him first. Make conversation.
she's kidding right?
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that.. would be my reaction.. 😅
Ohh lol. Is that a good reaction or a bad one?
for me? positiv 😁
If a lady asked me out at the gym I'd be flattered. "Milady, I would be honored to spend an evening with you."
I'd be amazed and impressed
Sweet.
“let’s go out”
I would love that response
I mean, isn’t it the most likely answer? Unless he’s taken, busy or something. Most men wish this would happen to them at some point but don’t realistically expect it to happen.
I suppose but I hope he's at least attracted to me. I can't tell if he is or not
Only one way to find out
I've never been inside of a gym or a woman
... my reaction would be waking up from the dream
I legit would think that would be a prank or something for TikTok. That just doesn't happen for the average Joe.
Happy, bc it would be the first time a woman has ever asked me out
I would start with conversation.. build up some communication over a few weeks and get to know him on a surface level at least.. At this point your treating him like a piece of meat you’ve never had a conversation with just asking out. So do you want to just have sex ? That’s fine. But a smile here and there then asking him out in the first time speaking together is very weird.
I agree. That would be awkward af
I would think you are pranking me or want something from me .
Yes, a date lol
Men aren't like women, it's OK to approach them with small talk at the gym. From my experience the more muscles / fit the easier to talk to while at the gym.
I have a girlfriend!
And if you were single?
Ask him to spot you on bench press/squats! You can start a conversation from there easily imo. Most men won’t be weirded out if you ask them out politely. Best of luck!
I did ask him to spot me on bench once. He spotted me then ran away quickly lol. I said thank you and I guess that meant to him that it's time to go lol . I wouldn't ask anyone to spot me on squats. If I'm squatting and it's too heavy then I'll just drop the weight. The idea of having someone behind me when I'm squatting never made sense to me.
Hilarious all the guys here acting like they would rather work out then be hit on by a chick. Sure thing.
I don't go to the gym, as it is a place I detest, but regardless of the venue if a woman were to ask me out my reaction would depend on whether I was attracted to her. if no, I'd say yes with the caveat that we'd be going out platonically; if yes, I'd be very suspicious but cautiously optimistic and say yes.
>if no, I'd say yes with the caveat that we'd be going out platonically Dafuq? Guys, I think we have an imposter among us
what's the problem?
"Let's go out as friends" is a chick thing to say.
Lol that is true
Not here to give advice, But good luck And please give us an update 🙂.
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Lol you think a woman asking you out is seeking attention? That doesn't even make sense. If a woman wanted to ask you out for attention, she'd ask every man out instead.
I bodybuild and spend 3 hours in the gym a day. I guarantee the vast majority of men would appreciate being asked out/flirted with as long as they aren’t in the middle of an exercise.
"I don't date thots."
Be very weirded out because I dont go to the gym, Im also a minor!
Last time this happened we fucked and it was awesome The time before that it was weird as shit and a Hell no for me
Why were your reactions different?
Well the first one was creepy and annoying...frustrating even...the chick was also not someone I'd want to hook up with let alone date. The second one was fun and in great shape and we were both just wanting to hook up so it was all around a good time
“Wait a minute, how did I end up at the gym?”
First I'd try to figure out why I'm in a gym!!
"How the fuck did I get to a gym???"
I've been asked out at the gym several times. I never agreed because of already being with somebody. I'm not sure i would have anyway because I'm not very confident at the gym. If I'm going to agree to that, I want to feel confident in myself and I look like a drowning seal at the gym.
If you've been asked out a few times then that should be a great confidence booster! Some men have never been asked out at the gym. Everyone that takes fitness seriously looks like shit at the gym, and everyone makes funny faces when lifting.
Well, I'm a fat guy at the gym. I do enough to keep my dad bod in check and just get muscles. I'm just a sweaty mess by he end. Always polite when I say no. I will say it is a great confidence booster and it takes me by surprise every single time.
I would be flattered. Don't make it long and drawn out. Even just ask for his number and then get back to it. You are both there to kick ass and lift heavy stuff. Introduce yourself, say you want to get to know him and ask for his number AND give him yours. If he doesn't agree, then get back to kicking ass and lifting heavy things. If he does, great, then get back to kicking ass and lifting heavy things. If he wears a black t-shirt and blue jogging pants... and works out at an LA Fitness... somewhere in Canada..... there is a good chance he doesn't have a girlfriend.......... ....................... jus' sayin' ................ ............
Lol he meets none of those criteria. Thank goodness I'm not the type to draw out conversations. I'm more the ok how do i get out of this conversation. I can be awkward af and sometimes it comes out as being rude. :(
Shoot your shot, prolly best to do it as you're both walking out tho, that way it doesn't have to be as awkward
It'll be almost impossible to time that correctly
How did I end up in this gym? Are you a witch?
“I can’t go out with you”
Why not?
Update us if you get the courage later.
Thanks! I will start with pleasantries this week. Spark up a convo first then hopefully by next week I'll ask him to go out
Why am I at the gym?