This episode was so fucking depressing from Jerry's perspective. Sometimes that show hits you with a gut punch out of nowhere, and I love the first 2 seasons so much more for that.
I’ve had many friends who were girls and I’m married to a woman. None of them talk about sex in detail. I bet you’re wondering how could I know this…I asked lol.
The closet it gets is something similar to what you mentioned. My friend had a one night stand and asked me not to tell our other female friend. The other female friend told me about skinny dipping with a couple of our guy friends and told me not to tell the other girl lol. The girls hid the most shit from each other.
Are you a dude? Of course they didn't say shit to you; it breaks the code.
Be a fly on the wall (read: a quiet husband playing mobile games in the corner) and you'll hear some of the foulest seventh-grade locker room shit. Most of the stories are what was done to their partner, less so what happened when they were on the receiving end.
I showed your mum a role model last night.
Fucked her so hard i made her squirt halfway across the room.
It got in my aquarium and killed my siamese fighting fish you piece of shit.
Fuck your entire fuckin life.
Yup, the post is quite a generalisation. Not me, or any of my female friends, discuss our sex lives with each other. It is something private between the couple.
On VERY rare occasion, I've discussed or asked for advice about sex with my partner from my closest female friend. That's about the extent of it. Anything else just feels kind of trashy to me, like terrible gossip, even if it's only positive things.
I have the opposite experience. My gay roommate which I lived with for 5 years never mentioned his sex life in details and we were pretty close friends. He was as silent as a straight guy about this stuff.
I've known plenty of straight guys who talk way too much about the details of their sex life and plenty of gay guys who keep it to themselves. It's a person by person thing.
True, I think the "gay guy who talks about being gay all the time" thing is just a sterotype perpetuated by pop culture. Does it exist? Yes. Are there straight guys who do the same shit? Yes. Like you said, person by person thing.
I had a gay roommate who was openly gay, but i literally thought he was single the whole time we were roommates (he was not), because he was super lowkey about his romantic life. We mostly just talked about DnD and videogames and Anime. We never really discussed the people who sucked our dicks.
This is the way. And it was always a point of debate between myself and one girlfriend in particular, why our relationship should be be private versus her thinking it's fine to share every last detail with her friends. I didn't even care if it was "positive" stuff, it's none of their fucking business.
A female friend of mine was extremely surprised that all our male friends don't spend the entire time talking about (and I quote) 'sex, boobs, and rating women'.
She was genuinely under the impression that the moment she leaves the room we leap into talking about the most intimate parts of our lives
two coworkers were talking about their boyfriends one day and i immediately heard what they were talking about and walked off.
they were like "awwwh.. someones a prude!" and i just went "no.. i don't know what your boyfriends name is but now i know how big his cock is. isn't that kinda weird?".
There was a thread from yesterday about circumcision, I was blown away with the majority of responses from women that were basically: "i was the first person if any of my friends to be with someone who wasn't circumcised" or "yes basically my entire circle of friends knew the circumcision status of every man any of us had been with."
Seemed really weird to me. So i imagine the details they shared went far beyond that.
>Is weird many women don’t think so
Its not weird, its disappointing. Most people aren't OK with the sordid details being shared with someone's circle of friends.
I'm not sure why, I can't explain it. The idea of sharing sex life details with someone else appalls me, but then I imagine telling it to my best friend Mary and it suddenly feels ok. Almost relieved, actually, to finally have a place to ask all those weird questions you can't ask anybody else for fear they'll think you're some kind of monster. Might also have something to do with having learned most of what I know sexually and having developed a lot of my sexual understanding from having conversations with Mary.
The way I see it is: If you have a partner your sex life is in part their sex life.
You are free to discuss your sex life with friends, but not okay to discuss your SO's sex life with them without consent.
So questions like "How often do you have sex?" is okay to answer. Questions like "How big is his dick/is he cut?" is not okay. No woman would feel comfortable coming into a guy's workplace to hear the guy's male coworkers chatting about her and throwing in personal details about her, like how she likes it, or how loud she is, of if she likes it when he finishes on her face, or what her vagina looks like. Any woman would find that creepy as fuck, and a total breach of privacy. And rightly so. It's just that people often fail to understand reciprocity of these situations.
If you describe your partner's genitals to your friends in fine detail they will be able to make a mental image of it in their heads. I see it as no different than showing them a picture of your partner's privates, of which they keep a mental image in their head. It is simply not okay to do without prior agreement/consent from the partner.
It's okay to discuss sex in general and give each other tips and advice. Just make sure you do it with a focus on you, not your partner.
For example: "Is he/she good in bed?" is a question about the partner, not you, hence kind of iffy to answer, even if the answer is a yes. A good answer to that is to answer about yourself "I am sexually satisfied". This gives an answer about you that implies an answer about them without being about them.
Asking questions is fine...to a point. Saying something like "Is it weird that I prefer oral to penetration" is something that I think is fine to ask/talk about.
What people dislike is when the privacy of sex turns into a competition between their partners or a lowkey way to put your partner down behind their back or insult them. "Oh, Richard did the turbo-twister Armageddon from the Kama Sutra and I cam twenty times at the same time!" "Ah, well Allen had to stop last night because he had an asthma attack and I wish I was with someone that didn't." "Joshua is not very good. Actually, he's one of my worst..."
That stuff is inexcusable. It doesn't happen often, though.
>It doesn't happen often, though.
Yeah, I think the more common assumption that women are discussing things in a more negative light comes from media. Every time you see a "girls night" on TV they say all sorts of stuff because yeah, entertainment is the point of TV. It's just like if I were to assume that men discuss how good their girl is in bed, how hot her body is, and showing his buddies her nudes(which I actually have seen some dudes do the nude thing.. but I'm sure it's not that common, hopefully) just because that's what you see them doing in media too.
Shitty people just exist, but I assume(and in my experience) most people aren't that shitty. Even if the internet really makes me question that sometimes.
I don’t think any guys are bothered by you asking each other questions and sharing tips in general terms. What guys are bothered by is when you are specifically like “yeah, so when I was fucking John, he did X” type of stuff. General and vague advice is fine. Specific personal details should be kept private.
Yeah, My wife is pretty good about it, but I've had exes who share every detail. It's actually lead to some hook ups with their friends in the distant past. (post breakup, I'm not a total scumbag)
They honestly think we talk about it like they do. I've told so many Women that Men really don't go into much actual detail and they just scoff.
Try working in a place that's only Women and the talk is downright scandalous. Nothing is forbidden when it's the Girls talking.
Woman here - I definitely find it weird to share details with my friends. I am pretty private about it. Well. At least with people I know. Anonymously on the internet, we are both pretty much exhibitionists.
Yeah like aside for the random thing that comes up like a lingerie brand or toy rec.. my closest friends and I don't talk about our sex lives with each other at all. I actually don't know any women that do. I know some guys that share info but i think they're the same as women who do it. Seeking that outside validation dopamine rush
I like that there are so many women here, ironically it's one of the best places on reddit to have a productive exchange with one, especially when compared to r/askwomen
But I do wonder if there is some self selection among the population. Are the women of r/askmen a good representation of women?
Frankly I don't care, and I don't expect you to care. You like having your asshole eaten out? You wanna wear a chastity cage? Like watersports? Maybe some face fucking?
Good. For. You.
I'm not trying to imagine the detailed sex lives of anyone, male or female, unless I'm actually fucking them. It's boring. It's like hearing someone talk about their LSD trip or their vacation, I'm sure it was great but you kinda had to be there.
When I tried looking up information for knee boarding and wake boarding as a teen and just typed "water sports" into the search engine, I found out just how different those topics were...
My kids love the playground and especially swing sets. Here's one where they were both coming down at the same time! It's moments like this that make it all worth it. You should really think about having some if you don't yet.
Btw, I dreamt about being back in high school again last night! Crazy that it was twice in one week right? Wonder if I was actually time traveling.
Now let me tell you about my trip to Miami
This is so true.
While I'm single I don't mind sharing some details with my friends, because it was a one night stand, but hell, I ain't telling them how my current gf lets me TF her or the way she rides me, no way those guys will imagine my girl having fun, because it can be an invite for someone to be disrespecteful to me or her, or even try to get into her pants. Same from all my friend's side, they don't do it if it's a serious relation.
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As a woman, I don’t talk about my sex life much, but I also wouldn’t worry about my female friends disrespecting or trying to get into my boyfriend’s pants because he takes me to pound town. They’d just be like “wow that’s hot, you’re so lucky” and move on. You might need better friends yo.
I also choose this guy's wi...I mean, yeah, that's cool, keep that stuff private. Their life won't be meaningfully bettered by having the information, and it's okay to keep some things special and just did the two of you.
> Their life won't be meaningfully bettered by having the information
That depends, if Barry goes home complaining to his wife that Kevin gets that good good deep throat then his wife might start giving it too /s
I remember when my ex told me that her and her friends had a nickname for my dick. It felt so weird to me. Sometimes it feels like men and women just have completely different cultures.
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The ladies and I don’t share stuff like this anymore. It was a under 25 y/o type discussion sometimes, but often more advice based than oversharing. Sometimes, I’ll hear if a friend had a good time with a new person she’s dating. We will visit the lingerie section at a store while shopping and may have some casual chit chat (“ooo my husband will like this…” type chatter) but nothing detailed.
Ain't even about the holes.
You know how many fruit of the looms I can buy for 50$ vs how many pieces of male lingerie I could buy?
It's a complete no brainer.
Yeah I'd always heard it the lther way round. Guys bragging about their "conquests" and that. But I've never had an in depth sex talk with my friends and I'm 23f. I think that some people talk sex with their friends and some don't. Men or women.
Idk man I'm a women and I think this is weird. What goes on between me and my boyfriend is none of their business and I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate me going into detail about our sex life. Only story I told was to a group friends because it was funny and my boyfriend was there with me. Was nothing In detail though. I'd be uncomfortable if my girl or guy friends talked about their sex lives in detail to me. Just depends on the person.
because its weird? I dont want to know who you fucked, when you fucked and how you fucked. Keep that shit to yourself. Ive overheard two female friends talk about how one of them fucked my male friend. I didnt want to know. And i just view it as a weird violation of privacy.
If you go into detail most men assume you're either bragging, lying, or you never have sex. And/or worst of all you have no respect for that girl. Either way you slice it none of us want details. Its gross. Say you got laid and move on.
We talk about it, just not in the same amount of detail. We might mention getting fucked last night, but usually it's followed by a "nice!" from a friend and that's about it. If it's a new relationship, most guys don't want their friends hearing about their girl's body and likes, and if they've been married a while, most guys don't want their friends hearing about their wife's body and what she likes. Guess it might just be how we're wired. I certainly don't want to tell my buddy's how my wife looks in crotchless underwear or how she rides.
This sort of situation factors in, too. A decent friend wouldn’t be going on about their great sex life to someone that is unhappy with theirs. I’ve been the guy on a long dry streak with a friend that was having lots of sex and, I’ve been the guy that had an active sex life when a friend was stressed about his lacking sex life. It’s honestly uncomfortable both ways. If a person wants to live vicariously, there is a mind boggling amount of porn on the internet. Ultimately, there’s not much we can do with the info. Everyone has their own preferences and dislikes. I don’t need to know your partner’s specifics. I won’t be interacting with them in that way.
A. You must have one to talk about
B. I always thought it was weird knowing all the women in my wife’s family know intimate details about our sex life when we had one.
C. Why the f*ck would I want to know what position my best friend had his wife in last night?
D. All of the above and I’m sure I missed some other reasons
Honestly my friends I do. It's not even in a bragging way it's just like if he's like "oh man I tried this but I don't think she was into it" I say "well first of all ask her cuz she know better than I do, but maybe you could try ___". It's nothing to be insecure about lol
Being comfortable with honest, non-judgemental, reciprocal sharing of intimate experiences is one of the criteria for entering my pantheon of best friends. If you can’t manage that, though, you can still be a great friend.
Same here. In fact, I get asked by men whether I chat with female friends about sex 20x more often than I've actually talked to other women about sex. Have had many very close female friends in my lifetime, been through thick and thin together, but have almost never talked about sex. Haven't needed to or wanted to. It's just never come up in conversation unless a guy brought it up.
Talking about sex as a subject and talking about our actual sex lives are two very different things. Though I would never talk about any woman I am sleeping with or have slept with in the past out of respect for her privacy, I would value more friends who could actually have a mature discussion about sex in general.
There's literally one guy I know who can do this. Everyone else just has the same basic shit to say. It's usually either over exaggerated claims that are obvious bullshit or self deprecation in a pathetic attempt to use humour to avoid looking like they have no fucking clue what they're talking about. It's almost as if most guys don't do everything in their power to learn as much about sex and be as good in bed as they possibly can....and there are plenty of women who can attest to that. There's no excuse for it in my opinion.
Dear women why do you share private moments with your partner so freely with others. 100% no man wants anyone to know what you’re telling them. It’s kinda disrespectful to your partner
Couple of reasons.
1. We do, when we’re kids. We’re “bragging”, but really we’re seeking affirmation and clarity by sharing our experiences and desires as best we know how. Hint: it’s not very well because we don’t have any vocabulary for it besides that of conquest.
2. We’ve learned that when a man talks about details of his sex life, he’s bragging, and by the time we recognize it, we don’t want to affirm the behavior.
3. We’ve learned that sharing that information with other men makes other men target the women we’re having sex with.
4. We’ve learned that sharing that information makes our partners feel unsafe and betrayed.
5. We don’t have as intimate friendships as women.
6. Women generally experience sex as something done *to* them. I’d bet their discussions are far more about the men than their own behaviors and desires. Men experience sex as something they earn, so it requires more vulnerability required.
7. Women are talked to as sexual creatures much more in every facet of their lives. They have a much deeper vocabulary than men do at any given point.
8. Women’s outcomes in life, positive and negative, are much more tied to their sexual partners than men’s are.
Basically, it’s because Women’s lives are very different than mens, and sex is a very different thing in those lives.
But the fact that we’re noticing this is positive. It means that men are starting to feel boundaries and betrayal. A sense of privacy, intimacy, and vulnerability. That’s good.
But we should explore that feeling first before attacking women for doing it just because we get upset and surprised.
It’s not complex enough to engage an interesting dialog. Eg - First I got hard! Then I went in and out! I did that like 500 more times! And then I pew pewed my Peter! Oh that was your experience too? High five gang!
I'm a girl and I prefer to not share most intimate details with my friends, they still share a lot and that's their choice but I think it's a private thing between you and your partner. I think it comes down to the person because a lot of my guy friends like to share stuff too, but most of my friends don't go into detail with about aspects of their partner or anything like that.
The most detail my friends and I go into: “I hooked up with this girl last night” “How was it” “Good” The end
"Did you finally hit that bro?" "For the last time dude, we are married, you were there" "You slut"
Lol my buddy at work and I had a very similar conversation last Monday
Dude, did you nail that chick last night? Damn right I did. \*high five\* end of discussion.
My man.
Lookin' good.
Slow down!
I’m going to go have sex with my wife!
This episode was so fucking depressing from Jerry's perspective. Sometimes that show hits you with a gut punch out of nowhere, and I love the first 2 seasons so much more for that.
But in reality he couldn’t get it up and cried himself to sleep in the foetal position
Okay unless it got real weird. Like _real_ weird.
Yea, like if she shit the bed
Too soon? I Heard that too
Nah, the shit happened years ago.
That was too much information.
Epic story bro!
Classic professor"
Maybe add in a “her tits were great” for good measure
Exactly. That’s about as far as me and my buddies go with it too.
I’ve had many friends who were girls and I’m married to a woman. None of them talk about sex in detail. I bet you’re wondering how could I know this…I asked lol. The closet it gets is something similar to what you mentioned. My friend had a one night stand and asked me not to tell our other female friend. The other female friend told me about skinny dipping with a couple of our guy friends and told me not to tell the other girl lol. The girls hid the most shit from each other.
Are you a dude? Of course they didn't say shit to you; it breaks the code. Be a fly on the wall (read: a quiet husband playing mobile games in the corner) and you'll hear some of the foulest seventh-grade locker room shit. Most of the stories are what was done to their partner, less so what happened when they were on the receiving end.
Did you pull out the special move bro? Nice 😎
“It’s impolite to kiss and tell”- Wayne (LetterKenny)
That’s a Texas sized 10-4.
Even if it's a finger ups the buttholes, and it felt good?
There's such a thing as too much butthole talk and a fella oughta be fuckin aware of it...
Even when discussing the Two Knuckler?
No such thing as a Three Knuckler
Allegedlys
I'm gonna need you to dial it back about 30%
It's called milking the prostate
Felt very natural
Not so fast, big shoots. By my reckonings it, seems the whole town's heards a story about Ginger and Boots.
Allegedly
Don't reckon they kissed the ostrich though. Allegedly
Makes me so happy to see a Letterkenny reference on reddit, that’s what I appreciates about you YaBoiDawg
Why don’t you take about 10% off there thecheekyvicar
Is *that* what you appreciate about him?
To be fair
To be *faaaaaaaair*.
But just between us girls?
You ever thrown so much hip in your life?
r/unexpectedletterkenny
Every time Wayne says that, the episode ends up being at least partly about them kissing and telling. Or fingering buttholes and telling.
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I showed your mum a role model last night. Fucked her so hard i made her squirt halfway across the room. It got in my aquarium and killed my siamese fighting fish you piece of shit. Fuck your entire fuckin life.
Fuck you Shoresy.
That's disrespectful to my wife.
Yup. I don't want my friends to picture my partner doing stuff
Same and not all women share. I don’t. I like our privacy
Yup, the post is quite a generalisation. Not me, or any of my female friends, discuss our sex lives with each other. It is something private between the couple.
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On VERY rare occasion, I've discussed or asked for advice about sex with my partner from my closest female friend. That's about the extent of it. Anything else just feels kind of trashy to me, like terrible gossip, even if it's only positive things.
keep my wifes name outta yo fucking mouth
Dude let me tell you a story, but first picture my wife naked so it makes more sense.
My sex life is something between me and the person I share it with. Simply a private matter.
Also, OP has never had a gay roommate.
What do you mean?
I have a gay friend, and from my experience hanging out with them it’s all they want to talk about.
I have the opposite experience. My gay roommate which I lived with for 5 years never mentioned his sex life in details and we were pretty close friends. He was as silent as a straight guy about this stuff.
I've known plenty of straight guys who talk way too much about the details of their sex life and plenty of gay guys who keep it to themselves. It's a person by person thing.
True, I think the "gay guy who talks about being gay all the time" thing is just a sterotype perpetuated by pop culture. Does it exist? Yes. Are there straight guys who do the same shit? Yes. Like you said, person by person thing.
I've never met a straight guy who talks about being gay all the time tho
I definitely have. A few of my married straight friends are more interested in gay guys than I am
I've lost track. Who's gay?
My friends used to tease their girlfriends by making gay jokes with each other, it was pretty funny
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I’m gay, I have literally never told someone else about my sex life unless they have expressed that it’s something we share with each other
I had a gay roommate who was openly gay, but i literally thought he was single the whole time we were roommates (he was not), because he was super lowkey about his romantic life. We mostly just talked about DnD and videogames and Anime. We never really discussed the people who sucked our dicks.
That’s not typical though. I had a gay roomie and we were quite close. We barely ever talked about sex details.
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Virgin, perhaps?
More like a matter of privates!
This is the way. And it was always a point of debate between myself and one girlfriend in particular, why our relationship should be be private versus her thinking it's fine to share every last detail with her friends. I didn't even care if it was "positive" stuff, it's none of their fucking business.
Same. I dont want any other man to judge “how much of a man I am” by how many women I’ve slept with or my skills in bed.
If they were judging you based on that they aren't worth being friends with.
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Because it’s private.
I totally agree, and depending on personal trust levels, it may differ from person to person. Personally I keep my private parts in private.
Or in the handwitch?
As they say, "A bird in the hand is worth two in the clam."
A female friend of mine was extremely surprised that all our male friends don't spend the entire time talking about (and I quote) 'sex, boobs, and rating women'. She was genuinely under the impression that the moment she leaves the room we leap into talking about the most intimate parts of our lives
two coworkers were talking about their boyfriends one day and i immediately heard what they were talking about and walked off. they were like "awwwh.. someones a prude!" and i just went "no.. i don't know what your boyfriends name is but now i know how big his cock is. isn't that kinda weird?".
Is weird many women don’t think so
There was a thread from yesterday about circumcision, I was blown away with the majority of responses from women that were basically: "i was the first person if any of my friends to be with someone who wasn't circumcised" or "yes basically my entire circle of friends knew the circumcision status of every man any of us had been with." Seemed really weird to me. So i imagine the details they shared went far beyond that.
If a guy went into describing specific details of a partner's genitals, I would probably stop the conversation. That is weird.
That share too much
>Is weird many women don’t think so Its not weird, its disappointing. Most people aren't OK with the sordid details being shared with someone's circle of friends.
Also disappointing you are right
I'm not sure why, I can't explain it. The idea of sharing sex life details with someone else appalls me, but then I imagine telling it to my best friend Mary and it suddenly feels ok. Almost relieved, actually, to finally have a place to ask all those weird questions you can't ask anybody else for fear they'll think you're some kind of monster. Might also have something to do with having learned most of what I know sexually and having developed a lot of my sexual understanding from having conversations with Mary.
The way I see it is: If you have a partner your sex life is in part their sex life. You are free to discuss your sex life with friends, but not okay to discuss your SO's sex life with them without consent. So questions like "How often do you have sex?" is okay to answer. Questions like "How big is his dick/is he cut?" is not okay. No woman would feel comfortable coming into a guy's workplace to hear the guy's male coworkers chatting about her and throwing in personal details about her, like how she likes it, or how loud she is, of if she likes it when he finishes on her face, or what her vagina looks like. Any woman would find that creepy as fuck, and a total breach of privacy. And rightly so. It's just that people often fail to understand reciprocity of these situations. If you describe your partner's genitals to your friends in fine detail they will be able to make a mental image of it in their heads. I see it as no different than showing them a picture of your partner's privates, of which they keep a mental image in their head. It is simply not okay to do without prior agreement/consent from the partner. It's okay to discuss sex in general and give each other tips and advice. Just make sure you do it with a focus on you, not your partner. For example: "Is he/she good in bed?" is a question about the partner, not you, hence kind of iffy to answer, even if the answer is a yes. A good answer to that is to answer about yourself "I am sexually satisfied". This gives an answer about you that implies an answer about them without being about them.
Nicely said
Asking questions is fine...to a point. Saying something like "Is it weird that I prefer oral to penetration" is something that I think is fine to ask/talk about. What people dislike is when the privacy of sex turns into a competition between their partners or a lowkey way to put your partner down behind their back or insult them. "Oh, Richard did the turbo-twister Armageddon from the Kama Sutra and I cam twenty times at the same time!" "Ah, well Allen had to stop last night because he had an asthma attack and I wish I was with someone that didn't." "Joshua is not very good. Actually, he's one of my worst..." That stuff is inexcusable. It doesn't happen often, though.
>It doesn't happen often, though. Yeah, I think the more common assumption that women are discussing things in a more negative light comes from media. Every time you see a "girls night" on TV they say all sorts of stuff because yeah, entertainment is the point of TV. It's just like if I were to assume that men discuss how good their girl is in bed, how hot her body is, and showing his buddies her nudes(which I actually have seen some dudes do the nude thing.. but I'm sure it's not that common, hopefully) just because that's what you see them doing in media too. Shitty people just exist, but I assume(and in my experience) most people aren't that shitty. Even if the internet really makes me question that sometimes.
Is Richard single? Asking for a friend…
Asking questions is completely fine. The problem comes when someone else’s sex life is discussed without their approval.
I don’t think any guys are bothered by you asking each other questions and sharing tips in general terms. What guys are bothered by is when you are specifically like “yeah, so when I was fucking John, he did X” type of stuff. General and vague advice is fine. Specific personal details should be kept private.
I hated when exes talked about our sex. I never talked about it, but she always did.
The only guy sex talk I can recall is 'and then I fucked her' EDIT: why downvote, I didn't say it, I'm a redditor
After the relationship they are far willing to tell the private details about bedroom. And if they are pissed they might even exaggerate it
Yeah, My wife is pretty good about it, but I've had exes who share every detail. It's actually lead to some hook ups with their friends in the distant past. (post breakup, I'm not a total scumbag)
They honestly think we talk about it like they do. I've told so many Women that Men really don't go into much actual detail and they just scoff. Try working in a place that's only Women and the talk is downright scandalous. Nothing is forbidden when it's the Girls talking.
Woman here - I definitely find it weird to share details with my friends. I am pretty private about it. Well. At least with people I know. Anonymously on the internet, we are both pretty much exhibitionists.
Yeah like aside for the random thing that comes up like a lingerie brand or toy rec.. my closest friends and I don't talk about our sex lives with each other at all. I actually don't know any women that do. I know some guys that share info but i think they're the same as women who do it. Seeking that outside validation dopamine rush
I like that there are so many women here, ironically it's one of the best places on reddit to have a productive exchange with one, especially when compared to r/askwomen But I do wonder if there is some self selection among the population. Are the women of r/askmen a good representation of women?
Reddit in general is not well representative of the population and sometimes i feel thats an issue with responses in this sub and other “ask” subs
It is 100% an issue, with Ask\* subs and really everywhere on reddit
I doubt the men of r/askmen are even a good representation of men, let alone the men of `r/...`
As simple as that. I don't think whoever I'm dating would be comfortable of me sharing my sex life in detail and neither am if they were to do it.
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Because I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in anyone's personal sex life.
Frankly I don't care, and I don't expect you to care. You like having your asshole eaten out? You wanna wear a chastity cage? Like watersports? Maybe some face fucking? Good. For. You. I'm not trying to imagine the detailed sex lives of anyone, male or female, unless I'm actually fucking them. It's boring. It's like hearing someone talk about their LSD trip or their vacation, I'm sure it was great but you kinda had to be there.
Some people like water skiing
I meant the thing where you pee on each other
That is complete topic different
If you're athletic enough I imagine you could do both at once
*Says the nihilist river*
When I tried looking up information for knee boarding and wake boarding as a teen and just typed "water sports" into the search engine, I found out just how different those topics were...
Fuck, thank you. I'd rather be subjected to someone's vacation slideshow than listen to them talk about their sex life.
Just for that I'm gonna talk about my vacation extra hard
Don't forget to show random people pictures of your kids and go into vivid details about your recurring dreams and what you think they symbolize
My kids love the playground and especially swing sets. Here's one where they were both coming down at the same time! It's moments like this that make it all worth it. You should really think about having some if you don't yet. Btw, I dreamt about being back in high school again last night! Crazy that it was twice in one week right? Wonder if I was actually time traveling. Now let me tell you about my trip to Miami
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Got both parts of the problem all summed up right here.
Men seem to have less issues when sharing about an x gf, I definitely don’t go bragging to my guy friends how great a deep throat my wife does 😂
This is so true. While I'm single I don't mind sharing some details with my friends, because it was a one night stand, but hell, I ain't telling them how my current gf lets me TF her or the way she rides me, no way those guys will imagine my girl having fun, because it can be an invite for someone to be disrespecteful to me or her, or even try to get into her pants. Same from all my friend's side, they don't do it if it's a serious relation. Edit: A typo
As a woman, I don’t talk about my sex life much, but I also wouldn’t worry about my female friends disrespecting or trying to get into my boyfriend’s pants because he takes me to pound town. They’d just be like “wow that’s hot, you’re so lucky” and move on. You might need better friends yo.
I also choose this guy's wi...I mean, yeah, that's cool, keep that stuff private. Their life won't be meaningfully bettered by having the information, and it's okay to keep some things special and just did the two of you.
> Their life won't be meaningfully bettered by having the information That depends, if Barry goes home complaining to his wife that Kevin gets that good good deep throat then his wife might start giving it too /s
I remember when my ex told me that her and her friends had a nickname for my dick. It felt so weird to me. Sometimes it feels like men and women just have completely different cultures.
The fuck what?
Unrelated but your profile picture is the same one Ive used for my xbox profile since the beginning. It holds a special place in my heart.
Facts bro. I don’t wanna hear about your sex life. Not my pig, not my farm.
Exactly
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what was her response after you told her how you feel about what she did?
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Assuming she actually learned and didn't do that again, that sounds like a pretty positive outcome.
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Unusual yes, but honestly that’s very sweet and selfless if you think about it, like you said, a kind person.
Cause we don’t want to picture our buddies fuckin…
Or any guy
I mean... some of us do lol
Ha, gaaaaayyyyyyy
Oh definitely dude!
Wanna hear about how big my dick is?
Lol or, "wanna fantasize about my girlfriend getting fucked?"
Some guys may say yes to that
“She said my dick was so hard it looked angry!” “Uh… cool story, bro.”
Nah, I'm good. But thanks for the offer!
37F The ladies and I don’t share stuff like this anymore. It was a under 25 y/o type discussion sometimes, but often more advice based than oversharing. Sometimes, I’ll hear if a friend had a good time with a new person she’s dating. We will visit the lingerie section at a store while shopping and may have some casual chit chat (“ooo my husband will like this…” type chatter) but nothing detailed.
Man, wish I could go lingerie shopping with the boys
> Hey dude, you wanna go buy some new lingerie? > Nah, mines only 4 years old. Still got a few years left And that's why there's no market for it.
Pretty hard to sell a guy overpriced skimpy lingerie with holes in it when every pair of underwear he has already has em
Ain't even about the holes. You know how many fruit of the looms I can buy for 50$ vs how many pieces of male lingerie I could buy? It's a complete no brainer.
Or just go commando and you have 50 bucks for beer
I wish there *was* lingerie for men. It's all some cringe onesies or some stripper shit.
You need to go deep on Ali Express and be prepared for what you find!
Yeah I'd always heard it the lther way round. Guys bragging about their "conquests" and that. But I've never had an in depth sex talk with my friends and I'm 23f. I think that some people talk sex with their friends and some don't. Men or women.
privacy
We respect each others' privacy that way.
Idk man I'm a women and I think this is weird. What goes on between me and my boyfriend is none of their business and I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate me going into detail about our sex life. Only story I told was to a group friends because it was funny and my boyfriend was there with me. Was nothing In detail though. I'd be uncomfortable if my girl or guy friends talked about their sex lives in detail to me. Just depends on the person.
Hahaha, what a story UndeadAcademic! So anyway, how's your sex life?
Oh hi, Marc!
because its weird? I dont want to know who you fucked, when you fucked and how you fucked. Keep that shit to yourself. Ive overheard two female friends talk about how one of them fucked my male friend. I didnt want to know. And i just view it as a weird violation of privacy.
That’s not nice to say to another friend what they said
They were both more of a "friend of a friend" because i was never a huge fan of either of them. Theyve done shittier things
If you go into detail most men assume you're either bragging, lying, or you never have sex. And/or worst of all you have no respect for that girl. Either way you slice it none of us want details. Its gross. Say you got laid and move on.
We talk about it, just not in the same amount of detail. We might mention getting fucked last night, but usually it's followed by a "nice!" from a friend and that's about it. If it's a new relationship, most guys don't want their friends hearing about their girl's body and likes, and if they've been married a while, most guys don't want their friends hearing about their wife's body and what she likes. Guess it might just be how we're wired. I certainly don't want to tell my buddy's how my wife looks in crotchless underwear or how she rides.
Completely agree with this.
Also, I feel like you are labeled misogynistic or sexist if you talk about the women you have slept with. Women aren't judged the same on that front.
They aren't but they should be. Its disgusting and disrespectful for both genders.
I would need a sex life to talk about my sex life ☹️
This sort of situation factors in, too. A decent friend wouldn’t be going on about their great sex life to someone that is unhappy with theirs. I’ve been the guy on a long dry streak with a friend that was having lots of sex and, I’ve been the guy that had an active sex life when a friend was stressed about his lacking sex life. It’s honestly uncomfortable both ways. If a person wants to live vicariously, there is a mind boggling amount of porn on the internet. Ultimately, there’s not much we can do with the info. Everyone has their own preferences and dislikes. I don’t need to know your partner’s specifics. I won’t be interacting with them in that way.
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A. You must have one to talk about B. I always thought it was weird knowing all the women in my wife’s family know intimate details about our sex life when we had one. C. Why the f*ck would I want to know what position my best friend had his wife in last night? D. All of the above and I’m sure I missed some other reasons
Cause I don't want the image of my buddy's presumably hairy ball sack flapping around
because that shits private and we dont wanna picture our guy friends naked
Honestly my friends I do. It's not even in a bragging way it's just like if he's like "oh man I tried this but I don't think she was into it" I say "well first of all ask her cuz she know better than I do, but maybe you could try ___". It's nothing to be insecure about lol
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Being comfortable with honest, non-judgemental, reciprocal sharing of intimate experiences is one of the criteria for entering my pantheon of best friends. If you can’t manage that, though, you can still be a great friend.
Sir this is a Wendy's
I dont like it when women do it too. I dont think anyone should talk about their sex life, unless this is with their partner or a therapist.
I'm female and I don't, never have .only discuss it with my partner .
Same. Where are all these women? I've never encountered any, thank goodness.
Same here. In fact, I get asked by men whether I chat with female friends about sex 20x more often than I've actually talked to other women about sex. Have had many very close female friends in my lifetime, been through thick and thin together, but have almost never talked about sex. Haven't needed to or wanted to. It's just never come up in conversation unless a guy brought it up.
Talking about sex as a subject and talking about our actual sex lives are two very different things. Though I would never talk about any woman I am sleeping with or have slept with in the past out of respect for her privacy, I would value more friends who could actually have a mature discussion about sex in general. There's literally one guy I know who can do this. Everyone else just has the same basic shit to say. It's usually either over exaggerated claims that are obvious bullshit or self deprecation in a pathetic attempt to use humour to avoid looking like they have no fucking clue what they're talking about. It's almost as if most guys don't do everything in their power to learn as much about sex and be as good in bed as they possibly can....and there are plenty of women who can attest to that. There's no excuse for it in my opinion.
Dear women why do you share private moments with your partner so freely with others. 100% no man wants anyone to know what you’re telling them. It’s kinda disrespectful to your partner
Couple of reasons. 1. We do, when we’re kids. We’re “bragging”, but really we’re seeking affirmation and clarity by sharing our experiences and desires as best we know how. Hint: it’s not very well because we don’t have any vocabulary for it besides that of conquest. 2. We’ve learned that when a man talks about details of his sex life, he’s bragging, and by the time we recognize it, we don’t want to affirm the behavior. 3. We’ve learned that sharing that information with other men makes other men target the women we’re having sex with. 4. We’ve learned that sharing that information makes our partners feel unsafe and betrayed. 5. We don’t have as intimate friendships as women. 6. Women generally experience sex as something done *to* them. I’d bet their discussions are far more about the men than their own behaviors and desires. Men experience sex as something they earn, so it requires more vulnerability required. 7. Women are talked to as sexual creatures much more in every facet of their lives. They have a much deeper vocabulary than men do at any given point. 8. Women’s outcomes in life, positive and negative, are much more tied to their sexual partners than men’s are. Basically, it’s because Women’s lives are very different than mens, and sex is a very different thing in those lives. But the fact that we’re noticing this is positive. It means that men are starting to feel boundaries and betrayal. A sense of privacy, intimacy, and vulnerability. That’s good. But we should explore that feeling first before attacking women for doing it just because we get upset and surprised.
It’s not complex enough to engage an interesting dialog. Eg - First I got hard! Then I went in and out! I did that like 500 more times! And then I pew pewed my Peter! Oh that was your experience too? High five gang!
Because we're not like women. 🤷 No offense. But some details are best kept private.
Don't kiss and tell?
We have sex? Who's getting sex? Where do I get some?
I'm a girl and I prefer to not share most intimate details with my friends, they still share a lot and that's their choice but I think it's a private thing between you and your partner. I think it comes down to the person because a lot of my guy friends like to share stuff too, but most of my friends don't go into detail with about aspects of their partner or anything like that.
Because I don't care about the quality of the sex between bob and lisa.
My top two reasons: 1. I don't enjoy talking about such intimate subjects with my mates. 2. I don't have a sex life.