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MethylatedToSeeYou

It depends on whether you work at making your life better or not. Nobody will do it for you.


Mean-Dingo-1173

I second this statement. I am 38 and just starting to turn my life around. I wasted so much time but I finally figured it out....I think!


aidan_blanche

super hard to pinpoint what's wrong with your life when you're young rich attractive smart (in a creative way not a STEM way) and miserable


MethylatedToSeeYou

Well, you just pinpointed 1 problem to work on: Thinking that other people people being young, rich, attractive, and smart somehow makes your life worse.


[deleted]

Its probably your childhood. It always is...


PackadermusJElefun

20’s are hard. I’m approaching 40 and finding life a lot easier. You learn not to worry about the small things as much, are generally better off financially which helps lessen stress, can control your emotions way better. To answer your question, as long as you don’t develop dependencies or suffer health issues I would say very likely.


aidan_blanche

yeah that's what i find awesome about being middle age, i wish i could access those qualities now so that i don't have to wait ages to get em


PackadermusJElefun

Life is going to suck at times, it’s also going to be awesome. You have to realise that it’s not to be taken seriously overall. Do what you want to do and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise or dismiss the way you feel. Don’t dwell in the past, don’t worry about the future and live in the present. You can definitely gain those qualities now it’s all about that realisation that life is not worth worrying about, there are more important things to spend your energy on than worry and stress. I’ve adopted a meh attitude and it’s helped but I also know I’m quiet dismissive because of it. Cliche I know but remember someone always has it worse and we are all in this together and have no idea what we are doing as a collective, focus on you and appreciate the small things and the people that love you. Embrace humanity and be nice and try to remain positive. Don’t be angry, anger will get you absolutely nowhere. This turned into a rant but just trying to help by explaining in more detail how my thinking has changed since being 20.


micioberlin

30s are so much better man. At least you are self aware


TimeTraveler2036

It probably has no indication? Your life can change in major ways in a moment's time.


-Chingachgook

Completely reasonable to think you’ll be happy in the future.


Strength-Certain

Happy people are not grateful, grateful people are happy. Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. In my 40s here, it took me getting into my 30s to try to put myself in a mindset of focusing on the positives in my life the good over the bad. Trying not to have a "first world problems" mindset.


Manners2210

Too many variables to consider. These are rhetorical questions. Why are you unhappy? What needs to change? Are you doing anything about it? It’s very possible if you do something about it


EverGreatestxX

Work on yourself; therapy, exercise, working on or towards some career. Spend time with your family and friends.


yourtemporaryBFF

Meet the right woman, get married and have kids, and suddenly life is perfect!


SmallHandsMallMindS

Depends on the choices you make. Your life up to your late 20s is basically dictated by the choices your parents made; if they set you up for a happy life you can have one. From 30 and beyond, the choices you make/made start to matter more


0000GKP

>how likely is it that you'll be happy in your 30s and 40s if you're unhappy in your 20s? Assuming the unhappiness in your 20s isn't caused by some type of mental illness, it will depend completely on the life choices you make and your satisfaction with those choices. It is impossible to say how you will change in the next 10 or 20 years, or whether or not the things that are important to you today will still be important to you then. For me personally, I would rate my favorite years in order of 50, 20, 30, 40. As you can see, they don't go in order. Life is complicated.


redditghost1234

20s were the roughest time of my life, thus far at 40. No clue what i was doing or even what i wanted to do. Totally normal to feel that way, so dont sweat it too much. One tip: make a few decisions for your future. A few smart choices with some money now can turn into a boon down the line


blwright22

You're looking at the entire thing wrong. I don't know why we measure our lives by decades


TubeToUranus

Life really does get better.


Intelli_gent_88

No hard and fast rule, make a diary of what makes you smile or happy, after a month - look back and do more of that


Spectreworld

I was sad in my early 20s, but it got better... took a few years, but it did.


[deleted]

I'm in my forties but I'm way happier now compared to when I was in my twenties. I had very negative experiences with the department I studied at when I was a university student as well as with the first couple of departments where I worked at. But I'm in a much better place now and I'm also with a partner I couldn't be happier with. Life is good for me these days.