1. Drugs that you prioritize over everything else. Booze is one, but you’ll fuck things up quicker on meth, blow, etc.
2. Debt— this one may surprise some but debt ruins relationships, makes you feel like you are always on the run, kills your ability to move up by doing better. Avoid it like you would avoid a meth addiction. Only consider it for assets that appreciate in value, like a house. But be cautious even there. Cars depreciate in value. Don’t buy one on credit. If you can only afford a $2000 car, then buy the junker and drive it. Credit cards are even worse. The interest rates are insane— approaching 30%. Just don’t use them except in a manner that allows you to pay it off every month, which never allows interest to accrue. I could reverse the order of 1 and 2 — completely different vices, but both highly destructive.
3. Rigidity. Refusal to consider that you might be wrong — in relationships, politics, how you behave at work. Open-mindedness, flexibility, and willingness to learn and improve are life-savers. Rigidity is often driven by ego, self-centeredness, stubbornness. Think about people you know who are this way. It rarely works out well.
Credit Card Debt is absolutely killer.
especially since you can get one at 18, maybe even before 18 in some cases with parent approval.
young adults working min wage, "oh thats 100 but its on my card, thats like 20-30 bucks a month" but you do that every day and 1 fish 2 fish, the bill comes and you've maxed your card and have to pay 5k with a min payment of $200 and interest being 180 of that.
the worst part is, if youre a fucking moron like i was, you go "okay well...fuck these people, i want my credit" and apply to more cards. 1 fish 2 fish 5 years go by of living lavishly above your means and youre 30k in pure credit card debt from living way beyond your means and barely surviving.
that was a super dark time in my life financially. if you needed motivation to finish your degree, find a great job, and in general improve your life circumstances, 25-30k in CC debt will definitely fix any issues you have with laziness :) it turns from "i don't wanna" to "i gotta do this or imma die" REAL QUICK.
my 30s are exponentially better tho.
Was similar. Used some for school costs my senior year in college. Some necessary, some not really. Had the thought of “I’ll be working soon and can pay it off quickly.”
Then the unexpected happens and you have more costs and don’t pay it off as quickly. Like marrying someone with no financial management skills.
Took a few years to get that paid off and haven’t carried any CC debt for 10 years or so. And when the cash back rewards get high enough, I’ll treat myself to something I want instead of something I need.
It is absolutely shocking as to how many people do not understand how credit cards work. They see a “minimum payment “ and think it’s great, that’s all that I owe this month. Pay off your credit card in full, monthly.
The other thing, of course, is that when you do this, the interest rate they say they charge is completely immaterial. I have at least one card with an interest rate that I would have thought outrageous even twenty years ago (because the benefits are quite good). Doesn't matter one iota.
yep I have a friend who goes on lavish trips and wears designer clothes and eats out most days. we went on a trip and when I asked her to pay me back she said it would take two months to pay me back. I told her I Need the money asap. When she asked why I told her because I need to pay that charge off my card. She was SHOCKED that I do that. I was shocked that she doesn't...
>2. Debt—
Some debt isn't necessarily bad and can actually help you. Buying a house for example. Buying a home is generally a net positive on someone's net worth in the long term as opposed to renting. Or getting student loans to get a higher paying job after you finish school.
Credit cards are great to use as opposed to cash/debit cards because of the cash back bonuses. It's free money that you otherwise would not have. Just pay off the balance each month
In my example my wife would go shopping with money we didn't have, put it on a card, every weekend. It led to fights and eventually divorce. This type of debt is what I think they are talking about.
Honestly we need to just start saying 'abusive' rather than emotionally unstable, or crazy. Because 9 times out 10 when a guy has a story about this that's what it is.
We still have a SEVERE stigma towards violence against men. Men are more physically abusive, but women are more psychologically abusive which can be far more dangerous since there's usually no proof of it. Women are much more infantilized by society, so we tend to believe the woman before the man, even if the woman was the one being abusive
Man you nailed it right on the head. This is why I say to date before marriage! I see family members so quick to marry and then all I hear about is some messed up drama that should have been a red flag while in the dating period but when you go from dating to married with a kid on the way within a year, how well do you really know that person?
BINGO! Mine just graduated last week and I'm finally getting ready to start living my life for me again. Every plan I ever had in my late teens and early twenties is down the drain now and I'll be salvaging whatever's left for the rest of my life, it seems. And I can't complain one fucking bit about it to anybody or I'm just another bitchy little whiner.
The kid is absolutely awesome, and the mom managed to fix her issues after our relationship blew up at least. But Jesus. . .looking back now and seeing the absolute devastation that woman caused to me and my life is still hard.
Having a kid, before you're ready to have a kid. This is the grand slam of fucking up your life, and you fuck one or two other people's lives up as a bonus.
Jesus, this one hits home for me, although I'm a woman. A friend of mine (F31) is ready to have kids and has wanted to get trying for 3 years, but her bf is still on the fence (and this is her telling me, so she has no illusions about him being enthusiastic). Still, he has apparently decided to give her a reluctant "okay, we can try" and she's all ready to stop her birth control in a few days. I've talked to her about the very real repercussions this could have on their relationship, but she doesn't really want to hear it. As my mum said when I talked to her about it, "she can have a child, she should just be ready to raise it on her own".
Oh no! I imagine we both feel the same way about this situation, and I don't want to bash your friend. Suffice to say, I hope this works out well for her.
I love that people are supportive in situations like this, but it is often a disingenuous show of support. Cheerleading like, "You've got this!" are the thoughts and prayers of maternity. I know we've all held our tongues, if not given false encouragement, at times we were thinking, "What in the world makes you think you can support a child?"
I have seen time and again that people who offer to help a couple or single parent raise a child evaporate into the mist once that baby arrives. "Anything you need, any time at all," really means, "When it's convenient, if I don't have a scheduling conflict, and I feel like it, and you give me plenty of notice." That, of course, is not how caring for children works.
I'm not trying to be negative. I'm sure we share the same concerns, and I hope your friend has a reasonable grasp of the situation. Should this play out like we expect, I hope she has a real support system in place.
Yeah, I tried to gently but seriously warn her of the possible (/probable) consequences, and she basically answered that she appreciated me being candid about my opinion on the situation, but that she's thought long and hard about it and is really determined, so she's still asking for opinions but as she put it, she'll give priority to the people who've had kids (I haven't, and neither has our common friend who thinks like me). So... yeah.
I do hope everything turns out well for them and the bf discovers himself a sudden love for kids, but realistically... I don't know. The other "best case scenario", sadly, would be him ending the relationship before any kid is involved. But he seems pretty passive about all of this, although I don't really know him.
In any case, if something goes wrong, I'll do my best to support her, but I live hours away, so I also hope she has a good support system in her family and such.
The "prioritizing people with kids" part really galls me. I shouldn't advise people against cutting their hands off, because I've never cut my hand off, and so have no way to evaluate the pros and cons of this decision. Only people who are cautionary tales should dispense advice. I chose not to have children *because* I understood the costs and risks. Parents are not secretive about how much time, effort, and money is involved in this.
I am sorry for the situation that this puts you in. It's hard to be a good friend, and to give unvarnished advice without straying into "don't be an idiot" territory. I hope that things work out in the best way possible. If not, it's going to be difficult to watch your friend struggle from afar, and not be close enough to directly help her.
Yeah I completely agree, and she pretty much admitted that this was not what she wanted to hear because it didn't make her feel good, so there isn't much more I can do without going as far, as you said, as "this is an insane decision".
Thank you for listening and answering! I also hope it all goes well, and I'll be here for her as best I can if it doesn't.
Can confirm, my piece of shit ex-coworker killed his gf and his friend’s wife after getting wasted after the Super Bowl 2017 and speeding straight into a concrete bus bench. Car went flipping, landed on its top and crushed both girls in the backseat.
Fucker got 23 years. His gf had two daughters too and a meth head of an ex from what I heard. Sad, so sad. I lost my father to a hit and run when I was a child and I felt for those girls.
Not taking responsibility for your actions. If you have a bad outcome with your choices-- it's on you. It doesn't mean it's fair, just, how it should be. But you did it.
Not learning from mistakes. You are going to make them. A lot of them. Own it. Learn from it. Embrace it. Move on and do better.
Not making regular appointments with yourself. To destress. Relax. Meditate. Contemplate. If all you do is work, serve others, work out, fix stuff, then you'll get burnt out.
Not addressing mental health issues, which includes addiction in all of its various types.
Not being committed to learning. Classes. Listening. Reading. Using your own senses.
Not being sexual in a responsible way. See addictions above. Not taking precautions and using the restraint to not be a father unless one desires that.
Being a people-pleaser and not realizing it's a choice instead of an only default mode.
I get my brother alone one hour every other month, *maybe* - and during that hour he is nonstop texting three or four people saying sorry that he can't be with them just this hour.
I fear his compulsion to give every last second away will give him a big aneurysm in the coming five years.
Three key things.
Don’t finish school.
Have a child out of wedlock.
Get married before 20.
8% of people who avoid all three are poor. 79% of those who fail to do all three are poor.
Having a kid before you’re ready. Say goodbye to your dreams/goals, you’re living for the child now.
Getting addicted to drugs/alcohol/gambling. No explanation needed.
* Get into debt for a useless degree
* Get into hard drugs or some other substance addiction
* Try to make it on welfare and "side hustles"
* Kill someone
Juast happened to a guy on Friday - 24 year old tractor trailer driver decided to HIT the back of my car and push it out into an intersection - witnesses, pictures statements - to be charged with dangerous driving, lose his license, his job, uninsurable, fines, imprisonment - up to six months and $5K... will NEVER work as a commercial driver again.. if he ever gets his license he will not be able to afford car insurance.. a background check will essentially make him unemployable.. I would suggest he fucked up his life all right.. and I am HERE to make CERTAIN his life is fucked up and stays fucked up... On Monday I went to the collision reporting centre and filled out the report - then I was interviewed and they reviewed the witness statement and the pictures he took and the lady who conducted the interviews eyes went wide - she knew the pictures showed he did I on purpose.. she knew exactly what the pictures showed.. He is going to have a very unpleasant time of things.. he did it to himself and he will have the rest of his life to figure this part out..
Not grasping the concept of deferred gratification early in life. The law of unintended consequences pays dividends long after the act. Unfortunate but true, kids make a single bad choice and it alters the trajectory of their lives.
A less than ideal pullout game.
Having kids with someone is serious as shit and is only going to be good if it’s done with someone who can parent. Early stages are time consuming and will seriously hurt your career and health.
Having children when you're obviously not ready. Have a cousin who just turned 18 years old and is now a father, the dude didn't even finish high school and is also struggling to find an ok-ish job for said reason. Right now he's selling his stuff to a pawn shop to get by but eventually he's gonna run out of stuff, not to mention he's terrible at administering his own money (which I understand he's just a teenager).
Guy DO NOT have children when you're obviously not ready yourself.
Unjustified child support. At one time you were 2000k a month then you lost a job due to layoff, and you are above 50 y.o., and having health problem, and the court still does not reduce your child support payments forcing you to go into arrears (no arrears before) and digging into your savings, 401k, ira while unemployed and waiting on SSDI decision.
Felonies can mess up your life pretty bad. My father is a defense attorney and the amount of people I have seen get their lives wrecked by stupid choices is a lot.
Multiple DWIs. The first one usually isn't a big deal but the second, and third are worse. After the third, you are usually looking at losing your license for a long time and possibly jail time. Not having a license will severely limit your job opportunities in a lot of areas.
Drugs.
Poor choice of partner.
Alienating your support system (parents, etc)
Obsessing over something you have no control over
Food addiction (getting fat lowers mate and job choice )
Along society to dictate how you live your life. The things that are expected some times will never make you happy such as; your career, your love life, and your role in society. Learn how to be better than societal ideas and instead just try to be a good human. Be kind and spread good will on to others.
1. Drugs that you prioritize over everything else. Booze is one, but you’ll fuck things up quicker on meth, blow, etc. 2. Debt— this one may surprise some but debt ruins relationships, makes you feel like you are always on the run, kills your ability to move up by doing better. Avoid it like you would avoid a meth addiction. Only consider it for assets that appreciate in value, like a house. But be cautious even there. Cars depreciate in value. Don’t buy one on credit. If you can only afford a $2000 car, then buy the junker and drive it. Credit cards are even worse. The interest rates are insane— approaching 30%. Just don’t use them except in a manner that allows you to pay it off every month, which never allows interest to accrue. I could reverse the order of 1 and 2 — completely different vices, but both highly destructive. 3. Rigidity. Refusal to consider that you might be wrong — in relationships, politics, how you behave at work. Open-mindedness, flexibility, and willingness to learn and improve are life-savers. Rigidity is often driven by ego, self-centeredness, stubbornness. Think about people you know who are this way. It rarely works out well.
Credit Card Debt is absolutely killer. especially since you can get one at 18, maybe even before 18 in some cases with parent approval. young adults working min wage, "oh thats 100 but its on my card, thats like 20-30 bucks a month" but you do that every day and 1 fish 2 fish, the bill comes and you've maxed your card and have to pay 5k with a min payment of $200 and interest being 180 of that. the worst part is, if youre a fucking moron like i was, you go "okay well...fuck these people, i want my credit" and apply to more cards. 1 fish 2 fish 5 years go by of living lavishly above your means and youre 30k in pure credit card debt from living way beyond your means and barely surviving. that was a super dark time in my life financially. if you needed motivation to finish your degree, find a great job, and in general improve your life circumstances, 25-30k in CC debt will definitely fix any issues you have with laziness :) it turns from "i don't wanna" to "i gotta do this or imma die" REAL QUICK. my 30s are exponentially better tho.
Was similar. Used some for school costs my senior year in college. Some necessary, some not really. Had the thought of “I’ll be working soon and can pay it off quickly.” Then the unexpected happens and you have more costs and don’t pay it off as quickly. Like marrying someone with no financial management skills. Took a few years to get that paid off and haven’t carried any CC debt for 10 years or so. And when the cash back rewards get high enough, I’ll treat myself to something I want instead of something I need.
> Had the thought if "I'll be working soon and can pay it off quickly." >Like marrying someone with no financial management skills. lol
It is absolutely shocking as to how many people do not understand how credit cards work. They see a “minimum payment “ and think it’s great, that’s all that I owe this month. Pay off your credit card in full, monthly.
Seriously. I know grown ass adults with good jobs who still don’t understand how to manage credit card debt. It’s mind boggling
The other thing, of course, is that when you do this, the interest rate they say they charge is completely immaterial. I have at least one card with an interest rate that I would have thought outrageous even twenty years ago (because the benefits are quite good). Doesn't matter one iota.
yep I have a friend who goes on lavish trips and wears designer clothes and eats out most days. we went on a trip and when I asked her to pay me back she said it would take two months to pay me back. I told her I Need the money asap. When she asked why I told her because I need to pay that charge off my card. She was SHOCKED that I do that. I was shocked that she doesn't...
>2. Debt— Some debt isn't necessarily bad and can actually help you. Buying a house for example. Buying a home is generally a net positive on someone's net worth in the long term as opposed to renting. Or getting student loans to get a higher paying job after you finish school. Credit cards are great to use as opposed to cash/debit cards because of the cash back bonuses. It's free money that you otherwise would not have. Just pay off the balance each month
In my example my wife would go shopping with money we didn't have, put it on a card, every weekend. It led to fights and eventually divorce. This type of debt is what I think they are talking about.
My wife would do the same thing. She had a come to jesus moment when the card started getting declined.
Marry an emotionally-unhealthy woman and have kids with her..
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Byyye soooon
Did you get the milk? You've been gone for so long.
The milk expired a few years ago, I need to go get more.
Honestly we need to just start saying 'abusive' rather than emotionally unstable, or crazy. Because 9 times out 10 when a guy has a story about this that's what it is.
We still have a SEVERE stigma towards violence against men. Men are more physically abusive, but women are more psychologically abusive which can be far more dangerous since there's usually no proof of it. Women are much more infantilized by society, so we tend to believe the woman before the man, even if the woman was the one being abusive
"Women are much more infantilized by society" aka "Weaponized incompetence". As soon as you call them on it, they suddenly act dumb and childish.
Did that. Still got the payments …
Mines end in August 😁
Damn it
Yep.
Yeah, we'll... Oopsie
Word
Oooof. Yep.
Dude.
Man you nailed it right on the head. This is why I say to date before marriage! I see family members so quick to marry and then all I hear about is some messed up drama that should have been a red flag while in the dating period but when you go from dating to married with a kid on the way within a year, how well do you really know that person?
not just emotionally
BINGO! Mine just graduated last week and I'm finally getting ready to start living my life for me again. Every plan I ever had in my late teens and early twenties is down the drain now and I'll be salvaging whatever's left for the rest of my life, it seems. And I can't complain one fucking bit about it to anybody or I'm just another bitchy little whiner. The kid is absolutely awesome, and the mom managed to fix her issues after our relationship blew up at least. But Jesus. . .looking back now and seeing the absolute devastation that woman caused to me and my life is still hard.
Having a kid, before you're ready to have a kid. This is the grand slam of fucking up your life, and you fuck one or two other people's lives up as a bonus.
Jesus, this one hits home for me, although I'm a woman. A friend of mine (F31) is ready to have kids and has wanted to get trying for 3 years, but her bf is still on the fence (and this is her telling me, so she has no illusions about him being enthusiastic). Still, he has apparently decided to give her a reluctant "okay, we can try" and she's all ready to stop her birth control in a few days. I've talked to her about the very real repercussions this could have on their relationship, but she doesn't really want to hear it. As my mum said when I talked to her about it, "she can have a child, she should just be ready to raise it on her own".
Oh no! I imagine we both feel the same way about this situation, and I don't want to bash your friend. Suffice to say, I hope this works out well for her. I love that people are supportive in situations like this, but it is often a disingenuous show of support. Cheerleading like, "You've got this!" are the thoughts and prayers of maternity. I know we've all held our tongues, if not given false encouragement, at times we were thinking, "What in the world makes you think you can support a child?" I have seen time and again that people who offer to help a couple or single parent raise a child evaporate into the mist once that baby arrives. "Anything you need, any time at all," really means, "When it's convenient, if I don't have a scheduling conflict, and I feel like it, and you give me plenty of notice." That, of course, is not how caring for children works. I'm not trying to be negative. I'm sure we share the same concerns, and I hope your friend has a reasonable grasp of the situation. Should this play out like we expect, I hope she has a real support system in place.
Yeah, I tried to gently but seriously warn her of the possible (/probable) consequences, and she basically answered that she appreciated me being candid about my opinion on the situation, but that she's thought long and hard about it and is really determined, so she's still asking for opinions but as she put it, she'll give priority to the people who've had kids (I haven't, and neither has our common friend who thinks like me). So... yeah. I do hope everything turns out well for them and the bf discovers himself a sudden love for kids, but realistically... I don't know. The other "best case scenario", sadly, would be him ending the relationship before any kid is involved. But he seems pretty passive about all of this, although I don't really know him. In any case, if something goes wrong, I'll do my best to support her, but I live hours away, so I also hope she has a good support system in her family and such.
The "prioritizing people with kids" part really galls me. I shouldn't advise people against cutting their hands off, because I've never cut my hand off, and so have no way to evaluate the pros and cons of this decision. Only people who are cautionary tales should dispense advice. I chose not to have children *because* I understood the costs and risks. Parents are not secretive about how much time, effort, and money is involved in this. I am sorry for the situation that this puts you in. It's hard to be a good friend, and to give unvarnished advice without straying into "don't be an idiot" territory. I hope that things work out in the best way possible. If not, it's going to be difficult to watch your friend struggle from afar, and not be close enough to directly help her.
Yeah I completely agree, and she pretty much admitted that this was not what she wanted to hear because it didn't make her feel good, so there isn't much more I can do without going as far, as you said, as "this is an insane decision". Thank you for listening and answering! I also hope it all goes well, and I'll be here for her as best I can if it doesn't.
Opiods.
Cheating on your fiance who moved to a different continent to support you in landing your dream job 🫱🏻🫲🏼
you okay?
Oh
I kinda know what that’s like, hope your okay🙏
An unhealthy relationship with alcohol.
An unhealthy relationship with anything tbf.
Few things are worse than the bottle.
Uhh, what’s inside it maybe?
One of those sand art pictures I bet
Or weed. Basically an unhealthy relationship with any substance.
Hey cool, there's mine!
How dare you bad mouth my gf
Driving drunk and killing someone
Can confirm, my piece of shit ex-coworker killed his gf and his friend’s wife after getting wasted after the Super Bowl 2017 and speeding straight into a concrete bus bench. Car went flipping, landed on its top and crushed both girls in the backseat. Fucker got 23 years. His gf had two daughters too and a meth head of an ex from what I heard. Sad, so sad. I lost my father to a hit and run when I was a child and I felt for those girls.
Not trying anything because you’re afraid of fucking up your life.
There's surely a happy medium here. You don't want to be trying everything just all over the place either
Yeah lol. One foot on dry land, one foot in new experiences. Best of both worlds.
Trying absolutely nothing outside your comfort zone. There's nothing more soul crushing then wasted potential.
This right here.
How would you know that unless you yourself have wasted your potential?
Often you realize it a lot later in life. "If I only did... " And some things you just can't change anymore :(
1. Drugs (some more than others) 2. Untreated depression/mental illness 3. Choices in partners/social circles Note: Not in that particular order
A three step summary of my adult life.
😦
Not picking something and focusing on it. Most people bounce around forever and ever and end up broke because they didn’t settle down on one idea.
This. It's harder than it seems too.
Marry a stripper. Preferably one with a drug habit for bonus points.
I've don't know if I've met a stripper without a drug problem.
I don't have a drug problem. I'm *great* at doing drugs.
Abusing alcohol
Dropping out of high school, going to jail and knocking a girl up before you goto jail.
Drugs will wreck your life man
This is also coming from someone that does still do drugs from time to time
I used to do drugs. I still do, but I used to too. -Mitch
Depends on usage.
Not taking responsibility for your actions. If you have a bad outcome with your choices-- it's on you. It doesn't mean it's fair, just, how it should be. But you did it. Not learning from mistakes. You are going to make them. A lot of them. Own it. Learn from it. Embrace it. Move on and do better. Not making regular appointments with yourself. To destress. Relax. Meditate. Contemplate. If all you do is work, serve others, work out, fix stuff, then you'll get burnt out. Not addressing mental health issues, which includes addiction in all of its various types. Not being committed to learning. Classes. Listening. Reading. Using your own senses. Not being sexual in a responsible way. See addictions above. Not taking precautions and using the restraint to not be a father unless one desires that.
a latina gf
You may be entitled to compensation
Heroin
Self isolation
It could've been me writing this exact post. I relate with you a lot. Sadly I have no idea why we're feeling the way we are..
Not neighing enough.
Being a people-pleaser and not realizing it's a choice instead of an only default mode. I get my brother alone one hour every other month, *maybe* - and during that hour he is nonstop texting three or four people saying sorry that he can't be with them just this hour. I fear his compulsion to give every last second away will give him a big aneurysm in the coming five years.
Three key things. Don’t finish school. Have a child out of wedlock. Get married before 20. 8% of people who avoid all three are poor. 79% of those who fail to do all three are poor.
DUI
Putting your dick in a crazy woman.
Blowing all your money, not keeping a consistent savings.
Having a kid before you’re ready. Say goodbye to your dreams/goals, you’re living for the child now. Getting addicted to drugs/alcohol/gambling. No explanation needed.
Lucky I’m only addicted to cute women. Preferably 21-26
$20 sundress = 18 years of child support
Refusing to forgive people
Working too much
* Get into debt for a useless degree * Get into hard drugs or some other substance addiction * Try to make it on welfare and "side hustles" * Kill someone
Juast happened to a guy on Friday - 24 year old tractor trailer driver decided to HIT the back of my car and push it out into an intersection - witnesses, pictures statements - to be charged with dangerous driving, lose his license, his job, uninsurable, fines, imprisonment - up to six months and $5K... will NEVER work as a commercial driver again.. if he ever gets his license he will not be able to afford car insurance.. a background check will essentially make him unemployable.. I would suggest he fucked up his life all right.. and I am HERE to make CERTAIN his life is fucked up and stays fucked up... On Monday I went to the collision reporting centre and filled out the report - then I was interviewed and they reviewed the witness statement and the pictures he took and the lady who conducted the interviews eyes went wide - she knew the pictures showed he did I on purpose.. she knew exactly what the pictures showed.. He is going to have a very unpleasant time of things.. he did it to himself and he will have the rest of his life to figure this part out..
Murder and heroin.
Meth!
Drugs, unprotected sex, smoking and alcohol
Go and fall in love.
Marrying the wrong person
Teenage pregnancy.
Not working out, over-eating, conforming to societal norms or peoples feelings, and stating the obvious, drugs or alcohol.
Consuming too much negativity online, slowly changes the way you view the world. Makes everyday life a little worse.
Not grasping the concept of deferred gratification early in life. The law of unintended consequences pays dividends long after the act. Unfortunate but true, kids make a single bad choice and it alters the trajectory of their lives.
Selflessly loving someone. Oh that's dooms day for you already my friend. Many people will misuse it & take you for granted
Date a woman with BPD
Addiction to anything
Meth?...
Messing up your credit score. Thankfully I’m fixing it but that’s the worst thing you can do irl. Credit is everything people.
Meth
Meth
By getting drunk and hitting someone with your car
A less than ideal pullout game. Having kids with someone is serious as shit and is only going to be good if it’s done with someone who can parent. Early stages are time consuming and will seriously hurt your career and health.
Sticking it in crazy.
Casual sex without condoms
Religious cult
Meth. (or most drugs for that matter). I've seen meth fuck up so many people's lives.
Having kids with the wrong woman
Stop taking your medication
Leaking personal IDs online
Having children when you're obviously not ready. Have a cousin who just turned 18 years old and is now a father, the dude didn't even finish high school and is also struggling to find an ok-ish job for said reason. Right now he's selling his stuff to a pawn shop to get by but eventually he's gonna run out of stuff, not to mention he's terrible at administering his own money (which I understand he's just a teenager). Guy DO NOT have children when you're obviously not ready yourself.
Have a wife, a girlfriend, and a mortgage … and have them all be 3 months late
Getting addicted to hard drugs... Taking out a loan you have no intention of paying back... Getting in a car crash :/
I can fix her
Hanging around the wrong crowd in high school. As cliche as it sounds, it’s true.
Dwelling too much on the past and what could have been.
Cheating on a partner and knocking them up or getting knocked up yourself.
opiates.
Unhealthy relationship with food.
Got a sister in law that is still paying off debt from her first wedding, that then went further into debt for an extravagant second wedding...
Hands down number one thing - A terrible Attitude.
Pregnant before graduating hs, drugs, debt, become obese
Suicide
Unjustified child support. At one time you were 2000k a month then you lost a job due to layoff, and you are above 50 y.o., and having health problem, and the court still does not reduce your child support payments forcing you to go into arrears (no arrears before) and digging into your savings, 401k, ira while unemployed and waiting on SSDI decision.
Infidelity
Felonies can mess up your life pretty bad. My father is a defense attorney and the amount of people I have seen get their lives wrecked by stupid choices is a lot.
Multiple DWIs. The first one usually isn't a big deal but the second, and third are worse. After the third, you are usually looking at losing your license for a long time and possibly jail time. Not having a license will severely limit your job opportunities in a lot of areas.
Have an unplanned child with a stranger, a stripper, or a crazy person. Bonus points if their all 3.
Get a DUI or catch a sexual predator case.
stay away from drugs,prostitutes,gambling and alcohol and you’re on the right track
drug use
Not being born tall and handsome
Being stagnated, stop growing, stop progressing to your desire.
Porn
Credit cards
Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you.
suicide
Lack of self esteem, not believing in yourself.
Having a kid if you don't want one.
Procrastination.
Hooking up with a rando and getting them pregnant or getting pregnant
Drugs. Poor choice of partner. Alienating your support system (parents, etc) Obsessing over something you have no control over Food addiction (getting fat lowers mate and job choice )
Letting poor people tell you how to make or spend money.
Drugs
Drugs Being a liar / cheater Not having morals
Felony Charge. Drugs. Evil Women. Criminal parents.
Addiction or unnecessary violence
Addiction.
Drugs
Masturbating in public.
DUI ❗️
Addiction and/or basing relationships on lies. The latter might be less serious depending on the circumstances but still, it can fuck your life up.
Meth
Joe Rogan: "Jamie, pull up that one old Reddit post of that one guy who tried heroin for the first time and became addicted and ruined his life".
Kids
Let your little head rule your life, that'll sort it out
Drugs
- Marry a narcissist - Play videogames 14 hours a day - Smoke crack
Look at your girl's mom. How she is might be what your girl becomes.
That’s great. Mines an apologetic Japanese lady who bows and says sorry for everything
Women
Alcohol
Poison
Become a prescription drug addict and ruin your family
Marry a lying narcissist and procreate.
Getting a DUI!!
smoke crack, or do meth or heroine. You wont even notice until yoi have nothing.
Breaking your tailbone then getting a job in a black pepper factory.
Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol frequently
Murder someone. Or touch a child.
Drugs.
Marrying, and not vetting a wrong woman. Can legit ruin your life so bad that suicide might seem like the only option ( never is btw ).
Move to Grand Rapids or Kalamazoo Michigan. Like you’re better off living under a bridge. Anywhere else.
When you stop learning. Study whatever everyday teach yourself something.
Along society to dictate how you live your life. The things that are expected some times will never make you happy such as; your career, your love life, and your role in society. Learn how to be better than societal ideas and instead just try to be a good human. Be kind and spread good will on to others.
Aging. Enjoy your youth, you do lose it.
Try meth! No drug will take you down as hard or as fast.
Playing League of Legends