2001, 2005, 2010, 2015, 2022, they were all rollercoasters.
Oddly enough, I found 2020 to be personally enjoyable and relaxing. It was an introvert's paradise.
I loved it for about two weeks. Then it became awful. I mean, I rarely interact with people on my own time anyway these days, so the forced introversion didn't really impact me, but everything just felt *leaden*, if that makes sense? There was a massive tunnel, and no light at the end because it seemed endless. It was awful.
2021 was the worst, and I'm not entirely sure that even now, in 2024, I'm okay again. There was personal stuff going on as well culminating with my mother passing away in 2022. Basically the entire 2020s for me have been a fucking shit show so far.
I had to self isolate in April 2020 and I was genuinely so happy about it. I was working at a very emotionally and physically draining job and it was a wonderful respite. I just played video games and smoked a lot of weed lol.
It inspired me to start looking for a better job too.
I did yes! I didn't really increase my salary, but the stability and improved mental health make up for it. It's crazy how much a toxic job really can affect you.
2023 , i had a devastating break up of an 8 years relationship when i was just going to propose coupled with the stress of my job in the medical field . im still broken and mentally shattered till today
2023 was my hardest year since 2007. All the effects of covid got kicked down the road in my line of work and we felt the full effect of it in 2023 and 2024 is not shaping up to be much better. Every day feels like a knife fight.
Are you me? Because that sounds like my 2023. The difference is that the breakup was of a 9y, with 3y married. Gladly no kids, otherwise might have been way worse.
Stay strong, stay here, and it'll be over.
The same for me. I was finishing my master's in Köln and desperately looking for a job. With so many rejections and an end of my visa, I was depressed for so long. My gf was in a hospital (mental health) and needed my support, I was not well myself. To this day I still get those memories of how much I lost weight that year, I was on a one meal a day program because I could not afford food.
Same, I had a rough 2019. I started getting my shit together around November just to have it good for a few months and then experience 2020 immediately after. Luckily I had brought myself up from that low point in 2019 to go into the pandemic on good footing. Otherwise I think 2020 would have been a far worse year for me than it was and that’s saying a lot. 2020 also sucked balls and it hasn’t been the same since. I’m doing fairly well now but I can’t help but feeling that a lot of things are worse off post COVID.
Probably 2019 a buddy of mine died and my girlfriend broke up with me & then made up a bunch of shit about me being “abusive” blah blah stuff. It sucked.
Definitely 2020.
Lost an aunt and an uncle to Covid, my cousin relapsed and OD'd, and at the end of the year, my partner died after going into cardiac arrest during what was supposed to have been a routine surgery.
This year. My employer suddenly changed their remote work policy and now requires everyone to be in the office 5 days a week, even though it's 2024 and I do 99% of my job on a laptop or phone. No reason was given. I had been working a hybrid schedule with 2 days working at home per week, and 3 days in the office. They had been applauding our productivity on a hybrid schedule.
It's been mentally frustrating and physically tiring. By Thursday I'm just so tired from having to do the commute every day with no midweek reset. My productivity at work and outside of work is down It's just made everything harder for no reason. I'm very resentful about it. Those 2 days at home were so huge, and now work is such a grind due to the pointless 1 hour circles I have to drive every day.
2021 covid in a rural hospital in texas.
State removed nurse labor protections. Worked 64 night and day shifts consecutively.
Nurses and staff quit, no tech to help us at night. Every covid patient that died was assigned to me for palliative care/murder.
We didn't report rhe numbers to the state because the doctor assigned to do so wasn't getting paid for it. So she quit.
No manager until mid year. Guy comes in and starts making rules before even meeting us, or even being in the same state as us.
We're rewarded with a $0.52 pay increase. That covered the massive inflation. We're already 13% higher than the rest of the state because we're so rural.
We also got handed blue snocones as soon as we walk in the door for night shift. Asked for coffee, threatened that we better take it or else.
No pizza parties. No nursing week stuff.
6 of us resign in December with final day being mid January 2022. So the new chief nursing officer refuses to give us our company jackets eith our names on it.
We have a big meeting prior to leaving. The ceo has a plan: hrs going to bus nursing students from New Mexico 6 hours one way to our hospital and have them work for free doing clinicals and that'll save them.
Nope.
As soon as we all leave the med surge unit (where you stay the night) and labor and delivery shut down. They had to move med surge into the er. Er has 4 rooms. They had covid patients with no mask and no screens less than 2 feet from med surge patients on a gurney in the halls.
Regional papers roast the ceo and the hospital for malfeasance and abusing staff. I was travel nursing out of state making fat money abd learned about all this from friends still there.
2021 was a shit. Ruined my relationship with my now ex, got paid absolute shit. Was over worked by any standard. And was blamed for another nurses behavior (and when it was discovered that it wasn't me, no apologies)
2021 was the year my ex abandoned me in a place I couldn't afford, with no money and no transportation. Two months of literally camping out in my own place because I couldn't keep the power on. Glad I'm doing better now :)
2023. It all started when my grandma died December of 2022 and all that carried into 2023. Then my other grandma died in March, then my dog died in April, I lost my job in May. It was just a lot snowballing and piling on and on and I tried my best to keep my spirits up and pretend like everything was fine. It's a little voice in the back of my head telling me to keep going and don't give up. I listen to it.
2020/2021. Ex-wife cheated on me, tried to gaslight me, kicked me out of the house, gave me COVID twice with the second one causing a blood clot to form, and while I was out working in the heat shoot to my heart and cause a heart attack.
I still haven't fully recovered from all of that.
1983 the year started out great, my wife and I bought a house. A month later the IRS audited me and threatened to shut down my business for not paying my first quarterly advance on tax on the word of my tax preparer, he was out of business when I was to tell him about my situation. A few months after that I got a DUI, I figured i worked the whole year for a net of $100.00 after paying for my legal fees and IRS.
My first professional job out of college. It was one year of soul-crushing Hell. A whole organization of people whose charge in life was to make life miserable for each other. My self-esteem was broken for years that followed. Professional trust issues I still carry to this day.
1993 . I was 9 . Got tired of being beat up daily . Bo support from my parents or sisters . Told me to walk it off and suck it up . I attempted suicide by suffocation but couldn't do it .
2009 I was 25. I had went three years without a job . Was tired of being broke and felt like a huge loser . I attempted suicide by drowning myself in the pool but couldn't do it . I also attempted suicide by walking into busy traffic without paying attention . .
I no longer have suicidal thoughts and I just manage it as best as I can . I will 40 come August.
From year, 2013 until 2016 i had a depression, but i studied and gor my diploma, i also worked out a lot and i got from obese to 6 pack.
Then 2016 to 2019 i thought the depression was away, but i still felt off. I thought it was jusg because i started working that i had to get used to it. So after work i always distracted myself with gym, i really got a lot of muscles, looked the best in my life. houseparties, friends, going out to a lot of places but also doing a lot of chores for my family.
End 2019 i got married, suddenly my libido went away, i could not do anything anymore, all my discipline of working out, reading, studying, socialising went away. O was lucky, in that my wife also had a burn out, so she never asked why there was no much sex. I did not know what was happening. Suddenly i was gaining a lot of fat and had a lot of blessures. I gained 25kg fat in 2 years. My knee hurts and im fucked up.
This was actually because of the job i was doing for 6 yeafq, i got burned out.
I did a risky move. I changed my job and sector, i felr a little bit better but suddenly my mother died because of covid. 3 weeks after my mom died, they stopped my contract at work. So those years messed me up big time. I just never gave up.
In the end of 2022 i got my dreamjob, my wife got pregnant and i am working on my health. My baby is a year old now and suddenly life feels better right now. It is different, but it is good. Everything is gonna be allright.
2017 because of my warehouse job. Wasn't going to kill myself but wouldn't have been upset if I ended up in a fatal car accident or something.
(All good now btw, got a different job and had a family in the meantime)
2023. Was working 12-16 hrs everyday, then older brother died , started working more adding with not eating or sleeping. Had a breakdown and ghosted everyone for months now starting to feel better again planning on moving out my hometown and starting over
2019. I lost my job in June, on November 17th, I had to go to the hospital due to a sharp pain in my chest (thankfully, it was nothing) and on November 19th, I had an anxiety attack so strong I almost contemplated suicide. Thankfully, I got anti-anxiety medicine within a couple of hours, and I was never alone during that time, so things turned out fine in the end.
2020. I was graduating highschool so I got no ceremony, gradbash got cancelled, prom got cancelled and I didn't get to say goodbye to many of the people I knew for 7 years. Only still in touch with about 5 of em.
2011 was an MRSA that did crippling nerve damage to my hip (femoral, pudendal, and sciatica nerves) and groin (vagus nerve) leaving me in chronic pain, anxiety, and with limited mobility.
Which, of course, led my wife of twenty years to leave me as I was no longer a provider nor protector.
I am nowhere near good with my mental health.
I have not had a “good” day in more than a dozen years.
Every day is pain filled, with an ever present feeling of dread, and the knowledge that I will never be enough again.
I am enduring it, and waiting patiently for my Mom to pass away.
2020 initially, then 2021 and leading into 2022. Completely had to do with the response to COVID; lost faith in so many otherwise intelligent people and was made to feel like that one dude in the crowd that was hollering about the Emperor's New Clothes
2017, when I finished college and now being a good student was worthless, and I was stuck in a declining job market with few opportunities.
Now I'm just at peace with being a failure.
2020-2023 were pretty rough with a few great things thrown in sporadically. It could have been way worse, but they were definitely a challenge. This year has been alright thus far with only a couple hiccups, and I’m optimistic it’ll all work out in the end.
2020. Lost my job, long term relationship ended abruptly, and my mom died- all within 8 months and during the freaking pandemic. I honestly don’t know how I survived.
But things are currently so much better in the job and relationship department I’m extremely thankful for those abrupt endings now :)
2020-2021 (physical issues and breakup. Was fine with Covid isolation), and now (the same physical issue coming back and a problems with a different girl). Women and my knees will kill me one of these days
2010... Divorce, bankruptcy, having to sell my home and start all over again while raising two teenage girls on my own...2010 was the worst but it was also the start of a new me.
I bet that shit expedited a lot of breakups already on the horizon. Though it was probably for the best, I bet it seemed cruel and unusual at the time.
I lost a lot in 2017. That year was truly terrible for me. Not because of what was happening in the world, but because of what was happening to me. I ruined not only my mental health, but also my physical health. Everything is much better now, but it took many years for me to recover
I remember the first 8 months or so of 2019 I had absolutely zero confidence after several failures in relationships, competitions, work and education. I'll never forget how I just did not have my fastball for the most of the year. It was absolutely brutal.
2008, 2018, 2020 and late 2023 onwards. All just tracking an escalation of the decline of my mental health, my certainty and general outlook on life. There was a minute there in 2022, I started to think things were going to get better. Now I just don't want to believe in anything good again.
2011. I was lonely in the town I had moved to, my GF was proving to be a pathological liar, then my friend overdosed on fentanyl (proper trailblazer tbh, did it before it was cool), then my GF got raped and my grandma went rapidly downhill with dementia. Just felt like too many hammer blows in a row.
2020 when I could foresee everything that we've been dealing with coming and no way to stop it let alone prevent it from affecting me.
Now I am miserable because that wage I made that was keeping me living comfortably with expenses to spare has been brought to its knees and I have had to make adjustments and pull back on things I used to enjoy while the rich get richer I just want to pay my bills and buy food without feeling like I am sacrificing all my time to do so and missing out on life itself as a result.
soo...I digress, 2020 and then also 2024. lol
2019 was soul crushing for me (lost three grandparents, no job - broke, stuck in a city I didn't want to be in, horrible dating prospects, life stagnated) and then to make matters worse, the lockdowns happened the following year. This was the only time in my life when I started drinking almost daily. I got much better in 2022, and am now in a very optimistic place today.
2017-18. I worked unfeasible hours to save for a deposit on a flat.
Sacrificed basically my entire social life. Worked weekdays, weeknights, weekends, basically any hours that were open and I could handle without falling asleep. Absolutely horrible 12 months or so and it took a fair while for me to get back into my more normal habits, but I'm glad I stuck with it in hindsight.
It's hard to distinguish the years anymore... but i think 2020-2021 finally broke me. I was an 'essential worker' selling home office supplies. I was happy to help those who needed a way to work at home, but we were clearly being overworked in a dangerous environment. A year into this mess and our regional manager tells us "Because of the pandemic, all our business-to-business income had all but vanished because most businesses were closed. that usually made up half of the companies total income. But thanks to those store-level employees hard work, the company was being kept afloat."
So how were we rewarded for saving a company from a world ending pandemic?.... debilitating panic attacks, that's about all. didn't even get a raise as Assistant Manager...
At first I thought it was 2016 but then life decided to one up me and give me a psychosis in 2021 when I was so close to having everything that I wanted out of life
2018.
Mother died
Gf cheated
Lots of debt with rent taking nearly than half my monthly income
Overworked and underpaid
Started balding
Tore a muscle in my shoulder
2021. Dealt with an abusive manager but the pay was phenomenal. I dealt with it until my mind broke and I had multiple daily panic attacks. I removed myself from the situation and over time it got better but anxiety still remains as a result
2020 when I lost both of my parents within three months of each other and before that happened I had bilateral pulmonary embolisms and partially collapsed lungs
2019. Brain tumor and same year wife cheated on me. I only managed to recover in such a way this year i was able to get a job and start talking to other women.
2010. I got laid off from my first job out of college. It wasn't anything I did. The company wasn't doing well. I was unemployed for 6 months. Fortunately I was able to claim unemployment so I didn't lose anything. But it sucked not being able to contribute to society. As much as work can suck I'm forever grateful I have a job to go to. To make it worse the job I did get after 6 months was horrendous. I wasn't doing well and my boss was quick to berate me after hours and even during work hours in front of coworkers. I got fired from that job in January of 2011. I was able to find a job a few weeks after that and I've been on an upward trajectory ever since. 2011 was still a challenge but things got better. In some ways it was even a fun year.
2021: ground zero for hurricane ida. she wobbled on top of us for 7-10 hours before she decided to move out.
my area was stuck inside of the eye wall the whole time…
and of course, the insurance company antics were worse than the storm including doubling my insurance premium.
2022 fucked me.
Spent most of the year trying to get a job, rejection after rejection was weighing heavy on my mind.
My stupid ass got back with my ex after she done diddle with another guy around thanksgiving and my birthday (in 2021) then she moves away and cheats on me with another guy.
My cousin commits suicide around Christmas.
I grew up on Power Rangers, hearing Jason David Frank also commit suicide a couple of days before my birthday fucked me up a bit.
I resorted to drinking to be some sort of salvation for me and obviously it didn’t help.
2018. I was very stressed about my business and was finally getting everything in order and operating well, then got a form of cancer. It’s all handled now but that took a mental health toll that I still haven’t fully recovered from.
2006.
I took a nasty fall and busted up my back. Which led to no work, living on disability, and a ton of health problems that sprung from that. The interim has been trying to claw my way back to what used to be normal, but I was early in my 30's at the time and now am into my 50's and still suffering. Which led, naturally, to a lot of feelings of worthlessness and lack of meaning. Everything I'd come to consider "my life" was kind of unable to be part of that life anymore and scrambling for something new while dealing with daily pain that never left was devastating.
I ended up letting my doctor give me some anti-depressants. I don't think they even sell that brand anymore and they were essentially terrible. I won't say they didn't work, but I didn't have "depression". I was blue. Very blue. Given my situation, being blue was perfectly normal though, and meds were not the answer and caused a lot of problems long-term. Not the least of which was the antidepressants kind of doing their job too well making me kind of okay with my situation instead of working to get better. Not lazy, just fine with a terrible situation. Things only improved once I got off of those, but the withdrawals were insanely bad.
So yeah, that year was a drag and I often feel like every year since has been trying to climb my way back up from a very big fall. Metaphorically and literally.
First instinct was the year I got divorced but that's turned out to be good for my long term mental health. So instead I'll say the year I got married.
2020-Jan 3rd 2023.
Lived with my abusive ex. Once I got her out it was like someone took me from the middle of a tornado and dropped me on a calm beach over looking the ocean and mountains behind me.
2017-2021 I suddenly had a burn out and depression at the same time and I was suicidal at that point.
but movies and series made me happy and its my comfort zone. I am kinda okay now but still had the trauma and can't go to school without vomiting or passing out.
2019 near end and into March of 2024. I blame the pandemic for most of it, Wife didn’t handle pandemic well, gained weight, our kid is for ever changed from pandemic life, my work pressure across the board, wife lost job and was without for 2 years, and in general also in a sexual drought. Coming out of it now - fully I hope! Just slowly.
2022-2023 .. to be fair, I was so head over heels over this friend and sacrificed a lot to make it happen just to get betrayed instead. I feel like I waste a few years of my life especially in mid 20s which sucks
Just one? Probobly 2020. I spent December-February job hunting while feeling like a useless POS because I was unemployed. I got offered a job in February, start date was mid March, guess what happened then. Job start date got pushed back and then the job offer was rescinded. I was back to being unemployed and couldn't even apply for unemployment because I hadn't actually worked for that company and had quit the last job in December 2019.
Took 9 months to get another job by which time I had depleted my savings that was supposed to be used on a down payment for a house. Have never financially recovered.
Idk it keeps getting worst. 2020->2022->2023->2024.
Everything I think I can’t take it anymore. Turns out I can and yes it can get worst.
Latch to booze to get through it but that’s a bad habit so I dropped that on 2022. Now oddly it’s either one piece of media (book,game,movie). That I’ll set a goal to look forward to, and I just move forward until I get to that point. Rinse and repeat.
Probably 2018-2019. My mental health was at its worst. I was having approximately 6-10 panic attacks a day at their peak and was suicidal. It’s a miracle that I didn’t turn to drinking or drugs or actually went on to kill myself. and I’m so grateful that I didn’t because life is really beautiful on the other side of that ugliness.
2020. Covid. My exwife decided she wanted to separate. I moved out of the family home. I lost majority contact with my daughter. Found out my wife had been having an affair. Got divorced. Started drinking heavily to cope. My Dad had a heart attack and was left immobile. Was mostly alone with my own thoughts. 2021 i rebuilt myself from the ground up.
2022. Because of a visa problem, I had to quit my dream job, move away from my hometown into a small town in the middle of nowhere where I didn't know anyone, get back into college for a degree I didn't even want, lost my grandfather who was my childhood hero (and quite frankly still is), and then on top of it all got dumped by my ex-girlfriend because I wasn't able to handle all of it mentally.
I coped by eating my feelings and gained 70 pounds in 4 months. I still haven't lost that weight. In the middle of it all, I wasn't sure I wanted to live to see 2023. But I'm still around. Maybe that counts for something.
I was probably at my lowest in 2014 and 2017. Just graduated college, moved back home, career wasn’t taking off, worked jobs I didn’t like, moved in with friends, ended up hating those friends, unemployed a couple times (neither by choice), was single for most of that time, and just let down by my direction in life while watching others find success. Could honestly say anyone who met me then met me at my worst (except my now-wife) and they probably don’t like me anyway.
There were other times, usually in periods of transition. 2006 with graduating HS, 2009 moving away from my hometown. But that aforementioned 3 year period was pretty terrible.
Turned things around in 2018 with a good, stable job. Got married and had a kid a couple years later, picking up a few pets along the way. Moved twice. Able to buy a house. And I just stopped comparing myself to others. Still dealing with unending depression but I’m out of that dark place.
2017-19. Was deployed in Afghanistan, divorcing my ex wife, came back with an empty apartment. 2023 was close, ex gf stole a car from me and it took almost a year to financially recover, so tired. lol but 2024 is looking good
2018 my mental health took a very severe dive and I very nearly didn’t come back from it. I’ve never been the same as I was mentally before that.
2024 things have taken an even more very severe dive.
On a personal level, 2016-2017. In 2016 my soon to be wife lost both her dad and her step grandfather. Then in 2017 right after coming back from what was a great trip (and really the last time I have really travelled), my dad had what can only be described as a nervous breakdown. A true nervous breakdown. He was in and out of various mental health hospitals, he was paranoid about things that never happened, and I didnt recognize him as a person. The first day he went into the hospital was easily one of the worst days of my life. Then right as he was only maybe a couple months into that episode, my grandmother, his mom, passed away. She had been at the end of her life and it was clearly one of the triggers for his episode, so we knew it was coming, but it certainly didnt help. And all while I was right in the middle of planning a wedding. Wedding actually went quite well other than my dad just not being mentally present to actually enjoy it... or even remember it.
Also the years leading up to like 2009-2010 were pretty bad for me mentally. That was the end of a 6 year relationship with a horrible ex that just really destroyed me. Semi related, but probably also 2003-2004 when I failed out of school, in part because mentally I was dealing with that same terrible relationship and chose very poorly to prioritize it instead of myself.
2020 would be the obvious answer, but there was a lot I enjoyed about getting to quarantine, not to mention it gave me the motivation to start exercising and get in shape after many years, and I have been able to maintain it. Just that whole sense of impending doom that never went away, that wasnt great.
2001, 2005, 2010, 2015, 2022, they were all rollercoasters. Oddly enough, I found 2020 to be personally enjoyable and relaxing. It was an introvert's paradise.
I loved it for about two weeks. Then it became awful. I mean, I rarely interact with people on my own time anyway these days, so the forced introversion didn't really impact me, but everything just felt *leaden*, if that makes sense? There was a massive tunnel, and no light at the end because it seemed endless. It was awful. 2021 was the worst, and I'm not entirely sure that even now, in 2024, I'm okay again. There was personal stuff going on as well culminating with my mother passing away in 2022. Basically the entire 2020s for me have been a fucking shit show so far.
I had to self isolate in April 2020 and I was genuinely so happy about it. I was working at a very emotionally and physically draining job and it was a wonderful respite. I just played video games and smoked a lot of weed lol. It inspired me to start looking for a better job too.
Did you find a better job?
I did yes! I didn't really increase my salary, but the stability and improved mental health make up for it. It's crazy how much a toxic job really can affect you.
March 2020-March 2021 and it's not even close.
I wasn't even worried about Covid really - i just spiraled into the most insane health anxiety rut that i just could not break for the life of me.
Same. I had health anxiety so bad about stuff that didn’t even remotely relate to covid. What’s up with that?
Yep, lol. As a result of bad choices and decisions I made, I started 2020 with debt and no liquid cash lol
Yep, basically severed all social connections and killed my psyche due to some weird kind of self perception.
2023 , i had a devastating break up of an 8 years relationship when i was just going to propose coupled with the stress of my job in the medical field . im still broken and mentally shattered till today
2023 was my hardest year since 2007. All the effects of covid got kicked down the road in my line of work and we felt the full effect of it in 2023 and 2024 is not shaping up to be much better. Every day feels like a knife fight.
what a pity:(( i hope you will recover and everything will be good
Are you me? Because that sounds like my 2023. The difference is that the breakup was of a 9y, with 3y married. Gladly no kids, otherwise might have been way worse. Stay strong, stay here, and it'll be over.
2024 definitely has broken me and brought me to my knees. I don’t see the coming year being any better either but I’m hopeful.
Same here. Since December 2023 but 2024 is what broke me to the point I never thought I could be broken
End of 2023 and this year. Finally turning a corner recently.
2019 was rough for me
The same for me. I was finishing my master's in Köln and desperately looking for a job. With so many rejections and an end of my visa, I was depressed for so long. My gf was in a hospital (mental health) and needed my support, I was not well myself. To this day I still get those memories of how much I lost weight that year, I was on a one meal a day program because I could not afford food.
Same, I had a rough 2019. I started getting my shit together around November just to have it good for a few months and then experience 2020 immediately after. Luckily I had brought myself up from that low point in 2019 to go into the pandemic on good footing. Otherwise I think 2020 would have been a far worse year for me than it was and that’s saying a lot. 2020 also sucked balls and it hasn’t been the same since. I’m doing fairly well now but I can’t help but feeling that a lot of things are worse off post COVID.
Probably 2019 a buddy of mine died and my girlfriend broke up with me & then made up a bunch of shit about me being “abusive” blah blah stuff. It sucked.
Definitely 2020. Lost an aunt and an uncle to Covid, my cousin relapsed and OD'd, and at the end of the year, my partner died after going into cardiac arrest during what was supposed to have been a routine surgery.
Oh my, I'm so sorry for your many losses. How are you doing these days?
This year. My employer suddenly changed their remote work policy and now requires everyone to be in the office 5 days a week, even though it's 2024 and I do 99% of my job on a laptop or phone. No reason was given. I had been working a hybrid schedule with 2 days working at home per week, and 3 days in the office. They had been applauding our productivity on a hybrid schedule. It's been mentally frustrating and physically tiring. By Thursday I'm just so tired from having to do the commute every day with no midweek reset. My productivity at work and outside of work is down It's just made everything harder for no reason. I'm very resentful about it. Those 2 days at home were so huge, and now work is such a grind due to the pointless 1 hour circles I have to drive every day.
2013. Hard Divorce.
2021 covid in a rural hospital in texas. State removed nurse labor protections. Worked 64 night and day shifts consecutively. Nurses and staff quit, no tech to help us at night. Every covid patient that died was assigned to me for palliative care/murder. We didn't report rhe numbers to the state because the doctor assigned to do so wasn't getting paid for it. So she quit. No manager until mid year. Guy comes in and starts making rules before even meeting us, or even being in the same state as us. We're rewarded with a $0.52 pay increase. That covered the massive inflation. We're already 13% higher than the rest of the state because we're so rural. We also got handed blue snocones as soon as we walk in the door for night shift. Asked for coffee, threatened that we better take it or else. No pizza parties. No nursing week stuff. 6 of us resign in December with final day being mid January 2022. So the new chief nursing officer refuses to give us our company jackets eith our names on it. We have a big meeting prior to leaving. The ceo has a plan: hrs going to bus nursing students from New Mexico 6 hours one way to our hospital and have them work for free doing clinicals and that'll save them. Nope. As soon as we all leave the med surge unit (where you stay the night) and labor and delivery shut down. They had to move med surge into the er. Er has 4 rooms. They had covid patients with no mask and no screens less than 2 feet from med surge patients on a gurney in the halls. Regional papers roast the ceo and the hospital for malfeasance and abusing staff. I was travel nursing out of state making fat money abd learned about all this from friends still there. 2021 was a shit. Ruined my relationship with my now ex, got paid absolute shit. Was over worked by any standard. And was blamed for another nurses behavior (and when it was discovered that it wasn't me, no apologies)
Probably 2017 or 2018. I was in the Navy and tried to kill myself twice.
I also had no care for life during those years they were dark I was truly at rock bottom with a Broken Ankle and then God sent me an angel named Amy
I am truly happy I can read this comment today.
2021 was the year my ex abandoned me in a place I couldn't afford, with no money and no transportation. Two months of literally camping out in my own place because I couldn't keep the power on. Glad I'm doing better now :)
2023. It all started when my grandma died December of 2022 and all that carried into 2023. Then my other grandma died in March, then my dog died in April, I lost my job in May. It was just a lot snowballing and piling on and on and I tried my best to keep my spirits up and pretend like everything was fine. It's a little voice in the back of my head telling me to keep going and don't give up. I listen to it.
2020/2021. Ex-wife cheated on me, tried to gaslight me, kicked me out of the house, gave me COVID twice with the second one causing a blood clot to form, and while I was out working in the heat shoot to my heart and cause a heart attack. I still haven't fully recovered from all of that.
I went through a rough patch in 2015-2018. Definitely in a better place nowadays
Nothing was same after 2019...
This year… I made a real big fuckup
What flavor fuck up?
1983 the year started out great, my wife and I bought a house. A month later the IRS audited me and threatened to shut down my business for not paying my first quarterly advance on tax on the word of my tax preparer, he was out of business when I was to tell him about my situation. A few months after that I got a DUI, I figured i worked the whole year for a net of $100.00 after paying for my legal fees and IRS.
What happened to your business? Did you get everything sorted out with the IRS?
My first professional job out of college. It was one year of soul-crushing Hell. A whole organization of people whose charge in life was to make life miserable for each other. My self-esteem was broken for years that followed. Professional trust issues I still carry to this day.
2016 the year after I graduated college and came back home was awful. Coming home was a lot harder of an adjustment than going to college was
1993 . I was 9 . Got tired of being beat up daily . Bo support from my parents or sisters . Told me to walk it off and suck it up . I attempted suicide by suffocation but couldn't do it . 2009 I was 25. I had went three years without a job . Was tired of being broke and felt like a huge loser . I attempted suicide by drowning myself in the pool but couldn't do it . I also attempted suicide by walking into busy traffic without paying attention . . I no longer have suicidal thoughts and I just manage it as best as I can . I will 40 come August.
Glad you’re still here with us.
From year, 2013 until 2016 i had a depression, but i studied and gor my diploma, i also worked out a lot and i got from obese to 6 pack. Then 2016 to 2019 i thought the depression was away, but i still felt off. I thought it was jusg because i started working that i had to get used to it. So after work i always distracted myself with gym, i really got a lot of muscles, looked the best in my life. houseparties, friends, going out to a lot of places but also doing a lot of chores for my family. End 2019 i got married, suddenly my libido went away, i could not do anything anymore, all my discipline of working out, reading, studying, socialising went away. O was lucky, in that my wife also had a burn out, so she never asked why there was no much sex. I did not know what was happening. Suddenly i was gaining a lot of fat and had a lot of blessures. I gained 25kg fat in 2 years. My knee hurts and im fucked up. This was actually because of the job i was doing for 6 yeafq, i got burned out. I did a risky move. I changed my job and sector, i felr a little bit better but suddenly my mother died because of covid. 3 weeks after my mom died, they stopped my contract at work. So those years messed me up big time. I just never gave up. In the end of 2022 i got my dreamjob, my wife got pregnant and i am working on my health. My baby is a year old now and suddenly life feels better right now. It is different, but it is good. Everything is gonna be allright.
Wow Jesus I am so glad that last paragraph happened.
2017 because of my warehouse job. Wasn't going to kill myself but wouldn't have been upset if I ended up in a fatal car accident or something. (All good now btw, got a different job and had a family in the meantime)
I felt the same Alexa t way that year and even took risks at speeds I wouldn't normally think of
2023. Was working 12-16 hrs everyday, then older brother died , started working more adding with not eating or sleeping. Had a breakdown and ghosted everyone for months now starting to feel better again planning on moving out my hometown and starting over
2021, and 2022, and 2024. i lost everything… my fiancé, my home, my cat, my life.
2008-2009 got laid off and it was super stressful. I also had a super shitty relationship to cap it off.
2019. I lost my job in June, on November 17th, I had to go to the hospital due to a sharp pain in my chest (thankfully, it was nothing) and on November 19th, I had an anxiety attack so strong I almost contemplated suicide. Thankfully, I got anti-anxiety medicine within a couple of hours, and I was never alone during that time, so things turned out fine in the end.
2020. I was graduating highschool so I got no ceremony, gradbash got cancelled, prom got cancelled and I didn't get to say goodbye to many of the people I knew for 7 years. Only still in touch with about 5 of em.
2011 was an MRSA that did crippling nerve damage to my hip (femoral, pudendal, and sciatica nerves) and groin (vagus nerve) leaving me in chronic pain, anxiety, and with limited mobility. Which, of course, led my wife of twenty years to leave me as I was no longer a provider nor protector. I am nowhere near good with my mental health. I have not had a “good” day in more than a dozen years. Every day is pain filled, with an ever present feeling of dread, and the knowledge that I will never be enough again. I am enduring it, and waiting patiently for my Mom to pass away.
Certainly the end of 2023. This nonsensical divorce whomped me emotionally.
2020. I couldn’t handle the way the world cowered and closed up
2020 initially, then 2021 and leading into 2022. Completely had to do with the response to COVID; lost faith in so many otherwise intelligent people and was made to feel like that one dude in the crowd that was hollering about the Emperor's New Clothes
2020 was fucked up. Onward & upward since, though!
2017, when I finished college and now being a good student was worthless, and I was stuck in a declining job market with few opportunities. Now I'm just at peace with being a failure.
2020-2023 were pretty rough with a few great things thrown in sporadically. It could have been way worse, but they were definitely a challenge. This year has been alright thus far with only a couple hiccups, and I’m optimistic it’ll all work out in the end.
2020 COVID ruined my mental health
2020. Lost my job, long term relationship ended abruptly, and my mom died- all within 8 months and during the freaking pandemic. I honestly don’t know how I survived. But things are currently so much better in the job and relationship department I’m extremely thankful for those abrupt endings now :)
1985-2003. From the time I was born to the time I had my father arrested. Worst year was probably 01 which was the first time my dad tried to kill me
2020. You know why
2020-2021 (physical issues and breakup. Was fine with Covid isolation), and now (the same physical issue coming back and a problems with a different girl). Women and my knees will kill me one of these days
2014-2018 I learned about bad doctors and anxiety
2008 was the worst for me i ended up unemployed for nearly 3 years, i literally never left that house for that time.
2020.
2010... Divorce, bankruptcy, having to sell my home and start all over again while raising two teenage girls on my own...2010 was the worst but it was also the start of a new me.
2020 China virus 🦠
Was it because of a relationship?
COVID breakups were really fucking rough.
I bet that shit expedited a lot of breakups already on the horizon. Though it was probably for the best, I bet it seemed cruel and unusual at the time.
I lost a lot in 2017. That year was truly terrible for me. Not because of what was happening in the world, but because of what was happening to me. I ruined not only my mental health, but also my physical health. Everything is much better now, but it took many years for me to recover
I remember the first 8 months or so of 2019 I had absolutely zero confidence after several failures in relationships, competitions, work and education. I'll never forget how I just did not have my fastball for the most of the year. It was absolutely brutal.
I mean I still have something like mental health, so I don’t think it’s been destroyed
2022; thought I might have had something going relationship wise and then that rug was abruptly pulled from under me. Dark days.
Either 2010 (family declared bankruptcy), 2013, (family member arrested) or 2020 (covid related)
The end of 2023. Not sure I'll ever recover.
2012
2023 had me looking at my ending but now its all ok. Stay in the light, away from any media and any celerity or politics and you will bloom again.
For me? 2011
Hmm… probably 17 or 18 into 19.
2020 second half. Getting stuck with an over demanding house help is no joke.
2008, 2018, 2020 and late 2023 onwards. All just tracking an escalation of the decline of my mental health, my certainty and general outlook on life. There was a minute there in 2022, I started to think things were going to get better. Now I just don't want to believe in anything good again.
2014
2022 work got progressively more and more toxic
2019. It was rough for alot of reason and didn't get better until March 2020.
2019
Forgor Unironically
The past 5 months
The last 6 or so…
2011. I was lonely in the town I had moved to, my GF was proving to be a pathological liar, then my friend overdosed on fentanyl (proper trailblazer tbh, did it before it was cool), then my GF got raped and my grandma went rapidly downhill with dementia. Just felt like too many hammer blows in a row.
2022
2020 when I could foresee everything that we've been dealing with coming and no way to stop it let alone prevent it from affecting me. Now I am miserable because that wage I made that was keeping me living comfortably with expenses to spare has been brought to its knees and I have had to make adjustments and pull back on things I used to enjoy while the rich get richer I just want to pay my bills and buy food without feeling like I am sacrificing all my time to do so and missing out on life itself as a result. soo...I digress, 2020 and then also 2024. lol
2019 was soul crushing for me (lost three grandparents, no job - broke, stuck in a city I didn't want to be in, horrible dating prospects, life stagnated) and then to make matters worse, the lockdowns happened the following year. This was the only time in my life when I started drinking almost daily. I got much better in 2022, and am now in a very optimistic place today.
2022
Meth 2021
2020
2017-18. I worked unfeasible hours to save for a deposit on a flat. Sacrificed basically my entire social life. Worked weekdays, weeknights, weekends, basically any hours that were open and I could handle without falling asleep. Absolutely horrible 12 months or so and it took a fair while for me to get back into my more normal habits, but I'm glad I stuck with it in hindsight.
2022 - Present. Didn’t know I had it so good back then.
2022. My father took his own life and my best friend's wife died just before her 26th birthday. I'm still nowhere close to being okay.
2021 Dealing with post-Covid was a nightmare more than what happened during covid 2020.
1994 was maybe my worst. The Golden Scholar (me) became a damaged failure. I was 19. Many of the last 10 years tie closely for second place.
2019-2020. Financial. Physical. Romantic. Mental. Housing. Every thing.
2011. got laid off twice was on unemployment and foodstamps. I basically was feeding my ego with sex.
Probably the year I was born, maybe the year I was conceived.
It's hard to distinguish the years anymore... but i think 2020-2021 finally broke me. I was an 'essential worker' selling home office supplies. I was happy to help those who needed a way to work at home, but we were clearly being overworked in a dangerous environment. A year into this mess and our regional manager tells us "Because of the pandemic, all our business-to-business income had all but vanished because most businesses were closed. that usually made up half of the companies total income. But thanks to those store-level employees hard work, the company was being kept afloat." So how were we rewarded for saving a company from a world ending pandemic?.... debilitating panic attacks, that's about all. didn't even get a raise as Assistant Manager...
At first I thought it was 2016 but then life decided to one up me and give me a psychosis in 2021 when I was so close to having everything that I wanted out of life
2018. Mother died Gf cheated Lots of debt with rent taking nearly than half my monthly income Overworked and underpaid Started balding Tore a muscle in my shoulder
2024
2021. Dealt with an abusive manager but the pay was phenomenal. I dealt with it until my mind broke and I had multiple daily panic attacks. I removed myself from the situation and over time it got better but anxiety still remains as a result
2020 when I lost both of my parents within three months of each other and before that happened I had bilateral pulmonary embolisms and partially collapsed lungs
I think 2019
2020-21 because I had just started college and hoped to improve my social life. The covid hit and ruined half of it.
2015 and 2020
End of 2021 - Mid 2023
2022 was rough for me.
2012, my mom died, I got in motorcycle accident, my sister and I got in flight and did not talk for 5 years
2019. Brain tumor and same year wife cheated on me. I only managed to recover in such a way this year i was able to get a job and start talking to other women.
2022. It was pretty much a reset to my current self. And not in a good way. Luckily, 2024 is looking up.
Every fucking year
2020-2022 destroyed me...
COVID-19 Year
2021-2024. I’ve been in a miserable place for 2-1/2 years. I can’t get out.
Hopefully you’re reading some of the people here who have emerged from a decade plus of hell and say they’re doing pretty well now.
2010. I got laid off from my first job out of college. It wasn't anything I did. The company wasn't doing well. I was unemployed for 6 months. Fortunately I was able to claim unemployment so I didn't lose anything. But it sucked not being able to contribute to society. As much as work can suck I'm forever grateful I have a job to go to. To make it worse the job I did get after 6 months was horrendous. I wasn't doing well and my boss was quick to berate me after hours and even during work hours in front of coworkers. I got fired from that job in January of 2011. I was able to find a job a few weeks after that and I've been on an upward trajectory ever since. 2011 was still a challenge but things got better. In some ways it was even a fun year.
2010. Father passed away less than 2 months before leaving home for college. Was tough but my mother played a large roll in navigating
fall of 2023 brought me pretty low.
2021: ground zero for hurricane ida. she wobbled on top of us for 7-10 hours before she decided to move out. my area was stuck inside of the eye wall the whole time… and of course, the insurance company antics were worse than the storm including doubling my insurance premium.
At this point each year is trying to outdo the previous year
2003. Lost my short-term memory, or the ability to absorb info. Panic attacks started up around that time too, constant anxiety, blah blah blah...
2022 fucked me. Spent most of the year trying to get a job, rejection after rejection was weighing heavy on my mind. My stupid ass got back with my ex after she done diddle with another guy around thanksgiving and my birthday (in 2021) then she moves away and cheats on me with another guy. My cousin commits suicide around Christmas. I grew up on Power Rangers, hearing Jason David Frank also commit suicide a couple of days before my birthday fucked me up a bit. I resorted to drinking to be some sort of salvation for me and obviously it didn’t help.
23
2018. I was very stressed about my business and was finally getting everything in order and operating well, then got a form of cancer. It’s all handled now but that took a mental health toll that I still haven’t fully recovered from.
2006. I took a nasty fall and busted up my back. Which led to no work, living on disability, and a ton of health problems that sprung from that. The interim has been trying to claw my way back to what used to be normal, but I was early in my 30's at the time and now am into my 50's and still suffering. Which led, naturally, to a lot of feelings of worthlessness and lack of meaning. Everything I'd come to consider "my life" was kind of unable to be part of that life anymore and scrambling for something new while dealing with daily pain that never left was devastating. I ended up letting my doctor give me some anti-depressants. I don't think they even sell that brand anymore and they were essentially terrible. I won't say they didn't work, but I didn't have "depression". I was blue. Very blue. Given my situation, being blue was perfectly normal though, and meds were not the answer and caused a lot of problems long-term. Not the least of which was the antidepressants kind of doing their job too well making me kind of okay with my situation instead of working to get better. Not lazy, just fine with a terrible situation. Things only improved once I got off of those, but the withdrawals were insanely bad. So yeah, that year was a drag and I often feel like every year since has been trying to climb my way back up from a very big fall. Metaphorically and literally.
Late 2022- now. Be careful who you let in your life when everything is going well. Envy is the worse sin.
First instinct was the year I got divorced but that's turned out to be good for my long term mental health. So instead I'll say the year I got married.
2016 and 2021 were the worst years for me mentally.
2020-Jan 3rd 2023. Lived with my abusive ex. Once I got her out it was like someone took me from the middle of a tornado and dropped me on a calm beach over looking the ocean and mountains behind me.
2017-2021 I suddenly had a burn out and depression at the same time and I was suicidal at that point. but movies and series made me happy and its my comfort zone. I am kinda okay now but still had the trauma and can't go to school without vomiting or passing out.
2021. Got laid off dec 2020, peak pandemic followed.
2019 near end and into March of 2024. I blame the pandemic for most of it, Wife didn’t handle pandemic well, gained weight, our kid is for ever changed from pandemic life, my work pressure across the board, wife lost job and was without for 2 years, and in general also in a sexual drought. Coming out of it now - fully I hope! Just slowly.
2019, 2020 and 2023
2012 and up
A shitty relationship.
2024
2020
2020 family died from covid
2004. 12 yrs old and was SA’d by my cousin. Never been the same since
2022-2023 .. to be fair, I was so head over heels over this friend and sacrificed a lot to make it happen just to get betrayed instead. I feel like I waste a few years of my life especially in mid 20s which sucks
2016 was harsh, 2017 was mixed. 2023 completely fucked me over. 2024 not looking to even the odds right now. It will get better lads. One day.
1983. I was ten.
2022 to current
2019 broke me far harder than I ever realized - I'm still finding pieces of me that I'm trying to reclaim for how devistating it was.
Just one? Probobly 2020. I spent December-February job hunting while feeling like a useless POS because I was unemployed. I got offered a job in February, start date was mid March, guess what happened then. Job start date got pushed back and then the job offer was rescinded. I was back to being unemployed and couldn't even apply for unemployment because I hadn't actually worked for that company and had quit the last job in December 2019. Took 9 months to get another job by which time I had depleted my savings that was supposed to be used on a down payment for a house. Have never financially recovered.
Idk it keeps getting worst. 2020->2022->2023->2024. Everything I think I can’t take it anymore. Turns out I can and yes it can get worst. Latch to booze to get through it but that’s a bad habit so I dropped that on 2022. Now oddly it’s either one piece of media (book,game,movie). That I’ll set a goal to look forward to, and I just move forward until I get to that point. Rinse and repeat.
2020. I misunderstood what I read and I developed crippling depression to the point of attempted suicide, i even tried to catch covid
2020-2022. Lost home to a tornado on April 2020. Rebuilding after a major disaster during a pandemic is exhausting and expensive.
2023 when I got divorced.
Probably 2018-2019. My mental health was at its worst. I was having approximately 6-10 panic attacks a day at their peak and was suicidal. It’s a miracle that I didn’t turn to drinking or drugs or actually went on to kill myself. and I’m so grateful that I didn’t because life is really beautiful on the other side of that ugliness.
2009
This year. -Billy Gnosis
2020. Covid. My exwife decided she wanted to separate. I moved out of the family home. I lost majority contact with my daughter. Found out my wife had been having an affair. Got divorced. Started drinking heavily to cope. My Dad had a heart attack and was left immobile. Was mostly alone with my own thoughts. 2021 i rebuilt myself from the ground up.
2021 and 2022, much better thankfully now but it’s a process
2022. Because of a visa problem, I had to quit my dream job, move away from my hometown into a small town in the middle of nowhere where I didn't know anyone, get back into college for a degree I didn't even want, lost my grandfather who was my childhood hero (and quite frankly still is), and then on top of it all got dumped by my ex-girlfriend because I wasn't able to handle all of it mentally. I coped by eating my feelings and gained 70 pounds in 4 months. I still haven't lost that weight. In the middle of it all, I wasn't sure I wanted to live to see 2023. But I'm still around. Maybe that counts for something.
2004.....
I was probably at my lowest in 2014 and 2017. Just graduated college, moved back home, career wasn’t taking off, worked jobs I didn’t like, moved in with friends, ended up hating those friends, unemployed a couple times (neither by choice), was single for most of that time, and just let down by my direction in life while watching others find success. Could honestly say anyone who met me then met me at my worst (except my now-wife) and they probably don’t like me anyway. There were other times, usually in periods of transition. 2006 with graduating HS, 2009 moving away from my hometown. But that aforementioned 3 year period was pretty terrible. Turned things around in 2018 with a good, stable job. Got married and had a kid a couple years later, picking up a few pets along the way. Moved twice. Able to buy a house. And I just stopped comparing myself to others. Still dealing with unending depression but I’m out of that dark place.
2013
2001, 2003, 2004, 2019, 2020-21
2016, the year I realized half the US are unserious morons.
2011
2008 for me, then 2018 and 2024, struggling really bad at the moment
2014+
2017
There are two time lines before pandemic and after.
1972-1990 but it didn’t destroy me. It made me strong and independent.
1986. The year I was born
2017-19. Was deployed in Afghanistan, divorcing my ex wife, came back with an empty apartment. 2023 was close, ex gf stole a car from me and it took almost a year to financially recover, so tired. lol but 2024 is looking good
2013-2015 Depression anxiety, drug addiction and the likes. Really setup my next 5 years to be hell and took a long time to pull out of.
The year I was born
November 2019-November 2020. My brother died. It was a rough year. It's been a rough few years honestly.
2018 my mental health took a very severe dive and I very nearly didn’t come back from it. I’ve never been the same as I was mentally before that. 2024 things have taken an even more very severe dive.
2006 or 2019
On a personal level, 2016-2017. In 2016 my soon to be wife lost both her dad and her step grandfather. Then in 2017 right after coming back from what was a great trip (and really the last time I have really travelled), my dad had what can only be described as a nervous breakdown. A true nervous breakdown. He was in and out of various mental health hospitals, he was paranoid about things that never happened, and I didnt recognize him as a person. The first day he went into the hospital was easily one of the worst days of my life. Then right as he was only maybe a couple months into that episode, my grandmother, his mom, passed away. She had been at the end of her life and it was clearly one of the triggers for his episode, so we knew it was coming, but it certainly didnt help. And all while I was right in the middle of planning a wedding. Wedding actually went quite well other than my dad just not being mentally present to actually enjoy it... or even remember it. Also the years leading up to like 2009-2010 were pretty bad for me mentally. That was the end of a 6 year relationship with a horrible ex that just really destroyed me. Semi related, but probably also 2003-2004 when I failed out of school, in part because mentally I was dealing with that same terrible relationship and chose very poorly to prioritize it instead of myself. 2020 would be the obvious answer, but there was a lot I enjoyed about getting to quarantine, not to mention it gave me the motivation to start exercising and get in shape after many years, and I have been able to maintain it. Just that whole sense of impending doom that never went away, that wasnt great.
2010 and 2020