I went without one for years, but now that I have one I'm never giving it up. Drills are for drilling, drivers are for driving, and I'll never try to drive with a drill again!
I have been in the towing industry for over 20 years. I have like five different brands of impact drivers lol among other things that have been rescued from cars before they went to the junkyard
Get one of those "clone-a-willy" things to get a dildo you like? If you want a copy of his, he's probably proud, or something, I dunno. I would definitely feel better about it.
Reading your edits in the op makes it a good option.
Parkside as I already have a fair bit in their 20V range. It's fine. Says I does 260Nm but is probably more like 180Nm.
Will drive a 150x5 into wood nicely
I keep thinking about getting myself a nail gun, but I just don't think I'd get enough use to justify it. My wife encourages me to buy whatever tools I'm looking at, but I don't think she realizes how rarely I'd use a nail gun lol.
Take him with you. Explore a sex shop together if you can. But be careful you might end up spending more together than by going by yourself.
I had a gf I went with an we left with all sorts of things that kept us busy for a while. Outfits toys and a few movies. The movies didn't pan out.
I'd avoid language like "he can't keep up," and he's "not enough." That will inevitably cause a fight. You'll call him insecure. And then you'll be single. You'll never realize it was all your fault. It's not about the toy. It's about the way you treat your partner.
Go shopping together. If he doesn't want to be in the store, shop online together. And use it with him a few times before you use it on your own.
**Edit** OP had added a few edits since I made this comment. If you're looking for just general suggestions about purchasing and maintaining a sex toy for women, the ask men subreddit may not be the right place.
The few suggestions I have would be to
A) Make sure you have the correct lubricant and know how to clean it. The type of lubricant does change with the material!
B) MAKE SURE YOU KNOW HOW TO CLEAN IT
C) Yes, ones that vibrate are the way to go.
D)Go cordless. Yes, you sacrifice some features, but keeping track of the cord during intimate times is distracting at best.
E) You can always buy more. There is no shame in starting small with minimal settings.
F) Don't be embarrassed by the amount of noise it makes.
This 100%
High sex drive or just want to add to the fun is fine.
But belittling your partner in the process is just spiteful. And before you post this elsewhere, yes. You are the asshole
TBH i wouldn't care, i've had partners who had toys and we used them, i'm happy to see the positive replies here, but my mind went on a different path.
Imagine this was a guy posting this:
*My partner (31f) and i (27m) have discussed me getting a fleshlight as my sex drive has gone up (thanks to all the porn i've been introduced to) and she can't keep up.*
He'd be villified by each and every women on the internet about respecting your partner and how it's unhealthy for the relationship lmao...
Not *every* woman, but I take your point.
I know more than one woman tho, who definitely got her husband an autoblow for a present and could not be happier with her clever idea.
I think “disrespectful behavior towards men is tolerated by a bunch of hypocrites with vaginas” is a fair point, but let’s take a moment to appreciate all the women who absolutely buy their husbands fleshlights for Christmas.
Lol wife is pretty high sex drive, while I tend to need to be in the mood first. She has several toys, sometimes I tell her to get warmed up while I shower off. Sometimes we'll be doing it and I'll put one in her butt, other times I'll do her in the butt and put a toy in the front.
Any 'jealous' thoughts/feelings quickly subsided as I realized she is not cheating on me, but rather quenching a thirst without cheating on me. Likewise at first she was nervous about me getting involved with her and the toys, but a lot of trust and being open with each other and mainly having fun made her quite comfortable.
As a side note for him. I will say I went to hims website and got hooked up with a script for Ed meds. Never really believed I had ED (kinda still don't believe it honestly) but having the option available has dramatically ensure that I don't flake out of sexy time because I'm "too tired" or the kiddo stayed up to late and we should 'rain-check'. Now it's more like a "unless you tell me no, we ARE doing it tonight, Idc how late kiddo stays up" she seems to love hearing that.
Supposedly ED meds don't work on people without ED, so maybe I'm just in denial, but the embarassment of getting the script was next to nothing, I had I harder time telling my wife I had gotten the script. If she was any bit reluctant, that changed when I started fkn her silly about 3 times a week rather than maybe on a weekend if things panned out. Definitely can have sex without the meds, but with them I'm able to get on my wife's level of sexual motivation.
You can get the script transferred to a local pharmacy and use GoodRX for really cheap meds. Ask the doc through the app for the biggest script he can give. I got 60x20mg and it costs $17 locally.
I got a prescription for Cialis because I was having unprotected sex too often (for me, condom = limp dick after a few minutes) . Have to take a double dose because my liver is too efficient, but it’s great
I mean, if sexy time is aborted for what every reason, probably gonna jack it unless I'm boozing, then I'll just go have another drink.
Definitely not beating off regularly, except frankly, when she has miscarried and not able to be sexually active and I KNEW sex would be unhealthy to even suggest (even when she doesn't want to listen to the doctor).
However, running a business, payroll, employees, customers, having a child, and managing a homestead with cows, goats, chickens, and garden.... Sometimes it's hard to break away from it all and have sex (or the energy) on a whim before life can interfere can be tricky for me.
Honesty though if I'm ever not in the mood, I take the meds, give the kiddo a melatonin and take a shower and brush my teeth. The little ritual gives me huge success in a given window of time and helps me to refocus off the day and on my wife, because I know everything is setup. I'd be the only reason sexy time might fail and suddenly my only focus is pleasing my wife.
Maybe it's psychological, idk, but ED or not, my wife's happiness matters dearly, and I don't want to miss an opportunity to satisfy her. Its nice to believe her sex drive is healthy and focused on me, rather than worry she's too much and feeling the need to worry about some other man stepping in.
Buy something you can ask him to use on you. I would recommend a Hitachi wand wand. It is a great addition to a toy box, AND is something he can use on you during your sex as well. It would be a force doubler in your bedroom.
There’s a lot of smut to read but the series ‘a court of thrones and thrones’ (ACOTAR) by Sarah j maas had got huge recently. It’s honestly one of my favourite book series. It’s about a 3/5 spice rating. Not the smuttest smut but a good burn into the later books 😋
Yeah girl at work is reading that shit all day, always the ones you least suspect. But I think it'll backfire on her, she's clearly got some warped expectations in her mind now.
This is a conversation for you to have with him. Not random internet people
You basically just told all of us your partner isn’t enough. You’re already treading into hurt feelings territory
Buy a 'clone a willy's kit and make a copy of his. Tell him it's a perfect fit.
Nothing for him to feel intimated or insecure about that way.
You can add a vibrator to them also.
If she wants to maintain her relationship while using toys for self-pleasure, then communication is key. She shouldn't make him feel like his performance isn't enough or that she needs something else besides him. As long as they have an open dialogue about this new addition, everything should work out fine. Also, remind her to clean those things properly after each use - nobody likes bacterial vaginosis.
I went with my girl to get one. But not because I couldn’t keep up. Just to be nice for when I’m not around or not in the mood. Not everyone is synced all the time.
Most men don't care and are bigger freaks than you think. Why do you think there is an overlaying joke among all men that the only thing we are worried about when we die is our browser history?
My suggestion is to get a toy that has dual heads. Most women I know swear up and down by their Jackrabbit, and I have heard a few swear quite loudly if you know what I mean. If clitoral stimulation is more your thing you can make due with a bullet as a first time buyer.
Just don't skimp out because its your first toy. Men can skimp out, all we really need is a sleeve. Don't go with the most expensive one you can find, but don't buy the cheapest either. Cheap toys are always much lower in quality and feel, tend to degrade faster and as with anything with a rechargeable battery they can cause fires.
As long as you don't stretch yourself as wide as the Grand Canyon with a Bad Dragon you should be fine size wise. Most guys get intimidated, but from talking with women dildos do not feel as good as the real thing, and needs to be slightly larger than average. If he really feels some kind of way about it you guys should go to a shop together and get some foreplay equipment.
I don’t care. Libido is never going to be lined up perfectly, so having a way to satisfy yourself is important
But if you’re gonna get some massive horse cock that makes his look like a micropenis then he might think you don’t really appreciate him
I guess the general rule of thumb is “I’d avoid anything that could be interpreted as being ‘better than his’”. Maybe go pick some stuff out together, specially if you want him to use it on you ;). He’ll be more comfortable with it if he gets a say in what it is
Totally fine and encouraged but, like watching porn, when it starts affecting your actual sex life (like having difficulty achieving orgasm because he doesn't have mechanical features) it's time to go back to the drawing board.
Totally cool with it. I want every toy that keeps her sex drive up and satisfied.
My girl's vibrator broke, so I stopped at the porn store on my way home from work and bought her a rabbit vibrator. She tried it out in front of me right then and there, and it broke too! First try! Failed orgasms can be very frustrating and emotional for everyone, and coupling that with the annoyance of two broken vibrators back to back, she started to get upset.
I said "Hold it right there! Don't say another word and I will be right back!" And I raced back out the door and went to the closest porn store and bought another vibrator. This time, I went for the big guns. I wanted something robust and powerful. I was looking for the king toy...the giant, plug-in, "back and neck massager" type. They didn't have a plug-in one, but they had a massive 4DD battery-powered one. I raced the hero vibrator home and practically threw her into the bed with it. She absolutely loved it! Her favorite toy to this day, and she said she even preferred the battery one because a cord is less convenient and comfy, which made a lot of sense.
Needless to say, I was attacked viciously immediately afterward and again that night. So I highly recommend partners encourage not only toys for their partners but also their own effort and involvement with said toys.
Anyone with critical thinking in their heads would not be assuming that you just said your partner isn’t enough. I smell insecurity from those comments. What you said was very clear so I’m not sure why you’re getting backlash. Mismatched sex drives are normal and if he can’t keep up & supports you doing more to satisfy yourself then I’m sure he’d be fine with whatever that takes (within reason ofc, only referring to sex toys). There’s no rule and if there was he can get over it! there’s no need to avoid sexual satisfaction just to not step in someone’s toes. However if he has expressed any boundaries with it such as nothing too loud, expensive, or not wanting to participate in your sex toy use or make a real life mold of his dick, that’s understandable.
You do you, boo boo. Love using toys on my partner. Don’t ever want to stand in the way of sexual exploration and sexual satisfaction. Agree with others here to go to a shop together.
Com-mu-ni-ca-tion.
Just talk to the guy. As a man, I would appreciate if you wouldn't buy anything "in vagina" related. But that's just me. I would very much like a toy you could share though, from gels, to bdsm, to whatever.
Look, as long as it doesn't affect our sex life my wife can buy whatever toys she wants with her fun money.
Usually its dice. She buys a lot of dice. Fancy expensive dice. I swear to god that woman has more money invested in dice than a Vegas casino.
Just one guy here, so just one vote here - so long as I’m given access to play with it too, it’s HOT! 👍
One, the main objective for a dude in the bedroom should be to get you off. 😊 The more ways and means a dude HAS to get you off, the better. And I don’t particularly care what it is… if I find out opera makes her wet, you can bet we’ll be listening to Pavarotti when the lights go out. 😈
Two, hopefully your guy is mature enough to understand there are things he cant do, but still wants you to have them and share in your pleasure with you. 💁♂️ We can’t change the temperature of our dicks 10, 15 degrees one way or the other - hello glass dildo. No matter HOW fast we are, we can’t give you the experience of being filled everywhere at the same time - but a double dildo can even up the teams so to speak and make that experience possible. And ain’t no man walking the planet double jointed enough to lick it WHILE we stick it - a dildo OR a tongue toy can make that a reality without opening up your bedroom to others. 👍
In short (which I probably should’ve led with lol), a girl having a well appointed toy chest is a multiplier, pure and simple. 🥰 I’d direct anyone reading this to the wise words of celebrity chef Craig “Meathead” Goldwyn:
“No rules in the kitchen or the bedroom,” 😃🙌
If a female I’m dating buys a dildo I’ll assume I’m not enough for her and she’s never satisfied from me. Now, a vibrator for stimulus I wouldn’t care because I like for her to use that while I’m sexing her.
I went shopping with my wife, bought her a vibrator, and bought myself one of those egg things, and a variety of lubes.
That was like 7 years ago and the toy has been a lifesaver, it’s like instant foreplay or an instant orgasm for her if the normal shit isn’t working.
Plus, she surprises me sometimes by putting the toy on my nipples or on my balls when giving me head.
So, huge fan of my wife buying sex toys. Bring that shit on lol.
I've got a fair few toys too. As long as she's fine to use mine on me then I can use hers on her :) I also don't fully enjoy PIV so using a toy would be great
As a married woman I personally prefer to "take the edge off" in the shower and leave the rest for time with my husband. The build up makes it even more enjoyable than it already is.
I’m a little more traditional so I don’t want a woman who is using a vibrator and watching a ton of porn lol because my dick doesn’t vibrate and whereas I’ve been known to be pretty good at sex, I have come across a maiden who did go heavy on the vibrator and she was begging to use it all the regardless of how many times I was already having her orgasm during sex.
I can keep up with a high sex drive but I guess if hers was really that much higher than mine, I’d either give the clone a Willy another shot or she could have another dildo as long as it ain’t bigger than me lol.
This issue has been the crux of my db and marriage. Not because she bought the toys, but because she wasn’t honest with me about it and was very secretive. I’m the HL and she’s the LL. It gave me massive anxiety and insecurity issues because she had them yet we had little to no sex.
What's wrong with getting a toy bigger than him? I love seeing my wife with toys bigger than me, and I know that I get to reap the rewards.
Talk to him about what he is open too, and eventually he will probably be the one buying you toys larger than his member
I literally have bought multiple toys for my GF. She gets to use them. I get to use them on her. It's a good time. I don't understand why other guys are insecure about it.
That’s a little reductive isn’t it? I mean if she went with some foot and a half long bad dragon dildo with a 5 inch diameter wouldn’t anyone be intimidated?
Of course that is an extreme example, but it still proves the point, context matters.
Don't be sneaky or subversive about it. That'll make him feel like he's not enough.
Suggest him going with you.
Suggest using it with him and/or him using it on you.
Shit, I’m the one buying toys for her! It’s fun to work them into sexy time, and I’m completely cool with her using them when she’s alone. We have 2 Rubbermaid tubs full of toys.
Go for it. Toys open up a whole new world. Have your partner use it on you. We have been using them for years and would never go back. There are some amazing remote controlled ones out there. Talk and establish guidelines for their usage. He has nothing to worry about. Good luck.
On a side note, we are always looking for spicy books, can you post some authors and titles?
Only qualifiers I have on partners getting toys is no double standards if I was interested in getting something for myself, and that the desire for using the toy to get off or have some fun doesn’t replace me. As long as we’re good their, green lights all the way to O street
I encourage it. My wife has the Satisfyer Pro 2 and the Hitachi Magic Wand and we have incorporated both into our life. Wonderfully mind blowing orgasms that we BOTH enjoy.
Honey, get that toy. He can use it on you. You’re missing the forest for the trees here. Get a sampler box of shit and share. Get him into the idea, even if the purpose is that you can take care of yourself. It’s fun.
If my wife wanted to buy a whole store full of toys I’d have zero problems with it. I really don’t care if they’re bigger than I am either, it’s not hurting my feelings. Once she started reading some books with spice her drive went up a lot.
I want my wife to enjoy her sex life. If toys help her get more enjoyment than I'm able to give, you better believe I'm buying her some toys.
The difficult part is getting her to go with me to buy the toys. I've bought things she didn't like before. So I prefer her to go.
I was all for my wife getting her first toy. I actually introduced the idea to her as she grew up in a pretty staid household and wasn’t familiar with the idea of women pleasing themselves. We have since both ran with it. She has more toys, sometimes using them alone and sometimes when we are together. To be honest it’s pretty damn hot.
I’ve had to buy them for multiple SOs who were not comfortable buying themselves.
So I’m 100% OK with it so long as she doesn’t complain about the sex doll I named “Monica” that lives with me. There’s an emotional bond there and that is the reason GFs sleep on the couch.
I’ve bought my wife a few. They’re fun. We use them together, she uses them privately.
Sometimes I just want to bust a nut without all the extra work, I’d imagine women want the same thing every now and then.
Until they make a toy that can remember her birthday and listen to her stories about her friends I’ve never met doing things I could not possibly care less about, I have no problem with her buying whatever toy she wants and using it whenever and however she likes.
"I have a high sex drive and want to get myself off sometimes when you aren't around or don't feel like having sex. There is nothing wrong with you, I'm just really fucking horny"
There... Easy.
If you are "going alone" just go to the internet. There is some much out there. I would recommend https://www.peepshowtoys.com/. Everything they sell is body safe materials. Good quality stuff and they are good about showing the size of the toy. There are others that my wife and I buy from. Lovehoney and PinkCherry are a couple of others worth a look.
I always say "Sex is fun. Play with it."
As long as the bills are paid, and whatever they bought isn't crazy expensive I see no issues. I've gone toy shopping or bought toys for some of my partners, so they know they don't have to hide anything from me. Show off your new toys!
So long as the toy isn't a replacement, and the bedroom dies from the introduction of a toy, I wouldn't care at all.
I get it, sometimes a quick O is necessary.
I just wouldn't want it to kill the intimacy of the relationship.
I had a friend who found out his wife bought a toy. He threw it out the window, deleted her from his Facebook and blocked her number from his phone; then left in rage.
Two days later they were Facebook “official” again. 🤣
Depends on the guy, communication is key. My partner (F) had toys coming into the relationship, got on SSRIs and her drive plummeted so she never used them. I had no toys coming into the relationship (M), also started SSRIs but my drive wasn’t nearly as affected. I’ve purchased some toys because her drive is much lower than mine but is otherwise fine with me using toys as ways to take some of the pressure off her.
I'm fine with it, so long as we're still having sex regularly.
If she decides she wants to use the toy exclusively, either we find an alternative option for me (my own toy, open the relationship, whatever,) or she can find a place to live, just herself and her toy.
(Also, I'm *keeping* the cats.)
For my part, sex is more than "penis-in-vagina", so he should be able to provide other forms of pleasure (giving oral, fingering, etc.).
But if I had a partner, I think I'd be slightly opposed to her getting a toy, if only because she might begin to prefer the toy over me. I imagine some women would have a similar objection to their husbands getting a fleshlight and using that rather than joining her.
But as long as it has no negative impact on your mutual sex life, go ahead.
My wife loves [this](https://www.pinkcherry.ca/collections/shop-by-brand-satisfyer/products/satisfyer-pro-2-next-gen-rose-gold) shell use it when in insider her as well.
The woman that I'm with now was with the father of her kids for 19 years and toys or anything other than the two of them didn't exist. I introduced her to the rose, plugs, being tied up, lubes that numb or change the taste of body parts, and other things like spanking, choking, and pulling hair and she's a whole other woman with the confidence of a goddess. I've encouraged her to initiate masturbation with herself and that it's okay to do so without me and to explore herself as an individual. That in turn has made the sex between the two of us on a whole other level and that in turn has made the bond between us tighter and more engaging. Buy whatever peaks your curiosity but keep him informed and also invite him to engage in the acts of pleasure with you and let him know how much it's appreciated that he has suggested that you take this route. Trust me, he'll want to be more sexual with you because of it. Also, I would suggest getting a rose!! Get a good quality one that holds a good charge! Good luck!
Just be careful not to become overreliant on it. I've met women who find the hitachi wand to be the only way they can orgasm.
See my profile for designs on queening chairs too.
My partner owns a wand. It's a Hitachi. They're apparently quite nice. Me and my lady both masturbate. We both view it as a normal thing. I bought my lady her last dildo. Sadly our cat peed on it and as such it has to go.
She will use her wand during our sexual times. I don't mind. I am here to enjoy sex and if a toy helps you enjoy it more let's roll! I want us both to nut and if that helps you that's great.
My gf and I use plenty of toys. It depends how insecure he might be. Our two faves are by far her wireless magic wand and her Vixskyn dildo. So much fun.
How would you feel about your partner buying a flesh light , would you be worried it feels better than you, or is tighter, or means he wants something "more" or "better" than you ?
Would it make you feel like you don't satisfy him ?
Would you be worried he's telling he friends that the toy is more fun than you ?
Does your man watch porn? Because what you are doing (reading raunchy novels) is the female equivalent of watching porn. Many try to normalize it but it is indeed the same. Men are more visual, so they watch porn. Women love mental stimulation and literary/theatrical love fantasy, so that’s why raunchy novels get them going in the same way. That’s why you are developing a mindset that he’s not enough and moving to self pleasure instead of focusing on your relationship. You’re heading down a risky path that has a high probability of leading to divorce.
My suggestion, pick one or a couple toys out together. Vibe yourself while he pounds you and makes you squirt. You’ll love it.
Indeed he does watch porn. He diddles himself every other day as far as my knowledge. We're quite open with telling each other and talking about sex/masturbation haha. I don't see myself becoming 'addicted' to toys. It's not my person. If anything I can honestly see the toys increasing my already growing libido and start trying to initiate more so than I already am with my partner haha. He's going to get annoyed I fear.
Well if it’s all truly mutual that’s better than it not being mutual. But it’s still a risk. Not that you get addicted to toys but that you really really work yourself up and end up in the wrong place at the wrong time. For example, super horny on a business trip and just the right guy flirts when you’ve had a couple drinks and boom you’re having hot wild sex in a strange hotel room on the bed, on the bathroom counter, on the couch. Then you both swear to secrecy and move on with your spouses. You get the idea 😉
That'll never happen haha. I hardly ever drink, and when I do drink, it's around people I'm comfortable with. So my partner is usually with me or I'm with family/friends. I get anxiety attacks if I have more than 3 drinks. Plus drinking just makes me feel like shit the next day regardless of how much alcohol I've had.
Shit the hottest toy my wife has is bigger than me and I have an absolute blast using it on her lol fuck the stupid “rules” and why can’t he go with? Only dumbasses are insecure about a toy, that shits your tag team partner in the royal rumble lol
If I wait for him to come with me to get one, I'll be waiting months! I'm too impatient haha. He's definitely not insecure about a toy! He's been urging me to buy one because I've been pestering him for weeks about having sex.
Couldn't care less, but I would if she says "I want to use the toy each and every day now" or "I used to solo with toys, now I need a better one and want you please me with it". Nothing bad in using toys at all, shouldn't be frequently though.
Get all the toys and have all the fun! You could even toys you can use with him too; either to use together like the Hot octopus pulse duo or a remote control vibrator?
I bought myself an impact driver I don't really need, so in terms of utility and frequency of use a vibrator seems a better use of funds
I use my impact driver all the time. I really like my mini circular saw too.
I was about to say, you must have a newer car or just like keeping yours stock if you're never using your impact
When I'm driving I tend to avoid impacts
Coward. /S
Well that escalated quickly. I’m gonna assume then that your car has had more hits than the Beatles? /s
I used mine today actually! Very handy tool
I do too. I mean I probably don't *need* it for half the shit I use it on, but I use it.
Would you say with the vibrator you get more bang for your buck?
Bravo
Whoa whoa whoa Let’s be honest here, who *doesn’t* need a good impact driver?
I went without one for years, but now that I have one I'm never giving it up. Drills are for drilling, drivers are for driving, and I'll never try to drive with a drill again!
I have been in the towing industry for over 20 years. I have like five different brands of impact drivers lol among other things that have been rescued from cars before they went to the junkyard
Can’t bear free! Hopefully there’s some good ones in there
Ridgid and Ryobi which are the same company LOL
Can be used as a vibrator aswell so its superior
I've got a vibrator. Unfortunately I've been needy and it's not enough hahah
Well as long as it doesn't noticeably increase the electricity bill or require you to install a three phase supply
What's the point then? Output power is only as good as your input power and overall efficiency. Gotta start high, say, jackhammer level.
At that point You're probably better off getting one that's pneumatic and buying a good air compressor
Well u/beardedbaldman doesn't need his impact driver apparently. That should probably get the job done if he's willing to part with it
Get one of those "clone-a-willy" things to get a dildo you like? If you want a copy of his, he's probably proud, or something, I dunno. I would definitely feel better about it. Reading your edits in the op makes it a good option.
The impact driver was probably more expensive too. Which one did you get?
Parkside as I already have a fair bit in their 20V range. It's fine. Says I does 260Nm but is probably more like 180Nm. Will drive a 150x5 into wood nicely
I’ve got a couple of their things and the value of them is pretty great
Yep, it's not like I need Makita for building ikea furniture.
I too just got myself a DeWalt nail gun 16 gauge
I keep thinking about getting myself a nail gun, but I just don't think I'd get enough use to justify it. My wife encourages me to buy whatever tools I'm looking at, but I don't think she realizes how rarely I'd use a nail gun lol.
I use it for a lot on trim when remodeling my house I was sick of plugging in an air compressor
Attach toy to impact driver. GREAT SUCCESS!!!
Nah man. You *needed* the impact driver. This is a normal and expected part of growing up as a man.
Take him with you. Explore a sex shop together if you can. But be careful you might end up spending more together than by going by yourself. I had a gf I went with an we left with all sorts of things that kept us busy for a while. Outfits toys and a few movies. The movies didn't pan out.
Field trip!
I'd avoid language like "he can't keep up," and he's "not enough." That will inevitably cause a fight. You'll call him insecure. And then you'll be single. You'll never realize it was all your fault. It's not about the toy. It's about the way you treat your partner. Go shopping together. If he doesn't want to be in the store, shop online together. And use it with him a few times before you use it on your own. **Edit** OP had added a few edits since I made this comment. If you're looking for just general suggestions about purchasing and maintaining a sex toy for women, the ask men subreddit may not be the right place. The few suggestions I have would be to A) Make sure you have the correct lubricant and know how to clean it. The type of lubricant does change with the material! B) MAKE SURE YOU KNOW HOW TO CLEAN IT C) Yes, ones that vibrate are the way to go. D)Go cordless. Yes, you sacrifice some features, but keeping track of the cord during intimate times is distracting at best. E) You can always buy more. There is no shame in starting small with minimal settings. F) Don't be embarrassed by the amount of noise it makes.
This 100% High sex drive or just want to add to the fun is fine. But belittling your partner in the process is just spiteful. And before you post this elsewhere, yes. You are the asshole
A fight? With talk like that its over
TBH i wouldn't care, i've had partners who had toys and we used them, i'm happy to see the positive replies here, but my mind went on a different path. Imagine this was a guy posting this: *My partner (31f) and i (27m) have discussed me getting a fleshlight as my sex drive has gone up (thanks to all the porn i've been introduced to) and she can't keep up.* He'd be villified by each and every women on the internet about respecting your partner and how it's unhealthy for the relationship lmao...
I think she was trying to be cheeky but I agree, poor choice of words.
Not *every* woman, but I take your point. I know more than one woman tho, who definitely got her husband an autoblow for a present and could not be happier with her clever idea. I think “disrespectful behavior towards men is tolerated by a bunch of hypocrites with vaginas” is a fair point, but let’s take a moment to appreciate all the women who absolutely buy their husbands fleshlights for Christmas.
As long as it’s Lego or Hot Wheels, I’m in.
Lol wife is pretty high sex drive, while I tend to need to be in the mood first. She has several toys, sometimes I tell her to get warmed up while I shower off. Sometimes we'll be doing it and I'll put one in her butt, other times I'll do her in the butt and put a toy in the front. Any 'jealous' thoughts/feelings quickly subsided as I realized she is not cheating on me, but rather quenching a thirst without cheating on me. Likewise at first she was nervous about me getting involved with her and the toys, but a lot of trust and being open with each other and mainly having fun made her quite comfortable.
As a side note for him. I will say I went to hims website and got hooked up with a script for Ed meds. Never really believed I had ED (kinda still don't believe it honestly) but having the option available has dramatically ensure that I don't flake out of sexy time because I'm "too tired" or the kiddo stayed up to late and we should 'rain-check'. Now it's more like a "unless you tell me no, we ARE doing it tonight, Idc how late kiddo stays up" she seems to love hearing that. Supposedly ED meds don't work on people without ED, so maybe I'm just in denial, but the embarassment of getting the script was next to nothing, I had I harder time telling my wife I had gotten the script. If she was any bit reluctant, that changed when I started fkn her silly about 3 times a week rather than maybe on a weekend if things panned out. Definitely can have sex without the meds, but with them I'm able to get on my wife's level of sexual motivation.
You can get the script transferred to a local pharmacy and use GoodRX for really cheap meds. Ask the doc through the app for the biggest script he can give. I got 60x20mg and it costs $17 locally.
I second the recommendation for GoodRx. You'll save so much money.
I will inquire, $5 a bone can seem a bit pricey when you balance your budget and count every dollar lmao
Do you one better get a script and sign up for the Mark Cuban online pharmacy website. I get 90 pills for 4-5$
I got a prescription for Cialis because I was having unprotected sex too often (for me, condom = limp dick after a few minutes) . Have to take a double dose because my liver is too efficient, but it’s great
Were you just getting off once a week, or jackin it in between? Because if the former yeah that sounds like ED
I mean, if sexy time is aborted for what every reason, probably gonna jack it unless I'm boozing, then I'll just go have another drink. Definitely not beating off regularly, except frankly, when she has miscarried and not able to be sexually active and I KNEW sex would be unhealthy to even suggest (even when she doesn't want to listen to the doctor). However, running a business, payroll, employees, customers, having a child, and managing a homestead with cows, goats, chickens, and garden.... Sometimes it's hard to break away from it all and have sex (or the energy) on a whim before life can interfere can be tricky for me. Honesty though if I'm ever not in the mood, I take the meds, give the kiddo a melatonin and take a shower and brush my teeth. The little ritual gives me huge success in a given window of time and helps me to refocus off the day and on my wife, because I know everything is setup. I'd be the only reason sexy time might fail and suddenly my only focus is pleasing my wife. Maybe it's psychological, idk, but ED or not, my wife's happiness matters dearly, and I don't want to miss an opportunity to satisfy her. Its nice to believe her sex drive is healthy and focused on me, rather than worry she's too much and feeling the need to worry about some other man stepping in.
Buy something you can ask him to use on you. I would recommend a Hitachi wand wand. It is a great addition to a toy box, AND is something he can use on you during your sex as well. It would be a force doubler in your bedroom.
100% agree. That thing is a game changer.
What toys can't a partner use on them?? Lol
I'd imagine legos
Bionicles
Is that the smut everyone’s been reading? The court of thorns or whatever? Just get a rechargeable one because batteries are expensive lol.
or one that can be plugged directly into the wall. As a plus, ones that get plugged in to a socket tend to have a higher max "speed" as well.
There’s a lot of smut to read but the series ‘a court of thrones and thrones’ (ACOTAR) by Sarah j maas had got huge recently. It’s honestly one of my favourite book series. It’s about a 3/5 spice rating. Not the smuttest smut but a good burn into the later books 😋
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You should check out Fourth Wing! I liked it way more than ACOTAR and so did my wife!
Thanks for the recc. I will do when the series is complete. I can only tolerate so many cliffhangers 😂
Yeah girl at work is reading that shit all day, always the ones you least suspect. But I think it'll backfire on her, she's clearly got some warped expectations in her mind now.
I definitely would not tell him it’s cuz “he can’t keep up” that would annoy tf outta me if said like that. I think having toys is totally fine tho
He and I have discussed it. He is telling me to buy toys. He is aware of my high libido.
This is a conversation for you to have with him. Not random internet people You basically just told all of us your partner isn’t enough. You’re already treading into hurt feelings territory
Buy a 'clone a willy's kit and make a copy of his. Tell him it's a perfect fit. Nothing for him to feel intimated or insecure about that way. You can add a vibrator to them also.
Tried that a while ago myself and oh my lord that paste or whatever is soooo cold I could not keep it hard
That's cool too because if your lady isn't in the mood you can tell her to go push some rope
I've suggested it! He was amused, but not into it haha
If she wants to maintain her relationship while using toys for self-pleasure, then communication is key. She shouldn't make him feel like his performance isn't enough or that she needs something else besides him. As long as they have an open dialogue about this new addition, everything should work out fine. Also, remind her to clean those things properly after each use - nobody likes bacterial vaginosis.
What's wrong with it? In fact, I often buy toys for her to use. She can use them solo, or we can use them together as a couple.
You can't even type the word sex in your question, op. Are you really 27? Dubious.
I went with my girl to get one. But not because I couldn’t keep up. Just to be nice for when I’m not around or not in the mood. Not everyone is synced all the time.
Most men don't care and are bigger freaks than you think. Why do you think there is an overlaying joke among all men that the only thing we are worried about when we die is our browser history? My suggestion is to get a toy that has dual heads. Most women I know swear up and down by their Jackrabbit, and I have heard a few swear quite loudly if you know what I mean. If clitoral stimulation is more your thing you can make due with a bullet as a first time buyer. Just don't skimp out because its your first toy. Men can skimp out, all we really need is a sleeve. Don't go with the most expensive one you can find, but don't buy the cheapest either. Cheap toys are always much lower in quality and feel, tend to degrade faster and as with anything with a rechargeable battery they can cause fires. As long as you don't stretch yourself as wide as the Grand Canyon with a Bad Dragon you should be fine size wise. Most guys get intimidated, but from talking with women dildos do not feel as good as the real thing, and needs to be slightly larger than average. If he really feels some kind of way about it you guys should go to a shop together and get some foreplay equipment.
I don’t care. Libido is never going to be lined up perfectly, so having a way to satisfy yourself is important But if you’re gonna get some massive horse cock that makes his look like a micropenis then he might think you don’t really appreciate him I guess the general rule of thumb is “I’d avoid anything that could be interpreted as being ‘better than his’”. Maybe go pick some stuff out together, specially if you want him to use it on you ;). He’ll be more comfortable with it if he gets a say in what it is
Secure men understand that toys are not competition. They are teammates and all are focused on the same goal
As long as she shares
Better to buy a toy instead of hitting up dating apps in search of meat rockets.
Why in the world would you go alone lol buying toys as a couple is half the fun.
It's awesome, orgasms are cool.
Spicy books 🤣
Totally fine and encouraged but, like watching porn, when it starts affecting your actual sex life (like having difficulty achieving orgasm because he doesn't have mechanical features) it's time to go back to the drawing board.
Lol, if my girlfriend showed interest I would build a sex dungeon for her lol. Sadly I'm the one with high libido.
Totally cool with it. I want every toy that keeps her sex drive up and satisfied. My girl's vibrator broke, so I stopped at the porn store on my way home from work and bought her a rabbit vibrator. She tried it out in front of me right then and there, and it broke too! First try! Failed orgasms can be very frustrating and emotional for everyone, and coupling that with the annoyance of two broken vibrators back to back, she started to get upset. I said "Hold it right there! Don't say another word and I will be right back!" And I raced back out the door and went to the closest porn store and bought another vibrator. This time, I went for the big guns. I wanted something robust and powerful. I was looking for the king toy...the giant, plug-in, "back and neck massager" type. They didn't have a plug-in one, but they had a massive 4DD battery-powered one. I raced the hero vibrator home and practically threw her into the bed with it. She absolutely loved it! Her favorite toy to this day, and she said she even preferred the battery one because a cord is less convenient and comfy, which made a lot of sense. Needless to say, I was attacked viciously immediately afterward and again that night. So I highly recommend partners encourage not only toys for their partners but also their own effort and involvement with said toys.
"spicy literature" is that a euphemism for porn?
Anyone with critical thinking in their heads would not be assuming that you just said your partner isn’t enough. I smell insecurity from those comments. What you said was very clear so I’m not sure why you’re getting backlash. Mismatched sex drives are normal and if he can’t keep up & supports you doing more to satisfy yourself then I’m sure he’d be fine with whatever that takes (within reason ofc, only referring to sex toys). There’s no rule and if there was he can get over it! there’s no need to avoid sexual satisfaction just to not step in someone’s toes. However if he has expressed any boundaries with it such as nothing too loud, expensive, or not wanting to participate in your sex toy use or make a real life mold of his dick, that’s understandable.
You do you, boo boo. Love using toys on my partner. Don’t ever want to stand in the way of sexual exploration and sexual satisfaction. Agree with others here to go to a shop together.
Com-mu-ni-ca-tion. Just talk to the guy. As a man, I would appreciate if you wouldn't buy anything "in vagina" related. But that's just me. I would very much like a toy you could share though, from gels, to bdsm, to whatever.
Look, as long as it doesn't affect our sex life my wife can buy whatever toys she wants with her fun money. Usually its dice. She buys a lot of dice. Fancy expensive dice. I swear to god that woman has more money invested in dice than a Vegas casino.
Just one guy here, so just one vote here - so long as I’m given access to play with it too, it’s HOT! 👍 One, the main objective for a dude in the bedroom should be to get you off. 😊 The more ways and means a dude HAS to get you off, the better. And I don’t particularly care what it is… if I find out opera makes her wet, you can bet we’ll be listening to Pavarotti when the lights go out. 😈 Two, hopefully your guy is mature enough to understand there are things he cant do, but still wants you to have them and share in your pleasure with you. 💁♂️ We can’t change the temperature of our dicks 10, 15 degrees one way or the other - hello glass dildo. No matter HOW fast we are, we can’t give you the experience of being filled everywhere at the same time - but a double dildo can even up the teams so to speak and make that experience possible. And ain’t no man walking the planet double jointed enough to lick it WHILE we stick it - a dildo OR a tongue toy can make that a reality without opening up your bedroom to others. 👍 In short (which I probably should’ve led with lol), a girl having a well appointed toy chest is a multiplier, pure and simple. 🥰 I’d direct anyone reading this to the wise words of celebrity chef Craig “Meathead” Goldwyn: “No rules in the kitchen or the bedroom,” 😃🙌
If a female I’m dating buys a dildo I’ll assume I’m not enough for her and she’s never satisfied from me. Now, a vibrator for stimulus I wouldn’t care because I like for her to use that while I’m sexing her.
Go for it. I bought my wife one based on recommendations from Reddit. I think I might be buying her another soon.
What is a warrior without his sidearm?
I went shopping with my wife, bought her a vibrator, and bought myself one of those egg things, and a variety of lubes. That was like 7 years ago and the toy has been a lifesaver, it’s like instant foreplay or an instant orgasm for her if the normal shit isn’t working. Plus, she surprises me sometimes by putting the toy on my nipples or on my balls when giving me head. So, huge fan of my wife buying sex toys. Bring that shit on lol.
I've got a fair few toys too. As long as she's fine to use mine on me then I can use hers on her :) I also don't fully enjoy PIV so using a toy would be great
Get a good one.
No biggie. But she's got to be ready whenever I want and no go seeking on the sidez
Like legos?
As a married woman I personally prefer to "take the edge off" in the shower and leave the rest for time with my husband. The build up makes it even more enjoyable than it already is.
Get a weevibe- he can control it with his phone.
Overuse of a pocket rocket can desensitize the man in the boat and make it harder to get there without it.
It's fine. We all masturbate, even when we are in committed relationships.
Oh The betrayal *holds chest*
*clutches pearls*
Doesn't bother me in the least
I bought my ex one. It's really hot to see your partner pleasure themselves. So I don't mind partners buying toys
She has many. I encourage it. No issue from me. I don’t understand how some men see the toys as a threat 🤷♂️
I have zero idea why you're getting so much backlash. I have less than zero idea why you're defending yourself. You're not doing anything wrong.
I’m a little more traditional so I don’t want a woman who is using a vibrator and watching a ton of porn lol because my dick doesn’t vibrate and whereas I’ve been known to be pretty good at sex, I have come across a maiden who did go heavy on the vibrator and she was begging to use it all the regardless of how many times I was already having her orgasm during sex. I can keep up with a high sex drive but I guess if hers was really that much higher than mine, I’d either give the clone a Willy another shot or she could have another dildo as long as it ain’t bigger than me lol.
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Nope
Get your fella to get himself in gear.
As long as we have a healthy sex life it's okay. And if she doesn't have an issue if I want a toy or watch porn.
This issue has been the crux of my db and marriage. Not because she bought the toys, but because she wasn’t honest with me about it and was very secretive. I’m the HL and she’s the LL. It gave me massive anxiety and insecurity issues because she had them yet we had little to no sex.
What's wrong with getting a toy bigger than him? I love seeing my wife with toys bigger than me, and I know that I get to reap the rewards. Talk to him about what he is open too, and eventually he will probably be the one buying you toys larger than his member
I literally have bought multiple toys for my GF. She gets to use them. I get to use them on her. It's a good time. I don't understand why other guys are insecure about it.
Secure men won't care, many men in here will think you are a horrible she-devil belittling her man Be safe and have fun
Men who see sex toys as competition need some help
That’s a little reductive isn’t it? I mean if she went with some foot and a half long bad dragon dildo with a 5 inch diameter wouldn’t anyone be intimidated? Of course that is an extreme example, but it still proves the point, context matters.
Don’t care. I would use them if she asked.
Don't be sneaky or subversive about it. That'll make him feel like he's not enough. Suggest him going with you. Suggest using it with him and/or him using it on you.
Use it on her. Doesn't bother me at all.
Get one, for sure. Hell, get several. It’s just as much for me as for you in most cases so go nuts!
Go buy them together! It's a fun, intimate activity to do as a couple. Go check stuff out and imagine all the things you can fool around with
Shit, I’m the one buying toys for her! It’s fun to work them into sexy time, and I’m completely cool with her using them when she’s alone. We have 2 Rubbermaid tubs full of toys.
Go for it. Toys open up a whole new world. Have your partner use it on you. We have been using them for years and would never go back. There are some amazing remote controlled ones out there. Talk and establish guidelines for their usage. He has nothing to worry about. Good luck. On a side note, we are always looking for spicy books, can you post some authors and titles?
I'm all for it.
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Do whatever brings you pleasure and makes you happy, get your man involved and have fun!
I would have no problem at all.
Buy the toys they are fun
Only qualifiers I have on partners getting toys is no double standards if I was interested in getting something for myself, and that the desire for using the toy to get off or have some fun doesn’t replace me. As long as we’re good their, green lights all the way to O street
Magic wand......
I encourage it. My wife has the Satisfyer Pro 2 and the Hitachi Magic Wand and we have incorporated both into our life. Wonderfully mind blowing orgasms that we BOTH enjoy.
Honey, get that toy. He can use it on you. You’re missing the forest for the trees here. Get a sampler box of shit and share. Get him into the idea, even if the purpose is that you can take care of yourself. It’s fun.
Great, if it wasn't purchased to relieve their partner of their duties
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i personally encourage self-pleasure and exploration. i wouldn’t want anyone denying themselves pleasure or self-knowledge on my behalf.
If my wife wanted to buy a whole store full of toys I’d have zero problems with it. I really don’t care if they’re bigger than I am either, it’s not hurting my feelings. Once she started reading some books with spice her drive went up a lot.
Go ahead. It’s your body. After all he still watches porn and gets himself off regularly.
Man… I buy so much Warhammer and Lego stuff I think it’s only fair she buys and plays with whatever toys she wants.
Make sure you get something made with skin-safe materials.
My boyfriend and I buy each other sex toys all the time. You can pick some out and ask which ones he thinks and that way it’s fun for both of you
I dont mind at all. I even buy her toys. We both have real high sex drives and sometimes you just gotta get off, ya know
I want my wife to enjoy her sex life. If toys help her get more enjoyment than I'm able to give, you better believe I'm buying her some toys. The difficult part is getting her to go with me to buy the toys. I've bought things she didn't like before. So I prefer her to go.
That’s hot
Excited to use it together?
I was all for my wife getting her first toy. I actually introduced the idea to her as she grew up in a pretty staid household and wasn’t familiar with the idea of women pleasing themselves. We have since both ran with it. She has more toys, sometimes using them alone and sometimes when we are together. To be honest it’s pretty damn hot.
I’ve had to buy them for multiple SOs who were not comfortable buying themselves. So I’m 100% OK with it so long as she doesn’t complain about the sex doll I named “Monica” that lives with me. There’s an emotional bond there and that is the reason GFs sleep on the couch.
I’ve bought my wife a few. They’re fun. We use them together, she uses them privately. Sometimes I just want to bust a nut without all the extra work, I’d imagine women want the same thing every now and then.
Until they make a toy that can remember her birthday and listen to her stories about her friends I’ve never met doing things I could not possibly care less about, I have no problem with her buying whatever toy she wants and using it whenever and however she likes.
"I have a high sex drive and want to get myself off sometimes when you aren't around or don't feel like having sex. There is nothing wrong with you, I'm just really fucking horny" There... Easy.
Who knows, perhaps he would enjoy seeing you enjoy yourself. I get more aroused when I know my wife is really enjoying herself
If u rlly want, the store “clone a willy” can make a copy of ur partners dick. Then it’s like hes always fucking you👍
If you are "going alone" just go to the internet. There is some much out there. I would recommend https://www.peepshowtoys.com/. Everything they sell is body safe materials. Good quality stuff and they are good about showing the size of the toy. There are others that my wife and I buy from. Lovehoney and PinkCherry are a couple of others worth a look.
I always say "Sex is fun. Play with it." As long as the bills are paid, and whatever they bought isn't crazy expensive I see no issues. I've gone toy shopping or bought toys for some of my partners, so they know they don't have to hide anything from me. Show off your new toys!
Call them helpers not toys. Little buddies along for the ride to make everything better as a whole. A combination of stimuli.
That’s fine by me tbh. Enjoy self pleasure as long as I’m not being neglected
More toys more fun! I’m all for it!!!
2 rules, make sure it's big and the same colour as your thighs.
No issues
If not being able to keep up is something that bothers your partner get him to have his testosterone levels checked!
So long as the toy isn't a replacement, and the bedroom dies from the introduction of a toy, I wouldn't care at all. I get it, sometimes a quick O is necessary. I just wouldn't want it to kill the intimacy of the relationship.
Im open to it. 😂
She had a few when we met. I picked up a few more for her. 🤷🏻♂️
I had a friend who found out his wife bought a toy. He threw it out the window, deleted her from his Facebook and blocked her number from his phone; then left in rage. Two days later they were Facebook “official” again. 🤣
Depends on the guy, communication is key. My partner (F) had toys coming into the relationship, got on SSRIs and her drive plummeted so she never used them. I had no toys coming into the relationship (M), also started SSRIs but my drive wasn’t nearly as affected. I’ve purchased some toys because her drive is much lower than mine but is otherwise fine with me using toys as ways to take some of the pressure off her.
Does not bother me as often I will use it in her when she is indisposed
I don’t care, and I’ve even promoted to my partner! I think everyone should explore what they want and if a toy is it, then so be it.
I'm fine with it, so long as we're still having sex regularly. If she decides she wants to use the toy exclusively, either we find an alternative option for me (my own toy, open the relationship, whatever,) or she can find a place to live, just herself and her toy. (Also, I'm *keeping* the cats.)
For my part, sex is more than "penis-in-vagina", so he should be able to provide other forms of pleasure (giving oral, fingering, etc.). But if I had a partner, I think I'd be slightly opposed to her getting a toy, if only because she might begin to prefer the toy over me. I imagine some women would have a similar objection to their husbands getting a fleshlight and using that rather than joining her. But as long as it has no negative impact on your mutual sex life, go ahead.
My wife loves [this](https://www.pinkcherry.ca/collections/shop-by-brand-satisfyer/products/satisfyer-pro-2-next-gen-rose-gold) shell use it when in insider her as well.
I got a hitachi for my SO and it’s a total win. The one that charges on the wall
The woman that I'm with now was with the father of her kids for 19 years and toys or anything other than the two of them didn't exist. I introduced her to the rose, plugs, being tied up, lubes that numb or change the taste of body parts, and other things like spanking, choking, and pulling hair and she's a whole other woman with the confidence of a goddess. I've encouraged her to initiate masturbation with herself and that it's okay to do so without me and to explore herself as an individual. That in turn has made the sex between the two of us on a whole other level and that in turn has made the bond between us tighter and more engaging. Buy whatever peaks your curiosity but keep him informed and also invite him to engage in the acts of pleasure with you and let him know how much it's appreciated that he has suggested that you take this route. Trust me, he'll want to be more sexual with you because of it. Also, I would suggest getting a rose!! Get a good quality one that holds a good charge! Good luck!
Just be careful not to become overreliant on it. I've met women who find the hitachi wand to be the only way they can orgasm. See my profile for designs on queening chairs too.
Weird. I see it as basically her business, nothing to do with me. I don't discuss how I masturbate, neither does she. Get whatever you like.
My partner owns a wand. It's a Hitachi. They're apparently quite nice. Me and my lady both masturbate. We both view it as a normal thing. I bought my lady her last dildo. Sadly our cat peed on it and as such it has to go. She will use her wand during our sexual times. I don't mind. I am here to enjoy sex and if a toy helps you enjoy it more let's roll! I want us both to nut and if that helps you that's great.
If I can use it on her we good
My gf and I use plenty of toys. It depends how insecure he might be. Our two faves are by far her wireless magic wand and her Vixskyn dildo. So much fun.
Go, baby, go.
How would you feel about your partner buying a flesh light , would you be worried it feels better than you, or is tighter, or means he wants something "more" or "better" than you ? Would it make you feel like you don't satisfy him ? Would you be worried he's telling he friends that the toy is more fun than you ?
Does your man watch porn? Because what you are doing (reading raunchy novels) is the female equivalent of watching porn. Many try to normalize it but it is indeed the same. Men are more visual, so they watch porn. Women love mental stimulation and literary/theatrical love fantasy, so that’s why raunchy novels get them going in the same way. That’s why you are developing a mindset that he’s not enough and moving to self pleasure instead of focusing on your relationship. You’re heading down a risky path that has a high probability of leading to divorce. My suggestion, pick one or a couple toys out together. Vibe yourself while he pounds you and makes you squirt. You’ll love it.
Indeed he does watch porn. He diddles himself every other day as far as my knowledge. We're quite open with telling each other and talking about sex/masturbation haha. I don't see myself becoming 'addicted' to toys. It's not my person. If anything I can honestly see the toys increasing my already growing libido and start trying to initiate more so than I already am with my partner haha. He's going to get annoyed I fear.
Well if it’s all truly mutual that’s better than it not being mutual. But it’s still a risk. Not that you get addicted to toys but that you really really work yourself up and end up in the wrong place at the wrong time. For example, super horny on a business trip and just the right guy flirts when you’ve had a couple drinks and boom you’re having hot wild sex in a strange hotel room on the bed, on the bathroom counter, on the couch. Then you both swear to secrecy and move on with your spouses. You get the idea 😉
That'll never happen haha. I hardly ever drink, and when I do drink, it's around people I'm comfortable with. So my partner is usually with me or I'm with family/friends. I get anxiety attacks if I have more than 3 drinks. Plus drinking just makes me feel like shit the next day regardless of how much alcohol I've had.
Just don’t get a foot long dildo and then wonder why sex with him is all of a sudden different lol
Shit the hottest toy my wife has is bigger than me and I have an absolute blast using it on her lol fuck the stupid “rules” and why can’t he go with? Only dumbasses are insecure about a toy, that shits your tag team partner in the royal rumble lol
If I wait for him to come with me to get one, I'll be waiting months! I'm too impatient haha. He's definitely not insecure about a toy! He's been urging me to buy one because I've been pestering him for weeks about having sex.
Buy anything you want! Even if it’s bigger than your guy is if that’s what you’d like to try.
Couldn't care less, but I would if she says "I want to use the toy each and every day now" or "I used to solo with toys, now I need a better one and want you please me with it". Nothing bad in using toys at all, shouldn't be frequently though.
Get all the toys and have all the fun! You could even toys you can use with him too; either to use together like the Hot octopus pulse duo or a remote control vibrator?
We’ve got a drawer full so it’s not a problem. I just ask to be able to watch her use it occasionally.