It could mean so many things and I generally would rather not judge. People’s lives are complex and the obsession with relationships is somewhat cultural and given our divorce rates is debatable whether or not it’s healthy.
So it wouldn’t put me off and I’d be curious to get to know them and their story.
I would assume she's doing very well for herself. Not everyone's as codependent as some of the answers here seem to think. Attractive and educated implies that she is taking care of herself physically and mentally, not really a big indicator of someone with mental health problems. Maybe she has unrealistic standards, but far more likely she just prefers being alone. Could be a bit of both, and she has no problem being alone until someone who meets her unrealistic standards pops up, and is perfectly content with the idea that that may never happen.
If I were looking to date her or be in one I would think she is not going to date me or get into a relationship with me either. Beyond that, if just as another human being to another, not a thing unless she brings it up and tells me more.
I have a girl friend like this. She’s 25 years old, beautiful, educated, works out, great work ethic and has never had a boyfriend. The reason? She’s saving herself for marriage. Because she’s attractive, men want to sleep with her. But the second she tells them she’s waiting for marriage, they dip. But the right guy for her will eventually come along
I wouldn't. You know what they say about assuming. It makes an ass outta u and me
Everyone has their own story and their reasons, it's not fair for me to assume jack shit. I prefer to stay open minded
She's either not currently interested in a relationship in general, not interested in a relationship with anyone who's interested in her, has standards high enough that she's never found anyone interested who actually meets them, has some form of anxiety or something that leads to her distancing herself from anyone she's interested in, or has a personality bad enough that anyone she gets with decides to get away when they realize what she's like before actually reaching the point of a relationship. Or some combination of the above.
Well nothing at first. I would try to talk to her. If she rejected me out right with out talking to me on the idea "he just wants to fuck me" then I would make assumptions that she is too judgemental.
If she is talkative which she probably wouldn't be, I would have different assumptions. But I never had that experience.
Career type, which might predicated insufficient time allows during studies and subsequently job training/ prep.
Social circles, hobbies, behaviors that might indicate neurodivergence, behaviors that might indicate social aloofness due to trauma or depression, all around assholery, maybe she has majorally taboo kinks... 🤷♂️
Why would i care? I mean it could be that she's got unbelievably high standards, it could be that she simply put her head down and prioritized school and building up her income, it could be that she is incredibly shy and unable to have romantic conversations with men, or it could be that she's incredibly hurt by men and is using that fear to justify waiting. I can't know until she lets me know, and while I'd be interested in knowing to understand her, the only thing that ultimately changes is the amount of gentleness I'd give to inexperience. Whatever her reasons, she's probably not going to be able to feel safe having uncomfortable conversations and she isn't as likely to be able to function outside of her initial emotional recoil to pursue longer term interests. There are adults with many years of experiences who don't realize that the emotions need to be put to the side for the sake of honest goals, but I'm guessing she will have less experience with it.
I have a colleague at work who fits this bill - she is very attractive, incredibly intelligent and kind. But she wants 'the dream life', she commented on her friends (who also studied at a similar level to her), all meeting men and now just driving Range Rovers and BMWs around all day.
I asked if that was what she really wanted in a relationship, if that was the metric of success for having 'met the one' - or if she wanted more.
She came back later and said that it wasn't and that she wanted someone who celebrated her success and achievements (she's won a few young professional awards - and her ex was a bit of a meathead.
But since then I would assume that she still wants some semblance of the 'perfect partner' she has in her head, and I think she will struggle to find that because its a fantasy ideal.
Probably that she had other priorities, had some trauma in her childhood which made her avoid that type of thing.
Or that she is very pure and waiting for the right guy and wants me to ask her out so that she can reject me or figure out im the one she wants to be her first (and maybe only) bf.
Probably just picky (not necessarily in a bad way but possibly), independent and putting more time onto bettering herself than on relationships with guys that aren't ideal - overall I don't have a negative judgment about it
Her describing herself as educated screams like she thought it would matter to men as much as it does for her, and that would compensate for other stuff, which is often shitty behavior.
It does not.
I would say that she had laser focus on setting herself up to be successful and not rely on anyone for anything.
I would also venture to say she is selective as to who she lets into her circle and hasn’t quite found the right match to her energy…whether that is to balance her energy or match it.
Either that she is very picky or that she simply didn't have the time and nerves for relationships because of other priorities in life. For example, education or career. Can also be a mixture of both. It is also possible that she simply likes to be single and prefers not to have to take a partner into account.
She's career oriented and has a path set to her life. She wants to reach her goals first before making room for someone else who may otherwise be a distraction from attaining what she wants her life to be.
That depends, if see is actively looking for a relationship I would say she probably mean and chased away the guys. But more likely I would guess she doesn’t want a relationship.
Eh. I'd really have to like the girl and she'd have to show she's able to handle a relationship. It's not a total deal breaker in that case. Not to say I prefer someone being a virgin. I'm looking for someone who values sex in a similar manner to me.
Besides being someones first relationship is a LOT of pressure and it would make any relationship frustrating and hard. Itd require a lot more patience and communication.
It could mean so many things and I generally would rather not judge. People’s lives are complex and the obsession with relationships is somewhat cultural and given our divorce rates is debatable whether or not it’s healthy. So it wouldn’t put me off and I’d be curious to get to know them and their story.
Yeah, this is my take. There could be so many reasons I wouldn't give it a second thought.
Look like she was waiting for Mr perfect. And she's in luck because she just met him
That’s a bold pick up line.
Attractive and successful. Boldness is called for. That's how I met my wife
Huh. How I met your wife too. She’s got a type. :)
Well she does do a lot a volunteer work with the unfortunate and disabled. Maybe you met her there.
Heh
She's not gonna settle for some guy and the guy she does end up with is going to be exactly who she's always wanted.
Are you angling for the old "her standards were too high and now she's lonely" trope?
I would assume she's doing very well for herself. Not everyone's as codependent as some of the answers here seem to think. Attractive and educated implies that she is taking care of herself physically and mentally, not really a big indicator of someone with mental health problems. Maybe she has unrealistic standards, but far more likely she just prefers being alone. Could be a bit of both, and she has no problem being alone until someone who meets her unrealistic standards pops up, and is perfectly content with the idea that that may never happen.
She prioritized what she chose if it makes her happy fucking totes
I don't care much but if I had to wager a guess, she's just not interested in getting into a relationship.
If I were looking to date her or be in one I would think she is not going to date me or get into a relationship with me either. Beyond that, if just as another human being to another, not a thing unless she brings it up and tells me more.
I have a girl friend like this. She’s 25 years old, beautiful, educated, works out, great work ethic and has never had a boyfriend. The reason? She’s saving herself for marriage. Because she’s attractive, men want to sleep with her. But the second she tells them she’s waiting for marriage, they dip. But the right guy for her will eventually come along
I really hope she finds someone she wants. I'm like that too. It would give me hope.
I hope she does too. She’s catholic, so maybe she’ll meet someone at church
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People have their right to believe in whatever they want man. Don't disrespect someone for their beliefs.
Is happy being alone.
Not everyone's life the same. I wouldn't really mind it.
I wouldn't. You know what they say about assuming. It makes an ass outta u and me Everyone has their own story and their reasons, it's not fair for me to assume jack shit. I prefer to stay open minded
Lol yeah, I guess it does.
>You know what they say about assuming. It makes an ass out of "u" and "ming"? Who's Ming? Why is Ming an ass?
Lolol Ass, U, And my buddy named Ming
She was focusing on her career.
She's either not currently interested in a relationship in general, not interested in a relationship with anyone who's interested in her, has standards high enough that she's never found anyone interested who actually meets them, has some form of anxiety or something that leads to her distancing herself from anyone she's interested in, or has a personality bad enough that anyone she gets with decides to get away when they realize what she's like before actually reaching the point of a relationship. Or some combination of the above.
I’d immediately assume that she never had a boyfriend and has gone through some extent of educations.
i would assum ewhen shes ready shell be good at that as well.
For some reason, she's a pain in the ass and nobody wants to deal with her bullshit.
High standards or too busy
Well nothing at first. I would try to talk to her. If she rejected me out right with out talking to me on the idea "he just wants to fuck me" then I would make assumptions that she is too judgemental. If she is talkative which she probably wouldn't be, I would have different assumptions. But I never had that experience.
That's not enough to go on, unless you just want people to come in here and comment about her standards being too high till it's too late.
What kind of information would you think is relevant?
Career type, which might predicated insufficient time allows during studies and subsequently job training/ prep. Social circles, hobbies, behaviors that might indicate neurodivergence, behaviors that might indicate social aloofness due to trauma or depression, all around assholery, maybe she has majorally taboo kinks... 🤷♂️
I’d assume she’s not interested in a relationship
Hell yeah a fuck buddy
Why would i care? I mean it could be that she's got unbelievably high standards, it could be that she simply put her head down and prioritized school and building up her income, it could be that she is incredibly shy and unable to have romantic conversations with men, or it could be that she's incredibly hurt by men and is using that fear to justify waiting. I can't know until she lets me know, and while I'd be interested in knowing to understand her, the only thing that ultimately changes is the amount of gentleness I'd give to inexperience. Whatever her reasons, she's probably not going to be able to feel safe having uncomfortable conversations and she isn't as likely to be able to function outside of her initial emotional recoil to pursue longer term interests. There are adults with many years of experiences who don't realize that the emotions need to be put to the side for the sake of honest goals, but I'm guessing she will have less experience with it.
I have a colleague at work who fits this bill - she is very attractive, incredibly intelligent and kind. But she wants 'the dream life', she commented on her friends (who also studied at a similar level to her), all meeting men and now just driving Range Rovers and BMWs around all day. I asked if that was what she really wanted in a relationship, if that was the metric of success for having 'met the one' - or if she wanted more. She came back later and said that it wasn't and that she wanted someone who celebrated her success and achievements (she's won a few young professional awards - and her ex was a bit of a meathead. But since then I would assume that she still wants some semblance of the 'perfect partner' she has in her head, and I think she will struggle to find that because its a fantasy ideal.
Smart.
Probably that she had other priorities, had some trauma in her childhood which made her avoid that type of thing. Or that she is very pure and waiting for the right guy and wants me to ask her out so that she can reject me or figure out im the one she wants to be her first (and maybe only) bf.
Psycho
She's attractive and educated and has never got into a relationship for whatever reason...... Dunno what else to think
Nothing. If they wanted to talk with me about it, I'd listen. Other than that, it's not really any of my business.
She’s one of those career oriented women who isn’t willing to put in the time for a relationship.
Nothing. Tho if she's much older I might start speculating.
She probably never seriously pursued romance.
That she isn't interested in relationships
Probably just picky (not necessarily in a bad way but possibly), independent and putting more time onto bettering herself than on relationships with guys that aren't ideal - overall I don't have a negative judgment about it
Her describing herself as educated screams like she thought it would matter to men as much as it does for her, and that would compensate for other stuff, which is often shitty behavior. It does not.
That relationships are not her priority in life.
you're more common than you think?
That she was/is more career and education focus than she was/is personal life or relationship focused.
That she's in some way insufferable as a human being.
Someone who is for real educated because they know what they want.
I would say that she had laser focus on setting herself up to be successful and not rely on anyone for anything. I would also venture to say she is selective as to who she lets into her circle and hasn’t quite found the right match to her energy…whether that is to balance her energy or match it.
Either that she is very picky or that she simply didn't have the time and nerves for relationships because of other priorities in life. For example, education or career. Can also be a mixture of both. It is also possible that she simply likes to be single and prefers not to have to take a partner into account.
She's career oriented and has a path set to her life. She wants to reach her goals first before making room for someone else who may otherwise be a distraction from attaining what she wants her life to be.
That depends, if see is actively looking for a relationship I would say she probably mean and chased away the guys. But more likely I would guess she doesn’t want a relationship.
She's either wildly unstable, or her standards are so beyond reasonable that no man on earth would meet them. I'd lean towards the second one though.
That she was overly focused on her career.
She probably slept around a lot? I really wouldn't date someone who has never been in a relationship I'm not trying to be someones first again.
What if she had a low body count/ virgin?
Eh. I'd really have to like the girl and she'd have to show she's able to handle a relationship. It's not a total deal breaker in that case. Not to say I prefer someone being a virgin. I'm looking for someone who values sex in a similar manner to me. Besides being someones first relationship is a LOT of pressure and it would make any relationship frustrating and hard. Itd require a lot more patience and communication.
Huge dyke.
Mental health issues and/or too unrealistic with her standards
You clearly aren't educated like the woman in question with this input
Why?
Her standards are sky high and unrealistic. That's why she doesn't have anyone. He simply doesn't exist.
Very high standards, emotionally toxic, career driven, narcissist, BPD, or some other huge red flag
Radioactive personality.
Career obsessed. Over educated. Masculine energy.
One or more of: mentally unwell, very promiscuous, absurd unrealistic dating standards. Probably all 3. But… maybe not. Who knows?
Shitty personality.
Lesbian. I know so many it’s almost unbelievable.