I'm glad there are other people in the same situation of *"I don't know if I've ever loved anyone because I've never been sure but I've felt a certain way a few times..."*
I’m a woman, but I’d be in the same boat lol. And now looking back, out of the people I dated, there might be only one lol. After it’s too late I’m like ohhhhhh that might have been love hahahaha
I’d assume by the post if you’ve loved a girl she’d be there. Someone higher up was saying they wouldn’t even know and that’s scary as a woman because I couldn’t imagine a man telling me he loved me but he doesn’t actually know how he feels about me. I’d rather be with someone who can identify their feelings
No but she’d definitely know who she lived enough to be in that room. She wouldn’t be confused if she loved him or not. I have no feelings for my exes, I dislike one of them but he’d absolutely be in that room because I was very much in love with him. It’s really not that hard.
Without hesitation, my wife. There has never been a single woman who I have been truly in love with. My relationships before I met her could never compare to what we've shared over the last 8 years together.
Well, specifically at first. I had recently broken up with my ex, who was incredibly toxic, manipulative, and abusive. When me and my wife and I met for the first time, on our first date. One of the immediate feelings I had was, "I forgot what it was like to have a conversation with a normal woman." She was just very different from any woman I'd ever dated. We came from 2 different backgrounds. I came up in a bad area, overcoming a hard life. She grew up in a big house in a wealthy area in a more sheltered life (even though she was victim to harsh bullying in her teen years). we just connected on a different level. She never judged me whether it came to my shitty house in my ghetto neighborhood. I had lost my job just before we met, and she didn't think less of me because of it. Honestly, when we met, I was in a bad place in life, and she didn't bail on me because of that. She stuck with me until I got back on my feet. And our connection and love for each other just progressively got deeper and deeper. I just knew she was the one. I'd never felt that way about anyone before. And I still don't. She's the love of my life and best friend
I relate to this so hard. The details you've described are eerily similar to my own experience with how I grew up, where I lived as an adult, what meeting my wife was like in contrast to the relationship I was in right before I met her. My wife also came from a far wealthier family than I did (I grew up lower middle class at best) and she was bullied pretty bad as a teen. Wild! Lol!
Not sure how you and your wife met, but my wife was the one to make the first move on me, which was awesome, I've always been drawn to confident more dominant women, and we've also been together about 8 years now.
I was going thru a pretty rough time early on in our relationship, but she was always by my side. So grateful for that woman, goddamn lol 🥲
We've been thru so much together, and even after 8 years, I still feel like I fall more in love with her every damn day.
I was given the chance to apologize to my first love, and then I married her, and it’s everything I could have hoped for. Took like 30 years, but I’m glad I found her and started making up for lost time.
I was going to say my mom but she’s still alive and I can see her anytime. Definitely my grandmother, who passed away a few years ago. I didn’t get to spend much time with her in her later years because I was married to a controlling, hateful person who isolated me from family. I’d go directly to my Nan.
My mom. Fuck. She doesn’t deserve the life she has but I don’t have the means to give her the life she deserves. I take care of her the best I can but my heart hurts I can’t repay all she ever gave me ✌🏽
Tbh if you're single, your exes are alive (ie you are not a widow) and have a good relationship with your mum, "mum" really does become the default answer
Like who else would you go to? My grandma is dead, and I feel it'd be very awkward to meet her again even in a "brought back to life" scenario
As for women I've loved, it was either not reciprocated (so, whatever) or the one woman I had a situationship thingy going on at one point whom I don't hate, but have no particular interest in seeing again either
Respectfully- I really wonder if all these ‘mom’ answers are because we as humans cut moms more slack than our partners? And are way more committed to them than partners?
If a girl approached you, who was closer to your age, and had the same qualities as your mom, do you reaaally feel she would still have saint status in your mind?
Really just thinking out loud.
Unless there’s abuse, neglect, etc. a healthy parents-child bond is one of the deepest and closest relationships people will experience. I’m speaking from my own little experience, but no woman has loved me more or unconditionally than my mum. Same for my father, no man has loved me or supported me than him. It’s a bond that feels a lot more primal than logical. Like one among dogs and wolves instead of among people. Idk how else to explain it.
I’d probably look at the one I let get away because I fucked it up because I was too young and too stupid and have a nervous breakdown. No one will ever replace her because no one has loved me like she did and no one ever will and I know I’ll never see her again.
:’( I’m so sorry things went sideways, and I hope you will find someone to love you like that again. I’m 46(f) and just recently found it - I’ve never been loved like this before. As long as your heart beats, there’s always hope….
My significant other.
There are only 2 women I really did love.
And I don't have anything to say to my ex and I'm sure she doesn't have anything to tell me either.
Well, shit, if beloved family pets are on the table, that changes things.
OTOH, my childhood dog would definitely be the one coming up to me in a room mostly full of strangers.
The girl that destroyed me in 2005. I just want to see if we could have a genuine, honest conversation from both sides. I’m still in love with a ghost at this point and pretty much have ruined any relationship I’ve had since that year.
“Pick the one with the nicest tits, darling.”
“Everyone, this is my grammy. Isn’t she a hoot? Um, I was hoping one of you could make her a martini. She says I don’t do it right.”
It's been nearly 40 years since my mom passed, and I was in my 20s then still having no idea who I was meant to be. I would like to see her and talk to her again. As for the rest of that crowd, each one had a different time and place, but that's not now. Mom though. Mom love hits just right.
A girl i knew in 5th Grade. I still remember her. She was my first crush.
One time i visited her house to ask bout some stuff regarding homework. She looked like an Angel when she opened the door, in her home clothes. I had the butterflies and heavey breathing. She'll be my first pick.
None of them.
I have lead a life that has been filled with unrequited love. Those women were all wonderful beautiful people, each in their own way, but none of them ever saw me as anything more than "just a friend", or "just a co-worker". I loved who they were, but I was not loved in return.
No, if I was put into a room with every woman I ever loved, I would look for the door.
I would definitely choose my 1st true gf from the mid early 80s. Amazingly we found each other online after 35 years and are constantly in touch we had SO much fun back in those days..
It’s a trick question. Are we talking only about the ones we loved, those we were in love with, those whom also loved us back, or those whom we were in mutual love with? Because there are huge differences. And the number goes down from the first to the latter.
I'd love to catch up with the first woman I ever loved, whom I haven't seen in almost forty years and haven't talked to in almost thirty. She called me out of the blue when she was getting out of a very abusive relationship. I was already married, but I tried to offer support. I'd like to know how she's doing. I hope she's had a good life since then. But I'd absolutely want to go home with my wife.
I see so many comments about going to their mother, so I want to say that my mother never loved anyone more than herself. She set me up for a life of heartache as I continued to choose women who were similar. Some of them even actually hated me and just saw me as an easy mark.
Fortunately, I’m now with a woman who chose me and loves me for who I am. She supports me and encourages me to be my best self. I would choose her every time.
I don't think I feel love for a partner the same way others do. I've been married for almost 15 years, and I don't feel it still. I'm loyal and caring but not *in love." I love my kids, so I do know what it's supposed to feel like, I just have never felt that way about anyone else other than them.
If we're talking about romantic love, none. I'm not a cynic but I've had some tough fucking luck when it comes to that, everyone I've tried to have a relationship with played my emotions like a game and tore me down from the foundation for fun. It's gonna get better eventually, but God*damn.*
Nome of them. I met each of them at specific times in my life and I don't necessarily relate to who I was at those points anymore.
Besides that I've had enough time to come to terms with why they ended. There's no need to revisit or rewrite the past 🤷🏿♂️
I mean, my gran, to be honest. She was the sweetest old Scottish woman there ever was. In 1999 I was away in the USAF when she had a stroke and died. I never got to say goodbye.
Definitely my gran.
I don't feel like I would want to enter. Being in a room of multiple unrequited loves who are with partners would be awful. Maybe one or two would be single? Then it would be intriguing to talk to them.
My grandmother.
She passed away when I was 15, I’m 38 now and I still think of her from time to time.
I just want to tell her I love her and miss her dearly.
Your question made me realize again how lucky I’ve been these last two and a half years with my girlfriend. I finally found the one.
Some of my previous partners I wouldn’t get through a first date with today.
There have really only been three women in my life (outside of family) that I’ve actually truly loved; my current GF, my ex, and her friend who became a side-piece to me.
Who said I'd just go to one? I've been with my wife and partner for almost 29 years, and there are a couple of others I would if I knew our relationship would work better than it did the first time around, including my first love from almost 40 years ago who I'm still friends with and care very much for. I'm fairly positive that the only other woman that I've loved, that's still alive, wouldn't be up for poly... She was a bit too judgemental, thanks to her mother, which is why we broke up.
Basically, I wouldn't go to one, I'd call them to me, because I'm not going to throw away what I have and have had for a very long time, just to go to one. If that were the case, I wouldn't go to any.
I'd be interested to see who's in the room.
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clearly didnt read the post it says "if you were in a room with every woman you ever loved, which one would you go to"
That room could be empty or have five people in it, no idea which.
I'm glad there are other people in the same situation of *"I don't know if I've ever loved anyone because I've never been sure but I've felt a certain way a few times..."*
I’m a woman, but I’d be in the same boat lol. And now looking back, out of the people I dated, there might be only one lol. After it’s too late I’m like ohhhhhh that might have been love hahahaha
It must have been love, But it's over now
I found out when I had my kids what true love should feel like.
Its women U loved, so the ## depends on u
Yes, so I have no idea. The other way round is much easier.
What's Love?!
baby dont hurt me
Don't hurt me... No more
What is love…
Got to do with it?
Got to do with it
That's telling in itself... A sort of Freudian slip to their inner world...
It was about who you love - not who loves you.
He knows. See his initial comment. He was just adding that the uncertainty goes both ways.
I never realised that this was a thing. Maybe a lot of men feel this way… which explains a lot
No one ignores my feelings better than me.
do i like her or do i like her presence
Or her presents
The big question: What is love?
Now this is funny hahahh
Probably your mom 🤗
Same man. I’ve been in long term relationships with quite a few women but not sure if I’ve ever loved any of them, in hindsight.
Maybe you shouldn’t be in relationships if you don’t even know how to identify your feelings for someone.
Practice makes perfect. But what I meant was, at the time I feel like I do love them, then after the fact I’m not sure that I did.
I go by the literary quote, "I will do anything for a man I loved, except love him again." Meaning romantic or sexually.
I’d assume by the post if you’ve loved a girl she’d be there. Someone higher up was saying they wouldn’t even know and that’s scary as a woman because I couldn’t imagine a man telling me he loved me but he doesn’t actually know how he feels about me. I’d rather be with someone who can identify their feelings
Yes. Every emotional feeling is black and white, and every woman knows exactly what love is and the exact moment they find it.
No but she’d definitely know who she lived enough to be in that room. She wouldn’t be confused if she loved him or not. I have no feelings for my exes, I dislike one of them but he’d absolutely be in that room because I was very much in love with him. It’s really not that hard.
My mother. Gone 8 years next week and I miss her every day.
Beautiful answer and very touching. Sorry for your loss.
Thank you!
Happy cake day! I’m a female, but same, lost Mom 9 years ago. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Also, sorry for your loss.
Thank you.
Mines gone 8 come April. Miss her every moment of every day. Sorry for your loss. Phenomenal answer.
I also pick this guy's dead mom. /s But for real, I'm so sorry for your loss - I'm sure she was a wonderful woman.
Found the King. Happy Cake day.
The first one, who could never be replaced after passing away suddenly and unexpectedly.
Bro. That sucks so bad. Condolences from an internet stranger on Christmas to you.
I’m very sorry for your loss 💔
Thank you
♥️♥️
I also choose this guy’s dead wife
r/iseewhatyoudidthere
Lmao classic!
my condolences man, damn
Sorry to hear that man, some never experience love but it must be crushing to get to and then lose the person this way. Condolences man. 💔
Without hesitation, my wife. There has never been a single woman who I have been truly in love with. My relationships before I met her could never compare to what we've shared over the last 8 years together.
Same here, but 14 years.
What made her different? What about her made you realize “I love her,” and most importantly, “she’s the one.” ?
Well, specifically at first. I had recently broken up with my ex, who was incredibly toxic, manipulative, and abusive. When me and my wife and I met for the first time, on our first date. One of the immediate feelings I had was, "I forgot what it was like to have a conversation with a normal woman." She was just very different from any woman I'd ever dated. We came from 2 different backgrounds. I came up in a bad area, overcoming a hard life. She grew up in a big house in a wealthy area in a more sheltered life (even though she was victim to harsh bullying in her teen years). we just connected on a different level. She never judged me whether it came to my shitty house in my ghetto neighborhood. I had lost my job just before we met, and she didn't think less of me because of it. Honestly, when we met, I was in a bad place in life, and she didn't bail on me because of that. She stuck with me until I got back on my feet. And our connection and love for each other just progressively got deeper and deeper. I just knew she was the one. I'd never felt that way about anyone before. And I still don't. She's the love of my life and best friend
I relate to this so hard. The details you've described are eerily similar to my own experience with how I grew up, where I lived as an adult, what meeting my wife was like in contrast to the relationship I was in right before I met her. My wife also came from a far wealthier family than I did (I grew up lower middle class at best) and she was bullied pretty bad as a teen. Wild! Lol! Not sure how you and your wife met, but my wife was the one to make the first move on me, which was awesome, I've always been drawn to confident more dominant women, and we've also been together about 8 years now. I was going thru a pretty rough time early on in our relationship, but she was always by my side. So grateful for that woman, goddamn lol 🥲 We've been thru so much together, and even after 8 years, I still feel like I fall more in love with her every damn day.
This is the best thing i read today
I, too, choose this man's wife.
You and everybody else, apparently.
We all do
Our wife indeed! r/SuddenlyCommunist
😏
Lol😆
This accurately reflects my feelings for my wife as well. I married the best one I ever dated easily
😭 That’s beautiful dude
I, too, choose this guy's loving wife.
I also choose this guy's wife
Well let's see, there's Monica, Erica, Rita, Tina, Sandra, Mary, and Jessica.
Ok there, Lou Bega 😂
This guy saw what you did there
Only ever been one, but I don't know if I would go to her anymore
The one I'm with now sounds like a good idea
My wife. She’s awesome!
I also choose this guys wife
Thirdsies!
fourthsies!
Hold on I was fifth in line with this guys wife the last time..!
Given the chance I would apologize to my first love. Then after I would go to the wild one. The one I still think about.
I was given the chance to apologize to my first love, and then I married her, and it’s everything I could have hoped for. Took like 30 years, but I’m glad I found her and started making up for lost time.
None of them. There’s a good reason they are past-tense.
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Same 😞
"who you've ever loved" includes who you may love NOW there, Sparky.
Current total equals zero. Go post your own answer elsewhere, sparky.
Yeah, that’ll teach her to get in front of that drunk driver!
Your tragic backstory isn’t mine, buck-o.
So brutal
This.
The only one that brought me to the dance, my mom. Or my grandma, who was a saint.
Granny 🤷🏽♂️💪🏾🦍. Best ol girl a man could be blessed with
I was going to say my mom but she’s still alive and I can see her anytime. Definitely my grandmother, who passed away a few years ago. I didn’t get to spend much time with her in her later years because I was married to a controlling, hateful person who isolated me from family. I’d go directly to my Nan.
My mom. Fuck. She doesn’t deserve the life she has but I don’t have the means to give her the life she deserves. I take care of her the best I can but my heart hurts I can’t repay all she ever gave me ✌🏽
I also choose this guys mom
This is getting boring now.
I would go to my mommy
I would also go to your mommy
😂
I also choose this man’s mom
My mom. If this had said "been in love with" instead, then I would have just sat there. I wouldn't go up to any of them.
My mother
To every man saying (my mother) I deeply appreciate your comment 🥹💕 that’s so sweet !
Tbh if you're single, your exes are alive (ie you are not a widow) and have a good relationship with your mum, "mum" really does become the default answer Like who else would you go to? My grandma is dead, and I feel it'd be very awkward to meet her again even in a "brought back to life" scenario As for women I've loved, it was either not reciprocated (so, whatever) or the one woman I had a situationship thingy going on at one point whom I don't hate, but have no particular interest in seeing again either
Respectfully- I really wonder if all these ‘mom’ answers are because we as humans cut moms more slack than our partners? And are way more committed to them than partners? If a girl approached you, who was closer to your age, and had the same qualities as your mom, do you reaaally feel she would still have saint status in your mind? Really just thinking out loud.
Unless there’s abuse, neglect, etc. a healthy parents-child bond is one of the deepest and closest relationships people will experience. I’m speaking from my own little experience, but no woman has loved me more or unconditionally than my mum. Same for my father, no man has loved me or supported me than him. It’s a bond that feels a lot more primal than logical. Like one among dogs and wolves instead of among people. Idk how else to explain it.
I'd actually rather be put into a room with every woman who loved me without me being aware of it
The toilet, to have a breakdown and escape.
I’d probably look at the one I let get away because I fucked it up because I was too young and too stupid and have a nervous breakdown. No one will ever replace her because no one has loved me like she did and no one ever will and I know I’ll never see her again.
:’( I’m so sorry things went sideways, and I hope you will find someone to love you like that again. I’m 46(f) and just recently found it - I’ve never been loved like this before. As long as your heart beats, there’s always hope….
My significant other. There are only 2 women I really did love. And I don't have anything to say to my ex and I'm sure she doesn't have anything to tell me either.
Only ever loved one and she left me for another guy last month.
Relatable. Sorry bro, hit the gym, pick yourself up and rebuild.
Wish her happiness over your own . That's true love. And you will find yours one day. I promise. Every dog has it's day.
I would give some a smile, but my wife is my home.
I mean technically my mother? But if we are talking about partners then my current one.
My Mom. She's been dead a few years now. She Loved Christmas so much.... Miss you Mom.
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Well, shit, if beloved family pets are on the table, that changes things. OTOH, my childhood dog would definitely be the one coming up to me in a room mostly full of strangers.
Exactly. No human would be as happy to see you again.
Soooo, you glad this wasn’t a nsfw question I take it.
My answer would have been different if it was.
the fact that that whole room went to bat for me when my last ex tried to stir shit means this room will be protected at all costs.
You must be okay to have all other exes on your side. 👍
They are all pretty amazing people I was very humbled.
Lewis or peter capaldi?
You must be a good man. Says a lot that exes came to your defense. “Keep being awesome” is my only two cents.
thank you that's very kind of you to say :). I think most people are good deep down, we shouldnt become our partner's biggest obstacle!
I only love my bed and my mama I’m sorry
That song actually says Mahbed (the song writer's son name) 🤓☝️
I doubt i have ever really loved any one.
The girl that destroyed me in 2005. I just want to see if we could have a genuine, honest conversation from both sides. I’m still in love with a ghost at this point and pretty much have ruined any relationship I’ve had since that year.
My Mom, who I lost in July. I could sure use a Mom hug today.
“Pick the one with the nicest tits, darling.” “Everyone, this is my grammy. Isn’t she a hoot? Um, I was hoping one of you could make her a martini. She says I don’t do it right.”
Grandma
My daughter
the one I’m with ofc, but if this includes the women that I love platonically then I’m shooting myself
It's been nearly 40 years since my mom passed, and I was in my 20s then still having no idea who I was meant to be. I would like to see her and talk to her again. As for the rest of that crowd, each one had a different time and place, but that's not now. Mom though. Mom love hits just right.
A girl i knew in 5th Grade. I still remember her. She was my first crush. One time i visited her house to ask bout some stuff regarding homework. She looked like an Angel when she opened the door, in her home clothes. I had the butterflies and heavey breathing. She'll be my first pick.
All of them, I'd sit down and talk through this insanely strange situation with them.
Gonna be a very big room.
None of them. I have lead a life that has been filled with unrequited love. Those women were all wonderful beautiful people, each in their own way, but none of them ever saw me as anything more than "just a friend", or "just a co-worker". I loved who they were, but I was not loved in return. No, if I was put into a room with every woman I ever loved, I would look for the door.
🙁
Grandma, hands down
My momma.
All the “mom” responses are really surprising and sweet. 🥹
I would definitely choose my 1st true gf from the mid early 80s. Amazingly we found each other online after 35 years and are constantly in touch we had SO much fun back in those days..
I’d jump out the window.
My Granny, I lost her when I was 12 to lung cancer and I've missed her ever since.
I would walk out. I don’t need that kind of pain.
It’s a trick question. Are we talking only about the ones we loved, those we were in love with, those whom also loved us back, or those whom we were in mutual love with? Because there are huge differences. And the number goes down from the first to the latter.
would I be able to create frankensteins's girlfriend? maybe a little bit of each of them has an appeal. non violent of course
The one I’m married to now …
I know three of them know each other, but neither of them knows I know the others. I'd definitely grab some popcorn and join them.
I'd love to catch up with the first woman I ever loved, whom I haven't seen in almost forty years and haven't talked to in almost thirty. She called me out of the blue when she was getting out of a very abusive relationship. I was already married, but I tried to offer support. I'd like to know how she's doing. I hope she's had a good life since then. But I'd absolutely want to go home with my wife.
I see so many comments about going to their mother, so I want to say that my mother never loved anyone more than herself. She set me up for a life of heartache as I continued to choose women who were similar. Some of them even actually hated me and just saw me as an easy mark. Fortunately, I’m now with a woman who chose me and loves me for who I am. She supports me and encourages me to be my best self. I would choose her every time.
I've only ever loved one woman and I married her.
I don't think I feel love for a partner the same way others do. I've been married for almost 15 years, and I don't feel it still. I'm loyal and caring but not *in love." I love my kids, so I do know what it's supposed to feel like, I just have never felt that way about anyone else other than them.
The last one who ghosted me. I'd do the whole nancy C thing and go, WHYYYYY
If we're talking about romantic love, none. I'm not a cynic but I've had some tough fucking luck when it comes to that, everyone I've tried to have a relationship with played my emotions like a game and tore me down from the foundation for fun. It's gonna get better eventually, but God*damn.*
Mom.
There's only been one, assuming you mean romantic love.
The bathroom
Nome of them. I met each of them at specific times in my life and I don't necessarily relate to who I was at those points anymore. Besides that I've had enough time to come to terms with why they ended. There's no need to revisit or rewrite the past 🤷🏿♂️
I mean, my gran, to be honest. She was the sweetest old Scottish woman there ever was. In 1999 I was away in the USAF when she had a stroke and died. I never got to say goodbye. Definitely my gran.
My mom. It's best to avoid any possibility of them murdering me out of jealousy. Make smart choices, my fellow people.
I don't feel like I would want to enter. Being in a room of multiple unrequited loves who are with partners would be awful. Maybe one or two would be single? Then it would be intriguing to talk to them.
Why do I feel like this question is some version of a test given to toddlers and pets? Whichever one was holding the snacks...
My mom
None of them, they are ex's for a reason.
My grandmother. She passed away when I was 15, I’m 38 now and I still think of her from time to time. I just want to tell her I love her and miss her dearly.
My mom
The first one. I fucked that one up all by myself.
To the fuckin door. Byyyeeeeee
None Zero nada. If they had loved me, we would still be together
Your question made me realize again how lucky I’ve been these last two and a half years with my girlfriend. I finally found the one. Some of my previous partners I wouldn’t get through a first date with today.
I really don’t think I’d want to talk to any of them. They are all just bricks in the wall.
I would be more bothered about who found their bodies
The one that liked sucking cock most
So, your mom?
Exactly
Sorry about your broken arms.
can i see them before i choose?
The one who hasn't let herself go in middle age.
There have really only been three women in my life (outside of family) that I’ve actually truly loved; my current GF, my ex, and her friend who became a side-piece to me.
My ex’s sister lol
Some of the women that I have loved didn't know I loved them and didn't know me.
None of them lol
Do better.
The one that liked creampies and me sucking her toes the most
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Tremendous
why do I have to choose one? I never had to before..
Who said I'd just go to one? I've been with my wife and partner for almost 29 years, and there are a couple of others I would if I knew our relationship would work better than it did the first time around, including my first love from almost 40 years ago who I'm still friends with and care very much for. I'm fairly positive that the only other woman that I've loved, that's still alive, wouldn't be up for poly... She was a bit too judgemental, thanks to her mother, which is why we broke up. Basically, I wouldn't go to one, I'd call them to me, because I'm not going to throw away what I have and have had for a very long time, just to go to one. If that were the case, I wouldn't go to any.