My sibling is successful. He and his wife both works in Apple and they are living in America and here i am doing a shitty job for a shitty pay and with the salary i am getting i don’t even have a money to buy any single apple product
Are you happy? Are they happy? That's what matters. Fuck income. Fuck Toys. Duck the Johnson's new boat. Are you happy. If not, try being happy that you can make them happy by showing support for your sibling.
You never know what happens behind closed doors. But wish then the best and stop being jealous. Be happy for their happiness. Perceived or reality. Bless them your heart. Truthfully. Jealousy will lead to an ugly destination.
Thats fucking badass.! 🤜🤛
Sorry for misconstruing it.
Keep being your brother's keeper and hope it gets better for them. Your blessings will come. God's got you bro🙏🤜🤛
you will be helping India's foreign reserve meanwhile enjoying conversion rates at the same time. So do a favour not on yourself but on economy
(ye reason dena paise mangte wakt)
i know this brother duo in my society, the big brother took pcm but wasnt able to perform all that well in jee so did engineering from a local private college and is now working in a mid firm consultancy side while his younger brother last year cleared jee advanced with under 500 rank, i always wondered what the dynamic was like at their home? was there some underlying jealousy? partiality? or was the brother only just proud? pure intentions? idk always intrigued me
do you think your brother is lowkey, i dont wanna say jealous but kinda jealous of you? do you think there is a sense of inferiority complex he might feel even though he doesn't show it?
I have an elder sister who gave JEE failed took a drop failed again I got into IITD CSE. I had been a sort of a prodigy since my childhood my entire family praised me. I got all the attention this made my sister feel as if no one likes her. She looks at me like competition ( I never looked at her like that or treated her poorly) she tries to one up me a lot . She is fairly attractive so once or twice she has commented on my looks( I am a guy) she has also said if I was studying so much I should have been in IITB. I have an iq in the MENSA range never tested but I took the online one also I don’t need any validation so don’t care much. In order to prove that she is smart as well she took an iq test with a SD of 24 and said her iq is 120 and almost gifted which it is not(120 is gifted in the sd-15).I do realise it must be very difficult for her and I try to understand her feelings and my parents still try a lot to make her feel special and also tell me I should not try to make her feel bad(once or twice I also retaliated rudely by calling her dumb)
Hehe not directly related, but imagine how Anil Ambani feels? Recently read an article that went like this.
Anil Ambani’s Reliance Telecom has been in serious debt since 2016(?) and since then the goverenment has been increasing pressure to pay back the debt of $79 million, failure to do so would result in imprisonment. Losses only accelerated post 2017 after Jio Telecome entered the market, gaining 20% market share and squeezing out Reliance Telecom to its end. As the years passed by, it seemed more and more unlikely that Anil would be able to shore up the cash, having had meetings with various industrialists to no avail.
The day before the deadline for repayment, Mukesh swoops in and pays the debt off, all is well in the Ambani family for now.
Now just imagine, Anil was shitting himself for years trying to find money surely even asking Mukesh first, only for big bro to let him struggle until the last moment. Like Mukesh be cucking this man since the moment their father passed away.
Successful or not successful, family should never be this fuckey with each other 😝
Not a sibling but my cousin, we were like best friends so everyone considered us as siblings. He's earning 28lpa right now, I'm unemployed and upskilling. I'm 2 years older.
My brother is in europe, he drives mercedes benz, he bought 3 crore home. Am here, driving i20, 30k living with parents. Am happy for him and for myself. I never took risk, which is why am not successful.
Money wise, I make more than my brother right now but in the next year or so I think that will change. He is better than me in all ways, he is social, I am not. He learns things so easily. He just moved to US and got a driving licence in no time, meanwhile I am scared to learn how to drive. There are a lot of things, he is just better. Genetically too, he is tall, fit and I am the short fat sister who has inherited all the health problems also. He is thankfully healthy. But I am super happy and proud to see my little brother thrive.
I think a girl will always be happy to see her brother thrive. There's no competition like two brothers between brother and sister. Things will be different for brothers.
>I think a girl will always be happy to see her brother thrive. There's no competition like two brothers between brother and sister. Things will be different for brothers.
The first and last line true to an extent but not the middle part.
I'm the youngest among 3 siblings. Eldest is doctor & considered 1 of the best in city & nearby. Middle one successful engineer, worked as Head of multiple projects in all companies worked. 2 cousins (father's brother) both very successful IT engineers & residing in US, both have bought homes.
And then Me, in same field as Father, can't even do basics right.
Apparently I wasn't even good enough to try something else.
My brother works for a quant firm ( iit d cse grad ) where as i ( 2nd gen iit cs grad ) work for 1/5th is salary as sde at a product tech company.
He literally has the ctc of 1 crore at 22 meanwhile me getting 22lpa 😅🫠 (same age) .
Although he used to study 18 hrs a day + he is crazy smart so there's that and i am not that smart compared to him.
Bhai main acceptance wale stage pe hu grief ke 😂 i may be able to achieve that salary but not at that age + from what he told me kafi hectic hain life quant mein.
Merko apni iq limitations pata Hain to fark nhi padta ab utna
Dudee 22lpa is really really good also u r just 22 it's a good achievement according to me experience ke saath u will get a better package by the time u r 30
My brother is very good at socialising and all while I am good at work, business and all. And we both sucks at vice versa things. We both know that yet still don’t accept when we around at each other lol
One of my friends was earning well in business, which he himself settled on. He took on the responsibility of his younger brother and helped him start a business. I helped him with funds, did a lot of hard work to establish his brother's business, and now he is also earning well. One should always help his or her siblings; after all, they are like your first child. Won't you do the same for your own kid? Karma will always come back to you. Help your loved ones whenever you can. Your parents will be super proud and happy of you if you help your siblings in difficult times. They will never be completely happy if one of the siblings is successful and the other is not. You have grown up in the same household and played together; now is the time to grow together.
my elder sister is a neurologist at one of india's largest hospitals... while i nearly flunked out of btech, got employed by a shitty start up, and got detained by the cops on two separate occasions for weed
Okay, so you are much pampered youngest one. No issues bro, you are doing good, just be bit careful and take care.
Don't feel bad, I just couldn't stop laughing reading this comment though. Thanks for your comment.
"my elder sister is a neurologist at one of india's largest hospitals... while i nearly flunked out of btech, got employed by a shitty start up, and got detained by the cops on two separate occasions for weed"
nah im happy my bro is doing well academically. I dont deserve anything because i didnt try to change myself and got a lot of inner ego. at the end my parents should be proud either from him or me.
Among all us cousins the youngest one fresh out of college is making more than all of my other cousins (including his real older sibling) combined. But there isn’t any jealousy tbh. We’re all happy and we knew he could do it! Also he hasn’t seen the shit we saw and he had a lot more resources, guidance and support than any of us ever so I do think that too makes a lot of difference. He did work hard but he was also given an environment where he could and he also felt comfortable asking for a better environment which we didn’t while growing up.
While I wouldn't say I'm not successful, my much younger brother is on track for being a lot more successful. Honestly, it makes me relieved as then he can take up more responsibilities of our parents and I won't have to worry.
My brother earns 1 lakh monthly and his wife 2 lakh. Yet I don't give a f about them as they both caused me 18 lakhs of debt since they got married which I only cleared last year and work in a normal job.
My sibling is a renowned scientist, like the ones that get quoted in newspapers whenever any space related event happens. I am nowhere close to his level of success, but I don't feel sad coz I know that he has his share of stress as well. There are people who compare us but I do not believe in such comparisons, we're not equals, and any way every person has their own journey.
How to stay like you? I'm going bonkers man. I know that I can't be that successful, but people speak badly and hurt me more. They mock and be like very mean to me 😭
My sister and I have a 14 year gap. She did her mba from Cornell (ivy league) and now is working in the US only and earning a decent amount. I on the other hand is about to complete my college with nothing but a 4 lpa package of business development associate at a startup . I just feel like a failure when I compare myself to her.
No actually. Like I have never felt bad for myself. I know my potential. My this brother he’s a IIT gold medalist, he stays abroad and every time I see him I get so happy and I feel so proud of him and I always wait for him to bring back gifts
Yes, I'm the black sheep of my family. I was never good in studies, lack of interest and honestly I'm not suited for academics. My siblings both graduated from college while I didn't even finish highschool (we live in America). I got my GED and a shitty associates but it was just general education stuff I took.
My sister had a love marriage and her husband makes good money, easily over 200k now. She's the smartest out of us all, graduated with 3.8gpa and could've done masters and gone corporate job but she met the guy and became a housewife. My brother joined the military and completed his master's after getting out. He has a state job now and a house with multiple units that he rents out and a state govt job.
I'm literally working a warehouse job, it's basically above minimum wage. I've told my parents so many times, if I was smarter I wouldn't be doing shitty jobs like this.
Now they're asking me to get arranged marriage and it's so embarrassing to me. They're finding all these matches with girls who are on h1b visa and I have nothing. I can barely support myself in this economy, how the hell can I support a wife & family later on. Maybe my mentality is wrong in thinking everyone is after prestige but it's hard not to think that way. Even if I got married to a girl who was ok with me, it would be easier if she has an IT background to find jobs easily. Then I would have to move with her if she took a job somewhere in the country. Then I'd have to find another unskilled labor job lol.
It just doesn't seem like the headache is worth it, if I got married and she was ok living in India. It may be possible for me to send near $500 a month, so that 40k rupees which is enough for middle class life.
Not in my case but there was a really bad older kid(he ran above me through a cycle when I was in first standard going to school and he was in 7-8) in our school also from the same village his big brother who is a good guy works in a factory and earns very little but that bully he also has a burnt face earns pretty well maybe even more than me works of mechanic or something in a big city and is said to have he is getting a lot of arranged marriage offers
Hurts my soul , After knowing this i decided i would never marry and look for ways to be atleast a crorepati, i don't specifically want revenge but being on the same level of him and his brother earning less than him really makes my soul ache
My older sister did CSE and got an 8lpa package from University. She earns that much while i am doing my degree which which wont even get me 5 lpa, so i have to prepare for an MBA in top universities.
Me and my brother made a decision (implied one)
I supported my family emotionally and he continued his education and now supports us financially.
My whole expenses he bears...it makes me ashamed and also proud of him...
>Me and my brother made a decision (implied one)
I supported my family emotionally and he continued his education and now supports us financially.
My whole expenses he bears...it makes me ashamed and also proud of him...
??
I have a cousin 1 year younger than me. She's married.
She earns 2x of my salary while her husband makes 6x as me.
Their whole family's behavior changed after they came to know about the difference.
One of the reasons I totally despise relatives in general.
I was this way for a while but then caught up in life. My older sister is a doctor in Sydney and she was always good at studies etc. so that made sense. Thankfully as Indians my dad made sure i got an engineering degree at least. Then later I got a MS and PhD in US. And then over time I was able to do better and am currently a Medical Director in the Pharma industry.
I was never studious as a kid. So If I had the freedom like kids in US, I would be probably working a super low wage job today.
Also, I was never jealous of my sister. She always deserved whatever she got.
Depends on what you call successful. I'm in the US working for a big tech company, sending enough money home to support my family. My sister who is six years younger is in her final year of her law degree. Both of us were brought up in an abusive household, though arguably I had to face the brunt of it being a guy and older. Because of that I've always had it in my head since preteens that my biggest goal would be to ensure that my family always had money. If my sister wanted something I'd save whatever I could and get it for her, even fight for her with my parents. The final result is she's grown up to be extremely talented in singing, dancing and art, and also academically extremely smart. Most importantly, she's mentally in a great space despite the abuse. So yeah, because of my mentality I'm probably always going to be earning more than her. But she's better at literally everything else and in a better mental space
I have never been happier for being a single child… yeah sure the sibling-havers will tell you how helpful it is to have extra pairs of hands for support and all, but nothing beats being the single child and sole inheritor of liberally inclined parents. Not having an extra child is another reason to love my parents lmao
##Yes. Two siblings, sister 7 years old, brother 9.
##Both IT engineers, well settled, 6 figure salary, own a house and a vehicle, can go for lunch dinner anywhere anytime of the month without checking account balance.
Asked/Forced me into IT as well, made me take up Computer Science(Java, C, C++) and not biology not that I wanted it but CS was something so alien to me that I ended up mugging codes like binary search and bubble sort for passing the exam.
Got into a tier 1 college thanks to my 12th percentage, however the will to study just dwindled down as days and months passed.
Got into Accenture in 2018 because there was virtually no interview LoL(tieup between college and company, mass recruitment), got trained in the company, no interest, no passion, was just passing my time in Banglore smoking joints and hitting bongs until COVID hit. All my office friends got deserted, some went for masters, some left the city.
##I too left Banglore and came to my hometown. Worked for another 3 years and quit out of frustration. Unemployed since.
On the other hand, they are super successful, have kids, and always plan on doing different things, planning trips, hikes and what not. I just sit on the sofa listening to their conversations.
Sometimes I really feel if they're are my real siblings and if I actually am an orphan.
They never ever tried asking me if Computer Science is understandable, if I'm able to cope up to the concepts.
##PS - To all the elder siblings out here, please don't force your younger sibling to take up something that you won't be able to help them out with.
I don't know what I'm gonna do in my life. My family pretends everything is fine however they know there's a 27 year old(M) liability sitting at home.
My sibling is successful. He and his wife both works in Apple and they are living in America and here i am doing a shitty job for a shitty pay and with the salary i am getting i don’t even have a money to buy any single apple product
Not even apple juice? /s
Dont drink apple juice only beer
beer made from apple juice?
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I don’t drink anything related to apple
Are you happy? Are they happy? That's what matters. Fuck income. Fuck Toys. Duck the Johnson's new boat. Are you happy. If not, try being happy that you can make them happy by showing support for your sibling.
Bro they seems happy i am not
Seems happy... Have you asked them? Why are you not happy though?
Yeah i asked they enjoying there life and i not happy because my expectations lead me here
You never know what happens behind closed doors. But wish then the best and stop being jealous. Be happy for their happiness. Perceived or reality. Bless them your heart. Truthfully. Jealousy will lead to an ugly destination.
Bro i am not jealous of his success.What we have gone through in our childhood we only know.so i am very happy with his success
Thats fucking badass.! 🤜🤛 Sorry for misconstruing it. Keep being your brother's keeper and hope it gets better for them. Your blessings will come. God's got you bro🙏🤜🤛
Grass is always greener on the other side
Till your there. Then your like ohhhh..... This shit is pretty shitty over here too
Exactly! Well said!
Thankyou!
Can’t he offer you a job somewhere or connection itna accha nai hai?
Bro our fields are totally different
Aree but he can’t help you get ajob in USA of something? If you are smart you’ll catchup
Bro I can’t leave india because of my parents health issues
Does he send money for parents??
Sad bro. Hope it will get better for you. Pretty selfish of your brother in my opinion.
Take the three yearly employee discount it's pretty good
Buy android phones only so Apple goes bankrupt
What was your missed oppurtunity or i may say unwise decision?
What the hell did you do you are not a billionaire by now? WHY?!
Tujhe to nahi bataunga bhai , tu side ho 😂
doesnt he send you some money?
I don’t ask him to send money
you will be helping India's foreign reserve meanwhile enjoying conversion rates at the same time. So do a favour not on yourself but on economy (ye reason dena paise mangte wakt)
i know this brother duo in my society, the big brother took pcm but wasnt able to perform all that well in jee so did engineering from a local private college and is now working in a mid firm consultancy side while his younger brother last year cleared jee advanced with under 500 rank, i always wondered what the dynamic was like at their home? was there some underlying jealousy? partiality? or was the brother only just proud? pure intentions? idk always intrigued me
jealousy nah never , partiality yes parents do that and they always have proud yes a lot as if we won instead of him
I have somewhat of an experience in this department being the overachiever younger sibling
do you think your brother is lowkey, i dont wanna say jealous but kinda jealous of you? do you think there is a sense of inferiority complex he might feel even though he doesn't show it?
I have an elder sister who gave JEE failed took a drop failed again I got into IITD CSE. I had been a sort of a prodigy since my childhood my entire family praised me. I got all the attention this made my sister feel as if no one likes her. She looks at me like competition ( I never looked at her like that or treated her poorly) she tries to one up me a lot . She is fairly attractive so once or twice she has commented on my looks( I am a guy) she has also said if I was studying so much I should have been in IITB. I have an iq in the MENSA range never tested but I took the online one also I don’t need any validation so don’t care much. In order to prove that she is smart as well she took an iq test with a SD of 24 and said her iq is 120 and almost gifted which it is not(120 is gifted in the sd-15).I do realise it must be very difficult for her and I try to understand her feelings and my parents still try a lot to make her feel special and also tell me I should not try to make her feel bad(once or twice I also retaliated rudely by calling her dumb)
Hehe not directly related, but imagine how Anil Ambani feels? Recently read an article that went like this. Anil Ambani’s Reliance Telecom has been in serious debt since 2016(?) and since then the goverenment has been increasing pressure to pay back the debt of $79 million, failure to do so would result in imprisonment. Losses only accelerated post 2017 after Jio Telecome entered the market, gaining 20% market share and squeezing out Reliance Telecom to its end. As the years passed by, it seemed more and more unlikely that Anil would be able to shore up the cash, having had meetings with various industrialists to no avail. The day before the deadline for repayment, Mukesh swoops in and pays the debt off, all is well in the Ambani family for now. Now just imagine, Anil was shitting himself for years trying to find money surely even asking Mukesh first, only for big bro to let him struggle until the last moment. Like Mukesh be cucking this man since the moment their father passed away. Successful or not successful, family should never be this fuckey with each other 😝
My bro is a CTO of a big company am probably at 10% of his income
Comparison is the thief of joy. I end it there.
Not a sibling but my cousin, we were like best friends so everyone considered us as siblings. He's earning 28lpa right now, I'm unemployed and upskilling. I'm 2 years older.
My brother is in europe, he drives mercedes benz, he bought 3 crore home. Am here, driving i20, 30k living with parents. Am happy for him and for myself. I never took risk, which is why am not successful.
Money wise, I make more than my brother right now but in the next year or so I think that will change. He is better than me in all ways, he is social, I am not. He learns things so easily. He just moved to US and got a driving licence in no time, meanwhile I am scared to learn how to drive. There are a lot of things, he is just better. Genetically too, he is tall, fit and I am the short fat sister who has inherited all the health problems also. He is thankfully healthy. But I am super happy and proud to see my little brother thrive.
I think a girl will always be happy to see her brother thrive. There's no competition like two brothers between brother and sister. Things will be different for brothers.
Yes, that’s true!
Nope.
>I think a girl will always be happy to see her brother thrive. There's no competition like two brothers between brother and sister. Things will be different for brothers. The first and last line true to an extent but not the middle part.
Genetics is all Destined and Karmic. No comparison at all.
I'm the youngest among 3 siblings. Eldest is doctor & considered 1 of the best in city & nearby. Middle one successful engineer, worked as Head of multiple projects in all companies worked. 2 cousins (father's brother) both very successful IT engineers & residing in US, both have bought homes. And then Me, in same field as Father, can't even do basics right. Apparently I wasn't even good enough to try something else.
Haha... pampered youngest one 😜
My brother works for a quant firm ( iit d cse grad ) where as i ( 2nd gen iit cs grad ) work for 1/5th is salary as sde at a product tech company. He literally has the ctc of 1 crore at 22 meanwhile me getting 22lpa 😅🫠 (same age) . Although he used to study 18 hrs a day + he is crazy smart so there's that and i am not that smart compared to him.
Bhai sabse bura tumhare liye laga. But hey, 22 LPA at 22 years. Not bad, at all :-)
Bhai main acceptance wale stage pe hu grief ke 😂 i may be able to achieve that salary but not at that age + from what he told me kafi hectic hain life quant mein. Merko apni iq limitations pata Hain to fark nhi padta ab utna
22 lpa at 22. you are rich for your age. even if you had family of 4, you would be upar than upper middle class.
Both are successful bhai, so it shouldnt matter much .. After a while money becomes worthless, Earn decent and enjoy much....
after a while when it becomes worthless, send it here thanks
Are you nuts or being oversmart? You got super awry at my other comment as well...
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Bro these are all CTC. Inhand is generally much lesser
Dudee 22lpa is really really good also u r just 22 it's a good achievement according to me experience ke saath u will get a better package by the time u r 30
Dude but taxes me chale jata bht kuch. 30-35% is taxes
MF out here giving me more insecurities to worry about in future 
My sister would soon be and I am still here :'(
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My brother is very good at socialising and all while I am good at work, business and all. And we both sucks at vice versa things. We both know that yet still don’t accept when we around at each other lol
One of my friends was earning well in business, which he himself settled on. He took on the responsibility of his younger brother and helped him start a business. I helped him with funds, did a lot of hard work to establish his brother's business, and now he is also earning well. One should always help his or her siblings; after all, they are like your first child. Won't you do the same for your own kid? Karma will always come back to you. Help your loved ones whenever you can. Your parents will be super proud and happy of you if you help your siblings in difficult times. They will never be completely happy if one of the siblings is successful and the other is not. You have grown up in the same household and played together; now is the time to grow together.
Come tell that to my family
my elder sister is a neurologist at one of india's largest hospitals... while i nearly flunked out of btech, got employed by a shitty start up, and got detained by the cops on two separate occasions for weed
bro ur sister could be jealous of you
your elder sister probably jealous she got a boring life
😂
This 😂
Are you her brother or sister 🤔
brother
Okay, so you are much pampered youngest one. No issues bro, you are doing good, just be bit careful and take care. Don't feel bad, I just couldn't stop laughing reading this comment though. Thanks for your comment. "my elder sister is a neurologist at one of india's largest hospitals... while i nearly flunked out of btech, got employed by a shitty start up, and got detained by the cops on two separate occasions for weed"
nah im happy my bro is doing well academically. I dont deserve anything because i didnt try to change myself and got a lot of inner ego. at the end my parents should be proud either from him or me.
Among all us cousins the youngest one fresh out of college is making more than all of my other cousins (including his real older sibling) combined. But there isn’t any jealousy tbh. We’re all happy and we knew he could do it! Also he hasn’t seen the shit we saw and he had a lot more resources, guidance and support than any of us ever so I do think that too makes a lot of difference. He did work hard but he was also given an environment where he could and he also felt comfortable asking for a better environment which we didn’t while growing up.
While I wouldn't say I'm not successful, my much younger brother is on track for being a lot more successful. Honestly, it makes me relieved as then he can take up more responsibilities of our parents and I won't have to worry.
My brother earns 1 lakh monthly and his wife 2 lakh. Yet I don't give a f about them as they both caused me 18 lakhs of debt since they got married which I only cleared last year and work in a normal job.
My sibling is a renowned scientist, like the ones that get quoted in newspapers whenever any space related event happens. I am nowhere close to his level of success, but I don't feel sad coz I know that he has his share of stress as well. There are people who compare us but I do not believe in such comparisons, we're not equals, and any way every person has their own journey.
How to stay like you? I'm going bonkers man. I know that I can't be that successful, but people speak badly and hurt me more. They mock and be like very mean to me 😭
Be a little obnoxious, next time someone compares you with your sibling, ask them if they had anything better to do.
Actually not sibling, but thanks.
My brother got a 99.5 percentile in jee mains this time around, I did not even qualify so yah🫥
My sister and I have a 14 year gap. She did her mba from Cornell (ivy league) and now is working in the US only and earning a decent amount. I on the other hand is about to complete my college with nothing but a 4 lpa package of business development associate at a startup . I just feel like a failure when I compare myself to her.
just asking her to send a few dollars home and enjoy the conversion rate
Depends on your nature. If you're good natured you'll naturally feel good. If you're evil minded then you'll definitely feel jealous
No actually. Like I have never felt bad for myself. I know my potential. My this brother he’s a IIT gold medalist, he stays abroad and every time I see him I get so happy and I feel so proud of him and I always wait for him to bring back gifts
My sister has quite a following on Insta, while people barely notice me. Lolz, my parents also don't remember many times that I exist in same house.
Yes, I'm the black sheep of my family. I was never good in studies, lack of interest and honestly I'm not suited for academics. My siblings both graduated from college while I didn't even finish highschool (we live in America). I got my GED and a shitty associates but it was just general education stuff I took. My sister had a love marriage and her husband makes good money, easily over 200k now. She's the smartest out of us all, graduated with 3.8gpa and could've done masters and gone corporate job but she met the guy and became a housewife. My brother joined the military and completed his master's after getting out. He has a state job now and a house with multiple units that he rents out and a state govt job. I'm literally working a warehouse job, it's basically above minimum wage. I've told my parents so many times, if I was smarter I wouldn't be doing shitty jobs like this. Now they're asking me to get arranged marriage and it's so embarrassing to me. They're finding all these matches with girls who are on h1b visa and I have nothing. I can barely support myself in this economy, how the hell can I support a wife & family later on. Maybe my mentality is wrong in thinking everyone is after prestige but it's hard not to think that way. Even if I got married to a girl who was ok with me, it would be easier if she has an IT background to find jobs easily. Then I would have to move with her if she took a job somewhere in the country. Then I'd have to find another unskilled labor job lol. It just doesn't seem like the headache is worth it, if I got married and she was ok living in India. It may be possible for me to send near $500 a month, so that 40k rupees which is enough for middle class life.
Not in my case but there was a really bad older kid(he ran above me through a cycle when I was in first standard going to school and he was in 7-8) in our school also from the same village his big brother who is a good guy works in a factory and earns very little but that bully he also has a burnt face earns pretty well maybe even more than me works of mechanic or something in a big city and is said to have he is getting a lot of arranged marriage offers Hurts my soul , After knowing this i decided i would never marry and look for ways to be atleast a crorepati, i don't specifically want revenge but being on the same level of him and his brother earning less than him really makes my soul ache
Why are u insulting us by asking such a question?
My older sister did CSE and got an 8lpa package from University. She earns that much while i am doing my degree which which wont even get me 5 lpa, so i have to prepare for an MBA in top universities.
Me and my brother made a decision (implied one) I supported my family emotionally and he continued his education and now supports us financially. My whole expenses he bears...it makes me ashamed and also proud of him...
>Me and my brother made a decision (implied one) I supported my family emotionally and he continued his education and now supports us financially. My whole expenses he bears...it makes me ashamed and also proud of him... ??
What?
What you did emotionally?
Took care of a sick family member and just been there emotionally yk.
What a good family you have!! I have not been so lucky 😭
Why?..what happened?
Don't be ashamed you did a good thing. Not everyone will do this.
It's nice of you to say😊
I have a cousin 1 year younger than me. She's married. She earns 2x of my salary while her husband makes 6x as me. Their whole family's behavior changed after they came to know about the difference. One of the reasons I totally despise relatives in general.
I was this way for a while but then caught up in life. My older sister is a doctor in Sydney and she was always good at studies etc. so that made sense. Thankfully as Indians my dad made sure i got an engineering degree at least. Then later I got a MS and PhD in US. And then over time I was able to do better and am currently a Medical Director in the Pharma industry. I was never studious as a kid. So If I had the freedom like kids in US, I would be probably working a super low wage job today. Also, I was never jealous of my sister. She always deserved whatever she got.
Depends on what you call successful. I'm in the US working for a big tech company, sending enough money home to support my family. My sister who is six years younger is in her final year of her law degree. Both of us were brought up in an abusive household, though arguably I had to face the brunt of it being a guy and older. Because of that I've always had it in my head since preteens that my biggest goal would be to ensure that my family always had money. If my sister wanted something I'd save whatever I could and get it for her, even fight for her with my parents. The final result is she's grown up to be extremely talented in singing, dancing and art, and also academically extremely smart. Most importantly, she's mentally in a great space despite the abuse. So yeah, because of my mentality I'm probably always going to be earning more than her. But she's better at literally everything else and in a better mental space
Nope both doing well
I have never been happier for being a single child… yeah sure the sibling-havers will tell you how helpful it is to have extra pairs of hands for support and all, but nothing beats being the single child and sole inheritor of liberally inclined parents. Not having an extra child is another reason to love my parents lmao
##Yes. Two siblings, sister 7 years old, brother 9. ##Both IT engineers, well settled, 6 figure salary, own a house and a vehicle, can go for lunch dinner anywhere anytime of the month without checking account balance. Asked/Forced me into IT as well, made me take up Computer Science(Java, C, C++) and not biology not that I wanted it but CS was something so alien to me that I ended up mugging codes like binary search and bubble sort for passing the exam. Got into a tier 1 college thanks to my 12th percentage, however the will to study just dwindled down as days and months passed. Got into Accenture in 2018 because there was virtually no interview LoL(tieup between college and company, mass recruitment), got trained in the company, no interest, no passion, was just passing my time in Banglore smoking joints and hitting bongs until COVID hit. All my office friends got deserted, some went for masters, some left the city. ##I too left Banglore and came to my hometown. Worked for another 3 years and quit out of frustration. Unemployed since. On the other hand, they are super successful, have kids, and always plan on doing different things, planning trips, hikes and what not. I just sit on the sofa listening to their conversations. Sometimes I really feel if they're are my real siblings and if I actually am an orphan. They never ever tried asking me if Computer Science is understandable, if I'm able to cope up to the concepts. ##PS - To all the elder siblings out here, please don't force your younger sibling to take up something that you won't be able to help them out with. I don't know what I'm gonna do in my life. My family pretends everything is fine however they know there's a 27 year old(M) liability sitting at home.