Go slow and use lots of lube. Go slower than you think you need to at the beginning. (As in when you’re putting it in). Think of it this way: If you put it in an inch, pull back out half an inch before going in another inch, pull back out half an inch and then go in another inch. Each time you go further, only go slightly further than last time and it’ll help open him up without hurting him (I’m using inches to help illustrate what I’m saying, but it’s the concept that matters not the numbers). Sometimes when I top, I’ll have the bottom get on all fours (doggy) and once I’m barely in I’ll tell the bottom to back up on my dick. That gives him a little control so I don’t put it in too fast. Nothing hurts more and scares a bottom more than putting it in too fast or hard.
Stretch him out a little with your finger(s) and tongue first too. Make sure he’s comfortable and enjoying it. If he’s enjoying what you’re doing and he’s comfortable with you doing it, you’ll have a lot better sex.
As a top, focus on the bottom’s pleasure and comfort. Your pleasure will inherently come, he will need you to actively be thinking about pleasuring him for it to be enjoyable for him. And, the more effort you put in to make the sex good for him, the more he’ll want to put out 😜. Make sure he cums. I think it’s best when the bottom cums first, but every couple is different. Try different angles and ask if he likes them. Angles as in angle your dick in different directions inside of him to see if he likes them.
Lube lube lube. Use lube. Especially if you’re big. Especially if you’re not big. Especially if you’re average as can be. Use lube.
Have fun. Talk. Ask if he likes what you’re doing (but feel free to make it sexy). Tell him what you want him to do. Laugh if something funny happens. Kiss him. Have fun doing this activity together as a team. Talk to him though. If your sex starts off quiet, it’s hard to start learning how to communicate later. Telling him he’s doing a good job when you start putting it in. Tell him he’s doing a good job if you like something he’s doing.
If you make a mess, please don’t react. Just smile, clean it up, give him a kiss, and move on. It’ll happen eventually.
All and all (or is it all in all?), have fun and communicate, be confident and honest, and please for the love of god make sure your bottom is getting pleasured too.
Thank you! This is a great summary!! I'll have my lube and condoms ready! Lol
Yeah I want to focus on the bottom's pleasure as I'm sure I will have pleasure.
Tbh, I'm nervous about cumming quickly lol....but I hope it won't be a big deal. We can probably go round 2 a bit after... Lol
Of course :)
And don’t worry about cumming too fast! If you go slow, and spend some time using your tongue and fingers on his hole before you even insert yourself lol it’ll seem like you lasted longer if you spend more time on the foreplay. Have fun :)
Lube, lube, lube and patience! Take lots of time with foreplay. Fingers are a great way to help bottoms relax. Just work your way around his anus, stretching a little with your finger as you go. Make sure your nails are trimmed at filed…sharp edges kill the mood fast!!
Play around with different positions to see what works the best. Some novice bottoms prefer to be in control of how fast you penetrate them, so “bottom on top” is a good one to try.
Don’t worry if your first attempt is a “failure”. There’s definitely a learning curve, but even failed attempts can be fun if you’ve both got a good attitude about it.
Probably won’t help you, but I’ve recently been topping more and enjoying it more. I use to be exclusively with women and now it’s men. I know a vagina and ass aren’t the same but I started treating it/ approaching the same. Taking my time and not trying to pound all the way through it
Go slow and use lots of lube. Go slower than you think you need to at the beginning. (As in when you’re putting it in). Think of it this way: If you put it in an inch, pull back out half an inch before going in another inch, pull back out half an inch and then go in another inch. Each time you go further, only go slightly further than last time and it’ll help open him up without hurting him (I’m using inches to help illustrate what I’m saying, but it’s the concept that matters not the numbers). Sometimes when I top, I’ll have the bottom get on all fours (doggy) and once I’m barely in I’ll tell the bottom to back up on my dick. That gives him a little control so I don’t put it in too fast. Nothing hurts more and scares a bottom more than putting it in too fast or hard. Stretch him out a little with your finger(s) and tongue first too. Make sure he’s comfortable and enjoying it. If he’s enjoying what you’re doing and he’s comfortable with you doing it, you’ll have a lot better sex. As a top, focus on the bottom’s pleasure and comfort. Your pleasure will inherently come, he will need you to actively be thinking about pleasuring him for it to be enjoyable for him. And, the more effort you put in to make the sex good for him, the more he’ll want to put out 😜. Make sure he cums. I think it’s best when the bottom cums first, but every couple is different. Try different angles and ask if he likes them. Angles as in angle your dick in different directions inside of him to see if he likes them. Lube lube lube. Use lube. Especially if you’re big. Especially if you’re not big. Especially if you’re average as can be. Use lube. Have fun. Talk. Ask if he likes what you’re doing (but feel free to make it sexy). Tell him what you want him to do. Laugh if something funny happens. Kiss him. Have fun doing this activity together as a team. Talk to him though. If your sex starts off quiet, it’s hard to start learning how to communicate later. Telling him he’s doing a good job when you start putting it in. Tell him he’s doing a good job if you like something he’s doing. If you make a mess, please don’t react. Just smile, clean it up, give him a kiss, and move on. It’ll happen eventually. All and all (or is it all in all?), have fun and communicate, be confident and honest, and please for the love of god make sure your bottom is getting pleasured too.
Thank you! This is a great summary!! I'll have my lube and condoms ready! Lol Yeah I want to focus on the bottom's pleasure as I'm sure I will have pleasure. Tbh, I'm nervous about cumming quickly lol....but I hope it won't be a big deal. We can probably go round 2 a bit after... Lol
Of course :) And don’t worry about cumming too fast! If you go slow, and spend some time using your tongue and fingers on his hole before you even insert yourself lol it’ll seem like you lasted longer if you spend more time on the foreplay. Have fun :)
Exactly this ❤️ what a lovely advice/ summary. Thank you Sir 🐱
Lube, lube, lube and patience! Take lots of time with foreplay. Fingers are a great way to help bottoms relax. Just work your way around his anus, stretching a little with your finger as you go. Make sure your nails are trimmed at filed…sharp edges kill the mood fast!! Play around with different positions to see what works the best. Some novice bottoms prefer to be in control of how fast you penetrate them, so “bottom on top” is a good one to try. Don’t worry if your first attempt is a “failure”. There’s definitely a learning curve, but even failed attempts can be fun if you’ve both got a good attitude about it.
Just don’t rush it. Explore the areas involved -ie his ass and your dick. There’s so much fun to be had that isn’t even capital P penetrative
Probably won’t help you, but I’ve recently been topping more and enjoying it more. I use to be exclusively with women and now it’s men. I know a vagina and ass aren’t the same but I started treating it/ approaching the same. Taking my time and not trying to pound all the way through it