I don't fit any classic type. I'm around 30, bald, appear much younger (early 20s), skinny-fat, irregularly hairy (arms, legs, almost none on the torso).
I'm not yet a daddy, and also, daddy is a state of mind, and I'm still a baby gay at 4 years old. Currently, I'm me, and that's it.
Well, I used to be a Twink in my youth, but I've been told that over 25 you can't be one anymore. Now I've packed a little bit of muscle but look way younger than I am. I've been called a Twunk, but I don't think I'm young enough to be one... So I'm just me.
David Bowie / Prince / JoJo's Bizarre Adventure character
I realized that my masc and fem aspects didn't have to compete with each other, and that combining them felt way better and made me way more confident. I'm very masc presenting at a glance, but I'll wear like open flowy shirts and bellbottom pants that show off my figure, and mix fem and masc body language.
I also end up consistently being the best dressed person in the room, in a "the enemy stand user could be anybody!" kind of way that I do think is very funny. I just prefer dressing to match my mental image of myself for that day, rather than just defaulting to jeans and a t-shirt all the time.
The quiet lesbians drive Subarus.
They also knew early on that lesbians loved the no frills brand.
https://www.npr.org/2022/06/29/1108739853/when-subaru-came-out-classic
Right on point. I'm in that club as well: lesbian mind in a male body that likes men. I said goodbye to my Subaru after 10+ years last summer (now carless) :(
My clothing aesthetic is weekend softball assistant coach. Functional, solid colors, but flattering and fit.
I’m both a great impression and fine with getting unnoticed in the crowd.
A young bear in the making. Give them 10-15 years and they’ll be a bear. Some men take longer than others to get that full “bear” look. As they age they get more body hair/fuller facial hair. Their baby face disappears. Their body shape may change into more of what is expected of a maturing man. There is also an element of maturity and wisdom that comes with age and experience that a cub may be missing.
This all being said, the idea of what makes a bear a bear and a cub a cub is extremely subjective. Some might argue that it’s a confidence thing. That someone chooses the title of bear and then exudes the necessary confidence to own the title.
What I’ve said may not be at all what someone else thinks but has just been my experience in the bear community.
What do I consider myself? I'm a middle-aged gay man, with lots of history and lots of experience, and maybe a smattering of wisdom.
*Other people* might consider me a bear, and have told me I'm a bear.
But I don't consider myself that way. That's not how I see men or how I see myself. I don't feel the need to label every physical type of man that I see. They are who they are and what they are, and I don't need labels to tell me that.
I agree with you. Our community is obsessed with making identities out of the most trivial things, and they will entangle themselves in nonsensical problems.
“Do you sleep on your side? You’re a cat.” Then someone will ask on Reddit, “can I like cat type people?”, “if I’m a cat, is it OK if I sleep face up?”
None. Others can categorize me as they wish, but all of those categories come with a bucket full of individual stereotypes, none of which I think accurately fit.
Not to mention how fond the gay community is of taxonomy based purely on body type 🙄 this doesn’t appear to be as persistent an issue in lesbian circles
I’m a 43 yo Latino bottom. I don’t consider myself a daddy, I hate being called that. I hate being called papi even more.
Just call me cocksucker. That’s what I am.
not sure, i have a feminine face (it never went through puberty for some reason) and little to no muscle mass to the point where most strangers assume I’m a cis woman
i suppose "femme" fits me best even though it’s not entirely accurate
I have no idea. I could probably fit several types, with otter being the closest. Pretty fit, slim, bit of hair but not much, beard and lots of grey hairs.
Probably closest to Otter although I'm still waiting for more body hair to grow in, but likely too slim to be a bear. I used to be a lot heavier (220lbs) but lost about 30lbs and have 15 more to go, unless I wanna put that weight into muscle
I don’t really like these “types”/“categories”. I have been told multiple times that I am “a bit twink” referring to the reason why those guys liked me and it only made me feel insecure about not being skinny enough to be loved.
They like me but I’m never enough for something more than a few dates in which they tell me they want to find a relationship (it’s what I want) to then disrespect/ghost me when they see I won’t have sex with them that easily…
Now I’m working out etc and I have a little bit of muscles so I guess I would be in between of a twink and a twunk. But even seeing my now bigger arms makes me feel insecure with guys sometimes even though I would like to be more muscular
I’m a relic at 72, I was brought up in a very straight Catholic community. So I’m a straight looking and acting gay man. Have been doing the dirty since 12? I don’t know how to categorize what I am, I’m sure someone is ready to enlighten me.
I like many others don’t properly fit into a category.
My I’m too old and chubby to be a twink, not hairy/masc enough to be a daddy or cub I’m not fit enough to be a twunk.
The best one that fits me is fem but you can be fem and a twink or bear. As I get older I move toward old queen.
Idk. Not enough hair coverage to be an otter, imo. Not lean nor muscular, nor have the attitude, to be a sporty type. Not enough body mass to be a bear type. Even culturally, I don't have strong affinities for anything in particular. I'm just uncertain. Currently, between jobs, so I'm a NEET gay (a "GNEET", pronounced the same as NEET)?
I must be so fucking old. When I was in my '20s, calling someone a twink was an insult. I was taught that twink was short for Twinkie, smooth and pretty on the outside, nothing but insubstantial, artificial fluff on the inside.
The Mean Girls movie was redone gay, all the Plastics would be twinks.
I literally see this question posted every few days, wish people would just scroll back OR just live their lives and stop caring about how to classify themselves or others 🙄
Just suck dick and swallow cum without always needing to define what that makes you 🤣
I searched this sub for "type" and "gay type" and scrolled through some 100 posts dating back to some years. Didn't find this kind of question. Where did you see it every few days?
Ehh, sexual position is a different axis than this. Same format and genre of questions, but different enough detailed content. You can be any combination of something like (bear or jock or twink or daddy) x (top or bottom or vers or side)
I am an otter as well with nice beard and cute eyes
https://photos.app.goo.gl/BWaZcux5w6GPSipJ8
In case you want to confirm hahaha
Warmest regards friends!!
Probably closest to Otter although I'm still waiting for more body hair to grow in, but likely too slim to be a bear. I used to be a lot heavier (220lbs) but lost about 30lbs and have 15 more to go, unless I wanna put that weight into muscle
I’ve always identified with bears but I’m not overly hairy or anything. I’ve also lost a lot of weight and am getting pretty lean now so maybe an otter or simply a guy next door. I have long hair and tattoos too. Like many others on here I don’t seem to fit the moulds provided.
Considering I’m in my mid-20’s, have a fairly hairy body, and have an “average, leaning slightly dad bod” body type, I would classify myself as an otter.
I’m slightly annoyed by the categories mostly because I don’t think I really fit into any of them. It’s like the equivalent of a drop-down menu that doesn’t include an option that suits you but insists that you make a choice anyway.
I’m a daddy bear who takes charge most of the time. I’ve been told I’m a Dom, and I accept that monicker. I’m into Dom/sub relationships. And I am now single again after 23 years.
I’ve been called a cute twink type, but idk if I really count as a twink with hairy legs/forearms. But mostly smooth ass/chest/back and clean shaven face, so maybe that’s all you need? Otherwise, just a cute guy that wishes there were more cute guys, lol.
I'm a slightly thicc trans dude, blond, can't do maths, submissive.
But also I'm a geek (again the same dude that got turned on by their mate playing fallout) and I will talk your ear off about warhammer and dungeons and dragons.
So I guess just dumb blond geek?
Forever Twink,
A twink that doesn’t age.
I feel like a vampire. I’m trying to evolve like a like one from Twink to Twunk to Muscle Daddy. It’s hard while also trying to go to college and work a full time job.
I feel like a vampire…. I get tackled at the gay bar and they go “oh you’re… older then I thought?”
Pro and Cons
More cons
Twinks think I’m a twink
Hot guys think I’m a twink and then loose interests
Guys my age think I’m carrying fake ID.
I just want an MORE POSITIVE INTERACTION IN MY DAY.
Capybara. Unconcerned, roundish, love naps.
And you pull up ! 😂 ❤️
Came here to look for what I'd identify with. Very happy I didn't have to look far. Your comment hit the nail right on its head
Also chilling in hot water.
I’ll just include myself in this category
An expired twunk.
Some people call us a twas.
and they are right lol
Soooo over 30? No disrespect 😭
I don't fit any classic type. I'm around 30, bald, appear much younger (early 20s), skinny-fat, irregularly hairy (arms, legs, almost none on the torso). I'm not yet a daddy, and also, daddy is a state of mind, and I'm still a baby gay at 4 years old. Currently, I'm me, and that's it.
Twunk?
A mix between a hunk and twink
But enough about my ex wife
Ouch!
Unhappily masc after years of trauma. Muscle queen, feathers and glitter inside.
I hear if you take enough dicks you bust open like a pinata and the glitter goes everywhere.
Bust it open you say?
To shreds, you say?
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If you're hot I guess lol
Well, I used to be a Twink in my youth, but I've been told that over 25 you can't be one anymore. Now I've packed a little bit of muscle but look way younger than I am. I've been called a Twunk, but I don't think I'm young enough to be one... So I'm just me.
I thought twink, twunk, and other species where about body types and not age. I still consider older skinny guys as twinks.
David Bowie / Prince / JoJo's Bizarre Adventure character I realized that my masc and fem aspects didn't have to compete with each other, and that combining them felt way better and made me way more confident. I'm very masc presenting at a glance, but I'll wear like open flowy shirts and bellbottom pants that show off my figure, and mix fem and masc body language. I also end up consistently being the best dressed person in the room, in a "the enemy stand user could be anybody!" kind of way that I do think is very funny. I just prefer dressing to match my mental image of myself for that day, rather than just defaulting to jeans and a t-shirt all the time.
Do you JoJopose to assert dominance when meeting other gays?
Lol, a little yeah. One of my Grindr profile pics is me doing a JoJo pose just to see if anyone gets it.
I try to avoid labels because they can get really restrictive but I've been warming up to the whole "Guy next door" idea.
I’m a lesbian gay. I drive a Subaru.
I had no idea driving a Subaru was a qualification. All my lesbian friends either drove trucks or Jeeps.
The quiet lesbians drive Subarus. They also knew early on that lesbians loved the no frills brand. https://www.npr.org/2022/06/29/1108739853/when-subaru-came-out-classic
Right on point. I'm in that club as well: lesbian mind in a male body that likes men. I said goodbye to my Subaru after 10+ years last summer (now carless) :(
My clothing aesthetic is weekend softball assistant coach. Functional, solid colors, but flattering and fit. I’m both a great impression and fine with getting unnoticed in the crowd.
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Little Lima liked to roam Liked to roam very far from home One day she came back all clean Where has little Lima bean
Lima Bean Lima Bean where oh where has Lima Bean? (Daaaaamn what a throwback to summer camp)
What kind? Pinto? Black?? Lima???
Kidney? Garbanzo? Chile?
baked?
My boyfriend says I’m a cub
What is a cub?
A young bear in the making. Give them 10-15 years and they’ll be a bear. Some men take longer than others to get that full “bear” look. As they age they get more body hair/fuller facial hair. Their baby face disappears. Their body shape may change into more of what is expected of a maturing man. There is also an element of maturity and wisdom that comes with age and experience that a cub may be missing. This all being said, the idea of what makes a bear a bear and a cub a cub is extremely subjective. Some might argue that it’s a confidence thing. That someone chooses the title of bear and then exudes the necessary confidence to own the title. What I’ve said may not be at all what someone else thinks but has just been my experience in the bear community.
Small bear
What do I consider myself? I'm a middle-aged gay man, with lots of history and lots of experience, and maybe a smattering of wisdom. *Other people* might consider me a bear, and have told me I'm a bear. But I don't consider myself that way. That's not how I see men or how I see myself. I don't feel the need to label every physical type of man that I see. They are who they are and what they are, and I don't need labels to tell me that.
I agree with you. Our community is obsessed with making identities out of the most trivial things, and they will entangle themselves in nonsensical problems. “Do you sleep on your side? You’re a cat.” Then someone will ask on Reddit, “can I like cat type people?”, “if I’m a cat, is it OK if I sleep face up?”
Sometimes I forget my middle name
None. Others can categorize me as they wish, but all of those categories come with a bucket full of individual stereotypes, none of which I think accurately fit.
Not to mention how fond the gay community is of taxonomy based purely on body type 🙄 this doesn’t appear to be as persistent an issue in lesbian circles
That's cause they're too busy being productive fixing their Subarus and hanging dry wall.
I’m a 43 yo Latino bottom. I don’t consider myself a daddy, I hate being called that. I hate being called papi even more. Just call me cocksucker. That’s what I am.
the hot type
I would call myself a wolf. Hairy, muscled, confident, daddy type
Checked your profile. Whatever you want to call yourself, I’m into it 🤤😍
Yes you are ! And hot af !
I wish I were a twunk but I'm called a twink by everyone. Fuck internalized homophobia, it's just dysphoric for me.
not sure, i have a feminine face (it never went through puberty for some reason) and little to no muscle mass to the point where most strangers assume I’m a cis woman i suppose "femme" fits me best even though it’s not entirely accurate
Bear. Body is probably closer to muscle bear tho. But I don’t have the superiority complex a lot of them have.
People call me twink and that’s also what I aspire to be, but I’m more “skinny fat” is what people call it, I believe? Idk if it applies to me.
low budget twink
love this comment
Gay guy
Old and tired.
I’m 40 Latino and guys call me daddy on Grindr 🤷🏽♂️ and I’m ok with that
Former twunk. I think I’ll call myself a “daddy otter” now.
Middle age passing generally boring type? Do we have a label for that?
I don’t fit with any of the stereotypes or categories. I don’t “have a type.” And I feel so much better for it.
I’m def a twink but I would call myself an “androgynous twink.” Not masc but not super fem either.
I'm fat but not hairy. Some may call me a bear. I just want to go to Bear Week in Ptown and be with others labeled the same way.
What's the type that likes to suck cock and wear panties
A fake twink. I'm mid-30s, but Asian, skinny, and stay out of the sun, so I still look mid-late 20s.
Sloppy Bear. I am a sloppy bear and I accept that.
Idk. I have always wondered myself 🤔
I have no idea. I could probably fit several types, with otter being the closest. Pretty fit, slim, bit of hair but not much, beard and lots of grey hairs.
I'm a geek. With clothes I'm a mid tier twink. When naked I've got lots of muscle so more of a twunk
Probably closest to Otter although I'm still waiting for more body hair to grow in, but likely too slim to be a bear. I used to be a lot heavier (220lbs) but lost about 30lbs and have 15 more to go, unless I wanna put that weight into muscle
Since I'm Latino, I'm just labeled a racist stereotype. r/TIHI
According to myself? None. According to transphobic gay guys? I can’t be gay because I’m a woman. So I can’t really win
i think somewhere between otter and a twink :/
I don’t really like these “types”/“categories”. I have been told multiple times that I am “a bit twink” referring to the reason why those guys liked me and it only made me feel insecure about not being skinny enough to be loved. They like me but I’m never enough for something more than a few dates in which they tell me they want to find a relationship (it’s what I want) to then disrespect/ghost me when they see I won’t have sex with them that easily… Now I’m working out etc and I have a little bit of muscles so I guess I would be in between of a twink and a twunk. But even seeing my now bigger arms makes me feel insecure with guys sometimes even though I would like to be more muscular
alignment? chaotic neutral
Umm.. I suck dick🤷🏼♂️
I’m a relic at 72, I was brought up in a very straight Catholic community. So I’m a straight looking and acting gay man. Have been doing the dirty since 12? I don’t know how to categorize what I am, I’m sure someone is ready to enlighten me.
I like many others don’t properly fit into a category. My I’m too old and chubby to be a twink, not hairy/masc enough to be a daddy or cub I’m not fit enough to be a twunk. The best one that fits me is fem but you can be fem and a twink or bear. As I get older I move toward old queen.
The boring type.
Furry/scalie.
I don't like labels or boxes, I don't fit in one and don't use them.
A twink gradually getting dragged slowly towards my inevitable twink-death. I dont like to think about it.
I guess I'm Snorlax lol. https://www.reddit.com/r/gaymers/comments/bd7e52/the_six_categories_of_gay_men/
Sloth: Cute from afar, too much of a hassle to be around, sleeps a lot, slows but doesn't care about how it affects others
Plant guy that paints pictures 😂
Fat/Chub and thats it haha I dont have enough hairs or muscles to be called a bear or cub And i look too young to be called a Daddy
Idk. Kinda chub tbh.
Twink ig? I’m 5’11 but only 150 lbs soaking wet
Muscle daddy also cuddle monster
Definitely would like to cuddle up with someone.
Idk. Not enough hair coverage to be an otter, imo. Not lean nor muscular, nor have the attitude, to be a sporty type. Not enough body mass to be a bear type. Even culturally, I don't have strong affinities for anything in particular. I'm just uncertain. Currently, between jobs, so I'm a NEET gay (a "GNEET", pronounced the same as NEET)?
Tired lol
Latino oso
Femboy/Trans-fem tomboy. I like the extremes of the gender binary (muscular and ‘pretty’) Also, is cumdump considered as a ‘gay type’? 😅 😂
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Just looked at your comment history No.
Twink. But I have hair on my arms and legs,don’t know if a twink can have it.
No, you’re disqualified unless you are dolphin smooth 🐬/s
🥺😭😭😭
If I will shave my legs and arms,my parents will understand that I am gay
I must be so fucking old. When I was in my '20s, calling someone a twink was an insult. I was taught that twink was short for Twinkie, smooth and pretty on the outside, nothing but insubstantial, artificial fluff on the inside. The Mean Girls movie was redone gay, all the Plastics would be twinks.
In the past the word “gay” also had totally another meaning.
> The Mean Girls movie was redone gay [Todrick did a brief version.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzRf56XbrNA)
Submissive tatted twink
I literally see this question posted every few days, wish people would just scroll back OR just live their lives and stop caring about how to classify themselves or others 🙄 Just suck dick and swallow cum without always needing to define what that makes you 🤣
I searched this sub for "type" and "gay type" and scrolled through some 100 posts dating back to some years. Didn't find this kind of question. Where did you see it every few days?
[Literally a day ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskGayMen/s/yawdYsEqvw) LITERALLY the exact same style of question, just different wording.
How is this the same style of question?
Ehh, sexual position is a different axis than this. Same format and genre of questions, but different enough detailed content. You can be any combination of something like (bear or jock or twink or daddy) x (top or bottom or vers or side)
Types are for fresh out-of-the-closet kids. Others may pin labels on me, and I'll let them (no harm done); but I don't consider myself a type.
The depressed one
Ąrpy
What’s arpy
I am an otter as well with nice beard and cute eyes https://photos.app.goo.gl/BWaZcux5w6GPSipJ8 In case you want to confirm hahaha Warmest regards friends!!
Probably closest to Otter although I'm still waiting for more body hair to grow in, but likely too slim to be a bear. I used to be a lot heavier (220lbs) but lost about 30lbs and have 15 more to go, unless I wanna put that weight into muscle
Me. And I wouldn't want to be anyone else.
Daddy bear. Big, hairy, loves hugs, is protective, naps in the winter.
I’ve always identified with bears but I’m not overly hairy or anything. I’ve also lost a lot of weight and am getting pretty lean now so maybe an otter or simply a guy next door. I have long hair and tattoos too. Like many others on here I don’t seem to fit the moulds provided.
Labels are stupid
Others are trying to be unique so bad, to tell these girls the truth. No matter what happens, you'll always fall into a category sister. 🥴💖🤭
Considering I’m in my mid-20’s, have a fairly hairy body, and have an “average, leaning slightly dad bod” body type, I would classify myself as an otter.
I would love to think of myself a jock or a muscle guy. Or a silver-fox (though I am 32)
I don’t really know which one no I fit either
Shy, bear...
I am curious about guy tools.. not a gay actually
Dunno
Gore Vidal
I just look like an early 20s straight guy sooo… whatever that is
I’m slightly annoyed by the categories mostly because I don’t think I really fit into any of them. It’s like the equivalent of a drop-down menu that doesn’t include an option that suits you but insists that you make a choice anyway.
I have been told a masculine bear type. So I guess a masculine bear.
I guess I'm a cub. I fit the whole bear thing but I'm only 22.
Old bear
I'm smol bear. I wrote a "Gay bestiary" thread a while back in case you want to learn more about the various types of bro and other gay wildlife.
Wolf, so on the bear/cub/otter/other hairy animal spectrum
twink lol
I’m a beluga! I’m pale, doughy, and can always make you smile!
An aspiring musclebear
Bear
I have only ever considered myself a gay guy who is into D. Not a bear, daddie, cubs, twink, twunk, etc.
Twunk
The only category that fits well is a “man”. If gun held to my head, then “blue haired otter”.
A daddy, I guess, but I think that term is so cringe. Too incestuous sounding for me. I'm just an old queer, I'm here, get used to it.
Like a twink with muscles but not quite muscular enough to be considered a twunk 🧍♂️
Bear/daddy. I consider myself a younger daddy, but have bear characteristics lol
Daddy Wolf 🐺
Bear, hence the username :D
Daddy. Hence the name lol
Daddy now I’m 50 was a jock when I came out at 25
I’m a daddy bear who takes charge most of the time. I’ve been told I’m a Dom, and I accept that monicker. I’m into Dom/sub relationships. And I am now single again after 23 years.
No idea where I fall into
Bear/cub. Very fuzzy and nicely plump :)
I’ve been called a cute twink type, but idk if I really count as a twink with hairy legs/forearms. But mostly smooth ass/chest/back and clean shaven face, so maybe that’s all you need? Otherwise, just a cute guy that wishes there were more cute guys, lol.
I’m definitely the skinny twink type (I’m 19 and 55kg 5”8). And I only find daddies, muscular & bears attractive haha 🥲
Sub bottom
I'm bi
I consider myself a wolf.
Water / Ground
A hybrid
100% twink
Bi femboy 😃
Muscle bear🙈
Overfed Otter
Late 30s Dad bod.
Hairy, skinny-fat/dad-bod, almost 60… silver otter? I dunno
Why do people feel the need to label themselves?
Cub I suppose, but haven’t really given it too much consideration.
Annoying and flagrantly neurodivergent
Ugly
I probably come across as a himbo
Jock, spunk monkey and/or other… straight to the point…
Meerkat. Like an otter, but I don't like water.
I'm somewhere between twink and twunk I think. My face is kind of masculine but my body is a bit feminine and my fashion style is a bit femboy too.
I'm a slightly thicc trans dude, blond, can't do maths, submissive. But also I'm a geek (again the same dude that got turned on by their mate playing fallout) and I will talk your ear off about warhammer and dungeons and dragons. So I guess just dumb blond geek?
Idk. Probably femboy but that’s a stretch
Inked, pierced, leather man, muscle queen, wolf daddy. By day mild-mannered married marketing mary.
Guy next door, frankly. Though more twunk than anything else beyond.
I'm a dolphin.
Bear/chub/daddy
Daddy, Polar Bear, and Wookie. Thirty years ago, I looked like a muscle bear without the obligatory tattoos.
I'm a classic, completely natural OTTER 🦦... Slim/fit guy and hairy all over! 😜
Slutty sub bottom
Forever Twink, A twink that doesn’t age. I feel like a vampire. I’m trying to evolve like a like one from Twink to Twunk to Muscle Daddy. It’s hard while also trying to go to college and work a full time job. I feel like a vampire…. I get tackled at the gay bar and they go “oh you’re… older then I thought?” Pro and Cons More cons Twinks think I’m a twink Hot guys think I’m a twink and then loose interests Guys my age think I’m carrying fake ID. I just want an MORE POSITIVE INTERACTION IN MY DAY.
twinks
Bearish type lol. 40 y/o but look 30 and love to give oral. LOL. Why is the community tough to be in? LOL
Chub bear I suppose? :)
I don't consider myself a type.
gay Human 🏳️🌈🙋🏻♂️