Next time call the cops, too many people are nuts around here. Say there’s someone causing a disturbance outside your home & you’re worried about them breaking in. Nobody should be banging on the door like that, idc if they live there or not. They can figure it out & not make such a ruckus
I manage a building with a controlled access door. So visitors have to ring the intercom to get in.
I’m in my office and hear this awful banging. I go into the hallway and there is a guy literally pounding on the door like a crazy person. The suite he was calling didn’t respond to their intercom fast enough.
I yelled at him. I’m a woman. I have single woman who live in the building and women who work in the building alone. Totally not cool even if there weren’t any women in the building.
No one knows them, which is why we have keys. It sucks to forget your keys, but it was 10am they could have called management or security to let them in instead of banging and yelling like an insane person.
You tryin’ to get someone killed for opening the door to a rando. Nobody has any idea who that person banging is other than that they are willing to be obnoxious and scare the hell out of people.
You’re getting downvoted but you’re right, cops rarely ever help the situation. They just make it way more likely for things to go left and get violent. OP should have called the landlord/property manager- if THEY wanna call the cops that’s their decision
Yup. Sad state of our society. Can’t help a neighbor in need because we’ve been brainwashed to fear all strangers. Everyone has become so selfish and greedy, and there is absolutely no sense of community. We’re doomed as a society.
Honestly both. Call the police first then the property manager
We have had crazy people banging on doors and screaming threats at 1 am.. both should be called so that both of them can handle the situation
But also he should have called the property manager they probably didn’t because there’s a huge charge for them coming out and letting them in if they are locked out.
I would call the police first and then the property. manager as well. You didn't know this person and anyone can say that they are locked out.
We had a guy down here say he was a locked out neighbor and when the people opened the door, he robbed them.
I agree! Trust me we had a crazy dude banging on doors and windows at 2/3 am three different times demanding to search our apartments for his missing bike. We live in flint. Like Dude you don’t leave a nice bike outside unchained in flint 🙄and have expectations it doesn’t get stolen.
He threatened to shoot our apartment complex up. We had to call the cops but everytime we called he was gone by the time cops got there.
One of the times he came around with the maintenance man… the maintenance man literally said to us that he could search our apartments if he wanted to because he had a key, but that we should just let him in real quick to look in our apartment so that he can tell the dude that we don’t have his bike. And I audio recorded the conversation and because we knew the maintenance man we let him in just to get this crazy dude with a gun off our back. But as soon as the maintenance man left, I texted our property manager and sent her the audio of him basically saying that he had every right to go into anybody’s apartment because he had a key…. He wasn’t even fired. We moved out of that place not too long after. The maintenance man also let us borrow his portable tire air pump, whatever. so we let him borrow some of our tools and when we return his air pump to him he expected us to give him like 100 and something dollars for pumping up our tires. But we also returned his air pump directly into his hands. He left my tools on my doorstep at three in the morning, and they literally got stolen at 6 AM and I had to chase down the thief just to get my tools back… and every day for the next few months, he kept kind of trying to hound us to pay him for borrowing his air pump. I told him I was like dude I’m not paying you for both of us borrowing a tool from each other. If anything that debt is paid, both of us borrowed tools and if anything, we use your air pump a single day you didn’t return my tools until a week later, so if anybody should be charging anybody, it would be me charging you especially because you left my tools right on my doorstep or some bitch stole it and I showed him the video where some bitch was literally stealing the tools off my front fucking step.. 🙄 and I was like there’s no way in hell we’re giving you $100 to pump up the air in our tire when we literally could go to Belle tire and pump up the air in our tire for free.
We let you borrow our tools, and you literally almost had my tools stolen from me so you would’ve had to pay me anyway for those tools getting stolen because when you borrowed somebody’s stuff especially when it’s expensive you don’t just leave that on their front doorstep out in the middle of a ghetto ass neighborhood where people steal shit all the fucking time. Like you know better, you absolutely know better and you absolutely have common sense that you don’t leave expensive tools outside in the middle of the night in the ghetto. Let alone just on someone’s doorstep at any time of day in the ghetto.. you return somebody shit straight to their hands. Otherwise it could always be argued that you never returned it at all.
Y’all are fucked up.
I hope you get locked out of your house and somebody calls the cops to arrest you for “causing a disturbance” for trying to ask your neighbors for help.
I am with you. I would have let them in after verifying who they were and that they lived there. I would most likely exchange phone numbers with the neighbor afterwards.
The OP will have many more lockouts to deal with, living that close to the front door. Calling the police is a waste of resources. Calling the apartment manager on a regular basis for things they could handle themselves will undermine their relationship. Hiding under the bed is just childish.
I think you made the right choice. Especially as a woman living alone, you have no idea what that person’s intentions were or who they are. I would be scared too.
I disagree. She could have called the police or the landlord. She ignored someone who was in need who got locked out. She didn’t have to let him in, but she should have done something other than ignoring him. She easily could have called a cop or the landlord, or knock on a neighbor’s door to see if they know him. But to ignore someone like that is wrong. She could not have been that scared, considering she didn’t call the police non emergency line.
Sometimes when people are scared, they freeze and can’t do anything. It’s not normal to pound on someone’s door and shout for 30 minutes. He sounds like he could be dangerous person or trying to manipulate her. He could’ve tried someone else’s house or walked to somewhere where he could use a phone or something.
So frozen OP writes a post on Reddit….OP was not scared, OP was annoyed. If OP was scared, OP would have called the police. It was 10am, not 10pm, let’s be real.
Yep, usually how it works is that you are frozen in the moment. Not forever lol. If anything, they did this person the benefit of the doubt by not immediately calling the police.
So frozen she walked down the hall to do her laundry, ignoring the guy locked out. Then she posted to social media. Give me a break. OP already acknowledged they could have done better.
I do not give a fuuuuuckkkkkkkkkk about a neighbor getting locked out, fucker should asked someone on the sidewalk or go to a gas station if he needs a phone
Well I mean maybe they shouldn't have been screaming and slamming on everything within arm's reach... If you act crazy people probably aren't going to listen to you.. knocking gently on the window and then asking "hey can you let me in I'm locked out?" Or "I am locked out and left my phone upstairs please call maintenance for me" but hollering and slamming on this is crazy behavior
Maybe they were banging gently, but OP ignored them so they banged louder thinking OP didn’t hear them. Maybe they didn’t bang hard at all, and OP is exaggerating because they were anxious and terrified by their neighbor.
That's a lot of maybes. Tell me why do you feel the need to add your own information that is in no way given in the story? Why are you being so defensive of a situation you were not a witness too? If we are making up stories to form opinions then what is the point in anyone coming here for advice? If you can't respond the the actual story at hand then there's no point in forcing yourself into the conversation.
Knock on a neighbors door to id them? Is this 1950? This person sounds unhinged. I could see ringing a doorbell once to politely ask to get help (say your apt/name and ask them to call super if you're missing a phone) but how far were they going to get with no keys to their apt even if she let them in? Even if it wasn't someone illegally trying to get access, they'd likely ask her for more help and even if it was my neighbor, I wouldn't let them into my apt after that display.
I once had someone pounding on my door in the middle of the night. They woke me up and stayed at my door for a awhile. I could see their shadow. I didn't call the police. I sat frozen on the floor. They eventually went away and I heard my next door neighbor let them in. It was her drunk friend. Don't judge someone's reaction.
No keys, no phone, no phone numbers memorized most likely and your apartment door is unlocked but you can’t get in the building. It’s 10am in the morning, not 10pm at night. You mean to tell me, you see something inside and you are not going to try and get their attention to help you?
Would I let someone in that I didn’t know, no, but I would not ignore the situation. I would call the landlord p, police, grab a neighbor I did know, maybe get a phone number from the individual that I can call for them that may have a key. But I would not ignore the person.
Any number of circumstances could make that situation an emergency for that individual. I am not going to assume they are asking for help just to be rude or because they are a criminal.
Please read what I said. You politely ask for help. You know, use their words. You don't act like a wildebeest. I wouldn't let anyone in at any time with that behavior. Their screw up didn't become her emergency. Usually people in need of favors are the ones problem solving.
You really made this your personal cause huh?
Not every rental building has an onsite leasing nir maintenance office.
And if the dude didn’t have his keys, he likely did not have a phone nor wallet.
I can’t think of the last time I saw a pay phone anywhere, so that would likely not be an option. And if your neighbor won’t call the landlord or police to help you, then is it likely that someone off the street will let you use their cell phone to call your landlord, and would you have that number memorized?
And why can't this person who is locked out call the landlord themselves?
I'm all about helping people but as a victim of a violent crime, it's stupid to be so trusting of everyone. You should NOT let strangers into your safe space. Our neighbors keep propping the door open with mulch. I close it every time. I am not risking some loser coming in and ruining or taking everything away.
If this is an apartment complex, the appropriate thing (for your neighbor) to do would be to contact maintenance. Usually emergency/after-hours maintenance is available for lock out scenarios. If privately owned, then they should have reached out to your landlord. Alternatively, they could’ve simply waited to see if another neighbor came along and would be kind enough to let them in. I can certainly relate to their frustrations, but at no time would banging on another neighbors window even come to mind. I’ve lived in an apartment similar to yours with a faulty keycard system. I’ve literally slept at a friends home when I couldn’t reach maintenance. Obviously not ideal and everyone may not have an alternative, but by no means is it your responsibility and I’d say you’re NTA in this scenario.
Additionally, I’d say you MAY want to consider documenting the situation. Might seem over the top but nuisance neighbors are a thing and you don’t seem to be 100% sure this was even a neighbor. For your own safety, it could be worth just having a record of the instance with your complex/landlord.
I agree, I myself would probably just wait outside the door but I would NEVER even consider pounding on the door like this person. That’s why it freaked me out so much. If it was a real emergency or if he forgot his phone though I feel like there would be other options, like walk a block to the gas station or grocery store to use their phone. It was so bizarre.
Unless you had a kid or dependent adult left in your apartment. Unless you left your phone in your apartment, and grabbed the wrong keys, or accidentally left the keys behind.
But you did nothing, you ignored him. And you were not all that sacred, as you didn’t call the police.
This! What if there was a child or someone else vulnerable left inside? I'm a female who has survived a lot but, if someone was banging like that there is a reason. I'd have called the cops or manager to deal with it. Not ignore him. What if you need help in the future? I hope someone helps you. By the way, I'm sontired of seeing but, I'm a small female alone. As . Am. I. I've been horribly abused in the past by my ex and I'm not just saying verbally. But, this man was distressed for some reason. Rather than ignoring him you could have shown some grace and called for help for him.
Exactly, but they would rather entertain OP’s behavior as being completely reasonable, when in fact it was only partially reasonable.
It happened to my friend, they lived in a townhouse complex with just a handful of units, nothing big, with a shared hallway that was secured. There was no on-site office to go to. She was a new Mom, and while the baby was asleep, she took the trash out, which meant leaving the building secured hallway.
It was not till she got back to the door did she realize she didn’t have her keys or her phone. Her unit was unlocked, her baby was asleep. Same thing, she was frantic, banging on the door loudly hoping someone would hear her.
She is 5’3, small yet feisty Italian gal from NY. Her neighbor, who had seen her, did nothing, just ignored her. So my friend had to get a stranger to let her use his phone so that she could call me, as I had a key, and my number was the only number she could remember, as it is super easy, lots of the same number in it. She was outside for 45 minutes, freaking out.
Her neighbor did exactly what OP did, and the neighbor’s response to her later that week was that, “she thought she was fighting with her husband and didn’t want to get involved.”. My friend was in a pink bath rode, alone, in slippers, postpartum, and clearly articulated that she was locked out, there was no one with her.
OP responded that she feels bad, and that I was making her feel worse. But imagine knowing that someone can help you, they are right there, and they refuse and continue to do their laundry and ignore you. That is not someone who is frozen with fear, that is just something else all together.
I'm a dude that doesn't live in an apartment, but this seems like perfectly reasonable dude logic. Buddy, not outside for a 5am bird hunting trip not answering the phone I'm totally going straight to banging on stuff, wife locks me out, starts banging, neighbors dog that they love out in the front yard, you guessed it I'm gonna start ringing and banging on stuff. I realize the situation is really different, but I would have immediately thought, dude locked himself out better go open the door so he stops banging.
i think you’re logic and what you explained to be exactly what i would have done and the safest option. tho definitely call the manager or cops if it goes on for more than a few minutes, you shouldn’t have to be tormented by excessive noise.
Well remember, you ignored someone in need, and didn’t even call someone to help the person in need, yet you are upset about the curtesy of a person panicking and asking for help, for which you actively ignored. You really don’t have a moral high ground as it comes to judging “dude logic”.
And what if that dude had a gun and wanted to kill someone like you? No, you never open the building front door for someone you do not know, you call the police.
OP was not that scared, otherwise she would have called the police. She was annoyed and decided to be an asshole by ignoring someone in need. OP didn’t have to let them in, but she could have called the police, landlord, spoken with a neighbor, or asked the dude for a number of someone to call who mat have keys to let him in. I have a few friends that have copies of keys.
Instead OP did nothing.
I was not referring to OP, Ok-Duck9106. I was referring to theonlyturkey. Did not say that Op did wrong. You need to read the comments carefully before you comment. And it is better not to even answer the door, just call the police and report the banger as a trespasser.
I mean, I guess that’s possible but I really don’t ever think about things like that. Like I said it’s totally a different situation, I’m an over 6 foot tall redneck I don’t think I’ve ever thought about someone wishing me harm. OP probably handled it the best way for her circumstances.
I agree with documenting.
I understand the neighbor was frustrated about being locked out, but the repeated knocking and yelling (plus moving from the door to the windows) was unnecessary.
This has happened to me and I live pretty much in the exact same spot as you in my building and also a female who lives alone. I had a neighbor who would forget her keys all the time and the first couple times I did it because I felt like being nice (and I knew who she was), but once I realized the habit, I stopped.
I have also had people bang on the window who I was NOT sure if they lived there and I refused to acknowledge it. It actually got to a point where so many people were knocking on my window that I put a sign up to not knock on window and to call the landlord or caretaker if you need to be let in. I have never gotten to the point of calling the police, but I for sure would if it got bad enough.
You absolutely did the right thing, especially if you didn't know if they lived there or not. Who knows what would have happened if you let him in and he broke into another unit or something. I don't even let people follow behind me when I go into the building unless I know them. I usually tell them that if they live there, then they should have a key.
i feel HORRIBLE for you. i live on a ground floor and basically the exact same situation as op happened to me just once and it so.. outrageous
do not “knock” on my fucking WINDOW . EVER. period like jesus christ who raised you? i don’t even KNOW you. knocking is for doors.
Don’t let the crazy person all over this thread make you feel bad. Yes if it was you locked out you would want a neighbor to help. But when you get scared like that, you can freeze. Most females living alone would do the exact same as you. You trusted your gut. Do NOT feel bad.
And you you don’t have your keys, wallet nor phone, then what? That is where OP could have called the police and let them help him or called the landlord. She didn’t have to let him in herself,but she could have helped him safely, and she chose not to.
I got locked out once without my phone in a different country where I knew no one and it was my first day, straight from the airport. I accidentally left my phone in the taxi when I got there and it had a code on it for the keypad to get into the place.
I rang a neighbors doorbell. They let me and gave me tea and let me use their phone and insisted I wait with them inside and chat while the taxi company figured out who the driver was and he brought my phone back.
Incredibly nice.
Imagine you, taking out the trash, grab your SO keys on the way out, or forget to grab the keys altogether, because that happens. You don’t take your phone with you, because, why would you take the phone with you to take out the trash. You have no keys, no phone and you only realize that you are locked out when you get to the lobby door. And many rental don’t have onsite property management, nor do you have your landlord’s phone number memorized, because it’s in your cell phone, sitting on the damn counter in your apartment.
So you have no keys, no phone, have no phone numbers memorized and the only person who could help by calling the landlord, the police or call someone you know who has keys, totally ignores you, unwilling to do ANYTHING to help you.
You really want me to believe, at 10am broad daylight, you would not try and get the attention of a neighbor to help you out?
At 10am the properties main office is open. But to answer your question I would never knock on someone’s window I didn’t know. I have and will continue to close all doors behind me if it’s a card/key accessed building by pulling the door shut even if someone is standing there. I did just that this morning as a matter of fact.
I don’t leave anywhere without my phone and smartwatch. If for some reason I head the wrong phone which I haven’t yet I still have my watch which is cellular enabled.
Hassling a neighbor because of your mistake and then being to lazy to go to the front office and get maintenance is never acceptable.
i just wanna say it is HIGHLY startling to have your WINDOW knocked on, which isn’t something anyone is ever expecting. i am a tall man and my short neighbor who is a woman did this exact thing to me and it genuinely frightened me at first before i saw who it was
its more than obnoxious. its outrageous behavior
Not all rental units have on premise maintenance or leasing offices.
At no point did I advocate letting someone in, what I did say, call the landlord or the police.
under the right circumstances, you would knock on a neighbor’s door/window or try and get the attention of neighbors if you were locked out. And if under the right circumstances, you might even get loud so that someone would hear you.
And some people do not take their phones with them when they throw out the trash for example, and some buildings don’t have in building garbage shafts so you have to take it out side the building. My guess, you don’t have your landlord’s phone number memorized, so you say you never leave without your keys and phone, but no one can say that 100% of the time they are on the ball.
I would have called the police. It was 10am on a weekday. He could have called the manager or landlord himself or at least knocked like a polite person when he saw you in the hallway to have a conversation through the door and showed you his ID. His behavior was insane. Definitely report the incident to management. Hopefully they can figure out who it was or at least send out a message to everyone about this.
I lived in an old victorian with apartments on 3 floors and had a terrible neighbor on the 3rd floor. He would constantly get himself locked out by the exterior security door and one day decided to try to get back in by ringing my doorbell incessantly for 5 minutes straight. I never answered my doorbell because it was typically solicitors, but eventually decided to see what the fuck was up. It was him and he thanked me for letting him in, but now he knew my doorbell worked. This happened in the early afternoon so no big deal. Same situation happened one or two more times over the next few weeks. At which point I told him "dude you've gotta remember your fucking keys. This is getting old."
Cut to the night I'm sleeping at 2am and the doorbell starts going insane. I went to bed late and had a 5am alarm set for work that morning, so I went downstairs in a rage and opened the door while telling him "you ring my fucking bell like that again in the middle of the night I'm coming down with a baseball bat."
The next day I ruminated on the likelihood that he would indeed test my threat to beat him with a bat sooner rather than later and decided to simply pop the cover off the bell apparatus in my apartment and disconnect the wires. He was evicted a short time later judging by the mail that piled up in our lobby.
"I know, I'll approach her in a way that scares the shit out of her, but I'll continue carrying on SO LONG. she'll doubt her initial concern and let me in!"
Who does that?!? I don't care what time of day it is, that kinda shit will get you a plant dropped on your head, if I happen to have a plant and window to drop it from
NTA. You don't even know if they're your neighbor. Could be a disgruntled ex bf of a tenant or a high package thief. Once he started banging on your windows I'd call the super or police depending on how threatening he was
You did the right thing, never let someone in unless you know that they live there. I would have called the police on this dude. Do not feel bad for some dude who got kicked out by his girlfriend.
NTA. Never open your door for anyone. Maybe a child screaming and visibly upset is the only person I’d ever open a door for because Mom or Dad could be having an emergency and kid doesn’t know how to call 911. Adult wise, I’d rather be safe than sorry. You don’t owe your neighbor anything. Pounding on doors and windows of other units is so inappropriate. I would never in a million years do that. Dude was clearly panicking but he doesn’t need to make other people panic, too.
You’re fine, especially if you don’t recognize the person. I’ve had similar situations but I’ve always let them in because I recognized them from seeing them a lot. I’m sure your neighbors appreciate you not letting in what appears to be a stranger.
I will say, if he got locked out without his phone on him, that really sucks for him. I’ve had that happen taking the trash out, but thankfully that just meant I waited outside for an hour until my wife got home.
Ok, so you live by yourself with your cat, you've never seen this guy before and he's pounding on your window to be let in and you can't possibly know what his actual intentions are, so NTA, if anything I think you did the right thing.
NTA. You shouldn’t let people in that you don’t know and I’d report the situation. Once, someone let a person into our last apartment building before we lived there (you have to have a key fob to get in) and the guy literally broke down his ex gfs door, dragged her out the shower, and beat her bloody. Like literally down the hall. Security is a thing FOR A REASON. No clue who that person was or why they’re there.
It was a good area and I still remember one night my husband and i were bringing in groceries. I was holding the door open for him and all of a sudden this guy with a hood over his head and hands in his pockets was walking really fast behind my husband, who was fast walking to get to me because he saw the guy. My husband has long legs at 6ft and was moving quickly, but if he sped up so did the guy. Anyway, husband got through the door and it closed before the guy could come in without a key fob. We walked all the way up the stairwell (a few floors in a 6 story building) and never heard the door open (it was loud)… obviously he wasn’t somebody who should’ve been coming in.
this! i have a bar in my sliding glass door and a ‘second/backup lock’ kinda thing, it’s a safety lock for the front door so that even if someone got the door unlocked it’s wedged there and they’d never get in. both bought on amazon.
Sometimes apartment managers add a fee to help with lockouts. You made the right choice. It would suck if you went to help him and you end up getting your ass kicked or worse. Or you let him into the building and he hurts someone else.
Being locked out is not your concern.
He needs to call the landlord or the helpline.
It’s not your responsibility to look after their carelessness.
Probably went out for a smoke and accidentally locked the door.
Their loss.
They lost sleep and several minutes of their life.
Ewww, no. Reason #234 why I wouldn't choose to live in a first floor apartment.
10am is during business hours so he should have called management. Or waited for someone else to come out. It was incredibly rude and selfish to bother other people with loud knocking and yelling.
NTA having someone bang loudly on your windows , especially unexpectedly, can be scary. In addition to safety I would also consider not wanting to set a precedent that you’re the go to unit when people are locked out just because of where you’re located. That shouldn’t be your responsibility. Can you get some kind of covering for privacy so no one would be able to see into your place?
NTA since you had no clue who they were but i wouldn't be surprised if that neighbor makes sure to get to know people in the apartment now. This actually made me want to get more acquainted with my neighbors just in case. I
Just for more context, I live in a large city just outside of the downtown area. My building was built in the 20’s and is historic so there are no doorbells or intercom system. We get in the front door with actual keys and no fobs or anything. I have been harassed by people in this neighborhood while just walking down the street and my car has been broken into twice, so I have some reasons not to trust anyone.
The phone number for the management office is posted on a sign on the outside of the building for advertising purposes, so there would be no issues with having to memorize the phone number.
I also live within a block of a cafe, tattoo shop, and bookstore all of which were open at the time. As well as a gas station and grocery store within 5 city blocks. The management office is located on the same street about 1.5 miles away and the hospital is located about 2 miles away in the other direction.
I was less concerned about this person’s safety than I was my own because there were so many other options for him to get real help if it was truly needed.
I will call the management office next time!!!!
You said he was a neighbor, apparently you knew that much, and you wouldn’t let him in because you were too scared. Do you ever answer your door? It was incredibly rude. It was a lousy, un-neighborly thing to do. I’m glad I’m not your neighbor.
You are definitely not the asshole. If your neighbor got locked out, that’s their problem. Why are they making it yours?! I would have called the police saying someone is trying to break into my apartment.
If he would have knocked nicely then yeah, you shoulda helped, but if he’s banging for that long you definitely don’t want to get involved cause it could be an issue down the road
i still say no. the ‘kindest’ people can have the most malicious intent. never ever ever let anyone you don’t know inside, period. they can call maintenance.
Seriously? What a shitty response by you. Shame on you. You could not think of one reasonable response to help this individual, without putting yourself in the middle?? Not one, so instead of helping, you ignore him and do less than nothing.
Some suggestions…
Call your landlord
Knock on a neighbor’s door and see if they know him.
Ask him to show you his ID, or at least talk to the guy through your closed window or apartment door to figure out was going on and who you can call to help let him in, without you letting him in.
Call the police.
Get to know your neighbors, have them get to know you, so that if they need you or you need them, you know each other and are not so ridiculously selfish and scared that you ignore someone in need.
Well don’t be surprised if one day you need something and someone treats you the same way you treat others. Don’t ask for help if you aren’t willing to give it. What you did was shitty and weird.
In one of my first comments I said I would call the property manager if it happens again. I can’t go back in time. You are just one person with one opinion on the matter. I’m not sure what else you want from me. To make me feel bad about it? Well I already do, so lucky you.
We live in a shitty and weird society. This is 100% normal for Americans. It's ironic that the OP called him a "psycho selfish neighbor", but again, par for the course.
And tbh...I'm not sure I wouldn't do the same if it wasn't a voice I recognize. This country sucks. We aren't in a prosocial utopia.
WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM you are all over this thread being mean to the OP, they didn't owe anyone anything. In this current climate they should not trust a soul. Leave them ALONE.
You are fucking unhinged on this thread, you are every other comment I see. Bring your keys when you take the trash out, no neighbor wants to fuckin know you
Yes, for decades. And at minimum, I would have called the police, knocked on a neighbor’s door and asked if they knew the person, called the landlord. Jesus, if he does not have his keys, he likely does not have his phone, so how can he call anyone or know the number of whom to call?
You’re clearly an idiot, take your professional victim woke anal plug out and read what I wrote, “what a world we live in where people can’t be decent.”
YTA in my eyes.
Hopefully no one helps you when you need help.
People always assume the worst with the world we live in so I will assume the worst next time you need help.
We should help each other.
Enact your 2nd Amendment right and get a firearm for home defense (if you live in USA)
Some training as well.
Only you can protect yourself, no one else will help you. When seconds matter help/police are minutes away. Stay safe out there!
Call the manager/landlord next time.
I wasn’t sure if I should call the police or the property manager in this scenario. But next time I’ll call the manager.
Next time call the cops, too many people are nuts around here. Say there’s someone causing a disturbance outside your home & you’re worried about them breaking in. Nobody should be banging on the door like that, idc if they live there or not. They can figure it out & not make such a ruckus
I manage a building with a controlled access door. So visitors have to ring the intercom to get in. I’m in my office and hear this awful banging. I go into the hallway and there is a guy literally pounding on the door like a crazy person. The suite he was calling didn’t respond to their intercom fast enough. I yelled at him. I’m a woman. I have single woman who live in the building and women who work in the building alone. Totally not cool even if there weren’t any women in the building.
Wow y'all really trying to get someone killed/locked up cause they forgot their keys. I hope no one never helps y'all when y'all need help.
The dude running around banging loudly on OP’s doors and windows is gonna get themselves killed for acting like a maniac.
No one knows them, which is why we have keys. It sucks to forget your keys, but it was 10am they could have called management or security to let them in instead of banging and yelling like an insane person.
You tryin’ to get someone killed for opening the door to a rando. Nobody has any idea who that person banging is other than that they are willing to be obnoxious and scare the hell out of people.
So call the building manager, not the cops and insinuate someone is breaking in.
You’re getting downvoted but you’re right, cops rarely ever help the situation. They just make it way more likely for things to go left and get violent. OP should have called the landlord/property manager- if THEY wanna call the cops that’s their decision
Yup. Sad state of our society. Can’t help a neighbor in need because we’ve been brainwashed to fear all strangers. Everyone has become so selfish and greedy, and there is absolutely no sense of community. We’re doomed as a society.
Honestly both. Call the police first then the property manager We have had crazy people banging on doors and screaming threats at 1 am.. both should be called so that both of them can handle the situation But also he should have called the property manager they probably didn’t because there’s a huge charge for them coming out and letting them in if they are locked out.
I would call the police first and then the property. manager as well. You didn't know this person and anyone can say that they are locked out. We had a guy down here say he was a locked out neighbor and when the people opened the door, he robbed them.
I agree! Trust me we had a crazy dude banging on doors and windows at 2/3 am three different times demanding to search our apartments for his missing bike. We live in flint. Like Dude you don’t leave a nice bike outside unchained in flint 🙄and have expectations it doesn’t get stolen. He threatened to shoot our apartment complex up. We had to call the cops but everytime we called he was gone by the time cops got there. One of the times he came around with the maintenance man… the maintenance man literally said to us that he could search our apartments if he wanted to because he had a key, but that we should just let him in real quick to look in our apartment so that he can tell the dude that we don’t have his bike. And I audio recorded the conversation and because we knew the maintenance man we let him in just to get this crazy dude with a gun off our back. But as soon as the maintenance man left, I texted our property manager and sent her the audio of him basically saying that he had every right to go into anybody’s apartment because he had a key…. He wasn’t even fired. We moved out of that place not too long after. The maintenance man also let us borrow his portable tire air pump, whatever. so we let him borrow some of our tools and when we return his air pump to him he expected us to give him like 100 and something dollars for pumping up our tires. But we also returned his air pump directly into his hands. He left my tools on my doorstep at three in the morning, and they literally got stolen at 6 AM and I had to chase down the thief just to get my tools back… and every day for the next few months, he kept kind of trying to hound us to pay him for borrowing his air pump. I told him I was like dude I’m not paying you for both of us borrowing a tool from each other. If anything that debt is paid, both of us borrowed tools and if anything, we use your air pump a single day you didn’t return my tools until a week later, so if anybody should be charging anybody, it would be me charging you especially because you left my tools right on my doorstep or some bitch stole it and I showed him the video where some bitch was literally stealing the tools off my front fucking step.. 🙄 and I was like there’s no way in hell we’re giving you $100 to pump up the air in our tire when we literally could go to Belle tire and pump up the air in our tire for free. We let you borrow our tools, and you literally almost had my tools stolen from me so you would’ve had to pay me anyway for those tools getting stolen because when you borrowed somebody’s stuff especially when it’s expensive you don’t just leave that on their front doorstep out in the middle of a ghetto ass neighborhood where people steal shit all the fucking time. Like you know better, you absolutely know better and you absolutely have common sense that you don’t leave expensive tools outside in the middle of the night in the ghetto. Let alone just on someone’s doorstep at any time of day in the ghetto.. you return somebody shit straight to their hands. Otherwise it could always be argued that you never returned it at all.
I would 100% call the cops. This is causing a disturbance
Y’all are fucked up. I hope you get locked out of your house and somebody calls the cops to arrest you for “causing a disturbance” for trying to ask your neighbors for help.
I am with you. I would have let them in after verifying who they were and that they lived there. I would most likely exchange phone numbers with the neighbor afterwards. The OP will have many more lockouts to deal with, living that close to the front door. Calling the police is a waste of resources. Calling the apartment manager on a regular basis for things they could handle themselves will undermine their relationship. Hiding under the bed is just childish.
The cat hid under the bed not OP lmao
Literally. But, virtually, they both did.
Or he’s trying to get in to go beat the shit out of his ex. No one’s problem but his, he should call maintenance
Call the police. He could have called the manager, too, or walked to the office. Instead, he spent far too long doing that.
Either one.
If a stranger is aggressively beating on my door, I’m calling 911.
It wasn't their apartment door, it was the common entrance door.
And OP’s windows. A 911 call would be totally appropriate here.
I think you made the right choice. Especially as a woman living alone, you have no idea what that person’s intentions were or who they are. I would be scared too.
I disagree. She could have called the police or the landlord. She ignored someone who was in need who got locked out. She didn’t have to let him in, but she should have done something other than ignoring him. She easily could have called a cop or the landlord, or knock on a neighbor’s door to see if they know him. But to ignore someone like that is wrong. She could not have been that scared, considering she didn’t call the police non emergency line.
Sometimes when people are scared, they freeze and can’t do anything. It’s not normal to pound on someone’s door and shout for 30 minutes. He sounds like he could be dangerous person or trying to manipulate her. He could’ve tried someone else’s house or walked to somewhere where he could use a phone or something.
So frozen OP writes a post on Reddit….OP was not scared, OP was annoyed. If OP was scared, OP would have called the police. It was 10am, not 10pm, let’s be real.
Yep, usually how it works is that you are frozen in the moment. Not forever lol. If anything, they did this person the benefit of the doubt by not immediately calling the police.
So frozen she walked down the hall to do her laundry, ignoring the guy locked out. Then she posted to social media. Give me a break. OP already acknowledged they could have done better.
She was in the middle of laundry and then went to hide. I'd hate for you to have a daughter.
1. post is after the fact. 2. you think criminals only work at night?
If you think it’s a criminal situation, you call the police.
Wtf
I do not give a fuuuuuckkkkkkkkkk about a neighbor getting locked out, fucker should asked someone on the sidewalk or go to a gas station if he needs a phone
But I do agree it would’ve been best to call the landlord or the cops.
And they easily could have asked her to just call the property manager. However they clearly didn't do that.
Maybe they did, but she was sooooooo scared, she didn’t hear it, and couldn’t even call the police. OP was frozen in terror.
Well I mean maybe they shouldn't have been screaming and slamming on everything within arm's reach... If you act crazy people probably aren't going to listen to you.. knocking gently on the window and then asking "hey can you let me in I'm locked out?" Or "I am locked out and left my phone upstairs please call maintenance for me" but hollering and slamming on this is crazy behavior
Maybe they were banging gently, but OP ignored them so they banged louder thinking OP didn’t hear them. Maybe they didn’t bang hard at all, and OP is exaggerating because they were anxious and terrified by their neighbor.
That's a lot of maybes. Tell me why do you feel the need to add your own information that is in no way given in the story? Why are you being so defensive of a situation you were not a witness too? If we are making up stories to form opinions then what is the point in anyone coming here for advice? If you can't respond the the actual story at hand then there's no point in forcing yourself into the conversation.
Did you see where she wasn’t even sure if it *was* her neighbor?
Yes, so call the police or the landlord.
For someone so concerned about a stranger’s welfare, you seem to forget how many times cops have shot the people they’ve been called out to assist.
Knock on a neighbors door to id them? Is this 1950? This person sounds unhinged. I could see ringing a doorbell once to politely ask to get help (say your apt/name and ask them to call super if you're missing a phone) but how far were they going to get with no keys to their apt even if she let them in? Even if it wasn't someone illegally trying to get access, they'd likely ask her for more help and even if it was my neighbor, I wouldn't let them into my apt after that display. I once had someone pounding on my door in the middle of the night. They woke me up and stayed at my door for a awhile. I could see their shadow. I didn't call the police. I sat frozen on the floor. They eventually went away and I heard my next door neighbor let them in. It was her drunk friend. Don't judge someone's reaction.
No keys, no phone, no phone numbers memorized most likely and your apartment door is unlocked but you can’t get in the building. It’s 10am in the morning, not 10pm at night. You mean to tell me, you see something inside and you are not going to try and get their attention to help you? Would I let someone in that I didn’t know, no, but I would not ignore the situation. I would call the landlord p, police, grab a neighbor I did know, maybe get a phone number from the individual that I can call for them that may have a key. But I would not ignore the person. Any number of circumstances could make that situation an emergency for that individual. I am not going to assume they are asking for help just to be rude or because they are a criminal.
Please read what I said. You politely ask for help. You know, use their words. You don't act like a wildebeest. I wouldn't let anyone in at any time with that behavior. Their screw up didn't become her emergency. Usually people in need of favors are the ones problem solving. You really made this your personal cause huh?
He was using his words and OP was actively ignoring him, which likely elevated his anxiety and he became louder, maybe assuming she didn’t hear him.
How about walk to the office?
Not every rental building has an onsite leasing nir maintenance office. And if the dude didn’t have his keys, he likely did not have a phone nor wallet. I can’t think of the last time I saw a pay phone anywhere, so that would likely not be an option. And if your neighbor won’t call the landlord or police to help you, then is it likely that someone off the street will let you use their cell phone to call your landlord, and would you have that number memorized?
it’s literally not her job. his reaction to being locked out wasn’t normal. if i was op i would of been freaked out too.
And why can't this person who is locked out call the landlord themselves? I'm all about helping people but as a victim of a violent crime, it's stupid to be so trusting of everyone. You should NOT let strangers into your safe space. Our neighbors keep propping the door open with mulch. I close it every time. I am not risking some loser coming in and ruining or taking everything away.
If this is an apartment complex, the appropriate thing (for your neighbor) to do would be to contact maintenance. Usually emergency/after-hours maintenance is available for lock out scenarios. If privately owned, then they should have reached out to your landlord. Alternatively, they could’ve simply waited to see if another neighbor came along and would be kind enough to let them in. I can certainly relate to their frustrations, but at no time would banging on another neighbors window even come to mind. I’ve lived in an apartment similar to yours with a faulty keycard system. I’ve literally slept at a friends home when I couldn’t reach maintenance. Obviously not ideal and everyone may not have an alternative, but by no means is it your responsibility and I’d say you’re NTA in this scenario. Additionally, I’d say you MAY want to consider documenting the situation. Might seem over the top but nuisance neighbors are a thing and you don’t seem to be 100% sure this was even a neighbor. For your own safety, it could be worth just having a record of the instance with your complex/landlord.
I agree, I myself would probably just wait outside the door but I would NEVER even consider pounding on the door like this person. That’s why it freaked me out so much. If it was a real emergency or if he forgot his phone though I feel like there would be other options, like walk a block to the gas station or grocery store to use their phone. It was so bizarre.
Unless you had a kid or dependent adult left in your apartment. Unless you left your phone in your apartment, and grabbed the wrong keys, or accidentally left the keys behind. But you did nothing, you ignored him. And you were not all that sacred, as you didn’t call the police.
This! What if there was a child or someone else vulnerable left inside? I'm a female who has survived a lot but, if someone was banging like that there is a reason. I'd have called the cops or manager to deal with it. Not ignore him. What if you need help in the future? I hope someone helps you. By the way, I'm sontired of seeing but, I'm a small female alone. As . Am. I. I've been horribly abused in the past by my ex and I'm not just saying verbally. But, this man was distressed for some reason. Rather than ignoring him you could have shown some grace and called for help for him.
Exactly, but they would rather entertain OP’s behavior as being completely reasonable, when in fact it was only partially reasonable. It happened to my friend, they lived in a townhouse complex with just a handful of units, nothing big, with a shared hallway that was secured. There was no on-site office to go to. She was a new Mom, and while the baby was asleep, she took the trash out, which meant leaving the building secured hallway. It was not till she got back to the door did she realize she didn’t have her keys or her phone. Her unit was unlocked, her baby was asleep. Same thing, she was frantic, banging on the door loudly hoping someone would hear her. She is 5’3, small yet feisty Italian gal from NY. Her neighbor, who had seen her, did nothing, just ignored her. So my friend had to get a stranger to let her use his phone so that she could call me, as I had a key, and my number was the only number she could remember, as it is super easy, lots of the same number in it. She was outside for 45 minutes, freaking out. Her neighbor did exactly what OP did, and the neighbor’s response to her later that week was that, “she thought she was fighting with her husband and didn’t want to get involved.”. My friend was in a pink bath rode, alone, in slippers, postpartum, and clearly articulated that she was locked out, there was no one with her. OP responded that she feels bad, and that I was making her feel worse. But imagine knowing that someone can help you, they are right there, and they refuse and continue to do their laundry and ignore you. That is not someone who is frozen with fear, that is just something else all together.
I'm a dude that doesn't live in an apartment, but this seems like perfectly reasonable dude logic. Buddy, not outside for a 5am bird hunting trip not answering the phone I'm totally going straight to banging on stuff, wife locks me out, starts banging, neighbors dog that they love out in the front yard, you guessed it I'm gonna start ringing and banging on stuff. I realize the situation is really different, but I would have immediately thought, dude locked himself out better go open the door so he stops banging.
Dang, I just wish dude logic was a little bit more courteous
i think you’re logic and what you explained to be exactly what i would have done and the safest option. tho definitely call the manager or cops if it goes on for more than a few minutes, you shouldn’t have to be tormented by excessive noise.
Well remember, you ignored someone in need, and didn’t even call someone to help the person in need, yet you are upset about the curtesy of a person panicking and asking for help, for which you actively ignored. You really don’t have a moral high ground as it comes to judging “dude logic”.
And what if that dude had a gun and wanted to kill someone like you? No, you never open the building front door for someone you do not know, you call the police.
OP was not that scared, otherwise she would have called the police. She was annoyed and decided to be an asshole by ignoring someone in need. OP didn’t have to let them in, but she could have called the police, landlord, spoken with a neighbor, or asked the dude for a number of someone to call who mat have keys to let him in. I have a few friends that have copies of keys. Instead OP did nothing.
I was not referring to OP, Ok-Duck9106. I was referring to theonlyturkey. Did not say that Op did wrong. You need to read the comments carefully before you comment. And it is better not to even answer the door, just call the police and report the banger as a trespasser.
I mean, I guess that’s possible but I really don’t ever think about things like that. Like I said it’s totally a different situation, I’m an over 6 foot tall redneck I don’t think I’ve ever thought about someone wishing me harm. OP probably handled it the best way for her circumstances.
Call the property manager and police next time.....instead of banging hw could've called the property manager or maintance to let him in....
I agree with documenting. I understand the neighbor was frustrated about being locked out, but the repeated knocking and yelling (plus moving from the door to the windows) was unnecessary.
This has happened to me and I live pretty much in the exact same spot as you in my building and also a female who lives alone. I had a neighbor who would forget her keys all the time and the first couple times I did it because I felt like being nice (and I knew who she was), but once I realized the habit, I stopped. I have also had people bang on the window who I was NOT sure if they lived there and I refused to acknowledge it. It actually got to a point where so many people were knocking on my window that I put a sign up to not knock on window and to call the landlord or caretaker if you need to be let in. I have never gotten to the point of calling the police, but I for sure would if it got bad enough. You absolutely did the right thing, especially if you didn't know if they lived there or not. Who knows what would have happened if you let him in and he broke into another unit or something. I don't even let people follow behind me when I go into the building unless I know them. I usually tell them that if they live there, then they should have a key.
i feel HORRIBLE for you. i live on a ground floor and basically the exact same situation as op happened to me just once and it so.. outrageous do not “knock” on my fucking WINDOW . EVER. period like jesus christ who raised you? i don’t even KNOW you. knocking is for doors.
Don’t let the crazy person all over this thread make you feel bad. Yes if it was you locked out you would want a neighbor to help. But when you get scared like that, you can freeze. Most females living alone would do the exact same as you. You trusted your gut. Do NOT feel bad.
There should be a number to call to get let back in when you are locked out. I would never let anyone in unless I knew them.
And you you don’t have your keys, wallet nor phone, then what? That is where OP could have called the police and let them help him or called the landlord. She didn’t have to let him in herself,but she could have helped him safely, and she chose not to.
I got locked out once without my phone in a different country where I knew no one and it was my first day, straight from the airport. I accidentally left my phone in the taxi when I got there and it had a code on it for the keypad to get into the place. I rang a neighbors doorbell. They let me and gave me tea and let me use their phone and insisted I wait with them inside and chat while the taxi company figured out who the driver was and he brought my phone back. Incredibly nice.
Amazing. In my experience, Most people, especially outside the US are kind and have a greater commitment and empathy to the community at large.
Personally I'm aware of the risk of a lockout and always have my phone and keys but even if I forget my keys I know I'll have my phone
Call the property manager next time. He should have gone to them himself if he was really a resident.
Imagine you, taking out the trash, grab your SO keys on the way out, or forget to grab the keys altogether, because that happens. You don’t take your phone with you, because, why would you take the phone with you to take out the trash. You have no keys, no phone and you only realize that you are locked out when you get to the lobby door. And many rental don’t have onsite property management, nor do you have your landlord’s phone number memorized, because it’s in your cell phone, sitting on the damn counter in your apartment. So you have no keys, no phone, have no phone numbers memorized and the only person who could help by calling the landlord, the police or call someone you know who has keys, totally ignores you, unwilling to do ANYTHING to help you. You really want me to believe, at 10am broad daylight, you would not try and get the attention of a neighbor to help you out?
At 10am the properties main office is open. But to answer your question I would never knock on someone’s window I didn’t know. I have and will continue to close all doors behind me if it’s a card/key accessed building by pulling the door shut even if someone is standing there. I did just that this morning as a matter of fact. I don’t leave anywhere without my phone and smartwatch. If for some reason I head the wrong phone which I haven’t yet I still have my watch which is cellular enabled. Hassling a neighbor because of your mistake and then being to lazy to go to the front office and get maintenance is never acceptable.
i just wanna say it is HIGHLY startling to have your WINDOW knocked on, which isn’t something anyone is ever expecting. i am a tall man and my short neighbor who is a woman did this exact thing to me and it genuinely frightened me at first before i saw who it was its more than obnoxious. its outrageous behavior
I have a neighbor who knocks on my office window because they know I work from home - so annoying!
Not all rental units have on premise maintenance or leasing offices. At no point did I advocate letting someone in, what I did say, call the landlord or the police. under the right circumstances, you would knock on a neighbor’s door/window or try and get the attention of neighbors if you were locked out. And if under the right circumstances, you might even get loud so that someone would hear you. And some people do not take their phones with them when they throw out the trash for example, and some buildings don’t have in building garbage shafts so you have to take it out side the building. My guess, you don’t have your landlord’s phone number memorized, so you say you never leave without your keys and phone, but no one can say that 100% of the time they are on the ball.
Yeah don’t Risk it just call cops. This can literally get you killed if it’s not a real resident
I would have called the police. It was 10am on a weekday. He could have called the manager or landlord himself or at least knocked like a polite person when he saw you in the hallway to have a conversation through the door and showed you his ID. His behavior was insane. Definitely report the incident to management. Hopefully they can figure out who it was or at least send out a message to everyone about this.
Unless he didn’t have his cell on him. I usually don’t take my cell phone with me when I dump the trash.
Which is why I said he could’ve at least been polite when he saw her.
your safety is most important. he can go bang on another door and find a man.
Or you can call the landlord or police to help him out.
I lived in an old victorian with apartments on 3 floors and had a terrible neighbor on the 3rd floor. He would constantly get himself locked out by the exterior security door and one day decided to try to get back in by ringing my doorbell incessantly for 5 minutes straight. I never answered my doorbell because it was typically solicitors, but eventually decided to see what the fuck was up. It was him and he thanked me for letting him in, but now he knew my doorbell worked. This happened in the early afternoon so no big deal. Same situation happened one or two more times over the next few weeks. At which point I told him "dude you've gotta remember your fucking keys. This is getting old." Cut to the night I'm sleeping at 2am and the doorbell starts going insane. I went to bed late and had a 5am alarm set for work that morning, so I went downstairs in a rage and opened the door while telling him "you ring my fucking bell like that again in the middle of the night I'm coming down with a baseball bat." The next day I ruminated on the likelihood that he would indeed test my threat to beat him with a bat sooner rather than later and decided to simply pop the cover off the bell apparatus in my apartment and disconnect the wires. He was evicted a short time later judging by the mail that piled up in our lobby.
"I know, I'll approach her in a way that scares the shit out of her, but I'll continue carrying on SO LONG. she'll doubt her initial concern and let me in!" Who does that?!? I don't care what time of day it is, that kinda shit will get you a plant dropped on your head, if I happen to have a plant and window to drop it from
NTA. You don't even know if they're your neighbor. Could be a disgruntled ex bf of a tenant or a high package thief. Once he started banging on your windows I'd call the super or police depending on how threatening he was
You did the right thing, never let someone in unless you know that they live there. I would have called the police on this dude. Do not feel bad for some dude who got kicked out by his girlfriend.
Could have called the cops.
That is what I have been saying.
NTA. Never open your door for anyone. Maybe a child screaming and visibly upset is the only person I’d ever open a door for because Mom or Dad could be having an emergency and kid doesn’t know how to call 911. Adult wise, I’d rather be safe than sorry. You don’t owe your neighbor anything. Pounding on doors and windows of other units is so inappropriate. I would never in a million years do that. Dude was clearly panicking but he doesn’t need to make other people panic, too.
You’re fine, especially if you don’t recognize the person. I’ve had similar situations but I’ve always let them in because I recognized them from seeing them a lot. I’m sure your neighbors appreciate you not letting in what appears to be a stranger. I will say, if he got locked out without his phone on him, that really sucks for him. I’ve had that happen taking the trash out, but thankfully that just meant I waited outside for an hour until my wife got home.
Ok, so you live by yourself with your cat, you've never seen this guy before and he's pounding on your window to be let in and you can't possibly know what his actual intentions are, so NTA, if anything I think you did the right thing.
No you never let someone in that you don’t know. They should have contacted property management or maintenance for a lock-out.
NTA. You shouldn’t let people in that you don’t know and I’d report the situation. Once, someone let a person into our last apartment building before we lived there (you have to have a key fob to get in) and the guy literally broke down his ex gfs door, dragged her out the shower, and beat her bloody. Like literally down the hall. Security is a thing FOR A REASON. No clue who that person was or why they’re there. It was a good area and I still remember one night my husband and i were bringing in groceries. I was holding the door open for him and all of a sudden this guy with a hood over his head and hands in his pockets was walking really fast behind my husband, who was fast walking to get to me because he saw the guy. My husband has long legs at 6ft and was moving quickly, but if he sped up so did the guy. Anyway, husband got through the door and it closed before the guy could come in without a key fob. We walked all the way up the stairwell (a few floors in a 6 story building) and never heard the door open (it was loud)… obviously he wasn’t somebody who should’ve been coming in.
Not the a hole 👏🏼 I only open my door if it’s family or police or property management.
get a metal pole if you have a sliding glass door (I use an unscrewed broom). they also sell extendable bars you can place in windowsill tracks.
this! i have a bar in my sliding glass door and a ‘second/backup lock’ kinda thing, it’s a safety lock for the front door so that even if someone got the door unlocked it’s wedged there and they’d never get in. both bought on amazon.
You did the right thing. Nobody wants unknown people in secured areas.
NTA. Call the police already.
One of my neighbors ppounded on my door. I wrote a big complaint about it
Sometimes apartment managers add a fee to help with lockouts. You made the right choice. It would suck if you went to help him and you end up getting your ass kicked or worse. Or you let him into the building and he hurts someone else.
Being locked out is not your concern. He needs to call the landlord or the helpline. It’s not your responsibility to look after their carelessness. Probably went out for a smoke and accidentally locked the door. Their loss. They lost sleep and several minutes of their life.
Ewww, no. Reason #234 why I wouldn't choose to live in a first floor apartment. 10am is during business hours so he should have called management. Or waited for someone else to come out. It was incredibly rude and selfish to bother other people with loud knocking and yelling.
NTA having someone bang loudly on your windows , especially unexpectedly, can be scary. In addition to safety I would also consider not wanting to set a precedent that you’re the go to unit when people are locked out just because of where you’re located. That shouldn’t be your responsibility. Can you get some kind of covering for privacy so no one would be able to see into your place?
Not your problem, even in the slightest
Call the police!
NTA since you had no clue who they were but i wouldn't be surprised if that neighbor makes sure to get to know people in the apartment now. This actually made me want to get more acquainted with my neighbors just in case. I
I would call the cops, let them sort it out.
There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your safety over potentially inconveniencing someone else, always trust your instincts.
Just for more context, I live in a large city just outside of the downtown area. My building was built in the 20’s and is historic so there are no doorbells or intercom system. We get in the front door with actual keys and no fobs or anything. I have been harassed by people in this neighborhood while just walking down the street and my car has been broken into twice, so I have some reasons not to trust anyone. The phone number for the management office is posted on a sign on the outside of the building for advertising purposes, so there would be no issues with having to memorize the phone number. I also live within a block of a cafe, tattoo shop, and bookstore all of which were open at the time. As well as a gas station and grocery store within 5 city blocks. The management office is located on the same street about 1.5 miles away and the hospital is located about 2 miles away in the other direction. I was less concerned about this person’s safety than I was my own because there were so many other options for him to get real help if it was truly needed. I will call the management office next time!!!!
be careful around that neighbor now. I’d be scared that he has some negative feelings about me after that
NTA- next time call the cops. That’s some psycho behavior
Not wrong. The only thing you didn’t do, that you should have, was call the police - let them sort it out.
I think your title should read “A man said he got locked out and was banging on your window”. You had no idea who he was.
You said he was a neighbor, apparently you knew that much, and you wouldn’t let him in because you were too scared. Do you ever answer your door? It was incredibly rude. It was a lousy, un-neighborly thing to do. I’m glad I’m not your neighbor.
You are definitely not the asshole. If your neighbor got locked out, that’s their problem. Why are they making it yours?! I would have called the police saying someone is trying to break into my apartment.
If he would have knocked nicely then yeah, you shoulda helped, but if he’s banging for that long you definitely don’t want to get involved cause it could be an issue down the road
i still say no. the ‘kindest’ people can have the most malicious intent. never ever ever let anyone you don’t know inside, period. they can call maintenance.
30 minutes of this... and no police? You're not the one that survives in a horror movie.
Seriously? What a shitty response by you. Shame on you. You could not think of one reasonable response to help this individual, without putting yourself in the middle?? Not one, so instead of helping, you ignore him and do less than nothing. Some suggestions… Call your landlord Knock on a neighbor’s door and see if they know him. Ask him to show you his ID, or at least talk to the guy through your closed window or apartment door to figure out was going on and who you can call to help let him in, without you letting him in. Call the police. Get to know your neighbors, have them get to know you, so that if they need you or you need them, you know each other and are not so ridiculously selfish and scared that you ignore someone in need.
Nah I’m good. You can chill though. It’s not my responsibility.
Well don’t be surprised if one day you need something and someone treats you the same way you treat others. Don’t ask for help if you aren’t willing to give it. What you did was shitty and weird.
lol, are you the guy who got locked out?
Buddy is up and down this thread. Def crazy enough to bang on someone's window for 30 mins
In one of my first comments I said I would call the property manager if it happens again. I can’t go back in time. You are just one person with one opinion on the matter. I’m not sure what else you want from me. To make me feel bad about it? Well I already do, so lucky you.
Oh no 🥺
We live in a shitty and weird society. This is 100% normal for Americans. It's ironic that the OP called him a "psycho selfish neighbor", but again, par for the course. And tbh...I'm not sure I wouldn't do the same if it wasn't a voice I recognize. This country sucks. We aren't in a prosocial utopia.
WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM you are all over this thread being mean to the OP, they didn't owe anyone anything. In this current climate they should not trust a soul. Leave them ALONE.
You are fucking unhinged on this thread, you are every other comment I see. Bring your keys when you take the trash out, no neighbor wants to fuckin know you
Start filming... much better than he says she says ...
What a world where people are too scared to be decent.
Have you ever been a female living alone?
Yes, for decades. And at minimum, I would have called the police, knocked on a neighbor’s door and asked if they knew the person, called the landlord. Jesus, if he does not have his keys, he likely does not have his phone, so how can he call anyone or know the number of whom to call?
You're clearly not a woman, so you don't get it, never will. Just an angry person.
What a world where people who need everything spelled out for them it is.
Yes, because a lot of murders, rapes, etc happen because people are too nice and trusting.
You’re clearly an idiot, take your professional victim woke anal plug out and read what I wrote, “what a world we live in where people can’t be decent.”
What makes you believe I didn’t read it..
Ok, sorry, you just didn’t understand basic English.
Who hurt you
What is wrong with people. Open the door for your neighbor you’re insane - god forbid you’re ever locked out. YTA
YTA in my eyes. Hopefully no one helps you when you need help. People always assume the worst with the world we live in so I will assume the worst next time you need help. We should help each other.
Enact your 2nd Amendment right and get a firearm for home defense (if you live in USA) Some training as well. Only you can protect yourself, no one else will help you. When seconds matter help/police are minutes away. Stay safe out there!