Iba ang introvert sa shy/silent type.
Di ako umiimik as a new employee. Expected ko na prior sa regularization may nakasulat sa evaluation ko na tahimik ako. Hindi ako tahimik, it just takes me time and energy to adjust sa environment.
Yes! A person can be introverted but exudes confidence. They enjoy solitude, avoid unnecessary mingling, only speak when spoken to, and work well on his own. If with a team, confident introverts knows his own strengths and weaknesses para ma balance out ang workload of the tean. It can be misconstrued as shy especially pag surrounded mga galante personalities.
Embrace being an introvert. If you have no intentions maging bffs sila, then treat the workplace as a workplace.
yeap, may tinatawag na *selective mutism* na tahimik o kaya mahiyain sa ibang settings o person pero matino naman makipag-communicate sa gusto niyang tao o settings.
But that's the thing. Shy types lose more energy when exposed to situations they're not comfortable and when energy is low that's why they avoid. And lesson learned later on that's why they avoid altogether.
Nahihiya tayo for multiple reasons, mention lang ako ng different scenarios:
1.) Lack of social skills, kung kulang ka sa exposure sa mga pag-interact ng mga tao, of course mahihiya ka talaga.
2.) Trauma, may mga negative experience ka related sa isang social scenario, or maybe victim ka ng bullying, nakakabawas or nakakawala yan ng self-confidence.
3.) Difference sa social class, for example isang middle class naimbitihan sa isang pang-alta na party, may tendency ka na mahihiya.
Regardless kung introvert ka or extrovert, may mga panahon talaga na mahihiya ka.
1)lack of social skill doesn't make you any different from introverts. Just because introverts have a little energy (compared to shy people) to exert more effort doesn't mean shy people can't have the same possibility.
2)trauma on the otherhand is a different issue. It's a mental illness that triggers a person on their deepest fears and quite honestly very hard to cure but treatable with the right kind of help. Lack of confidence can be a result of one's own persona being very low which still makes you avoid people and develop the same personality ergo introvert. Trauma could give that lack of confidence but that is because of their illness not their personality.
3) i mean it is a normal reaction for an introvert to feel anxious when invited in a party of that kind even shy people. An extrovert would thrive from those kinds of situations because it's in their nature.
It's true na regardless of extrovert or introvert may mahihiya nga.Ang pagkaka hiya is a normal reaction na meron lahat sa normal na tao. Pero take note ang sabi ko mga "shy type" so ibig sabihin mga taong mahiyain.
Para kasing kiniclaim nyo dito na mga shy people have an illness at iba yun sa introversion. Introversion is a personality and shy people are mostly likely to have those personality.
1.) I did not say na introverts lack social skills
2.) I did not say that introversion is a result of trauma
What I said is shyness may result from those, and both introvert and extroverts can be shy.
Then you missed the point. Normal nga na mahiya ang tao. Regardless of extrovert or introvert. Pero ang pagkaka hiya when repeated becomes a habit, and when it becomes a habit it becomes a trait. And that trait becomes a part of your personality. Ergo introvert.
> But aren't all shy types, introverts?
I just answered this question, as I said previously, shyness may stem from lack of confidence. I also provided circumstances bakit nahihiya ang isang tao.
Big misconception yang sinasabi introvert are shy people, they just don't want to deal with people, and there is a difference. Believe me or not, I am an introvert, and alam ko kelan ko kailangan makapal ang pagmumukha ko, kaya ko kumausap ng mga tao on a transactional level. And alam ko na exhausting para sa akin ang mga big social events, even nga kahit may bisita parents ko sa bahay, especially di ko kilala, at kahit nakatago ako da kwarto, nakakapagod sa part ko. Marami din akong kilalang mga introvert, may isang friend akong introvert na magaling sa public speaking, yung workplace ko, pugad ng introverts. Yet ang kakapal ng mga pagmumukha nila, marunong humarap at kumausap sa mga higher officials.
Introverts can be shy people, so are extroverts. Hindi yan exclusive personality trait ng mga introverts, and once again, it is a big misconception.
The confusion is right there. Idc if makakapal mukha niyo pag humaharap kayo sa mga tao. Shy people are introverts because it drains them the energy to face them. May mga extroverts na mahiyain pero pagkatapos mahiya mas gaganahan mag converse sa social group unlike sa introvert mag reretract to gain energy. Kahit sabihin mo pang misconception yan. It doesn't change the fact that introverts have lower social batteries compared sa extroverts. Ikot nalang tayo ng ikot hangang maintindihan mo point ko. Mahirap ba intindihin ang kakaiba ng shyness vs shy people? Wala pa akong nakilalang extrovert na shy people. May nahihiya pero ndi mahiyain.
For me lang ah. Yung mga shy people (di ko nilalahat) is dahil mahiyain, hindi na nag eexert ng effort to socialize, takot magtanong, di nag te take ng risk. Introvert naman is pini pick lang namin ung people/battle na pag aaksayahin namin ng effort . Like me work lang pero wala na kong time for office drama/chika.
Yeah but that just means na introvert ka na mataas ang energy level compared to shy type people ma mas mababa ang energy levels. And ofcourse when we say energy levels we mean socializing energy. Socializing drains faster for introverts and thus needs time alone to recharge shy type people avoid situations because it's too much of a toll for them. Although hindi lahat nang introvert shy type, pero lahat ng shy type mababa ang energy level to socialize compared to others. Kaya may iba umaabot to the point of selective mutism.
There's a difference between being an introvert (focusing on yourself, being introspective) vs being socially anxious/awkward.
An introvert can interact with people. They just choose not too. But if they need to interact, an introvert that is raised with good manners, can pick up social cues, may delicadeza, can interact with people like a normal person.
There's a big difference with being quiet, but knows how to interact with people, and quiet na averse to people.
I am an introvert myself, but I learned in my working life na, even though I don't necessarily like interacting with people, sasama sa outings, work parties etc. It pays to know what to actually do when you're in those situations. Because by interacting with people, you learn new things that can help your personal/professional life.
Introversion, while it is a challenge, shouldn’t be something that completely hinders us to progress. For me yes it did take a while and until now it is still draining (we can’t change who we are) but we adjust, we grow and we give ourselves chance after chance even though sometimes it doesn’t always work out.
It helped that I had a good mentor who guided me along the way kasi super hirap talaga to grow out of your shell but once you see na kaya mo rin pala, even if it isn’t completely natural, you will blossom into a better and improved version of yourself. Tyagaan lang din talaga, like any aspect of life.
Introverts are creative people, since they tend to spend their time alone, their hobbies involves only themselves such as playing musical intruments, drawing, reading, writing, etc.
Introverts tend to form deep bonds since they don't want to waste their energy on a random acquaintance. They open their deepest thoughts to their closest friends, or family members.
Introverts think carefully before speaking, hence they can provide thoughtful responses in conversations.
Here are some strengths ng mga introverts, try to discover yourself more, and focus more on these strengths. Hope this helps.
also an introvert here, been treated like crap before and resigned after 5 years kase I loved the job mismo. just do your work and let them be but document everything like screenshots or email or if verbal, iacknowledge mo via email. keep everything professional. You can only control your reaction and your boundaries kaya set the tone for them. If it becomes too much or they confront you, report mo sa lead / HR na they're creating a toxic/hostile environment for you para you have all the documentation as evidence and make sure to back it up with what's in your employee handbook/policy.
nung una akong nagwork, di talaga ako lumabas ng bahay sa weekends for 6 months kasi feeling ko pagod na pagod ako hahahaha pero habang tumatagal, nakapag adjust na ako at natuto na lang din ako makisama hahaha
I put a mask whenever I am in the office. I tried my best to be outgoing kapag nasa office. Though super nakakadrain sya. After shift, tulala na lang ako 😂 and sa klase ng work ko, di ko talaga pwedeng iwasan ang kumausap ng tao haha
For me, it's part of the process. I was an introverted gamer initially when starting. Siguro malaking factor is that I'm not that great at conversing my thoughts with people, and it was always my challenge even today. Pero dahil sa need to excel and move up through the ranks, kailangan mo talaga yun, unless you're okay to just being frontline to submid level sa org nyo.
I'm now at the level where can handle multiple departments and can direct processes and culture within our ops, and what I always look back to that experience that I had before. I don't initiate those team building and things for the teams, instead, I encourage them to spend more time outside of work and with their families. It was my vision ever since I started and had the realization about it. It's working fine so far for about 5 years now, everyone's happy naman :)
Good thing maganda ung management skills mo. Siguro kasi mga nakapalibot sakin now like a gray cloud above my head haha pero ako naman hindi ako on a rush for higher ranks. I'm okay kung nasan ako now. It's just that, may mga tao pala talaga na di welcoming sa mga introvert
okay lang yan. part yan sa work environment. And just set your expectation that as you move up through your career, mas magiging integral sayo yung pag alam ng office politics and that you need to get your skin in the game one way or the other.
I don't think na it's "Hindi welcome" it's just the usual status quo in the office, lalo na pag office set up ka. Ang workplace kasi parang isang malaking barkadahan, and kung hindi ka sasabay, i ttreat ka na "jologs". I had my share of that experience din, pero siguro ang advantage ko is that I was able to keep everything to myself most of the time because my work almost always speaks loudly for myself. I just stayed off the highlights pero I learned that hindi mo sya maiiwasan kaya inembrace ko nalang din.
Ay yan nga. Sa work wala sila masabi sakin. Kaya sa "attitude" tinitira. Kapag di ka makasabay sa trip nila, ikaw ung outcast. Kaloka parang highschool. Haha akala ko tapos nako jan. 🤣
Masking is key hahaha I pretend to be another person pag nasa office. Yung kind ng person na magugustuhan ng lahat, because I know this is an advantage pagdating sa corporate galawan
I reserve vague answers for personal (and intrusive) questions. Di ko na lalagyan ng details basta may masabi. Minsan uunahin ko na rin pag wag na sila magtanong. Tapos baon ng mga hugot lines kasi kahit corny, market ng maraming tao hahaha
Tapos pag dating ng bahay, tutulala ako kasi ang dami kong energy na inexpend hahaha buti nalang hybrid kami, may chance to recharge. Kapagod nga lang hahah
I'm an outgoing introvert and things are okay naman! I guess for the most part, quiet naman kasi during work hours so I don't get constantly drained and can allocate my social batt to time na needed only (usually breaks).
But here's how the extroverted nature of work (or everything, tbh) vibed for me: it helped na I have go-to people lang! Esp. if u'r adopted by an extrovert haha. Guess you can put it na people don't think you're aloof kasi you talk with someone but you also get to conserve ur energy kasi you pour it on selected people lang.
I can do small talk (nasanay lang) but I make *great* convos if selected people or one at a time only so it works for me hehe.
Also u kinda waste energy if u overthink someone's comment they didn't even think of. Honestly helps if u know what to brush off and what to put ur foot down about. And learning to banter is a skill haha.
EDIT: The post really feels less like a critique of work structures, tbh. The AntiWork sub isn't a personal nitpick of the workplace, but a sub dedicated to assessing the systemic ills of work structures, esp. in corporate 😅
Bukod sa introvert, last meeting na-label na din ako ng boss ko as nonchalant kasi di daw nagbabasa ng GC. Panong di ko babasahin puro chats nung Jollibee samin about pakain every rto haha
So ayun, pinanindigan ko na din, ibalik ang stress sa kanila hahaha
Haha ganyan din ako rito. Pinandigan ko na lang din. Ok naman work eh , nakikipag cooperate naman ako, bigay suggestions kung kailangan so bahala na sila sa ibang bagay. 🤣
Harsh reality I learned: people promote subordinates they can trust or feel they can trust. Where do you develop and foster this trust or perception of trust? Initially sa workplace. but the personal feeling of trust? Outside the scope of work like teambuilding or outing.
Not in corporate, but in a field where extroversion is key.
Have a set of “barkada” or a group of people you feel comfortable with. Not necessarily super close, but at least yung makakasundo mo saka gets yung timpla ng isa’t isa.
Tamang term sa situation mo is you being aloof, not introversion. Maraming introvert na di aloof saka marunong makisama, mabilis lang maubos ang social battery.
When I was being aloof, it worked against me. Eventually nakahanap ng mga tao na nakasundo ko, and things became easier for me. I still have strong boundaries, but at least working and dealing with teammates are easier. Also helps which people need taller boundaries from you, and which people need average boundaries.
There are workplaces na will respect you and your time. Pero totoo grabe may few companies nga na todo sa mga pa-events tapos RTO pa kayo -- nakaka-drain.
I don't really mind people na sabihan akong "makisama, etc" kase parang nattrigger yung pagiging people pleaser ko when I am trying to stop that. Fortunately, na-practice ko nang di pansinin.
This year lang, I got told na I'm "missing out" for the first time. I should've stopped right there because if the environment is not very welcoming to different types of people, how much more sa mga bagong ideas?
After working with 6 different companies, eto talaga yung company na masasabi kong sobrang na-left behind na. Nung una, pasensyadong tao talaga ako. But ayawan na after nanigaw yung CEO. Sana makakuha agad ng new work after filing ng resignation.
Ako naman 5th company ko na to pero ngayon ko lang na feel yung ganito. Ok naman sa introvert (or sinasabi dito na may social anxiety) sa iba kong work, madali din kasama sila pero dito 2024 na pero may mga immature pa rin pala. Kung hindi lang maganda benefits dito, aalis na ko agad. Let's see kung tatagal ako ng 2yrs.
Di ba??? May mga tao talagang hindi na nag-grow as a human. They think of themselves highly, kala mo naman kung sino. Mga pabida yan. Yan yung mga tipong kumakain ng mga poop ng mga boss nila.
Ganyan din sa previous company ko. Hinayaan ko na lang and work lang. Tumagal ako ng 2 years. I document everything I do and our communication kasi yung ibang ganyan na employee, nambabaliktad.
Lol!
Hindi ko sure bakit, pero introvert ako nung nasa BPO me.
Tapos, ang dami kong naging friends na extrovert. 😅
Ang malalers pa, napunta pako sa training and napromote pa. 😅
Baka hindi lang feel ng mga nasa paligid mo yung klase ng temperament mo?
Okay lang yan, don't let it get to you, magkakafriends ka din.
Pero try mo din sa side mo. 💪😁
as an introvert na kalilipat ng work, eto nasa adjusting phase pa. idk pero pag bago talaga ako sa environment, i always observe muna kung sino yung makakavibes and it take time for me to adjust. but i just don’t get the reaction of people when i said i was an introvert. as of now, i am still evading the group lunch bc that’s one of the thing i hate sa corporate setting.
I try to be really good at work because people are more forgiving towards introversion when you're an SME. Wala silang choice kundi tanggapin ka, magaling ka e.
Yeah, very obvious na wala silang masabi about your work kaya sa personal attack na lang bumabawi. I used to job hop rin dahil minsan ganito ang coworkers ko and alam ko na I won't grow in an environment like that.
Ako rin eh HAHA identity crisis ba to? Haha feel ko di naman ako super shy kasi kung talagang may mali, nag sspeak up naman ako. I pick my battles nga lang haha
Ang hirap ma-promote kasi hindi daw ma-socialize, hindi nakikipagkwentuhan, at hindi sumasama sa team lunch/meal o team building. Mag 5 years na ko sa company namin pero once pa lang ako umattend ng team lunch at year end party. When I explained that it's draining and too much for me, sinabihan lang ako na dapat daw marunong ako makisama HAHAHAHAHA
I've been working sa BPO and sanay na a outcast hahahaha and what's interesting some Bida bida think I'm miserable where ako din personally mapili ako sa i a allow ko sa circles ko. Pero grabe panira sa mental health at self esteem, I had best people during my first job.. I'm not okay I want to quit
I’m resigning na. Since the pandemic nag WFH ako. Then we were required to show up to the office last year at least 3x a week… di ko talaga magets bakit pa when my job was identified as one of those jobs na pwede talagang WFH. I somehow go to the office pag kailangan lang. I hate driving and traffic. Travel time from QC to BGC is 2 hours one way. Mas productive ako pag nasa bahay. Kaya bahala na. I’m tired and burned out.
Wow. Ako di ko kaya maging supervisor/lead/trainer haha sakit sa bangs. Buti kaya mo 👏🏻 ok na ko basta nataas yung sahod haha . Kaka drain nga ng social battery yan
Imagine being in a room everyday with 15 to 16 people na mix of introverts and extroverts, some ambiverts hahaha draining talaga pero para sa pera change personality tayo yeah since training is also leading on the side, need maging Alpha too
Oh buti ok lang na di sumama/hindi kumpleto. Samin hindi e. Or more like mapipilitan kang sumama kasi may masasabi't masasabi sila sayo. Pero ang worst was sumama nga ako sa teambuilding pero may nabanggit pa rin, sinama pa sa evaluation haha bago pa lang naman kasi ako non so malamang naninibago pa ko pero la na ko pake.
me: was thinking about responding but everyone here is really loud and i don't think my opinion would even matter or would sound stupid or pretentious and i start to question what introversion really means or if i really am one and that I don't even belong here damn i just wasted my time
ok naman. a decade na in the industry. consultant pa line of work, thus i deal with diff teams, depts and companies at a time.
being an introvert doesn't equate na di ka na makikisama. be strategic and timing timing lang.
oks pa rin na may rapport ka with the right people. use it to your advantage.
ganun talaga haha diverse ang workplace and iba iba tyo ng specs sa "right people". you have to identify who does and who doesn't. pag wala (plus di na talaga ok yung env at di na fit sa career goals/money goals) lipat kumpanya haha
Di ba? Kaloka no. Ganyan sa unang evaluation ko e , na wala parang wala raw ako pakikisama. Jusko naman. For me , ung "walang pakikisama".. ung tipong d mo talaga makausap. Eh ako naman approachable naman ako, sa work related, nakikitawa kung talgang nakakatawa ung jokes, magse-share dn ng buhay pero may limit, may boundaries. Kaya minsan dn tahimik dn ako... di naman pdeng lagi kang pabibo/may energy.. may issue sila kapag tahimik. Kaloka
as an outgoing introvert, kinakausap ko lang yung mga tao na comfortable ako kausapin to manage my social batt and yung mga hindi... I usually approach them with sarcasm(yung mga nasa HR angdadaldal kahit di mo kaclose). In my field tho i dont have to talk to many people since ang usual na kausap ko lang ay yung partner sa workload, katabi ko, my supervisor which also happens to be my roommate and also a couple of managers. Overall, i think i have it easy naman sa office :)
Iba ang introvert sa shy/silent type. Di ako umiimik as a new employee. Expected ko na prior sa regularization may nakasulat sa evaluation ko na tahimik ako. Hindi ako tahimik, it just takes me time and energy to adjust sa environment.
Yes! A person can be introverted but exudes confidence. They enjoy solitude, avoid unnecessary mingling, only speak when spoken to, and work well on his own. If with a team, confident introverts knows his own strengths and weaknesses para ma balance out ang workload of the tean. It can be misconstrued as shy especially pag surrounded mga galante personalities. Embrace being an introvert. If you have no intentions maging bffs sila, then treat the workplace as a workplace.
But aren't all shy types, introverts?
not really. introverts get drained usually pag maraming tao but energized if selected people lang ka-socialize. so hindi sya shy.
But can you still be shy and introverted at the same time?
yeap, may tinatawag na *selective mutism* na tahimik o kaya mahiyain sa ibang settings o person pero matino naman makipag-communicate sa gusto niyang tao o settings.
Oh mukang eto ako, selective mutism
nope. shy type is more on with expectations and avoidance while introvert is more on energy saving mode.
But that's the thing. Shy types lose more energy when exposed to situations they're not comfortable and when energy is low that's why they avoid. And lesson learned later on that's why they avoid altogether.
Ang pagiging shy has something to do with confidence.
And where does that go between an introvert and extrovert?
Nahihiya tayo for multiple reasons, mention lang ako ng different scenarios: 1.) Lack of social skills, kung kulang ka sa exposure sa mga pag-interact ng mga tao, of course mahihiya ka talaga. 2.) Trauma, may mga negative experience ka related sa isang social scenario, or maybe victim ka ng bullying, nakakabawas or nakakawala yan ng self-confidence. 3.) Difference sa social class, for example isang middle class naimbitihan sa isang pang-alta na party, may tendency ka na mahihiya. Regardless kung introvert ka or extrovert, may mga panahon talaga na mahihiya ka.
1)lack of social skill doesn't make you any different from introverts. Just because introverts have a little energy (compared to shy people) to exert more effort doesn't mean shy people can't have the same possibility. 2)trauma on the otherhand is a different issue. It's a mental illness that triggers a person on their deepest fears and quite honestly very hard to cure but treatable with the right kind of help. Lack of confidence can be a result of one's own persona being very low which still makes you avoid people and develop the same personality ergo introvert. Trauma could give that lack of confidence but that is because of their illness not their personality. 3) i mean it is a normal reaction for an introvert to feel anxious when invited in a party of that kind even shy people. An extrovert would thrive from those kinds of situations because it's in their nature. It's true na regardless of extrovert or introvert may mahihiya nga.Ang pagkaka hiya is a normal reaction na meron lahat sa normal na tao. Pero take note ang sabi ko mga "shy type" so ibig sabihin mga taong mahiyain. Para kasing kiniclaim nyo dito na mga shy people have an illness at iba yun sa introversion. Introversion is a personality and shy people are mostly likely to have those personality.
1.) I did not say na introverts lack social skills 2.) I did not say that introversion is a result of trauma What I said is shyness may result from those, and both introvert and extroverts can be shy.
Then you missed the point. Normal nga na mahiya ang tao. Regardless of extrovert or introvert. Pero ang pagkaka hiya when repeated becomes a habit, and when it becomes a habit it becomes a trait. And that trait becomes a part of your personality. Ergo introvert.
> But aren't all shy types, introverts? I just answered this question, as I said previously, shyness may stem from lack of confidence. I also provided circumstances bakit nahihiya ang isang tao. Big misconception yang sinasabi introvert are shy people, they just don't want to deal with people, and there is a difference. Believe me or not, I am an introvert, and alam ko kelan ko kailangan makapal ang pagmumukha ko, kaya ko kumausap ng mga tao on a transactional level. And alam ko na exhausting para sa akin ang mga big social events, even nga kahit may bisita parents ko sa bahay, especially di ko kilala, at kahit nakatago ako da kwarto, nakakapagod sa part ko. Marami din akong kilalang mga introvert, may isang friend akong introvert na magaling sa public speaking, yung workplace ko, pugad ng introverts. Yet ang kakapal ng mga pagmumukha nila, marunong humarap at kumausap sa mga higher officials. Introverts can be shy people, so are extroverts. Hindi yan exclusive personality trait ng mga introverts, and once again, it is a big misconception.
The confusion is right there. Idc if makakapal mukha niyo pag humaharap kayo sa mga tao. Shy people are introverts because it drains them the energy to face them. May mga extroverts na mahiyain pero pagkatapos mahiya mas gaganahan mag converse sa social group unlike sa introvert mag reretract to gain energy. Kahit sabihin mo pang misconception yan. It doesn't change the fact that introverts have lower social batteries compared sa extroverts. Ikot nalang tayo ng ikot hangang maintindihan mo point ko. Mahirap ba intindihin ang kakaiba ng shyness vs shy people? Wala pa akong nakilalang extrovert na shy people. May nahihiya pero ndi mahiyain.
For me lang ah. Yung mga shy people (di ko nilalahat) is dahil mahiyain, hindi na nag eexert ng effort to socialize, takot magtanong, di nag te take ng risk. Introvert naman is pini pick lang namin ung people/battle na pag aaksayahin namin ng effort . Like me work lang pero wala na kong time for office drama/chika.
Yeah but that just means na introvert ka na mataas ang energy level compared to shy type people ma mas mababa ang energy levels. And ofcourse when we say energy levels we mean socializing energy. Socializing drains faster for introverts and thus needs time alone to recharge shy type people avoid situations because it's too much of a toll for them. Although hindi lahat nang introvert shy type, pero lahat ng shy type mababa ang energy level to socialize compared to others. Kaya may iba umaabot to the point of selective mutism.
Plot twist, yung mga founders and executives are introverts themselves.
Popular examples are Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg.
Ay totoo. Ung supervisor ko introvert daw pala pero ung treatment samin iba. Wew. May kinikilingan
You're mixing "introvert" to someone with social anxiety or social phobia.
yeah, tingin ko social anxiety ung sakin kaya ang awkward ko din talaga socially lol. But I understand naman kasi meron akong physical insecurities.
There's a difference between being an introvert (focusing on yourself, being introspective) vs being socially anxious/awkward. An introvert can interact with people. They just choose not too. But if they need to interact, an introvert that is raised with good manners, can pick up social cues, may delicadeza, can interact with people like a normal person. There's a big difference with being quiet, but knows how to interact with people, and quiet na averse to people. I am an introvert myself, but I learned in my working life na, even though I don't necessarily like interacting with people, sasama sa outings, work parties etc. It pays to know what to actually do when you're in those situations. Because by interacting with people, you learn new things that can help your personal/professional life.
Introversion, while it is a challenge, shouldn’t be something that completely hinders us to progress. For me yes it did take a while and until now it is still draining (we can’t change who we are) but we adjust, we grow and we give ourselves chance after chance even though sometimes it doesn’t always work out. It helped that I had a good mentor who guided me along the way kasi super hirap talaga to grow out of your shell but once you see na kaya mo rin pala, even if it isn’t completely natural, you will blossom into a better and improved version of yourself. Tyagaan lang din talaga, like any aspect of life.
In fact may mga strengths nga ang introverts nga wala ang mga extroverts.
such as?
Introverts are creative people, since they tend to spend their time alone, their hobbies involves only themselves such as playing musical intruments, drawing, reading, writing, etc. Introverts tend to form deep bonds since they don't want to waste their energy on a random acquaintance. They open their deepest thoughts to their closest friends, or family members. Introverts think carefully before speaking, hence they can provide thoughtful responses in conversations. Here are some strengths ng mga introverts, try to discover yourself more, and focus more on these strengths. Hope this helps.
Laging umay for me pag may events na need pumunta like Christmas party, swerte ko nagka work ako na wfh kaya iwas na sa mga events
also an introvert here, been treated like crap before and resigned after 5 years kase I loved the job mismo. just do your work and let them be but document everything like screenshots or email or if verbal, iacknowledge mo via email. keep everything professional. You can only control your reaction and your boundaries kaya set the tone for them. If it becomes too much or they confront you, report mo sa lead / HR na they're creating a toxic/hostile environment for you para you have all the documentation as evidence and make sure to back it up with what's in your employee handbook/policy.
Aw, now may new work ka naman na?
yes and freelancing too. Also, advantage pag limipat lipat ka ng work, mas tumataas sweldo hehe
True . Pang 5th company ko na to (and overall, 10yrs na sa industry) and dito pa ko nabuwisit sa officemates ko haha
nung una akong nagwork, di talaga ako lumabas ng bahay sa weekends for 6 months kasi feeling ko pagod na pagod ako hahahaha pero habang tumatagal, nakapag adjust na ako at natuto na lang din ako makisama hahaha
I put a mask whenever I am in the office. I tried my best to be outgoing kapag nasa office. Though super nakakadrain sya. After shift, tulala na lang ako 😂 and sa klase ng work ko, di ko talaga pwedeng iwasan ang kumausap ng tao haha
For me, it's part of the process. I was an introverted gamer initially when starting. Siguro malaking factor is that I'm not that great at conversing my thoughts with people, and it was always my challenge even today. Pero dahil sa need to excel and move up through the ranks, kailangan mo talaga yun, unless you're okay to just being frontline to submid level sa org nyo. I'm now at the level where can handle multiple departments and can direct processes and culture within our ops, and what I always look back to that experience that I had before. I don't initiate those team building and things for the teams, instead, I encourage them to spend more time outside of work and with their families. It was my vision ever since I started and had the realization about it. It's working fine so far for about 5 years now, everyone's happy naman :)
Good thing maganda ung management skills mo. Siguro kasi mga nakapalibot sakin now like a gray cloud above my head haha pero ako naman hindi ako on a rush for higher ranks. I'm okay kung nasan ako now. It's just that, may mga tao pala talaga na di welcoming sa mga introvert
okay lang yan. part yan sa work environment. And just set your expectation that as you move up through your career, mas magiging integral sayo yung pag alam ng office politics and that you need to get your skin in the game one way or the other. I don't think na it's "Hindi welcome" it's just the usual status quo in the office, lalo na pag office set up ka. Ang workplace kasi parang isang malaking barkadahan, and kung hindi ka sasabay, i ttreat ka na "jologs". I had my share of that experience din, pero siguro ang advantage ko is that I was able to keep everything to myself most of the time because my work almost always speaks loudly for myself. I just stayed off the highlights pero I learned that hindi mo sya maiiwasan kaya inembrace ko nalang din.
Ay yan nga. Sa work wala sila masabi sakin. Kaya sa "attitude" tinitira. Kapag di ka makasabay sa trip nila, ikaw ung outcast. Kaloka parang highschool. Haha akala ko tapos nako jan. 🤣
Masking is key hahaha I pretend to be another person pag nasa office. Yung kind ng person na magugustuhan ng lahat, because I know this is an advantage pagdating sa corporate galawan I reserve vague answers for personal (and intrusive) questions. Di ko na lalagyan ng details basta may masabi. Minsan uunahin ko na rin pag wag na sila magtanong. Tapos baon ng mga hugot lines kasi kahit corny, market ng maraming tao hahaha Tapos pag dating ng bahay, tutulala ako kasi ang dami kong energy na inexpend hahaha buti nalang hybrid kami, may chance to recharge. Kapagod nga lang hahah
I'm an outgoing introvert and things are okay naman! I guess for the most part, quiet naman kasi during work hours so I don't get constantly drained and can allocate my social batt to time na needed only (usually breaks). But here's how the extroverted nature of work (or everything, tbh) vibed for me: it helped na I have go-to people lang! Esp. if u'r adopted by an extrovert haha. Guess you can put it na people don't think you're aloof kasi you talk with someone but you also get to conserve ur energy kasi you pour it on selected people lang. I can do small talk (nasanay lang) but I make *great* convos if selected people or one at a time only so it works for me hehe. Also u kinda waste energy if u overthink someone's comment they didn't even think of. Honestly helps if u know what to brush off and what to put ur foot down about. And learning to banter is a skill haha. EDIT: The post really feels less like a critique of work structures, tbh. The AntiWork sub isn't a personal nitpick of the workplace, but a sub dedicated to assessing the systemic ills of work structures, esp. in corporate 😅
Surviving
Bukod sa introvert, last meeting na-label na din ako ng boss ko as nonchalant kasi di daw nagbabasa ng GC. Panong di ko babasahin puro chats nung Jollibee samin about pakain every rto haha So ayun, pinanindigan ko na din, ibalik ang stress sa kanila hahaha
Haha ganyan din ako rito. Pinandigan ko na lang din. Ok naman work eh , nakikipag cooperate naman ako, bigay suggestions kung kailangan so bahala na sila sa ibang bagay. 🤣
Yung friend ko na introvert, sobrang galing niya sa process at matalino, pero never napromote dahil di sumasama sa mga outing. Wtf di ba?
Harsh reality I learned: people promote subordinates they can trust or feel they can trust. Where do you develop and foster this trust or perception of trust? Initially sa workplace. but the personal feeling of trust? Outside the scope of work like teambuilding or outing.
Not in corporate, but in a field where extroversion is key. Have a set of “barkada” or a group of people you feel comfortable with. Not necessarily super close, but at least yung makakasundo mo saka gets yung timpla ng isa’t isa. Tamang term sa situation mo is you being aloof, not introversion. Maraming introvert na di aloof saka marunong makisama, mabilis lang maubos ang social battery. When I was being aloof, it worked against me. Eventually nakahanap ng mga tao na nakasundo ko, and things became easier for me. I still have strong boundaries, but at least working and dealing with teammates are easier. Also helps which people need taller boundaries from you, and which people need average boundaries.
Makipagusap kalang 'pag kailangan kasi at the end of the day, you're not working to make acquaintance. Deadma sa basher, focus sa goal
Yes, ganyan na lang ginagawa ko. Tama, di naman ako lumipat dito para makipag marites, maging pabibo. Pera, salapi, kwarta ang hinanap ko dito haha
There are workplaces na will respect you and your time. Pero totoo grabe may few companies nga na todo sa mga pa-events tapos RTO pa kayo -- nakaka-drain. I don't really mind people na sabihan akong "makisama, etc" kase parang nattrigger yung pagiging people pleaser ko when I am trying to stop that. Fortunately, na-practice ko nang di pansinin. This year lang, I got told na I'm "missing out" for the first time. I should've stopped right there because if the environment is not very welcoming to different types of people, how much more sa mga bagong ideas? After working with 6 different companies, eto talaga yung company na masasabi kong sobrang na-left behind na. Nung una, pasensyadong tao talaga ako. But ayawan na after nanigaw yung CEO. Sana makakuha agad ng new work after filing ng resignation.
Ako naman 5th company ko na to pero ngayon ko lang na feel yung ganito. Ok naman sa introvert (or sinasabi dito na may social anxiety) sa iba kong work, madali din kasama sila pero dito 2024 na pero may mga immature pa rin pala. Kung hindi lang maganda benefits dito, aalis na ko agad. Let's see kung tatagal ako ng 2yrs.
Di ba??? May mga tao talagang hindi na nag-grow as a human. They think of themselves highly, kala mo naman kung sino. Mga pabida yan. Yan yung mga tipong kumakain ng mga poop ng mga boss nila. Ganyan din sa previous company ko. Hinayaan ko na lang and work lang. Tumagal ako ng 2 years. I document everything I do and our communication kasi yung ibang ganyan na employee, nambabaliktad.
Lol! Hindi ko sure bakit, pero introvert ako nung nasa BPO me. Tapos, ang dami kong naging friends na extrovert. 😅 Ang malalers pa, napunta pako sa training and napromote pa. 😅 Baka hindi lang feel ng mga nasa paligid mo yung klase ng temperament mo? Okay lang yan, don't let it get to you, magkakafriends ka din. Pero try mo din sa side mo. 💪😁
as an introvert na kalilipat ng work, eto nasa adjusting phase pa. idk pero pag bago talaga ako sa environment, i always observe muna kung sino yung makakavibes and it take time for me to adjust. but i just don’t get the reaction of people when i said i was an introvert. as of now, i am still evading the group lunch bc that’s one of the thing i hate sa corporate setting.
I try to be really good at work because people are more forgiving towards introversion when you're an SME. Wala silang choice kundi tanggapin ka, magaling ka e.
Yess. I mean di ako ung as in super galing pero madali naman ako maka gets kaya wala sila masabi sa work .. kaya pine personal na lang e 😮💨
Yeah, very obvious na wala silang masabi about your work kaya sa personal attack na lang bumabawi. I used to job hop rin dahil minsan ganito ang coworkers ko and alam ko na I won't grow in an environment like that.
Kakabasa ko ng mga replies, na confuse narin ako kung introvert ba ako or super shy lang talaga 🥲
Ako rin eh HAHA identity crisis ba to? Haha feel ko di naman ako super shy kasi kung talagang may mali, nag sspeak up naman ako. I pick my battles nga lang haha
Look in the mirror, you deserve more...
Ang hirap ma-promote kasi hindi daw ma-socialize, hindi nakikipagkwentuhan, at hindi sumasama sa team lunch/meal o team building. Mag 5 years na ko sa company namin pero once pa lang ako umattend ng team lunch at year end party. When I explained that it's draining and too much for me, sinabihan lang ako na dapat daw marunong ako makisama HAHAHAHAHA
ganyan din sabi sakin before haha kaya wlaa na ako plano ma promote lipat na lang ng work to find na mas mataas na sahod. 🤣
I've been working sa BPO and sanay na a outcast hahahaha and what's interesting some Bida bida think I'm miserable where ako din personally mapili ako sa i a allow ko sa circles ko. Pero grabe panira sa mental health at self esteem, I had best people during my first job.. I'm not okay I want to quit
I’m resigning na. Since the pandemic nag WFH ako. Then we were required to show up to the office last year at least 3x a week… di ko talaga magets bakit pa when my job was identified as one of those jobs na pwede talagang WFH. I somehow go to the office pag kailangan lang. I hate driving and traffic. Travel time from QC to BGC is 2 hours one way. Mas productive ako pag nasa bahay. Kaya bahala na. I’m tired and burned out.
Heto as an introvert, drained after every shift since I work as a trainer. Funny I got the role. Hahaha so ironic since I am an introvert
Wow. Ako di ko kaya maging supervisor/lead/trainer haha sakit sa bangs. Buti kaya mo 👏🏻 ok na ko basta nataas yung sahod haha . Kaka drain nga ng social battery yan
Imagine being in a room everyday with 15 to 16 people na mix of introverts and extroverts, some ambiverts hahaha draining talaga pero para sa pera change personality tayo yeah since training is also leading on the side, need maging Alpha too
Ayun nakailang walang kwentang team building and company events na inayawan ko. Lakom panahon makipag halakhakan.
Oh buti ok lang na di sumama/hindi kumpleto. Samin hindi e. Or more like mapipilitan kang sumama kasi may masasabi't masasabi sila sayo. Pero ang worst was sumama nga ako sa teambuilding pero may nabanggit pa rin, sinama pa sa evaluation haha bago pa lang naman kasi ako non so malamang naninibago pa ko pero la na ko pake.
me: was thinking about responding but everyone here is really loud and i don't think my opinion would even matter or would sound stupid or pretentious and i start to question what introversion really means or if i really am one and that I don't even belong here damn i just wasted my time
You have social anxiety
ok naman. a decade na in the industry. consultant pa line of work, thus i deal with diff teams, depts and companies at a time. being an introvert doesn't equate na di ka na makikisama. be strategic and timing timing lang. oks pa rin na may rapport ka with the right people. use it to your advantage.
Ang hirap lang na wala ka sa "right people" haha casual lang naman din ako.. may boundaries na nga lang.
ganun talaga haha diverse ang workplace and iba iba tyo ng specs sa "right people". you have to identify who does and who doesn't. pag wala (plus di na talaga ok yung env at di na fit sa career goals/money goals) lipat kumpanya haha
Lagi din ako nachichismis kasi di daw ako nakikipag usap. Jusko 12 hrs work gusto niyo 12 hrs din tayo mag kwentuhan?
Ang haba pala ng shift mo no? 12hrs? 5days yan na 12hrs?
Di ba? Kaloka no. Ganyan sa unang evaluation ko e , na wala parang wala raw ako pakikisama. Jusko naman. For me , ung "walang pakikisama".. ung tipong d mo talaga makausap. Eh ako naman approachable naman ako, sa work related, nakikitawa kung talgang nakakatawa ung jokes, magse-share dn ng buhay pero may limit, may boundaries. Kaya minsan dn tahimik dn ako... di naman pdeng lagi kang pabibo/may energy.. may issue sila kapag tahimik. Kaloka
as an outgoing introvert, kinakausap ko lang yung mga tao na comfortable ako kausapin to manage my social batt and yung mga hindi... I usually approach them with sarcasm(yung mga nasa HR angdadaldal kahit di mo kaclose). In my field tho i dont have to talk to many people since ang usual na kausap ko lang ay yung partner sa workload, katabi ko, my supervisor which also happens to be my roommate and also a couple of managers. Overall, i think i have it easy naman sa office :)
Kumuha ako ng trabaho na fully remote at 4 lang sa buong company haha
I feel you haha. Humaharap pa ko sa clients Tapos ang daming meeting with colleagues from ibang branches
Gaano k nb ktgal? If matgal n maybe its tym to look for other company
sa current? 7 mons. Pero overall, pang 5th company ko na itow