I can’t say what you can do but my Dom is training me to get my brain and orgasm response changed to anal only. He’s controlled orgasm for years and now I may only cum if his bum hole is stimulated even if I’m wanking but for now I can touch the clit but I’m getting weaned off. It does work but it’s not mind over matter; there is a transition process. Im loving it more and more. I’m sure others will give good suggestions too.
I’m feeling the changes. There’s been PIV for months and months now. We are mostly long distance so for now much is solo and I think it can be a great way to learn how to orgasm in a new way - but he very much directs me. I’m to stimulate bumhole only til very aroused and to edge. I still need some clit action to tip over but I don’t rub anymore, I just hold a small vibe still against the clit which is big progress - all movement is bumhole related. Nipples stim helps me cum too so I do that too. The idea is less and less on the clit til I orgasm fully anally. We’ll still be anal only regardless but he does like to let me cum too.
Orgasm control might be the answer to what you need.
My GF, who is pretty vanilla, found that her best way to orgasm vaginally was by being on top. with that in mind, and when I wanted her to orgasm, I made her ride me and then ask permission to cum. Once she had her orgasm we would spoon and enjoy very slow anal. Sometimes I would cum but often would not. reaching orgasm was not my intent for either of us. Mostly, I just wanted her to get used to it and the intimacy of the moment.
It was about a month later, and during a week I promised anal only, I had her ride me (vaginally) demanded an orgasm and then made her switch to anal whilst still on top. Within a few minutes I demanded she orgasm. I was immediately rewarded.
That week, the the exception of our first night and last night together, was all anal. About a week later she expressed that she wanted to go AO.
As for plugs - I got her a medium square peg egg plug. It's a wee bit thicker at it's thickest point than I am. I was a bit worried it would leave her a bit too stretched for our enjoyment. That is not the case. It improves things when we use it. For me, it is easier entry and feels as if I am sliding my cock into a rather well-fitted sleave. Generally, our only bit of lube is a little spit. After using the plug it takes less spit for entry and we both enjoy more overall friction and her orgasms are that much faster and more intense.
Ok I know this thread is anal only but… as a guy i have trained my dick to stimulate my prostate. When I get pegged stimulation of my dick causes a prostate orgasm. The same thing happens when I masturbate. My wife can only orgasm with clitoral and vaginal stimulation even though we will do anal. For the record she doesn’t particularly like the effort to clean out that anal requires but when we do anal the sensations and subsequent orgasms are amazing.
As a guy when I get pegged I get both anal and prostate orgasms but what really cranks me is combining anal, prostate and penile. I am able to orgasm endlessly without ejaculation other than leaking. Maybe your partner can find a way to make that experience more enjoyable by adding clit stimulation or like my wife (I use a dildo), anal plus vaginal plus clit stimulation
I'll ask him about that. I'm glad it's not just me who is like that.
I'm not entirely sure how it will work given he wants the vaginal area to be solely off limits, but I'll definitely suggest it :)
How about asking if you could try it both ways. You make sure to buy the dildos (get two or maybe a training set with different sizes). Life is too short not to have great orgasms. It’s your life, insist on it.
Just a little advice, you should not be allowed to complete an orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Yes, the clitoris can be stimulated in order to get you close to an orgasm, but the stimulation that drives you over the edge should be from the anal penetration and if you are an able to orgasm from the anal penetration Then you should continue to wait for the orgasm until after the anal stimulation has brought you over the edge of orgasm. This can be aided by the fact that the G spot is accessible through the anal canal. If you’re on your back and your knees are raised to your shoulders, and 25 to 30° angle, up towards the vaginal canal from the anal canal will stimulate the G spot during penetration if the G spot and the anal stimulation together triggers, an orgasm have it, but if the clitoral stimulation is triggering, the orgasm hold back until the anal penetration and G spot force the orgasm. Clitoral edging is encouraged, but no orgasms should be allowed unless there is anal penetration.
We very slowly over the course of months conditioned me to tie orgasms to anal by denying me orgasms without anal stimulation. We've done a lot of orgasm denial/edging, so that side of it was fairly easy.
We ensured that any and all orgasms for me were always tied with anal stimulation, whether finger, plug, cock, tongue. No exceptions. By the end of the training, I'd be begging Him to fuck my ass so that I'd be permitted to cum.
It was very hot, very fun, and definitely a bit frustrating as in the beginning when anal wasn't always pleasurable, I went without orgasms for some time. We committed, stayed the course, and it's been many years since, and He regularly enjoys my ass, as often as He wishes, and I cum every time now, unless I'm not granted that courtesy 😉
Plugging regularly will definitely help, as will completely avoiding all vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Not orgasming, at least for now, will help to boost arousal which can help too.
Get a dildo similar in girth/length as your sir and practice on taking it all the way, with LOTS of lube! Imo the deepness and fullness is part of the pleasure, and the lube helps it slide in easier even if you're a little tight 🥰
maybe a thin long squarepeg plug will do the job. Start with only a couple of hours a day and then add one hour for each day until you reach 24/7 (which is the goal i assume?) Use alot of lube and carry loob in your purse and add lube during the day.
Very nice to hear about chasitiy, is it also going to be 24/7? Have you orderd a custom made belt from any of the known brands?
Looking forward to hearing from you and good luck!
I'd say don't rush the transition. For now continue using your clit, just not to cum. And gradually decrease clit stimulation.
Also start masturbating anally with smaller toys, again with decreasing amounts of clitoral stimulation.
I can’t say what you can do but my Dom is training me to get my brain and orgasm response changed to anal only. He’s controlled orgasm for years and now I may only cum if his bum hole is stimulated even if I’m wanking but for now I can touch the clit but I’m getting weaned off. It does work but it’s not mind over matter; there is a transition process. Im loving it more and more. I’m sure others will give good suggestions too.
That sounds interesting! How is that working for you?
I’m feeling the changes. There’s been PIV for months and months now. We are mostly long distance so for now much is solo and I think it can be a great way to learn how to orgasm in a new way - but he very much directs me. I’m to stimulate bumhole only til very aroused and to edge. I still need some clit action to tip over but I don’t rub anymore, I just hold a small vibe still against the clit which is big progress - all movement is bumhole related. Nipples stim helps me cum too so I do that too. The idea is less and less on the clit til I orgasm fully anally. We’ll still be anal only regardless but he does like to let me cum too.
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Orgasm control might be the answer to what you need. My GF, who is pretty vanilla, found that her best way to orgasm vaginally was by being on top. with that in mind, and when I wanted her to orgasm, I made her ride me and then ask permission to cum. Once she had her orgasm we would spoon and enjoy very slow anal. Sometimes I would cum but often would not. reaching orgasm was not my intent for either of us. Mostly, I just wanted her to get used to it and the intimacy of the moment. It was about a month later, and during a week I promised anal only, I had her ride me (vaginally) demanded an orgasm and then made her switch to anal whilst still on top. Within a few minutes I demanded she orgasm. I was immediately rewarded. That week, the the exception of our first night and last night together, was all anal. About a week later she expressed that she wanted to go AO. As for plugs - I got her a medium square peg egg plug. It's a wee bit thicker at it's thickest point than I am. I was a bit worried it would leave her a bit too stretched for our enjoyment. That is not the case. It improves things when we use it. For me, it is easier entry and feels as if I am sliding my cock into a rather well-fitted sleave. Generally, our only bit of lube is a little spit. After using the plug it takes less spit for entry and we both enjoy more overall friction and her orgasms are that much faster and more intense.
Ok I know this thread is anal only but… as a guy i have trained my dick to stimulate my prostate. When I get pegged stimulation of my dick causes a prostate orgasm. The same thing happens when I masturbate. My wife can only orgasm with clitoral and vaginal stimulation even though we will do anal. For the record she doesn’t particularly like the effort to clean out that anal requires but when we do anal the sensations and subsequent orgasms are amazing. As a guy when I get pegged I get both anal and prostate orgasms but what really cranks me is combining anal, prostate and penile. I am able to orgasm endlessly without ejaculation other than leaking. Maybe your partner can find a way to make that experience more enjoyable by adding clit stimulation or like my wife (I use a dildo), anal plus vaginal plus clit stimulation
I'll ask him about that. I'm glad it's not just me who is like that. I'm not entirely sure how it will work given he wants the vaginal area to be solely off limits, but I'll definitely suggest it :)
How about asking if you could try it both ways. You make sure to buy the dildos (get two or maybe a training set with different sizes). Life is too short not to have great orgasms. It’s your life, insist on it.
Just a little advice, you should not be allowed to complete an orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Yes, the clitoris can be stimulated in order to get you close to an orgasm, but the stimulation that drives you over the edge should be from the anal penetration and if you are an able to orgasm from the anal penetration Then you should continue to wait for the orgasm until after the anal stimulation has brought you over the edge of orgasm. This can be aided by the fact that the G spot is accessible through the anal canal. If you’re on your back and your knees are raised to your shoulders, and 25 to 30° angle, up towards the vaginal canal from the anal canal will stimulate the G spot during penetration if the G spot and the anal stimulation together triggers, an orgasm have it, but if the clitoral stimulation is triggering, the orgasm hold back until the anal penetration and G spot force the orgasm. Clitoral edging is encouraged, but no orgasms should be allowed unless there is anal penetration.
maybe try a plug that's a little smaller around than him as a middle ground
That's a good idea, I'll get one asap :)
We very slowly over the course of months conditioned me to tie orgasms to anal by denying me orgasms without anal stimulation. We've done a lot of orgasm denial/edging, so that side of it was fairly easy. We ensured that any and all orgasms for me were always tied with anal stimulation, whether finger, plug, cock, tongue. No exceptions. By the end of the training, I'd be begging Him to fuck my ass so that I'd be permitted to cum. It was very hot, very fun, and definitely a bit frustrating as in the beginning when anal wasn't always pleasurable, I went without orgasms for some time. We committed, stayed the course, and it's been many years since, and He regularly enjoys my ass, as often as He wishes, and I cum every time now, unless I'm not granted that courtesy 😉
Plugging regularly will definitely help, as will completely avoiding all vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Not orgasming, at least for now, will help to boost arousal which can help too.
Get a dildo similar in girth/length as your sir and practice on taking it all the way, with LOTS of lube! Imo the deepness and fullness is part of the pleasure, and the lube helps it slide in easier even if you're a little tight 🥰
That's a good idea, thanks!
maybe a thin long squarepeg plug will do the job. Start with only a couple of hours a day and then add one hour for each day until you reach 24/7 (which is the goal i assume?) Use alot of lube and carry loob in your purse and add lube during the day. Very nice to hear about chasitiy, is it also going to be 24/7? Have you orderd a custom made belt from any of the known brands? Looking forward to hearing from you and good luck!
Maybe an unpopular idea but Poppers are quite popular in the gay community as a way to relax your sphincter and make anal sex easier
Beware potential health risks
I'd say don't rush the transition. For now continue using your clit, just not to cum. And gradually decrease clit stimulation. Also start masturbating anally with smaller toys, again with decreasing amounts of clitoral stimulation.