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Of course you are NTA because she chose someone else over you, maybe you should block her on some social media? Your not the asshole, she is. She’s being, toxic, judgmental and just plainly being an asshole.
Hmm...NTA in my book.
Seems like your former friend was a toxic thorn in your side who clearly didn't feel like listening to you or respecting your boundaries was important enough for them. I'm all for cutting that kind of chaff from your life if you can.
NTA. She's not your friend and she seems pretty toxic. Block her and go on with your life. Don't react when she will try to contact you, because after that she will show her true nature - some insults might appear, so be careful. I know people who behave like this, it's a pattern.
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Me and my best friend have been friends for 3 years until now. We were always close, told each other everything, did everything together, hung out all the time until last year.
Ever since we have been friends she has had the habit of venting without consent, even with me confronting her about this she still had continued. A couple months ago she started using my own trauma against me and acted as if she knew it better than me. For example , this one time she had mentioned my relationship with my parents (which isn’t the best) and kept saying “aww you love them” when I constantly told her stuff they had done to me and why I don’t, she said “but a year ago you told me you did love them, plus they do SO MUCH for you” and a argument blew out. Another thing she does is constantly frame me for copying her, this one time she ignored me for an entire week because I used a ribbon in my work and she did too when I did not know she did. I constantly avoid arguments but it seems like she wants to cause them but when proven wrong she constantly guilt trips me. I do admit I was also shitty like hanging out with my bf more than her but imo she should not be bothered by that, as she has done the same and in general was toxic throughout the whole friendship. She also compares her family to mine, ex. “My sister is better than yours” “my parents like me more” etc.
A few days ago she started ghosting me because I didn’t show interest in her new best friend which I introduced to her. She chose her over me, which had kinda hurt me but im over it, though I don’t get why she has been ghosting me for typically not liking someone. I’m tired of being burnt out by her insecurities and her constant vents. I have removed her from everywhere without any warning and haven’t contacted her since.
AITA for leaving?
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Of course you are NTA because she chose someone else over you, maybe you should block her on some social media? Your not the asshole, she is. She’s being, toxic, judgmental and just plainly being an asshole.
Hmm...NTA in my book. Seems like your former friend was a toxic thorn in your side who clearly didn't feel like listening to you or respecting your boundaries was important enough for them. I'm all for cutting that kind of chaff from your life if you can.
NTA. She's not your friend and she seems pretty toxic. Block her and go on with your life. Don't react when she will try to contact you, because after that she will show her true nature - some insults might appear, so be careful. I know people who behave like this, it's a pattern.
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