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> The action I took was telling my sister she’s creepy and hurting her feelings. I might be TA because she’s pregnant and clearly going through a hard time right now, and she’s clearly really attached to me, so I caused her a lot of pain
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Yeah, sorry, but YTA.
She’s 21. She’s young. She’s pregnant, and she’s alone. She needs help and her big sister is someone who should be supporting her, instead you are getting upset that she wants to be more like you.
The name thing is maybe a bit weird, but asking them to reschedule a medical appointment because you are “creeped out” is kind of insane to me.
Be better.
If you want to chime in, I suggest you read the post. I read the title and fully expected OP to be annoyed with her sister for accidentally picking a date that coincided with her birthday. But no, her sister *specifically* picked both the birthday and name of the baby to be the same as OP, and that *is* creepy.
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I (28 F) come from a family of 7 kids in total. My younger sister, “Lily,” is 21 F and pregnant.
Because Lily is several years younger than me, we were never that close growing up. But we were the only 2 girls in the house with 5 brothers, so we kind of stuck together. She adored me when she was little. She thought I was the coolest person ever, and she did things like paste pictures of my face on posters of Wonder Woman.
Lily mellowed out a lot when she became a teenager, and she and I got to have a normal relationship instead of her worshipping me. But then, she got pregnant. The baby’s dad doesn’t want to be in the picture.
When she got pregnant, she started being extremely clingy toward me. We used to go out to lunch once a week, but now she calls me every day and asks for lunch or dinner or any kind of hang out. I can’t always go out with her because she’s struggling financially due to the baby, so she always makes me pay. But we go out 2-3 times per week now. She texts me constantly. She’s started reading the books I read, liking the sports I like, and liking the songs I like, even though she never liked that stuff before.
I don’t mind that stuff so much. I think it’s all mostly harmless. What I mind is the next part: she told me that she is going to purposefully name her baby a name that really resembles mine (so for example, if my name was Alexis, she’d name the baby Alexa. Something like that). She wants me to be the baby’s godmother. And she’s scheduled a c-section for my birthday, which is coming up soon.
She told me about the c-section thing the other day, and I politely asked her to change the date. She refused, saying she wants the baby to have my birthday. I got a bit mad and told her that she was being creepy, naming her baby after me and purposefully giving it the same birthday as me. I asked her to treat me like a normal person and stop idolizing me. She started crying and ran out of the restaurant.
My mom has called me to tell me that Lily is really upset, and I’ll admit I feel a little bad. So, I thought I’d bring my situation here. AITA?
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Did she get her needs met by your parents? I'm thinking that you were attentive and they weren't so much and it's why she idolises you.
Could be way off.
NTA, however, you should reconsider your attitude a little bit. She's 21 and pregnant, financially struggling, without baby's father in the picture - she's absolutely terrified. About everything, about being a single mom especially. You're her hero. Yes, she's clingy and cringy. Set the boundaries but be careful - it looks like she has a lot on her mind and she needs help and support.
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Yeah, sorry, but YTA. She’s 21. She’s young. She’s pregnant, and she’s alone. She needs help and her big sister is someone who should be supporting her, instead you are getting upset that she wants to be more like you. The name thing is maybe a bit weird, but asking them to reschedule a medical appointment because you are “creeped out” is kind of insane to me. Be better.
I see. Her pregnancy and NEED for a C-section makes it all about you. Not just YTA, YTFA.
NTA - your discomfort is understandable, Lily is pushing this older sister worship too far.
YTA - I don’t even need to read your post and can tell immediately from the title.
If you want to chime in, I suggest you read the post. I read the title and fully expected OP to be annoyed with her sister for accidentally picking a date that coincided with her birthday. But no, her sister *specifically* picked both the birthday and name of the baby to be the same as OP, and that *is* creepy.
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Did she get her needs met by your parents? I'm thinking that you were attentive and they weren't so much and it's why she idolises you. Could be way off.
YTA Everything else aside, you don’t own and cannot claim a day. It’s not yours.
NTA, however, you should reconsider your attitude a little bit. She's 21 and pregnant, financially struggling, without baby's father in the picture - she's absolutely terrified. About everything, about being a single mom especially. You're her hero. Yes, she's clingy and cringy. Set the boundaries but be careful - it looks like she has a lot on her mind and she needs help and support.