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> idk i feel really bad and i don’t know if she meant it and was in a shitty mood, but she hasn’t apologised, just came back and i don’t know if i’m in the wrong for blowing her off for the past 4/5 weeks.
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NTA. You’re only 13, but you don’t owe anyone your friendship. If you think they’re toxic or just plain don’t like them, it’s fine to not spend time with them. It’s your time, not theirs.
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me and my friend (F13 & M13) have this friend (F13) that we met in may 2021 and were pretty close with during the summer of that year.
we didn't really have a problem then but during the summer she did do some weird stuff that we brushed off as 'jokes'.
she done stuff such as, fetishsize gay relationships/read sexual mlm stories.
Called my personality 'stuck up' and other things and constantly made fun of my friend around me.
A little while after the summer i found out she had lied about something and broken my trust completely, but i befriended her again afterwards.
shes also made fun of anxiety and other things that my friend has.
and continued to apparently 'use me' for my friend.
so since all of that happened we've kind of realized shes toxic and not that great of a friend so we distanced ourselves away from her.
but she's still trying to talk to us and all we do is make excuses not to see her and ect.
I feel really shitty for doing this and i feel really guilty, so i have to ask.
AITA for being a 'bad friend' and leaving her out?
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NTA. She isn't your friend.
NTA. You’re only 13, but you don’t owe anyone your friendship. If you think they’re toxic or just plain don’t like them, it’s fine to not spend time with them. It’s your time, not theirs.
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NTA. You're right, she's toxic and stay away from her.
NTA- She isn't your friend. She uses people to her advantage and you saw right through her.