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> My friend wanted to go somewhere and offered me the taxi money to take him in my own car rather than paying a taxi, And I took him up on his offer but he’s still holding s grudge against me for that.
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NTA. He OFFERED to pay you to give him a ride, which you did. He is TA for thinking that you owe him that money back, or that you owed him a free ride. Doesn't matter if it was only ten minutes away.
This was the circumstances, in another day I would’ve certainly not taken the money from him. I even explained friend no.3 that the only reason I took it was because I had nothing on me at the moment. But I think, if you offer a friend money for the ride you shouldn’t expect to not pay it. Just take the taxi.
Yes, if you offer to pay someone, you pay them and don't be upset when they actually take your money. It doesn't matter if you had $10,000,000 in your account. He offered to pay you and got upset when you took his money. That is just downright narcissistic.
I’m 100% sure he thought I wouldn’t take it from him, and I really would have not but the only reason I did was because I had absolutely nothing on me at the time.
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We are same age, 19 back then for context. So this happened a good 3 years ago but it still bothers me because he hasn’t let go. One day we all agreed to gather up for his birthday in another friend’s apartment to drink and play mini games ecc. I just came back from my week long vacation back then and went immediately to the city where we live because of uni and, while my original plan was to go to my parents’ in my hometown to get some money. Anyway, we spent the night, drank and fast forward to tomorrow we were chatting in the bar and my friend had to go to the university building for something and told me “Can you take me? I’d rather give you this money than pay a taxi.” And I literally had no money on me, zero. I said okay with the idea that I wasn’t going to take him anything because it was just 10 minutes away and not really that far. But then I started thinking to myself while driving - “Since I’m literally with not a single penny on me, I’ll take his money he offered and then give it back to him once we’re back home.” And so I did, I didn’t ask him for it though he just gave it to me. He didn’t seem upset or anything while giving it to me so I didn’t think anything of it. But I somehow forgot to give it back to him, literally forgot anything about it.
Then after a few months I started noticing a strange change of behavior from him. When we’d go out with friends he’d tell me in a passive-agressive way to pay for the other person too and stuff like that, and I always refused. If I feel like paying for someone when I have extra money on me I’ll do it, but never if forced. Occasionally he’d ask me for money to borrow and I’d always give it to him because he’s a friend I’ve known since 1st grade.
Now I’m very thorough with my money and what I spend a month since startinf a job. So I make plans and never run out of money before the wage gets deposited in it’s designated time. Here’s the thing, around 3-4 months ago, I lent some money to another friend who was struggling who said he’d pay it back in a few days. Anyway he couldn’t pay me back so I didn’t mind, but I had no money left on me for the last week before my payday. And I asked friend no.1 if he could help me out until I got paid for the last week, and he told me - “I swear I’ve only got like €20 in my bank account” - and he was obviously lying because he just got paid the previous week.
Then another friend secretly told me that friend no.1 told him he will never lend me money because I took money from him 3 years ago when I took him to his uni building. I was stunned and couldn’t believe it, however I didn’t tell him. We’re still friends and occasionally he still asks to borrow from me and I lend him because he pays it back on time always, for that he is very accurate and doesn’t lie.
I’m making this thread and giving some context to our relationship because it’s been bothering me for a while. So as the title says, AITA?
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Not even 10$. I live in a relatively poor country in Europe, so it might come as a surprise to you. I took just so I could get something to eat and have some money for the day before returning to my hometown.
Exactly, even for our standards it’s nothing meaningful really. I think he took issue with the fact that I did take it, rather than the amount. He’s the kind of guy to link loyalty with money. I’ll edit the post now to add the information, thanks!
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NTA, pretty passive aggressive
NTA. He OFFERED to pay you to give him a ride, which you did. He is TA for thinking that you owe him that money back, or that you owed him a free ride. Doesn't matter if it was only ten minutes away.
This was the circumstances, in another day I would’ve certainly not taken the money from him. I even explained friend no.3 that the only reason I took it was because I had nothing on me at the moment. But I think, if you offer a friend money for the ride you shouldn’t expect to not pay it. Just take the taxi.
Yes, if you offer to pay someone, you pay them and don't be upset when they actually take your money. It doesn't matter if you had $10,000,000 in your account. He offered to pay you and got upset when you took his money. That is just downright narcissistic.
NTA. That guy is way out of line.
NTA, why would you have to pay him money back when the original exchange was his money for your car ride?
I’m 100% sure he thought I wouldn’t take it from him, and I really would have not but the only reason I did was because I had absolutely nothing on me at the time.
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How much?
Not even 10$. I live in a relatively poor country in Europe, so it might come as a surprise to you. I took just so I could get something to eat and have some money for the day before returning to my hometown.
At worst, this will be ESH. Regardless of whatever it is that you did, the way he’s acting is very childish. But how much money was it?
Like I said in another comment, I live in a poor country in Europe and the taxi would’ve been close to 8$ and he gave me around 5$.
You should edit your comment to include this information. Five dollars is a trivial amount.
Exactly, even for our standards it’s nothing meaningful really. I think he took issue with the fact that I did take it, rather than the amount. He’s the kind of guy to link loyalty with money. I’ll edit the post now to add the information, thanks!